HOW TO KNOW A LADY IS READY FOR MARRIAGE

[Music] welcome to our channel today we're here with another amazing video today's video will bless you in no small way if you have yet to subscribe to our channel please subscribe and also click on the notification button below so you'll be notified every time we upload a new video if you feel this video can bless someone kindly join us to spread the gospel to the world please sit back watch and enjoy do i know i am prepared for marriage or ladies is it when all the friends around your circle of influence start getting married you now feel is a sign what exactly are some of the provisions that the bible puts for us to prepare us to know that we are prepared for marriage write it down the first dimension a wife second dimension a mother putin bracket a homemaker and then the third dimension a minister [Music] please look up while i attempt to explain these points three ladies quickly oh yeah yeah three ladies worship team [Music] hallelujah are you enjoying tonight's teaching the first dimension sister open your eyes your ears and everything and here the first dimension is as a wife don't assume you know what i'm saying let me explain this is a mother this again is a minister now watch this what does it mean to be a wife what does it mean to be a wife many ladies do not know what it means to be a wife they think they know a wife just like the husband defines the entire scope of your ministry to your husband not your husband and your father not your husband and his family under the dimension of your wife your ministry is only to your husband let me use this opportunity and challenge many ladies who can keep their men a second place you love your father your mother your brother your uncle so much everything you do to your husband you do to everyone else you are not a wife you are not a wife that dimension of being a wife is a dimension that creates an office for the man to feel like the man in your life that is the dimension where you bring the king out of that man that is the dimension where you let the man know that you are not like all other men you are exclusive and i demonstrate it in every way possible by meeting your emotional need by looking physically attractive for you oh yes hello by now i know you are aware that physical attraction means a lot to men if you are not aware you are hearing it now are you getting me don't think because you get married i'm not talking of nudity don't get me wrong are you getting the point i'm not talking of nudity and seduction no no but i've seen so many men depressed over their wife they just get married five years 10 years and the woman is looking as if she's 100 years old she does not care she has thrown away a white hood because she thinks she's giving birth to plenty children and the man is frustrated he looks at another lady who is 10 times older than her and she's looking like an angel and his own wife is looking like whatever it is [Music] please don't play games with men let me tell you any man i don't care whether anointing oil is on top of his head jesus is written on top of his head there is a dimension a lady was wired by god to make a man feel like a man if you don't do it is because of negligence not because you have not been equipped and that has nothing to do with seduction from your physical outlook let the man be proud of you not a lady that you just got married and the man says come and scout me somewhere you just dress as if you are going for a night with you and he's looking smart looking like a young man you are there embarrassing him and he said honey you can just sit at the car honestly i'll be brief i'll just come and say no i must come i want to see what you are hiding [Music] if nobody has told you i'm telling you now in the name of the lord it matters it matters ladies it matters and it starts from relationship [Music] are you a wife when was the last time you met the guy god sent to you feel like a king let me tell you in every brother there is a king it takes a wife to bring that king out are you getting me when you find yourself shouting at a guy and taking advantage of his niceness there are some brothers that are very cool-headed even if you slap them they won't do anything and you deceive yourself to think that because they are cool-headed they are foolish there is a lion in every brother there is a lamb in every brother keep the lion in the cage don't let it come out you won't like it you must make every guy feel like a king vashti stop being a wife as a result she left the palace first she stopped being a wife when the king wanted to feel like a king she was not available and he sent her out and here came esther hadassah hadassah always made the king feel like a king she prepared a feast for him and he said what's the occasion for the feast she said nothing just erading your royalty and the king said my goodness please do it again and then by himself he said what do you want to half of my kingdom a man will give you anything if you bring the king in him don't make requests until he becomes a king [Music] how many ladies have strangled the king dimension in their men you just come and say um do you know that the other brother bought me a laptop can you save how many months six months you have been trying to buy a laptop one brother just came out just from churchill no strings attached you are killing the king when there is no king in your kingdom enemies will come keep the king alive ladies keep the king alive [Music] there are some things ladies have been doing that a guy is tolerating it does not mean that's how he was designed to leave you shout at a guy anyhow and speak to him anyhow he's supposed to see you by seven he comes by eight you don't give him room to explain himself let me tell you this and you are acting nigerian here there is a king in every guy don't take the generosity of any man for granted i'm sorry to say this many married women have taken their husbands for granted they do not exalt that king dimension when you got married to him you used to bring food in a tree and be very respectful now you just carry a bottle of juice as if you are selling it just drop it on the table and say there's rice in the kitchen and he will get up you see that's the thing with many men they will get up quietly and once up themselves but you are endangering your marriage you are endangering your relationship many ladies are embarrassed to be wives because it takes submission to be a wife if you are still driven by ego and i don't want to look cheap you will never be a wife to be a wife you must soil your hand and create a king out of that man but if you can be stupid enough to make that man a king he will be a fool for you that's his reward [Music] ladies say after me in the name of jesus shout it in the name of jesus i receive grace to be a wife indeed sisters hear me don't lend those dragons that you watch on tv there is a difference between secular relationships and marriages and kingdom relationships please don't let anybody confuse you a virtuous woman who can find the bible says her husband will praise her at the gates she will do him good all the days of her life can you honestly say from the day you started going out with that guy you have brought joy ask yourself have you brought joy don't lie from the time you started going out with a guy have you brought joy to his life or heartbreak his finances went down his reputation went down his spiritual life went down his ego went down his sense of purpose went down you are not a wife she that finds a wife you must be a wife to be found it's not marriage that makes you a wife when a man comes to you is a sign that you have become a wife he that finds a wife not a woman there are many women there are few wives he that finds a wife number two mother watch this mother in one word a mother is the maker of the home the key word under motherhood is sacrifice there are many ladies who have paid the price to be wives they can give any guy the kind of love he wants they can cook for the guy they can do everything but they are not mothers ladies i challenge you to have an elderly woman in your life who will not feel embarrassed to teach you motherhood ladies i challenge you in the name of the lord do not allow westernization suck out the dimension of motherhood within you motherhood a man can build a house but it takes a woman to make a home a man cannot make it home a man can build a house and put shears in it a home talks of the emotional climate creating the conducive atmosphere for love the conducive atmosphere for unity the conducive atmosphere for progress and peace is the responsibility of a woman i challenged the school of ministry and i said when i come to anybody's house there are three things ladies i will look at in your house to prove to me whether you are a mother indeed number one your kitchen your kitchen is a reflection of your motherhood ability kitchen that's where the meals are made right that's where the health of the people is preserved there are many people they are teaching is a mess there are many young ladies you dress well you wear new clothes but your kitchen is a mess five day old plates one week old plate roaming around in the kitchen yeah the sink is dirty you look at the cookers palm oil everything on it you see bread that has fungi to carry it and throw it you lift you leave it there the trash can is filled with that you are not a mother you may be a good wife or not a good mother the bible says she wakes up in the morning talking about her motherhood dimension while it is yet early and prepares something for the children proverbs 31 and she comes to cover them to make sure they are warm in winter that's a mother a homemaker sisters are you mothers [Music] are you mothers indeed that's a question god is helping us to understand tonight many ladies are not mothers but you can be mothers if you make that decision tonight so your kitchen number two your toilet the toilet in many homes is a disaster a disaster plus plus disaster one universal toe used by everybody including visitors one universal sponge right a sponge that looks like a rag turn into pieces and the woman cannot buy another one listen let me tell you ladies there are some responsibilities that are not for men don't let anyone fool you if you see a man doing it he's doing it out of love he won't do it forever you can't expect a man to go to the market and go and buy new buckets and bring it back home and say i notice buckets are empty please don't insult the man there is a king in every man i'm not saying man cannot do it but what is your own rule a child is running out of the house muchos everywhere john trouser you see you see children running out of homes no clothes and he runs and hugs somebody outside and the man is feeling embarrassed and the wife is just looking won't you come in to come in and see the other things [Music] toilets you look at the toilet and people is not flushed it's not clean there is no water people bath and they leave the remaining water there the second person comes to add this water on it and now that's all kinds of things happen come on let's tell ourselves the truth many homes have dirty toilets ladies make sure you are not praying for an award-winning man to keep him in that kind of atmosphere shout no way i hope so i really hope so how many ladies are not proactive they get up and go to the market only to shop clothes and hair and you cannot buy soap the man is rushing because he has to catch up with an appointment our soup is finished and the wife said sorry honey and he now checks ah the toil this there's no water mayweather's not come all kinds of domestic things you want the man to do everything no that's the dimension of your mother a man returns back from work tired and hungry and that's when the woman lazily drags herself trying to break pieces of eggs and open up into me to make dinner and yet when they ask you who do you want to marry they say you know what i want to marry no are you preparing god is not a wicked man to carry his son that has been sweating in the vineyard and come and keep you and then you strangle him to death there are many men that are heartbroken as a result of the way their wives trivialize them please ladies listen god is speaking to us don't you ever if you if a man has not talked to you about it i promise you it's just because it's tolerating you it's not because it's enjoying it there are men who can just take up with anything but don't don't don't push men to the world is god helping us and then number three your living room your parallel you enter the palo and everything is scattered water pours on the ground the carpet is dirty pieces of paper around children roaming around everything is unkept the moment you on the farm you see dust all over the parlor [Music] and many mothers don't train their children how many ladies get up in the morning another part of their assignment is to make sure that their rooms are clean it starts with your own room now don't wait till you are in a bungalow you want to stay in a duplex of eight rooms are you ready to sweep it [Music] don't just say oh god i'm tired of poverty are you ready to sweep it i want a room with this i want an extra room with an aquarium every honor comes with responsibility is god speaking to us tonight if you listen to what i'm saying i promise you 10 years 20 years from now you will thank me for what i'm sharing with you your living room the key word under motherhood is sacrifice sisters look at me very carefully if you are unwilling to let good things right now you are not a mother i'm telling you this you are not a mother there are ladies who cannot give up their food they cannot share anything there are ladies who even if you have one million naira and a guy stands here with one thousand error you want him to buy something of 900 naira for you and keep on the nera what sort of person are you once there is no heart of sacrifice you are not a mother because a good mother will inconvenience herself a good mother will protect the image of the father and the husband have you seen many of our mothers do a lot of things and give the honor and the credit to the husband the man has no idea visitors are coming to the house and they come and they see all kinds of meals different types and the friends of the man told us promise promise your house is heaven or nato and you see him laughing he did not contribute anything to that table but he's happy and the woman because she's a good woman she's happy they will ask her to say madam you are really enjoying no that means your husband is taking care of you and she'll say bless god not that she'll call the person outside and say this is my initiative i did it because i fear god if i'm to wait for this idiot nothing will happen in this house how many of you right now can do good and give the credit to the man god has given you and not be ashamed ladies how many of you can do that that you are the one that dressed him well and when he comes out and people are saying you have an excellent dress sense you keep quiet you know that you look as excellent dress sense i was almost passing the night at the taylor's place to make sure they finish the clothes now you are giving the credit to him a mother does not want any glory for herself her pride is that her husband and children are lifted even at her expense that's why you see a woman can carry her food when a visitor comes and the husband says is there anything to eat you say ah yes yes whereas that food she's saying yes to is her meal and she will run to the kitchen turn it in another plate warm it quickly and come and the children are saying mommy boy you have not eaten she's protecting the image of the family [Music] you must receive grace to be a mother number three every woman is a priest too every woman listen and this applies most especially to single moms and women who maybe their husbands are believed and so on and so forth that there is no man in your life whether technically or directly if there is no man in your life you must still perform that role of priesthood [Music] i read a book some years ago the power of a praying wife and that book changed my life every woman must be on her knees this is your altar in the home every woman must create an altar especially if you are marrying a man of god don't wait until scandals kill him and eat up his ministry where will you be at the point where jezebel is killing him and destroying his image there is a way you can know that your husband is getting busy he's getting busy and spiritually he's not in touch you can discern that he's going down that's the time to go on your knees and intercede for him you see him making foolish decisions he's a leader over millions of people one decision can implicate him there are psycho fans there are newspapers waiting to discredit his grace a true priest he's a woman who can pray and fast i'm standing and saying lord i'm praying for my husband i'm praying for my family man no matter how discerning we are most times we don't discern marital evil fast till it destroys us i can hope 30 ladies right now as generous as possible a lady can sit down and know the one that hugged me from the spirit and the one that hugged me from the flesh a guy would not know the guys would say man you're a very nice person but a lady would look i said now no way this is this one i felt something in me when when that lady hugged that brother my spirit told me that this hog is too generous for just a normal godly expression of love that means god has given you that spiritual equipment to save the man from danger how many women sit down and have dreams and you see the life and the business and the ministry of your husband crushing god didn't just show you to keep it a man is going on a trip and you started sensing in your spirit maybe accident why don't you discuss and say honey let's pray say oh let him go and then something happens he returns back on bike and tells you the car's damaged i said oh i saw you too i saw it what did you do about it remember the wife of herod let me prove this to you remember the wife of herald she had a dream and she saw the innocence of jesus she got up and told her husband this man is innocent i know you people want to kill him my spirit tells me is innocent throw away that teeth but let them crucify him leave this innocent man but they didn't listen to her how many men have ignored the priestly roles of their wives to their detriments brothers let me tell you i shared with the school of ministry students there is a prophetic dimension in every woman it's just that that prophetic dimension is fragile you must love her and honor her prophetic office and then you will benefit from it men because we're egotistic people every little thing you turn to a lady that's in my bed she's a lady i know that they are emotional there are times that ladies can handle intelligent things emotionally but let me tell you something there are times that in the midst of their emotionalism they can speak forth the counsel of god there are times a man sits down and is trying to do business with some friends and you see his wife keeps quiet she's not hearing the conversation but her spirit has spirit and she says honey i don't know what is going on but i am sorry i'm not disrespecting you but this your loyalty you have been doing from the day you started it something in my spirit i sense god doesn't want you to be there you say god doesn't want me to yeah are you aware have you seen the last pta letter have you seen now they have increased the school fees it's now 150 000 please don't annoy me hanuman says i'm sorry until the day they now call and say madame are you missing so please come and identify your husband in the prison we just locked him up [Music] there is a priestly dimension to every lady brothers please don't let the beauty of any sister fool you beauty without god is nonsense are you hearing me i repeat beauty without god is nonsense the beauty of a lady can fade like a leaf added to that beauty at spirituality and spirituality and spirituality one of my greatest joys is that by the grace of god some of the people who have risen from this ministry and have gotten married almost every one of them i know of they are enjoying heaven on earth because of some of these principles you will never go to their homes and see cat and dog no you never see that kind of thing there is love the homes may not be perfect but i tell you there is god in that home they love themselves they are living by the principles of the kingdom so ladies there are three dimensions to you the first dimension is what a wife and your ministry as a wife is to your husband alone please don't think in-laws are equal to your husband don't think children are equal to your husband there is a way you concentrate on children and refuse your husband you are not doing him good there is a way you concentrate on in-laws there are ladies who will rather their in-laws be exalted than your husband every time you see cow-tailed pepper soup in-laws are coming you have never prepared it for your husband gary in the morning the remaining in the evening that's how the man lives you stuff that man because he has vowed to be faithful to you he has lived in a prison because of his commitment to be faithful [Music] if i were a lady see there is what you do to a man even if the woman is walking naked you know you are joking temptation goes kilometers away because there is absolutely no reason except demonic oppression why you should look at another woman what in the world ladies i challenge you i want you to lock your husband's attention to you it's as if you are programming him keep him to look at you all the days of your life and have no reason whatsoever to look at another woman the power is within you [Music] every time jezebel wants to come and destroy a home they usually use the lapses of the woman there is usually something a woman is ignoring that somebody does if you are not cooking well for the man and you have not paid attention to learn new meals you only know how to cook six meals yam beans your love your traditional food and and and maybe any other thing chips how can the man eat just that all the days of his life during the meeting in office they try to give him a sumptuous meal he rejects it because he wants to come and honor you he doesn't want to come back satisfied and you start suspecting him and so he rejects a meal that would have given him joy all through that night and comes back home and meets a disaster and the pain is he knows that that disaster will be repeated again and again and again [Music] and so a woman now starts calling him by 10 30. hello sir sorry oh please don't be offended i know that uh i don't deserve to be calling you and the man he said who is this trying to bring the king out of me what is all this i said sorry sir don't don't be offended um i just wanted to find out have you eaten sir who is this it's your secretary please i'm sorry i hope i i hope i'm not interrupting your mood and the man who said no no no bye-bye he will ultimately say he was courageous but the see this being shown and he's saying i cast this what is all that the next day again so have you arrived home safely and while he's doing that the woman is watching nigerian team and laughing we can't get let the man punish you whereas your family your family is on fire there's fire on the mountain i know it come on and there is fire on the mountain you are about to face a bitter experience the woman is calling and then the man now calls her back and says what is it why are you disturbing me he says no sir i thought as a secretary i should really find out about your your well-being i just wanted to you didn't look very nice in the office and he says you know gm spoiled my mind i mean what is all that i'm an innocent person and you don't need to tell me sir i know i have always known that you're an exceptional man i mean the your file come to my table the king another woman is bringing the king out of that man madam fire on the mountain your home is let me tell you don't think because he's a pastor he's not a human being don't think because he's a reverend with color on his neck the moment sits satan finds out that you are ignoring your role somebody will start playing the role and we live in a generation where there is an average of three to five ladies for every available man and so there are people who are not desperate they are not ashamed to be as desperate as anything he comes up in the morning to the office and there's a hot cup of coffee say i i saw your shadow for today and i saw that your day is busy and i thought you really need to be agile and walking and the man blocks the door and says what is this woman doing to me oh god you know i'm faithful i i'm married to one woman and carries the picture of his wife and puts it on the table so that the woman will come and see and when she comes and says wow what a lovely woman i can imagine the way you are doing well in your house with this woman women are wise they know exactly what to say since i can imagine i mean no wonder if you have a pretty woman like this you should be eating well she's not an idiot she knows exactly how to get the man and keeps you in a position where you now have to contemplate i'm eating well am i am i no very soon you start coming home with her you start coming home with her and the non-challenged wife is insensitive and she does not recognize that before you know it one day the woman will find out that whether she meets her husband emotionally or not he doesn't care whether she cooks for him or not he has stopped quarreling her let me assure you somebody has sat down on the throne of your office comfortably and is enjoying your husband you can keep the name while she keeps the experience she may not want to marry him keep the name vietnamese whatever while she keeps the experience [Music] every time we hear that a man fell or a man is sleeping around people are so quick to call the man eat your stupid you claim you are born again the question i want to ask is where was the woman where was the woman when that was happening it is not good the bible never said it is not good for a woman to be alone a woman can be alone but it is not good god knows why he said it is not good in other words it is dangerous it's better for the man to be a celibate supernatural grace comes upon him but when he is married madam don't play games with your husband [Music] god bless you one more thing and we are done today are you blessed so far i want to share thank you for watching our entire video today if you feel you can bless someone please join us and spread the gospel by sharing this video on your social media

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Published: Tue Aug 18 2020