How Narcissists React When You Leave

welcome to thriver TV the place to break free from narcissistic abuse with quantum tools and understandings leaving a narcissist is not like leaving a normal relationship of course relationship endings can be very painful and people not be may not behave nicely for time because of being distressed but relationships with narcissus ending takes this to another level and it could be fraught with lots of confusion and trauma so let's have a look at the possibilities of what you could be faced with but before we get started I just like to remind you if you haven't yet subscribed to my channel please do and thank you so much if you already have and if you like this video please make sure you hit the like button all right let's get going on this so number one this is what can happen false promises and crocodile tears it can be very common with narcissus when you finally leave that they suddenly become apologetic remorseful they promised to do better be better and make it up to you with narcissus this is not about genuine remorse and love for you it's purely about rehook in you up for narcissistic supply and this is where we have to get it very clear words are cheap and behavior is the determinant of whether someone is not just genuine but also has the resources to change people don't just change because they say they will people change because they are genuinely remorseful will be fully accountable and do the inner work to heal the reasons why they behave so abusively in the first place this is a long hard process of healing required it is not an overnight thing and it really is my recommendation that if a person shows narcissistic personality disorder characteristics which I write about on my blog with are you with a narcissist and the links provided the chances of person changing and negligible or non-existent and in no way does their Proclamation and apologies mean they will so many of us got back with narcissus time and time again and realized that all that did happen was the cycles became worse and worse number two what they may do is tell you that they were ending it anyway there are two reasons and narcissus will do this to preserve their ego so that they get the final say and also to try to freak you out into thinking that you're the one that's been discarded so that you get all hurt and righteous and distraught trying to explain to the narcissus why it's your choice to leave the relationship because of their behavior and not the other way around and if this happens you could fall right back onto the hook again trying to get the narcissus to understand you and you will end up capitulating more of your rights and end up back under the narcissus control again number three possibility is that the narcissus will stalk and harass you this can happen when a narcissus doesn't want to lose control of you or than a statistic supply that you were granting this is especially prevalent when narcissus are the controlling and the jealous types the approaches and contact with this type of narcissus are likely to be several different experiences ranging from begging crying and trying to bargain through two abusive and even violent words threats and actions please know it is so important to work on releasing your fear and create solid and powerful boundaries if you're being treated like this it is every person's right to live free of harassment and intimidation and you do have the ability to place intervention orders on narcissus when they behave like this number four is punish you if narcissus turns to vengeance you'll know about it this is when they can attack the things that are important to you such as helping themselves to your money and taking possessions or things that you haven't secured they've turn people against you refusing to give up your pets cutting you off from finances all sorts of things it's so important when you leave your narcissus that you do it quietly plan carefully and make sure that you have all of your things secured before the narcissus knows that you finish with them if you've seen this person act maliciously in the past then don't give them the benefit of the doubt and think that they will not be capable of doing this analysis who feel scorned because of being conscience 'less is capable of some pretty dirty things also be prepared for the smear campaigns that are coming virtually all narcissists do this and the best thing you can do is not feed it try not to defend yourself unless it becomes legal if you do need to defend yourself work hard at releasing all of your fears about the smear campaign will castrate and a calm and an honest line narcissist smear campaigns fall apart when you do this number four is replace you quickly and let you know about it a hallmark of narcissus is that they move on very quickly I jokingly say it takes a narcissist as long as it takes to boil an egg to be back on a dating site it's so true naturally we all know that real people who really love people just aren't capable of doing that yet of course this can be intensely painful narcissus also loved rubbing their ex-partners face in it they're replacing you is likely to happen either with a you leave the narcissist or the narcissus leaves you and it's so important for you to heal these terrible feelings that can come up regarding the I'm lovable and replaced I promise you that when you do you will totally feel nothing but compassion for that new partner and relief that it's not you having to be in the relationship with this person anymore so being prepared is really important please know narcissus know where to hit and what I mean by this is the thing that will hurt you confuse you or hook you in the most that's what the gnosis is going to do and if completely ignoring you after you leave is what would hurt you the most I promise you that's exactly what will happen also why because that's just what gnosis is do the greatest way to get through this is to be prepared to turn inwards to that scared confused feeling guilty abandoned or fearful parts inside you and tend to them and heal them back to wholeness by doing so you'll be able to have left and keep away and start to heal and flow into your new abuse free life and that's my greatest passion enjoy helping individuals achieve this for real people just like you so to get your journey started with me you can sign up to my free 16 day course by clicking the link at the top right of this video and if you want to see more of my videos please subscribe so that you'll be notified as soon as each new one is released and if you liked this click like also please share with your communities so that we can help people awaken to these truths and as always I'm greatly looking forward to answering your comments and your questions below so I really hope that this has helped you with how to navigate no contact and until the next one keep smiling keep healing and keep thriving because there's nothing else to do lots of 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Channel: Melanie Tonia Evans

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Keywords: How Narcissists React When You Leave, leaving a narcissist boyfriend, leaving a narcissist, leaving a narcissistic relationship, leaving a narcissist before the discard, no contact, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse recovery, breaking up with a narcissist, no contact narcissist, emotional abuse in relationships, leaving a narcissist parent, narcissistic abuse recovery program, Narcissistic relationships

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Length: 9min 6sec (546 seconds)

Published: Thu Jul 18 2019