How to Develop Thick Skin & Become Mentally Tough - Jordan Peterson Motivation

and it's a critique in some sense also of the idea of the patriarchy i know because the patriarchy is this dominant oppressive hierarchy that everyone's embedded in and you know the social constructionist social justice warrior post-modernist types think about that as a social construction it's like how about no that's just wrong lobsters have hierarchies that's a third of a billion years ago okay that's not a social construction it's part of being itself and if you only see a hierarchy as power and tyranny then you're looking at the world wrong like it's true that hierarchies can be tyrannical and dominant and and a degenerated hierarchy is nothing but tyranny but in a functional society the the hierarchy is actually the structure of the society and you're actually protected within it well then how you relate to that hierarchy is very important but that's part of personal development that's part of standing upright you know and then people in the hierarchy think oh well you're someone who could do good things for the hierarchy let's promote you yeah you know like men don't struggle for power that isn't what men do not if they're civilized they size each other up and elect the competent to lead them and they do that at every level of society like i tell a story in there about might be later in another chapter it doesn't matter i worked in a rail crew in southern saskatchewan they're rough guys like a lot of them have been in prison you know and when you first came onto the rail crew you got a stupid nickname and people teased you and i remember this one kid called lunch bucket that was his nickname because he came to the rail crew with a lunch bucket that looked like his mom had packed it that was a bad idea you bring your damn lunch in kind of a you know ratty paper bag right you don't make too big a thing out of it and it's dirty and smelly that's exactly right it's like you're not pronouncing your status with your life you don't have a barbie lunchbox exactly yes so they named him lunch bucket which he wasn't very happy about yeah well that was a mistake he should have taken it with a smile and then he was always peevish and irritable and if he asked him to do something he'd whine and so like this was soon after i joined the royal rail crew well soon there's about 60 men on this crew it stretched out about a quarter of a mile down the tracks soon anonymous harassers were throwing pebbles at him during work we had hard hats on so the game was let's see if we can hit a lunch bucket in the in the hard hat with a pebble because it's anonymous yeah well because you don't know where it's coming from yeah and that was purposeful because he didn't couldn't take a joke it's like well let's see if he can take this joke clunk can everybody go you know and then it just got more and more peevish and the pebbles got bigger and bigger and you know a week later lunch bucket was gone having not learned anything from the experience but you know the men were testing him out it's like can you take a joke can you can you can you be useful can you at least be amusing like is there something worthwhile about you it's like no it's like okay well then you're out of here because you never know when we actually might need to depend on the nicknames that that that are in the seal teams like i can't with good conscience repeat them because they're just they're just horrible horrible names but there's a camaraderie around that and there's also the as i was reading what you had written about these guys were working on a railway crew yeah there's a test it's a test it's a test to see where you're at it's right tomatoes that's right can we rely on you can you can you tolerate a little bit of irritation the answer to that is no it's like well maybe we don't want you around then because some irritating things are likely to come down the pipe yeah and it's it's not just um to me to me it proves if you've got someone that can take it right it's not just that they can take some random joking insults like they can they can take it they can take it yeah that's what you're testing for it's like can you take it lunch bucket couldn't right because people would laugh at his lunch bucket and he'd get all upset it's like well you have a stupid lunch bucket it's like you know your mom packed it how about you laugh at yourself yeah my mom packed this i know it's kind of stupid that would be the end of it he would have just had to say that yeah it's like but i didn't want to hurt her feelings it's like oh okay you know fine you got your stupid lunch bucket but no he couldn't handle that you know so yeah it was it was horrible and comical to watch at the same time because the level of and people have written me about that and they said oh you know poor lunch bucket it's like because they're all compassionate i think no no not poor lunch bucket it's like clue the hell in buddy you had your chance you know that was a desirable job that rail crew job in the summer because it was high-paying you know and they weren't easy to come by those jobs and so the fact that he got hired onto that crew was a real opportunity for him you could make a pile of money in the samurai working on the rail crew and all you had to do was take some ribbing with good grace not suck up to the management too badly and not have other people do your job that was all that was all you had to do but he couldn't do that and so he got run off and it was like grow the hell up buddy you know these guys when 100 people are teasing you then probably they're not wrong yeah when you are getting teased like that as well well when you when you when you stop reacting it's no longer fun yeah yeah you know yeah it also gives you an opportunity to tease back it's like you can show your wit and one of the things that working class guys in particular which is what one of the things i really loved about working-class jobs is that they're always looking for some humor so it's like if if person a is teasing person b that's kind of comical but if person b comes back with a good comeback it's like that's even better you know so i think that's a lot of how those jobs are rendered tolerable right it's they're hard dirty jobs dishwasher is a good example that's not dangerous although cooking is is you know you've got to watch your step i got burned a lot when i was cooking but what makes those jobs not only tolerable but even desirable is that you can develop a tremendous amount of camaraderie around them i've never really experienced that at a professional level job that just doesn't happen the same way and it's really there's a real loss in that so it's it's it's fun to be part of a team that's doing you know grubby hands-on things and and having a ridiculously entertaining vicious cruel and evil time while you're doing it that's very entertaining i had an experience with that about three years ago i put my videos up online and people kept saying that i sounded like kermit and i thought well one person said it and i thought well whatever but then like five people said it and i thought oh my god like this kermit thing so then i went and listened to kermit i thought oh no it's like it's like really i really sound like kermit you know and so then well then i started to play with it a little bit you know i used the puppet and when i when when i went to speak to university students and i made frog jokes and then i made a vid i made a couple of videos that sort of featured me as a frog and i mean it's crazy right it's ridiculous but but that's and but but the teasing never got mean because of that you know and the same things happened online to a larger degree is people keep making memes of me like and there's i don't know there's lots of them there's way too many to even keep track of and i was watching that happen and i thought okay this is a good thing because there's humor and wherever there's humor that's a good thing and they're making fun of me but it's gentle you know most of it was pokey you know like well you sound like this damn puppet what do you think of that it's like well if i had to pick someone to sound like probably wouldn't be a puppet but if it had to be a puppet kermit's not a bad one it could be a lot worse like it could be miss piggy it could have been that you know so thank god that didn't happen but the memes have never got vicious because you know i'll post them if they're funny and satirical and then they won't get vicious because they don't have to it's like can we poke fun at you it's like yeah please do and the more the better really because that'll also help keep my feet on the ground and keep me awake and plus it's funny and like one of the things about life is that a sense of humor that's a good thing to to arm yourself with because sometimes you just don't have anything other than that [Music] if you're going to face a threat if you face it voluntarily what happens is your body activates itself for exploration and mastery but if you face it involuntarily same size threat then you you you revert to prey mode and you're frozen and that's way way way more stressful it's way harder on your body and so it's better to keep your eye open and watch for emergent threats because you all know you know what you're not doing quite right and where your life is likely to unravel you all have a sense of that and the best thing to do is to not ignore that to pay attention to it to watch it and to take corrective action early and then you know you stay on top of things and things your little trip to the underworld might be a few minutes long instead of a catastrophe that produces post-traumatic stress disorder knocks you out for four or five years and maybe you never recover so and that's where you know that's what these kind of symbolic representations mean it's those are states of being that that that indicate being devoured and you can be devoured by your own unconscious jesus that happens all the time what does that mean well you know and it's an autonomous thing in some sense you know like if you if you get depressed or if you get really anxious you don't have any control over that it's like it sweeps up over you and pulls you down why down well down is where you go when you're sad you don't go up man i'm up today oh that's too bad no it's man i'm down today and while that's partly this and it's partly because this is subordinate and it's partly because down is closer to the ground and farther from the sky like there's all sorts of reasons you're feeling down rather than up up is where you're aiming right you aim up you don't aim down [Music] you

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Published: Mon Feb 08 2021