Hello my wonderful friend! today's video
is on 17 signs you are more attractive than you
think. Now I know what's going on in your mind
but hear me out. The honest truth is you've been told
a pack of lies about what is actually attractive to women and what women
want most. What you're about to hear, these signs I'm about to share with you
that you're more attractive than you think,
comes from both my insight as a woman and my extensive training and research
as a certified coach. The last sign I'm going to share with you
is easily the one that I think will be most surprising to you.
According to research it is actually the the most sought after trait.
It's what most people want in a partner and it's also
one of the easiest traits to get. So pay very close attention to that one and
make sure you watch to the end. If this is your first time watching
welcome my name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men.
I teach you how to stop wasting your time and stop wasting your money on dead
end relationships by learning the skills you need to just
get the girl. So be sure to subscribe, ring that notification bell, and give me
a big thumbs up. Now can I just be brutally honest with
you guys for just a second? As I mentioned before you are taught so
many lies about what it is women are actually
looking for and what is most important to women. As I mentioned I'm
going to be going over 17 signs you are more attractive than you think.
Because again if you've been told all these lies
then you actually have no idea how attractive you really
are. These are the things that women are actually looking for.
If you've been following my channel for a while you know that one thing that
sets my channel apart from a lot of other things you will find on the
internet is guys I don't teach you how to just have like a one night fling, okay?
I am teaching you how to get a long-term, long-lasting relationship of your dreams.
The truth is if you can dream it you can have it you
just have to know how. And that's what I'm here for. So
these things I will be teaching you, even if they're not
what you're seeing other places, well that's because they're just teaching you
how to have that one night fling, while I'm teaching you how
to get your dream relationship. Now here's the deal. Pay
close attention to this. As we go through this list
two things are going to happen. One, you are going to see
some of these signs and you're going to say "yes, I'm doing
that." I want you to celebrate it. Seriously let yourself celebrate it.
And if you don't see anything in this list
and say "yes, I'm doing that" well the truth is you're being too hard on
yourself. So ease up on yourself and treat
yourself a lot more nicely than that. The other thing is you
will probably see many things, many signs, that you're not
doing. That's okay. That is just a good way to bring it to
your attention and help you know some things you can work on.
So don't beat yourself up about it, okay? It's perfectly normal not to have
everything on this list. Sound good? Okay, let's dive in. Sign
number one is that you look people in the eye.
There is something that makes us
feel really connected and really important when we look someone in the
eye. As a matter of fact it helps us show
people that we feel like they are our equal. This shows
respect and admiration and understanding and
really increases the attraction so much more dramatically than you would think.
Someone who doesn't look people in the eye can come across
as arrogant or snotty. Or if it's like out of like submission and nervousness
then that makes other people feel nervous as well. So being somebody who
looks someone in the eye that is a very very attractive trait.
Far more attractive than most people realize. Sign number two
that you are more attractive than you think is that you
listen to people. As people we're kind of starved to feel
like we matter, right? Everybody wants to feel like they matter.
Absolutely everyone. And when someone listens to us
yeah we feel like we matter, we feel like we're important to someone and like
someone understands us. So if you are somebody who takes the
time to listen to people you are very attractive. This is very
attractive to women because as women that's kind of how we bond with people,
that's how we feel understood, is by someone listening to us.
Which is why you always see women talking to each other. So if you
are good at listening then you are far more attractive
than you think. Sign number three that you are more attractive than you think
is that you smile. Let's face it, smiles are just
attractive. They say a lot about who you are as a person.
They help you present yourself as happy and attractive and someone
fun and confident and interesting to be around. I know you've probably heard to
like "man up" and like "act tough" and "act aloof" and
"make her chase you" and all these things. The truth is
real women who are looking for real relationships,
long lasting relationships, she ain't got time for that. I'm gonna be perfectly
honest with you, she doesn't. So if she sees a guy who's like too cool
to smile or a guy who just won't smile or who's too
nervous to smile that pushes her away. So if instead she
sees you and you smile, she feels connected to you
and more attracted to you than you realize. Sign number four is that you ask
questions. I already mentioned that listening
is very attractive, asking questions is another piece to this puzzle.
When you ask questions again she feels understood, she feels important, she feels
interesting, she feels drawn to you. So if you're someone who asks
questions and engages with her when you talk to her
that is very attractive. Sign number five is that you have
a good sense of humor. If you're someone who
thinks things are funny and who is a little bit light-hearted
that is really fun to be around. Someone who won't laugh and doesn't think things
are funny that's boring and it's draining. But if
you're someone who has a good sense of humor and who's
fun to laugh with that is incredibly attractive.
Now real fast before we get to sign number six I want to hear from you guys
in the comments. Would you like more videos on how to be
attractive to women and what women want? If you do be sure to comment "YES!"
And as always leave suggestions for any other videos
you would like to see. Also I know I'm going to get this question so
I wanted to just answer it for you right now.
Some of you are already thinking "okay so if I am attractive and if I have these things then why am I still not getting
the girl?" And is that you? Are you wondering
that right now? The truth is this happens all the time. As a coach I see this all
the time. And the reason is it's just because you
don't have all the pieces to the puzzle. Attraction is a massive piece to the
puzzle but it's not the entire puzzle. I actually just put together a master
class, totally free master class, that teaches you the pieces of the puzzle
so that you know exactly why you aren't getting a girlfriend and instead
how to get her. And it will cover the three biggest mistakes that as long as
you're making those you're going to stay single forever.
So if you're asking this right now, if you're like "okay so if I'm so attractive
why am I not getting the girl?" then be sure to check out that masterclass right
now. There is a link in the description below
and I will pin a link in the pinned comment below. What
you'll be learning is my five-step framework that I teach my paid clients
to get their ideal girlfriend. So it's packed with value,
make sure you check out those links right now. Okay sign number six that
you're more attractive than you think actually goes hand in hand with number
five. And that is that you laugh with others.
You never want to laugh at someone else. As a matter of fact
that's a really good way to make sure you never get your ideal girlfriend.
But if you are someone who can laugh with other people,
oh my goodness we all like people like that because it helps us let our hair
down, helps us feel relaxed, and it's
incredibly attractive. Fun fact for you about women:
one of the very main things a woman looks for in a man
is a man who can make her laugh and a man who will
laugh with her. So those traits are incredibly
attractive. Don't be afraid to laugh with others, to be playful, and even to laugh
at yourself sometimes. The truth is you will feel a lot better and you will
be super attractive. The seventh sign that you're more attractive than you
think is that you take pride in how you dress and you are proactive about dressing nicely. The truth is
so many men, so many men, guys I see this all the time as a coach.
So many men think they're unattractive. They just think
they're ugly. When in reality they just don't know how to dress right,
okay? Seriously I see this all the time. If you aren't dressing the right way
well yeah you're going to feel ugly. That's just science. That's just how it
works. But if instead you're dressing super sharp and super
confident you're going to feel super attractive.
This is actually why I teach my clients about how to dress.
It is insanely powerful. So if you're someone who doesn't feel super
attractive well you are going to want to look into this.
And if you are someone who takes pride in how you dress and
you're proactive about making sure you look super nice
then you are far more attractive than you realize. Because the truth is
it tells her something about who you are as a person and frankly you just look
super hot. Number eight kind of goes along the same lines
and that is that you take care of yourself
and your possessions. If somebody's like sloppy
and disrespectful, that repels her. She's not going to be attracted to that.
But if she sees someone who takes pride in what you do
and you take pride in your belongings, your house, your car,
how you interact with other people's possessions,
that is incredibly attractive to her. Nobody wants to be married to a slob,
right? They just don't. But someone who is
classy, yeah everybody wants to be with that
person. Number nine is that you are proactive about your
health. This is just science guys. If you've been
following my channel for a while you know I always
back up myself with science. As humans, God just designed us to be attracted to
health. Now that doesn't mean you have to be perfect, because quite frankly
she's not perfect. But if you are someone who is trying to be proactive about your
health, you're trying to eat healthy, you're
trying to drink water more often than soda pop,
and you're trying to get appropriate types of exercise,
that is insanely attractive. Because the truth is
if she wants to spend the rest of her life with you well she wants to make
sure you're going to be around. And health makes our bodies
attractive, it just does. So if you're someone who's proactive
about health, no matter what stage of your journey
you are at, that right there is super super
hot. Sign number 10 is that you do not criticize
other people. We're all just trying our best, right? Not
a single person on this planet is perfect. And so when we're around
somebody who's critical of themselves or us or other people
it makes us nervous, it makes us feel anxious. But instead
if they are not critical, if they're not judgmental, and if they're really
understanding, oh my goodness we really like to be
around people like that. And that is certainly true for women.
That is something she's looking for in her man. Sign number 11 that you're
more attractive than you think you are is if you are a positive person, if
you are a positive thinker. as I mentioned if
somebody is really negative it tends to drain us. Nobody wants to
spend their life with someone who drains them. And so again if you're
looking for that long-term relationship you're looking for someone who's
positive, who's uplifting. One of the main traits
of a positive person, a positive thinker, is that they look for solutions rather
than problems. Problems are easy to find. We can find
problems all day long. But there's always a solution.
And so if you're a solution finder that right there
is insanely attractive. That's the type of man a woman wants to spend her life
with. The ninth sign is if you are a confident person
nd a self-assured person. Confidence is a trait that is just what
I like to call attractive by default. Everyone wants to be around someone
who's confident. Now one thing to be aware of is confidence is not just like
plowing your way through and like "oh I'm just gonna make it work."
That's actually aggression. Confidence is being assured in who you are
and your abilities. Be sure to check out this video for a little bit more on
confidence if that's something you would like to
work on. Confidence is easily one of the most
attractive traits ever. Like it's super super attractive. So
if you are someone who doesn't like "oh poor me" but
somebody who's like confident in who you are that is
massively attractive. Sign number 13 is that you are a
gentleman, you are chivalrous. We live in kind of a messed up world
again that tells you so many lies. And so there are a lot of men who think
that chivalry is outdated and that being a gentleman isn't
something that women want anymore. The truth is well yeah toxic women don't
want that. If she's being mean to you for being chivalrous you need to watch
this video and I'll put some links to some other
videos down there. Because the truth is she's a toxic woman.
But a real woman who's looking for a real long-term relationship
that's one of the traits she wants the most. And in a world where so many men
are being taught not to be chivalrous anymore,
if you are, if you are the gentleman, whoa you stand out from the crowd and
that right there is going to melt her heart.
Sign number 14 is that you are a generous
person, you are a giving person. Have you ever been around someone who's just like
super generous and they make you feel like really
awesome? As opposed to being around somebody who's like
stuffy and like not remotely fun to be around?
Everyone loves to be around someone who's generous and kind and giving.
And that is certainly a trait a woman is looking for in her man.
Sign number 15 is that you have a growth mindset. Now what do I mean by this?
Someone with a fixed mindset thinks that things just are the way they
are and they will never change. Someone with a growth mindset
says "okay what can I do to get to where I want to
be?" For instance if you go through this list of things I
have just shared with you and you say "oh my goodness I'm not those things. I'm
giving up" you do not have a growth mindset. If instead you say
"awesome. Okay, so I have that one, I have that one, whoa, I don't have that, I don't
have that, I don't have that. Okay so how can I apply that? How can I
start doing that?" that is a growth mindset.
Someone who is fixed, is fixed. They never progress.
Where someone with a growth mindset, man anything is possible. And they're so
much more enjoyable to be around. They tend to be more positive.
And so having a growth mindset is insanely
attractive. Especially because again you're ultimately hoping this will
become a lifelong relationship, right? If she's
going to spend her life with you she wants it to be very progressive. This
is also what makes you a really good team
player which is very important and very attractive. Sign
number 16 is that you have good work ethic and you
have interests and hobbies and things you are
doing. People are attracted to interesting people.
And if you're not interesting, you're not interesting.
It's funny how that works, right? So if you are someone who is driven
and passionate and motivated, you are an interesting person. If you have
good work ethic and if you have interests and hobbies and things you are
involved in then you are an interesting person to be
around. And that someone she's going to feel
more safe with and that's someone that it's easy to stay in love with
long term. So if you have interests and hobbies and good
work ethic you are more attractive than you realize.
Okay friends, we are to our last sign. And as I mentioned
this is one of the most important traits. As a matter of fact research shows
that this is the trait most people are looking for in a partner.
I think it might surprise you so hold on to your chair.
Kindness. Most people want kindness in their partner.
And honestly it shouldn't be so much of a surprise because
you want her to be kind to you, don't you? She wants that as well.
So many people have been told and maybe even experienced "oh nice guys always
finish last. Nice guy never wins." And again if that's your
problem, it's just like I was talking about earlier,
attraction is important but it is not the whole puzzle.
I do teach you the rest of the pieces to the puzzle in my free masterclass
so again check out the link in the description below or that I pinned in
the comment to learn why you're not getting the girl
and what you can do instead to get the girl. This is the same
framework I teach my clients to get the incredible results they are getting.
It's a totally free masterclass, check out those links. If you're the nice guy
who doesn't get the girl well you need to watch that masterclass
because ultimately kindness and being a nice
person is the trait most people are looking for. And it makes sense. If she's
going to spend her life with you she needs you to be kind to her. So as
crazy as it may sound nice guys do not finish last. As a matter
of fact nice guys get women to fall crazy in love with
them as long as they know the other pieces to the puzzle. Now there's one
last thing I want to point out before we wrap this up.
Guys did you notice that physical attraction was not mentioned a whole lot
on this list? Here's the reality of the situation:
physical attraction is important but it is nowhere near as important as
most people think it is. It is like a tiny tiny piece of the
puzzle when in reality there's so much more
that is more important to women than physical appearance.
As I mentioned earlier one thing that sets my channel apart is that I teach
you how to have a long lasting crazy happy relationship.
So many other people on the internet are focusing so much on physical appearance
because they're teaching you how to have that one night fling, to be perfectly
honest with you. When in reality a woman who's looking
for that crazy happy long-term relationship, there are so many
other things that matter to her even more than physical attraction.
Physical attraction is important, which is why it's something I teach my clients.
I teach my clients how to like skyrocket your
physical attraction. Because the truth is you just deserve it
and if you can have it why wouldn't you want it, right? It's definitely a good
thing to have but it's not the most important thing.
The truth is there are men all day long who have six
packs and amazing smiles, tons of money, who still can't get their
ideal relationship. So I really hope that this list was very
very comforting to you. Thank you so much for watching my
amazing friends! Be sure to leave me a comment. Let me know how you enjoyed this
video, if you would like more videos like this
and I would love to hear which sign actually surprised you the most. If you
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media check out the links for that in the description below as well. Thank you
so much again for watching my amazing friend and have an amazing day.
[blooper beep] Okay. I was thinking something through in my
head and I think I figured it out. And then I realized I'm recording. So
that's why I was gesturing and not talking.
Okay, moving on. [laughter] Let's get started. Let's do this. I feel
really nervous. Like I'm being crowded out by this
microphone. If this is your first time watching be- [messed up] [laughter] I have a case of the giggles. This is a
problem. I have so much in my head I don't know how to get it all out. Okay.
If you are somebody who doesn't look people in the eye out of arrogance
or someone who doesn't look people out of the eye be- or in- [messed up]
Out of the eye? That doesn't even make sense. Okay. [sneeze] Bless me. [laughter] I am losing my voice.
I'm going to have to talk like super low. That feels weird. And sign number six
is- [laughter] I can't do that. That sounds creepy. The seventh-
Or no, not seventh. We're way past seven. So if you are someone who is driven,
you have good earth- Earth what? Work ethic.
