How To Deal With Negative Thoughts & Emotions - Jordan Peterson Motivation

[Music] what tips would you give a highly emotional person to become more rational and level-headed oh well um it depends there's a variety of the first thing i would do if you're highly emotional like highly emotional volatile fly off the handle a lot of mood variation a lot of negative emotion um the first thing you might want to think about is whether or not there's actually something wrong with you like physically you might be ill because illness can do that to people and so you should go get yourself checked out you know you might have an inflammatory condition or something like that that and the next thing i would check out is like um sure are you sure you're not hungry i'm dead serious about this i mean with with many of my clients who've been anxious like a lot of them they come in i'm so anxious i'm so anxious i had this one client she'd come in and she'd say god you know i'm just i'm so dead at the end of the day i'm i'm just wiped out i've got no energy at all all i can do is lay down she was like 24. all i can do is lay down and watch like the same movie i watched the night before is that normal it's like well no it's not so and i and i and i knew this i said well what what do you eat and she said well i usually don't have any breakfast and then i have like a little bowl of rice for lunch and i usually have something like that for for dinner and i thought [Music] you live on two balls of rice a day and you're wondering why when you come home at night after a full day's work you don't have any energy i said well have you considered the possibility that you're starving to death [Music] so you know we talked about they said you can't you can't live like that that that's not going to work how about let's try this for a week you do this with therapy you do experiments if you're a behavioral therapist it's like you ought to come to an agreement with the person it's like look is there some other things you'd eat other than rice you know like four other things it's like we agreed maybe she'd eat an egg or something it's like or i think it was eggs and i think i don't remember what it was there was a few other things i said okay look here's what you do get up in the morning and like have two eggs you don't have to enjoy them you know because people say well i'm not hungry it's like what why is that relevant that's not the issue here it isn't like gourmet time it's not starving to death time so eat your two eggs and maybe in three months you'll enjoy it you know until then it'll be like chewing down rubbery cardboard but it's not that big a deal so you know we upped her caloric intake by a factor of about four and she came back and it was like i think she came back two more times it's like oh i have lots of energy now it's like oh good you're not dying of starvation it's like and i'm telling you like if you're a volatile person if you're a volatile person try this eat a high protein high fat meal in the morning no sugar and a big one like have a steak have something solid and don't doesn't matter if you like it who cares cook it the night before if if if you don't want to cook it then just try it for a week and see what happens my suspicions i've had half my clients i would say have dropped their volatility levels 50 percent by eating a high fat high protein breakfast and then also notice that if you are crabby you know and volatile and touchy and you can't get along with anyone um go eat something like have two teaspoons of peanut butter and wait 10 minutes and see if you're still a witch so it so for some people and then if you are a volatile person like your your blood sugar levels tend to move up and down more because you stress yourself out more for some people that really matters and so look try it for a week it's nothing right and you might think oh god what you'll find if it works is a you don't get nearly as upset about the things that used to upset you so and that'll be a shock you'll think my god i would have flown off the handle because of that before and now it's hardly bothering me so that's a lovely thing and and then the second thing is if something bothers you you'll recover way faster and so that's a good start and so try that that's that's no harm it's not going to hurt you um try getting up at the same time every day that's really important if your sleep wake cycle is not regular and you're a volatile person say biochemically genetically having a sleep wake cycle that's dysregulated is going to be very hard on you so it doesn't matter quite as much when you go to bed although it would be good to regularize that too but at least pick a time you can pick whatever time you want like i would recommend like 8 o'clock or 7 30 because that's what normal people do and unless you have a really good reason not to be a normal person you should start by trying to be a normal person if you're being an abnormal person so try to get up at the same time and try that you can combine that with eating and see like my suspicions are 50 improvement virtually immediately with that and then if that doesn't work well then then there are more serious things that you can consider being checked out by an md and make making sure you're okay you might want to go talk to a therapist i have this program online i mentioned the other thing you could try is go online i have this program called future authoring you can do the past authoring program and bring yourself up to date but future authoring is a program that helps you make a plan for your life you know and what do you want from your friends your family your career your education how are you going to take care of yourself mentally and physically where would you like to be in three to five years um how are you going to regulate temptation drug and alcohol use and that sort of thing you know keep yourself out of trouble and how are you going to stop yourself from deteriorating to where you could deteriorate if you weren't careful takes you can do a credible job of the program in an hour and a half you know it's proved very useful for people maybe you're kind of aimless and you need a plan that's another possibility so but don't live with it you know there's lots of things you can try sleep that might be number one food that's number two number three talk to someone a professional if it's really out of hand because you what do you want to do you want to suffer terribly for the next 10 years and plus if you do have a lot of excess negative emotion it's really hard on you psychophysiologically because you produce a lot of stress hormones and that makes you old so it's dangerous physically as well so and it's hard on your brain so if you can get it fixed fix it and if it has to be medication then look man everybody's you're going to be taking medication at some point in your damn life you know because you're going to get sick and my observation of people has been that a everybody gets sick and then what happens well this is eliminating random luck some people get sick and then they do everything they can to not be sick including taking medication doing whatever they have to and some of them get better and others just they don't deal with it and usually they don't get better so you swallow your pride and you think oh yeah i should be able to handle my problems myself it's like yeah well maybe you should but maybe you know if you're really depressed and you don't take an ssri then one day you jump off a building and that's pretty much the end of you helping yourself and so you know you can take the the drug hopefully it'll help you out you can get your life back in order if you're fortunate then you can go off it you can taper off it they're relatively harmless weight is a problem some suppression of sexual function that's a problem you know so they're not without risk neither is anything else so those are those are relatively straightforward things that you can do that have a high probability of working 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Length: 8min 57sec (537 seconds)

Published: Thu Mar 18 2021