The Unstoppable Force - The Real Difference Between Success and Failure | Dan Lok | TEDxSFU

I want you to imagine a person that you like respect and looked up to someone who you consider to be very successful go ahead and do that in your mind now put up your hand if you have that person in your mind the question we could explore today is what makes that person successful while others fail I want you to imagine what life could be like if you could be your very best in every area of your life your relationship your finance your business your career your family your health your hobby your passion what would it be like if you could be at your very best in every area of your life you see I've been studying success for the better part of 17 years or eight years of my life I've been asked hundreds of times in talks and interviews what is the one quality or action or mindset that will ensure a person truly creates extraordinary success I discovered and although there are many factors that lead to success goal-setting focus persistence time management people skill I've never been clear on that one thing that really makes a difference when I look in my old life ask myself the question what was it that made me successful it wasn't because of my intelligence when I first came to Canada I couldn't speak a word of English when I wasn't in school I was a C student it wasn't because I had a great upbringing because actually my mum and dad got divorced when I was 16 years old and shortly after that my dad went bankrupt so I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth and definitely it wasn't because I was connected to the right people because when I first immigrated to Canada I didn't know anybody and it wasn't because of my personality because at a time when I was young was very very shy it wasn't social at all I didn't have a lot of friends and back then I couldn't even speak a word of English and it definitely wasn't because of luck because I had failed I started and fail at 13 businesses before having my first success I've lost millions of dollars in business so I wouldn't call that luck when I look at the deliberate success I had over the years having a great marriage building a number of successful companies writing multiple best-selling books becoming a highly paid speaker that impacts hundreds of thousands of people and just living life on my own terms that I could get up every morning and doing what I love having that sense of purpose having their sense of peace something that very few people accomplish I know that I realized there was one factor in each of those successes in every one of little successes in fact it was present in everything that significantly happened in my life let's just pretend for a moment that we all got a hundred IQs okay for some people in this room I'm giving you a little for some people in this room I'm ticking it away let's just pretend we go get on your IQ and let's pretend I gotta have your IQ I'm giving myself a little now let me ask you a question is it possible for someone to have 10 times higher IQ than us no I mean I've heard of 150 IQs maybe 200 IQs but not like 1,000 IQs so can we all agree that someone cannot be 10 times smarter than us yes okay can someone work 10 times harder than us so you are eight hours a day they work 80 hours a day No so the question is why are there people ten times more successful than us why are there people helping and impacting 10 times more people than us why are there people making 10 times more money than us why are there people ten times healthier than us why are there people ten times happier than us why why you remind me of a story there was a young man and he wanted to be successful and he's heard of this millionaire in his town who's got a great reputation that only he runs a very successful business he's a family man a man of integrity also a very generous giver to his local charities this young man approached this millionaire and said how can I be as successful as you the millionaire said well young man if you want to be as successful as me meet me 6:00 a.m. at this gym here's the address a gym I want to learn to make money not a lot how to exercise like what why why go to a gym young men if you'll learn to make money meet me 6 a.m. at this gym all right ok the young man show up to the gym 6 a.m. sharp brought his laptop ready to go dressing in business ready to take notes he walked into this big gym and there was this huge boxing ring right in the middle of the gym and the millionaire is standing in it and the millinery asked the young man is a young man how hungry are you for success and a young man said I'm very hungry good he grabbed a pair of gloves he said put on these gloves for these gloves I came to learn how to be successful now how to fight if you want to be successful put on these gloves all right ok he pondered gloves walking the ring without warning the amilia poom puncher yama on the face and the young miss don't started bleeding and the yama was like what the heck are you crazy that hurts and as he was distracted by his old thought familiar BAM through another punch and knock him to the ground and this young me for this million is crazy this guy's nuts what's going on and Amelia said to the young man I ask you again how hungry are you for success now get back up keep fighting this young man this time this time the young man is mad he's like I'm gonna get you okay and he really really tried to hit the Amelia he really tried to swing back but the milling just moved around there gracefully very quickly could even touch the guy couldn't touch there and he knocked him to the ground again and again and again and again and the young man finally said this is it I quit this is stupid this is not fair I didn't come here to be your punching bag I thought you're going to teach me how to be successful I don't see that this how this has anything to do with success maybe you are not who they say you were maybe it was a mistake we've been asked in the first place you mainly look at a young man dead serious and said kid the wailing fair and life in fear it's going to push you around it's going to beat you down and it's going to beat you up let me tell you something and you listen to me and listen to me closely success doesn't come to the most intelligent or the most talented success come to the DOS to come to those who are the most hungry for it so let me ask you how hungry are you for success now get up so that's my question to you how hungry are you for success what are you willing to give up you know to get what you want what sacrifices are you willing to make what excuses are you willing to let go are you willing to experience humiliation embarrassment rejection as part of the price are you truly committed to success or you just liking the idea see most people that's the problem they just kind of want it they talk about it they think about it they complain about it but they don't really want it for some people in this room you don't want success as bad as you want pokemons go you don't want successes value on Netflix you don't want success as bad as you want to party most people like the idea of having a great relationship guess what if you're truly committed you'll be going out on a date most real like the song love thee that all be my own boss if you actually committed your you'll be being business most of you like the idea of losing 20 pounds guess what if you truly commit it you show up at a gym you will showed up at the gym and that's the issue we don't really want it that bad we don't want it that bad so the unstopped up of the unstoppable force hunger is the unstoppable force hunger is what it's what it's gonna make you unstoppable hunger is what's gonna keep you going when things get tough hunger drive success hunger destroys or fear or failure hunger is your ultimate competitive advantage it is York ultimate when you want something bad enough and you when you know what you want and you want it bad enough you'll find a way to get it you'll find a way to get it I disrupt people when I say you make me extraordinary because it lets you off the hook you see when I started my entrepreneurial career for the first five years in business I was working 12 to 15 hours a day every day I didn't take a single day off for five years not one single day I was working while my friends are out drinking partying and watching sports game because I was hungry for success I was willing to sacrifice today's pleasures for two more rewards I was willing to pay the price today to buy the possibility of a better future for my family now not the smartest I'm not the brightest I don't have the most resources but boy I'm one hungry mf'er I will die climbing the mountain not sliding down I will die chasing my dream before I quit I can tell you begin to tell you how many times during my career people tell me slow down slow down take it easy don't stand out don't wear a red suit you know [Applause] don't work too hard don't stress out live an easy life you know success isn't everything have you ever noticed the person who says success isn't everything as the men a woman has none none I've been labeled as a workaholic a freak weird selfish greedy egotistical you name it I've heard all I've heard it all and I can't begin to tell you how many times in my life people try to persuade me to give up on my dreams that it's okay to settle that's okay to settle for for Less that just that's just the way life is and later on I realize that people who try to persuade me to give up on my dreams they're not trying to help me they're trying to make sense why they have given up themselves they're trying to make sense why they have given up themselves see the problem is you can't Google download hunger someone was trying to do that it you can't Google download it it has to come from within you can't Google download it it's like people follow me on Facebook you can follow me on Facebook you can watch me on YouTube and get you where I am today you're just gonna see where I am there's no glory in that if you watch me watch me to inspire you just to fight a little longer if you watch me watch me do you want to you want to live up to your own potential instead of copying someone else's if you watch me watch me to get back up and fight one more time to fight one more time it's like when you when you want to take the leap and when you get to the edge your brain will always tell you to stop to step back because you'll bring is a survival mechanism it is designed to protect you but your intuition your your your higher self is designed to make you sword and when you get to that edge and you want to jump and you watch everyone else's fly it's like you're watching people on Instagram you're watching people on Facebook and you watch everyone else's fly they're taking that dream vacation they're buying that new home they're landing the dream job they find the ideal soulmate and you're watching everyone else and you wonder what life would be like to jump without ever jumping see sometimes you have to listen to your own intuition sometimes you have to just listen to that voice and say you know what I'm gonna jump and guess what when you're hungry you're dash off that cliff and you will jump you will jump and when you jump only one of the three things could happen one you would jump you would spread your wings and you would soar to new heights second thing you would jump and land on something soft or you would jump and you'll land on something hard that's okay you don't die what doesn't kill you makes you stronger you've heard of the song what doesn't kill you makes you stronger you see you and I know your greatest fear is not that you would jump and fall your greatest fear is to get to the end of your life and never jump and never leap you're not afraid of dying you're afraid of dying before this world sees who you are since what you're capable of before they they get your gifts based if they fought before they feel your breath before they get your contribution before they feel you you don't want that to happen you don't want to leave this planet without someone knowing that you were here you see this prescription to extraordinary success is hunger the single most important element of any human that separates the level of success from the rest is hunger if you go where you've never gone do what you've never done say we have never said you will become the man or woman if you always know yourself to be to be so please I'm not extraordinary I'm gonna I'm not gonna let you off the hook you don't get to be left of the hook I'm just an ordinary man who chooses every day to make one extra extraordinary decision I would like to offer you an opportunity to make that decision today the most important decision they can ever make in your life is deciding whether you are truly committed to success and happiness no matter what it's the greatest gift that you could give yourself decide what you're willing to get to the edge and jump for and you take that leap and you take that leap and you take that leap when you want something bad enough and you work for long enough and you believe in is strong enough you will get it you will get it so I'm going to ask you the question one more time and it's a last question then I'll be out of here I'm looking for one-word answer and one-word answer only and it's Laos you could you better blow the roof of this thing one would answer he's a question ah you truly hungry for success thank you that's all I got thank very much very much thank you thank you stay hungry stay hungry thank you

Channel: TEDx Talks

Views: 1,132,078

Keywords: TEDxTalks, English, Canada, Business, Career, Entrepreneurship, Success

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Length: 17min 59sec (1079 seconds)

Published: Wed Mar 08 2017