- [Interviewer] mikeward6780
asks, how do you motivate yourself when no one else believes in you? - Well Mike, I can give you two answers. One is the politically correct one, one is the fucking truth. Depends on which one you want to hear. I'll give you both, actually. The politically correct answer is, well, you've got to just hustle, you gotta just put your head down and you gotta know your goal,
know where you're going. You hear these things a lot. Here's the truth. That if you need someone to motivate you, you're not that motivated. What I notice is high performance people, we are self motivated. There are a lot of people,
they're looking for their family. And they use that as
an excuse, so you know, my wife, my husband,
they don't support me. My parents don't support me. My kids don't support me. Or my friends don't support me. Guess what? Do not expect their support. The air is thin at the top. And you have to learn to be
alone without being lonely. That's just the path. That when you are
becoming more successful, that's the biggest thing that holds most people back. It's not the how to,
it's not the know what, it's not don't know what to do, it's not the business idea, it's the fact that they cannot operate on their own, being able to self motivate, at the same time not
having to get permission from the people around them. That they wish, how come, don't you know I'm doing this for you? How come you guys don't support me? How come my family don't support me? How come they don't understand? I don't get it, I want to make more money, I want to be more successful,
to better their lives. How come they don't understand? Guess what, most of the time,
they will never understand. You're expecting something
that won't happen. That's what's holding you back. You're expecting them
to give you permission. Yeah, go for it, they cheer you up. No. No, the question is why
don't they support you? It's very simple. It's very, very simple. I go through this whole thing, exactly in my own life. First of all, they don't understand. Because most of us, we grew up in the miseducational system. Where it's teaching you
to behave a certain way. Go to school, get good
grades and walk this path. Get a degree, get a
job, work til you're 65. Marry, have kids, get a big mortgage. That's your life. Anything that deviates from that, anything that's not the
traditional path, that is stupid. That is dangerous. That is wrong. You shouldn't do that, you should do this. So the minute you want
to walk a different path, the people around you, your loved ones, they feel like you are so weird. How come you can't do what everybody else, just be normal. Just settle. Don't take risks. Play safe. Get a safe, secure job. And the more you deviate
from that traditional path, the more they feel like, the bigger the distance
between you and them. They're afraid to lose you. They're afraid that to lose, they're afraid that
you'll leave them behind. That's why you don't have the support. And all your buddies, all your friends, do you really think they want
you to be mega successful? To live their dream life? To travel, live in that beautiful home, to drive that car that
they could never afford? Do you really think that they
want you to be that successful while they're living paycheck to paycheck? Hell fucking no. They might say, oh yeah, we cheer for you, congratulations man, good for you. Deep down, enviousness,
jealousy, lower self. It's human nature. So what I'm saying, is
don't even expect it. You're wasting your time. You do what you think is right, you do what you believe is right. You walk your own path. They might see it, they might not see it, I'm not expecting them to see it. This is my life, it's not their life. I do what I know I need to do, so if you need someone to motivate you, you're not going to be successful. I, me, Dan Lok, I don't
need anyone to motivate me. I don't even need people to understand me. I understand me, I motivate me. You're waiting for someone to motivate, how come they don't support
me, how can I be motivate. You can't even get yourself
to get off the fucking bed and wake up and do what it takes, and you want to be successful? You want to be better than everybody else? You want to develop that skill? Not going to happen. Just not going to happen. You need to be self motivated. Look across any industry,
sports, entertainment, business. Anyone who's achieved excellence, you don't need to motivate them. Because they demand more from themselves than anybody else could. I demand more from myself
than anybody else could. Do you demand more from yourself,
than anybody else could? So don't wait. Do it, and just do it.
