How To Be The Funniest Person In Any Room

dave chappelle may be the funniest man alive i'm rick james you're yourself with three consecutive grammys to his name it is safe to say that chappelle's humor works if not for literally everyone then at least for the vast majority of people so in this video we're going to explore what we can learn from dave's admittedly difficult to imitate style and even though getting to dave's level might be impossible there are five core building blocks that anyone can use to immediately become much funnier one note we are of course covering dave chappelle some people will find his jokes offensive i'm going to bleep some of the profanity but you've been warned so to our first point dave regularly plays several different characters some of these he's made famous on the chappelle show game blouses [Music] dylan dalon dylan and dylan because i spit hot fire but even without the benefit of a full costume you see chappelle adopt different characters as he tells stories in his stand-up routines here he is talking about meeting kevin hart with the sun and his son comes across with this voice like an adorable nerd what's up dave come on back i was just about to have dinner i don't know if you guys ate but you're welcome to join me if you like and then my son pushed pass me some cold [ __ ] he goes actually mr hart we haven't eaten in several hours now we have covered this before but it bears repeating when you're telling stories adopting the tone and mannerisms of a character maximizes the value of your punchlines and it even makes the setups funnier it's an easy principle to adopt and most comedians take advantage of it girls get drunk man and they don't even know what they're talking about they think they do hey guess what you didn't even know you know what it isn't you're telling me someone who never hit a woman is going to come walking and read that joke you know just be oh wait a minute [Music] so obviously this is something you're going to want to do when you're telling a joke or just trying to be funny but it's not only when he's playing a comedic character that dave's tone changes part of the reasons that his normal speaking and storytelling is so captivating is that he doesn't speak in monotone you can hear him emphasize different words and add different tones when he's speaking just as himself stand up comedy is an incredibly american genre i don't think any other country could produce this many comedians and unbeknownst to many people in this audience so tonight i am honored that my colleagues are here in comedy and in music but for us we were trained to care we were raised that way again this point may seem obvious but if you've listened to a recording of yourself chances are you don't have nearly the same dynamics as dave your tone doesn't change and neither does the cadence or volume with which you speak so one piece of advice to immediately improve any story that you're telling especially if it's humorous is to speak as if you were reading a book to a five-year-old get into it let yourself commit and be silly most people overestimate how dynamic they sound so this simple adjustment often will push you in the direction of more engaging storytelling which is critical if you're going to get anyone to laugh now our third point is something every comedian wants and that dave has perfected over the course of his career timing for instance here is dave talking about meeting o.j simpson now these aren't necessarily huge laughs from the audience but notice how dave gets them without even having to tell a joke and then through all the gawkers a familiar face pushed to the crowd here he was again the juice imagine those simple lines read aloud by most people someone without good timing there would be no room for a laugh but the pregnant pause plus dave's tones creates that humor and there's no punch line necessary similarly you have this iconic moment that may only make sense if you've seen sticks and stones and in this clip you can notice how the silence at the moment of maximum tension drives home the punchline don't ever forget what happened to that french actor you know what i'm talking about juicy smoothies very french very famous french actor he's talking about jesse smaller for those of you who haven't seen the special now comedic timing is a complicated beast and it's interwoven with tone as well as body language breaking down every application would be impossibly complex but one simple element of timing that anyone can use to immediately punch up their humor is to leave more space than you're used to in front of the punch line most people rush which should be the moment of maximum tension and the highest mystery essentially neutering it so adding a bit of extra silence usually makes the delivery hit that much harder for example the context of this next joke is about when dave was an elementary school student watching the challenger explosion on live television as a schoolboy right on television everybody on board dad immediately presumed dead it was so bad the teacher looked at all the kids was like you can go home this principle of adding silence to create tension will absolutely enhance your jokes but it can also enhance every aspect of your speaking particularly when you're telling stories allow yourself to slow down at the moment of maximum mystery this requires you to be strong at commanding attention something that we cover in the kevin hart video that i'm going to link below but you can see a normal application here as dave builds mystery and takes a brief pause during his acceptance speech for the mark twain award he raised me and raised me well he had a real oral tradition in our house i knew the word griot when i was a little boy griot was a person in africa who's charged with keeping the stories of the village everyone would tell agree over the stories and they would remember them all so that they could tell future generations now like dave you can take these building blocks character tone pregnant pauses and do a lot with them and that takes us to our fourth point and probably the most common joke type that i see from dave chappelle the fake out it's when he uses his tone to create the expectation of one punchline and then hits you with a completely different one for example in this next video dave is talking about the tragedies of gun violence in america and how it needs to stop watch your own expectations to see how you think he's going to end things compared with how he does and you know what we have to do this is a [ __ ] election year we got to be serious every able african-american must register for a legal firearm that is the comedic fake out his tone and language took us down one path he pauses at the moment of maximum tension and then goes the other way here it is again as dave leads us to believe that he's defending his reputation as a sober professional on stage the big headline dave chappelle drunk on stage in detroit well if you saw it i wasn't drunk i had smoked some reefer with some rappers and here's one more example for good measure i live in ohio and anyone that knows anything about ohio knows it even the word ohio is an old native american word it means literally a land of poor white people now in labeling these jokes as fake outs prior to you actually hearing them i may have killed the humor but if you've watched the specials you know these are genuinely surprising and laugh out loud funny moments so learn to do the same use your tone to set people up in one direction pause briefly to build suspense and then go the other way it's a comedic staple and one that you can use in just about every situation and perhaps the best fake out that you can use in your normal life is to lead in with a serious and literal tone to an obviously silly and false punchline like here and for context dave is defending the art of stand-up comedy from cancel culture something that we assume he cares deeply and seriously about what's so true about this genre when done correctly that i will fight anybody that gets a a true practitioner of this art form's way because i know you're wrong this is the truth and you are obstructing it and what i really wanted to say tonight when i'm glad i get the platform to do it i'm gay obviously in most conversations you're not going to go this far but consider the literal to comedic fake out as something that you can just use more often in normal conversation for instance if you're meeting someone in a social environment and they ask you what you do for a living you can with a serious tone make up a silly job like a professional box ball player and then riff on why it's so stressful in a serious tone now the point here is not to trick anyone eventually you're gonna drop that joke and give the real answer so that you can connect on a deeper level but it should introduce a more relaxed and fun vibe to the conversation early on now before i get to the final mindset i have to highlight just one of chappelle's joke types which is really hard to imitate well and i'm gonna be honest i don't have a great tip for integrating it into your own life but it's just worth highlighting it's the comedic simile and here dave is using it as he talks about r kelly this guy makes more sex tapes than he does music he's like the dj khaled of sex tapes another one like damn this type of comedy is hard to imitate to do it in real time you need quick lateral thinking and honestly no single tip is going to take you there in the same way that repeated practice can so if you want to get the hang of these kinds of jokes do you miss the chappelle show yeah do you yeah but chappelle shows like breaking up with a girl and you still like her but in your mind like that is crazy i'm not going back you just have to put in the time and the practice sorry i don't have a shortcut for this one so let's touch on the mindset that pulls all of this together the reason that most people aren't that funny is because they don't hold humor as a high priority in their interactions unconsciously they think that people connect over things like logistics so they share where they grew up what they do for work and how they spend their free time in a very literal fashion but the truth is especially in a first impression even more than the logistical truth of your life people connect over shared laughter so allowing yourself to be silly not literal all the time to answer some questions with a tongue-in-cheek response can go a long way like that box ball joke that i mentioned earlier and at dave's stand up you can see how he prioritizes humor especially in the jokes that relate to hot topic issues he touches on those issues in fact he touches on just about all of them and shares how he's feeling but rather than drive his point home with a perfectly sound argument he instead puts the joke in the driver's seat oftentimes ending by teasing himself and dropping any pressure on the audience to conform to his way of thinking here for instance dave doubts the claims made in the documentary finding neverland that was about michael jackson's alleged abuse but rather than make solid points about why he doubts it he does this i am what's known on the streets as a victim blamer dave michael jackson was molested children well what were those kids wearing at the time i don't think he did it but you know what even if he did do it you know what i mean and as we saw earlier just when you thought he was going to make a grand political point about the importance of voting in the next election he takes it right back to the joke with that fake out you know what we have to do this is a [ __ ] election year we got to be serious every able-bodied african-american must register for a legal firearm the point is if you want to be the funniest person in the room it has to become more important that several things that many of us prize more important than convincing someone of your worldview with every sentence more important than coming across as perfect after all the best joke may be at your own expense now i'm not saying that this is the only way to interact after all i've made plenty of videos about how to be persuasive if that's your primary goal but if you want to be the funniest person laughter must come first now without a doubt being funny can be a superpower we naturally love people who make us laugh we find them instantly captivating and charismatic but the truth is it takes confidence to crack jokes in public especially with strangers superiors or someone that you might be attracted to it takes confidence to fully express yourself without any hesitation and most people lack that confidence and that might be why they're unable to start conversations make new friends to get the dates that they would like or just to comfortably interact with people that they want to connect with and if you find that you don't consistently have that confidence as much as you would like and 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Length: 15min 17sec (917 seconds)

Published: Mon Feb 17 2020