FAMILY LIFE 2021 | MARITAL INFIDELITY | SEPTEMBER 11TH 2021 | 10AM | PASTOR TONEY MAPP

[Music] [Music] so [Music] so [Music] so [Music] to [Music] so [Music] so [Music] so [Music] happy sabbath once again church family and welcome to five reverse seventh-day adventist churches live stream service today we unfold part five of our seven part family life cyber series entitled a fresh start a new beginning with god we were blessed last week when god's humble servant pastor samson explored ephesians chapter 5 and explained to us that marriage reveals god's perfect image when husbands and wives walk in the way of love we were reminded that we are to be intentional in understanding each other's stories backgrounds and concerns now if you've missed last week's program you can always go back on our youtube channel and view the program so that you and your families can be enriched today we have with us pastor tony mapp president of the tobago mission of sda churches speaking to us on the topic of infidelity past the map also returns this afternoon at 3 p.m where he will discuss the topic of in-laws few marital problems cause as much heartache and devastation as marital infidelity it undermines the very foundation of marriage itself hebrews 13 verse 4 says marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure for god will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral may god guide us today brethren please share the link and let us seek god's guidance in the life of our family please join me as we pray heavenly father mighty god a god who knows all things it is to you this morning we come to for guidance father when it comes to the decisions of this life after choosing you one of the greatest decisions one of the greatest commitments we will ever make on this side of eternity is that of the marriage decision their father on our wedding day that decision to remain committed for better or for worse in sickness and in health till death do us part their father that marriage covenant is a sacred one-day court and unfortunately many dear fathers are taking this covenant their father and making a mockery of it marital infidelity is running rampant in our society and god in a special way i ask that you use your mansive and pass the map to bring hope their father use them their father hearts are peeing right now their god marriage is on the brink of collapse and god we ask that your holy spirit use and empower him and may your hearts be receptive to the message and the guidance that comes from your throne their father from your lips so god and almighty we take charge be with the technology today be with the praise team be with folks at home remove all destruction their god and may you bring hope and peace their god for the marriages their father today bless us and take care of us take charge is our prayer in jesus name amen friends you may be looking at this program on one of your digital devices maybe your phone your tablet your laptop or even your television and you may be tempted to think that this is just a regular program but i want to say to you that this program is one of ministry i am delighted to see humble to see that last week two individuals reached out to us and said that they want to go all the way in the watery grave giving their lives over to jesus and we say to god be the glory great things he has done so again i want to encourage you to share the link share the link it takes all it takes is just taking a moment of time and just sharing that link with some one of your friends posting it on whatsapp just share that link and know that you can be an instrument a bless and bring hope to some family today so may god continue to bless us as we endeavor to finish this good work that he has tasked us with over to you praise team pleasant good morning and a pleasant sabbath to each and everyone tuning in to our program this morning i'm your cursor this morning i'm going to be leading us in a time of worship and giving thanks and praise our make and our king this morning we want to start by singing one of my favorite hymns there is sunshine in my soul today i'm thankful for the beautiful sunshine in spite of the dark clouds i had earlier this week there is sunshine in my soul today [Music] come on help me sing see there is sunshine in my soul today oh glorious and bright and gross [Music] when jesus shows [Music] in my soul [Music] [Music] my [Music] the lord is near [Music] happy moments roll when jesus showed a smile in face there is sunshine in my soul i'm happy i'm smiling i'm glad [Music] [Music] [Music] there is sunshine in my soul [Music] and my soul oh yeah i was wonderful i was lovely our next song i want jesus to walk with me in life's journey no matter what you're going through it's it sure helps i have such a wonderful friend the god of the universe our creator walk and talk with us as we chat live journey i want jesus to walk with me [Music] i want jesus to walk with me help me stay at the tv see i want jesus to open me all along my my welcome journey i want jesus to open me [Music] lord in my trials walk with me [Music] in my trials lord walk with me to when the chaser [Music] life are falling [Music] i want jesus to walk with me [Music] so [Music] in my sorrows lord cause in my sorrows in my sorrows lord walk with me with my heart waiting within [Music] lord is walk with me please [Music] so before we do our next so i want to tell all the children that are watching to join come in front of the tv and wait a while your section is up next see i brought my friend today we're going to do something special just for you guys we're going to go into my one of my favorites i think all hymns are my favorites i realize that deeper yet in the blood from the cross i mark as simplet have been watched from sin [Music] to be free from [Music] flesh [Music] is [Music] today by day our fire blessings to me but for [Music] deeper yet under the precious blood [Music] foreign [Music] deeper [Music] is [Music] [Music] precious [Music] i love these songs okay children your time is now get ready you can clap your hands you can sing along with us we love it when you sing along with us [Music] this is the day this is [Music] this is [Music] i'm [Music] today i'm happy today with [Music] the time to be happy is [Music] [Music] come on smile for me [Music] when it's cloudy [Music] [Music] [Music] makes me feel so happy as happy as can be when i think of jesus [Music] makes me feel so happy as happy as can be when i look at jesus [Music] [Music] [Music] me amen [Music] [Music] good morning boys and girls mummies and daddies grannies uncles and aunts we are so happy to have you at our children's corner this morning we welcome you and if you are visiting us for the first time a special welcome goes out to you you know boys and girls i was in the yard yesterday and i noticed these little creatures scurrying around some with bits of leaves on their head some with bits of what looked like breadcrumbs and they were hurrying about but what i also notice when they met their friends they will stop as though to say hello those were the ants the ants in our area do you know there are over 12 000 species of ants over twelve thousand they're army ants they're red ants they're the black gardeners they're the soldier ants so many different species no we have families but ants have colonies we build houses but ants they build ant hills in the ground where they build wide corridors and large rooms to store their food now these ants are very intelligent experts have calculated that an aunt's brain can function as fast as a powerful computer could it be it's because of the food they eat they love sugar some species also eat other insects dead or alive other species are herbivores they only eat plants but you know there are things that ants don't like they don't like pepper cayenne pepper or black pepper isn't god awesome he has given us so many examples examples in nature the ants and of course examples in the bible in nature the anse tells us to be productive to be conscientious to love what we do and to do it well in the bible god tells us of his love his mercy his kindness the price that was paid so that we could be forgiven boys and girls in the bible we are told of a story a story of forgiveness a story of love and a story of god's mercy listen up boys and girls this nazarene has been nothing but trouble these people are actually listening to everything he says but today's the day that we will see that is about the work of satan and not god bring the woman bring her let's see how we will deal with this today is the day i await your faith son of god there's only one commandment really you know one commandment love your neighbor as yourself and love god [Applause] [Laughter] [Music] teacher this woman was caught in adultery yes and of course you of all people know the laws of moses said that such a woman should be punished as a matter of fact they should be stoned what do you have to say about this son of god once again you're in my domain but i would love to see you get out of this one [Music] look at him writing on the ground you see if not you any good jew would know what to do in a situation like this yeah just two now he is a waste of time he's a menace he's a minister in society come on what are you going to do stoneheart you get the stones yes stonehenge [Music] any one of you that is without sin cast the first one you you that's the first one [Music] [Music] [Music] woman where are your accusers do they condemn you [Music] well neither do i condemn you thank you go answer no more [Music] thank you [Music] boys and girls what a story those pharisees weren't forgiving were they but you know god forgives isn't that wonderful he forgave the woman he will forgive us he is the same god yesterday as he is today so let us remember let us forgive let us be kind let us be merciful to others just as god is kind merciful and forgiving to us so let's pray father we thank you for the gift of forgiveness fill our hearts with love so that we too can be merciful we can be forgiving and loving this we pray in jesus name amen bye boys and girls wow what a story what a story to god be the glory again good morning everyone and we are here again as members of the youth class to share what we would have studied this last week this morning i'm i'm not here alone i have another member of the youth class with us to share this story and he goes by the name nicosi john nicosie good morning to you moana kabarang all right but there's something that you need to know about nicosia he's not just a member of the youth class but he's an integral part of our av room and he has been heavily involved in all our streaming of thus far and nicosia how has it been in the av room talk to us well for me it hasn't been bad i can't say that at all okay if i reverse has i love the service but for me it really expanded my mind in the information technology section i really like broadening my understanding so i got into this field and it really impacted people you know i see the comments from viewers and they really enjoy this stream and that that's that's all i want for god's own and glory to be given praise the lord and i let me be the first to tell you that you're doing an excellent job thank you continue to give service to god yes because we had a wonderful lesson discussion the theme of our lesson this week was jesus and me right jesus and me let us have our word of prayer father we come before you to discuss your lesson this morning and we pray god that only youth on this stream would listen attentively and understand what you are trying to tell all of us this morning in jesus name amen because you want to share this story with us and elaborate a little bit yeah sure so this story was the story of zacchaeus and zacchaeus was a tax collector he was basically someone who collected funds for the romance to give to the king all right however he was a dishonest tax collector he ripped off people over charged them took all the money for themselves and one day he heard the news jesus was passing through tongue and he was like i want to see jesus he said okay he saw jesus coming he saw him his crowds now you know followers of christ wherever he went and he he thought himself he was like how am i going to squeeze through yeah all these people and i'm short okay he's so he he looked left and right and he was like oh there's a sycamore tree i would climb this tree and he said okay i'll climb the street he did that and he got a clean view of christ all right and he's like okay he saw christ christ was now coming towards him and suddenly christ was directly underneath the tree as christ looked up and he looked up he was like zacchaeus hurry calm down i'm coming to your house today mm-hmm zacchaeus i could imagine yeah of course people muttered people thought bad i sure they were thinking why would jesus go enter to the house of a sinner yeah however zacchaeus came down tree quickly and he took jesus to his home and while doing so spending time ago he recognized how compassionate he recognized the care that god showed to him and that led him to say something like this lord hear and know lord hear i know i give half of my possessions to the poor and if i have cheated anyone i will repeat them four times yes and jesus said today salvation is given to this house today for the four he has come to heal he has come to save and seek which would which was a loss those which were lost so basically with this story you can tell this is a classic case study of where there's transmission salvation and you can see where in the encounter with christ he became a changed man um he even thought himself i'm a bad person i'm dishonest let me make up for my wrongs he said i will repeat even four times the amount i will give half of my possessions to the poor this is a great example his story is a great example of how a christian should be sanctified you know spiritual growth isn't about will power all right it isn't about acting it's not a doing thing it's more about nurturing it's about having an ongoing friendship with christ because see you know that was a strong story and you spoke something about willpower and let me share let me share something that came out of the lesson discussion also you know there was a group of friends right and um you know shy to say i'm sad to say it was my friends and one of the friends baked some cookies by the way i i came with some of the cookies here right oh you do you know bake some cookies and he brought it for us and you know we started eating cookies right you could have one thanks yeah started the 80 cookies and the more we tried to stop eating cookies is the more we edit cookies one of the friends said um you can't continue eating the cookies all day like that and i said um yes you think you'll have another one thanks all right so we just went on and on eating the cookies and then i came up with an idea i said okay we're gonna fold up the cookies and we're gonna hide the cookies very very far okay and one of the friends came and you know he stretched fort and where i hid the cookies he formed the cookies and i said you know what the only thing that is going to stop us from eating these cookies is willpower right we have the whip we have to have the willpower to stop eating these cookies and even why we would think about because someone's asked what what is willpower what is willpower and one of my friends said you know willpower is is trying to stop doing something oh let me read it we're always trying very hard not to do something okay not to do something that you very much want to do okay that is what it will for we work very hard at it so we said we're gonna try with willpower to stop you need cookies and of course that didn't work because all right and then the whole batch of cookies fell on the ground and the birds came and started to eat up all the cookies and one of my friends stood and said well all right the birds go with your cookies and you still have the willpower so what what what sense did it really make and i said you know what you all keep your willpower and i'm going home to bake some fresh cookies right i want to ask you a question this morning nico see mm-hmm i'm actually an unboxing all the youth online this morning you know what cookies temped you what's your please tempt you as a youth that's pornography termed you does lying tempt you does alcohol alcoholic beverage tempt you some deep stuff does pride tempt you sexual impurity is that part of your cookies in your life you see we all have cookies in our lives because not just the youth but even the adult we all have cookies in our lives and there are bad habits that sabotage or spiritualize but no matter how much will power no matter how much willpower we exercise we still commit sin over and over and over true what we need to understand it's not willpower that changes our lives right but it's our relationship with god it's the infilling of the holy spirit in our life is god taking control of our lives that makes the change we can have the world of willpower and still continue sinning but when jesus christ takes control and flushes out sin from our lives and gives us the strength to continue yes that makes the difference nicosia amen you see we are we are given principles which are in the ten commandments they express god's love his care even his concern for us of all kinds race and ages he even sent the holy spirit he sent the holy spirit to point out sin he even sent the holy spirit to remind us that we need him see salvation salvation is all of grace it's not about works it's not about how much good i have done once you obey god we follow his laws his principles his power is given to us he even said once once you abide in him he will look the result let's stay alone we need to wrap this discussion this morning again nicosia and it was really a joy having you here with us but let me just summarize something especially something that came up with this story that that you shared with us the story of zacchaeus not just for you but even for the youth online the story of zacchaeus illustrates the power of christ to instantly yes change life yes but you know what to some of the youth it may take a longer time sometimes for your lives to be changed but both situations both situations depend on the infilling of the holy spirit and god take in full control it's my prayer this morning nico see that yes that god continues to fill you that god continues to use you mightily and use all the you to unline mightily in service for him nicosi could you pray for us to close of course dear lord thank you for giving us the freedom of choice thank you for keeping us in your love thank you for always keeping us in your care for your guidance your understanding your wisdom you know it's ironic that zacchaeus name meant pure one innocent one but he was very dishonest he was very dishonest but his curiosity led him to you his willingness to have you in his life changed him made him be transformed and gave him his salvation can you please transform us and you please be with us because by being with you we become like you thank you lord for keeping everyone here thank you lord for the stream team thank you lord for everything you have done for us and you please make us have a wonderful rest up the stream peacefully pray amen amen amen and amen amen happy sabbath everyone and uncle b and cousy i hope to join you on that cookie adventure at some point in time this morning pasta and hi pastor morris welcome we are here to discuss with you the adult school lesson longing for more and psalms 125 verse 1 says they that trust in the lord shall be as monk zion which cannot be removed but abideth forever amen amen and this morning the lesson is titled longing for more let us pray as we continue to trust in the lord father we thank you this morning for bringing us to discuss your word we ask that you enlighten our minds in our hearts for christ's sake amen amen amen you know this sub school lesson talks and and and discusses a lot of a lot of type a lot of symbols a lot of concepts that are so important for our spiritual journey viewers and this morning we want to go to just a few of these concepts because it's important to improve the quality of our spiritual life pastor amen and i'm so glad that god has blessed us here with pastor mauricio to talk a little bit with us about these things so pastor this morning let's not waste any time let's go into the first symbol the symbol of baptism and you know pastor when i was reading about the story of the children of israel and going to the red sea and this signifying them that they were baptized into something different or something new it really interests me because i never thought of it that way so this morning let's talk about the symbol of baptism okay the lesson is very beautifully put i think the apostle paul was again looking back at israel and the memory text is saying now these things took place as examples for us that we might not desire evil as they did so that here the apostle paul when you read through the entire chapter first corinthians paul is taking us through israel and their journey he's saying look they left egypt egypt the evils of this world okay all kinds of evil practices took place in egypt yes they worship idols they worship the devil they offered a lot of sacrifices and so god with a mighty hand delivered his people from egypt similarly we are in the modern egypt of this world all right and god is calling he is there is a cry of deliverance and god is the one who delivers so he delivers his people and it took them through on the journey they will take taken from egypt onto the journey he promised the the earth began all right on this journey they were fed with manner in the wilderness so therefore the manner as was symbolized they said they were examples christ himself is the bread of life all right so that as we feed on the word of god we are feeding on christ himself christ is the living word the bible the written word so as we study the word and we understand who christ is and we feed on christ we are on the journey to the heavenly canaan not only that they were given water all right water again christ is the water of life yes and he's the rock from which the water came so he's the rock upon which all of us must depend for salvation he's the deliverer he's the bread he's the water he's the rock but where were they heading the enemy was still pursuing them all right and they want the borders of the canaan of the heavenly earthly canaan and so now on this journey now that christ is leading their lives dangers on the right hand and on the left they're ready to enter the the new canaan or the earthly canaan and so god had to open the red sea now they are more marching through so that under the through the red sea the baptism was taking place there were water on the left and water and the right the water above and the water below and so they were moving through the cleansing process with the understanding that as they come through the water they're going to end up in the earthly canaan the enemies pursue them through the water what happened to the enemies they were destroyed all of them were destroyed destroyed so that if the blood wasn't applied or if the the the deliverance you were delivered if you were not eating of the bread if you were not drinking of the from the rock then you may enter into the same sea of destruction but because of the leadings of christ a pillar of fire by night a bill of cloth by day so that here christ was guiding and directing their lives so this baptism he says as they pass through the red sea they were all baptized we today more than israel as we accept christ as we feed in his word as we are transformed by his grace as we allow him to lead our lives daily we bury our past in the water we grave of baptism we come up of the water looking forward to the new jerusalem looking forward to the new canaan that which god has prepared for us so that the the symbolism so he's telling me that all of israel in the past salvation symbols have been all the same always christ has been the source of salvation he has always been the symbols may change but the salvation remains intact is only to christ and christ alone oh amen well put pastor so let's move on that's symbol number one yeah symbol number two we talk about the symbol of redemption everything okay and the symbols that were used to show redemption and to show the act of bringing batman to his rightful place so that sort of thing so pastor what can you tell us about this the symbol of redemption now that we have gone through we have come through the wilderness all right and god has set up a sanctuary [Music] in the sanctuary again god was very very specific okay he told moses number one build me a sanctuary the earthly just as the heavenly a pattern so that salvation is not what we want or what what we do or what we think it is exactly as god ordained it to be there is a plan that god has for salvation amen everything in the earthly sanctuary was pointing to christ everything we take the lamb the lamb of god yes we take the lava where they washed the cleansing christ himself we take the the lampstand cries is the light we take the show bread christ is the bread we take the shekinah glory christ is the glory so now when we look at the sanctuary there are two important lessons we got from the sanctuary how ugly sin is oh because number one we saw that in the sanctuary the animal had to be slain so here it is the sinner transfers his sin from himself unto the head of the lamb christ the innocent lamb and then the sinner has to cut the truth of the lamb the blood had to be spilled so all over the sanctuary blood mm-hmm the hand of the sinner blood this priest dip his finger blood he poured out the blood at the base of the altar blood so that the smell of blood the stench of blood sin is an ugly thing all right sin is a nasty thing sin is dirty so that that aspect of the sanctuary the something was always smelling fresh of blood and there was always that that that heartbreaking experience of fleeing of an animal christ now the innocent lamb suffered because of the sinfulness of man and is now bringing us redemption so throughout the sanctuary experience now that we have gone through that and the sinner now goes he leaves the sanctuary confesses sins all the sins stay in the sanctuary and he goes free yes well pastor you see that blood point i don't want to miss that blood point faster because leviticus 17 and verse 12 says it says i want to get the right text that talks about this blood thing it's in leviticus 17 and verse 11 it says for the life of the flesh is in the blood in the blood it's in the blood and i have given it to you upon the altar to make an atonement for your souls for it is the blood that make it an atonement for the soul beautiful so that here it is if there was no blood there could be no salvation all right so that christ his blood was shed if he remembered even back in israel sorry back in egypt they had to put the blood on the doubles in order to escape when now they come again to the sanctuary the blood was the life itself so christ had to give his life in order to save the sinner in the blood is all the new nutrients for life it is the blood that sustains us it's the blood that takes us through so that when christ's blood is applied to our lives from day to day when christ transforming grace when we understand the journey of salvation we cannot help but keep attached to christ there is no other way we can be saved except that what jesus had done and his bloodshed for us is life was given for us so we owe everything our life our sustenance our food our cleansing our transformation everything we owe to christ and christ alone so that the act that we perform the daily activity that we perform cannot save us amen don't matter how much you could baptize 25 000 times you could eat you could know the bible from cover to cover if that christ transforming grace does not take possession of your life it cannot save you all right only because you have accepted christ know that you can feed on him which is the word know that you can be cleansed by him which is baptism know that you are going to obey him which is now keeping all these commandments then and only then that we can be saved through this precious blood of christ which shed for our sins and then so so about that how could we look again and see and understand these d depth of symbols because i think it also talks about that there is something more that we need to understand about that rest that we get in christ okay so that we have gone through the cleansing we have gone to the sanctuary we have seen the significance of these symbols but now he's saying there's something called a resting in christ how do we capture that eternal that rest that we are called upon in christ so then here is the example that we were talking about where paul was saying listen god promised israel that they would find rest once they possess the earthly canaan however there was a condition for that that only those who believed and persevered could enter into that right beautiful and you move 4 2 says it well hear what it says it says for unto us was the gospel preached as well as unto them but the word preached did not profit them have mercy not being mixed with faith what's the word faith not being mixed with faith in them that heard it that f word right faith faith so what it's saying there that listen perseverance is key as well not just perseverance as well as we must fully trust and believe god in his word and crisis promises that once we do that that it's the key to us being in full communion with him every day and once we are in communion with him every day we can find these promises in his word and then we can believe them so that we can experience them so then so faith says that i am willing and ready to obey god don't matter what the circumstances might be nothing will prevent me from obeying god because i believe in his word yes so there is nothing to deviate me from doing the will of god and that's what the failure of israel they did not believe to do what god says to do yes because remember they went out and looked for manna when when they were not supposed to remember they cried out to god in rebellion that looked no so that the faith that they did not believe in god and his word that faith factor the importance of finding rest in christ to depend on his promises to live by the promises to depend on his words for our survival so pastor this is it so much sweet promises was placed in front of israel and they didn't accept it how come and why it isn't that accepted pastor he said because of unbelief are we are we are we now into this modern age right when the gospel is being proclaimed when the understanding of god's will is known are we finding ourselves also in the same state of israel okay and i want i wanted the the the the audience out there right let's examine it could could we say am i as an individual faithful to the promises of god okay am i obedient to god's will all right and and god has given us many many instructions many promises and i think the rest it also calls about it says the the rest starts off with our understanding and acceptance of god yes so that the first it gives us the the command the command to rest the sub at rest only as we accept the salvation that god has made available yes only as we obedient to the commands of god and keep the sabbath rest then we can experience the eternal rest that god has promised so there's a rest that is coming okay but the rest can only be experienced but those who are resting in god and claiming his promises no no yeah the transformation we are resting from sin we are resting from rebellion we are resting from disobedient we are resting in christ in obedience to all of his commandments so we can experience the eternal rest when christ should return amen amen so i think the lesson is so beautifully put yes and all these symbols and understanding that god has given to us in order for us to understand what salvation is all about yes it's all in christ so pastor such a lovely discussion and i think that we've discussed most of the points and our time is spent so we'll just bow our heads and ask you to pray as we close praise god for his mercy for his spirit and for his promise of salvation so let us pray eternal loving father how grateful we are that each day we can rest in you we can be guided by your mighty hands we can understand all that you have done to save us even as we continue to rest in you we are looking forward to the eternal rest no more sin no more death no more sorrow no more pain but we will spend eternity with you come quickly father 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so stay tuned because you are surely in for some serious education today it is not too late to join the educational series parenting the adolescent which is a five-week online training program hosted by the women's ministry department of the five reverse sda church this program targets parents of children aged 10 to 19. however since children matured differently parents with younger or older children are also welcome the program continues this week from 6 30 pm this saturday evening if you desire to be a part of this life-changing event see this ad on our church's website for further information regarding cost and registration details the north regional youth adversary presents sports throwback on sunday september 26 2021 from 3 p.m to 5 pm there are many exciting categories and prizes to be won for me for more information see this ad on our website on behalf of the five rivers sda church the communications department would like to send out heartfelt condolences to mr junior lutz and his father siblings and family and friends on the passing of his mother who was laid to rest this past thursday we at five of us mourn with you and remind you of the promises of god in revelations 21 verse 4 may god be with you and your family and continue to give you peace during this sad and trying time we take this opportunity to remind you that we continue to pray for all of our church members and viewers so please continue sending in your prayer requests the link is located in the bio of the stream on youtube every week you can also email us at connect fiverriversday.org remember to that you can also follow us on facebook instagram and twitter at frsd church follow our youth department on instagram at f-r-s-d-a-a-y visit us there as our visitors there on weekdays as we post positive and uplifting content to keep us going during the week and as you know i leave with a fun fact so the first speeding ticket was given in 1896 on january 8th for someone going 8 miles per hour only but in a 2 mile per hour lane how times have changed enjoy the rest of your stream and have a wonderful salvage thank you very much brother cooper for sharing those announcements with us first corinthians chapter 13 verses 4 to eight seas love suffer it long and is kind love and vietnam love wanted not itself is not puffed up dot not behave itself unseemly seek it not our own is not easily provoked think it nor evil rejoice it not in iniquity but rejoice said in the truth bear it all things believe it all things hope at all things endure it all things love never feel it but whether there be prophecies they shall feel whether there be tongues they shall cease whether there be knowledge it shall vanish are we this morning again it's my privilege to smile it's my privilege to be happy not just for myself but for the brethren and for all those married couples who continue to hold on to jesus contract to continue to allow jesus to govern your home and your married life and we at fireworks we believe in still saying i do yes we cherish marriage life we work hard at marriage life because a lot has to go into it for it to be successful and this morning we celebrate we celebrate with individuals who continue to trust god who continues to please god firmly in their marriage lives mr and mrs roberts mr and mrs roberts all the way from enterprise sda church and they continue to say i do they love god and they continue to use god and leave they continue to allow god to use them and to help them to stay firmly married mr and mrs richards mr and mrs richards married for 41 years now and still going strong we would love to know where mr and mrs richard is from so please on the chat indicate us exactly where you are from but we continue to celebrate with you as you hold firmly to the lord jesus christ mr and mrs scarborough davin scarborough and yes he came here and he snatched alvita from us but we know they are happy they're happily married for seven months now they're living all the way in barbuda and we know that they are enjoying married life so we say to god be the glory continue trusting in the lord jesus christ mr and mrs silly wow this is a special occasion for me you know why because i was the best man in that gentleman's wedding 27 years ago and still going strong they still look as if it was just yesterday and we know it's because jesus christ is at the center of their marriage continue holding on strong mr and mrs sealy mr and mrs alexis yeah mr and mrs alexis 35 years and going strong andre a very good friend of mine and we say to god be the glory continue holding on we're praying for you we know that you are recuperating still and may god continue to strengthen your marriage day by day mr and mrs chrysostom mr and mrs chrysostom all the way from brazil seventh-day adventist church and that's brazil village in trinidad okay all the way from brazil 31 years and counting 31 years on content and still enjoying marriage bliss to god be the glory last but not least last but not least mr and mrs morris wow does he not cut a wonderful pity idea it's as if it's just yes and look at look at the blushing groom there you know seven years on continent our guy is still blushing but you know it's a special occasion for them they celebrated their anniversary on independence day we know that the tiba had been through last year and god has saved his life for a purpose and that is to continue to enjoy marriage life with his beautiful wife to god be the glory continue holding on to jesus continue trusting god to lead and direct in all your marriages for those of you who are yet to send pictures for us the email address is on the screen please please please send your wedding pictures for us so that we can highlight the success of your marriages we can highlight the fact that at five of us send the adventist church we still see i do to god be the glory blessings morning and happy sabbath to each one of you who is viewing this dream at this time yet last week we would have shared an experience with you that when we started this channel we in no way imagined that it would have been as globally as it is now and it is con it is through the continuous grace of god and the commitment of the members of the five river seventh-day adventist church is why we continue to thrive as a as this channel grows as we see from sabah to sabbath the subscribers grow the viewers grow live and we thank each one of you for logging on but as we would have you know established this channel through the grace of god and through our continued commitment to his cause you at home were continuously asking us how can you contribute to the work that is happening here at five rivers so this morning there are just two options we'd like to share with you and how you can contribute to the work of i reverse church one is that if you go to the description of this video this one that you're watching right now there is a link to our website that will take you to our page that you can click the donate button and make your contributions that way the second way is even if you have done the first one we continue to solicit your prayers as we continue to grow this work and allow god to use us so the second way is that you could always contribute your prayers to our efforts so either way we thank you for your contributions thank you and blessings happy sabbath everyone in psalms 119 37 david prayed turn my eyes away from beholding vanity and quicken thou me in thy way david was certainly onto something he of all people knew how easy it was to get sucked in to find himself doing something that he never intended to do or to become a person who went against everything he stood for that prayer that david prayed is still good for us today and not just for vanity but for any sin that we find ourselves facing this week's drama episode addresses the hot topic of infidelity and that right there is one of the reasons why the bible says in first peter 5 8 be vigilant be sober being sober means having your wits about you and being vigilant always on the lookout i've heard people describe some alcoholic drinks as creepers it means you're enjoying the drink but you don't realize the effects that it's having on your body so you think you're in control and control of the situation until you try to walk down some stairs or to get behind the wheel of your car and then something unexpected happens brethren sin is like that especially sin that leads to infidelity i've had a couple people describe to me how they ended up with a child outside of their marriage one lady said that she confided in her study buddy about the woes that she was experiencing in her marriage and he was also ready to comfort her one man went out for celebratory lime a celebratory line with classmates after particularly stressful exams to this date all he can say is that the young lady was a part of the group and that she had made some flirtatious comments to him in the past he can't es explain how it escalated to where it did and how that one encounter cost him his wife his family and his home and here's the kicker years later he's embroiled in a bitter custody battle because the young lady whom he never forged a true relationship with turned out to be an abusive parent god knows what he's protecting us from and that devil knows that if he can get us to just engage in one flirtatious conversation we're already on a slippery slope and if he can get us to complain about our spouse to someone a close friend of the opposite sex that already our marriage is in danger you might say now trisha that sounds kind of old-fashioned or you might say i have better self restraint i i can be good friends with members of the opposite sex but here in trinidad we have a saying that goes better than you crow and end up in a pot and so today what's our question for the journal as you look at the play and as you listen to the sermon because by now you realize that they're both connected ask yourself especially married people is my marriage in danger from relationships that i'm cultivating do you find yourself investing more in those relationships than you should be or that you should be investing in repairing your marriage making things better at home guys there's a reason why the bible says god your hearts and minds and today i urge you to all in your power to protect your family [Music] i had enough i can't i can't do this anymore it makes no sense trying to talk to him every time i try to talk to him and just end up an argument i can't i can't do it grinnell you need to calm down yourself guilt you calm down well you cannot be working up yourself like this it's not good for the baby come have a seat have a seat ren you know you're always welcome home by me your room is still there but after listening to what transpired between you and elijah i want you to try and talk to him again mommy that makes no sense i try to i keep trying to talk to him he's not listening he he don't ever listen every time i try to talk to him in the argument you just act like an ignorant selfish fool every time every single time i just tired grinnell it is not an easy thing to be a single parent a single mother even i could do this by myself can you do this by yourself yeah but it was not easy yeah you might say i did it but many times many nights i cried myself to sleep because it was very hard and very lonely even the nights when you were sick and i had to be up all night with you it was hard renal scary but it's only god and god alone knows how i got through this and you know something god never intended for the family structure to be like this a child needs both parents mother and the father and even you yourself there were times when you went through a face where you wanted your father you used to be asking for your dad and you wanted him or wrong but he was not there you would even cry at times renee and that broke my heart as your mother it really hurts me to see you that way friend there were many times i questioned myself would i or could i have tried harder to make things work with your father but i didn't and maybe if i did we would have still been together today but i suppose we were just too stubborn and set in our own ways yes for mommy i try to talk to elijah he just he just make everything into her argument you know a soft answer turns away rough and it takes two people to argue me you just know exactly what buttons to push look at it look look what happened when i tried to talk to him about you know we need to pray about this [Music] i want to pray for you and your family okay [Music] father in heaven i bring before you this afternoon your children rene and elijah lord you know the struggles and the issues that they are going through at this time you know their father that you are present here with them just willing and able to help them so please dear god help them to turn to you to put all their burdens on you and continue to bless them their father and this baby this be my prayer in jesus name amen amen [Music] [Music] do [Music] [Music] my [Music] hmm ugh [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] just [Music] food [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] morning morning i brought back your icebox thanks so much how are you doing you're good yeah i'm good you're looking a little tired though it was busy all right i could understand i was elijah leforce ready [Music] you know she don't like to be late all right so i'll see you [Music] auntie carl you know uh giselle from uncle ryan yeah did you sell gordon yeah yes she she was ali wedding right yeah she's brian secretary been there for about two years yeah just curious okay um you're young in this thing right and as a woman of experience who's been there done that let me just give you a little pointer you know it's what i do all the time just drop by the office unexpectedly you know establish your territory make sure everybody's seen you make sure you are seen you know as elisha's wife you know get my you get my drift all right lovey so see ya bye [Music] elijah these these figures actually look doable in my only question is whether they would want to proceed with it so you know what i'm gonna make a call today i'll come to mr khan and see if we may have to make some adjustments to get them to accept it but but this will cover it will come okay yeah good day mr telling you but it's time for your one o'clock appointment what one o'clock appointment is that giselle whatever appointment is that we appreciate it with mr manzo i'm becoming scheduled because we already scheduled for today and an easy type is just a document we have to pick up you know but he always wants somebody from the office to come and proceed to pick up their document and jesse remember i have an appointment i have to leave here just now to go to my office for another important appointment well elijah could carry me [Music] i can't you guys to do something like that um it's not a problem i basically finish any proposals [Music] yeah why not all right so let me see if i get transgender on the phone and i know that i'm sending you gisela corrected all right meet me in my office giselle you're ready yeah adjusting to grab a few things oh my god i'm so sorry i'm so sorry it's all right i'm sorry i can't believe [Music] touch me elijah sorry to disturb you right go back by a woman brennell nothing is going on she was just helping my clean ass spit clean that's how it is clean elisha she was touching all up in your chest and all kind of thing jeselle and i are just colleagues we work together and that's what at two o'clock in the morning right i got any bathroom to vomit because i'm pregnant with your child and seeing messages from giselle nice work we're just sending jokes to each other jokes elijah i don't care i don't care i saw you just i don't know what's wrong with you you want to see my phone right now you are a grown man i'm not supposed to have to go through your phone brunel you know what you was right these past six months have been miserable i can't do this anymore i don't know what to do with you anymore i can't i can't do it here ronald take it i don't want this i don't want you [Music] [Music] today once again we want to do our team song this time for everyone who's watching online put in a chat starting over just get in the whole mix with us you know when situations like these arise as just shown in the video sometimes the only thing you can do is stop give it to jesus and start over this team song is so fitting starting over [Music] me [Music] i always try to live [Music] the successes that [Music] but then one [Music] the success i thought was mine [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] over [Music] life [Music] lord can you anoint jesus take me [Music] christ my savior [Music] [Music] my savior i'm starting over [Music] and all my life has been such a broken dream it's been [Music] i'm starting to go [Music] i'm starting over make me over again rescue the perishing i listen to some of my young friends talk and even in church and it seems to be the pervading thing that i'm living for me and this life is about me and i'm gonna see about me but this song clearly states and the bible says that my brother i am my brother's keeper when my brother is down and it's my responsibility to lift him up again to help to love and to cherish my brother rescue the perishing [Music] [Music] [Music] tell them of jesus the mighty to say rescue the perishing care for the dying jesus is merciful jesus will say [Music] [Music] gently he will forgive if they only believe [Music] jesus is merciful jesus will say [Music] perishing [Music] patient [Music] [Music] dying jesus is merciful jesus will say [Music] jesus will say [Music] he's fearing ten thousand lilies he's fear and the prettiest woman or the most handsome man you've ever meet that's christ the lord jesus fear is lord jesus [Music] let's sing fearless lord jesus [Music] thee [Music] is [Music] [Music] and [Music] up [Music] jesus is pure [Music] [Music] my jesus jesus shines brighter [Music] jesus shines pure [Music] oh [Music] [Music] nation's [Music] [Music] forever [Music] [Music] lord forever the time this week drew and rehearsal when we sung this next song tears came to my eyes as the day i planted fought the water it sometimes the way that you need jesus so the way that you feel you need jesus here you can't express it in words you can't express it in words it's just something here that only god can see only god can feel the bible says god hears our mornings and he translates it into a sweet oil and i thank god for that lord i pants and i i long for you as the deer planted fort for the water so the challenge today is for me not to cry because this song [Music] as a tear panted the water so my soul long enough to you [Music] lord you alone are [Music] cause you were alone are my strengths my shield you were alone make my spirit [Music] [Music] [Music] the waters are so my soul longing out to you [Music] and you alone are my hearts [Music] oh [Music] you and you alone are my hearts desiring that long to work [Music] you [Music] you [Music] sovereign what a wonderful date is the sabbath of the lord thy god it's a beautiful day that god has created it is indeed an awesome privilege to worship god and to serve him for he is worthy to be praised so i want to say happy sabbath to each and every one of you online may god continue to bless you bless you and your families bless your relatives and may god continue to direct you in every way god is indeed an awesome god he's a loving god you know he's still touched with the feelings of our infirmities before we both head supreme i want to just share with you um a passage of scripture in the bible it takes it takes from matthew chapter 19 from verse 16 onwards and i will just paraphrase for you now in that passage of scripture or in that chapter it is spoken of the young rich ruler so it so happened that he asked jesus a question and said jesus what it is that i should do to inherit eternal life and jesus son tell him all right keep the commandments and the osha live so he says but all those things i have been doing jesus so just unto him and said hey what sell all what you have give to the poor and follow me but we observe what happened what happened he eaten away sorrowful because he was a man who had great possession in other words he chose not to give up his possession and follow jesus and the reason why i'm saying this today is because you know sometimes in life we allow our priorities to be messed up in such a way that we allow our wealth to be our food's priority our education our children but what we need to understand that god has to be our main priority and when alexander did great when he when he was about to die he gave his men three wishes and one of the wishes he gave them is this when you're burying me make sure in the coffin that my two hands is outside of the coffin because i want people to see that i am not carrying anything with me when i am going in the grave so my friends keep trusting god and make christ your main priority let us pray loving father you are indeed an awesome god a great god you are our father you are so concerned with our daily life and god into your hand at this time i place each and every one of everyone on the platform at this time god you know what they are going through they are online because they are seeking you further they are seeking to have a closer relationship with you god but we are living in a world of sin god and sometimes we fall sometimes we make mistakes but god you are more than able to keep us from falling so help us god to trust you help us to to lean on to you god knowing that you will carry us through because you are more than able to direct our path we pray in a very special way for each and every one who are going through a terrible time in their marriage god we ask that your holy spirit may bind marriages together and keep them together further help us to know god when you are the center of our marriages that everything will work out further but father help us to have that personal relationship with you god i also pray especially for the speaker of the our god that you anoint him afresh that your holy spirit may speak through him god so that when he speaks god it will be you speaking to us and that our heart will be opened to receive your word today father and when we receive your word help us to make it practical into our lives heavenly father so holy spirit take control and take charge we pray in jesus name amen and amen [Music] so i see the king of glowing [Music] coming on the clouds with fire the whole earth shakes the whole earth chase i see his love and mercy washing over all our sins the people see the people [Music] is [Music] i see a generation rising up to take their place but selfless faith with selfless faith i see a near revival oh and it's stirring as we pray and seek we're on our knees we're on our knees oh yes [Music] do heal my heart and make it clean open up my eyes to the things i've seen show me how to love like you have a love me [Music] my heart for what breaks yours everything i am for your kingdom's cause as i walk from earth into eternity [Music] in the highest [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] oh [Music] is [Music] greetings to one and all everybody listening to me and listening to the sound of my voice tune in to this very important program this weekend and following i pray that god's blessings already resting upon you and that this sabbath day's experience is already proving to be beautiful for you restful and beautiful all day of rest and gladness o day of joy and light balm of care and sun of cares and sadness gladness most beautiful most bright what a awesome time this is today i'm asked to speak on a very important subject of cheating what a subject this is important because when people get together they really expect faithfulness but somehow we find ourselves marrying to people who don't quite understand what this looks like we we we take vows but we don't quite grasp what those vows mean we see not to know how to let those vows become reality in our lives and so this church has asked me to come to talk today about cheating i wish they had asked me to talk about it is so good loving somebody when somebody loves you back [Laughter] help me jesus i have a whole sermon about that you know but this in a sense is somewhat about that because it is about not being not feeling good because there's somebody that you're loving ain't quite loving you in return we'll talk a bit about cheating just bow your heads with me as we pray our great and eternal god which art in heaven we bow in your presence knowing that except the lord build a house the labor in vain that build it bow in your presence knowing that except the lord keeps the city the watchman awakened but in vain we bow in your presence knowing that you want us to have good healthy wholesome relationships we bow in your presence knowing that the devil like a roy and lion walketh about seeking whom he may devour and so we come to you [Music] not just to ask you to be with me in this presentation but to be with every household with every man with every woman already involved and engaged in marriage and perhaps have already stepped into situations of entanglement we pray god even now for them for every household we pray even now father for the children that have faced these situations and who will face these situations come thou font of every blessing come draw near to me and draw near as i speak to your people may some hope be found in your message and word today please hear our prayer and answer as only god can in jesus precious name we pray let everybody say amen and amen and amen cheating cheating that creature is a cheater the only creature i know that is a cheater is not a man help me jesus it is not a woman it's one of those four-legged creatures that don't have the high ability to think and reason like we do so may god help us as we listen to this message today and please know that while i share this i pray for my own self because as long as you live and move and have your being you have to keep in mind that he the tinkert he stunned it must take heed lest he fall i wish somebody would say yes preacher cheating we're talking here about the definition now that i want to play around with a little bit cheating has to do with not playing fear cheating is a violation of clearly stated or known and expected regulations of one's advantage over another it is the violation of the expectation of a romantic relationship bringing it closer home it has to do with the involvement in romantic relationships outside of one's activity active committed relationship which results eventually in a sense of relational betrayal cheating oh my oh my we take vows and the vows says to love and to cherish till death do us part according to god's holy ordinance and thereto i pledge you my sweet and wonderful love we take vows that if we understand those vows they call us to stay committed to the one that we are making those vows too and with that we might be faithful and not play wrong but the truth is we know many stories about playing around that is real for many and the suffering that comes with it you know we take we have different names for it and the different activities involved in cheating we have names like having an affair we got one the other day called entanglement we have extra marital relationship we have going outside we have outside thing we have cheating we have butt or putin and we have horn just to name a few and of course it involves sexual intercourse oral sex kissing fondling emotional connections that are beyond friendships it is involving some kinds of friendships even internet relationships pornography sexting among others and some people say that we're safe we're nothing wrong we ain't do nothing we ain't do nothing and it's just texting you know when we making all that first of all he's just communication he's a friend he's a real friend then yeah not no india she had nothing then you know and that's what we say but there is oftentimes with this there is already taking place at disconnect and connect i want you to remember that somewhere inside of this reality is a disconnect and a connect that's also taking place and then i want to suggest you that people who people who are engaged have relationships have a right to expect have a right to expect high quality behaviors associated with fidelity particularly in the context of the commitment and covenant relationships when i have a covenant relationship and i have said i do it is expected for me even when i even when i am going steady with a girl is expecting that my standard is high because once i've committed myself to go instead with her is expected that my standard would be held high and so but so the people have a right to expect us to have a high quality behaviors standards and the way we relate in relationship now if i dated you for two weeks or i dated you two weeks ago made no promise to you to tell you you know a lot thing on you maybe i'm just getting to know who you are and that was the reason for the date and you heard two weeks later that i went out with lucy is that cheating the funny thing is there's a lot of people who you go out with once and feel that if you went with somebody else you're cheating but i came to tell you if you understand the dating process and that dating is about getting to know there's a level of dating that has to do with just getting to know and if i'm in the fears of just getting to know and you see me talking to sister brown then don't get blue help me holy ghost don't you dare get blue on me because you see me talking to sister brown there is no commitment there but once i begin to make commitment once i step into a going steady relationship engagement and in my marriage expectations changes and the reciprocity of faithfulness is high on the agenda in more than 90 percent of relationships couples expect fidelity of their partners there are some that don't know what fidelity is supposed to look like and they feel that if we do wife swapping we are right but ladies and gentlemen it is not man who determines what is fidelity it is god who determines what is fidelity and what is faithfulness so you might feel nothing is wrong with you and a partner meeting up in a hotel and only exchange wives and they even have a whole show with that but there is a god who made you and who knows what's best for you amen so in some quarters cheating is believed to be the leading cause of relationship failure it is believed that approximately 56 percent of men and about 35 percent of women at some point in their lives are said to be unfaithful at least once the figures may even get much higher if we were to include sexting and lost in if we use the bible definition in as much as you have seen her and take her in you've already committed adultery we might get closer to the hundred percent lord have mercy thank god for his grace now we we i want to talk about the personality trait associated with the the cheetah it is found that when they did a test and they analyzed the test and they look at personality traits and they talk there's something called ocean in which we talk about openness conscientiousness extroversion etc etc agreeableness neuroticism um when they did that test they found that the people who most of the people who said that they were unfaithful and that they cheated there were these factors they in terms of openness to experience they rated high the people who most likely fell into this trap they rated high when it came to openness to experience these are the curious type these are the investigative type these are the persons who are who are lovers of the arts they they they good with seeing shapes and sizes help me jesus you know they they're able to to have a love for curvy tears help me lord they have powerful imaginations on this level of conscientiousness uh they are found to be low here their conscientiousness has to be doing with the ability to have yourselves well organized are you conscientious do you seriously consider and make plans or are you impulsive in terms of your decision making so the people more impulsive um they they they were found to have challenges in terms of reasoning all the way to consequences so right now the here and now was more important than the whole big pity are you listening to me i'm hoping that as you listen to this that you're you're analyzing yourself perhaps you might be seeing somebody else but also analyze yourself amen hallelujah you know you might be you might be seeing somebody else and say he's shooting a body look look look i saw you stopping truth no it's so he is a piece of dialect right in terms of extraversion these are people who are high in terms of their positive emotions these are people who who are likable these are people who are friendly and assertive confident kind of people outgoing you know um in social situations in life they tend to be like the live wire of the party you know people who are like that are at greater risk in terms of infidelity and cheating then on the level of agreeableness they found to be low these are people that sometimes are not very cooperative uh they prefer to compete than to cooperate um they're not very trusting of others and then neuroticism is there's a high what they're rated high this is the tendency to be angry but it's also the tendency to fluctuate between anger and depression you know and um they could have confidence issues and are very vulnerable they they they don't trust easily and so on so this is what it is said about such people are there other risk factors a high sexual desire people with high sexual desires you know tend to be uh more likely and worse if they are living with somebody who is opposited not easy when you're hot out and living with cold coal and i'm talking about soft drinks there's a soft thing called are you understanding me so dutch people are at greater risk and some of these persons are females you know um really and some are men males with high testosterone you know um when living with somebody who who who has the no sex shop clothes weapon they depend on if you behave yourself you're going to get something if you didn't behave yourself shop close before i speak in parables he doesn't have an ear to hear let him hear [Laughter] are you listening to me somebody you know so so so so when you consider with that the person living with that situation they are greater risk they go out and somebody is willing outside to share with them the juice and the whole mango other risks could include that some people are high on risk-taking they like to take risk they like the adrenaline rush you have to watch that you have to think about that and then there's the low quality relationship if there's low quality relationship if you have a relationship it's uh but it it just exists in it it lacks punk you know it is spice the passion not even having nice conversations because sex is not everything you know what i mean but you're not even having nice conversations that make you feel that something great is happening here you know something you know we can't make a plan to do something we can't play we cannot even play a game together so it is low quality relationship and then there's a there's a high persons who tend to place high value on the attractiveness of alternatives so that i i i can't keep my i'm talking to my wife here you know i'm yeah girl um yeah i hear you're saying you know and then something passed that looks like a the great wall of china hills and valleys and swerves left and right and i i'm talking to my wife and i say yeah girl sometimes there is something to me help me jesus are you listen to me you know that the the attractiveness they like to see them curves and they pursue them you know sometimes the thing that is attractive in the outsider is the thing that is missing in the partner are you hearing me sometimes the thing that is missing in the partner in other words they they somehow got into this relationship not considering that they would need these big boss they they thought they would just leave them little boss then mini max they didn't know that i lead the big maxi you're under some saying and suddenly they wake up one morning realize that big boss is it yeah you know and they begin to pursue big boss you know i mean some of these persons um that made up their mind that they would like short thing but you know lily boy and then they wake up and realize that another soft drink in tongue called tall boy you know i mean 12 12 or something like that you know what i mean and suddenly help me jesus today that thing that they begin to miss in the spousal partner is beginning to show up but remind me of a story that i want to tell you because i want you to be careful because this is how some of these people operate a story about the king of the beast that they were going to choose who is the king of the beast and they asked monkey to be the judge and monkey monkey judging this competition as the animals stood before him as far as monkey was concerned it came down to just two standing before him was the lion and the donkey and he told the donkey a giving donkey he rated donkey and gave donkey first second and third and they told the lion if you were the king of the bees you've been carrying the same thing the boy help me jesus uh somebody missed that i said he told the lion that if he was the king of the dc to be taught in that same thing donkey turtle help me jesus help me holy ghost but here's what happens to a lot of people who are in marriage they watch the thing that is missing at home seen it on somebody else and give the person first second eternal and forget all the other rich qualities at home that makes a world of difference are being washed food is being cooked the only thing is that you don't have a a romp that looked like a queen bee help me jesus or boss that does stay on the bus route doesn't go no off route at all because they double decker and they join together you all sit down watching me like you don't understand one thing i'm saying but it's all right let me celebrate by myself are you hearing me i sure hope that you're hearing me now further there are also patterns they're patterns and habits from young that also is a a precursor sometimes a thing that puts you at risk the watching of porn i was nine years old when i was introduced to porn and that that could interfere with you once i was introduced to porn i started watching ladies differently you know and somehow the porn book also has a scent with it help me jesus you know and you get involved sexual abuse somebody touched you set you on course masturbation uh sex explore exploration with several partners you're not settled you just want to taste it you know these are factors that that set you on course for a certain kind of practice and lifestyle uh you know they talk about once you begin in or in tobago we say anytime you see dogs start to suck egg watch out to get them to stop is not going to be easy so the patterns that we set and then what happens sometimes with these patterns is that they end up with a poor definition of love you know so that love sometimes it becomes attached to the feeling that is created and not a principle and so so you only feel that you're loved when things are going good at home you only feel that you're loved when you've been hugged and kissed but if you've been told you know you could have why not wear the other shirt instead of that one if you've been told um this food today uh the rice is a little too soft somehow you don't see that as love you don't feel that there's love because love for you has only to do with those things that make you feel good and when you see you experience things like that is likely to put you in a position where you want to deal with the feel good and not the principle that love is love is a principle and then there's self-worth challenges people with too high self-worth sometimes are likely to fall into this trap so you have to watch yourself sometimes you tell yourself that use god gives to a woman huh so your esteem is right up there you know you're confident and until you're walking through like if everybody had to check for you then your son dancing up yourself whenever you're talking you're not saying guess what you know what i'm talking about help me jesus you know sometimes the self-worth challenge might not just be too high it might be too low you're constantly looking for somebody to love you even though your wife loves you your husband love you somehow somehow something has happened inside of you that makes you continue to look for it you're searching for it everybody that shows up and tells you something nice you could lean on them so we're watching that we're talking here today about cheating the other person has something that i miss in my childhood a caring voice then i have nice compliments you know i am made to feel valued i made the field values so in a sense it's all about me and that which is about me could set me up to fall and then there's the the whole question of the other person has something that i find as a natural attraction for me it might be the hair i love the hair long hair and sometimes it's hbo it is here belonging to others you know i i i just i just want that you know if you only knew it was weave if you were to leave it sometimes they have lips that i like thin lips or perhaps like socrates thick pluckable lips you know sometimes the size of the lips sometimes the color of the skin or the lips or whatever sometimes the breasts sometimes the shape of the person sometimes it's their butt gosh boy yeah i said that thing jiggling help me jesus a lady walked past my brother and i talking one day and as she passed my brother said wow she has very high sq now he lost me there because i know iq and i know eq when he says sq i say go again please he says she has a very high sexual quotient lord have mercy jesus hey listen to me sometimes i'm saying that the other person has something that you find attractive and you have to watch that in other words i'm saying we're talking cheating but are saying up front here early do your own analysis because it might be that that which you're drawn into is something that you find attractive and you're likely to fall every time somebody shows up with that that that sense of peace that that thing that that that just moves you it could be their spirituality i know people that sometimes make statements to me that i have to evaluate you know wow you are god mercy so connected oh my god and i have to evaluate that because they might be attracted to a man who is spiritual a man who is um connected or appears to be very connected they might be intelligence it could be eq they're emotionally intelligent it could be the physique it could be that they have the six pack and you have a whole case home that is giving you trouble you know whole case skills and competencies perhaps what is attracting you is people who look rich sometimes you grow up in such poverty and then you end up marrying something that a little above the poverty line but what is around you is nice cars and a nice house and you have to watch what it is that is drawing you in what it is therefore about them that might be drawing you in dr grande speaks of the critical moment theory grande says and this is it is it is when something initial happens that if not addressed correctly and immediately will almost invariably lead to unfaithfulness here's what he said the moment you realize that you are attracted to someone in a forceful emotional way check yourself are you with me check yourself you just feel it it's right at that point there check yourself back up a little bit the the next one he says the moment you say something negative about your spouse check yourself my wife boy she does good enough you might be opening a door check yourself the moment you say or receive something that is emotionally charged check yourself why couldn't it be why couldn't it be you as my husband that's charged that's easy to follow through on it has happened to me in the counseling office sometimes that's easy to follow up on you have to address it immediately i've had to address things like that by saying okay let's pause for a moment i heard what you just said let's explore that for a moment suppose it was and i exploit in the way to say to the person come run to the place to say so you see since it is not since i am not your husband then here is a commitment i want to make to you right this moment in this session i am making a commitment that in our encounters i will do nothing that will destroy your family or mine see i'm going with that see i'm going with that and i'm asking you to make the same commitment to me right now i hear me by your by the grace of god i will not do anything like that pastor addressing it addressing it when you hear something emotionally charged wow you're the best you understand me so well i'm amazed a lady walked up to me in a supermarket one day and she said to me pastor is anything wrong with loving you and i said what you mean she said i don't know sometimes i visit your church and i'm sitting there and you're preaching i'll just feel fear i had to stand in the supermarket and walk her through and get us to the place where i say to her so here's what you will need to do started by telling the feeling is natural it says you're a human being you can feel something for somebody but you have to manage that by sifting it with some other information you have to sift it with the fact that the person you're looking at is already taken and i have to walk her through to the place where i said to her so since you know what it is then you have to now say so help me god are we together i'm not boasting or sure enough about me like i told you i know that i'm a man before i even am a minister and i don't because i know that i want to even be more careful because i can't trust in my flesh i want to keep leaning on the everlasting arms amen sometimes people are deliberate they're intentional when they come and make certain kinds of statements to you are we together uh uh other times it is a response out of frustration and pain and need something that they're in that is hurting them and they just want to talk about it they're making statements because they're in that place a few more moments are here i've added here find yourself wanting if you find yourself wanting to look special you know the extra for that person because you're going to meet with them this evening they got being meeting at the office you know she's coming from the other office head office i'm coming down are you understanding me so you're starting to find yourself dressing up a little more check yourself check yourself check yourself if you see that you suddenly started make accommodations that you don't normally make for individuals you become the chief transporter you're the one that taking a home there is nobody else in church with a car are you under something you have to begin to think about it and check yourself you know you're putting on more cologne and your colon must be a little more expensive in fact you put it on two types you know and sometimes you forget which side you put what on so you end up with only right guard i am troublesome sometimes feel like you want to reward yourself for good behavior you know sometimes the fella says is swish now i ain't take a drink that is a wonderful tea i feel i need to take one off the road check yourself if you find yourself because you've been good for so long you've been missing out and drinking your coca-cola in bottles because it has now become canned you understand what i just said help me jesus in a coca-cola home looks like this but the one you wanted was this check yourself and then when fantasy meets with opportunity in full view i wrote it like that you know when you have thoughts that you play around with like i never eat a white meat yet you know when you have thoughts that you play around with in your mind you know i always wondered what tall boy will look like you know i marry a short thing there you know 16 sub not checking it at all on that foot long available check yourself check yourself you know when when you find yourself longing for fat rumps check yourself i want you to pause and think there's a real cost to cheating the price of the cheating is just the down payment lord have mercy when you pay when you cheat is only the down payment and when you surprise yourself when you get to see the cost lord have mercy the cost could include loss of position and loss of job loss of your house and loss of your home because those two could be different are you hearing me somebody hmm there's additional expectancy all of a sudden is not it's not just ali money but all your money somebody listening to me all of a sudden it is that there's a lost you now have to put money into two and three homes the price of the cheating was just the down payment now the real cost is coming because you have to do a lawyer thing and you still have to handle this school fees the real cost is to you when the cheater that is a liar and deceiver begin to realize that they have just lost their reputation and they've lost their character reputation is who people know you to be character is who god knows you to be when the cheetah comes undiscovered that he has just lost character when the cheetah realized how he has broken trust that he could never gain again when the person that had their full heart in you lost it completely you have to watch that you have to watch that that's a part of the cost and you have to begin to think about that you have to begin to think about that you have to also begin to think about you know how you set the seeds for trust and abandonment issues in your children when you cheat and the story comes out they themselves have lost trust in you and they feel abandoned by you and they're set on course to not be open to trusting anybody else and i've had a lot of young people saying i won't get married i won't get married because they're coming from homes where mommy and daddy are broken up i i hope somebody's listening to me and then apart from the whole question of these seeds that you're sowing in your children there's the hurt the amount of people that you've hurt not only have you hurt your spouse and sometimes we don't even understand the depth of the earth what the wife is going through what the husband is going through one of the reasons why more men killed themselves and their wives especially when there's a case of infidelity men are more likely to be to to to to have sex outside of their marriages and to be unfaithful than women are at least so it looked are you in me at least so it looks and sometimes this statistics doesn't always tell everything are you hearing me but the general thing is that men are more likely because men are on a sea food diet as they see food they want to eat women tend to be able to be more kosher son they could go up to number one and stay there but when a man goes as soon as he comes to one he wants to count up to four are you understand what i'm saying i need to break that down you get it all right because i sometimes i will speak in parables because i don't know who watching but you understanding me and so men are more likely you know to to to to do that then they said that women um tend to but men are the ones who really cannot take it man really cannot take it if it's wise slept with another man and a woman more women survive and stay more men are ready to go because the ego won't let them stay in this that's why i say to man since you want it for yourself don't work don't give it you hurt people you hurt people deeply they cannot catch themselves the woman goes through all kinds of stuff wondering what's wrong with me am i ugly or what she takes this song of shadow yeah like go bite me or what help me jesus yeah look she has nothing compared to me i have a better job i mean i mean i mean watch me that something has to be wrong with me you know the children are hurt in fact there's a song that i always listen to many years ago on top of the children are the broken pieces when a home fall apart when a home falls apart the children are the broken pieces who is going to mend their tender hearts the pain you cause in your home the pain you caused in both families your own family members are embarrassed the shame and especially if you are high-profile job some lawyer some big judge or something like that or worse if you're some pastor you embarrass them you embarrass the church you hurt the people in church that look up to you and have confidence in you that happens not just to pull it happens to the pew when you're an elder or somebody or some member in the church it could be an embarrassing thing for the church somebody call me on the phone and say you know here time here no you could handle that one you know i called somebody and i said we need to talk i understand that there's a little heat at your home pasta will you come by me now because you are your own worries and i taking on your voice by myself going and dead but still stupid help me jesus are you hearing me i want to tell you another thing to pay attention to you will be caught hello you will be caught moon run but they are ketchum everyone people say that the moon running he had the whole night free cell but the day comes and you see the moon up there somewhere are you with me aha whatever is in the dark has come to light are you hearing me somebody and so you have to be careful what you think you're getting away with you only don't even begin to understand the seeds that you're sowing and the problems the price where you think is just a down payment you sow seeds of examples that get passed on to the offspring you ever hear people say just like your father you didn't understand that just so the mother was sleeping around just so the father is making pick me all about the place so now you are sowing seeds that you didn't understand the price of the cheating was just the down payment you leave a lasting trail of disappointment and embarrass community members they lose respect and you lose your own respect and you lose your moral authority you can no longer you can no longer really tell your own children the mother cannot tell her daughters don't do that don't go with that boy be careful not to have sex with him because the children already know that you're slept with somebody else besides daddy the father can't talk he has lost his his is his girl he cannot speak he lost his moral authority has seen big strong men have to just sit down in the pew and they sit in the pew a long time after god is helping us god is talking to us and saying to us the price of the cheating is just the down payment your risk stds cheating devastates relationships i don't know you know i remember a guy come i was talking about yours as a risk stds a guy said to me i just gone to a particular district as pastor and the gentleman said pastor a lady died and she died because she had hiv and when the news came out of how she died a lady dropped down in her kitchen fainted away a man start a ball and when the story rose up but she died from hiv and and also and so much sorry um everybody's panicking and i sat there as i was hearing the story and i said lord that's why it makes sense not to go don't even start it so that your name would not get called and if your name didn't get called sometimes something called your name you show up somewhere or you're afraid to show up because you see something coming from you inside about you oh god bye look help me jesus are you hearing me the risk of stds cheating devastates relationships i said that it shatters dreams you're planning some things together you're looking at something another sun that's gone the children's education all of a sudden that's gone the stable home that you dreamt about it's gone and then there is regret that is lasting forever porn is a destructive food i come to talk about where you feed your mind onto you know are you hearing me porn is destructive food books and movies that transports you emotionally and even sexually and you do not have your own safe person as husband or wife with whom you are able to give experience give or experience sexual expressions you have to also watch the music you're listening to and playing or wrong with because sometimes the music you're listening to is setting you on course to make you feel horny that's all the term they use yeah you know so my friend said something and i said jam up you know and before before you wink your eyes is that you feeling a certain kind of a way but i give you a rough song just now but there are some of them that i used to listen to in my era like stealing love on the side you know and the funny thing is that a lot of you are playing these things in your wedding reception a lot of you playing these things in already reception stealing love on the side i got caught making love to another man's wife yes i did you all yeah yeah help me jesus are you listening to me the last stance of that song is most painful for me man says no i know what i did was a shame and a scene but if i had the chance and wasn't in this hospital i'll do it all over again you got caught but even they're in pain he's so locked in that he'll do it again if loving you is wrong i don't want to be right or they kept on walking yeah they kept on walking maybe you don't know those because you're not as young as i am and i understand maybe you might know rihanna's tickle ball uh-huh but she says where come crying nobody do all four you had a big show just now you know you're celebrating it was a big show now the curtains are coming down don't cry what you need to do is take a bow come take up your clothes leave before the sun go huh or cry me a river some of you know what i'm talking about listening to me here today you know you know you're listening to some songs and some songs will put you into moods that that that that that will that will predicate you some songs would be your tabanka song that you will sing after but some songs are going to put you in the mood for sexual experience outside of your marriage what you need to feed your mind on is the word of god where somebody was listening to me i heard that that word is a lumber to my feet and a light unto my part how shall a young man cleanse his ways but by giving heed to your word are you listening to me somebody it's all in the word i like to talk about proverbs proverbs has some nice ones do not go near her house lord have mercy stay away from there amen drink water from your own sister solomon says and running water from your own well are you listening to me do you don't give your strength to the house of another solomon warns because that's exactly what happens i want to say a few of these texts and proverbs proverbs chapter 4 verse 20 to 27 the wise man is warning the sun huh give attention to my words incline your heir to my saying do not let them depart from your sight keep them in the midst of your of your heart for their life to those who find them and health to all their body huh huh help to all their body watch over your heart with all diligence for from it flow the springs of life put away from you a deceitful mountain put a down devious speech far from you let your eyes look directly ahead and let your gaze be fixed straight in front of you watch the part of your feet and all your ways will be established do not turn to the right hand not to the left your throat of your foot and turn your foot from from from evil ladies and gentlemen solomon is counseling huh the wise man is counseling here my son give attention to my wisdom nothing you tell them sir keep your eyes focused on the prize know exactly where you're going have your goals clear in your view know what it is you building you're building a home you have a family you're trying to ensure your children in a better place keep your eyes on the path don't let your eyes shift off of it to see stuff that will sink you that will destroy you keep your eyes ahead of you on the path don't lose sight of the god who called you into this marriage and i know that she is not perfect but you not perfect either keep your eyes on the prize hasn't has to be your home i know she has defects and you have defects too and the reason you're brought together is so that you might make each other complete when i brought you together was not just for your happiness i brought it together for the sake of salvation and there's some stuff inside of you that needs sanding off is there some stuff inside of her that needs some some cutting off but you gotta walk together keeping your eyes on the prize i am not perfect and my wife is not perfect either but we gotta walk keeping our eyes on the prize sun incline your heir to my understanding that you may observe direction and your lips may preserve knowledge for the lips of the adulterous drip like honey it's smaller than oil in her speech lord have mercy but in the end is bitter as woman sharp as a two-headed sword her feet go down to death her steps take all and sure she does not ponder the part of life her ways are unstable she does not even know it i like how the king james says unless doubt should ponder the part of life her ways are unstable i like that one even more than this one you know why i like that one because sometimes the way she speaks to you the way he speaks to you is a shifting way for example he says to her i really like how you're close to your god are you hearing me i like how you take your god seriously something i really admire about you and i want to encourage it few moments after that he's trying to touch her the way is unmovable on the one hand there is the sound as if they're with you and they're standing with your values but on the other hand they're ready to sink you somebody ought to be hearing me smooth but deadly verses 7 to 14 and to stay away from such a woman now then my sons listen to me and do not depart from the words of my mouth keep your way far from her from him and do not go near the door of the house brethren there's some things you have to keep far from are you hearing me somebody if you're gonna deal with this whole question of cheating and the work was not being faithful i came to say keep far from her house or you will give your vigor to others and your years to the cruel one and strangers will be filled with your strength and your hard-earned goods will go to the house of an alien solomon what's he talking about do you think solomon knows what he's talking about imagine god let's a man who had 700 wives and 200 concubines tell us this are you hearing me maybe he's the best person to tell us your strengths your goods go into some other house and when your flesh and your body are consumed and you say how have i hated instruction and my heart spurred reproof i have not listened to the voice of my teachers nor inclined my air to my instructors i was almost in utter rune in the midst of the assembly and in the congregation it brings you down to north another place another place he says for by means of such a woman a man is brought to a piece of bread you come down to nothing but a piece of bread just break you and throw your side lord have mercy jesus the constant instruction is to help us just to avoid getting ourselves into situations where we're cheating but notice he says here in that same passage i was just looking at there you come down to be consumed you come down to nothing i remember i remember um a certain gentleman said to a friend of mine he says boy is a good thing is i who built this house otherwise i couldn't come back to it you know i left this house many years ago and went with another woman and boy in my life me never thought i'd meet a wife a woman more worse than me wife i never thought that i met a woman that was worse than my wife sometimes you think that what glitters is gold but when you get close you just realize it's just the same old then goal at all verse 17 for seven to fourteen says he says i'm sorry let me go forward it says drink water from your own system and fresh water from your own well solomon says in essence even if they want dung the road looking like juice salomon says even if they want the road looking like juice you will go there and realize it's only water so you might as well take a drink home are you hearing me drink water from your own system and run in water from your own well should you should your spring be dispersed abroad streams of water in the streets let them be yours alone and not for strangers with you even though you're loaded and again wet dreams keep it for yourself and for whom amen are you with me let your funkies be blessed and rejoice with the wife of your youth as a loving hind and a graceful doe let her breast satisfy you at all times be exhilarated always with her love lord have mercy this in the bible help me jesus for why why should you my son be accelerated with an adulteress and embrace the bosom of a foreigner for the day for the ways of a man are before the eyes of the lord and he watches all his paths his own iniquities will capture the wicked and he will be held with the cords of his sin he will die for lack of instruction and in the greatness of his folly he will go astray sometimes i talk to church people and they don't take telling sometimes i talk to wives and says keep yourself home i talk to them and say humble yourself there's no need to get up on no high horse try to keep this thing together they just cannot see it until it begins to fall apart and the children leave the church and and all sorts of stuff begin to happen and now the eyes begin to open and it's so late and it's so late they feel so late that they don't even want to come to church anymore they they can't even go to services anywhere anymore they have just lost it but up front it could have been addressed to keep you from the evil woman from the smooth tongue of the adulteress do not have desire of our beauty in your heart nor let her capture you with her eyelids for an account of a harlot one is reduced to the loaf of bread on the conch of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread and an adulterous hunt for the precious life yes they look for the best they want you another guy said nah me he said nah that church girl me one boy a church girl yeah can we say church but you know the girl you want are you understanding me claire looking for the precious life and looking for one who has a good job looking for one who has money are looking for one who has distinction in society they're looking for the precious life then he says can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burnt or can a man walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched then he says so is one who goes into his neighbor's wife who so touches her will not go unpunished men do not despise a teeth if he steals to satisfy his hunger but when he is found he must repay sevenfold he must give all the substance of his house and one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense when you read this thing you have to straighten up you know you have to ponder it you have to think about it one who one who you know one who commits adultery with a woman one who commits adultery with a man is lacking sense he who would destroy himself does it you want to what's the term we use lick up yourself you want to lick up yourself you want to mash up yourself you want to destroy the who you are you want to find yourself disjointed from the whose you are you want to feel the powerlessness one of the things i asked god to help me with i tell you the greatest asset i have is the holy ghost the greatest asset i have is the holy spirit and every time i think about something that i could get up and shake myself like other times and walk to the pulpit and one day realize it's just husk you know someone just what i just said you're sleeping wrong and playing wrong and dancing wrong in behind the scene that nobody don't know but you get up and you'll break a word and it falls like husk to the people you're walking through the society but you no longer have the same clout you've come down to nothing the one who plays around with that is only seeking to destroy himself wounds and disgrace he will find in his approach and will not be his reproach will not be blotted out for jealousy and rages are man and he will not spare in the day of vengeance sometimes you get killed even by the person spouse you will not accept a ransom nor will he be satisfied do you give many gifts give you some power for our thoughts here wonderful power thoughts i asked myself when i see situations or my thoughts were to wonder about anything i asked myself will my daughter if my daughter was to see this are you with me if i did something foolishly and my daughter was to hear about it what will it be doing to her my daughter received a call that i was under inquiry or inquiry on the basis that i was it was said that i had another woman my daughter called me she said you're all right i say yeah i'm good she said what is this i hearing so and so i said girl you have absolutely nothing to worry about i've always said if they fire me from my job i want to be innocent when they fire me and i'm feeling real good so if it comes down to me losing my job if it comes down to me being taken out of the presidency and i'm all right with me and god are real good because what god could take and do with me wherever i go because i have not lost my greatest asset which is the holy ghost i'm not afraid of anything are you hearing me but i just taught about my daughter and what she would experience and sometimes the ability to see the pity quite down the road might help to save goddess i'm doing foolishly upfront you have to see it as if everybody has an std except my spouse perhaps that might help you to realize that when you see it don't feel that be quite looking goody good i hear you need somebody it might be looking real good but it's good good trouble and you're not good good safe at all are you hearing me somebody this somewhere the footlong that you went after has stuff in it wasn't just garlic sauce help me jesus help me holy ghost today i said here it is dark shades that cause the grass to look greener and the dangerous thing about this dark shades that makes the grass look greener on the other side is that when we walk across there with our shades something makes us take the glasses off when we reach over and we realize that the grass overhead just as wrong like the little boy that run away to scotland the people there to see some of you too young to know that poem that found that the grunge wasn't hard and the yard was just as long and the doors were just as wooden like in england so he stood in his shoes and he wondered when you suddenly realize that the grass across there looking like a wrong thing looking real wrong over here huh i know a lot of people is only after the fact they're starting to wake up they now realize that she wouldn't make a good wife she had a good body but she didn't have good mind somebody realized that no no no no late as you're realizing that and very funny thing now is that when you look back over home and say see me i'm going home yes say go on home and fire take way home you can't even go home don't have grass home they've been better off if they were wrong but home has no more grass pack your things you don't live here anymore i hate you but i'm not hearing you don't worry that green grass and i asked myself do i want my spouse to do this to me do i want my spouse to do this to me lord have mercy lord have mercy i don't know my spouse was to do that to me what i would do one thing i've i've had a lot of things i settle in my mind i don't think people are perfect and so stuff could happen and i settled in my mind that by the grace of god i wouldn't lose me and i won't lose who i am by the grace of god while that is settled in my mind which is a good thing i pray hallelujah only say i could go until about two o'clock sorry i wouldn't go so long just hang in there they are coming home so what to do if you have cheated i want to suggest to you acknowledge that you have done wrong say to yourself start with this was wrong this could never be right i wouldn't want this on myself i wouldn't want this to happen to my daughter so why would i do her mother that so acknowledge that you've done wrong then confess your faults one to another and your sins to god confess your faults one to another and your sins to god tell god that you're sorry that you're messed up tell god that tell god you're begging for his forgiveness so you could straighten up your stories my friend said i i just had to tell my wife that i mess up i had to tell her i had to have to take the risk that she would walk out on me i had to take the risk but but i laid before her i set the stage up i told her i had something to tell her went through a whole process getting help for myself and then i went to my wife and i said i have to tell you something confess your faults one to another and your sins to god i want to put in a little plug here i want to tell you i can't tell you sometimes people tell me so you're telling me that i have to go and tell my wife that i and i stepped around with about 15 persons since we married i'm not telling you that telling you what god's saying he would confess your faults one to another you walk with your god you have to go and get counseling sometimes and be prepared to do it because you sometimes need help outside of yourself to bring your wife into the same room so that you can say certain things and so that could maintain a certain level of balance as it happens you work out that with god know that there might be cuts and bruises and blood and a lot of pain but getting up from it and out of it is better than staying in it amen the fear you feel is helping you to delay the inevitable it will come to the light and when it comes into the light you'll be more destructive come out of that and get help even professional help and go and sin no more somebody listening to me today but what to do if you've been cheated on you've been cheated on do not go it alone i said do not go it alone if you've been cheated on if you've been cheated on you need help you need to be surrounded huh be prepared to go for help be prepared to see somebody who could walk you through it watch out for miserable comforters because some comforters are going to come that are very miserable you taking that may i take that you know i put in some poisony food i bed here with some hot water watch out for comforters that will destroy you in the long run walk with comforters who will have to guide you through it who will be present with you as you walk through it go with comforters like that you need the inner circle like jesus had his inner circle you need an inner circle you need one or two people that you know you could talk with that you know you could share this with and they will keep it there's some people whose mouth only got oil it keeps rolling on and they put all your stories in the road do not do tit for tat are you hearing me do not do tit for tata here guys what do me all right all right i'm gonna do him back you know how long i try to keep myself from mr brown yeah he could blow how much he want are going to miss a wrong huh and then you hurt yourself you destroy your reputation you bring yourself down to not do not do tit-for-tat because they do me you're going to do them back don't do that because i ask you the question if you behave like what you don't like are you really different please ensure that you care front it i use the word carefront instead of confront i use the word carefront because i'm trying to say something to you i'm trying to say to you go at it don't pretend it's not there if you've been cheated on you'll have to address it try your best to keep your gain d4 discussed don't push it in c for cos that's all i could tell you try your best try your best keep it indeed and they discuss this cost discuss but the temptation can be strong to blow them out the water i hear me but you have to manage your own mind in the process it's not going to be easy but you have to manage your own mind you have to safeguard your own self in the process find out what you need to find out ask what you need to ask i know you might want to ask how many times is she is it she alone don't tell me i went with more than one is it only ladies how you went with men too are you listening to me so i'm doing all that in the pity and you're under pressure also find out because i need to know is it me wasn't i enough i mean you might have been looking for a patent and it only adopted seven up if it's a case like that please tell me i gotta drink two more babash i should not eat my body about she's our next thing help me jesus i enough what did i do to deserve this help me jesus oh father but try hard try hard to keep i had to keep the big pity in view because there's a big picture that mean you might kill him and end up in jail or kill her you understand me there's a big picture that mean that you have to help these children to know to manage their stories if they end up in a situation like this there's a big pity there's a big picture about the neighborhood and of course he didn't care about the neighborhood when he was doing the thing or she didn't care about anybody don't you do nothing but you have to keep the big picture in mind as you function because you have to understand that when this thing settles you're correctly who you are must stand up to all what i'm telling you here not easy what i'm telling you i know it's not easy but i'm trying to tell you something to make it begin to think about it so that as the time unfolds and as thing comes to fruition you'll be in a better place do not be too hard on yourself avoid the blaming of yourself unnecessarily and saying oh gosh i must he didn't cook enough oh gosh i didn't take good care of myself you know the muffin top was giving him some worries you know is he muffin top when he barely said hung over on top so is somebody listening to me today you know maybe maybe i should have done some more exercises and some twists to keep myself in a certain gear and you begin to blame yourself you start to degrade yourself i'm i am a real fool i am not bright enough he needed somebody who went to school he needed don't do that to yourself don't be too hard on yourself and so you need help outside of yourself sometimes to help you stay in focus and not be too hard on yourself don't be too busy to make big decisions if you've been hurt if you've been burnt don't be too busy to make big decisions this is not the time to start to say you see me i'm done with this i sell it this house and we don't do it too victim too busy to make big decisions allow yourself to face the process go through the process when you come down to that and you say i think you might have to say tonight i think you can't sleep here tonight it might be that you know the way i feel right now you are safer at distance from me and you have to say that as you deal with this and then but don't make too many big decisions because you could end up being more hurt will it be forgiven or forgive and forget or will it be remember and recover or will it be both finding a way to forgive and forget but knowing that there's stuff that you could never forget but you're going to recover if marriage if the marriage flight is there's lost of pressure in the cabin or the pressure changes in the cabin remember to put on your mask first are you hearing me take care of you if you've been hurt by a relationship like that spend time focusing on you go through it focus on you take the pressure but focus on you no no no it's time for you you might have to sit to the church for example i i need rest from my offices in church you know what i'm talking about i need a break i can't keep doing that for now take some time for you might need to say to your boss on the job i'm going through something right now that i just need i need a little time out take some time out for you expect to be in the slums for a little while you might be stuck for a long while there's no easy way to just shake yourself and come out of it and somebody might tell you that after a year they say you still holding on to this man they don't know what you had didn't know how you invested yourself and women tend to invest themselves deeply they don't know where you've been so you just patient with yourself and say it might take a while but i'm coming out i say i'm coming out i'm coming out and grief is a process so make sure you go through it with god are you hearing me i want to close this message by telling you a story i heard of a cat a cat that was caught on top of one of those trains with a fast take off those electric trains i heard the cat was caught on top of the train and when the train took off the cat was startled and tried to call himself down to make sure he doesn't fall off the train i heard that the cat was on the train and then all of a sudden the train passed near a signpost and the cat's tail was nicked off with the signposts and i heard i heard that the cut as the tail was nicked off piece of the tail was licked off with the time pose the cut spun around speedly to at the tail and the train same time passed through a tunnel that was closely fitted and knocked off the head of the cat as the cat was dying he left a message for every man and every woman the message he left was never lose your head for peace a tale i came here to tell somebody something i know a lot of you [Music] feel that it's okay i know sometimes you just get caught in it [Music] you didn't even see it coming i know as you look back some of you are in a place of regret cause you've broken your own homes with your own life and your hands and also of you right now are engaged in the practice but i also know that somebody is crying out for god to help them [Music] there's somebody crying out to god to help them because they have been the victims but there's somebody crying out for god to help them because they have messed up there's somebody crying out to god because you're saying i need every answer strength that you could give me because prone to wonder lord i feel it prone even to leave the god i love so here is my heart oh take and seal it seal it for thy courts above [Music] oh god will hear you as you cry to him faithfulness is always his choice [Music] it might look like if you lose when you choose to stay faithful but you don't ever lose not with god the other partner might have done it and so you're feeling so bad about what they've done and how it ever embarrassed you but [Music] if your relationship has to be ended set yourself to make sure it ends biblically of course you have biblical grounds when there is infidelity and you could walk out you could call it quits you could go to the courts and divorce but don't do foolishly that it cannot end biblically because if it didn't end according to the word of god you'll have difficulty you have difficulty starting over you'll have difficulty starting up afresh because you didn't end biblically i came here to ask you [Music] to walk with god [Music] i know you don't have the strength in your own self cause we are flesh but if you walk in the spirit you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh i came here to ask you to walk with god i came here to ask you to walk with god because you're always better off if you walk with him he said to abraham just walk with me and be perfect that's what came here to ask you to walk with god [Music] i came here to ask you to walk with god because when you walk with him he'll supply all your needs according to your riches these riches in glory by christ jesus i came here to ask you to walk with god be faithful god is counting on you be faithful your family needs you to be be faithful your children are depending on you to be faithful be faithful there's a cloud of witnesses watching you on your job and in the church be faithful [Music] as i pray and preach to you i pray and preach for myself that i too while i preach will not become a castaway i want to pray for you i want to ask god to help you as i have prayed for my own self several times so many times jesus keep me near the cross oh god [Music] in these moments when the temptations are so strong and their earthly pleasures call us may they call us vainly because we say we will be like jesus let nothing worldly entrawl us we say we will be like jesus whether we home or in the trunk we would be like jesus father there's someone who has heard me today and they're raising their hands right now saying jesus savior pilot me over life's tempestuous sea god there's somebody who has heard this message saying i need thee every hour most precious god oh father there is somebody who has heard this and lifting up their children's relationship to you even saying lead them my god today lead them to thee these children of mine that thou gave is me god there is somebody who is hearing this message today and saying god you rescued me thank you for your amazing grace i once was lost but now i'm found i was blind but now i see god there is somebody who is hearing this message today [Music] praying for the sufficiency of your grace your marvelous grace to hold them to wash them to make them anew oh god please hear this prayer today if these human lips have failed to ask of you anything god fail not to grant it there's some people in the clutches of evil people there's some people here within the hearing of my voice father who have fallen prey because of spiritual wickedness in high places they are people who have done necromancy to get the husband and the spouses of others their people who have destroyed people god break the curse and break the chains some of these people that they might suddenly find themselves outside of their prison free oh god do it because we ask it in the precious name of jesus christ your son do it and give a breakthrough to some household today do it and make him free once more dear god in the name of jesus we pray there are children who are broken because of this that are shorter than their own family life now as in turmoil god please visit them with your grace and please have mercy upon them [Music] cause these children father to finding you a friend kind and true they're finding you the one who has the capacity to change their hearts and their minds and to make them be at peace because those will keep in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee there might be a lot of things on the mind but if the mind is stayed on day we're gonna be all right god please hear our prayer today and we thank you that there is hope with you thank you there is forgiveness with you thank you that there is help with you and thank you that at last we can see your face in spite of where we have been and what we have done days grace with you and mercy to help us in time of trouble and time of need thank you for hearing this prayer and thank you for answering it in jesus precious name we pray let everybody say amen and amen and amen god bless you real good until later when we meet again god bless you amen amen we thank god for using his man servant passed him up this morning to bring us this powerful power-packed scintillating thought-provoking and timely message i know that each of you have been blessed and i know last week you asked if we weren't going to have evening sessions and guess what we are and it begins today this afternoon we begin at 3 30 we passed them up pasta map is coming back this afternoon with the topic of in-laws or outlaws he will be back this afternoon at 3 30. so join us again this afternoon at 3 30. now this is going to be an interactive session so we are looking for your questions so come ready to ask pastor matt some questions he will be answering them for you this afternoon we thank each and every one of you for joining us here this morning and we pray that god has indeed blessed your homes yourself and your families join us again this afternoon continue to have a wonderful sabbath over to you praise team we'll do a team song as we close starting over what a lovely song [Music] now [Music] i always try to live life on my own no one but me could sit upon my throne [Music] the success were all achieved in my own name [Music] the success i thought was mine was like a prince i couldn't find now i realized [Music] [Music] [Music] but christ my savior i'm starting [Music] to this point the life [Music] [Music] jesus to me [Music] how long to be yours starting over starting over but christ my savior [Music] though my life has been such a broken dream pain and sorrow in between but christ is my savior i'm starting over [Music] and though my life has been such a broken dream of praying and sorrowing between [Music] christ my savior i'm starting over [Music] i'm starting over [Music] make me your again [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] you

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