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Can you-- can you talk to Nate? Having a son that's special needs-- don't bite-- a lot of my focus is taken away from things that I might be willing to part with. When I think about cleaning it up, it's too overwhelming. Somebody's going to have to make some serious-- an executive decision here. JUNE: I don't even have time to breakdown. On my 18th birthday, I'm going to pack up my stuff and move out-- JUNE: It's so much easier to leave and not deal with it. It's just too much. All that stuff came from my grandma. [music playing] [ominous music] [music playing] I'm Doug. I'm 38 years old. I'm a single, adoptive father of a eight-year-old, Nate, and a seven-year-old, Kylie. For some reason, since I was 18 years old, I've always known that I wanted to have children. I knew that I wanted a boy and a girl. Nate exhibited some unusual behavior from the time that he moved in at eight months old. Bang. DOUG: If he was upset, he would bang his face on the floor, sometimes causing himself to bleed. KYLIE: Ow! [crying] DOUG: Come on [crying] DOUG: Come on. Come on. NATE: No. DOUG: Nate-- Nate-- Nate-- for years, it's been building up. OK, OK, OK. You need to stop. No biting. He has a lot of fits. NATE: [inaudible] [shouting] No, no. [crying] Don't bite. [inaudible] I'm Carol, and I'm Doug's mother. It's just more and more out of control with Nate. No, no, no. CAROL: I'm always worried that he's going to hurt Douglas or Kylie, especially Kylie. NATE: [inaudible] KYLIE: [inaudible] DOUG: Nate-- Nate-- Nate-- NATE: [moaning] DOUG: When he's upset, he's very impulsive. And he will grab things and throw them. NATE: No, no, no. DOUG: That's why the state of the home is detrimental to him and to the rest of the family. [shouting] DOUG: Don't bite. Don't bite. [crying] Do not bite. [crying] Can you let me go? COUNSELOR: I'm [inaudible] I'm a licensed professional counselor and in-home therapist. [nate and kylie laughing] Now, guys, what I want you to do is close your eyes and picture your safe, happy place. I've been working with Nate and Doug and Kylie for about six months now. I'm just a little worried about his reaction today because it's the first time it's been like that in a while. One of the things that Nate struggles with is sensory issues. He has a tendency to feel things, hear things, get overwhelmed a lot more easily than a typical child. No. So living in an environment that is very overwhelming to even an adult to just walk into is difficult for Nate. One of the issues with Nate is that he does fairly well at school, and that's because he has a very caring, nurturing teacher who has been able to create kind of a safe place for him in the classroom, where there's very limited stimuli. So there's not a lot to look at. There's not a lot of noise. There's no other kids. And if we could recreate that in his home, it would be a lot more beneficial to Nate. When I think about the kids being removed from the home, it's-- I would-- you know, they're my life. I would die. It would be devastating. The house has been in a state of clutter for years. It's been building up from the basement to the kitchen and moving outward. When I think about cleaning it up, it becomes too overwhelming. [crying] Can you-- can you talk to Nate? I'm Myron, and I've known Doug for over 10 years. NATE: [crying] - Talk to Myron. Talk to Myron. Talk to Myron. Hello? CAROL: Myron is like an uncle to the kids. He tries to come over and spend time with them or maybe take him to his house so Douglas can have a break. NATE: Yeah, [inaudible]. DOUG: Myron is very nonjudgmental about my home. His main concern is the children. I'm very worried about it. The situation with Nate is really-- I call it at a critical stage. You know, he's eight years old going on nine. By the time he's 11, his main support group, being Doug or myself, will be replaced by peers. And once that occurs, all bets are really off. Boo! [moaning and sniffing] MYRON: And-- DOUG: Don't do that. --that's where juvenile detention centers, incarceration, theft, vandalism, all the things that children do that are not well-adjusted-- there's nothing I would be able to do at that point. My name is June, and I'm 28. And I'm a full-time student and a social work assistant. [music playing] This is the worst that I've ever, ever lived. There's so much stuff. I just don't want to get rid of it. My name's Bob, and I'm June's father. The entire three-bedroom place is a maze to walk through. There's no place to sit down. My name is Anne. June is my daughter. The whole kitchen, dining room, living room is just a mess. It's gotten out of hand. I'm Tori. My mom is June. I'm 13 years old. After my wife and I separated, June got pregnant. Her mother did not want to have a grandbaby and did not want to raise a grandbaby. It was very hard for me to see some things going on with her, being such a young mother. BOB: I told her, well, you come live with me. And we'll figure it out somehow. Whatever happens, it'll all work out. My mother always kept a clean, nice house and was always-- everything was in its place. JUNE: When this was my grandmother's house, it was clean, not cluttered. She would be very disappointed in how it looks now, what I've done with the place. She wouldn't be very proud. My mother-- she'd be rolling over in her grave. My dad will say to me, if Nana could see this place, she would kick you out of here. I don't go over very often or stay very long. At first, it was like complete devastation. And that was my excuse for not doing anything in the house. She was like my mom, my best friend, and my grandma all in one. And I still consider this her house. So to have her house looking like this-- it's so much easier to leave and not deal with it than it is to think about how she would feel. We have tons of boxes that are filled with just random stuff of hers from her childhood, or whatever. It feels to me that if I get rid of things that has sentimental value, this knick-knack, this statue, this stuffed animal-- feels like if I get rid of it, that I'm going to forget about whatever memory is attached to it. Just makes me feel sorry for her that she has emotional attachments to pencils. JUNE: We can't eat at my dining room table because there's so much stuff that has sentimental value or somebody may want someday. TORI: Whenever I go through stuff and say, Mom, you haven't ever used this, or it's my stuff, and I go, Mom, this was yours, I'm getting rid of it, then she'll just yell at me, well, not yell at me, but tell me, don't get rid of that. We'll just move it over here, and then she'll just relocate it in our house. Mom. I'm tired of having to maneuver my way around. Like, in my one little room, I can move all that stuff into a [inaudible] in an apartment easily, even with roommates. JUNE: Tori has started saying when she turns 18, she's out of here. She's moving away. She doesn't care where. She's going. On my 18th birthday, I'm going to pack up my stuff and move out of the house. JUNE: It's just her and I here. And I know that our living situation has put a tremendous strain on our relationship as mother and daughter. TORI: Stop it. Go away. I'd like to help take the stress off of June and the stress of Tori because there's definitely tension in the house. It's just too much. I'm definitely a hoarder, a pack rat. I tend to become sentimentally attached to things, so do tend to keep a lot of things. And mixed in with having a son that's special needs- [shouting and crying] --a lot of my focus is taken away from even the things that I might be willing to part with. I'm more focused on keeping peace in the house. No! Gentleness, gentleness. NATE: [moaning] MYRON: I only have some of your older things, so-- NATE: Mm. - I want the story. [interposing voices] --two toys. Myron is very [chuckles] particular about keeping his home clean and tidy. [toy siren ] NATE: All aboard, 1, 2, 3, 4. I think that Nate and Kylie having a place where they know what I allow and what I don't allow-- MYRON: What do you have to do? - Listen. MYRON: Listen. And follow directions. Follow directions. When they come into my home, it's a cleaner palette. So I think it makes a huge difference. [laughter] Since the home continually seems to get worse and worse, I'm very worried that at some point, some worker is going to decide that it's an inappropriate home for them and pull them out. Obviously, I would want to do everything to get them back as fast as possible. But I'm not sure how quickly I can get it to a state where they'd be able to come back. [knocking on door] Hi, Doug. Hi. MARK PFEFFER: Mark Pfeffer. Nice to meet you. Nice meeting you. My name is Mark Pfeffer. I'm a licensed psychotherapist. I specialize in the treatment of individuals with anxiety disorders, including compulsive hoarding. DOUG: The kitchen is one of the worst rooms. I can-- minimal use of it. And where do you eat? We eat in the living room. This is my daughter's bedroom. After the kitchen filled up, this began to fill up. I see that it's really going to be a challenge for your daughter to use this room the way it is. So-- I've almost given up on trying to keep a path for my daughter to go to-- MARK PFEFFER: Mm-hmm --the bed. So sometimes, she'll clean it up and sleep in here. Or sometimes, she'll sleep in the same room as Nate and I. I see. Both the children are managing the best they can. But it's obvious that Nate in particular is really further exacerbated by the environment. Hi, guys. Hi. MARK PFEFFER: This room seems to have a lot of space in here. What's that all about? Being Nate's room, it has to have the least amount in it because of his tantrums. In my son's room, we don't have bed frames. He's broken beds, so that's why we sleep on the floor. MARK PFEFFER: My brief experience at the house indicated that Nate would fare much better in an environment where he had space, could find things. His explosive episodes will continue as long as the house is in that situation. NATE: Hmm. [music playing] JUNE: My biggest fear is that I'm only 28 now, and I have this much stuff. What's going to happen when I get 40, or 50, or 60? When I come to visit, I can't even stay at her place. [chuckles] So that's really frustrating for me to see how much stuff is around. And every time I try to say, you know, you should get rid of this, then it's an argument. When you look around, and you see the whole place, then it gets overwhelming. And then nothing gets done. [knocking on door] Hi, June. Hi, I'm Dr. Zasio. JUNE: Hi, I'm June. Nice to meet-- my name is Dr. Robin Zasio. I'm a clinical psychologist, and I specialize in OCD and compulsive hoarding. When was the last time this room was functional? When my grandmother lived here. Which was how long ago? Over a year. Oh, OK. She has this need to hold on to memories through these objects, and she's having a very difficult time letting go of them. Because she's afraid that if she doesn't have those objects, she'll forget the memories. Are these your stuffed animals? TORI: Most of them are hers, actually. OK. It's about 50-50 I'll say. Yeah, you would say that. So you're in disagreement on that one? The relationship between June and Tori is very interesting. There's about 15 years that separates them, and June very much is trying to be a sister rather than be a mother who is teaching her responsibility. We haven't been able to sit down at that dining table and have dinner since we moved in here, so we kind of just got our separate desks. I'm sensing there's not a lot of quality family time together. It sounds like you guys are in different rooms doing different things. [music playing] In Tori's case, I believe the impact of not being able to have friends over is channeling in her desire to move out of the house as soon as possible. I am seeing bags of clothes also. Those are bags of doll clothes, which are hers. Some are mine. Most are not. You can get rid of the whole bag of doll clothes for all I care. My experience in talking with Tori has been that she does not want to live in this environment, and she very much wants her room in order. She very much wants the house in order. I don't think that it's true that by getting rid of her stuff, it's going to separate her from her memories. I think that her hoarding was accelerated by having a daughter so young. There's an aspect of trying to relive her childhood. ROBIN ZASIO: Let's talk about the Rainbow Brites. Oh, there's much more than just Rainbow Brite. [laughs] ROBIN ZASIO: OK. There's Care Bears, and Popples, and-- OK. She's holding onto the past as a way to feel some kind of stability and continuity in her life today, but it's not working. It's interfering with her life, and it's causing her to stress and the rest of her family. ANNE: It just makes me feel like they don't have freedom, you know? They have a cluttered house, a cluttered mind. How can you live like that? JUNE: As I look around here, I go, I'm 28, and it's already this bad. It's already like this. DOUG: At first, it looked like a normal home. But the hoarding slowly took over. We've got a crew here ready to assist you. I'm Brenden McDaniel. I'm a certified professional organizer in chronic disorganization, and one of my specialties is working with people that hoard. Trying to prepare myself to fight the hoarding instinct and fight my desire to micromanage things. The main problem is lack of time and lack of motivation after you're with Nate all day. That's a lot of work. Are you ready? [laughter] I hope so. Let's do it. BRENDEN MCDANIEL: Awesome. Let's go. [music playing] MARK PFEFFER: I'm glad you're here. DOUG'S FATHER: Yeah. I thought for a minute you weren't going to show. Well-- Doug has a strained relationship with his father. I know there's love there. But I think that they don't relate to each other very well. DOUG: Don't you care about that just that you gave me? Who me? DOUG: You gave me that black chest. No, I [inaudible] nothing to me. MYRON: I don't think Doug's father understands it at all. If that's a save, you're in trouble. Because you do that in every room, you're gonna have a room full of stuff still. Somebody is going to have to make some serious-- an executive decision here. Makes no sense. Look, my thoughts, you know, because the way his mother is-- she works for three days. She works, and comes home, and cleans three days. And it's just her and me. And then you come here and look at this and wonder where it came from, that's all. Didn't come from his mother or me. DOUG: You know, I wish that he would understand more how I got where I got to, that it wasn't intentional. And I am embarrassed of it. And it's already a big enough burden on me without being reminded and, you know, dealing with his disapproval. How many do you think you need, total? KYLIE: I only need three more. Three more? OK. All right. Well, there you go. Good job. Have a nice time. I got to go [inaudible]. [laughter] MARK PFEFFER: Kylie felt she was happy with seven dolls. Doug felt that he needed more dolls for Kylie's sake. My feeling is that it was really for Doug's sake. What would you be doing with the dolls? I just think she'll play with a few more than she says. So this is for-- this is not for you. DOUG: No. MARK PFEFFER: Let's just assume that this box is going, and let's see what happens in 10 minutes, OK? But I don't know if I can let go of this many dolls. It would bother me intensely. OK. What would be the upside of these dolls not being here? DOUG: More space. MARK PFEFFER: Exactly. Can we make a deal? Hm. Let's try. Let's see if you can do it. I believe you can do it. I don't think I can. What's your levels like right now that I'm pushing? 9. Now, is that a 9 anxiety or a 9 of anger? Both. [chuckles] MARK PFEFFER: Doug, what I'd like you to do is put the lid on this. But I'm going to be coming back to it in 10 minutes. I can tell you that. Well, that's fine. But for right now, you're going to let it go. MARK PFEFFER: It's really his desire to fill himself up. And he doesn't have any other way to do that, except for his hoarding and collection. [music playing] Good morning, everyone. Thank you so much for being here. I'm Standolyn Robertson, a certified professional organizer. What we're going to do is we're going to break up into some teams. June realizes that her home is filling up with things, and she's lost. Nothing goes into the truck without June's permission. She gets the final say on everything. Unless she changes some major things in her life, it's going to continue to go down a path of accumulating, accumulating, accumulating. You guys ready to go, work hard? Good. All right. So these were my grandma's. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: These are subscriptions that your grandmother had? JUNE: Me and my grandma-- STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: Oh, OK. JUNE: --mixed together. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: OK. I think my dad might want some of the Rolling Stones to take to his work. - OK, we can ask him. And maybe some of these. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: Put this in the "ask dad" pile. JUNE: My dad might want all of these "Travelers," since he has a camper. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: OK, "ask dad." This is my grandma's. That can go in the "ask cousins" thing. We're setting aside some things that will go to family and friends. At some point, we'll take another look at that pile. "Ask cousins" for piggy salt and pepper shakers. That's the "ask cousin" pile then. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: Right now, I'm letting her make the decisions. If it gets a little out of control, we'll deal with it. OK. And I want the picture out of it. OK. And I want the vase thing. ROBIN ZASIO: And this is the "donate" bag, and it's already almost halfway full. OK. You're doing great. OK-- ANNE: Doesn't look halfway full to me. ROBIN ZASIO: Next. ANNE: It's very full. I'm really concerned that she is going to be worse than her mother. I mean, at this age to see all the stuff in her room and the things she doesn't want to let go of-- it just really bothers me. Keep, donate, maybe? Maybe. Do you like wearing things that don't fit you right? No. Then you sure you don't want to donate them? What frustrated me was just seeing so many things that Tori was hanging on to. And her room is such a mess. That's all stained. - It's an undershirt. - I know, but it's all stained. The only thing of an undershirt that shows is this part. I know. When my grandmother comes to visit, she tries to make us get rid of stuff just so that we can go buy more stuff. [chuckles] I'd rather you make room so I can buy new clothes that I-- Do you think this would-- If you don't have room, I can't buy you new clothes. And all this is going to take up a lot of room. [sighs] My mom. ANNE: I see three Christmas dresses. Well, that one's not a Christmas dress. This looks like it could be a Christmas dress. Well, that was what I wore for your wedding. And that red and white one looks like a Christmas dress or a Valentine dress. My relationship with my mom could best be described as strained since I got pregnant so young. I knew that she was way too young when she got pregnant. I told her she really should give up the baby for adoption. JUNE: She didn't want to raise another baby, as she put it. So I kind of take her with a grain of salt now. ANNE: OK, this verses-- I actually am going to keep that one, so that one can go on the "keep" pile, too. I mean, I can put it in "maybe." Mom! You should let Dad switch places with you. Yeah, you switch places with Dad right now. WOMAN: [laughs] JUNE: Because I can hear you, and I think Dad would do better. She just came out here now and started sorting through my daughter's clothes. And I'm telling her, leave stuff alone. Don't touch it. No, I want to-- you know, na, na, na. Oh, it shouldn't be like this, da, da, da. I can hear my mom overpowering, and controlling, and-- STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: No, she's not. Your daughter is in total control right now. Yeah, but my daughter's very intimidated by my mom. It would make me feel more comfortable just to switch it out and see how it goes for a little while. She really doesn't know anything about my day-to-day life. Just the concern if she hears her mom talking a lot, and now she's not focused on what she's doing here. I'm just trying to figure out a nice compromise. I just heard a lot of, you don't need that. You don't need that. I just heard a lot of that going on. Tori, Are you OK with how things are going in there? Uh-huh. OK, so can we just trust that for a little bit and see if it works and then check in in a little bit? - OK. - OK. I realize that June left as a young teenager, and that's when she started-- Yeah. And I kind of feel guilty, like, maybe because she didn't have a mother during her most important years of being, you know, a young lady, a teenager. It's gotten bad ever since she left. It's gotten worse and worse. And I just-- I don't know. I'm not a psychologist. ROBIN ZASIO: Mm-hmm. But I can't help but feel guilty. Like, it was because she didn't have a mother. BRENDEN MCDANIEL: Do you you want to save that or let it go? I can let it go. Last night, I had a hard time sleeping. And part of the reason was I was thinking of things that I let go or may have let go and don't even know it with all the other people who are assisting. BRENDEN MCDANIEL: That's still a good one. Things are getting down to more sentimental items. I am concerned of how my father is going to understand. MARK PFEFFER: How are you feeling today? I feel fine. [inaudible] Yeah? You know, I'm not-- [chuckles] I don't have a problem. It's his problem. You're starting to feel you're-- now you got that deer in the headlights look again. Are you getting-- Oh, I'm OK. It's just-- yeah, I'm fine. I'm still not sure how much my father will understand why it got the way that it did. I just think that keeping him busy, though, is good. This is ugly. That last one's gotta go. DOUG'S FATHER: I see that, yeah. (LAUGHING) Even if that's extra large-- DOUG'S FATHER: I saw that out of-- --that's got to go. [laughs] DOUG'S FATHER: --out of the corner of my eye. I saw that right away. There's a couple other ones too, but I got to leave them. MARK PFEFFER: Something. DOUG'S FATHER: Something, because-- MARK PFEFFER: Not ready. How are we making our decision on what goes? And just because it's ugly to you, doesn't mean it's ugly to me. OK, you want to go through the bag? Sure. Well, I'm-- I gotta get out of here. DOUG: Extra large, let's keep that one. BRENDEN MCDANIEL: You want this one? Yeah. DOUG'S FATHER: Throw it out. It smells like pee. NATE: Yeah. CAROL: Do you think we should just toss it? WOMAN: I would, yeah. He won't even know, unless he misses the smell. The kid pees all-- I mean, any time he wants to, evidently wherever he wants to do so. Both kids' bladders aren't to the point yet where they can sleep through the night, and I do put them in pull-ups. But it was just very embarrassing for me to know that they smelled the way that they did. [drilling] BRENDEN MCDANIEL: What do you think? Do you think it'll-- I think it's great. Yeah, it's perfect for Nate because he'll-- he'll shake a bed, and this-- It will hold up, I think. This is what we needed. Yes. Just a little extra heavy duty for our extra situation. DOUG: It's perfect. [music playing] But where I think we left off yesterday was your daughter picked out seven dolls and was willing to let the rest go. I still want to go through and keep more of them. She may not play with them all. But then again, she may. Now, look at your bin of "maybes" is almost as large as you your bin of the ones you want to save. So you have some decisions you want to make. OK. DOUG: I guess from this point, it's kind of seeing how much does she really use. And I may get down to more of what they were looking for in the future. If Kylie decides that this bin is sufficient, are you OK with that? Most likely. [chuckles] OK. To have him have high levels of anxiety, become overwhelmed, and then manage through anyway-- he hasn't had that opportunity perhaps in his life consistently to realize that he could get to the other side of this. Right, good job. Yeah. OK. We're done. [music playing] NATE: Hello. DOUG: Hi. MARK PFEFFER: Hi DOUG: What do think? Looks different than yesterday, doesn't it? Yes. [inaudible] At least the environment won't be a determining factor in the future of the children. Now it's up to the people. MYRON: Having things clean and organized will help the situation. I don't think it will be eliminated. Nate, stop. Uh-uh, uh-uh. Stop. Stop. KYLIE: I'm trying to get in there-- MYRON: Stop, Nate. KYLIE: --and he's not [inaudible] MYRON: OK, hold on a second, Nate. Come here. DOUG: Cleaning the home was for the children. Perhaps, he'll not have as many episodes as he did have. [music playing] [peaceful music] STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: Good morning, everyone. EVERYONE: Good morning. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: Good. We're going to start off with our goals to handle the common area. I think that her being 14 when she left me and having a child that she never really got to be a little girl for that long. And that makes me sad. I've been working with Anne on trying to use communication skills that reflect asking them questions about what they want to keep, rather than telling them what they should be giving up. In this process, Anne broke down. And she identified feeling responsible for June's compulsive hoarding. Today on my way here, I was thinking, you know, maybe she's so attached to these dolls and stuffed animals because she never really got to be a little girl for long. [sniffs] So I noticed when your mom started to talk, you were looking the other direction quite a bit. And I'm curious what's going on for you. It's just, she's probably right. I don't even have time to break down. Because I look around and go, oh, my god, that has to be done. That has to be done. In a way, it kind of helps because I don't have to deal with the other stuff. I just have to deal with physical objects. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: OK. Keep. Keep. Keep. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: OK These are all keep. Keep. WOMAN: More keep. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: You definitely want to keep this? JUNE: I 75% want to keep it. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: OK. JUNE: This is the land that goes in Tori's room. It matches the lamp that she already has in her room. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: OK. TORI: I don't think I'll ever use it if it has to be on the other side of my bed. I just think that it's nice to keep two matching lamps together. I don't really care how many matching lamps I have. It's a lamp. Why do you have emotional attachments to lamps? I don't have any emotional attachment to it. It's a pair. Oh, it's my grandma's reading lamp. If you want to get rid of the other one, get rid of both of them together. Well, do you have another one? So you're saying it has to be all or none. Sort of. It does. OK. My relationship with my mom-- she's more of a sister to me. You know how sisters bicker? We might be bickering over the simplest stuff. I'm a teenager. It doesn't matter how much my lamps match. It does. TORI: Why do you want to keep a lamp? - They go together. - So? JUNE: They're a pair. So? So one goes on one side of your bed. One goes on the other side of your bed. I want to ask you how you're feeling right now because I'm seeing a lot of smiles. [chuckles] But I feel like you're on the verge of some tears right now, too. And when we talked before I got here you told me, heads up, my defenses-- I'm going to use a lot of smiling, like you're doing again right now. And you're wiping away the tears. So I need you to tell me how you're feeling right now. Part of the reason-- it's not the lamp. But the stuff that I have came from my grandma, so I know-- not like, oh, it came from my grandma. Just, I can't afford to be buying new things. You know, most of my stuff that I buy is from thrift stores. Mm-hmm. So I mean, I'm sure we could always pick up a tacky, mismatched lamp from a thrift store. ROBIN ZASIO: Mm-hmm. Ultimately, what it came down to was a lot of anxiety on June's part about her fear that, because of limited finances, that they would not be able to replace those lamps. And she was able to reveal that once we started to talk a little bit about it. JUNE: If I keep buying things and buying things, then I'm not going to be able to afford food. I cried over a lamp because I can't afford to buy new lamps. I can't afford to go, OK, we're going to go ahead and go buy a bunch of new whatevers. Lamps are expensive. ROBIN ZASIO: Right. JUNE: You know? Can we keep the lamp, but keep it outside of my room? Because right now, we're doing stuff. Why don't you get rid of that fish nightlight thing on your counter that you haven't used in years, and it can sit there. All right. ROBIN ZASIO: OK. Good? You OK with that? - Yeah. - 100%? - Uh-huh. - OK. Can you give your mom a hug? [chatter] [vacuum cleaner buzzing] The progress has been significant. But we've also had some stumbling blocks, primarily around dealing with stuffed animals related to the past. Based on what you've been learning, try to help her to make some good decisions. - Mm-hmm. - OK? I think so. ROBIN ZASIO: OK. My goal was to help them to work together as mother and daughter. Can we put the Littlest Pet Shop things with my Rainbow Brite stuff for my friend Ashley, because she wants them. That's up to you. It's your stuff. OK. Grab the Rainbow Brite. JUNE: The Littlest Pet Shop. [interposing voices] Go ahead, Mom. You got all three? No, no-- Wait, what happened there? Nana's, Nana's, Nana's. Which ones do you want to keep that were Nana's? But those are stuff that she gave to me. I think that should be a different category. We don't need that. OK, so put that-- June was actually doing a good job encouraging Tori to get rid of some things using some of the tools that she's been learning since we've been here. OK, so here's the one you're keeping from Nana. You got it for me. JUNE: They both came from Nana. ROBIN ZASIO: OK. So which one are you keeping? Why don't you get rid of Furby instead. No, why do you want me to get rid of Furby so much? JUNE: You don't touch him. You don't even play with him. Tori became emotional about animals that were associated with her Nana. It's the only person in her life that has died, and she was very important to her. JUNE: It was Nana's if you want to keep them? - Where was Nana's? - We already have-- Here's Nana. --Nana, Nana, Nana, Nana, Nana. Nana's right here. JUNE: (WHISPERING) You can can get rid of it. It's OK. But-- Nana wouldn't want you to have all this. I know that. ROBIN ZASIO: She began to recall every single episode when she was given a stuffed animal from Nana. You were the brave one yesterday saying, Mom, memories are not in the items. They're, like, the only thing that I can still hold on to. You know, she's trying to be the tough kid who doesn't cry. And of course, I'm trying to be the tough mom who holds it all together. It's good that she was able to let it out. What if we took pictures of them, take pictures and make a photo album? You can't hold on to the pictures. JUNE: But you can remember how this ginormous dog made you feel after she died. ROBIN ZASIO: She's doing some of the same behaviors that her mom did. I'm not worried, though, that this is going to be a long-term problem for her. I do think that she's going to need some help once we leave to help her deal with some of the loss that she's had in her past. [vacuum cleaner buzzing] I'm a lot more optimistic than I was yesterday. And it already looks like a home. My mom still has some challenges of learning what to get rid of and what to keep. STANDOLYN ROBERTSON: She did a good job. It's hard work. It was very hard for her, but she did it. ROBIN ZASIO: She's making really good decisions while she's got somebody standing encouraging her to make those decisions. But I don't believe she can do it on her own, and it will be critical that she have follow-up care. BOB: Think she's taken two or three steps on a long journey. This is going to be possibly a lifelong battle. Maybe I'll have my family and my boyfriend over for dinner-- Great. --and now that I can prepare food in my kitchen with all that counter space. [laughs] My problem is definitely not solved [laughs] after this weekend. Oh my gosh, I can walk in here. I know that I've learned a lot of tools how to make better decisions. I do have a long road ahead of me. [music playing] NATE: [screaming] Nate, [inaudible] Shh. Take a breath. [crying] I [inaudible] go now. I don't think that just because it's cleaned up it's going to change his ways. He'll probably start throwing stuff around again. NATE: [crying] I want to [inaudible] Would it help if you went outside for a minute? Without having anything to grab on to, he started using his words. So I can tell him [bleep] MYRON: Hey, I already said, no, no, no, we don't talk that way. Do you hear uncle talking that way? NATE: No. - No. And I didn't like the words, but I prefer the words already-- the kicking, screaming, you know, punching, or, you know, throwing objects-- I did notice that he looked around when he was in that frantic mode to see what he could unleash his frustration. And there really wasn't anything. I think that was just an example right away that it helps the situation tremendously. [music playing] MYRON: Oh, you know what I did? I brought the laptops with me. Do you guys want your laptops now that we have space for them? Can we keep them here? Yeah, keep them here. All right. Well, I brought it with me. So you can-- let's find a spot for your laptop. You can even-- - I want it. Do you want it on your bed, even? You can-- Kylie, we get to keep our laptops. OK, and this way, when I come over, you know, you can just-- we could start playing right away. This isn't going to be a cure-all, but I think it's going to be a step in the right direction. A calmer environment, I think, is going to help out. I think that the state will give them some time to really develop the time that it takes to make the changes necessary. But it's still a very guarded situation. [music playing] And he knows I love him, you know? I hope to heck he does, or I wouldn't be here. The difference that it did the way these people cleaned it up today shocked me. And maybe that'll brighten his day and turn him around. You earned it, man. You worked hard. You really did a great job. It's almost hard to believe, looking around now, that it's the same house that it was. He's going to be able to manage the other parts of parenting and keeping the home environment safe and productive a lot better. It's a big difference, and I thank you all very much. Right now, I'm hopeful because he's hopeful. Tomorrow, when we all leave, will be really the beginning of Doug's recovery. Thank you. I have my home back. And without this process, it probably would have taken years. The home that I now have-- it's twice the size that it was. Amazing.
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Published: Sat May 29 2021
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