Does Silence Make a Man Miss You? (Test It With This)

The Silence make a man miss you that is what we're going to be talking about today it's one of those questions a lot of women sometimes come to me and they want to use silence as kind of this thing where they play hard-to-get I'm gonna talk a little bit about why that's a bad idea and when silence is actually an effective tool and when it's not an effective tool and why you would want to use it and why you wouldn't want to use it hello my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to commitment connection and so let's get started here so what are some of the reasons why you would want to bring silence about when when the silence actually make him miss you so the first one is that silence works if he likes you and he's attracted to you and this kind of seems like a common-sense one but but it might not be that that much into common sense because sometimes I'll talk to women and they're like okay there's this guy and I like him and I went silence on him and he's not pursuing me and so there's kind of an answer there right it's kind of like a little test you went you went silence on this guy and he never ended up pursuing you and the reason that it was read wrong was because you projected your attraction for him onto him thinking that he was attracted to you in the same way that you're attracted to him and we have women that do this all the time guys do this as well by the way and so what ends up happening sometimes is that women will talk to a guy and they'll like this guy and so they want to get this guy to be attracted to them and so they jump into this thing that I call the dancing monkey right and they'll start being like doo doo doo doo doo try to get this guy's interest and try to keep them interest it's like one of those monkeys you know with like the big symbols and he's like smashing it together and and that can get attention but attention and attraction are two completely different things and so don't mistake his attention for his attraction and so what you really want is to have a relationship where a guy is actually attracted to you and he is doing the work to be involved with you he's showing you that he wants to be in a relationship with you and if you're in the initial dating phases he needs to be investing in you pursuing you in convincing you that you should be with him not the other way around if you've communicated that you're interested in him and he's definitely interested in you you can lean back and he'll step up to the plate if he's serious about it and so that tells you a lot about whether he's serious about it and whether silence is the silence in this case is actually kind of a test writing it shows if he is attracted to you and you've kind of created this interest which we'll be talking about here in a second he will start pursuing if he is actually serious about it which he might not be right some some guys just like attention some guys just like to get their emotions riled up they they get satisfaction they get their needs met through just talking to you or discussing things or or not moving things forward being a pen pal and so you don't want any of that right and so all right let's move on to number two and by the way if you're here with us right now say hi in the chat and let us know where in the world you're watching this from it's cool to see so many women from all over the world watching all these live streams alright so number two is silence works when he has an emotional addiction to you so like when a drug addict loses their fix right they're like you know all they can think about is the drug how can I get this drug how am I going to get this drug you know hopefully his emotional addiction to you isn't nearly as Extreme as a drug addiction but there are some correlations to it they have found that when you break up what they found is that it's kind of like going through a withdrawal and so if he has enough emotions invested in you and he's addicted to the emotional experience of being around you because you've been using the stuff that for instance I talked about in the forever woman program then he will definitely miss you if you haven't been using that stuff then he might not miss you and so you definitely want to check that out you can check it out at the Forever Alone formula.com I gotta throw it in gotta throw the pitch in there alright so number three his silence works if there's positive anchoring and so what is anchoring anchoring is the motion it's when he feels in the emotion when he thinks about you right so if he feels in the motion when he thinks about you that's anchoring right it's an association in his mind he thinks of you he feels good and if he has that then silence could end up working right if he feels a lot of positive emotion because of the great positive experiences that you guys have had together he's far more likely to miss you if you ended up going silent on him and if his emotional anchoring to you is negative then he might actually feel relieved and happy that you're finally going silence and he doesn't have to deal with talking to you anymore or being around you anymore and so it's very that's why it's so absolutely important to connect with him in a positive way I get women who sometimes try to trigger men with negative emotions that they don't want to feel over and over again to try to prove that the guy cares to try to get him to prove that he cares about her and so they'll do things like fight or argue with him or attack things that he cares about make fun of him do things that that she probably wouldn't want done to her right creating drama where it doesn't need to be or trying to make him jealous or or any of those things right those gamy type things playing games with him trying to use emotional manipulation and stuff like that and if you do this too often he'll welcome the style the silence that you guys have between you and he'll start planning his escape from the relationship and he'll want to get out of there because if he's the more mature he is as a man the more likely he is to want to get out of there and the less mature that he is as a man the more likely he might get caught up in those gaming manipulation tactics so alright so number four is silence works if it creates a contrast so there's something that I call the contrast principle and basically what this says is that he will a man will start appreciating you more if you create a contrast it reminds him of how amazing you are and so maybe you've experienced this before where maybe if you've you've come in from the cold it's really cold outside and it's freezing your hands are like numb and you're like you know you you come in you you put your hand by a fire and all of a sudden it like heats up really fast or like oh my god that's really hot whereas if you were in the heat and you put your hot hand next to a fire it doesn't feel as hot right because there's this contrast because you're cold and then you're a hot maybe it you can do it like if you've jumped in a shower writing a really warm shower after you're really cold outside near your feet your hands are like oh my god that's really hot right and you feel that way because you're cold and there's a contrast or for instance if you've ever been really thirsty and gotten a drink of water right water is great but it tastes amazing when you're thirsty it tastes absolutely amazing when you're thirsty even you water haters out there I know you'll love water if you're really thirsty it's true alright so if you've ever had great experiences together and now he's stuck at work or he's doing something boring or not nearly as interesting and exciting as being around you then he'll definitely miss you when you're not there and so that's when silence works right it's when it creates this contrast where all of a sudden you're not around him you're not bombarding him with messages and you're just silent right maybe you're leaning back or whatever you're doing one of the things that we teach about in our programs and he's like oh god I wish I was with her right now right and that's why it's so important to create a great connection with a man that way he feels really good about you he feels really good around you and by the way if you get what I'm talking about right now say I get it in the chat if you don't get what we're talking about right now ask me whatever questions you have and we will go over the questions here in a little bit all right so when does silence not work let's talk a little bit about this number one is silence doesn't work if he's not invested right it won't work if he's not invested so women who try to play too hard to get in the beginning for instance right and they reject a guy or they insult him or they throw up a whole bunch of barriers in front of a guy this usually what won't end up getting them the guy they won't end up with this guy unless he is like super aggressive a few men out there might like it but most men will not he has to be incredibly aggressive for this kind of thing to work and there are some barriers that you can put up in some ways that you can do this that that will make a guy want to try to get more invested in you from the start but that's kind of gamey stuff so we're not going to be talking about it here right now so it's it's hard enough for a guy if you think about one of the most important things that you can do in any relationship and one of the reasons why a lot of relationships fail is because we get into our own heads right and it's all about what we're thinking and we start creating assumptions about people and so one of the most powerful things that you can do with a partner if you have a partner is to be compassionate and have compassion for the person that you're with in your life and one of the things that you can do in practice if even if you're single is to think have compassion for men and and what men are going through and what they're experiencing when they have to come and approach you or talk to you or whatever in the real world so it's it's hard enough for a guy most of the time to work up the courage to talk to a woman he doesn't know if she's not you know giving him some real indicators that she wants him to come over and talk to him and then if you do like some kind of vicious rejection or silence or whatever early on in the dating process it could potentially just make them think that you're not interested and most guys at this point will usually lose interest in talking to you so it's really it's really simple to tell if somebody's interested right and what you're saying if you're talking to somebody and they're interested they'll nod their head and be like oh yeah yeah and they'll talk to you somebody that's not interested will like look around they'll be trying to find other things to do or reasons to get away from you or whatever right and so if you're talking to a guy and you want him to continue on in the initial stages you have to give him some kind of encouragement show them that you're interested in him talking to you number two his silence won't work if you're not emotionally connected together so if a man's emotions aren't engaged with you he's not going to miss you you need to connect with him by using emotional engagement right so he wants to see the special unique valuable amazing parts of your personality he wants to see and experience the value that you bring to his life if you're boring like all most of the women that he meets which most of the women that he ends up meaning he feels no emotional connection to he and which ends up slotting them into this casual I can hook up with this person kind of category and makes him not feel like he wants to deal with any kind of challenges or barriers or anything that comes up that's gonna be what ends up happening but if you're following what we talk about on this channel if you're using the forever woman program then you know to connect with a man in a different way use your personality to connect with them use your emotions to connect with them show him that you're special and different and unique and nothing like all the other women that he meets in his life that way he actually wants to be with you right if you never show him aside to you that special silence will only make him forget about you so number three let's talk about three his silence will not work if you're waiting for him to get to the hint and and a lot of wives can vouch for this one right so when a woman pouts and she's waiting she's like tapping her foot and she's like you know maybe he'll get the hint that I'm angry right now right she ends up waiting for a really long time and the guy's like oh I thought you know I was kind of like enjoying it I thought we were just hanging out together but you were over here mad the entire time and I had no idea because you're giving him the silent treatment and he doesn't realize that the silent treatment means that you're angry or he actually enjoys it which is is kind of an interesting thing as well right so relationships work out much much better when both partners try to say what they mean and stop with trying to do all the hints right women tend to be really good at being detectives right private private investigators right they're like look at dropping hints they're looking for hints they're like what does this mean right he like the guys like walking she's like well he walked and then he turned left what is the left-turn mean right he was talking to me and his his bottom lip was like moving faster than his top lip what does that mean you know it's just like all these random things and women are you know they're really great at being private investigators they're really great at being detectives but guys tend not to be as good at it and it's better in relationships generally speaking to speak to the actual challenge or a problem by the way I'm just joking with all that stuff for all the women that are gonna get really angry at in the comments I'm joking I'm joking it's a joke it's a joke anyways number four his silence won't work if he feels only negative emotions towards you if a guy has negative emotional experiences around you going silent will only make him feel relieved to have you gone we talked about this a little bit earlier so that's why it's important to put positive emotional experiences that you have together into the relationship money jar so imagine that you have a money jar and you're putting positive emotional experiences in there as much as you possibly can because that will end up making him feel a positive anchor to you you'll feel a positive emotional association to you and overall then occasional negative experiences are just expected right it's a part of a normal relationship but if negative experiences drive the relationship that you guys have together it'll end up becoming a problem until it destroys the relationship and it becomes incredibly challenging to do anything about it that's it's a big can end up being a big problem alright so if you're if you want to be loved and seen and absolutely cherished by a great guy make sure that you check out my program the forever woman you can get it for free at the forever woman formula.com if you have any questions go ahead and ask your questions right now and we will go over whatever questions you have in the chat so what do you got what you got for me Nadia says are we on yet the answer is yeah we are on yeah all right now Facebook user says he asked me not to contact him after we had an argument mm-hmm-hmm-hmm well thanks for telling us anonymous Facebook user what shall y'all plan be how long you guys been seeing each other if you guys have been I mean it's one of those things sometimes it takes men a little bit of time to like if they're like really angry about something there it takes them some time to like kind of wind down and let go of their anger and get back to a rational place and start feeling those positive emotions that we were just talking about towards you again and so if he's like hey don't contact me again don't contact them again and give them some space give them that silence and allow him to kind of get over it and start missing you again if you guys have been seeing each other for a while if you haven't been seeing each other for a while and you haven't put all those good emotions in the emotional money jar like we talked about then you know who knows what might end up if it's just knew it might not last if you guys are doing that that's why you need to do that's why you need to have positive emotional experiences all right so Robin says I'm currently doing this 100 all right do this 100 Edna says how Abu Dhabi his silence on me after an argument how do I deal with that attitude and we are in a committed relationship well I'd give him like what I just talked about with the woman before I'd give him some space just give him some time give him some space right if he's all like angry and he's upset and you're over here like poking him right they call it like poking the bear you're like over here poking the bear and he's like hey I need some time to like deal with my anger issues right women and men a lot of times tend to deal with their anger issues in a different way women tend to want to talk things out right they want to discuss things and this isn't in all cases by the way different people are different and you have to kind of figure out what's going on with the person that you are seeing however if he like is like hey I you know if he's angry and he's having an argument and he needs some space just give him some space and start working on yourself working work on your own life work on things that are important and that matter to you and give him that space and let him work on himself and get through that anger and then come back because at some point he's going to start missing you if you guys have been together and like I said you have a lot of positive emotional experiences together what will end up happening is he'll be really angry and at some point he's gonna be like oh I'm so tired of being angry and I really miss those good times that we had together I want to be back with her and sometimes guys will end up apologizing sometimes they'll just show back up sometimes they'll do different things and so you need to make sure that you're giving him that space to do that because if you if he's angry and you're like showing up all the time what you'll end up doing is creating that negative anchor that we were talking about before where he thinks of you and he thinks of anger and he thinks of you and he thinks of anger and it happens over and over and over again and then whenever he thinks of you he thinks of anger and that's when relationships fall apart real fast so you don't want to do that Mina says hello I'm from South Africa happiness peace and joy to everyone well thank you Mina happiness peace and joy whoever Walden Annie says hi Matt love listening to you you give the best advice well thank you I appreciate you I appreciate you saying that to me thank you so very much Carol says what if he's to be just friends but he's made other friends well I'm not sure what the problem is if you're just friends with them and you're just trying to be friends with him then why do you care if he's made other friends unless you want something more than just friends which is usually why people will say that Claudia says we've been dating for four months now he is very busy working because he has his own company he texts me every day but sometimes I don't respond he seems to play games and doesn't respond to me the same day it happens more and more often that he doesn't text me goodnight and the next day everything is okay what does it mean well it sounds like you're both playing games with each other right your life in this you say you know he texts me every day but sometimes I don't respond and then you're like he's playing games with me by not responding until the next day and it's like okay you're playing games with him he's playing games with you if you want to really like our serious real relationship with somebody you got to stop playing games just stop it just stop playing games altogether and instead connect with each other and focus on connecting with each other you know you can give him space and this whole silence thing and when we talk about leaning back we're not talking about it in terms of like creating this game and trying to manipulate him into you know doing what you want him to do what we're talking about is is getting him room right giving him space creating an opening for him to move into and create the relationship that he wants to create if you're like just randomly never texting him back when he texts you something he's probably thinking that you're playing games with him and so he's like all right well I guess I gotta play games with her too because that's the situation that we're in and so now you guys are in this game warfare and you're you're getting deeper and deeper and deeper into it and so my suggestion is that you stop playing the games and you know once because you guys are starting to get to the point where you're it's serious right you're starting to get to the point where you're starting to figure out whether you guys really want to be with each other the the whole you can't most people kind of do this thing for about three months when you first meet each other where you're kind of putting on a show and all that kind of stuff and trying to be the best you that you can be then all of a sudden you're like you know showing up in sweatpants and you know your t-shirt instead of a dress and he's like yeah you know he's he's showing up with a you know stain on his t-shirt instead of like a nice button-down or something right and so what what you got to do is you've got to figure out whether you guys have been playing games from the very beginning or not because if you have been playing games from the very beginning and that's what he's attracted to and that's what you're attracted to then it's gonna be really hard to have a relationship where you guys don't do that because you set up a frame from the very beginning of the relationship that says we play games right and what you want to do is set up a frame instead that says we have honesty we have connectedness we have this space this open space where we are allowed to honestly and openly have conversations with each other talk through issues with each other right and if you guys aren't in a mature relationship then that's not going to be the case right and instead you're gonna end up just playing these games and and then this game world that you're gonna play until at some point what's going to end up happening is you guys are going to get tired of it and then one person is going to start winning the games the other person is going to get really like annoyed with it and then one person's going to get overly attracted to the other and then one person's going to end up leaving and there's going to be a breakup there's actually a pretty common pattern with people that play games like this and so you want to avoid doing that kind of stuff as much as you possibly can I hope that answered your question derp derpity women for all over the world so cool so cool Michelle says hi Matt looking good I love your energy great to be here happy Mother's Day to all beautiful moms out there thanks doc all right yeah hope everybody's doing great hope everybody's doing well all right so conga says from New Jersey USA broke up six weeks ago but heard nothing sent a quick text two days ago and nothing I'm scared he's gone forever and he might be I don't know what your situation is but it's one of those things one of the things that I talk about in my program about getting your ex back if that's something that you absolutely want to do is getting to this space where you feel like you aren't gonna be devastated by him if he doesn't end up wanting to get back to you right because because some of it I don't know what your situation is but it the the real question is why did he leave right if it's been some women use this thing like the no-contact thing and they do it and they're like okay you know I'm gonna go for weeks or I'm gonna go six weeks or I'm gonna go whatever and no contact and then I'm gonna contact him right that's the wrong way to do no contact no contact isn't about just hanging out in waiting and hoping that he comes back to you because men don't want to get back into the same situation that they left and if you haven't done anything differently in the last six weeks then pulling trying to pull him back into the same relationship that he just left is it's just simply not going to work right the only way that a guy is going to want to get into a new relationship with you is if he feels like it's gonna be different this time around if he broke up with you the only way you'll want to get back together is if he feels it's that it's different this time around and if you're in that no contact phase what you need to be doing is changing enough of what's going on with you internally so that you're coming it when you do come back to it you're coming back to him from a space of bringing kind of a new you like a refreshed you a you know the best version of yourself the confidence sexy amazing intelligence you know a awesome beautiful version of yourself that's like boom what's up you know and you're just awesome and he's just like floored by you and he's like whoa like what what you know like when I left you were in this weird state and now you're like moving on with your life and you're doing things that you didn't do in the relationship and and you figured new things out that you you want your life to be about and you you figured out how the relationship was holding you back and how you've created this new amazing life for yourself like that kind of a woman when you run into your ex again is is the kind of woman that are guys like whoa like you know you already have that kind of emotional history together so it's a lot of times a lot easier to Rhea tracked him but you've got to do the work right and not all ex back situations you can get your ex back right unfortunately it's it's not not everyone you can and so it kind of depends on um what ended up happening you know why he left and what you've done to kind of rectify the reasons why he's left since you broke up Michelle says so leaning back would also include pulling your energy back claiming your space well it's really more than anything leaning back is it's doing two things one it's kind of creating this this vacuum right like this opening you're creating an opening where you're like hey come on in right it's an invitation you're creating an invitation you're you're showing him that you're still interested in him you're creating an invitation and then you're creating and working on your life and creating a life that you really love and that you really enjoy right and so it has to be an invitation it's not just about you know pulling your energy back and claiming your space it's really about creating an invitation for him to show that he's really interested in the relationship right so you can find out all kinds of things when you lean back as to how interested this guy really is in creating the kind of relationship that you want to have if he's not really that interested in it it's good that you know that sooner than later right but like we talked about in the video earlier if he's if you're going silence if you're leaning back if you're doing all these things and you haven't if he's not attracted to you if you guys haven't created an emotional connection together if you guys don't have lots of positive emotional experiences together then he might end up walking away right which is why it's so important to have those positive emotional experiences from the very beginning and for him to be pursuing you from the very beginning Eirene says if he's personally is introvert and needs a lot of time alone and he can go two weeks without contacting me should I lean back until he initiates yeah and if I were you if you're not in a committed relationship with him right now my suggestion is that you would if this because this is a right and this is a pattern that you'll probably end up experiencing for a long time and so if this isn't the kind of relationship that you want to get into my suggestion is that you start using what we talked about in the forever woman program the forever one the formula calm and making sure that you create abundance for yourself abundance and connection in abundance in your options with men so that potentially you can be with a guy who's more suited to what it is that you want to have together instead of you know being in the situation where this guy isn't contacting you for two weeks at a time right even hasn't it I'm a massive introvert right and two weeks is a long time usually if I met you and I was interested in you I wouldn't go two weeks without contacting you right like why would a guy go two weeks without contacting you right it's not because he's introverted right an introvert doesn't need two weeks right maybe if he's got social anxiety he might need some more time maybe if he's got other types of like anxiety issues he might need some more time but just being an introvert is not what makes him pull away for two weeks at a time right you can get your kind of energy back from just being away from people for a day as an introvert and so I wouldn't I wouldn't go off of that one Claudia says what if I go silent on him and then he does the same well you guys are already we've already talked about this you guys are in a game-playing situation you guys got to stop doing that and start having real communication in real connection right you guys are four months in you your you guys have been playing games for way too long you need to start connecting with him in a real way and start having real conversations with him and start asking him questions and connecting with him in ways that we talked about in the Fred program and my suggestion is that you use that system because it's the best system that's out there for creating a great relationship instead of playing some kind of game playing thing that you guys are are talking about Kathy says hi Matthew good to see you well and looking fine well thank you appreciate that it's good to I hope you're well and looking fine as well I am I am I am doing well and I am looking fine all right blessings says I am confused about my relationship we've been dating for some months he don't call you don't like calling or starting a conversation I'm always trying to start a conversation how do I know he is serious with me well you can pretty much bet that he's not serious with you if he's not initiating contact ever right he's serious so here's what happens right if if you start so if you start over pursuing a guy and you're the one initiating all the contact and you're doing all these things right a lot of times what ends up happening is this is a situation that women get into all the time they do a role reversal right they do a flip the role reversal and they start pursuing and chasing the guy and the guy starts leaning back and chilling out and and if he's not that interested in you he'll still let you do all these things right he'll still let you chase him he'll still let you plan the dates you'll still let you invest in him he'll still let you do all those things even if he's not that interested because he likes the attention he likes getting intimate with you he likes all the benefits that he receives from you pursuing him and being with him that doesn't mean he's serious right what if he's serious he will be pursuing you he will be investing you in you my suggestion is that you use the dating experience that you have as like a trial right this is a test and it's not a test for you I mean partially it's a test for you but more than anything it's a test for him as well right it's a test for both of you are we right for each other are you the kind of guy who's going to put in the effort and the energy into this relationship that I need in order to really feel like I'm being loved and cherished and valued in our relationship if you don't feel like you're being valued and cherished and loved in your relationship then you need to find a relationship where you are going to feel those ways you need to make sure with this guy that you communicate to him and let him know but don't you know get attached see that that's one of the problems that a lot of women have is they will be super into a guy and the guy pulls back because he's not really that interested and then the woman starts investing and she does all this stuff right and she gets to this point where she's like oh I don't want to lose this guy I'm emotionally connected I'm all these things because she has been chasing and pursuing and all those things right and you never ever one of the rules that we talk about in the forever woman program one of the rules that we talk about in there is initiating conversation percentages right and you don't ever want to go past 50 percent right and you don't ever want to go below 20 percent because if you're going below 20 percent unless the guys really confident and really aggressive and he's really like hey I know I know what's going on here and I know what I want I'm gonna you know do this unless he's like that what's a lot of guy times gonna happen if you go that below the 20 percent mark is he's going to think you're not really that interested and he wants somebody that's really interested in him if you go above the 50 percent mark what ends up happening is you start missing red flags that are very very important for you to experience and what ends up happening with a lot of women is they're like in so invested in this and you know you're talking about this several months things right you're like you know we've been seeing each other for several months you know and he's never initiating contact how do I know that he is you already know that he's not serious right you have an intuition women's intuition is one of the most powerful things that a woman has right it's your superpower and you know that there's something wrong here which is why you're on here talking to me about it and asking whether to know whether he's serious or not because you already know deep in your heart deep in your guts that he's not really serious and there's something missing here and that's why what you need to do is communicate with them and and and set up boundaries and let him know what you want and what you don't want and then lean back and give him some space and allow him to decide whether and choose whether he wants to be in this relationship and choose whether he wants to step up or not don't give him all Tomatoes don't give him you know don't attack him or shame him or belittle him for what he's doing just let him know what you want and put yourself in a position where you actually are willing to walk away from this if it's not actually what what you want because it doesn't sound like he's building the foundation for the type of relationship that you want to have it's been several months and he's not initiating he's not pursuing you you need to think about that right and you need to think about what's best for you what kind of a relationship do you want to have if you want a relationship where you're chasing and investing and doing everything for the relationship and he's just leaning back and chilling out and you're the one rowing the boat that's fine but if you want a relationship where he's invested he's pursuing he's setting up dates he's treating you like a queen he's valuing you he thinks that you're an amazing awesome wonderful woman who deserves to be treated like a queen then you need to make sure that you communicate that you let him know what you don't want and then you step back from the situation and you let him prove to you that he is going to step up and create the relationship that you want to have because you deserve that you are worth more than what you're currently getting that's all I have to say about that I hope answers your question I don't even know I mean yeah there was a question all right so Mina says hi so I am 53 years but I look 43 and haven't been able to find my ideal guy yet well don't give up just keep going keep doing the right things follow my system if you haven't been following it yet make sure you get it it's a the forever woman formula calm you can get that for free it'll teach you all the best things that you can do all the best techniques all the best stuff that you can do what to do if a guy calls away what to do in different situations how to talk to guys how to connect with guys how to build a deep powerful emotional connection that makes them feel addicted to you that makes them fall in love with you I talk about all that stuff in my program it's my flagship program it's a best-selling program you should get it it's free you can get it the forever one formula.com it's amazing check it out all right oh I know if people were we're asking about Fred last week so I wanted to show you guys fred is still alive I've been watering him actually I haven't been watering him my girlfriend's been watering him every two weeks and he's still alive he's making it guys fred is still alive there's hope there's hope in this world there's hope in this world Irene says if he's not used to texting and don't always know how to start a conversation is it better for me to initiate most of the conversations well you can initiate a conversation so here's here's my suggestion right and I talk all about this in the forever woman program I'm basically reiterating every a lot of details of the forever woman formula all those are there's a lot more stuff you need to learn but here's one of the things that you need to think about as far as texting my suggestion is that if you're talking to a guy and your guy is not a big texter don't try to make them be a texter right like when they come to me all the time they're like so like how do I get my man to be good at texting he sucks at texting like leave him alone about that right he's not a good texture he's not gonna be a good texture you're not gonna teach you on the how to text right you're not gonna take my class and be like all right so here's what you do right and he's not gonna follow it even if you did right instead what you want to do is focus on meeting up right focus on meeting up let him if you want to you're welcome to try initiating sometimes and you can let him kind of take the conversation from there and run with it to meeting up with you but my suggestion is you focus on the meetup right always remember this the magic is in the Meetup the magic is in the meetup you want him to meet up with you you don't want to text all the time and if he's not a big texter if he's not a big person that talks on the phone that's fine there's plenty of women that aren't big textures there's plenty of women that aren't good at talking on the phone and instead what you want to do is you want to meet up in person because that is where the real connection is built especially if you've got a guy who's not into texting so don't focus on the texting instead focus on the meet-up focus on meeting up I talk more about that in the forever woman program DDC I have a friend who has never been complimented on a date even though she's very pretty what do you think is going on well it could be a whole bunch of different things I mean I'd have to see what is going on with her more right because beauty isn't just in your physical attractiveness it's also in your personality right in fact more of the beauty is in your personality if she's never ever been complimented before on a date like you know what's going on there like what is what's the thing that's happening on the date right how is she connecting with men on the date because as a guy right like if you're a guy and you go on a date with a woman like you might like it and you've gotten any kind of advice at all about about connecting with women unless you're you know going to the super lover school of how to go on a date with a woman most guys aren't going to be looking to complement you on a whole bunch of your physical attributes especially if you're really pretty because what guys think is she's beautiful shirting knows that she's beautiful every dude probably complements her so I want to be different right and so they meet with her and they connect with her and you know how is she connecting with them it's the real question because if they're having a good time and it's playful and he's laughing you know national compliments are just gonna naturally come out they're just gonna come out from you know I like you like all this you're really funny you know it's cool being around you those kinds of things should naturally come out another thing that could be going on is that she could just not be seeing the complements right so I back when I was in the men's dating space we used to have this girl that would come with us and she would help us out when we would teach guys about going and talking to women right and she was kind of like our wing woman and she would come out with us all the time and her name was Emily right and she I remember she would she would always complain that guys never ever hit on her and it was always interesting to me because she was a very pretty girl you know and I'm like you know I know women who are not even close to as attractive as her who get hit on all the time my god right who get compliments who get hit on all that kind of stuff and so I was like okay we're gonna test this out one day right and so I took her I was living we were in Denver at the time and there was this club down down the way and there was like this big it was called monarch this club was called monarch and they had this big kind of row that goes down the middle of the club and so I was like okay I'm gonna walk her through this club and we'll see what ends up happening because it was usually like a sausage fest in there you know there's just tons and tons of dudes and so I was like all right so I like take her and I just to you know go for a beeline straight through right to the other side and I'm like she you know like let's see what ends up happening and so there's these guys that come up and they're like hey you know how you doing girl like you're you know looking good tonight you know that kind of stuff right and you know other guys coming over and trying to dance with her and like you know ask him to buy her drinks and like hey pretty girl you know like all that kind of stuff which granted isn't necessarily what she wanted to hear but it was still her getting hit on right she was still being complimented she was still being hit on all that kind of stuff in it and this happened I mean it was like a circle formed around her of dudes who were just like trying to hit on her trying to get her to dance with them trying to get her to go to the bar and get her a drink and all this stuff right and we you know make it all the way to the other end of the club and I turn around and I look at her and I was like I was like hey I thought you said that guys never hit on you and she goes they don't right and one of the things that I realized after talking to her a bit about it was that she was the one you know she wasn't getting the kind of the tension that she wanted to get was one of it but the other one was that she had kind of this mental block in her mind of actually receiving compliments and being hit on by guys right she she and her mind was like you know guys don't like me you know you know that they they're just doing that to make fun of me they're just doing it to she she had like all these negative belief systems from from her childhood from her schooling system where she was you know somebody would say something to her and and she felt like she was being picked on because that was the story she created that was the meaning that she added to the events that happened when she was younger and so she ended up having some kind of belief system about you know men don't hit on me men aren't romantically attracted to me men don't want me that kind of a thing and so it's it's one of those things it could be a lot of different things right I don't know what's happening with your friend DeeDee but it's very possible that she's kind of blocked that stuff out right because if she's pretty and she's not being hit on at all she's not being complimented at all it's very possible that she is she has some kind of rules right so we have different rules for different things in our life and what that means right so for instance we all have rules for what it takes to experience love right if I want to experience love what does it take in order for me to experience that and for some women it's like well a guy has to wake up every morning and he's got to kiss me on the cheek and tell me that I'm the most beautiful amazing woman that he's ever seen in his life and then he's got to get up and make breakfast for me and you know put on my jacket as I'm leaving right and so if a woman has that kind of a belief system in her mind right these rules that are set up like I have to Xperia have to happen in order me to experience this right how difficult is it going to be for her to experience love it's gonna be really hot whereas if her rules were something like anytime I recognized the love that I have for myself I experience love anytime I I recognize the love that I have for somebody else I experience love anytime I recognize the love that somebody else has for me I experienced love if she has rules like that it's very easy for her to experience love all the time right anytime she wants to because it's not this jungle-gym of like dancing around things and I got all these things have to happen many which are completely outside of my control in order to for me to experience love and she might have those kinds of things around compliments I don't know that was kind of a that was kind of a long explanation I hope it answers your question there dee dee so Claudia says we got more from Claudia she says if he sometimes doesn't respond busy working or doesn't text me good night does it mean that he dates someone else Claudia here's the rule that you should ultimately follow and listen to and believe in and think about in terms of whether a guy is seeing somebody else or not if a guy hasn't either told you that he wants to be exclusive or agreed with you that he wants to be exclusive with you or that you're in some kind of committed relationship together if a guy hasn't talked about either one of those things just assume that he's dating other people that's my suggestion right because in the Western world right now it's a little bit different in different cultures right if you're in Eastern cultures a lot of Eastern cultures even in some like Western European cultures if you're dating somebody that means you guys are together right you don't even have to question it because that's the culture that you're in in the United States the culture is is that people are dating everybody and there's kind of this hookup thing going on and unless you guys have some verbal agreement that something else is going on other than you guys just casually seeing each other and hooking up then you can just assume that it's it's not exclusive and that he is seeing somebody else and it men can do the same thing by the way I was talking to a friend of mine not too long ago and she was talking about how you know three of the guys that she's dating right now all got serious at the same time right yeah you know this is the world that we live in it's not just men it's not just women it's everybody this is the culture that we live we live in the hook-up culture and that's what's going on and so if he's not talking about those things if you guys haven't had those conversations which you should have had by now Claudia which I talk about in detail and the forever woman program then you can just assume that he's seeing other people until you have that conversation sky Phoenix says I just joined the chat but I don't think Silas necessarily makes a man mr. yep we talked about that in detail there J sky Phoenix okay katia says what if a guy you're talking to won't let you on his social media but just lets you message with him very confusing and frustrating and when I asked he won't give me he won't give me an answer he ignores me well I would say that he's hiding something from you katia and that he is setting up a situation you know like I have you have you guys met each other in person you know he could be a scammer you could there could be all kinds of things going on here if you haven't actually met him in person he could have a wife and family and he doesn't want you on a social media because he doesn't want his wife and family seeing you he could be a scammer he is actually some guy living in a basement in Nigeria somewhere holding a rubber chicken in his hand trying to figure out ways to steal your money from you right those are all possible scenarios here it could be that he doesn't have social media but it sounds like he does and so I would say that there's a big red flag there and that you should either investigate more or move on to another situation depending on how invested and involved the both of you are and so if if you really look we live in this world right now where we have a lot of crazy things going on right we have the hook-up culture which is more than anything else it's society teaching us that we should be superficial too to just get into superficial relationships where there's no depth there there's no realness there people are just hooking up right and left right like people aren't dating as much anymore you stood there not courting anymore they're just you know women are just driving over to dude's houses and hooking up with them we have women in our community that got put in these situations a lot of guys are pulling away and disappearing when you decide that you want to get serious because they don't want to get serious and they knew that from the beginning and you never had the conversations with them and you ended up diving in headfirst and so you need to make sure that number one you are protecting yourself to the utmost ability that you absolutely can you need to make sure that you're putting yourself into the best possible position that you can put yourself in and you need to make sure that you're communicating things that teach him that you are the kind of woman that deserves to be cherished and loved and seen and valued as the beautiful goddess queen that you absolutely are right and I teach all about how to do that in my program the forever woman you can go get it at the forever woman formula.com you can go check it out go there watch the video you can get the program for free if you decide you want to stay a part of our community you can do that as well for a monthly fee my suggestion is you go and get that program it's helped tons of women single women turn their situations around and get into great relationships some of them have gone on to get married we've had women who are married end up turning around their entire marriage by using the system that we have and we have it's a great program and you will learn tons and tons of information there's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't get it if you really want to be seen and valued and loved and cherished and a great relationship with a guy where he pursues you for the kind of committed relationship that you want to have then you should get this program check it out thank you so much for being here with me today I really appreciate all these amazed beautiful awesome wonderful women that are here with us right now you are some of the most amazing women in the world we have the best women in the world as a part of our community so thank you so much I really am so grateful for you allowing me to be a part of your journey in helping you create the relationship that you want to have I'm all about being of service to you and trying to reach as many women as we can and get them into the system that will help them get into the type of relationship that they want in this crazy environment in this crazy culture that we live in today so thank you so much for being here today I gotta get going I gotta go floss adducts teeth but I will speak with you again soon and always remember you are worth it

Channel: Matthew Coast

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Length: 60min 42sec (3642 seconds)

Published: Sun May 10 2020