How to get a guy back after you turned him off with neediness

alright ladies so in today's video we're going to talk about how to get a guy back after you push them away with your neediness you know after you didn't listen to my advice and telling you don't text them back alright how do you get it back since we're going to talk about today alright and this is something is very simple because if it was because you were needing now there's a very simple solution a lot of people get mad at me when I when I'm when I say there's a simple solution for your problem because it if you're angry like yeah why is it so simple there's not supposed to be complicated no the most of it when it becomes complicated that means there's no there's no order there's a lack of order there's a lack of focus a lot of time for the eat though for the most complicated problems requires it requires very simple solutions the most complicated problem in the world is a selfishness and greediness and the easiest solution is going within yourself but because of that we don't do that we just look on the outside and so that's where politics and complications come into coming to play but politicians were with high levels of self-awareness of empathy and whose values are based on our our bar based on knockin essays are based on increasing motivation rather extrinsic motivation we're usually you to a better world but I'm usually I'm coming out of the subject but let's talk about this how do you get up guy back up and you push them away with you needing this so let's say you talking to a guy and you met him and you were a little bit tweety with him right by the way you guys if anyone takes notes let me know and if he took notes please send it to me okay let me know um so if you if you got with a guy and and he's like you want to sort of stop or you were too needy and that pushed him away this way you could do okay which is the first thing you have to do is step away from his life for a few weeks to maybe a few months why because you gotta reset his perception of you he really has a perception real being needy so what you have to do then it says to which set is o'clock we say it's perception of me by making space that's what happens a lot with our friends you know when you talk to you have a friend of yours and you haven't seen your friend for a long time right after you see who you got to get acquainted you feeling him back you're like how is the only the same person that I left before right and then you got back to being friends but if we notice that he changed this is no dynamic a new way of communicating the eye contact is not the same everything's not the same right so assume is we're never we're never ending flux of change we're very dynamic by nature that's why we got a very abrupt our brain has neuroplasticity for that same reason we got adapt to the environment that's why we peripherally throughout all these years so so when you talk so you got to take it break at least a month or more than a month why because he has to forget how you worry he has to forget you how you are like you know you don't friends that that we say to yourself man why am I not friends with home and then you see him again then you're like oh [ __ ] wait a minute that's why my friend when you in that space is when you forget how he is you know it's kind of when you go back to an ex you like oh why did I pick up with you ten minutes later [ __ ] no wonder that's why I broke up alone that's what happens so the same thing with you you want to give him that stick we forget you right but don't need that space you want to continue you want to be on his Facebook all right you guys on social media together you want to stay on his wannabes continue being in social media buddy right but then but they got a couple months doesn't matter it depends on how many you were after a couple months I would say two or three months or something like that right you contact them again alright you contact them again or he'll contact you but I recommend though is to start liking statuses start liking a few a statuses but within that moment of you being away as well and I always say this gaining shape work work on work on your physical work I'm getting physically better you have to because you were what you want to do is you he wants you he wants to remember you but then when he sees you again he needs to say oh wait a minute you got better looking you know and the easiest way to do this is actually getting shape okay so I'm not saying a fat shaming oh my god it's telling us to be healthy okay hey I'm not saying that I'm saying getting shape [ __ ] I get in that gym alright it's not bad it's not going to kill you all right it's not going to kill you so when you do that so he returns you're like all [ __ ] damn bro you got better looking you know and that's what you want right so then what you want to do then is to once that happen you you you are like your status you wanna start posting pictures if you looking all sexy and [ __ ] right but don't contact them but just like your statuses once or twice a week just like it right you're gonna get on his radar he's going to start noticing yourself where he's going to start seeing you and what may happen is that if you actually pushed away because of your neediness and you're posting pictures and you got a that you got better looking there's going to be a moment of the there's going to be a moment or maybe a time with a day when he's gonna be a little corny when is gonna be a little needy for something for some relief right and because you were liking statuses and you were posting pictures you got better-looking alright and he knows he got you because you know you were needy it's like you know this is easy she's gonna contact you alright that's what's going to happen he may contact you or he may not contact you but it's not the point so when he contacts you right you want to see again you want to act like nothing happened you want to act normal right you want to say oh how have you been talk to him like you talking to an old friend all right Thaksin what like you're talking to no friend then ask them throwing the midst of the conversation ask them by the way are you always visiting just ask them are you always busy why because this is going to give you the buy-in temperature what is he doing is he interested in you or is not interesting you why does this work because when you ask someone are you always busy if somebody likes you they're going to say yes but or they're gonna say no I'm not always busy but if someone doesn't like you know what he's gonna say oh yeah man you know I gotta go meet with the Embassy of of North Korea I gotta go to you know I'm busy [ __ ] I'm busy right he's gonna say he's busy he's not gonna give you any space that's what happened you girls do that too I found that because the girl that liked me were always we're never busy or we're busy they already gave me a space between our busyness took us and don't like me are always busy I'm like girl look I know you're not saving the world alright so somebody go were actually like they were like a like I always say the way I feel like they were and they were like the ambassador to the United Nations you know so busy I'm like yeah you better you better be saving the world y'all room but that was just [ __ ] you think when you happening when you don't like someone you're gonna procrastinate meeting them and that's the case so when you ask him Davey and he says yes but or no you're gonna say oh okay yeah okay and then just ask okay what are you doing this week what do you do that's what Ellen is I'm going to my friends I'm going to go to am betrayed I'm going to a a concert with my friends you should maybe you should tag along maybe you should tag along maybe you should act along maybe all right that's way and for the most part when that happens they usually go and extend they're usually going to either say yes right or if you don't do that you do not want to ask are you always busy and you guys having like a casual conversation he's gonna be the one to actually um look I said he's gonna be the one that that that begins though he's gonna he's gettin is she asking you out that's what's gonna happen but it has to start with you give him space initially at the end of the day you gotta you gotta you gotta back off for for good while so that he could we start his system and he could shot he get his so that he could I can say is so that he could forget how you were in person all right me and that happens over time people forget all the time people forget the emotional imprints are you left on them right so when you're meeting home when you talking to him that's a you let's say you manage you take him out on a date right and you guys are would you got to talk and whatnot don't talk talk about how talk about how you have answers talk about how he changed he changed you look a little different but no what do you mean the finale you got older you got you looking you know Bob will you go you're getting a little older there huh let's just talk about how he changed all right and then talk about how you're tasting then changed talk about how you don't like his type no more now you don't have to say that you lost that you don't like it but you'd have to say like I don't like your type no more not if he looks like me say not like no I'm just talk about how you love guys that look like you're not a character I always bring this up but this is a way to bring up needing it's hard like not managers love learning to bring up a topic about celebrity that looks a total opposite of how he looks and say you started liking guys like come you seem a talent it's gotten crushed God look like you're not a capital ROI it makes him an advocate like the [ __ ] [ __ ] I don't look like I know what the hell's your problem so yeah I thought I was your type right and so that that insinuates um that he lacks a but the key to it is that when you talk about oh man not just I don't know why but so let started watching Titanic I just didn't have a crush on guys look like you're not a cabbie Oh change the topic change the topic communities don't even elaborate but just change the topic change the topic because that's going to permeate his unconscious it's more like an unconscious jab and he's going to think about it for the rest of the night just level it's kind of like it's kind of being hanging out with someone and knowing that your parent and knowing that something knowing that you got to do your work knowing that you got a paper due in a couple hours but you're focused on talking on the present moment but deep down in your mind you know you got to do something it's not prevalent but it's there it's subtle that is that's going to be the same thing with that insecurity and you're going to be jabbing at it's going to be a subtle insecurity all right and that's how we've done right and again it's simple like if you are needy right do what you have to do then is to when you're talking to the guy is observe the breath right observe your breath when you talk to the guy not talked about this plenty of times I'm not I'm not gonna have to elaborate on this right but just notice the breath like literally like I was talking to you guys no Mariah I was talking on right so what I'm gonna notice my breath right when you notice the breath you have to slow down you have to slow down because if you don't notice if you're if you're talking fast and you're not noticing if you're talking too fast and you're in you're in you're in your head you're not going to have enough time and space to notice the breath how it is and when you notice the breath your vibe instantly changes divided into the changes you slow down you speak at a most sensual pace alright it's more relaxed you could tell the person is at ease with themselves and I all start by bringing attention from your mind to the breath alright and as you can tell you can easily tell that the energy is not the energy lowers right but it becomes more fixated its money becomes work there all right and neediness doesn't go through that people don't feel you as a needy person they feel you as more dominant as more confident that's more grounded all by noticing the breath right and so when you're talking to the guy right it's not that you can become a masculine because you might think oh I like Alexis I am and you were looking that can we go in there and now came in right it's not that you become a masculine but that the energy that you have either feminine or masculine is going to begin it goes to an equilibrium it's going to be like look at a perfect pace at a perfect place perfect for the present moment so I view a woman with your womanly voice you talking calm and relaxed with the female voice Ignace almost sensual you see what I'm saying it's got like a guy when I got like oh that's not sexy how women do it like when girls do it like girls like like in your female voice it sounds a lot it sounds a lot harder oh that's the same thing so that even though you're slowing down right outside more masculine because I'm a guy and that's the voice the voice I got have right but women it's going to sound more feminine because that's one of the female voices but they've got the energy is still the same it's just differentiating between the female voice of being a little more squeaky and annoying could be a most you know me you're more favorite female in the men voice sounds more deeper and sexual okay that I've seen I'm kid I gotta own up to my [ __ ] perverted little jokes but yet how you know that it's very simple if you lost them cause of neediness what you have to do is work on yourself work work on becoming more present notice the breath when you're talking to the guy that you lost him because you need is you notice the breath he's going to tell you that you changed I'm telling you look this actually works every kind of mine that I that I that I coach this is the primary mode of mind to my teachings man notion of breath it's a powerful thing and you guys could tell them as soon as I did that I slowed down and immediately slowed down and talked about how to change your personality you know anyway just add someone for attraction or or I didn't know today was Cinco de Mayo right it's crazy like I'm coming like a no sexy man like I'm not going out as much I I'm not partying as much as I used to and I enjoy it I am enjoy myself right now I'm actually trying to try and get some things done and hopefully I could get a one seminar in by by this some before the summer starts okay that's one thing I want to get a seminar in for at least one or two eight and see how that goes and then see and see if I like it and continue on alright that's my plan I'm not trying to force things because I see somebody everyone else doing someone else's [ __ ] right I'm not going to do it just because they're doing it right money into reality money's on mame motivate them for me my main motivator is to be able to help people out and to be able to give you guys some form of value that will change your lives because if I really wanted to I could just talk about how to make a guy chase like like just videos I get views right no no no no either I rather make videos that actually help people out and actually make a difference and actually permeates you more than just surface level change which is getting a guy I'd rather teach you guys principles that will branch out and are dynamic enough to be used in different facets of your life you know you know you became an honest person when you tell someone to have a burger in their face I'm starting to do that like like where I see people like in the streets like you know I'm not exact I'm looking for burgers and [ __ ] right but I do notice myself like when somebody like somebody has a [ __ ] burger like like on their faces I let me tell y'all do get a burger bro yeah take that out but I remember a couple a couple of years ago I usually shy to tell people that I weird all right like we so shy to tell some would either have a booger in their face and I found myself more easily like easier to say that it's kind it's kind of crazy like it more I would never do that in the past so now I do and and and I don't know why but like I'm just not I'm just I just don't care like I just I know that that's what I would want somebody to do for me right I think I don't know what that says about someone was willing to tell you though you bro you got put in your face or boy you got some food right here right it's weird telling people that right but who knows that may be a market confidence who knows right um I always like I don't like to act like I'm the most confident person I just like to act like someone who's extremely transparent and who knows that they're not perfect I'm it was attics for my for attraction or if you guys need one-on-one coaching go to mind for attraction or or coaching the pocket if you guys want to say 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Channel: The Toxic Dating Coach - Mindful Attraction 2.0

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Length: 15min 14sec (914 seconds)

Published: Fri May 05 2017