So this is Subtle Asian Traits. Okay. This is a Facebook group. These are Asian people. - Mhm.
- Mhm. You put a post here.
- Okay. And then all these people
submitted questions. Do you know what memes are? Not really, you can explain. Do you know what memes are? No. Okay. Hey guys, it’s Hasan. So, a few months
ago I did an AMA in a Facebook group called
“Subtle Asian Traits.” And the response
was incredible. It was such a cool community
and such a cool experience, So I decided to do a second
AMA in “Subtle Asian Traits.” But this time, I brought my parents. Seema: Hi! Najme: Hello everyone. So this is round two
with Najme and Seema. So did you guys see
Subtle Asian Traits– the video that we did? I think I did. Did you watch the
Subtle Asian Traits video? Yeah. No you didn’t. No you didn’t! No, I did! “Najme and Seema, when have you been the
most disappointed at Hasan and when have you
been the most proud?” When we started persuading
you to maybe get into medicine... Uh-huh. And then you said,
“I’d rather be a dentist.” Then you did some internship,
and that, dental association. And then you came
back and said, “I cannot look into
someone’s mouth for eight hours a day
for the rest of my life.” I was not disappointed,
but I was a little worried. Were you sad? Yeah, I was sad that
he’s not choosing, like, - straightforward profession–
- Wait, wait Mom, remember the time you said you
came to my first apartment in LA... Yeah. Oh, that was
disappointing because it was, like, crowded,
multiple people were living. And then you had,
like, an air mattress. And you went
for your jogging and I was sitting on that air
mattress and I was so sad... that I didn’t visualize my
only son living like this. What’s he trying to do... - Because...
- Over here– It is hard for a– to imagine for
parents, you see, “oh, my God.” Did you feel like you had
wasted all that work? Sometimes. Okay. I was actually– I was quite impressed
with your dedication because you were not worried
about the air mattress or living in that tight space. Do you remember when
you were most proud? I was very happy when
you went for that White House
Coorrespondent’s Dinner. I was there, I was all
dressed up in my black sari, and watching you perform. You were scared though. No, I was scared– I was watching you and
dad, you guys were scared. I was scared in the beginning
because it was such a big crowd and all hi-fi
people sitting there. And I was sitting on my
edge– edge of the chair. But I was very happy. When was the most– the time
I let you down the most? When I would take you to soccer field. Soccer game. Ball is going
into this direction and you are running
into this direction. Every parent thinks that okay
their son or daughter should be able to make a goal, you see,
score a goal and all that. But you wouldn’t be able to. You were disappointed that
I couldn’t score a goal? Yeah. Yeah. This is from Adit Abraham. “Hey, Hasan Minhaj,
not even a question. Can you reply to this
with literally anything so I’ll have some
clout by association in my brown friend circles?” Okay. This is from Proteche Sarkar. It says, “We wanna hear your
parents side of the story when you went to do stand up, but they thought, well
at least your dad thought, you were at the library.” I used to cover you up– that you were in the
library studying late. And then you used
to drive to Bay Area, and then while you were gone
I used to keep on telling, “He’s working hard,
he’s studying. Did you think I was
at the library? No, actually, I mean
every library closes at around 10 or 11 o’clock p.m. You were coming late
usually like 1 o’clock, 1:30 sometimes 2 o’clock. So, what did you think
I was doing until 1:30? I did not know. I don’t know. Maybe I was just wondering – No remember you asked me one time, you said, “Are you doing drugs?” Yes, that was kind
of a little later. I said, “My God, Hasan,
what are you getting into? Is everything okay?” Okay, this is Rachel Li. “Who did you inherit your
wild hand gestures from?” Who do you think I got it from? But you think I do
it too much, right? Yeah you do. Not too much,
but more than you should. Maybe me because I was
using my hands too. I’m holding them. This is from Robert Gu. “I want this to be real, but
I am not convinced yet, lol.” Tell Robert this is real. Actually go to this camera, dad,
and say, “Robert, this is real.” Robert, this is– this is real. You have to–
you have to believe. This is from Grace Kim. This is to the parents. Okay. “What was your greatest
fear regarding Hasan?” I was actually worried
that if you don’t make it, how long will it take
for you to get over that sadness and the depression? And I wanted to be
there for you, but I cannot change how people
are going to react to a failure. Okay, what was your– what
was your biggest fear, dad? Uh, my biggest
fear that you will– you are losing all this time, a couple of years
of your life, you see. And uh, sometimes, uh,
I will hear from my friends, who say, “Najme don’t
worry, he will come back then he can restart his schooling and all that.” And then what would
you tell them, “Would you do this
with your son?” Then, no then it’s basically
as a parent you stay quiet– you sit there basically. You just, you hear those
kind of comments and then you stay quiet,
you say, “That’s fine.” Alright, this is
from Amber Khoa. “Najme and Seema, what
was the naughtiest thing Hasan did when he was a kid?” Well you did one time
very scary thing, you see, there was a hot iron
sitting on the table. And you came and
you hold the iron and you put over
here at your tummy. - What? What?
- Yeah. Oh my God, you see,
and then you got burnt. There was a little triangle. A little triangle, you tried
to, instead of clothing, you tried to put that
iron on your tummy. “Great job raising your
son, Najme and Seema. My question for you two
is did you have a go-to or favorite punishment
for disciplining Hasan?” McDonald’s– You see, when they
had those, uh, kind of– - Happy Meals?
- The little Happy Meal - Happy Meals.
- with the little toy. And if you do
something bad I say, “Hasan, you are not going to
go to McDonald’s and get that, those Happy Meals.” Uh-huh. - What would I do?
- Then you will get sad. You say, “Oh, dad,
I won’t do it again.” This is from Darren. “Who’s your biggest
supporter, mom or dad?” I’d say mom. You say mom? Yeah. How you can say Mom? I would say mom. - You know that for sure, dad.
- No you can’t do that. No, no, no, no. This is from Claire. Fine, you can
answer this one, dad. “What’s your secret to
raising a successful child?” - As a–
- Claire’s asking about Ayesha. What was the secret
to raising Ayesha? This is what you learn– because Ayesha
was a second child. you learn when you
raise your first child. Yes. And Hasan had a
different personality. Ayesha had
different personality. So we learned that, um, Hasan will listen to us more carefully, but Ayesha will some– many times will question. As a parent if you want to
raise a successful child, you have to also listen carefully
and with patience to the child. Don’t be so scared because – what I felt– that if you are taking four years of life–
of your life to experiment– I have to stand behind you. If you failed, at least
you won’t feel that my parents were
not helping me. How many years
do you trust them? My advice is don’t
give unlimited kind of– there has to be a cap. - So, what’s the cap?
- Three years or five years. - Three years or five years!
- Yeah. If you feel that it’s
not going to that, uh, place where you
want it to be, then just give up and then start
doing something different. You give up on the dream
or you give up on the kids? Not on the kids. Kids
will always be your kids. - Okay.
- How can you do that? You cannot do that. This is from Zabreen. “What’s the best advice
your parents ever gave you?” That’s interesting. What’s the best advice
my parents ever gave me? What do you think, Dad? Don’t go to medical school. Dad that’s– now you’re–
now you’re lying. I’m not lying. I told you, you see,
I went to India. - Manipal, this is true,
- Manipal. people in India
that are watching, you know Manipal’s
a medical school. I went to Manipal. And you threatened that you
were gonna put me in Manipal. No, no, mom. Mom wanted to– Don’t throw mom
under the bus. Mom. You said, I was doing
comedy, you were like, “I’m gonna send you to Manipal,”
and they had bars on the windows. No, no, no. And you went– And you
went to go see Manipal. I went to Manipal. And people who
are, you know this, anyone who’s going to Manipal
med school– I pray for you. So, I came back and I said, “No I’m not going to send
Hasan to Manipal...” - Why’s that?
- ...for medical school. ‘Cause you saw the school? I got scared, you see. But, anyway. Okay, the best piece of advice, it wasn’t even advice,
it’s stuff that I saw. I saw from you– you really taught me
to be an entrepreneur. ‘Cause I saw the way you would
always make stuff happen. You would make me my
Halloween costumes, or you would have
an idea for something. And you would
just come up with it– you would make it,
you would do it. And that’s how, like, a lot of the
stuff that I’ve done in my career I sorta had that
entrepreneurial spirit. But I saw that from you. And then from Dad… I learned conflict mediation. You don’t have
a lot of enemies. I care about people and I think this is what
I notice in you too is that you basically
care about people. No, but I would see you
sometimes, like, ladai– full on fist fights in
the mosque parking lot. Yeah. And you would, like,
be breaking it up. Yeah. Don’t get mad at each other and
don’t try to hurt each other. So, this is from Simu Liu. “Sick!” Um, Dad do you want to do
a shoutout to Simu Liu? Just say, “Good luck, Simu, you’re gonna be in a new Marvel
movie and we’re proud of you.” What is that? There’s an actor
named Simu Liu. So dad, you can just go to
this camera and just say, “Hey Simu Liu, we’re proud of you and good
luck with the Marvel movie.” Hey Simu Liu, we are
very proud of you and good luck
for your movie, uh, Marvel. What was it? He’s doing a big Marvel movie. Big Marvel movie. Okay, this is from May Bautista. “Oh, what’s your favorite
item from Costco?” I like the bread. The brown bread. - Brown bread. Multigrain?
- Multigrain bread. The Kirkland multigrain bread? Yeah. Yeah yeah. Okay, what’s your favorite?
You love Costco, Dad. Yeah, I love Costco.
I like free samples. I like different kind of cheese
over there. Cheese samples. - Okay.
- Yeah. I love that. This is from Rei Patrick Ramos. “What does your mom think about
you standing up to political norms? Asian moms would
usually be scared.” So, when I do all
the political stuff... I am scared. Why? There are people who
like it and appreciate, but there’s lot of
people who don’t like it. And I mean sometimes crazy things
happen and I just worry. This is from Dominique. “Hey Hasan, I always love
hearing the stories of parents. So this is for them. What is one thing they wanted
to do when they were kids? Were they able to accomplish
this, and why or why not?” I wanted to sing. And also pursue a career. Do both the things. Just to be on the safer side. But you really love singing. Yeah, I love singing. You used to sing all the time
when we were growing up. I do, mhm. And that is the
good part about you guys coming here,
and we are raising you as first generation immigrants–
you can take that risk. In our situation it was
a little different. ‘Cause you guys
had to get here? Yeah, we had just came here, it was too many new
things we had to do. So, your passion, your hobbies,
you put it in the backburner. So, for you guys, I’m really
happy that you can do it. So, what did you want to
do when you were a kid, dad? From the very beginning
I had two passions. One is basically I got
fascinated with Bollywood. Okay, I would watch movies and, you
see, I would get fascinated with that. Okay. And when I got to the college then
I got fascinated with politics. The most scary part for me was
that pressure from the family. And they will to
keep telling me, “Najme, you have to keep pay
attention to your studies.” “We don’t want you to waste time
and do all these stupid things.” - You still like movies?
- I still like movies. Dad, what are your
favorite movies of all time? Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. - That was a good one.
- Yeah, that was a very good one. - Kuch Kuch Hota Hai.
- Kuch Kuch Hota Hai yeah, good ones, but uh – Favorite actor? Bollywood has many,
many great actors. You see, if I name one, I think that would not
right thing to do– Okay, name five. This is Najme’s top five. Of course, Dilip Kumar, then Amitabh Bachchan, Salman Khan. - Shah Rukh Khan.
- Salman Khan. - Shah Rukh Khan.
- Aamir Khan. Aamir Khan. Alright, those are your
five, that’s your five. Okay. “What is your parents’ favorite
episode of Patriot Act?” Student loan crisis. And I like the one
with the cruise. You give so much
information and – But you like cruises, mom. I like cruises and now I’m thinking
because after learning all that, it was kind of scary that
lot of things can happen while you are
traveling in a cruise. Alright, this is from Rachel. “If your parents each did
an episode of Patriot Act, which topics
would they choose?” Najme would do Bollywood. Something to do with– Yeah. you would do an
episode, a Bollywood episode. Which one would you do, mom? Healthcare or– Healthcare would be good. Yeah, healthcare
would be good, yeah. Alright, so you’ll
do the healthcare one and dad will do
the Dilip Kumar one. Yeah, that is true. Thank you guys so much for
sending in all those questions. This was a really
great opportunity to spend some time
with mom and dad. And uh, how’d you
guys feel about it? We had a good time. Did you enjoy this, dad? Yeah. it was really
enjoyable, thank you. A lot of fun. Okay. Are you guys
gonna join the group? Yeah, I will, I would love to. You on Facebook? I’m on Facebook. Dad, are you on Facebook? I’m not. He can join. Please tune in
Sunday, November 10th for new episodes
of Patriot Act. And Simu Liu, me and Dad can’t wait to see you in tights. Waiting for your movie. Alright. What movie is it, dad? - Marvels.
- Marvs. Marvel. Marvs. Dad said Marvs. No, Marvels. Marvels. Hasan.
