Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video
is on how to stop being the nice guy (five tips to use
now) I'm sure you have heard "well nice guys finished last.
Nice guys never win. No more Mr. Nice Guy" all of those things. This is something
that is very popular on the internet right now and
honestly it's easy to see why. However, I think today's a video is really going
to surprise you because I'm going to put a different spin on this.
Full disclosure: women actually really like
nice guys and good guys. I know that's not what you've been told. And before you
leave me hate comments, yes, you know who you are, and I know who
you are, before you leave me hate comments do
yourself a favor and watch this whole video.
Seriously it's going to put your mind at ease. Here's the deal:
if you are searching how to not be the "nice guy" anymore
it's probably because you've been hurt, right? You've been
rejected, you've been used, and you're tired of it, right? It hurts. And
the truth is it's wrong. That shouldn't have happened to you
and I'm sorry that has happened to you but
what you're tired of is being used, right? You're not tired of being a nice guy,
you're tired of being used. I'm gonna let you guys in on a
secret. You do not have to be used to be a nice guy. There are so many nice
guys who get the girl every single day. I'm a dating
coach for men, there are nice guys who get
the girl every single day. It just requires that you have the
right skills and those are the tips I'm going to be going over with you in
today's video. What I teach on my channel is how you can have a crazy happy
lifelong relationship. I'm not talking about just a
overnight fling, okay? That's not what you are going to learn here.
And the reason this whole "nice guys always a loose" thing is so popular on
the internet is because that's what most people are trying to teach you to do,
is to just have that one night fling. So yeah, those types of women, they
don't really care about a nice guy. But if instead you are looking for a
crazy happy relationship, the kind of relationship where you fall
in love, you stay crazy in love for your entire life, that kind of woman,
she is looking for a nice guy. And it just makes sense, right? A nice
guy is honest, he is loyal, he is true, he is someone she can
trust. Those are the qualities that a woman is
looking for in a lifelong relationship. So if you've been told "well
girls don't like nice guys" well then maybe you should ask yourself
what kind of girls don't like nice guys? So is this making
sense? The kind of woman that you want to love forever is going to love
you forever because you are a nice guy. Now as I mentioned there are certain
skills you have to learn in order to be the nice guy
who is totally hot and totally gets the girl
instead of the nice guy who nobody wants to date because there is
a difference, both do exist in this world. Now as I mentioned before you just need
to learn the right skills. I do teach all the skills you need in my
paid program however I'm going to be touching on five of the
most important and most powerful here for you today. Before we
dive into those tips if this is your first time watching,
welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men.
My specialty is teaching you how to stop wasting your time and stop wasting your
money on dead-end relationships and heartbreak
by learning the skills you need to get your ideal girlfriend. So make sure you
subscribe, ring the notification bell, and give me a
big thumbs up. With that let's dive into our tips. Now
as we start this I want to again just stress guys
you don't want to stop being a nice guy. You want to stop being
the nice guy who gets walked on. So often when we hear the term
"nice guy" we think of a pushover. Kind of that Charlie Brown character. If you
remember Charlie Brown and Snoopy, the Peanuts gang.
Nobody wants to date Charlie Brown because he's a pushover. But he's an
amazing guy. He deserves so much more. As opposed to Schroeder or
Linus who are also really nice guys but they don't get
walked on and pushed around like Charlie Brown. So the whole goal here is not to
stop being a nice guy. If you stop being a nice guy
you're not going to have your long-term relationship. Period, end of discussion. So
it's not that you don't want to be a nice guy,
it's that you don't want to be the pushover nice guy anymore. You want to be
the very attractive, nice guy. The kind of nice guy who gets
women to crush on him and ultimately to fall in love with him.
That's the goal here. So let's dive in. Tip number one
for how to stop being the nice guy is to know how to identify
toxic women. The truth is toxic women will use nice guys like crazy. And like
we mentioned at the beginning you're sick of being used, right?
Toxic women will use you all day long and she'll make you feel worthless,
she'll make your self-esteem just like shatter
and she will make you feel like Charlie Brown. Very similar to how Lucy and
Sally and some of those characters treat Charlie Brown.
So it's very important that you know how to identify toxic women
and avoid them like at all costs. If you haven't yet seen this video be sure to
give it a watch. It will help you so much with this
and I actually have some others on this topic as well. So make sure you
check the link in the description below to give those a watch. Here's the deal: as
long as you are attracting toxic women you will not be able to
attract the good, healthy, awesome women you are
wanting to attract. So this step is key. Sign number two is
you really need confidence. What's Charlie Brown's
biggest problem? He has no confidence. Now something most people
don't know is the way we gain confidence
is we gain competence. When we are good at something, when we know how to
handle a situation, we feel confident, right? We just know
what we're doing. It's kind of like trying to
sign your name with your non-dominant hand.
It feels weird, right? And it's really hard to do. But with your dominant hand
it's a piece of cake. Why? Because you're good at it. You've
done it a million times, you know exactly how to do it.
Well your non-dominant hand it's like "what am I doing?"
Even though you technically should know how to do it you have no clue what
you're doing. So if you want to be confident and if you
want her to see you as an attractive nice guy
you need to be good at dating. It's as simple as that.
Here's the kicker: I just talked about toxic women and how you want to avoid
them. But guys, not all women are toxic. I can't
tell you how many men reach out to me saying "hey she rejected me. She's such a
jerk. I think she's toxic." And I say "okay tell me the situation. Let
me know what happened." And they explain it to me and I
have to explain to them "I'm sorry but she's not toxic.
You made this mistake, this mistake, and this mistake and it made her feel
uncomfortable. It scared her. It made her feel awkward
and it pushed her away so she rejected you
because she thought you were creepy" or whatever it is.
And so so often guys think "well she's just toxic" when in reality
they just don't have any idea what they're doing even though
they think they do. So if you want to stop being the nice guy who's rejected
and instead be the nice guy with his dream girl then you need to
make sure you are gaining confidence by gaining competence. Now I
know what you're thinking: "holy cow I don't even know where to start," right?
That can feel so overwhelming. Don't worry, I've got your back. I
actually created a free master class for you
where I teach you the same framework I teach my paid clients
to get their ideal girlfriend. So that is a fabulous place to start
to start gaining that competence. So there is a link in the description below
and a link in the pinned comment. Make sure to give that a watch
because the truth is you deserve to be confident, you deserve to have that
confidence and this is the perfect place to start.
So check out the link in the description and/or
the link pinned in the pinned comment below. Tip number three
is flirt with her. If you want women to stop seeing you as the nice guy that
they don't want to go out with then you need to start portraying yourself as the
super hot guy. If all she sees you is the "guy next
door" or just the "really nice guy" well then she has no reason to date you.
But if instead she sees you as like dating material, as a guy who is really
attractive, and a guy who she'd enjoy getting to
know better, and someone interesting, now she's attracted to you. Now she wants
to get to know you. Now she wants to date you. Because she sees you as an
attractive man not just a guy. Flirting when done right is
one of the best ways to increase attraction. Now I do want to mention,
because I know I'll get comments about this,
"every time I try and flirt it tanks." Well it's probably because
it's coming across as awkward. What you are intending to come across as
flirtatious is coming across as awkward. If it's not working it's because
it's not being done the right way. When flirting is done the
right way it's super effective and it is never
ever awkward. This is again where increasing your competence
is so important. So is this making sense so far? Are you enjoying this?
If you are and if you would like more videos on how to get the girl as a
really nice guy be sure to comment "YES!" so I know to make
more videos just like this one for you. Tip number four is to make sure
you are pursuing her. Pay very close
attention to this: if you want to stay friend zone material
for life then never pursue a woman. But if you
want the attraction to increase, if you want her to see you as a man
and see you as masculine and someone she wants to get to know better,
then pursue her. When a man knows how to ask a girl out the right way, how to
approach her the right way, how to get her number the right way,
how to flirt with her the right way, how to talk to her the right way, and
he does those things, holy moly, he is so attractive. When a man doesn't
do those things then she sees him as a boy, she doesn't
really see him as a man, she sees him as the guy next door or just a dude. She
doesn't see him as an attractive man who's like
"whoa. I want to get to know him better. I want
to date him. I want to spend more time with him."
For more on pursuing make sure you watch this video. There is a link in the
description below. And as I mentioned at the beginning
everything I'm teaching you here I go so much more in depth in my paid program
How to Get a Girlfriend. To get a sneak peek at the same
framework I teach there check out that free masterclass you guys.
There is a link in the description below and I will put a link in the pinned
comment. But bottom line is again if she sees you as Charlie Brown, she
sees you as Charlie Brown. An amazing guy but not someone she wants
to date. Instead you need to present yourself
as an attractive man, as someone she would enjoy getting to know,
and someone who believes in yourself. Again you gain confidence
by gaining competence. And the more you practice these things
the more effective they are and you go from being the nice guy that
she doesn't want to make eye contact with and go out with to
the nice guy that she's like crazy in love with.
Ready for tip number five? This one is a kicker guys. Set appropriate boundaries. One of the big things that keeps really
nice guys from getting anywhere in relationships
is the fact that they're a pushover. It's the fact
that nobody has any respect for them because they don't have respect for
themselves. That is the reality of life. I know it's
not fair but that's the way it is. If we don't
treat ourselves like we matter nobody else is going to treat us like we
do either. This is why it's so important that we set appropriate boundaries.
You are kind about how you set boundaries but you
set them. When you do this this helps you believe in yourself, it helps
you see yourself in a new light, and helps you start treating yourself like
the awesome man you really are. You're not "just a nice guy", you're an
incredible man with so much to offer and you deserve to
feel that. But as long as you're letting people walk on you you're not going to
feel that. So it's important that you set
appropriate boundaries. This right here is what takes you from
a boy in her eyes to a man. An interesting man, a powerful man, someone
who is confident, someone who is attractive. So there you have it. If you
are sick of being the nice guy who everybody ignores and you're ready to be
the nice guy who gets his dream girl to fall crazy in love with him
these tips are key. To sum up, tip number one
is make sure you know how to spot toxic women and avoid them.
Tip number two is increase your confidence. You do this
by becoming good at dating. You don't know what you don't know
until you know what you don't know. So many men come to me
having no idea that they're actually really awkward at dating and
relationships. So the best way to move past all of that
is to just become really educated and really good
about dating and attraction. Tip number three is learn how to flirt.
Show her that you are a man and an attractive man,
that you are interested in her. Tip number four is to pursue her. Which
has the same effect really as flirting. It helps her see you
as a man instead of a boy. Tip number five is set those appropriate boundaries.
Charlie Brown would not be in the position Charlie Brown is in if he would
set those boundaries. Thank you so much again
for watching! As I mentioned before, everything I teach
here is covered in so much more detail in my
program How to Get a Girlfriend. To get a sneak peek at my framework and
learn more about that check out the masterclass through the
link in the description below and in the pinned
comments. Seriously if you are sick of being rejected and trying to figure it
out on your own and totally tanking and you would like to just skip to the
part where you just get the girl then you are going to love my master
class and that's precisely what I created my paid program to do for you. So
make sure you check that out. Thank you so much for watching! Again if
you have not yet subscribed be sure to do that now,
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"YES!" Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day.
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the nice guy, specifically five tips to start... [pause] [laughter] Now as I mentioned... [pause] [laughter] Brain freeze!
