Drea Kelly Shares Info About Her Past With R. Kelly [ENTIRE INTERVIEW]

all right it's us six after the hour Rick and Sasha if you're listening nationwide I know you are yeah ears are probably not up loud enough the numbers eight eight nine oh nine one five one four in the studio with us the ex-wife of our Kelly I said the title right right but you know what before we do anything I just want to say welcome we embrace you the phone lines are open for people to ask questions I will be asking questions but do understand it's just I I just want to know and so does the listener that that's all that it is okay I hold your hand today as I'm sorry for a lot of the things that you went through okay from one sister to another okay so we're gonna we're gonna circle back cuz I know you from Chicago like when I first came to the radio station WGC years ago back in 92 vibe was big I don't even I don't think you even knew our Kelly then I didn't write you didn't cuz I I was hosting a night at the Riviera on Friday nights it's like a teen night it was it not even teen I was like a young adult on Draya Draya Draya which 100 back then she was baby girl when I say that baby girl was a dancer was not looking like an exotic dance and nothing like that it was like well just like a go-go dancer or things like that but before that people don't know I was actually what you call a bun head what is that so a bun head is a ballerina grew up dancing African I've seen you on Instagram all I can say is damn my daughter is a graduate of the Juilliard School dance she was doing point in futures new video she's the sister in there but listen so proud of you because that's to see her and I was like this woman can dance it was it was very unique like this is imagine like a nightclub right and all the the dancers that were trained or professional dancers they have these spotlight on them and she used to think I mean dance does the body good but you know what I think what also keeps you youthful pay attention have a clean hand in pure heart yeah because it's it's definitely take you know for you to have a you've been through a lot and you need that healthy living healthy thinking healthy eating healthy overall outlook on life right you know I've been through a lot but I feel like I'm built for tough right I was chosen for this right you know I believe ladies you lay down but you don't stay down absolutely so do we call you on Draya Draya what's your nickname girl what do you go you know it depends Adri Adri it depends on where you from from Chicago you know this from what if you from the south side is Andre from the west side is Andrea so that's where jury or jury I come from we from cetera what's me to where I dream for a very long time to even just recently I was 100% a r.kelly fan and it was so many things that I heard and saw that I really did not believe I watched there surviving r.kelly every episode every episode I just I was exhaling so I need you to take me back because it was some holes in it for me to help me understand your story when you when you first met him how old were you I was 19 so you were you were 19 you were dancing did you have to audition where you're trying to audition so tell me how you met him actually a good friend of mine Larry without Nellie right now he said come on down to the end of Chicago if anybody knows about that but you knew who he was right yeah I knew who he was because I know about at that time he was transitioning from public announcements gonna do a sexy video and of course I'm a daddy's girl so I'm thinking now how do you tell your daddy you gonna audition for sex look like go down there this is how I end up meeting Lisa Raye because it was actually the last dates of auditions and it was the callbacks okay and everyone knows audition etiquette you don't go back on day of callbacks to audition okay I get there she's like where Sunday about my baby girl said turn around let me see your booty I'm like wow what she's like just turn around them see you booty so I turned around she's like you here take this number and walk and just go in and I audition it wasn't Lisa so what What did he say to you so is he just looking at the body did he ask you questions actually it was him he was there and I think like four other judges uh-huh and it was really like a real audition you go up they say BAM do what you do they tally up the score and tell you if he made it but actually it was I did this rolling split out of a chair Wow that was rolled out of the chair end up in a split and I just remember him going you got it okay so we are now are Kelly's dancer and you are 19 what did your father say when you went back to say daddy I'm dancing for him he said what once you're done with God once you're done with college yes because I was in this transitional phase I took some time off went back and my dad said what got him to let me do it I said dad I can always go back to school I can never back to this chance Wow an opportunity here's a question really quick when Lisa said to you that he's gonna like you based on your booty was that a read for you was that a red flag don't give me that answer yet were there any signs we want you to answer that when we come back we're talking to the ex-wife of our Kelly Andreea Kelly she's got a story to tell and share with so many victims call us eight eight eight nine oh nine fifteen fourteen real people real ready out 20s the our feel like I'm doing the quiets do it went into that voice so what's your request social so my request is for you guys to call us at 888 909 15 14 as domestic violence sexual assault children being molested is serious in our community and we want to be here to help you through it we have hotline numbers and websites that you can go to for that help and we've got ex-wife of Andrea Kelly when when we say that to introduce you how does that make you feel um you know a lot of people feel indifferent about it but they have to understand I was the wife I wasn't the jump-off I wasn't the side chick you know that's who I was but it's not who I am okay so I'm okay with it I wear that as a badge of honor simply because I'm also a mother I'm the mother of his children so I I know that people would think oh well why would she say that and he was abusive this than the other at the same time I was still married to the man I'm still the mother of his children and that's a part of my legacy it's a part of my life it's a part of my children's life so I'm not gonna be upset or down on any part of that so you're now dancing for are Kelly and through that you formed a serious friendship with him what was that friendship like he was the best mama jokes he was hilarious I actually when I auditioned and met him actually had a fiance at the time and I was like oh we're now I would never ever ever date you it you know you are being singer you do what you do so we ended up really being like brother and sister and it was that moment I don't people asked me like when did you guys fall in love I can't say I can't pinpoint it I don't think anybody who's really been in love can say a specific time or date but you do know when the dynamic something do you remember the first time he held your hand that first kiss with him that made you feel some type of way and before you asked that really quick you were engaged I was how did he chop that tree down before that that first he was are killing well you know what it was my relationship it took a toll on it being on tour all this okay and I was gone and then I was with him with every album that he worked on the studio be like baby girl you know you inspire me come here or come down to a video shoot so when you're dating someone who's not in the industry right but you really could be in the studio for real and they're thinking to themselves not ain't nobody in the studio right you don't line up with somebody yeah they feel like ain't nothing open at this hour except 7-eleven and eggs so what are you doing and it's like no like I really am at the studio grinding this thing out with him so I don't even think it was so much what he did it was the time that I was spending with him that started to take a toll on the relationship that ultimately went from as we all know in relationships it goes from we're friends now we're best friends now we're a couple yeah but when was that hand that holding that hand or that kiss it wasn't that what was most people think it was something physical emotional they changed it for me when I saw that vulnerable part of him when he shared with me about him being molested as a little boy when he told me about the abuse that he had grown up in in the house and seeing his mom being abused go back to the root of my tree the first time I ever saw a man be abusive was my grandfather and he was a Baptist preacher ding-ding-ding-ding oh we have something in common abuse is that the root of both of our trees so I think that allowed me to have a soft space for him where I shouldn't have and that's when it went into an intimate space because now oh I have a space for not only big Rob but little Rob that you carry around so now how over you at that time so round ends had be you 21 about to be 2010 he was how old just seven years old so during that the traveling in the studios you saw nothing with other women when you were just the friend yes because again I'm on the dancers bus he has his own bus he has his own entourage we're in separate hotels and I don't think people really understand that they just think I popped up on the scene and married are Kelly right that's not how I was actually an employee he was my boss okay he had his personal life he it's funny because my manager now used to work for him and was his manager so like we had two separate worlds and again because at the time when I met him I had a fiance I didn't care about your personal life but did you know did you see or know anything he's a mastermind oh no in secrecy oh but he has a team that's why I really had to paint the pitch the picture for the listener when you were a dancer a professional dancer the club not exotic anything like that Andreea would walk in the club that would host and walk out the club like you did not see them hanging around getting to know people so I said he must have had to pull some extra abracadabra to get to really know her on that level because nobody nor anybody wanted to get to know her it was our Kelly a lot of people wanted to get to know our Kelly just saying his name you know how the groupies are they thought a paint they'd do anything to be able to dance sing right / do whatever to be in his push she wasn't that girl but I didn't say that she was but I'm seeing 99% of folks out there to get in front of him get in the business they would do anything to make that happen do anything and say they're willing to do anything that that is the crazy part like ma'am this is a rehearsal why are you here you come here everyday and sit outside of our rehearsal space water you do so on your bus with the dancers and the other people who were the staff like you said that was your boss was that ever any conversation among them of stuff that was going on or crushes or he was messing around with any of them you know I wouldn't know because again he kept it very separate but looking back on it now I just thought oh this is a man this is how he runs his ship now after being in abuse I realize he's very controlling mm-hmm and so see when she says that it makes me think of when I was a young man you know there were the girls that you knew you could get with yeah then there were the girls you knew you couldn't so you would treat them a certain way so you were that girl oh there was a level of respect there that you know it and again it's how you carry yourself they knew don't even try it now I'm from the south side of Chicago I have no problem you know when you are being disrespectful when you have crossed the line I'm here to do a job I this is my passion in my love this isn't a joke I'm not here to be a groupie I am a professional Jam dancer so everyone treated me as such as a professional dancer not a groupie that's trying to ride the bus to the next city mm-hmm so when did it become now you are engaged you're in love and you are now are Kelly's wife and you off that other bus oh you know I don't remember the specific date but I will tell you he said I was in the back of the bus reading the Bible and I was sitting in the window and he said the sunlight was shining down on you you had your Bible and I tipped Olien I saw you I didn't bother you I just stepped back out and close the door and he said that was the day I fell in love with you Wow well again how it wasn't emotional it wasn't a physical it was an emotional connection and what was your response when he told you that don't respond yet respond when we come back we get in the full story oh yeah what we jumping into anything because I needed to understand I'm understanding you a little bit better I'm doing a killing call us eight eight nine or nine fifteen fourteen real people really write a strumming thank you what do you remember most about when you were 45 she won't so dream as you're traveling with him and like we were talking about the dancers and the other people that were working with are Kelly you know and sisters get around we talk right I got to tell you I find it so hard to believe that there was no chatter about what he was doing and you did not hear that or see something Oh hearing something in two different what now what were you hearing oh you hear the typical story about the groupies in and out the parties but of course that was they call it that the gentleman and the fella banter what they talked about each girl and who were the ones that would follow them from city to city but again to me that wasn't of importance in my life I'm here as a professional dancer to do a job I could care less at the end today make sure my check is on time and my wardrobe okay you also mentioned that moment he saw you reading a Bible and he's fell in love with you yeah how did that make you feel oh again it it just words really can't describe because it's a beautiful thing when you have an emotional connection with somebody first it would be different if it was a physical and sexual connect you like okay well he cute we did we did but at this point it was like wow he sees me he sees my spirit he sees my energy when I know that with groupies and women on the road it's about something physical so again it made me feel extra special because I'm thinking to myself like wow okay thinking about doing that in like for that to happen two years I went playing are you serious yeah I'm nothing do that with you know me waited for two years yes I'm a day of nothing nothing I wasn't trying to bit again there was the transition from me having a fiance being on the road getting to know him that took almost two years of my life going from someone else's fiancee to his wife okay so go ahead and was he a was he a kind person very calm very kind what kind in what way but looking back you have to know a ladies the difference between kind and cunning man it was kind right but now that I've done the work and come out of the abuse I understand that it was cunning very different he was working on you like I said he was top in that tree slow yeah yeah so we're married so now we're married how old are you now 24 you're still young 24 and you're married what are your parents saying once you marry dark alley you know of course your family's gonna be happy for they were saying oh yeah because they knew you know being women what did they know they knew about me being on the road with him happily they knew about the transition from we remember when you first audition it's funny my brother Tony Bane's has hit me on social media like man I remember the day you went to that audition so my family has been along for the ride like okay now you guys are getting engaged now you guys are getting married you're going too fast was it too fast for them for my family or your family yeah okay what did your dad say to you you know my dad he calls me [ __ ] cat he said you know what [ __ ] cat daddy wants you to take your time take some more time now you know you're young we got the best mom I love him my dad was like if this is what you really want I will support you but take your time did I'm your dad sit down and have a conversation with our Kelly no he's not on one of the favorite people in my dad's list okay were you in love with him yes love with him no okay do you think he was in love with you absolutely absolutely to marry her I do believe yes to marry me in a world we were just saying that R&B not and we're not just talking like local army then and we know he started the Cotton Club oh yeah international international army yes say you want to give your heart to one woman I want to give her my last name and this is who I want to have my children that's not a jump off or a sidechick that's somebody you're in love with do you think he was faithful to you not so can you be still in love with someone but not be faithful uh I think you can be in love with someone to the best of your ability of knowing what love is because when you're in love with someone you put them before you you think about their feelings what you're doing I'm now responsible for what I bring into your life so he was in love with himself he was in the in love with the idea of me being his wife because if you love me as your wife the things that he's done to me and put me through he would have never done but do I believe he was in love with the idea of me being his wife absolutely so you had the best r.kelly at that moment yes okay did you have a wedding I did a honeymoon no it was a secret wedding okay I did not even know I was getting married that right now I heard that first sign of abuse was that you did not recognize that that you show up and he has that all laid out for you did you take it as well no okay so let's go back okay and a lot of people think that oh you didn't recognize what you have to understand I don't have to recognize what is not foreign to me mm-hmm I grew up in a household ghin my grandfather was a Baptist preacher he was abusive so again this behavior that Robert is showing me that's not gonna be shocking to me why that is normal to me I grew up in a house with another abusive man so for you to act that way it wasn't for it like someone who's never been in an abusive relationship it might be a bunch of red flags for them like whoa but when you grow up in an environment where that kind of behavior is normal that's not a rag flag for you you go oh well if a Baptist preacher did it he would do were your parents there where you know so you show up who's there his manager Jerry his manager and just everything is set up set up the ring ring minister yeah the license the license okay so who signed the license for you actually this is how it went down go in that morning we're going somewhere what am i signing don't worry about it it's right and this is how you can get stuff done with money people say we just and you're signing and you're signing cuz like I love him okay what do we do and this must be session whatever I trust you yeah and then there you are is he dressed in a special way you got home a nautical and then you and they just marry you yeah and you say I do and of course you're in the middle of it cuz your mind is going no but it shouldn't matter love isn't based on a big lavish wedding and it shouldn't matter if it's not in a big church if you really love somebody you marrying for love but then the other side he was like do you really have on a nice suit right now so again your mind is going in a million places but when you're in the storm of abuse you're not thinking rationally you're just thinking okay well we're gonna have a good life and it's gonna get better and we're gonna do this and we're gonna build and again that soft spot that I had for him that little Rob that he's carrying around that little dream that I'm carrying around oh we're not gonna be like the kids that grew up seeing abuse we're gonna be the difference we're gonna be the couple that's gonna make it but time was there any physical abuse mental it was more mental emotional very controlling again like I said looking back at his tour days I just thought he runs a tight ship this is what he wants being married to him in hindsight you're like no he's controlling yeah you said when you all got married he had a nautical sweat suit do you still have those photos I dunno you don't know when I left I left that house with $2,500 in a duffel bag so you have no pictures he destroyed all of my pictures I have no pictures of my babies like tiny I have no pictures of me pregnant I have no wedding pictures he destroyed everything when I left so when we come back I want to start talking about now I'm married to our Kelly now we have children and we're in this house together and it's hell it's hell their house of horror yeah official drea d-r-e and kelly.com is her website call us eight nine oh nine 1514 and also we'll be talking about some of the things that she's going to be doing we're also gonna help up you tell me for the hours Rick and Sasha we're talking to the ex-wife of our Kelly Andrea Kelly she's an independent woman doing her thing and a lot of people don't walk away from abuse she has done exceptionally well for her life she's dancing she's mentoring you didn't a whole bunch of stuff what your life mentor most of it motivational speaking always dancing I prayed that I danced and so they just put me on the middle floor with a wheelchair I'll be are we want you to follow her on official drea Kelly calm so you're married you have three children how old are your children now what was she's married when she was when she was married what Mary okay in that household married with your three children how was that and what did they see because it was stuff going on let you know what the beauty in it and I know this sounds crazy he was never physically abusive in front of my children thank God they never had to witness that it was strategically done he's a mastermind so was it other women coming to your home at the end of the day I am a mother okay okay so let's use good common sense as a mother that is a home for my children what do I look like having women in and out of my own well our gely was controlling and he was but mentally abusive to you so don't take it as a surprise that we would not think women were coming in and out of your house because I thought that as a woman yeah first of all what you do outside of this home is between three people God karma and the grave so there was another house I don't know okay hotels when you got a team of people doing things for you I don't know if you have a house in humanity's name you ex manager's name role managers name the record company's name you have to understand to the record company is helping you do what you do to hi was how was he with your children well his children I mean did he had a relationship that he spent time with them when they were younger he I think that that was that part of him that allowed him to be real and disconnect people have to understand that there's a person in a persona his children allowed him to be Robert the person but when it came to the music the fans in the industry he had to be r.kelly the persona so that was really his time to disconnect from the world and I believe that he was the best father that he could be because he did not have that example in his life but that does not give you a pass to not be present and I noticed as my children were getting older now it was okay with you are you okay well the nannies are gonna do okay well I'm gonna send you and the kids and it's like no I didn't create these children by myself if you're gonna be a father you need to be present and he was not actively being present so I found myself in a marriage being a single mom so with the children and you I mean some time has gone by and it was a lot of allegations that was happening was there anything going off in your mind like okay what is he doing do I need to start doing my own investigating you know every day I wake up trying to figure out which him am I gonna get I don't even have enough time to concentrate on the hill that's going on outside of this house because I'm trying to live through the hell that's going on inside the house and with that we're gonna come back and we'll talk to a lot of people out there that have been through abuse there's some signs that people don't know about we got these signs right here we're gonna share them with you whole bunch of questions we're going to ask is Rick and Sasha you know hey I do not play about my eggs don't know we don't see inside me you do not we should get money on the phone so y'all could like yeah their producer called me and they were like you know we did not purposely do that right we were just reading something you said to me and I said you have a number and want to do a song you open my children up to something bright dance they have banner well she said yeah there's more but I'm not going you know what I wrote on her thread because I know Moni as well and I said mommy come on that's the best mother so Moni inbox me and she said you know Rick you know we know each other what can you just call me and talk to me I'm like well you put her out I thought I felt like I knew you Andrea Kelly Andrea Kelly yeah that we have to say ex-wife of art Kelly I don't know how long we're going to say that for Andrea yes ma'am why haven't you changed her last name because I don't have to if I don't know I want to know that I mean you call him a monster along with everything else you know what the public think of him why haven't you decided like you know what I need a disattach I don't need to carry that name anymore um because the name doesn't count Howard Rhea Kelly carries the power and at the end of the day I paid for my name in blood sweat and tears literally people often ask me that and I asked him why don't you ask him to turn her the same thing and I understand where she came from when she sat in court and said you can have everything but I'm keeping the name that's because she paid for it in blood sweat in tears amen literally so does that name help open doors for you to being connected to our count let's be real now being connected to our Kelly who is international okay and you have people who hate them and you have people who love him exactly and I wish that people had your kind of insight into that because just because it opens the door don't mean it don't close them either because people think oh bugger that last name it's always good sometimes having that last name comes with being ridic fuelled and talked about put down shut out but I understand if I did not have the last name Kelly Miss Jones wouldn't be on this radio show today right okay so you then cannot hold me responsible for that that we love as a society and we live in a society where we want to be Instagram famous we want to be YouTube famous so now here's somebody with a famous last name who has the ability to use that name to open doors to save lives now you mad at me but in the same token if my name was Jones you wouldn't be on my Instagram page either right so you just said it people probably didn't hear it but my question is very simple people are asking this question why are you here right now to save life to change lives to inspire women to let them know that there is light at the end of the tunnel that you can come out of this thing hold you know my mantra is I have cracks but I'm not broken he put a couple cracks in me but he'll never break me don't let anything any man any woman any situation in life break you you're gonna have cracks but you're gonna come out of it and you're gonna be stronger and wiser and it's because of your cracks other people will recognize your cracks is theirs they're going to gravitate towards you so I understand that though people don't like the fact that I have kept my last name sometimes there's women who've been abused whose husband is a lawyer a doctor okay and they feel like he's at this level of prestige what do I do because this is no respecter a woman or man men get abused too you can be rich you can be poor you can be educated you can come from the best home my grandfather again a man of the cloth is where abuse was introduced into my life so if I can use this platform because people love celebrity whether they like it or not because you wouldn't be calling in if it wasn't a celebrity on here like I said if it wasn't Miss Jones nobody be calling in we don't care about that we can't sensationalize back did you like celebrity - did you want to be celebrity - did you what I was a celebrity before I met him okay you won my own right okay yeah see and that's what people think that he made my career I didn't become a dancer because I met Robert I met Robert because I was a dancer okay so I had my own career I was already doing choreography videos so it wasn't like I met him in suddenly BAM celebrity has always been a part of my life my mom worked for GC Ivo in RCA Sony records so I was a venue brat too like my mom worked with the Isley Brothers she worked with Lakeside so I was also you were in the business I was in the business yeah did you know Aaliyah I did not know her personally I just knew her as an artist you just knew her as an artist so did she ever come to your home did you ever see her in this audio no that was before my time at that time I was just as dancers okay so we had no personal relationship again at that time he was just my boss so I'm living in my own house he lives in his own house I got a fiance he has his world um but to go to that people ask me a lot of questions about alia and I will tell you this and I will say this to the end she is not here to confirm nor deny any of the allegations rumors whatever people want to call it and I'm gonna respect the legacy and the woman that I know of her I can't speak on her life I can't speak to what her experience was with Robert she's the only one who can really give an account of what that was but I feel like when she's ready to talk she would have done it if her family's ready to talk they will do it so stop asking me amen so you said that I'm not gonna throw him under the bus I'm not gonna say his name your manager now was a manager to our Kelly and after watching that surviving our Kelly and hearing the managers and the bodyguards and everybody else that was working around him seeing what was going on and they didn't say anything I really would like to ask your manager now you know did you see anything and why didn't you say so no that's why he left because he was like when you get Craig when I see somebody don't look right I'm out but then if he saw it okay you can come to the microphone you saw it and you a grown man that saw a grown man with young children and not say anything I think that's what I think that we have to be careful though Kim we're not trying to throw Eric on the bus no this is something that you saw I don't care if it's from being controlling I don't care if it's the way you handle your money whatever he felt that was not in lineman with what he feels is professional as a manager it could have been that he wasn't paying the man fine I don't know what that is but at the end of the day if it's not right for me walk away kudos to him now the ones who wanted to turn a blind eye on keep going those the ones you see in the documentary - and I have to say something up psychologists have said a lot of men who are he's around how old then I don't know like the timeline asking me from when the management change when he was his 20s was crazy so I think when I look at our Kelly they said that a man's frontal lobe does not develop until he's about 25 some 30 - for you knowing him was he in right frame of mind was he a mature 20-something year old person to you I wouldn't say mature but I would say I lost because again we're dealing with someone who deal with illiteracy not being able to read something as simple as if I was lost could I look at this street sign and tell somebody I'm on the cross street of whatever and whatever right you don't have the ability to do that so you're dealing with a lost individual you're dealing with an individual who grew up in a household where abuse was normal so again to measure him against what's the norm I think that you can't even do that for a person that is dealing with molestation as a child growing up in a house with abuse being illiterate there's so many things already stacked against you that you're not going to be in the quote unquote norm do you feel a little sorry for him a little bit I used to okay I used to but again I grew up in a house seeing that we all have a choice yeah once you've been through abuse you have to make a conscious choice that I will not be the person who's going to abuse someone because I know that pain personally turns I choose to be that person now if that's not what he chooses again that's between you God karma in the grave when you were you married to him when that sex tape came out we were actually in the middle of a divorce so when you saw it first I did not see it oh you know never see it everyone let me ask you why wouldn't you look at that to suffer yourself him first of all I it's gruesome enough to hear it so why would I want to see it to verify that verified no mess like that okay I saw it okay and that was him oh yeah let me see this say this okay it looked just like him okay I have never been the man's house I don't know him personally I can tell you this though what when I was on a radio drill his brother did call me Carrie did call me and say to me that Rob and his a lawyer they want me to say that that was me in the video that's what he told me personally but no I think it'd be considered child pornography at this moment you look at it so well they did say that and they said anyone that had it please know what you have in your possession yeah but again people ask me that and they're like oh why didn't you first of all and no disrespect this is where I stand don't question the fact that I didn't see it question why you actively went out to see something like that right I don't want to see that never have never will so question yourself are you wouldn't look for it and watched it how long how long have you been divorced so ten years so let me sit back on this one yeah please tell me why you're in the car singing happy people oh gosh yeah have to know I mean that can I tell you I didn't see that until after surviving r.kelly and exactly is she doing why is she in the car say about my baby daddy and singing this exactly here's our very young girl okay yeah when you hear me say other baby daddy hey Joe that is Joel PE King my children's Godfather is in the car with me okay so using other baby daddy you hear me I say come on other baby daddy but you're singing his again we gonna get we gonna get to that we gonna get to that secondarily to that whoever did not do their research and after surviving our Kelly came out say that video is damn near two years old first of all they actually put that out saying I did that after I did the documentary no no I I knew that but no no I'm just saying for the public who attacks me on Instagram they were like and here you are after you do that documentary right you gonna put that out but I didn't put it out Andreea even being divorced for ten years and calling him a monster and the things that were just displayed on television just two years ago to be singing his song I was I couldn't even believe that you would do a fan singing his music happy people will say you watch the documentary sing as long as probably people sing and I believe I can fly today it's probably people stepping in the name of love and reunions right now as we speak at the end of the day people have to understand - there's only so much of a good thing that I can pull from that marriage and what that is is my children his musical ability even when I had did come out people didn't pay attention I talked about this when I was on Hollywood exes at that point there was a gag order to a point you can talk about the abuse you just can never say it's him you better make sure you choose wisely don't bite the hand that feeds you so I celebrate that woman on that video because she lived in fear I always had to put up this front that we're good we're fine and I've said this in interviews before just because we're divorced doesn't mean we're not family because I felt like I was put in a position where I'm damned if I do damned if I don't cuz if I say something bad about him you're thrown under bus if I say something good about oh you really wasn't abused but at the end of the day me singing a song really goes back to the only good thing that I had in that marriage was music and my kids so me singing happy people which people don't see on the video - with cutting back at people don't come on in here spewing your hate spearing you should've did this why you didn't come out sooner you should have said this listen there's no expiration date on my story and no time limit on my healing so when I'm ready I had to find my voice to sit here today and not be that girl in the video I had to go through the process of becoming strong finding my voice so I could be a voice for the voiceless finding my power so I could be power for the powerless being able to stand in the courtroom and say you know what enough if you cut off child support of which he has done yet again because I'm going to tell my story then I'm willing to face that so again people put the video out trying to make me feel shame I celebrate that girl because that girl was afraid that girl felt like I better not say too much I better not make them look too bad I better tell my story without telling my whole story but at the end of the day I really can't say what I want to say but what I feel you can say what you want Ondra because I was one of those people that cuz even though it was two years ago I just I just didn't get it when I heard what you said and I'm not judging but if it's just my feeling of yours and probably people but I get it because you're not on the inside of it so you don't understand people just think that's just somebody I was the mother and the wife take some phone calls okay 25 suited Eva Andrea Kelly you have any girls mum what y'all doing over here what has happened is we have bonded yes because I have been angry with you for a while I didn't know the whole story I just know what was put out in the universe so what was put out there I made up my mind on a few things and as now you are sitting here just explaining some things to me I am understanding better and I'm mad at myself for judging I'm just saying I judged on a few things but I was real honest about what I was upset on some of the things that you have done that I thought was inappropriate but as you explained okay I get it it's your truth and you can do what the hell you want to do but I want to rewind for a second because when you're talking about child support with our Kelly and this is the second time why does it take so long how much money is he in the rear I want to know I would tell you it's over $200,000 so what okay that's not honey for a lawyer cannot get a judge to put an order in to get the money but you have to understand my case still sits in the city of Chicago okay so when you have judges in your pocket when you have police officers that actually still work for you right now it's not just this average woman going in okay didn't pay child support all right we'll issue a warrant we go get down to Yale off his job no we're talking about a man with the team three four or five at one time this man had six lawyers against just me like this is insane you're paying more in lawyers fees than what you should be paying to pay your child support but again you have to understand this is all rooted in abuse its economic and financial abuse I can't emotionally abuse her anymore physically mentally but I know financially I can I can get her window when's the next time you got to go back to court um we don't have another date until February 9th I believe that's a couple weeks away we need groceries you gotta pay the gas electric bill any gas gonna call you know and it's funny because my daughter ja my middle daughter she actually just put out some music okay and in it there's a quote in her song that she says how is it you can show up for award shows but you can't show up for court well how is it you can take your whole shopping but not pay your child support do you think he should go to jail okay so he should spend time for the rest of his life anyways a psychiatric evaluation okay needs mental help Andy the darkness that man is in it's going to take the act of God in 10 other people do you do you think he should go to jail for the rest of his life I'm not judging jury I don't know if it's army for the rest of his life but I believe when you put that kind of energy into the world you have to pay it back right you reap what you sow at the end of the day you know and I get a people like you made it very clear that you know looking at the video we were confused and again I just want to take a minute to to my other survivors if anyway I confused you or in any way you felt oh you know as a real survivor would she say that yes what you need to understand to 70% of women who have been abused recant their stories mm-hmm so that means even when the police come to your house and you're covered in blood and you have your abuser sitting right there she'll say I fell down the stairs that's very true so please have the same grace that you have for a woman who were recanted her story have that same grace podría who in that two year period long ago I was not living as a survivor I was not living as an advocate I'm still in my victim space but then it gets to a point when you're like enough is enough I'm going to stand up for myself stand up for my children this time I took a stance and I stood up for somebody outside of my family and now I'm paying dearly for it because me coming Ford gave validity to all these women's stories and the accusations that are out there so now he feels like you didn't choose wisely you bit the hand that feeds you now you have to pay so when we look at some of the signs of abuse one is your partner tells you that you can never do anything right they don't allow you to do anything sound all familiar to you oh yes too cold one day and then if thinking okay it's not then it wasn't cold enough the next day from things that are war like I'm a petite woman I was wearing clothes three and four or five sizes but I'm a zero he had me buying clothing like a seven because he wanted me to be covered up I can only show my body to him right did you do things sexually crazy with you I'm not gonna speak about that that is so dark that that is something I'm saving in my book but I will tell you this I have been through some horrific things that I feel like once I gave it to God it better stay with God because that will in a position I will find myself in prison behind bars with my children visiting me on weekends tria a lot of women are saying this on social media she knew what was going on she knew that those young girls are there because was it the video when you said or someone said that you had the knock to say can I come into the house actually it was Sparkle right into my house explain that please coming out yes very controlling like the stories you hear about having to ask for permission to eat are very real very true so were you locked in or you had to literally knock on the door let's make one thing clear and I'm glad that you brought that up because people think physically locked in like they're all saying well these girls weren't like it wasn't like he had the door lock when you are mentally in bondage right you don't have to physically lock a door me all you have to do is make me scared enough to touch that doorknob and I did it once and paid for it dearly you don't have to remind me again so what I owe you you get beat don't break his rules okay if I tell you knock on a door before you enter and you do not do that you better believe you're going to pay for blood sweat and tears we only had to learn that one are we talking about closed fists okay that what was next so buddy it was the slap the grabbing throwing your head degrading you I mean and I think that people need to be aware to the physical abuse of the is the aftermath of all the mental and psychological you've already been in like Rick you said it's like chopping down a tree you don't take an axe and hit the trunk of a tree one time and it falls it's many swings of the axe then you make the trunk weak all you have to do is blow and it'll fall over that's right by the time you've gotten to the physical you have already been through so much mental emotional and again because I was married to him I'm already in the financial my name wasn't on any of the bank accounts there was no drying into the bank and pulling anything out they looked at me like I had eight heads ma'am you're not on any of these so social media can be good and it can be bad on the comments a lot of the comments are oh she need money oh she knew this was going on she never said anything so hot do you respond on social network do you just let that go what do you say to them that you now coming out after all this time well I'll answer it in two parts coming out now after all this time I've really felt seeing these women come forward no one's paying attention so I thought because I was married to him I know that abuse firsthand I could bring some validity to these women's stories and maybe if I come forward people will go oh wait a minute this is over a decade and these women all have the same stories this jariyah we need to pay attention but again we're women of color in America we come last on the totem pole because you better believe is he was married to me and my name was amber lynn it wouldn't it took him 30 years he wouldn't it took him 10 years it would have been one day and we would have been done with this so let's be real real about that secondarily to that when you're in it it is so hard to even get up every day and figure out where am I Who am I how did I get here then at being a mother on top of it you push and you grab for that strength for your children because you don't want your there superhero so you don't want them to see you broken you don't want them to see you crying all day you still have to get up and have playdates and do mommy things so you know it's very difficult when you are married because again the abuse I'd had to go through 24 hours a day when things weren't right outside he took it out on me when things were good he took it out on me during the midnight hour he took it out on me edy the middle of the night in the middle of the day I was with him 24 hours it is surviving r.kelly ex-wife Andre I Kellis and studios Andrea when we come back we want to talk about that hashtag me too movement and all the celebrities that jump done and how you feel about that when we come back okay real people real radio babies drea Kelly's in a studio with us and it became very emotional for those don't see it she's in here crying like a boo-boo but it's okay we're all here together we're embracing you and what happened was our executive producers he was talking to us and she wanted to applaud drea for speaking out because she had seen the same thing in her family with her mama she said she was hair her mom had spoken out Andrea had a moment where took her bed yeah took her back and she kind of what explain what you were feeling your emotions doing that you know it was my daughter Joanna mm-hmm the reason why I left her sitting at the foot of the bed and long story short Robert is starting to be verbally abusive with my daughter this foot of the bed and she goes daddy why are you talking to my mom like that why are you being mean to her and a light bulb went off time to go and I said riah if you stay she's gonna end up with a man just like this and you're gonna say leave and she's gonna say why would I do that you stayed with my dad all those years Draya what if she doesn't make it out what if she ends up with an abusive man that actually puts her in a casket right so in that moment I didn't have the courage to leave my daughter to walk away Wow and it was because of her and I thought do I want her jaw so I'm little Rob to grow up in a house okay I can't take another day and I literally left him with $2,500 where did you go till you went to your father and when your dad saw you what did what did he say what did you say yeah and take your time sweetie just take your time the number is eight eight eight nine zero nine 15 a 14 what's that a hotline number the hotline number that we also have the National Domestic Violence hotline is a one eight hundred seven nine nine seven two three three is again at one eight hundred seven nine nine seven two three three when I when I see your tears it makes me think of my own daughters and I'm a man you're not supposed to have me up and feel like I want to cry you know y'all think it's a problem to cry it's show your feelings cry I got so many bottled up emotions but dumb that's something that needs to be talked about I you know I believe our our producer she was feeling the same way she was when you had when she talked you felt like she was that little girl girl you have forever changed the way she looks at you and what I do will forever change the way she looks at me so I had so you're with your father thank God and probably in his mind he's just so glad that his daughter is back home and he can take care of her what's what starts happening next do your children have a relationship with art Kelly are you speaking with him what's going on and and this is why it's so difficult and people say just leave but they don't tell victims what happens once you leave you know I tried for a very long time through the court system to say I don't want my children to be with him I did have a restraining order order protection for a while and again being in that victim mind state thinking okay well maybe if we just get counseling it'll get better and it did it did it um feeling like I was failed by the court system because here I am in court explaining to you what's going on in why I don't want my children there and the only answer they gave me was well miss Kelly he's never been convicted of anything fathers have rights so now Here I am dealing with my abuser that I have to willingly give my children to there's no law nothing said in place that protects me right it says I don't want you with my kids I don't know if you're gonna physically abuse nothing and all the courts can tell me is well yeah the children ever come back home though and say that he was doing anything verbally abusive not spending time with them was any [ __ ] time just not spending time and other people were watching them okay how do the children feel right now about their dad is he still daddy they call him Robert senior yeah do they talk to him no do they text him she sent him them any money he does not he has cut off child support for yet the second time how does that happen okay the first time for cutting off child support was when when I first started doing Hollywood excess okay and again that's why I say that that girl in the video that everybody wants to condemn and trend about I'm so happy I'm not her anymore I'm not afraid because when I went on Hollywood exes that was his way of letting me know don't bite the hand that feeds you yeah you can get on this little show but you better not ever say it's me you can talk about your abuse you can say what you've been through but the moment you say is me you're done so that was a way again people don't understand economic abuse is a number another form of abuse he's not and you did not never you never mentioned his name did you know just just the fact that I even said that I survived domestic they already knew it was already knew and he cut you off then he cut me off to the point like people do not understand this they thought oh she's like my house also went into foreclosure how does that happen he's making millions of dollars so did you go back to court back to court yeah and he's and then we'll have they let me know Oh ma'am you just stop living beyond your means you have a good life mm-hmm and I just remember sitting in the courtroom stunned but at that time how over the children oh they were still young so we're still young so young now and now say you're the children's ages now going to 18 and 16 so they were still in grade school okay so you're still receiving support now but nope but no we have a court order for support he's not paying it the moment I got you off this son because of because I said your name I was true to who I am I went on sister circle and I put a face to my abuse and that day 40 kind of support so now people can understand why I'm in a video smiling trying to be like tell you story but don't tell your story give something but don't give too much they make it known you better not bite the hand that feeds you you better choose wisely ma'am and I have paid dearly for it but I'm okay did you lose your home I mean how are you living now are you well this was the first time the first time yeah the first time he did it went to court are you close to losing your home now or anything like that no we we know it's a financial strain at the end of the day he has a fiduciary right responsibility to care for his children I don't care what you feel about me that does not mean because you're angry that I told a story first of all you should be angry that I have to tell a story of something that you inflicted upon me that's number one get help number two to punish me you would rather have your children suffer how can they call you dad when you don't even care about the quality of their life so what are you doing are you back in ring no get back in the court system to get the child support but for Draya because if your daughter or your son is it son 16 what's next for you because you have to have an income for self and be able to you know do what I always do I mean I've Worth had to don't tell us it cuz we want to hear what you have a Sasha trying to seeing stick to your day job she's gonna be opening up studios yes actually this will be my second studio people don't know that even I've had to dance companies Andrew Kelly dance theater okay which yes that's I like to do a lot of my philanthropic work through there and it's ballet jazz modern and it was actually they here Washington cultures you know we did a show there I've done doubt dance Africa with dr. Bob a Chuck I've done Dance Chicago yeah yeah busy I've been busy yes I have a ratio had a studio relocate I'm gonna open one here like I said motivational speaking people don't know I'm also a fashion designer okay then in the Bob Mackie program started in like sixth grade Wow so there's a lot of layers to my onion you know I don't just sit back and collect checks and Dr Kelly's XY scatter the onions the me to movement hashtag me too it's been stinking a lot of celebrities jumped on the bandwagon years after people have been abused what are your thoughts on that you know it's really agitated and irritating don't don't lend your support when we're trending mmm okay cuz now you're just another hashtag to me at the end of the day where were you again people are saying would Rhea you never said no I did you weren't paying attention you weren't paying attention and there's women out there every day who need support don't just come out and stand in the forefront for women of abuse because now it's a celebrity attached to it so now we can hashtag so now it's trending if you really want to lend your celebrity go help Miss Jones next door who does not have help to get legal fees paid okay right at the end of the day no one reached out to me oh no celebrity friend only one Bobbi Brown okay only one and we all know I take that back I talked to Vivica Fox one time okay and she encouraged me to tell my story but other than that no one has before do you want to hear from I mean is anyone particular um at this point it's a day late and a dollar short okay because again I feel like don't support us when it's trending yeah this is an issue that we should be report supporting 365 women are losing their lives every second every minute of every day of every hour yeah my girl Moni love we had a little something I have no money for a minute and she said something I'm one of the opposed tonight I kind of told her and said Moni I mean I know you to do this and there is not the kind of woman so she inbox me back she said call me we talked on the phone I said but don't do it in a social media but you know she has the right to say what she wants to say as anyone does and she said it so okay and I have the right to respond I did you know I'm good I'm just bringing understanding to win children are involved leave them out right all right let's get on the phones right now eight eight eight nine oh nine one five one four talked to Draya Kelly she's here with us and we'll be right back Rick and Sasha five before the hour diva Andrea Kelly yes so listen this we're gonna do now let's go to the phones right now cuz people want to talk yeah they do they now listen I don't know what's on the other end radio she get it she's from Chicago she got it okay my sister from the South 909 15-14 let's check alright it's Rican Sasha after watching this series or whatever I just want to know what advice which she had to the parents who still haven't gotten their daughters back like how what would be a good way to encourage them to keep on the first thing that I would say is make sure that your conversation is with love okay sometimes with victims we tend to ask them questions they come off accusatory like well didn't you know what are you doing why don't you sing your daughter yeah to get them back especially and if they are able to speak with the victims I'm not sure again I believe what's being said when you do talk to him speak with love like I said and let them know a lot of people tell victims why are you lying why are you lying right now you just called me a liar the way you change that that that language is I understand that you're lying because you're afraid but you don't have to be afraid to tell us the truth so when I was watching the parents I had to turn that around for a second because it does become a blame game how could your sin hmm if it was me and I was 15 16 and it was Oprah but a male it was a male Oprah and I had the opportunity to be with an Oprah and go cut across the country to get into my craft I would be begging my parents to let me go I'm gonna be with this person this is what I want to do they're gonna protect me and they're talking to my parents and making them feel comfortable that they got me I gotta tell you I would probably be in that place it's it can easily happen and then once you send your kid he said I'm gonna take care of her I have staff and you you believe that yeah because you know we again we we live in a society that is very starstruck and it's about Fame so we're talk about that one moment in time so I could understand being in that position thinking this is that one moment in time and what do we need to do to make that happen and people have to sacrifice and we're gonna do what it is and then you look up and you're in it and it's like what do we do now and people have to give grace for these parents also because at our greatest intention we love our children and we do anything for them no parent sets their child out to be attacked and eaten by wolves but now that my child has been bitten as a parent I have to take responsibility for putting you in the den maybe some of these parents aren't even responsible for saying you know what I have to take my part in this when things did not calculate when things were not right I should have stepped up and stopped it immediately but something in me allowed me to justify it that now it has gone beyond a point of return wasn't it tough watching the parents at the studios and they called the police and they were trying to get in just to see if the daughter was still there that was heartbreaking because I looking at parents trying to get to their yeah you know bothered me the most when I was watching and surviving r.kelly is that those those particular parents one the father said that I figured since it was our Kelly that he could help my daughter knowing what you know he's done I mean come on man that's what I was saying at some point you have to take responsibility loving your child you would never set them up to be eaten by wolves right but at some point I have to take responsibility and say but I put you in a position to be bitten yeah we're taking your phone calls eight eight eight nine oh nine fifteen fourteen right now and I want you to also support and check out Dre as a website official Draya kelly.com hello I mean why did you stay with him all these years and now you won't come out and trash the man I am so sick of these women wait until they don't tell you like I tell you hey so you wanted it and you stay there now you can't have it now you out to slaughter him so Cassandra should there be a timeline when victims can come out I mean so what do you say to that well first of all I have to say you have to be an ugly person to say something so ugly and that's number one secondarily today don't walk it you can't speak on my journey when you haven't walked in my shoes there's no time limit on my stories and no expiration day mission experience so again if you've never been in it it's easy for you to judge from the other side of it it's just like when they tell women about having a baby don't tell me what it feels like when you never push one out right and I assume that she's talking to all of the women that were on that program yes why are you wait but again you wait because in abuse you feel powerless so I have to find my power to be powerful the power of powerless I have to find my voice first to be the voice for the voiceless I have to go through my counseling and heal before I can help others to heal so again be careful because that that you judge you might be the very one in or guess what so go ahead let's talk about this yes we we had this conversation yes we did and I have different opinion and I said to you Sasha yes sir that there should not be a time limit on when victims can speak out and you disagree I think it should be a time limit because we have to be fair on both sides we have very vindictive women - I'm not talking about you okay but women that will come up later and maybe the dude didn't do anything and here's these allegations 20-30 years later and you destroy everything for this person do you do you understand that part of it oh absolutely and that's the thing I'm very neutral I understand it from both sides of it because I've done the work and I've done the healing so I don't take offense to when people say that but again because they're not in it they don't understand and then the evidence it's 20 years later so it now becomes your word against his word and now this person is on the line for the rest of their life I really do believe it should be some timelines of when you are going to accuse someone of sexual abuse rape etc etc it has to be something even even if they did do it yeah I I don't believe that there's you and again when you come forward well I will speak for myself okay coming forward was to empower women got it I can't empower you with I feel powerless I cannot help you to live a better life and live for clarity when I don't have clarity about my life and what I've been in I had to do the work and understand why was this man's behavior familiar to me mm-hmm oh my grandfather so I have to be very clear about what's coming out of my mouth before I tell the story because what allows me to be a Victoire is that I can take responsibility and say you know what Rhea you didn't deserve anything that Robert did to you but you were fully responsible for how long you let him do it that's when I got my power back because then that lets me know you stand up for yourself listen to that voice and tell your story whether one person listens or a million people listen with your knees trembling your voice cracking and tears rolling down your face tell your story because guess what though it happened 20 years ago it might be somebody that's going through it right now today that needed to hear that to know they're not alone I'll call up here and say I didn't do some but that's just my opinion okay that's my opinion it's written Sasha with drea Kelly for every woman out there real people are already out

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Published: Wed Jan 16 2019