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the first thing I'm going to do I love to do this I take what needs to be done and then I put alongside what I think definitions would be so what a husband what she would look for in a husband eh we can write that down I think every woman wants humor in a husband humor I don't think I would have married bishop if he didn't make me laugh bishop makes me laugh even when he's leaving the country we have these tics conversations that I'm just falling out it I mean I look mad because I'm reading the text message somewhere public and it's Bishop sending me these text messages that are just cracking me up but from the first time we met that was one of the things that I loved about Bishop was that he made me laugh I think if you have too much of a serious husband we had a seminar with the with the without married couples on Valentine's Day on the 14th of February and we were discussing about money and this guy got up he says I'm an accountant and this is how I think we need to run a budget in a home and I said oh I had the moment the poem and I need to pray for I need to find out the Naif and pay for because he obviously had these things down about what it is that a husband should and there was no smile no amusement on his face so one of the things that you need to have I feel as a husband is humor when you can laugh and have a good time second definition I'll give a try and give to each is honesty honesty a husband must be honest I don't I think it's the worst thing that we face in ours is having to find for women to face is a husband that is not totally honest are their levels of honesty degrees of honesty honest honest honest Asthana honesty just h o NE sty and you've got to be honest I think every woman wants her husband to be able to tell the truth it builds trust both in any relationship even in friendship even if it's just women women friendship male friendships honesty is the best thing for a relationship is when you can be truthful with one another the you will stand for understanding a woman wants to be understood many times I think they find it that we are very complicated difficult people or creatures but I'm sure most women if they are listened to intently understanding will come are yelling me men if you will listen to us intently I just Andy world cup I'm looking at you pastor a I'm not to get at you again so the you is understanding understand us sometimes we we have our own ways of dealing with situations and most times if you if we are not understood what was a very small issue becomes a mountain and could have been taken care of just by simple patience and understanding so we must have understanding in our homes the next thing is the s we need in our husbands sensitivity religious activities away sensitivity you've got to be sensitive to our moods you've got to be sensitive to our moods I'm a type of person that when I'm busy nobody must get in my way and I think after 28 years of marriage if you want to ask me do you want to go for a work a walk after I've made three bills I think you're not being sensitive Amen Alleluia so when I say to you no you mustn't cry mustn't get upset I'm only joking Bishop doesn't cry bishop gets mad hallelujah but you have to be sensitive to our moods I was telling and I'm going to be very Blanche I don't want to embarrass anybody we are male and female married and unmarried single but I think we know the world today but we have got different stages of growth as women every 10 years we grow up I mean we really grow up so if we probably at the age of 30 we have got a different stage in our growth especially our hormones than we had when we were 20 so we no longer frivolous naive there are girls any will be growing up we have done now years of the 10 three times 10 is 30 when we get to 40 we are different totally different when we get to 50 I think 50 is fabulous I think we should just start growing backwards when we turn 50 because it's a wonderful age you just feel like you know I really don't care but you got to be sensitive to the mood and some of us in case you didn't know man we have biological struggles women every month I'm sorry I don't mean to embarrass anybody but every month we have biological struggles and if you are a married man you need to keep a calendar I've been honest because you will check it say okay this is going to change in about a day or so well this joking and laughing is going to be different she's going to be like a cat wanting to scratch my eyes out just now so you've got if you get that kind of treatment it's your own fault you're not checking it you are not checking it I'm going fishing I won't I will I won't divulge too much but we need to I think when we were when we are older in the Lord we were taught that some of the things that we have to go through as married couples is taboo it's not to be discussed and we fumbled along and we had no one to tell what we were going through and it was simple biology taught at the age of 12 years old and we made it in Christian Church as something to be embarrassed about something that was not to be spoken about it was unholy and yet is the natural fact of life even God Himself speaks about it in his word so we have got to be sensitive to moods there are times when you will anger us and you are going to have to be aware that you have angered us if you tell us you come in to pick us up at 6 o'clock and you have been talking until thirty and we've been waiting for you from 6 o'clock we can't say oh well done you came to pick us up late yes a middle so yeah I'm going to be sensitive to our moods Oh Bishop doesn't want to be city I'm sure I feel like it's the Ides of March man ok the second definition is security we once look every woman wants security can have an aim in every woman you must know where you are going Minh you must know what it in other words have a plan we don't want you to wake up and say we sold the house yesterday so we're we good to stay I don't know God led me we do want that kind of stuff ok we want security you've got to have a plan you must have a plan you've got to be taking us some way if we know that you are taking and you know where you are going we will follow if you say this one doesn't know what he's doing you'll just wait back and just sit back and wait then you are on your own one of the things that you must understand we will give you support in any any form that you need us to give us give you support if you have a plan you must have a plan got to make us secure because that's the things that we need the B stands for bravery now I'm going to tell a little bit on Bishop here we have owls in our in our yard and the one time the owl flew down the chimney into our house and there was all kinds of noise and he doesn't get up to go in chickie waits me up and he tells me to go and look at a chichi sevens in the house hey hey I have to look after the anointing I can tell another story we had a ceramic there was a ceramic lipids and if we kept looking at it there are others I'm talking to you we keep looking I said what's the matter he says I'm sure that thing when we switch off the lights it comes alive hahaha so he took it down and he covered a so we want you bold and brave amen hey I went to bend in I saw all kinds of things come alive in pinions one thing I do know he is very bold when it comes to casting out Devils and all kinds of things so those are just think the value he has a sense of humor okay sorry tutor so right God doesn't call me Bishop it's alright okay thus the a stands for availability can have an aiming every woman I'm start trying to start trying to figure out what she's spelling what are you spelling husband oh I was like that's not how you spell understand it a stance for availability men need to be available whenever a woman friend if you are dating to get married availability is good take time out to spend time I remember watching Joel and Victoria Osteen they have a date night and it works very well Bishop always tells me we have a lot of date nights because we travel together so we on the plane together that's our date she's always complaining I don't take it to dinner but we had 40,000 feet being served chicken oh pastor but me oh he actually makes a lot of time for me in between Liverpool matches we have a lot of downtime amen the way we play now there is a lot of Jharia we always together and I think having to take me on some of his assignments that he has is his way of making time because before there was such a demand on his ministry and there was no time but so you have to make yourself available don't let somebody else another man do what you should be doing as a husband as a male friend wanting to get married or somebody that's one in two date don't let another man have to do what you need to be doing because what happens is that she will oh she or your wife will start comparing what you do for her as to what he's able to do for her so you must make yourself available alright and then also you if you are able to make yourself available for another woman husbands then you can make yourself available for your wife don't don't try and do the swap the devil is a liar but he always knows when you open the door so keep the door closed all right the next thing is in husbands we must nurture our wives we must nurture in other words you have to develop gifts that you see I in your wife and that's how I've grown into the way I am today is because Bishop nurtured my gift I was nobody would believe it today but he knows I was another people person I was not a relational person and I was very shy when I first got married in the only one I really was able to relate to was him I really open open myself to him any when he came into my life because I was able to share my thoughts share my Joy's share my questions and confusion confusion I hadn't been able to do that until I had met him and we been knowing each other now for 32 years so be very good friends very good friends and then he nurtures he nurtures that he nurtured my gift he saw that I was able to speak to people that I mean really really scared and nervous when I was teaching Sunday School but he was able to see that I was able to speak to others and he helped me with that gift so nurture nurture the gifts don't criticize don't always complain don't always find fault nurture what you feel is good speak well about the things that we do I'm not the best cook I don't want to be the best cook it's not my gift or calling I'm so thankful I don't have that calling in my life hallelujah I can chop onions I can make you a great omelet I can bake not a problem but when it comes to curries Andrew T's that's his mother's gift so she must remain in his life for their gift allelujah honestly he don't force cuz he's a great cook he if ever we have a chance to just spend a little bit of extra time before we do church things one day we will just pray and fast for him just to make pancakes most fabulous pancakes in the whole chocolate filling Oh God amen hallelujah let's move on and then the D the last thing is that you have to be a doer husbands don't say one thing and don't do it if you say you're going to do it do if you say you're going to do do I'm going to fix the plug do it I'm going to fix the car do it I'm going to buy this do it don't keep us hanging amen then we got it going asks us to sew into a pasta so-and-so please can you come and talk to my husband because whatever he says he's going to do he doesn't do all right

Channel: Tudor Bismark

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Length: 15min 35sec (935 seconds)

Published: Tue Nov 27 2012