God's purpose in Marriage - From The Beginning by Zac Poonen

face the Lord let's look at the words of Jesus concerning married life in Matthew chapter 19 you know God's standards for married life were lower under the Old Covenant I don't know whether you know that like everything else God's standard for Israel was much lower than for the church jesus said that in the Sermon on the Mount unless your righteousness is greater than the righteousness of the Pharisees it's all cognate righteousness you won't even enter God's kingdom so it's one of the things which my observation is 95 percent of Christians have not understood that the New Covenant is fundamentally different from the Old Covenant and God standards are much higher so in the world there are people who live under no covenant you know people who have no respect for God under Old Covenant and New Covenant three groups of people and those who live under no covenant are those who don't even respect the Ten Commandments they commit adultery they swear under oath they do all types of wrong things they worship idols they take them God's name in vain they don't honor their parents that's no covenant and then there among there are those who never committed out for you physically our name and never they honor their parents they don't take the Lord's name and then there are those who come the New Covenant who have all these things fulfilled inside their heart who have the life of Jesus in their heart so these three groups of people will have three different types of marriages and we should not be satisfied with our marriage being better than those who under no covenant not even better than not even light goes under the Old Covenant we must enter into the New Covenant in marriage so here Jesus points out that difference in Matthew 19 the Pharisees asked him a question saying in verse 3 is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife and he said haven't you read that in the beginning he made them male and female and for this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife the two shall become one flesh so they are no longer two but one flesh what therefore God has joined together let no man separate and then they said why did Moses command to give her a certificate of divorce and send her away see there was a law like this in Deuteronomy 24 verses 1 to 4 and it's actually a misunderstanding you know how people can miss goat verses of the Bible and when I once when I heard numerous people misquoting me in different situations and saying well exact said this I never said or they miscoded or took something out of context I asked the Lord what should I do about this and the Lord said don't worry they miss courting me all the time see I find that that's what's happening you can miss called the scriptures I want to ask you if y'all read Matthew at least twice how many of you checked with it the Old Testament whether this was a correct statement verse 7 I'm just encouraging you to study the scriptures whenever you read an Old Testament quotation in the New Testament check with the Old Testament and you'll see something interesting I found that again and again and again and it's so easy just takes two minutes you've got a Deuteronomy 24 you know this quotation verse 7 why did Moses command to give her a certificate of divorce to send her away since in Matthew 24 Deuteronomy 24 verse 1 this is the Old Covenant law when a man takes a wife and marries her she finds no favor nice because he found and he writes now read carefully if you don't read the Bible carefully you won't understand it see what the difference is there is a fundamental difference a very serious difference when a man takes a wife marry so it happens he finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some in distance he indecency in her and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand sends her out of the house and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man's wife and if the latter husband turns against her writes her a certificate of divorce puts it in her hand center or his house is the latter husband dies together then former husband who sent her way is not allowed to take her back again you see this reference is only in verses 1 to 4 it's not found anywhere else in Scripture really so what is the difference anybody notice if you read now come to the New Testament Matthew 19 what did they say why did Moses command to give her a certificate of divorce and her away Moses never gave any such command what are they saying Moses said give her a certificate of divorce and send her away no or Moses said was if you decide to send her away you must give her a certificate of divorce you see the difference he was not commanding divorce not at all read carefully she was 20 from Deuteronomy 24:1 if you find some indecency in her and he writes and certificated the words and sends her out he's not saying if you don't like her send her out then it should read like this if she doesn't find favor in your eyes and found in beat Semmy dizzy then somewhere out of the house and give her a sudden you know divorce this is a classic example of how millions of millions of Christians read the Bible carelessly I believe this is the main reason for defeated Christian lives and miserable Christian homes when God sees that a man doesn't reads a court document more carefully than God's Word God says that man deserves to be deceived I believe a lot of people in CFC are using because I would say it's in your lifetime it's better to read one book of the Bible carefully than to read 66 books in a rush I would rather have the Bible go through me once in my life then me go through the Bible a hundred times we miss so much I've seen it in everywhere I say can you read that verse what do you see they don't see it and the Bible says blessed is the man who meditates and the law of the Lord there are many times when I read a verse and that's all I read the whole day the next day it turned to the Bible same verse I stop to stagger the same was like a red light and I never moved till the red light becomes green maybe God keeps me that works for five days but the result is that verse goes through me so I would encourage all of you be very careful in reading scripture if you really believe this is God's Word this of a mighty power in it and you remember Jesus drove Satan away always just with one send it from God's Word so in the Old Testament God permitted not commanded there's a lot of difference between what God commands and what God permits that's what I'm trying to emphasize that many things he permits he permitted Old Testament people to even have many wives but he never commanded no God standards and basically always been the same but because they were under the Old Covenant he permitted but anyway Jesus didn't get into a clash with these Pharisees about you have miscoded at worst because you know those days you didn't have a Bible like all of us have now to say look at that verse the Bible was in the synagogue nobody had a Bible but what he did say was yes Moses permitted see the difference in verse 8 Moses permitted what did they say Moses commanded verse 7 I don't know whether you noticed that difference in your reading Matthew these are the little little things if you notice it will radically change your Christian life if you believe that every word is inspired by God notice the difference they say Moses commanded no he said Moses permitted and consider this is an example of how you could have possibly missed a thousand things in the Bible even though you read the Bible for 20-30 years what a lot it's like treasures you missed missed missed missed missed missed missed missed missed because of carelessness and when we are careless towards God's Word we can be very careless in relation to many other areas of life especially not married levels so here it says Moses permitted you to divorce your wives but from the beginning it has not been in this way I say to you and so on so whenever Jesus spoke he said go back to the beginning if you want to understand what God's plan was so if you want to understand marriage go back to the beginning and what is the reason why Moses permitted it were saved that's also verse 8 is a very important verse for two phrases hardness of heart and from the beginning two very very important phrases in relation to marriage if you have a hard heart towards your husband or your wife or your children you're under the Old Covenant without a shadow of doubt I mean you don't have to ask a second question so that's number one in the new covenant God takes away we can soften our heart that's one thing we need to recognize God has to give us a soft heart and that's the meaning of being born again and being filled with the Holy Spirit the Holy Spirit does it does the work of softening our hearts and where people are hard you know what they need is not a lot of instruction and marriage counseling what they need is first of all to be truly born again and you're not truly born again unless you are broken and repentant for your past life and your sins and the next thing they need is to be filled with the Holy Spirit and you can remain filled with the Holy Spirit if you remain in broken and honest all the time it's all it's not a great requirement I want to show you the promise in the Old Testament how God takes away the heart and makes it a soft one which is not possible in all Testament times Eko 36 and verse 25 to 27 just three verses but these are three of the most amazing verses in the New Testament in the Old Testament concerning the New Covenant and you can say almost the whole New Covenant is in these three verses just three verses of prophecy in Ezekiel which describes the new covenant Ezekiel 36 verse 25 now I will sprinkle is using symbolic language remember I will sprinkle clean water on you you'll be clean and we know that that is the blood of Christ today that is not just sprinkled it's we have cleansed I will cleanse you from all your filthiness and all your idols we've all worshipped idols of money sex selfishness pleasure comfort in so many things and the Lord without cleanse you and cleanse us from what we confess if you think that what you did in some situation was right then it's not an idol in your life you'll never be cleansed from it but if you acknowledge that what you did in a particular station was wrong that was a form of idolatry or worship of self but a lot of cleansing running very often in our married life we don't acknowledge that something we did was because we worshipped our ourselves as an idol you've often heard me say that I never knew how selfish I was till I got married I thought it was very unselfish type of person concerned for others we all were like that but it's a question of recognizing when we get married in different situations that crop up this problem is cropped up because I have an idol in my heart and that idol is myself myself and that Idol has been scratched by my wife or my husband scratched hurt injured that wouldn't have happened if there was no idle if that place is empty if Christ was there it wouldn't that it's far too much with the worship of self it could be the worship of the money it could be the worship of comfort pleasure my own needs and if my partner doesn't worship this Idol I have set up in my heart I'm hurt consider whether that could be the cause of a lot of problems you see an idol though it doesn't speak what did what do we mean when I didn't I did it something just worshipped and all human beings worship the idol of self more than any other Idol more than even money they worship self money would be a close second which self is number one the Lord says I'll cleanse you from your idols we got to ask the Lord to do that because you can't get rid of it yourself first of all we don't even have a light on this island I'd say most people outside the church even many born-again Christians don't recognize they're worshipping idols and then he says I'll give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you I'll remove this hard heart of stone again it is I will you see this is why I say this is a thing of the New Covenant and the Old Covenant is symbolized by the word thou shalt or you shall you shall you shall not the ten commandments you know 10 come on is full of you shall you shall you shall not you shall not know but the New Covenant the Lord says I will I will I will you see that in Hebrews 8 verse 10 to 12 I will write my laws you know put them in your mind in your heart and hear the same thing I will sprinkle clean water on you and I will cleanse you where's 25 I will give you a new heart and I were to rule the heart of stone I will give you a heart of flesh that's the soft heart Jesus was speaking about and then I will put my Holy Spirit within you this is again New Covenant the Old Covenant the Holy Spirit is with people new companies within and I will cause you this is the best part of it not you should walk in my statutes not you must walk in my statutes not it's good for you to walk in my statutes I will cause me to walk in my statutes you know that's the picture I get is of a father holding a my father was a brilliant artist holding the hand of his little three-year-old child and his son yield to me completely and the son says sure he allows the father to draw the most beautiful painting him say a three-year-old did that right the three-year-old held to the pen in his own hand and did that beautiful painting you see unbelievable yes because he yielded to his father that is I will be cause she and he said you mean you come to such a glorious marriage and three years how did you manage that it's like asking did the three-year-old do that painting his I haven't seen 40 year olds paint something like that because you yielded to the master I would cause you imagine if this can happen in your married life that the Lord causes you he doesn't doesn't mean he takes away your free will he never does that only demons possess people and take away their free will what is God do he causes us that means he urges us and as we there's a little prompting in our will he moves forward I mean the proportion is something like the gods part is so much but there are small particles I get a picture of the prodigal son limping back slowly skinny mag and Harley walk slowly slowly walking towards thousand the father running see the proportion of speed there between the speed of the prodigal son walking towards his home and the father running towards private son that's about the proportion of our part and God's part it's very little but if we don't do our part like the prodigal son who just sits at all I end up I mean since with the pigs then God does zero he waits for a little for repentance your friend it means a little turning around saying I want to go back to my father's house or little turning around saying I'm fed up of this Old Covenant baseline I tell you if your government is a pig's life is heating or the pigs are eating I want to go to this new covenant home I'm singing tired of his old coming into the family a relationship in life with my wife or husband I want to move on the feasting there is my father's home I want my home to be like my father's home now I tell you a lot of Christian marriages the only way I can compare it is the prodigal son with the pigs eating what the pigs are eating behaving like the pigs towards each other spiritually filthy even though the house may all be portioned us spiritually it's like a big sky and if they can't get it there as long as the prodigal son is contended to be with the things okay fine the father doesn't go the father knows he's welcome to come but he doesn't want to drag him out from there if you're happy to be in that pigsty only life's baby thank God a day came when the prodigal sons and I'm sick and tired of this family life like a pigsty and that's flying it to us I want to make my home like my father's home there's joy feasting happiness in other words like heaven and it's possible it's one of the wonderful messages of the gospel is that we can have two heavens one on earth and one geographically finally when the Lord comes so don't be satisfied with less like I've often said if your dad was a billionaire and left you a huge inheritance with many posh houses don't let some cheating lawyer cheat you of that and make you live in a smaller got heart that's exactly what the devil has done so let's spiritually speaking so I would cause you to walk in my statutes and again notice not you should be careful to observe my Commandments or you know it's important that you should know you will I tell you these are the most encouraging verses whenever you get discouraged let's go to Ezekiel 36 verse 25 to 27 and say Lord I just you do it do it in me holiness by faith in Jesus not by effort of our own this is the rest yet he who believes is entered into this rest because he has seized from his own word it says in Hebrews 4 that means he stopped trying to think that he can manage him he's come like to the end of his resources like the disciples who toiled all night to catch fish and caught nothing have you come to the end of yourself things realizing Lord I just can't have a happy married life on my own I joined for a long time Sooey you see how long do you have the toy well that depends on when you realize you can't make it as long as you're still trying to make it well probably gonna call some more years some people realize it within one year some people in 30 years there's no time it depends on how quickly we are honest about our failure to God and how quickly we are willing to humble ourselves and say Lord I can't make it I've been trying for years to have a really happy married life I just don't seem to be able to make it by time all night and I catch nothing and when we catch nothing if he were worldly people it wouldn't matter because we don't have to pretend well people just say do you know do you fight the cornea we do that all the time and then we don't get fed up we divorce and marry somebody else but when you're a born-again Christian you know you're not supposed to do all that so you have to put up a front before people you have to put a minus code you know I'm very happy married couple and thus you start on the pathway of hypocrisy and it just becomes more and more and more and more till you say Lord then second time is hypocritical life what's use pretending we can even put a mask towards each other gradually as husband and wife first we put a mask before other people because we have to show other people in the church that everything's wonderful in our married life everything's ok when it isn't at all I'm not saying we should confess our sins to others but we're so desirous to create a good impression that gradually we become dishonest and the danger comes when finally we put a mask towards each other we're not willing to be open so Jesus said from the beginning so let's go back to the beginning and see how it was then from the beginning it says here when God created man and woman come to a number of things but one of the things is verse 25 of Genesis yes is 225 the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed now you know that's true physically in Maryland that physically were naked women we have a relationship physical reason we're not ashamed otherwise you'd never have children but more than that spiritually to be opened not cover yourself with fig leaves towards each other you see that's a significance you don't have to wear clothes if it's just you and your husband in the room we weren't close when there are others around even children while Adam and Eve try to cover themselves you wouldn't be a feel awkward if the cat was walking around the new world undressing why does Adam and Eve disturb the wooden frame of the animals watching them know something subconsciously they felt about a cover myself I don't I was called myself from Eve because there may be parts of me that she doesn't like and he says I've gotta cover myself am Adam because it may be parts of me that he doesn't like how this happened is to listen the end of the world this covering up from one another in this lack of transparency and honesty she I'm not talking about being honest without partners about all the things we did in our past life I'd either be done was I don't recommend that I'm talking about after we get married Adam and Eve were there was no need to pretend to be spiritual when you're not sometimes that can put a burden on the other person if you are a little more honest about your struggles with your partner you know actually that'll encourage your partner because she's having struggles and she thinks you don't have anything that's what discouraged with her well I'm the only one struggling my husband's perfect he isn't perfect sometimes parents can give that impression to children that we're perfect we think that's the way the Blessed children know I have never in my life wanted any of my children to not think that I'm perfect that they had a perfect father because they didn't I only wanted them to know they're honest father who when he does something wrong I was wrong I'm sorry my mistake that will help them to live a normal Christian life when they grow up those children to be honest and thus pressed on to perfection instead of being disparaged thinking oh my dad was perfect I can never imagine don't fool your children when you know you're not and don't fool your wife or your husband so there's no need for pretense I mean I'm not saying that we should honestly tell your partner a brief thing there may be certain things it's not wise to tell your partner even after your marriage I don't mean in your marriage relationship I mean there are things which you have to be wise God's given us common sense I remember when I was in the Navy I was I had access to secret communication codes and all that because I was a naval officer now if I were married then I certainly wouldn't share that with my wife completely out of the question that's not lack of transparency it's not proper to share certain things and also another example would be if there are some certain pressures that you're facing at work you have to be careful as to whether you share that on with your wife an increase over necessarily burden her with things that she shouldn't be burdened about because she's already got enough burdens at home these are little things that we must be careful about so keep that principle in mind the man and his wife we're naked and were not ashamed that I want to be open and transparent you know within the limits that I just mentioned about certain things which I always say the ultimate purpose of honesty and frankness with your partner is not to clear your conscience oh I get honest you can do it like that you know like people do evangelism to clear their conscience for that I give this fellow a tract always it's bloody be on my hands can imagine Jesus going around preaching like that oh I bet please do this fellow so his blood is not on her head it's evil to do evangelism like that nor do I must not burden another person to relieve my conscience carry your own garden dragon don't relieve your functions and put the burden on somebody else I think a lot of husbands are very busy putting burdens on their wife they should never put out that there are certain things a wife can handle in heaven which he cannot handle on his earth she's a weaker vessel don't forget that that's like you wouldn't make her carry a heavy suitcase when you're travelling you'd carry the heavy one but she thought of it the same way burdens on the mind they're like one should be careful that one doesn't burn ones partner with bird is not meant to care so within the bounds over I said I believe there's a great need for transparency with one another so going back to what Jesus said about from the beginning it says here that and the in verse chapter 1 verse 26 from the beginning let us make man in our image verse 26 of Genesis 1 and let them rule now that's not good grammar right let us make man and let them have you noticed these little things in Scripture he won't notice it if you're trying to read one chapter a day you'll notice it if you read scripture slowly carefully and without any desire to get into the Guinness Book of Records if so how many times you read through the Bible in your life let us make man and let them he jeez God never thinks of man alone it's always man woman then and what that means I'll show you one more verse of that Genesis I don't know that you'll notice that Genesis 5 verse 2 he created them male and female and he blessed them and he named them in the margin it says Adam Hey I thought he named the manaman no no he named the matter who gave Eve her name you know Adam yes Adam she should be called woman anyway my point is it says here God named them Adam that's why a woman changes her name when she gets married to take her husband's name God called both of them together Adam or mr. and mrs. addict I mean her name was Eve but let's now turn to Genesis 1:26 again God said let us make man in our image according to our likeness and let them rule that's the next thing I want you to see that as soon as he was thinking this is still will be created when in verse 27 and 26 before he creates them he says Yarrabah I'm gonna make something new now something never been made in the history of the universe you know the angels are not like this I'm gonna make something in my image in a colorful niche their table you see the Trinity in our image in our likeness and just like three we three are one Father Son and Holy Spirit I'm gonna make something special I'm gonna make them now no two angels are one let me tell you this no two angels can ever be one Father Son and Holy Spirit are one and next to that in this universe God wanted another species little bit of oil man and woman that's why he says he named them Adam he says let us make man and let them just like our our image the plural the plural unity that's been God's desire from the beginning and let me tell you dear brothers and sisters if you don't have that immunity or whatever else you may have on this earth plenty of money and your comfort plenty of children everything name it good Church you have not accomplished God's original purpose as God's original purposes they should be one and when they are one they will be able to rule that means God created man and woman to be king and queen and to rule together but everything under their feet crew over over over over you see the number of times that word overcomes in verse 26 discounted what's it one two three four five times over over over over over one of the blessings again I'm reading the Bible slowly over over I'm supposed to be over a great day you know people who say how are you well under the circumstances I'm okay I said you should never be under the circumstances what do you mean under the circumstances you're okay say over the sides I'm okay over over over over over everything that's God's well it is countable for every single one of us and then you go back to what we read in Ezekiel 36 the remembered verses 25 to 27 I will cause you say Lord how in the world am I going to be over all the circumstances how in the world I'm going to have everything under my feet I will cause you to do it see Ephesians chapter 1 how it's fulfilled in through the new covenant Ephesians chapter 1 it says that I want the eyes of your heart to be enlightened to see what is the tremendous power you know he's speaking about the eyes of your heart verse 18 fusions 1:18 and that you've gotta give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation verse 17 so that you can see and know and you must know what what do you need to know verse 19 the tremendous power that is available to us through verse 20 the resurrection of Christ the resurrection of Christ lifted Christ and put him over over over over over over over over everything and thus and given him to be the head over the body that's us and put all things under our feet you see that everything under our feet because under his feet which says in verse 22 but under his feet but then it goes on to say that his body verse 22 and 23 is the church so the feet are in the body you know that he is the head over the body and then the feet so how many if you notice that before when you read that when everything under his feet means me everything under my feet - this is how my brothers and sisters your family life should be it's God's will for you believe that see if you don't understand what God's will for us is from the beginning we're not going to come there by any type of principles of happy married life for any such thing I mean there are not marriage counselors and books on happy marriages that I mean written thousands of them mostly by a lot of American writers who want to make money it's one of the best subjects on which to make money but this is not to make money this is to show you how you can live a godly life and it's my faith and what God's purpose for me is God wants me to rule and that's what Peter refers to in 1 Peter chapter 3 same thing 1 Peter 3 and verse 7 husbands you know the responsibilities put on husbands first of all 1 Peter 3 verse 7 you must understand this he says you must understand what you must understand what does it mean for husbands to live in an understanding way with their wives it means you must understand she is a weaker vessel why does she cry so easily it's not because you're more spiritual that you don't cry it's because you're a man it's like asking why don't you have grin on your face thank God she doesn't know he's a woman it's a stupid to our certain questions like that hey I've got hair on my face why don't you have hair on your face is that stupid to say I'm not crying while you're crying it's crazy some of the questions husband does hey I'm not bothered by her why exactly the gasping I repair my face why don't you have crazy husbands be understanding that your wife is the weaker vessel there are certain things that disturb her so she has hormonal changes even doctors know that that man never has she is a tendency therefore towards getting easily discouraged and depressed and getting into moods which you never have that's but nothing to do with your spirituality it's got to do with the fact that you're a man and she's a woman here full stop nothing else husband to understand that it's a wonderful thing if you can understand that early in married life I wish somebody had told me this before I got married but Peter says B there was a married man and he obviously wouldn't write what he hadn't practiced he's his husband living at understanding maybe your wife recognized her as a weaker vessel and grown to her owner as a fellow heir of the grace of life fellow heir the word heir is referring to Thrones we go back to Genesis 1 and know where it says they shall rule so Peter saying recognize that this other person you're married to is not a slave but a queen I mean Kings have got slaves and things have got a queen and I presume even the stupid Kings treated that Queens a little better than they treated the slaves don't you think so don't you think even those evil dictators in the world treat their wives a little better than they treat their slaves so understand that your wife is not a servant or a slave but a queen and together rule and it's good for the wife also to recognize that she's not the king this is the Queen if you want to be a queen sister you know how to be a queen simple method make your husband again you'll automatically be a queen because you're married to it so why the husbands are thrilled here then let me say treat your wife like a queen as well so this is because this is how it was in the beginning and there's a grace it says here in 1 Peter 3:7 it's a grace of life I mean this is I think referring to life in every way not just spiritual but life in the whole there's a grace we can receive for life in the fall [Music] where God makes husband-and-wife fellow heirs of this wonderful thing called the grace of life you know it's like it must be a kingdom because kings rule over a kingdom you know in the olden days King used rule over territory here's a territory that God wants husband and wife to rule over all the grace of life on line must be a little bit like heaven on earth that's the greatest inheritance you can give your children remember this I longed for my own children that they would see as I said not a perfect father but an honest father and not a father and mother who were perfect but who were humble and honest and who tried their best to make their home a little foretaste of heaven not just a place where they got their food and holding an education but even the ungodly worldly people do but more than that a little foretaste of heaven that they would see something of the Spirit of heaven and that will naturally increase as we walk with the Lord more and more it doesn't happen from day one I am often thankful that you know God has done it in such a way that until your children are 2 or 3 years old they don't have much memory of what happened at home and God knows the early years in married life you need a time to adjust to one another so God gives you as it were three four years before your children begin to observe and grasp things when you learn to live together bear with one another and if you've been careless about those three four years first years of married life as most married couples are then that period can extend to a much longer period and then the children see strikes and all types of things in the phone they won't say anything with of their small children but believe it or you are they're absorbing it they're absorb absorbing it I'm doing surprised sometimes all you little children say something and say boy I didn't even know he noticed that or she noticed there you know something in nature or something like that it's not only nature they're observing and noticing they're also observing and noticing their parents how they talk to each other I remember a brother once saying how he saw his oldest child speaking a very stern rude way to the younger one and later discovered that she imitated the way he spoke to her so they observed a lot that's why we must really be very very careful and I say if you have if you haven't overcome at least control yourself so that you don't burst out with your violent temper in the presence of your children just hang on to it till you you know can get along with your husband or wife and then if you have not believed in what to do or when to yourself there and to me is like controlling yourself and not going to the toilet in any public place it's as simple as that don't say I can't control you myself and you don't do that when you want to go to the toilet some public kind of control myself in handy it's the same like that don't say I gotta say this now no sister brother you don't have to you can control yourself hang on can you get alone just like God has given us the ability to control the calls of nature in our body you know as we grow older a little children can't I know but all of us can sometimes we can control ourselves for hours when it's not we don't have a convenient place to go to the toilet in the same way if you want to garden God has given us immunity to control our autonomy even without grace because just for the sake of our children it's very much of this to keep that in mind the other thing I want to show you from the beginning Genesis 2 is that God when he wanted when he made he which says God said in verse 18 just like he said something before he made man he says something before he makes the woman he said in verse 2 chapter 2 verse 18 it's not good for man to be alone I'll make him a helper suitable for him now it's very important to recognize that that the number one reason why God made woman was not so that they could have children that was one of the purposes definitely because you read in Genesis 1:28 that God told them be fruitful and multiply but I'll come to that later but before he said that that was said after he was created but before he was created he didn't say I want man to produce more children so that one man needs a helper a helper perfectly suited for him I sometimes have delighteth going to son husbands I'm telling that you know you've got the best wife in this church and I can say that to everybody and I'm not gonna lie and that husband gets excited for exact things I've got the best wife and the change everybody what I mean is I the last part is best waifu church suited for you do you believe her you look around at some of the other wives as a boy I wish I had that one the grasshop cross the fence looks greener until you get there you don't realize the neighbor thinks your grass is greener you don't know what a woman is like didn't live with her so it's because you live so much with your wife that you see all the falls and Follies in her but no you got the best wine for you God's made a wife suited for you because God said that I'll make him a helper suitable for him not suited for somebody else you know it's like these if you break two egg shells supposing you break when I cut another egg shot and take one part from there in one part from here one fit it just doesn't fit at the gaps but if you take the part that was from its own eggs are broken it fits perfectly so God makes is made a helper for you suitable for you don't despise her is God selected her you see but I never prayed about my marriage I'm married and I was under murdered yeah God knew that one day you will become where there's a thing called foreknowledge with God for knowledge and I've seen that in so many cases when I see god-fearing brothers who were married when they're one of them murdered and then about wives would just go along with them in their ministry and in responsibilities in a church I've seen that in so many places that I say I believe in the foreknowledge of God where God sees yeah I know this he's not converted now but one of these days he will be and maybe a non-christian he marries a non-christian wife but one day they get from where did they become ideal Christian husband in one so I believe the foreknowledge of God in God's election I'll make him a helper suitable for me and the word help her you know Jesus used the word helper to refer to the Holy Spirit it's amazing I mean if any of you wives are having a low self-esteem think of that you've got the same name as the Holy Spirit what's the Holy Spirit supposed to do help anything he had chosen all types of awkward situations and yet you don't see him think of a wife like that who's such a fantastic helper to her husband behind the scenes then everybody gives the glory to the husband it doesn't even realize that 75% nobody you because it was worried that's a real helper and she doesn't want the glory you know like like the Holy Spirit a helper but think of these wives were in competition for the limelight in trying to say they're not happy with the limelight their husband is gone they sometimes they're jealous imagine the Holy Spirit getting jealous that I have anointed brother Zack and he gets all the glory and people don't even think it's the Holy Spirit he's not bother am I happy too that means you're really one so going back to the beginning is wonderful then it also says at the beginning that the Lord said to them be fruitful so as I said companionship and fellowship is the primary purpose of marriage and that's important but if you're not a companion to your wife your husband your failed in the number one purpose of man and the other thing is be fruitful Genesis 1:28 God wants us to have the sexual relationship I mean how in the world would this is before sin came into the world by the way sex is not something God permitted after sin came to the world no long before that he expected Adam and Eve to have a sexual relationship and that's not children that's how they were the multiplier even before sex to sin came into the world so therefore we know from Genesis 1:28 sex is not sinful the many things God has made which the devil uses the atom for example you can make an atom bomb to destroy people or you can light up a city with atomic power nuclear power so God has made music for example not for this type of demonic rock music but for glorifying God in the church with good music everything that God has made the devil is abused you can think numerous things whether it's the many things so here also God ordained sex don't ever forget that every husband and wife must recognize that sex is God ordained man many husbands would say I wish my wife realized that I say I wish many husbands would realize that and not lust after other women what about that part he realized that many husbands I wish my wife would know that sex is ordained by God she should give her body to me I say to the husband I wish you would know that sex is ordained by God you shouldn't be giving your you should be giving your eyes only to your wife and not to some heart somebody else this is where selfishness comes in I want my rights as a partner what about her rights and that's to have children so that another generation can grow up and demonstrate heaven in their homes let's bow before God just for a moment stop Heavenly Father help us to live as you want us today husband is one transform our lives this day in Jesus name

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Length: 57min 24sec (3444 seconds)

Published: Mon Mar 15 2010