How to stay in love in Marriage? | Life Together Week 1 | Jeff Eliscupidez

[Music] all right [Music] all right yo life together that's our brand new series good afternoon everyone for those of you balcony completely lovely worshipping with us online thank you once again for inviting people um watch party let's share thank you this is uh i i believe it is going to be one of the you know most uh productive part of the demo when you share the word of god amen i'm pastor jeff ellis last name because her half german have shepherd so but definitely pastor jeff nalang so mas madale and for those of you joining us once again for the first time i spoke to a couple kanina first time nila so my special number and this is thank you and uh hope you will have a blessed time this afternoon we're starting a brand new series entitled life together why because i do believe that our lives okay we're meant really our lives are meant to be lived out with another human being in fact we are incomplete okay in our humanity apart from relationship with other human beings i mean for the last ecq i'm preaching here alone i think i'm weird well only we're incomplete as human being we'll also remain unable you know to fulfill god's purpose in our lives god commanded us to love how can you love and we can only accomplish that when we're together with other human beings but we're not going to talk about basically relationship per se with other human beings we're going to talk about um the relationship that god has intended for us you know what in a perfect setting like the garden of eden the first negative words that was mentioned it's not good in the context of relationship no not relation everything was good to make me god everything it's a billionaire it was good it was good it was good now adam it was very good and then out of the blue and negative words came out of the scripture it's not good and it was in the context of a relationship it's not good for man to be alone that's why kahitpo perfect setting like a garden of eden um perfect in the way because so today and for the next two weeks the nati telepath we're gonna be learning from god himself the creator of all of us he is a relational being in fact by mere words all right and god said let there be light let there be whatever paranoia it became personal the father and the son and the holy spirit were present let us now create god a rather man in our image and likeness guide [Music] [Music] and that's the reason why we're gonna look at the this series and hopefully the goal okay the goal of this series is that at the end of this series okay we're gonna we will understand here's the goal okay we will understand that our relationships okay and are a reflection of god's covenant with us okay with these people and it will result into three things and those gonna be the topics not then go okay on i i under or reflection on god's covenant relationship with us lipstick or something okay so at the end of the series you'll understand that the relationship or a reflection of god's covenant in our marriages in our parenting okay the christ centered and acting parenting and families and also in our workplace and come to think of it the relationships are our shaping influences the way we are today we're influenced by how we witness how we witnessed the marriages or absentee parents and a witness how we were parented will most likely be your view on how are you going to raise your two kids or three kids or your one child okay so impactful relationship network the way you're treating your employees and the way you view work all right we're gonna talk about living okay or or uh enjoying life together in those three arenas why don't we just pray and hopefully okay let's pray lord we live up to you this series we pray lord god that we're not just gonna have a bunch of information but we're gonna have revelations lord god now hopefully lord applying amen bit by bit little by little lord god and these nuggets of truth the nagaland sayo apply naming lord god will bring about the transformation some of us lord have already given up on our marriages we have already given up lord some of us we're just here's a work because it's a necessary type of evil lord may we learn in the next three weeks lord god that we can really have a different perspective a godly perspective in these three arenas of life hopefully lord my applying amino matuna nami today in jesus name we pray amen amen we'll jump to the first topic first we put out then we're going to talk about marriage it's good for you not to get married i got married the dates of 10 so so you do the math so i'm so blessed okay finding a wife he who finds a wife finds favor so han i just want to honor you oh and 25 years ago but seriously i'm so blessed to to enjoy 25 years and counting all right so till death do us party lumpur young i was browsing my facebook three years ago do we have that on screen three years ago so that was before the words social dista this dancing was invented facial sabbath maybe you're the woman a single woman so maybe this is a heads up for you or men before coming so this is a heads-up for you so don't check out on us if you're single if you're married maybe your marriage is hanging on a thread this is for you so okay i've been married for 25 years i've said kanina marriage marriages are under attack just in case you're not aware the very first couple in the bible were attacked by satan adam and eve because and come to think of it marriage is the most impactful relationship ever okay it will affect your future generation your current generation the way we are living today is because of the influence because god has given us guidelines it's interesting isn't it how to live life in terms of you know how to earn more financially and all right about marriage and yet this is the most important relationship than any human beings and god has given us guidelines unfortunately the world you know portrays men husbands as idol and lazy and wimp and and how many of you here will agree with me come on now and i believe god has raised us up in a time of like this in pandemic uh level up leadership so we're going to talk about the roles no husband and wife okay again walang sikohan okay these are roles god invented marriage and he is the only one who can define company marriage so if that's you today watching and worshiping with us online you feel like your marriage is not ideal take heart may assa puyan god invented marriage chapul you know began a blueprint on how to make this marriage work all right are you excited okay before i jump to the roles of husband and wife they have different roles but it doesn't mean they have different value and worth no no no no no when you say roles it just so happened but it doesn't mean you are an equal no no you have different roles but equally in words and value you're neither inferior or superior are you are you hearing me no no no it's just so happened kailangan wrote to bring order all right so i want to make that clear because god created mankind in his image and likeness male and female he created them so we are all valuable same value same worth in the eyes of god whether husband or wife i just want to lay that down paula hindi inaudible husband ah submit no you just have a different role okay so god created man in his image and likeness so let's open our bible to ephesians chapter 5 verse 21 it says here submit to one another out of reverence for christ that's the premise submit to one another before we even performs our role okay towards one another the premise is it about we are under the submission of christ under putin's submission who are you submitting to who's speaking into your life okay okay on so verse 22 wives let's talk about the wives first okay submit a cringe factor submit yourselves to your own husband as you do to the lord you know the word submit the original greek word who potasso pasta it simply means willingly relinquishing your right the word ponaton the greekna it's a military term meaning to arrange in troops or divisions in a military fashion under a command of a leader but women or wives submit it's a decision you're not being coerced you're not being forced in a non-military use it was a voluntary attitude of giving in cooperating assuming responsibility carrying a burden wives submit hindi push that's not what huputa means incidentally next week and for the next two weeks a word like children obey that's a different term there is a force you are really required per details of women some wives when you say submit it is a voluntary attitude some people thought submit yourselves to your own everybody say own own husband so why submission number one it's personal what is happening about personal to your own husband it's a decision kayaking strong-willed woman imagine submitting to an opposite sex one day you're single i think you're gonna have a hard time getting married and submitting to the biblical principle of marriage because a woman who's under the authority of god he is submitting to god therefore i will submit to my husband that's very important but that's that's that's just though what the bible says it is a personal decision knowing that the god who created the universe the god who's omniscient the god who is omni benevolent is all good all-powerful alumni i'm crossing in my god benefits though number two wife submission it's not just personal it's also practical what do you mean be practical i mean we we have different roles okay but it doesn't mean we're better or we're worse but kind of submitted to an authority in fact we do that all the time so we always end up submitting or we are the one commanding so it's it's it's just it's the nature submission creates order otherwise spot will be savages but italian wild wild west right and that's the reason why when you say submit it's just practical to submit jesus submitted to his parents and we're gonna see jesus no major three four years old perez jesus ah mary and joseph um the bible says he submitted to his parents okay and also jesus submitted to his heavenly father i came to do the will of my father so jesus submitted to the to his heavenly father number three not only it's personal not only it's practical also submission to your husband it's purposeful hindi and power tripping sight manga wives there is a purpose for the husband is the head of the wife us christ is the head of the church his body of which he is the savior what's the purpose of a submission number one submission enables leadership submit then your husband cannot lead [Applause] in fact that's part of the curse when you look at adam and eve sabaedon it's interesting because part of the curse of your desire will be for your husband it's interesting because your desire will be for your husband and that same word desire few verses down the road when cain killed abel sabidon sin is crouching at your door and its desire is to overpower you is same word young sin who wants to overpower cain it's the same a word that was used for eve your desire will be for your husband the wives will always want to be a leader and when when wives does that it's about because submission enables leadership if nobody submits then what a leader so number two it points to jesus your marriage for points to the redemption separator on which jesus is the head which is the savior what this verse is saying is wives sometimes your submission might lead to your husband's salvation in fact some verse first corinthians 7 14 for the unbelieving husband among you here young baba is good news just keep submitting keep submitting in love and reverence to god first then submission to your husband look at the verse for the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife you'll never know your submission can be the key to your husband's salvation as a pastor now the husband became a believer you'll never know your submission to god and then submitting to your husband might be the key to your husband's salvation and sabiridon now as the church submit to christ so also wife should admit to their husbands in everything god salad because there's a higher authority over your husband so border necessity fullness and you have the right not to submit the drugs nope my god is higher than the authority of your husband amen just a clear language it's not a sinful thing just just be in faith okay so just just be in faith god can transform your husband submit it's hard but being a pastor who witnessed a lot of these cases it's the unconditional submission of the wife that led to the husband's salvation and wives indica luge amen god will redeem you we'll avenge for you all right another 40 minutes so husbands love your wives alone husband's love is singular love your wife husbands love your wife the word love there is agapate it means it's not just unconditional love it's continuing it's ongoing it's present tense it's not it's not dependent on the mood of your wife loving your wife demands a decision more than emotion hello in fact in verse 31 for this reason a man believe is father and mother it talks about priority when you get married it's hard believe me it's hard for this part you're leaving your this situation it was never designed this way i mean this is way back in genesis for this reason a man will leave his father and mother because there can never be two kings in one palace okay the bill calls the shots it was never designed that way god wants you to trust in him in your provision god wants you to start a family of your own problems [Music] is not to honor them by the apostles but to love them can i spoil them our goal in parenting that's next week is not for children to love us welcome to bible and love your parents recommended to honor our parents priority husbands when you say singular your wife is a man believe his mother and father the highest level of relationship before getting married your parents you have to leave them and then somebody thought okay i will leave his mother and father and be united there's going to be stability not only priority but there's going to be stability when we're united we're going to be strong in fact we're only as strong as we're united with our spouse when we are strong in our marriage in every arena of your life you're going to move in strength sabine tim keller but you're weak in your marriage you're gonna move in weakness so you'd rather be strong in your marriage even though your wife because that's how it works you become stable when you're united and sabrina and the two will become one flesh there's gonna be intimacy and only priority is your wife not only it will create the stability the the fruit intimacy sexual intimacy or physical intimacy in every arena of intimacy recreational intimacy spiritual intimacy so guys listen up i do hope and pray i'm not saying we have a lot of friends spiritual families we do it together 20 years ago for my daughter singular love your wife intimacy follows it's a fruit a being of prioritizing your wife strengthening your marriage and eventually there's going to be intimacy of husband guys be careful what you're feeding your mind be careful what you're putting in this mind vincent netflix sensual implication and then before you know it you're fantasizing and before you knew it you're too much into this uh pornography oh my gosh and sometimes you live in this world what you live in this world upon a feeling but it digging me and you began to compare listen up guys adultery happens in the head long before feeding your mind with those sensual uh videos i'm ah sorry secondly a husband's love is sacrificial just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for the church look up here it's not just singular it's sacrificial we no longer live for ourselves dying inside and i was dying inside your name you're dying to yourself every single day it's hard i'm very far from this i continually remind myself i have to die for grace i have to die for grace i have to die for grace i'm so selfish left ourselves we'll always preserve ourselves we'll always prefer ourselves but getting married is dying to self every single day that's unconditional just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for the church just us just us it's a comparison right english it's a simile it's a obvious comparison just ask just as christ loved the church by giving himself up for her so you think you love your wife he compared you the way jesus loved the church by dying for the church at our worst christ died for us when we were still sinners jesus died for us can you do that i can't hit rapaco to die for my wife every single day it's only by the grace of god at never ending i'm always reminded die to your wife type to your wife die to your wife it's amin it's hard that's why we're all learning from this okay that's what's happening in the same way husband ought to love their wives just as their own bodies he will love his wife loves himself your wife is the extension of your body but any normal human being will not hurt himself and husband same thing let's sacrifice for our wives i have a zoom group we do this every tuesday these are the husband i really want to honor the husband really spend time every week doing these four gifts of love human wives it's a zoo meeting it's an hour and a half nazoo meeting my assignment for the whole week you're gonna make an assignment we're the one leading this group and you can see sacrifice to my husband he wanted the date by and then they find it a joy nana they date by like see jack and ac they're going to go out on a date and answer this question they don't want to say arnie me so it's a joy now before it's a challenge to make those assignments let's say you really have to be honest to yourself by answering those questions and bowel makeover hunting is a and we're going to do that for eight weeks but then i really want to honor the husbands investing time knowing that this is for our marriage so lastly not only it's singular not only it's sacrificial it's sanctifying sanctifying sabrito and to present her the wife to himself as a raging church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish but holy and blameless to make your wife holy cleansing her by the washing with water through the word sinai jesus is a church okay jesus christ okay uh presented himself okay youtube church without wrinkle or any blemish now it's the same thing with us husbands we are the spiritual leader in our homes we dictate the spiritual temperatures of baha'i you should be the one paving the way by raising the level of faith um setting the spiritual atmospheres about you're the one really saying you are the one telling your wife hon we can do this let's let's let's let's pray and ask god for wisdom as a husband priest sabahi we your goal is not to make your wife ultimately happy no no no the ultimate goal is not to make your wife happy but to make her holy it's interesting because the congress were pushing for dissolution of marriage because a lot of married couples now are no longer happy sabi kunaman siddhan aksabi your goal is to make your wife happy single ladies if you want to be happy don't get married good luck because the goal is not to make your wife ultimate i'm using the word ultimate okay ultimately happy but to help her to become holy to add value to her that every single day she is better or holier better okay than yesterday and nakikita sayo you see christ the way you love me the way you forgive it's a challenge husband but it's knowable now in when you do that she's gonna be happy okay but you know ultimate goal i want to make you happy hello we know people whose goal is just to make the wife so much happy by giving everything bags groceries the goal is not to make her happy the goal is to present her without stain or wrinkle or any blemish but holy and blameless to make her holy by seeing it in yourself look up here a marriage is a union of two sinners but a godly marriage is a union of two forgivers single man single woman once in their next summer but when you have a godly marriage a godly husband will produce a union of two forgivers you're gonna learn how to forgive to love to overlook offense and in doing so who knows you're a wife how you treat our children how you forgive my mother how you overlook offense actually this is a bible verse small but the way you live those bible verses husbands there's hope for our nation if men will be the spiritual leader in every home that's your role we are the priests we're not just providers madalila might provide quite well and just provide but you can never be a priest without god and it's not just about material things you're old enough to know that so let's end so husband's role how to love singular sacrificial and sanctifying kind of love kalinasinabiko sabi dietani tim keller if i'm weak in every area of my life except in my marriage then i will move in strength we have that yeah so if you're weak this is uh pastor tim taylor of redeemer's church in new york sabina if i'm weak in every area of my life except in my marriage then i'm going to move in strength so i didn't because president saying indicating a blogger indicating a you're going to move in strength and then the opposite is true if i'm strong in every area of my life then you're going to move in weakness you'd rather be strong sabbah even when you're weak outside you'd rather you'd rather be seen by your wife and children that's my dad that's my husband let's end this is it really doable of course because jesus is our peg remember kadena 5 21 verse 21 submit to one another out of reverence for christ jesus christ showed us the way he loved us unconditionally sacrificially exclusively holy thing god jesus christ is our peg he exclusively loved us unconditionally loved us sacrificially loved us and then let's in hebrews 12 fixing our eyes on jesus here's my prayer for all of us before we end let's fix our eyes on jesus married people single people whatever stage in your life fix our eyes on jesus because he is the pioneer and the perfecter of our faith uh as you know last week minecrafters of preaching go i went to this honda motorcycle riding class for three days methano rosamond on the third day they call that target fixation elementary okay target fixation is simply constantly and what the professors are saying or the instructor is saying and then you're gonna go there target fixation where are we fixing our eyes onto bible is saying fix your eyes on jesus because the cross of christ the life of christ lived here on earth it's the most selfless act of love ever in history for someone but jesus christ is different he is god becoming man and he came here on earth to die for you and me fixing an eyes on jesus okay and it says here for the joy set before him what he did he endured the cross scorning its shame sat down on the right hand of the throne of god because the cross of christ that's the most selfless act of love and paul takes the human relationship between a man and a woman the marriage and says jesus christ look up here endure the cross he sacrificed but you know what the sacrifice means right a sacrifice is a sacrifice if you don't know what you're trading it for kaya gigging sacrifice when jesus christ died for you and me he knew he's gonna please the father and in doing so he's gonna save human beings it was never a sacrifice for jesus christ it was a joy before him sacrifice it was never a sacrifice it was a joy because hira was outweighed by the joy girlfriend so a sacrifice is a sacrifice if you don't know what you're trading it for and jesus christ knew i'm gonna die for these people because god loved them i love them and it's worth it that's all santa fe today we're going to pray for a specific group of people we're going to pray for grace of god in our marriages if that's you today um we're going to pray for people who are struggling in their marriages just continue to pray now god will continue to bless your marriage but if that's you today even you worshipping with us online your marriage is hanging on a thread i believe god allows you to listen to this message because he want to fix that marriage because the bible says what god has joined together let none let no man separate and i believe god is concerning your marriage and he's a god of order you want to put order in your marriage we're going to pray for restoration of marriages as well nothing is impossible with god amen so if you're a if you're a child praying for your parents just be in faith and we're going to pray with you okay let's just pray father we thank you for this rose lord god involves being under your lordship submitting to you first and we can now do the rest father right now we ask these people it's just one fight away from filing an almond or divorce i pray father that you will intervene lord god you will you will come lord god to rescue this marriage i pray lord god that you will shower them with grace that they're gonna overlook offense they're gonna they're not gonna keep records of wrong he didn't really call you they're just gonna live the day and just enjoy the grace that will be upon them right now lord we pray and declare that you're gonna bring forth lord i got a fresh hope to this couple then i got away lord because this pandemic has brought so much tensions among marriages friction because of this work from home set up lord i pray for these marriages [Music] you're gonna restore them you're gonna bring forth lord god fresh intimacy in that relationship and also i pray lord god seemingly and for the children who is believing you for a miracle right now in the name of jesus lord would you just intervene a marriage yes seemingly in the eyes of men but lord nothing is impossible for you lord ikaw unjustna create lord and marriage and you're the one who can restore things lord god in marriage father we declare by faith that these marriages will be restored who knows lord be here but lord you have your perfect timing and everything so father we declare your blessing to be upon them in jesus name amen lastly for those of you worshipping with us online and also here in this auditorium upstairs here the starting point of all of this is having a relationship with christ in fact there's a verse in romans 2 4 i don't know if it's on the screen don't you know okay don't you know don't you see how wonderfully kind or tolerant and patient god is with you does this mean nothing to you and paul was exhorting the roman church can't you see that his kindness his love his enduring love his unconditional love his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin what he's saying is god loves you so much and you love naomi we'll bring you to repentance and have a relationship with him you know what if that's you today you haven't given your life to christ you worshiping with us online lord i'm not asking you to change religion okay this is not about religion in fact you can go back to your church after this if you're watching with us you can go back to your parochial or whatever wherever you're worshiping this is not a religion this is a relationship so if that's you today the starting point is saying to jesus lord i want to receive you as my lord and savior you cannot fix your marriage god can and you have to have a relationship with god first that's the foundation the starting point so that god can intervene he's a gentleman he will not intervene unless you accept him in your life so if that's you today let's button our heads and close our eyes if that's you today you want to receive the lord jesus christ as your lord and savior can you just raise your hand i'll be praying for you come on with no one looking around yeah i see those hands yes a balcony do we have hands face okay yeah praise god don't worry this is the most important decision of your life so nothing is just this is a personal decision praise god as you raise your hand can you just pray this prayer with me lord jesus thank you for giving me the opportunity to receive you today as my lord and savior lord i repent from all my sins and i now receive you as my lord and savior thank you jesus for coming into my life starting today be my lord in jesus name i pray amen amen amen amen come on let's give him praise come on god deserve better than that come on god is good he is worthy of all our praise for those of you who pray that prayer with us listen we're not done for those of you who pray the prayer with us can you type connect okay just one word connect our our leaders our pastors will connect with you if you intently pray that prayer or if you need any prayer requests if your marriage and you want to talk with someone we want to talk with us pastors just type connect for those of you from here you receive christ let's talk afterwards god bless you and see you next week

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Published: Sat Jun 12 2021