Gabrielle Bernstein: ON How To Manifest What You Need In Life & What Blocks It

hey everyone welcome back to on purpose than I'm on health podcast in the world thanks to each and every one of you that come back every single week to listen learn and grow thank you so much for giving me time out of your day trusting me trusting us and our incredible community here to help you in your search for greatness for growth for purpose for passion whatever it is that you're seeking and today's guest is Gabby Bernstein now Gabby has actually was one of the first people that I ever interviewed when I was at The Huffington Post and if you go back and watch those interviews they're still on YouTube you'll notice that we hit it off like this we connected immediately we then ended up doing like two three interview straightaway where we have these amazing conversations and we've found so many different ways to collaborate over the last few years but I am so excited for this particular interview because I know this is a subject that's really on your mind it's something that you've really been thinking about so today Gabby's with us to talk to us about her new book super attractor there it is methods for manifesting a life beyond your wildest dreams we are going to put the link into the comment section as well so you can go and purchase the book if you enjoy this conversation which I know you will moving over to the audio interview introduction so Gabby is a New York Times bestselling author of the universe has your back and has written five additional bestsellers she was featured on Oprah super soul Sunday as a next-generation thought leader and the New York Times named her a new role model she appears regularly as an expert on the dr. Oz Show and co-hosted the Guinness world record largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra in her new book super attractor Gabby reveals how to manifest the life you desire Gabby thank you for being here you nailed it when you said that we were magic when we first met it was like I remember walking out of that interview and saying to my publicist he's a superstar I love him I want to be his friend was the first thing I said and then I said I want to do more with him that's just the beginning and I remember a few months after that I called you up and I was just like Gabby can you be my mentor okay you were my mentor no no no no and I meant that it was just like it was so real because I was just like I'd I just started interviewing at that time and when you're interviewing a lot and you don't you're still I was so new when I first met you in in this at least in this awful online external world and it was a very good time for me to really observe who deeply connected and you deeply connected Deepak deeply connected like there's some people from that time so I look back and I look at you today and I was just like you're my friend I really appreciate you I've learned so much from you you've always been just a call away and I'm so excited for people to learn from you again with another amazing book so in this book you talked about something that I think what I was just sharing with you earlier I think this is a subject that so many people are speaking about very superficially yeah it's very sub level I read a lot of articles on manifesting I don't read many deep books on manifesting and I hear a lot of the same stuff everywhere so when I looked at this I was like oh here we go like now we're gonna get really deep so tell me let's let's start right off the bat tell me where are we going wrong with manifesting like what are the biggest mistakes the myths the things that are not really the right places question well first of all I think that the reason that you're feeling that way about this book is because it's actually not a book about manifesting it's a book about feeling good and the key to manifesting and the key to being a super attractor is to be aligned with feeling good and that doesn't mean that we feel good all the time but our deepest desire isn't to get that thing to feel good enough and feel good it's to feel good so that we can allow whatever we need and whatever is it the highest good to come into our life and that's where I think some of the wobbliness maybe shows up when it comes to manifesting is this idea that I can think it and it will be and that's true you know you can you can think and think and think to the point of belief and then that can actually come in to form but more importantly we need to really make it our commitment and our devotion to feel good and that may mean looking at some of our shadows that may mean having the willingness to change our mind all throughout the day and that may mean being more committed to our well-being and our personal growth than we ever had before but in the pursuit of feeling good having a good life and being a super attractor yeah amazing so actually starts with us what I'm hearing you say is just that we know that it's not about getting that thing yeah but the challenge is that somehow in that pursue it always becomes about that even if that thing is something elusive like a title or a status or you know being on a list or whatever it may be like it ends up being that way how did you you said something really interesting to me when you walked in you would and I was congratulating you because the books already a New York Times bestseller right the books been number one on the list which is unbelievable it's been like three three five and six three weeks in a row okay number one on Amazon yeah number one on Amazon Web all right so it's been so it's good all that but and I said that you and I congratulated you and I showed you a picture that you posted I was like this is amazing and you said something really interesting to me yes say what you said everybody said that the reason that it's number it's on these lists is because I don't give a [ __ ] like I stopped caring all I cared about with this book this is my seventh book and all I cared about with this books and many of my other books I really cared about lists and things like that but this book and that didn't mean that there wasn't major service behind them and the primary intention being to serve because if that wasn't the case they wouldn't have had success but my agenda was different at times and you knows more in the marketing of it and this time around I was like I'm gonna show up and do my part but I'm just gonna have fun I'm gonna feel good I'm gonna relax and I'm not gonna think about it you know the day that my publishers called me and said the book is on the list I didn't even realize it was Wednesday which is the day I could have cared less I wasn't thinking about it all I didn't even recognize the day it was and that's been happening every week every Wednesday I keep getting these text messages always number five is number six and I'm like oh yeah it's Wednesday okay cool you know and I'm celebrating it but I'm celebrating it mainly from the perspective like like today these these you know this acknowledgment of the these lists and things really just represent that it's helping people yes exactly myself which i think is which iving is such an important thing to celebrate that's right because we're celebrating the fact that a book about being a super attractor is growing as opposed to a book about something negative or something talks there is that yeah definitely and I also seeing like I wrote this book because I wanted to feel good and so I'm seeing that I knew that if it made me feel good which it did what cases were even returned to it on my own to read it I knew that if I was making me feel good that it was definitely gonna make the reader feel good and that's that's today I was at lunch and a woman you know grabbed me and was like look I just had the audiobook right now and I'm listening to you right now and I was like awesome and she said it's making me feel so good I said well then I've done my job mm-hmm I love that that's awesome now you've you've talked a lot about how you know we're living at a time when there's a lot of competition there's a lot of comparing there's a lot of you know me versus this or competitors and peers and all that kind of stuff and but in this book you know and a lot of that makes us feel like what I'm hearing you say you're like oh nothing fun like I'm enjoying it but a lot of us turn to being strict with ourselves whereas you take an approach of saying let's be compassionate with us tell me about that almost paradox cuz we almost feel like okay well if I'm competing I need to get more organized and more strict and more whereas you actually saying no be more compassionate yeah what are the biggest blocks to being a super attractor is the comparison and the belief that there's not enough to go around and I actually wrote a whole chapter in the book called there's more than enough to go around and it's for that person that's like the pusher or that identified in the book the person that's like if I don't do it it won't happen and everybody around me is better than me or I'm not or I'm better than everybody else and that separation and that judgment that self attack and all the ways that we feel unworthy and so when we started to identify the ways that we're pushing and controlling we can begin to unpack that and I guide the reader in the book to unpack that behavior and to recognize how much it's blocking someone from from allowing and letting with a desire to come into their life because the real secret is to feel good the secret is to love where you are in the moment and not compare yourself to where you think you should be because once you start just being psyched about what is more of what you desire comes to you and I can stand behind that wholeheartedly mmm wholeheartedly tell me about one event in your life where you feel you've really felt and I know this probably loads loads you know just even the book I read a lot about a lot of it like you know big things that have occurred in my life you know being called by the producers of Oprah and saying no we want her to be on the show that that happened be an eye they said oh I've been waiting for this call for ten years thank you I didn't say oh my god it finally happened you know what I mean it was like I just was in a sense of knowing and even when when I got to the place where I started to apply these principles I tried to conceive for three years and you know what I've talked very openly about that by the time I really did the work on that struggle and that push and that control I was at such ease and had faith that I knew my baby was on the way and I started to receive a lot of signs a lot of synchronicity there's a story in the book I could share yeah so this is just an example but it starts to feel like when you're in your super attractor energy and you're in a place of allowing and synchronicity and guidance and allowing whatever your higher power means to you whatever whether it's God or spirit or inspiration or higher self I don't care what you call it but tuning in tapping in if someone's like I don't believe in any spiritual stuff just you know they probably Dukes are watching you but if they don't they could you know go to the place of saying my voice of inspiration intuition [Music] Casa de Bie Lutron office smart lighting control brought to you by pioneers in smart home technology kassetas smart dimmers and switches replace the switch in your wall making all of the lights that switch controls act smart there's literally so many places in your home where a switch controls more than one bulb it could be your ceiling lights your chandeliers and so many more you can 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and track my ovulation and all that crap and then about the fall of 2017 I started to get into more of a surrendered state and I started practicing the methods that I teach in the book of just really trusting that there was a higher guidance that I believed in for my whole life and relying on that and that's when things started to get really wild and synchronistic and so around the fall of 2017 I was driving in the countryside where I live most of the time and this is where I do the majority of my manifesting is just driving in the car looking at the foliage listening to my mantra music and I feel so awesome when I'm in that position and I'm just so grateful in the moment and I'm driving and I'm driving I'm like I feel so awesome and so grateful that I live in this country town and have all these friends and I don't have any cell service right now and I'm so psyched about that and no one's bothering me and I feel good and then all of a sudden I felt the presence of a baby in the back seat and I was like wow like deeply moved tears started to roll down my face I felt so moved and at that point I heard my intuition say to me the baby's coming in March and I was like and it was so loud like you know when you hear the voice of your inspiration like that's it okay I believe and so I started saying to myself over and over like oh my god March you know I have to conceive at this time for the baby to come to work I saw myself getting a little into it like two into it and hooked into it so I said okay listen you know what universe I'm gonna give this over and if my baby is indeed coming in March show me a sign show me lilies to let me know that the baby's coming in March and a week later I got in a letter in the mail from a reader and it had this angel card in it and on the back of it was this picture of Archangel Gabriel and Archangel Gabriel is typically depicted holding lilies so I was like yo this is dope and on the back he wrote I thought that you needed this it was like thank you good so here I am March March is coming March is happening and early March rolls around and I wasn't pregnant so it was like what the hell and not only was I devastated once again another month has gone by I'm not pregnant but this time I was like I thought the universe had my back like I was getting signs like what what's the OP was up so I walked into my husband's office and I was just hysterically crying so upset so defeated and it's um my phone was like on the desk like right here and all of a sudden my phone started playing a song and the song was just repeating repeating and so I go like you know and your phone malfunctions I was gonna turn that off I was like okay I'm gonna get out and then I look at the phone I start listening to lyrics and the lyrics are juego Lily juego lily and the guy keeps repeating Wego lily and then I look even further and I look at the name of the song as we go Lily noose keeps repeating Lily and I look even further and the album title is I see the sign and where was this plane where what area of your phone this is my phone just turned on oh no that's good you know it's Spirit working through the technology and so my phone just turned on it was an album but I had never heard I'd never heard the song before it wasn't in my Spotify and it just began playing now get this so I get April rolls around and I'm pregnant but then I did the math and I was like when did I conceive I conceived the last day of March so that synchronicity you know you hear March you find your signs you feel super guided that synchronicity is available to all of us but it's when it had we have to get out of that pusher mentality and out of that controlling behavior to allow the presence of spirit to work through us and guide us and or the universe or whatever use whatever you call it to be the presence of Direction inspiration to be that guide yeah that's beautiful thank you for sharing that know what that what fascinates me about stories like that is that I can you know hearing you tell it and you're looking at the signs and you also at times like I love the honesty and the openness of like you're like actually you know I walked into my husband's office defeated yeah there was a day when ya didn't feel like it was going yeah and then I doubted it so I loved hearing that because I think that just shows that we're all human and we have those moments but what I'm intrigued by is when someone doesn't feel that our voice is loud for them yeah of intuition of inspiration of God of the universe and I know you can talked about this in other books but I feel like so many people listening right now they're like yeah Gaby you can hear that but I can't yeah yeah yeah like what is that person do what do they need to do to hear better they don't want to sound cliche but read the book I mean look I mean that's not my answer I'm gonna give you a better answer than that but this book is about is for that person that's saying I'm blocking my inspiration you know I went on my Instagram and I was like how many of you I did a poll and I said how many of you are blocking your manifesting and ninety six percent said yes yeah and there's a note I call it out I call it the ways that we block and I end this whole book is methods for unblocking and and the thing is is that you know the thing that's most important is if you trust that if you're watching this right now that you are in fact being guided so even if you don't feel that guidance you can hear that inspiration there's no way that you would have listened to this specific podcast in this specific moment if you were not indeed being guided mmm okay so just take that in fully and completely and then your next step is to recognize the guidance and then follow the guidance you receive whether it's read this book or not this book may be another book maybe after this podcast you're led to another author on your podcast and then that's the book that you need or that's the the therapist that you need to find it doesn't have to be me but but but stay open and when when you have an intuition to listen to a podcast or it's when you're feeling free and you make a decision to do something it's when you're in a place of of you know no agenda just a place of joy inspiration relaxation and you start to listen to something or guide just that's that's when you're really listening that's when you're really receiving guidance so I think anyone that's listening to you is listening but they just may not realize it right yeah and I think I think the biggest challenge when I'm hearing what you're saying the biggest challenge people have is we think of like what you're saying it's like we always look at things as black and white yeah thank you either hustle or I teach I'm just gonna sit here and wait for it to happen right and you're not really talking about sitting here in this book there's a chapter called spiritually aligned action mm-hm and this is a method that I've been practicing throughout my entire career and it's been the key to my successes and my happiness and my joy and everything and then the times when I haven't been applying it you know things didn't work out yeah so it's spiritually aligned action and the first step is to recognize what is my desire and how is it backed with joy love and service well okay and so you know the reason we're sitting here right now is because everything you've been doing for a very short period of time has been backed with love and service and joy and it's taken off because you're into it you're having fun right you're having fun joy is the catalyst the second step now somebody might be thinking like I want to lose weight how is that fact with service I don't get that and I would say that person well when you lose that way you feel better you have more energy to give to your children you are clearer you'll no longer have brain fog your gut feels better you can you know bring more energy to your life to your work that's service to the world there's no but it's it's checking your desires and making sure it's I don't want that so that I can feel happy I want that so I can bring more light to the world yes okay that's the step the second step of the spiritual aligned action method is to believe all right so to believe that you're worthy of it to you've that the universe is guiding you to have some kind of faith that that you can let go and allow okay that faith has to be backing this and then the third step is to take action from that place take a spiritually blind action from the place of love service and faith that's where you take action so if you're gonna pick up the phone and make a cold call about a new job don't do it from your place of like panicked fear and anxiety do the work to get into a place of recognizing the service behind it and really feeling into the faith that that that the good things can come to you yeah and then the final step is to be patient not people don't like that stuff but patience comes when you strengthen your faith yeah yeah absolutely so the point is is that this isn't a method on this isn't a book on just sitting on your ass and meditating and thinking things are gonna come to you this is a book on getting aligned and then taking action from that place of alignment and so you might you might agree with me on this like I can in one hour I can do more than the average person can do in a day or two days mmm okay and that's because I do things from inspiration hmm and so when you're inspired you're in spirit and you are expanding time you're given more energy and you just can get you know everything's download fast yeah 100% yeah yeah no no I I under bazinga I definitely think that we can stretch time yeah definitely again stretch time and and I love that description that step that method is great by the way as in it's like we know people are watching you there they want to take action they want to feel proactive in their life but I think most people are taking action from a place of stress fear uncertainty pushing controlling if I don't make it happen it's not gonna happen that belief system is blocking your super attractor power yeah absolutely and I actually experienced that last year I was sharing and making a lot of videos and I started committing more to craying more amazing content that I loved and enjoyed and we made some amazing videos last year and the number one thing ice to hear from everyone else and this wasn't the voice in my head this was the voice of the noise of outside was Jay when are you gonna get like media like when it when is like someone you know when is media gonna take notice of you like when is this gonna be and it was so interesting because that last point you made of it was patience yeah that had to be Pratt tist yeah and for me it was not like oh my god that's gonna and I was like that's interesting because people are saying that that's when they all accept that this is successful right and I just say I had to make a choice yeah whether I was gonna let that definition define that I yeah successful now or do I feel successful now because I'm doing what I love every day and I really enjoy it and helping people beautiful and and I think that was such a distinct thing for me because and then when I let go of that and had that patience then this year a lot of that came then you're on Ellen you know that came totally organically none of it was maneuvers you didn't care you weren't trying you were having fun exact you were a prime example of what it means to be a super attractor you're enjoy you're having fun you're not attached to the outcome that's how your entire career began I'm not attached to the outcome and I'm just gonna do something in the in service and love and inspiration and it's gonna become this thing and that's how I've felt my career - yeah and what about when so I love what you you gave a great example there of how people are scared you know like you don't want people to pick up the phone call in that fear you want them to be rejoicing how do people make that switch from fear to join service if someone's honest with themselves and they say Gabby right now I'm just scared like I'm just living in I would tell someone like sometimes you just have to pick up the phone and ask for the job because this is the window you have so I would you know say meditate before and say prayers before and turn it over and prepare prepare energetically to the best of your ability and then also think about this is a big one like think about how that desire is back with service and love because as soon as you get into that energy you feel good and it's no longer about what you think you need it's about bringing something greater to the world and so when I would want something big in my life whether it was a media placement or a baby or anything I was always if I felt like I was strangling the desire I would always return to why this was going to bring light to the world and that I mean that's where and that's where the moment you go there you feel better yeah and that's the action that you want to take place from that place of action good person I am I'm so happy that you're saying this right now because I couldn't agree more yeah that's the only thing that keeps me going makes you wake up in the morning I said to people all the time like I believe there are there are service-driven creators entrepreneurs businesspeople list goes on and then there are lifestyle business people entrepreneurs etc lifestyle people are the ones that do it because they want to live on a beach and have a comfy life and then the service ones are the ones are just gonna keep doing it when you're on your 7th book right now I'll be reading books the rest my life yeah exactly and if that isn't services I'm writing a new one right now know what don't focus on this I said we gotta focus on this one okay I'm working on I'm working on an audible original okay yeah yeah and it's of course it's not okay but yet knows it yeah it's sort of an audio experience yeah but it is nonfiction self rap yeah cool I'm excited for that sounds totally well it's only audible starting off was only audible and then I can in a year from then turn it into a book if I want to but it sounds fun yeah I love that yeah that's awesome tell me about you've said that you're no longer in that hustle mode but you have been before oh yeah yes it's really not there right so was that were you still being a super tractor dad yeah was that locking you know like it was murky right because I was attracting a lot but I was probably really limiting my capacity and so it's like you know we we often you know don't realize that like we are we were functioning at a fraction of what we're capable of and so I definitely was like even though I was hustling and I was having fun and I was in service and I was enjoy things were happening you know books were coming out they were they were having you know helping people saving lives right but I but I was definitely blocking the full capacity of what I could be creating and giving because I was I was hustling I was a work addict you know for many big reasons right you know I've talked very publicly about you know didn't realize that I had had trauma until I remembered it in 2016 it was when I remembered my trauma that I started to truly heal my addictive patterns you know I was like I got sober 14 years ago and then that's amazing and then I you know and then I and then I became a work addict and and I always felt like oh my work is in the pursuit of something so magical and so great in such great service that it's okay to be a work at it hell no hell no it took me down but then I remembered my trauma and then in the recovery from really healing my trauma past and really working really through it and becoming more and more free and more free today than I've ever been in that journey I started to see that that the that the pushing and the controlling was the the and the opposite of who I believed I wanted to be and so at that point I I really just started to accept that I didn't I could have a no-stress policy and that I could do less and attract more I could begin to rely on other people and could look you know I could have been in the same position right having a team having publishers that were supporting me all that and still not letting go I could have still been fully in control try to hold everything even with those resources so it doesn't matter like what you have it's about your mental choice and so in that choice I said you know I'm gonna focus on my art I'm gonna focus on my gift and I'm gonna allow the university to support me and work through people and I'm gonna give it over yeah so I'm relaxed I love that would you saying that that early phase the hustle was critical and would you say for others it it is as well I wouldn't change it right if I had I been aware of my trauma you know or had I not had trauma behind it I could have had the hustle without so much pain hmm there was a lot of pain and suffering in that hustle but I wasn't able to recognize at the time because I felt so proud and so excited about what I was doing I wasn't able to recognize I was in a tremendous amount of pain mm-hmm so yeah so if someone's listening and they're thinking whoa Gabby I'm really working hard right now you'd say as long as you're dealing with that trauma that's there or you're reflecting on well where is it working really hard and it's because you're trying to prove yourself because you have a wound that you haven't healed then go help go heal the wound go to it because everything will follow if you're working really hard because you think you need to get ahead or whatever there's probably a wound there right I didn't believe system that like if I'm not pushing I'm controlling it's not gonna happen and so you know I think that the thing I would tell my younger self is that you know trust more and no actually don't think I would tell my younger self anything because I think everything worked out exactly as it was meant to mmm-hmm yeah I read somewhere recently that a lot of successful people in general whether spiritual or not have to have the belief that everything happened at the right time or everything happens for a reason and when I read that I thought interesting because so many people see it as a cliche throw away but when I read that actually both spiritual and non spiritual successful people wouldn't say that that's how they see things because you're now looking at life as life is taking care of me you're now looking at life is teaching me when I need to life is keeping me where I am where I need to be seeing the difficult moments as opportunities that are revealing to you what you still need to heal and so when you when you flip your perspective of the difficult times and choose to see those difficult times as a spiritual assignments to grow to be to be closer to your source to inspiration love joy then it turns it turns into a miracle you know I just I'm five months into recovery from postpartum depression and anxiety and insomnia which was Jay that most the the I'm gonna say the f-word but the most [ __ ] up experience of my life and right now I'm really feeling great and I'm feeling really proud and really grateful that that happened because I can help save women's lives as a result of being able to talk about it with authenticity I can help be a better voice for mental illness because I've experienced it I can be a guide for people who need medical support when they really need it and I wouldn't change a thing absolutely and thank you for sharing that again and talking so openly about it I think that's ultimately like the underlying to any major cuz we're talking about Victor Franco obviously in man search for meaning talks why it's so beautifully of just like how he couldn't make that situation good yeah but he knew that if he dealt with in the right way that would then teach people in the future that's right and and I think that that's such a great it's always the underlying to any pain yeah because you're right that in that moment you couldn't be just happy in it now burst out into light laughter but you know that that experience has now given you a whole new group of people to serve and share totally totally and I think all of us who anyone who's listening right now we're watching right now and going through any sort of pain I genuinely think that's the underlying point if you can't find any other answer that probably is it yeah that you're you're being sent a particular gift yeah that you will then be able to yeah other people yeah I really hope that the people can take that in and you know write in the book that the the key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad and that could be really offensive to certain people out there that are depressed or broke or you know ill or you know whatever it may be but I tell the story of my postpartum as a true honest authentic example of how when I was in the most the darkest moment of my life suicidal suicidal that I could still decide to feel good in the most subtle ways so like allowing myself to accept support was a way of allowing myself to feel good right we're deciding to feel good being open to a medical path that I never would have contemplated being on was a decision to feel good right so it's there was a lot of that decision that that decision making in that dark low moment so somebody is in a critical moment right now listening to this the fact that they're listening was a decision to feel good mmm absolutely yeah how do you how do you take that almost like the crazy high in low of light you know you you've waited you've thought about it you're super attracted a beautiful baby and then you go through depression afterwards and it's like how do you go through that in your mind from the point of view of like the extreme high of waiting for this being patient for it it's amazing and then the next thing you know you're at one of the lowest points like how do you mentally even just give rally around that I think that my faith is what got me through because I knew I was being guided even if I felt at the darkest time I knew that I was being guided and when I started to really surrender was when the guidance could really come through and now in recovery I have actually quite grateful for it because I have liked in even greater appreciation for my son that I probably would have had I not been through it because every moment that I have with him I'm just like relishing in it because because when I wasn't in that space and I couldn't recognize him and I was scared of him I I now know that I can celebrate the great joy of not being there mm-hmm yeah it's just it fascinates me because whenever I'm listening to you even in the book it's like faith comes out so strongly mm-hmm and I think that's ultimately where so many people feel so challenged by because they're like what do I have faith in right well that's my all my books are really about helping people decide what they have faith in right and giving them an opportunity to crack open to a higher power of their own understanding as they say in the 12 steps a higher power of your own understanding and you know that language is is very free that clears a lot of freedom in that language because anyone that's listening I don't I don't care if they call it God I don't care if they call it universe I don't even care if they just call it inspiration you know inspiration someone maybe like I don't think there's something outside of me but I know that I can receive inspiration and when I follow these steps I'll feel that inspiration and I intuition that's perfect yes your approach is when you start to have faith in that inspiration then life gets easier yeah and I think that's what it is and I love that you've just said that that's what your books are about I think ultimately life is a path of us figuring out what we have faith in because you're gonna have to have faith right whether it well I think a lot of people walk around sorry to interrupt you but they walk around or anything that they that their their faith relies in their own will and that's where they get into a lot of trouble right really really be learning to live in a way where we are no longer it's not my way or the highway we are starting to have this trust that we can turn things over and we can lean into a better feeling and then be guided yeah then then life gets really groovy I mean just over the last few days it's like at one point I was just feeling like a little beat up because I've been like running and moving and I'm here traveling with my family and I was just feeling it and then I just said to my I said I prayed and I said thank you spirit and you know energy of the highest good from for for giving me strength and giving me energy to get through all these beautiful opportunities and to show up for them with joy and and and service and and not you know not being overtired and beaten down yeah and as soon as I said that prayer I mean energy just started to move through me mhm and even though I'm tired I'm super pumped to be here and I'm super pumped to go to the next thing and you know yeah so it's easy to say when you're doing awesome things like this but but it I needed that strength yeah and so I think that once we start to have that relationship with our higher power we can stop trying to control things and we can give them away yeah and and I think I mean when when you were saying that it's unfortunate that I'm only thinking of a fiction movie but I think it's an important reference I have you seen dr. strange no okay so dr. strange is awesome you would love okay and and the great I'm gonna give away the whole movie now so maybe you should okay spoilers I have to say I have the amazing thing about the movie is it's based on a doctor who's highly reputed who really understands his craft and his faith is in his hands yeah and his ability to heal people yeah as a surgically healed people not not spiritually heal people and what ends up happening is he has an accident which takes away his physical ability to have the stability in his hands to perform any surgical procedure that he then turns to alternative parts yeah now it's a fiction story but I'm and I would love to hear if you know anyone who's had a similar story we hear about so many stories like that or meet I mean so many people like that who were billionaires initially and valued everything they had in their money and then they lost that money and then that changed them or someone who had a value in one of their physical attributes where there was their beauty or their strength and then that was taken away from them but then they found it somewhere else and I think that's what I find so incredibly telling of what you're saying right now is the best example of it is that you find that that when your faith is simply in your physical self it's just consistently broken body identification yes and when you're stuck in that body identification you've disconnected from your spirit self and the spirit identification I have a whole chapter in the book called lift the veil mm-hmm my favorite chapter in the book and I really pushed them at a physical envelope there and and it's and it's really really talking about how we we when were in that body identification you know my I am you know this person and I am this author I am this this business owner or doctor or whatever we're actually blocking our greatest source of power mm-hmm so when we start to you know use our bodies as a vessel through which we let spirit work through us that might sound really heady for people but I can bet I can unpack it do it I'm parking yeah I think that we start to recognize that it's it's how can I make this not too heady huh when we start to recognize that when we are attuned with the feeling of inspiration I keep going back to inspiration to use as the dimension is defying words I would call it spirit but inspirations the same thing we allow ourself to be really in tune with this inspiration we actually as we said before it can expand time the the the beautiful message that you give to your child comes through you when you stop thinking about what you're supposed to be saying and you allow what needs to come through and so we're no longer in the body and the pretense of what we think we should be doing and we're actually in our spirit self using the body as a vehicle through which we express the truth and so when we can make that adjustment you know you're unstoppable yeah and that requires a set of daily practices like commitments because I feel like getting to that point of even being able to let something work through you takes time right like it takes your it's not something that happens it's not something you can turn on and turn off instantly your posture it's possible for someone to turn it on and and have that quantum shift but okay but most people I think they have to we've spent they spent 30 you know 40 50 60 70 years even 10 years deterring interfere as a Course in Miracles would say yeah the course calls it the descent from magnitude into littleness right so going down that fear-based path repurposing it replaying it recycling it making you know creating more and more of it and really believing in it that you know the years that you spend in that that detour into fear it's gonna take a little while to unpack that and undo that but it doesn't mean need to take as much time as it took to get there right so that's where a spiritual path comes in that's where even a personal growth path you're just listening to you and just following this podcast is it part of the process of unpacking and undoing the ego so you know it's it doesn't have to be a painful journey that's the other thing is people don't you know people think oh it's you know spirituality such a so much work well you know have fun along the way enjoy it even if you're having tough experiences celebrate the miracle moments yeah I always find that it's it's in hindsight it's always the process that you fall in love with late it's almost like and it isn't hindsight but you have to start using that hindsight to do it in it's almost like before I used to look back at things that I solved and I was like I was so fun trying to figure it out and so now I'm like okay let me just have fun figuring it out that's right right is it make sense yeah yeah I can look back you know I said like all these years I'd been suffering but I can look back and be like I had a lot of fun mm-hmm you know I was suffering I was going through stuff I wasn't aware of what I was needing to heal I was trying to heal I was you know having anxiety whatever it was but I was in the pursuit of feeling good and so that commitment continued to guide me to feeling more and more health and well-being mm-hmm what if everyone's listening right now and they're like Gaby I'm ready I'm gonna try I'm gonna get this book because I think I I need to uh I because what I think you're doing and I and I love that you do this and I said this to my team before you came it's like I really think you're spiritually challenging people today yeah and I think that's a good thing I think we need that yeah because it's easy to sit on the side of just you know just the visible mm-hmm and you're really pushing people into the invisible and every time I speak to you or I read your work or I think about what you do for the world I really think that's what you do I think that's your superpowers and you're you're really good at challenging and pushing enough to provoke people but not enough not to my where people are like oh my god says I don't even wake them up yeah yeah which we've talked about before like to awaken people if someone's like J Gabi I'm gonna to buy the book that I'm gonna read the book I'm gonna start making commitment how can they get the most out of this book how should they read it how should they approach it how should what should they be thinking of hmm good question I would say just be open and willing to see things differently and take what works and resonates and don't don't take what doesn't okay because if it doesn't resonate then you're gonna you have another should you know I should be thinking like that and the other thing that also happens with books from me often is something will resonate the first read and then three years later I'll read it and it's like a whole new book you know yes so trust that just let yourself be cool with that yeah and don't don't judge your process and I always say to people like if you take one lesson from this book your life will change to 51 even one in terms of guides in in your life when you were writing this book hmm where were you finding those moments of inspiration coming to you like what how was that happening what does that feel like one of my mentors is days I'm not saying it was yes even though he's not in the physical form anymore is dr. Wayne Dyer and so he's actually been able to mentor me even more in the spiritual realm and I write about him a lot in the book and so I've have experienced Wayne right through me and speak through me and anyone has the capacity to connect to spirit I think there's a whole book he talks about that's right yeah so Wayne is my mentor and I can I can feel his presence as I write and as I speak and he you know I think that he in many ways wants to use those of us who are willing to speak on behalf of love and if we're willing to let him he'll be there mm-hmm that's awesome that's amazing it's crazy to even think that but I I've said to people so many times that you can be mentored by people you didn't even meet oh yeah and you know I had a relationship with in the human form but I actually said to him but even if I hadn't it wouldn't matter he could still be there and I said to his assistant he had one assist in his entire career and I saw her at an event last week and I said Maya you know Wayne had a big impact on me when he was alive but he's having a much bigger impact I mean and did she feel the same way she's like yeah I understand yeah well that's amazing that's awesome yeah me I love this we and every interview cuz I know you've got a million things that you need to go through as well we end every interview with a final five which is our final fast five which means you have to answer in either one word or one sentence okay now I always break the rules with this and I ask everyone to talk more longer than five but here we go so your first question that I really really want to ask you is what have you recently started doing in your life that has brought you the most peace being fully present with my son okay like putting the phone away and I mean there's no greater way to practice presence than be with a young person that's beautiful I can't wait to me he's so you and you meet my child you're gonna be like what you know he's so lit up he's a really amazing person sorry I'm sure everyone says that about their own oh that's great he's so fabulous he's so fast what's nice is you he's amazing question number two where do you think you're still holding your self back on this journey to be super attractive what else citizen trauma work I'm still working on okay but now I met a place where I feel safe enough to go to those darker places I'm doing really heavy lifting I'm doing a lot of EMDR therapy this is not one sentence are you yeah yeah and EMDR therapy is eye movement desensitization and process reprocessing and its bilateral brain functioning so you have a buzzer in either hand or in either ear or you're moving your eyes back and forth and it it's it's activating both sides of the brain while you're talking about a trauma or a disturbance and so much like emotional freedom technique it unlocks that that energetic disturbance Wow and so you can have a you know full trauma leave your body and you can walk out of one EMDR session feeling pretty new oh wow that's amazing yeah I recommend it to everybody where are you doing that you I have EMDR therapists up in the country where I live and then I also have a therapist in the city that does it with me amazing thank you for sharing that okay great question number three what's the last kind thing you did for a stranger someone you didn't know a lot of things I've been really so I think becoming a mom I become even more compassionate then all of these are being answered in multiple sentences but I don't that's fine that's very long they're all deep question I've become much more compassionate so I don't know I can't I can't stop on the street and see a homeless person without giving them a 20 like I can't like I like like or more like I just can't unless I think that there's drugs involved and I just don't want to you know feed the habit I I am my sober anniversary my 14 years of sobriety I went on my Instagram like no plan like hadn't told my team this like went rogue in the morning woke up one of my Instagram and just started writing and I was like I'm sober 14 years I want anyone that is needing to get clean or needing support in your recovery to have a copy of my book Bureau junkie and I will send you a copy and my team was like they wrote back to me and they'd responding to all these people and they were like this we're saving lives thank you I feel submit my my head of customer care was like I've never felt better than today just feeling that love of being able to send thousands of books to people and yeah the books are out that felt good question number four what book has moved you recently mmm I'm studying the work of dr. Sarno and uh yeah he wrote how to heal back pain and the mind-body prescription and the divided mind and I'm going to go deep into the to educating myself on how to teach that work but the concept being that our physical pain and and and and physical illness is based on a root cause condition that we you know uh impermissible rage and impermissible trauma and things that we were unwilling to feel no dream on yeah and that's the hardest part yeah you're feeling physically yeah you trying all the physical ill it's really hip because what he suggests is that when you visit when you feel it physically it's actually your so your unconscious brain has this trauma or this rage and your conscious brain is like nope we're not going to feel that so I'm going to put it on your back and it in and then physically what's happening is you're sending that attention to the back and so there's no oxygen going to the back and so there's pain and inflammation and uh it's a really incredible book that's crazy but all of the vaulters books doctor sorry recommendation thank you and the fifth and final question is what's something you are certain about that recently you changed your mind on something that you were like so clear about and you're like okay actually I'm I've evolved that thought- mmm-hmm I appreciate you thinking mmm certain and then I changed my mind well something that was pretty set and then you reflected on its evolve doors reveal something new I think in my marriage I think that I've had a lot of beliefs of like you know you know you think you're right the other one thinks they're right and I've I've in the past year really accepted that that the only right answer is to honor each other's feelings not to fight for what you think is right mmm I love that that's beautiful yeah that's great and when you say oh no you mean just I'm back honor for me just to say I hear you okay I honor you yeah even if you think they're being [ __ ] you know honor that they have a experience and a feeling and emotion rather than trying to start pretty oh don't defend yourself don't don't manipulate it don't you know if you're in a healthy relationship that's you know I'm not an abusive relationship but to be able to look at somebody and say okay I don't see it that way maybe you didn't think that yourself I don't see it that way but I see your suffering and I see that you're feeling something and I honor your feelings and the thing that I've also learned from that is the greatest gift you can give a child is to honor their feelings mm that's beautiful that's Micah Matz my commitment Oliver I love that that's great thank you Gaby thank you so much for your time today thank you for doing this thing being ill-favored Ryan is booked everyone who's been listening and watching make sure you go grab super attractor we'll put the link in the comments as I said if you've enjoyed this conversation the book dives so much more deeply into each and every one of these aspects and as you can hear from the way Gaby speaks it's very methodical it's for a logical she really unpacked and break things down so there's step by step processes here it's not just thought and reflection it's really packaged in a way that will help you live it so go and grab the book thank you again Gaby for being here so great I love to be here is very mutual mutual and I can't wait to hang out more yeah well yeah we need to figure that out PN thank you

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Length: 49min 31sec (2971 seconds)

Published: Mon Dec 23 2019