How I Stopped Self Sabotaging! | Russell Brand

how are you gonna stop self-sabotage and how are we gonna stop self sabotaging ourselves together we've got to stop this self sabotage what causes self sabotage I suppose it must be a latent unexpressed unexamined unrealized belief that you're not good enough and they are not worthy of success whether that's in the field of relationship education personal development profession and self sabotage it in my own life because let me tell you I'm up in a self saboteur master these are my experience of self sabotage the same patter my whole life and I think about it there was time so I was really popular at school then so unpopular there that just throw me right out of the school it's happened to several times in my professional life as well I saw chaos and sort of excitement and then madness and destruction now I think what brings it about in me is a lack of trust in people and a lack of belief in myself the reason that I'm an ardent supporter and evangelist for the 12-step technique of self awakening is that it's a program for living people say I don't want a program but we already have a program if you're experiencing a lot of self-sabotage that will be coming from your embedded programming the programming of your family the programming of your class and gender and sex and race or economic background all of this programming realizes itself through us now let's say if you self-sabotaging in a relationship that could be through being unfaithful or criticizing or it could be from like getting too clingy too quickly all of that kind of stuff I would say in the area of relationship it's about projection projection and attachment to an external in this case person instead of a kind of remedying of the inner malady what I mean to say is this self-sabotage must be that I don't like myself I don't think I'm worthy of success if I don't address that then I will have I will develop a pattern of sabotage in the world of relationships or in the world of my work how I stopped self-sabotage is these very very clear techniques one I really watched my thinking like I try not to I try not to forget that I am NOT my thinking too I surround myself with people that are further down the spiritual path than me I find mentors and I listen to him for example what about Michael Beckwith from the agape Church who said you have to break your vow to mediocrity that's good isn't it like if you think about it how many like how I experienced my own mediocrity is I say if I'm about to be critical or overly dependent on my wife I still feel it rise up I think this is part of your mediocrity to do this see if you can let go of it or if I'm that's where I can that's where I I suppose have problems being critical and blaming as an area where I like I venture towards self-sabotage because I foul the arena of my life I fouled the environment of my life sir about the use of a foul that's a bit disgusting isn't it like but what I mean to say is like we we live in these relationships and if I don't treat people properly and correctly then it's you know it all comes back a stuff that we used to think of as spiritual these kind of can be seen as pretty rational kindness and love forget the concept of Karma you'll just create in surfaces around yourself that are bearing the sheen of your adulation the way to stop self-sabotage is to address what's behind it something in you is trying to communicate with you something is not being heard some inner voice if you address the self-esteem issues the purpose issues they're behavioral and relationship issues firstly with yourself with other experts sometimes in support groups and with a declared objective and a willingness to bear witness to yourself to stay awake and stay aware when those behaviors fire up I still have all of the patterns that I've always had the patterns of self-destruction the patterns of self obsession patterns of over reliance on others but now because I've done you've been given and taught a lot of spiritual techniques and when there when the old engine fires up I can't sort of see like oh I'm about to do that thing in the past I used to not see it I used to so feel it's the feel the energy rise up in me of like I'll go tell someone to go for something mad or cause a lot of chaos then I think I'd sort of enjoy yielding to it like enjoy this a feeling of being flooded by madness and then it would only be out so come round about 24 hours later and [ __ ] that job our bollocks I remember walking out the photo shoot once for some sort of cool magazine in New York it's so cool I can t remember it here by no means sarcastic it was too cool to stay in my mind there was a lot of I don't know if I was very thin anyway like I was doing this factory because I'm on leave by 5 in fact I'm giving myself a 5 p.m. cough right it was in the Meatpacking District of New York it was if it's not cool now it was cool there and like I like everyone's like now we need longer than that just shoot these multiple steps I was doing the cover of this magazine or whatever I swear I can't do any I'm going and I remember the atmosphere of everyone I work with and all the people on the shoots or feelings of that sort of the bad taste and sore dismay and disappointment I'm gonna try don't do things like that anymore I was self-sabotaging exacts a really want here in that magazine they'll just do whatever I want and I just went now forget it then man and then I just wasn't in that magazine but look there aren't more important things to life and being in magazines almost everything in life is more important than being in magazines but the fact was is that I didn't this was you know 10 years ago but I didn't like know how to behave then nowadays I think I would either well probably I won't go to the shoot in the first place wouldn't agree to do it but if once you have agreed to do well I guess you've got very differently so self-sabotage watch your patterns find mentors develop a program these are just some of the things you can do to change you don't see the self-sabotage as a negative thing see it as an inner voice waiting to be heard there is wisdom in this information

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Length: 6min 30sec (390 seconds)

Published: Mon Mar 02 2020