Doctors Say She Only Has MONTHS TO LIVE

I want you to imagine for a second getting maybe the worst most shocking news of your life something that may end or take your life you've all pictured that moment where you get a diagnosis but what if that diagnosis was stage four cancer what would that feel like yeah I woke up tired some days and for sure I pushed myself past points of exhaustion in order to hit a goal but I never thought anything was wrong so I went and got these tests done and I thought I really thought I was going to get the younger eye back and it was going to be like oh look I can brag about this and look at these blood tests instead of that it just came back big red flag right in my stomach colon cancer has been detected I was told I would be dead most likely in October it put my whole life in perspective and boom I say this all the time I don't have bad days but I have that I have bad moments I am an intense person and I have been a control freak my whole life so I've always been the person where when anything is bad it's like oh it's no problem I can work harder or I can make more money or I can find the resources or no matter what I'm just not going to give up it doesn't matter it doesn't matter it doesn't matter and all of a sudden I realized how completely out of control I was instead of worrying so much about things I said okay well there's a lot I can't control but maybe there is more that I can control that I realized most stuff does not matter and I'm get their life and realize that the little stuff that drives you crazy if it's not going to matter in five years don't give it five minutes the only things in life that actually matter are the stuff that makes you smile period that's it do you love it are you happy are the people you're spending time around the ones that you want to are the activities you're doing is it the hobby you like or do you just do it because no more just doing stuff because because that crap doesn't matter start looking at Life Like This Moment's precious This Moment's precious this one's precious and you chase those instead of things instead of other people's opinions instead of any of that stuff foreign [Music] welcome back to the show everybody today's tone of the show is a little bit different because I think it's maybe one of the most important if not the most important show that I've done and the reason for that is I want you to imagine for a second and you've probably imagined it getting maybe the worst most shocking news of your life and something that can scare you something that may end or take your life you've all pictured that moment where you get a diagnosis but what if that diagnosis was stage four cancer and you're told that you have six months maybe a year eight months to live and you're in the prime of your life you're in your 30s when you get that news what would that feel like what would your emotions be how would it impact the people around you how would it change you and I have somebody sitting across from me that I have grown to love very much she's a woman that I started coaching she pays me the big bucks to coach her and as I got to know her well I found out how talented she was she's a seven figure earner in different businesses she influences millions of people on social media and just as we got going to take her career to any other level she got some shocking news that was completely unexpected and so I want to share her story and her emotions with you today because I think it's relevant to you in all your lives and will give you perspective so Jesse Lee Ward also known as Bosley on Instagram welcome to the show thanks Ed I'm excited to be here I'm already crying so great this is gonna be awesome so let's go right to it everybody has that fear of I've got cancer and it's stage four it's metastasized I want to know because we've decided we're gonna be very open today to affect people's lives take us through how it even happened that you heard the news and then what that moment was like and what does it feel like in your life when you actually get that news yeah so I think I never actually thought about what that would be like for me I was 34 at that I'm still 34. but um I definitely thought about it for other people or people that I loved or I watched some of my family members go through cancer but and not die from it necessarily but just kind of seeing people get sick before and I never actually thought about it for me or what that would look like and maybe that's why I got sideswiped the way I did and it really humbled me nearly I mean immediately it brought me to my knees uh I actually went and did a full body MRI and a gallery Grail test because Tony Robbins said to in life force but um oh just because I thought I was in the best shape of my life which you were it really was I went on a health Journey starting in May of 2022 uh I was intentionally losing weight so and it didn't feel super fast to me it was 20 pounds or something in nine months it wasn't anything crazy where you'd be like oh no some you know something's wrong uh and now when I look back at some photos I can see that I was a bit gaunt in my eyes I was getting a little bit too sunken in I was getting a little too skinny but I felt incredible and I've always been a top performer and high achiever and I know a lot of these people listen to you so I hope they start saying oh gosh maybe I should do some of these tests because yeah I woke up tired some days and for sure I pushed myself past points of maybe exhaustion if you will in in order to hit a goal but I never thought anything was wrong so I went and got these tests done and I thought I really thought I was going to get the MRI back and it was going to be like oh look I can brag about this and look at these blood tests and look at all this stuff because I've been doing blood tests quarterly for a while and instead of that it just came back red big red flag right in my stomach which ended up being metastasized lymph nodes and then in my lower right colon area right at the cecum where the small and large intestine attached were were tumors and then the gallery girl test comes back I'm actually flying back in the Bahamas when we get that news and it says yes colon cancer has been detected and then a colonoscopy and all this stuff and it it makes you realize how fragile life is it makes you realize everything you thought you knew maybe wasn't true and it makes you realize how precious the people that matter really are what matters and what doesn't matter it put my whole life in perspective and boom I mean seconds and it's it's been a journey uh you know this but I uh I was told I would be dead most likely in October correct they told me there was there's no way I'm going to see Christmas um which I was just sharing the story earlier with somebody but I was talking about how amazing you've been through all of this and I said I sent that text when they sent me since when the doctor said that to me to three people and one was you and you called me right away and I remember right where I was and you're like no no no no no no no no no you visualize them it is Christmas and the lymph nodes going back and all this stuff and um which was super useful in the time but I had to make a decision between uh and I'm not telling anyone what to do by the way do what you feel like is right for you um but to either do really aggressive forms of chemotherapy and potentially live two and a half years with no quality of life or just attack it and and really learn how to heal every single bit of me and that's the route that I've been taking we're going to talk about that I want to go back to you for a second so just so you guys know um this is a really intense woman um in fact one of the most intense and driven people I've ever met in my life so when we met we had met a few times when everyone just have context for this Jesse Lee and I had met a few times like backstage at events we'd cross each other's paths and speaking and then it ended up that I ended up she was in a group that I was coaching and then we coached one-on-one but I remember when we I did an event at my home and she came and I remember thinking my gosh she looks incredible she looks different I tell her all the time I don't know if you're like my daughter or my young sister or what but you know I have this affection for her and but I remember thinking to myself she looks incredible I mean the best she's ever looked like even if you see photos of her online like it was a major transformation and I remember commenting on it I think even to you under the group of people too how great you looked and then it was not that long after that this happened and I remember for me it took my breath away because I'm thinking this is a beautiful person and their woman in the prime of her life at 34 years old and a million years I was not expecting that phone call from you what is it like when what happens in your body I think everybody would like they fear this moment in their life and you've now had I think the some an odd way the blessing of experiencing it meaning that we're going to bless millions of people today that have never actually talk to someone live who's like my life is in Jeopardy right now I had this amazing life I'm a millionaire I'm traveling I'm beautiful she had recently met a guy that she's super crazy about and Wham in that moment does it does it take your breath away do you do you have a flood of your life before your eyes what what actually happens to you I'm curious in that moment what what went through your body and your mind I think everyone's different but for me it wrecked me really you would never know being your friend you're so strong okay thank you um I am but I have a lot of moments like I say this a lot of time I don't have bad days but I have that I have bad moments and when somebody's going through something like this it's like you I am an intense person and I have been a control freak my whole life because of childhood stuff and just I was forced into leadership positions at a really young age and so I've always been the person where when anything is bad it's like oh it's no problem I can work harder or I can make more money or I can find the resources or no matter what I'm just not going to give up it doesn't matter it doesn't matter it doesn't matter and all of a sudden I realized how completely out of control I was I realize this is not this is not just you slap a Band-Aid on it and even going into surgery you know any I guess anybody who has cancer or is diagnosed with cancer will tell you this you're so I was so hopeful I look back at the posts of that day in February when I chose to have the surgery to remove part of the colon in the tumor and some dirty lymph nodes surrounding which 26 had cancer in it and I remember making the post about just knowing oh gosh I know that they're the surgeon's hands are going to be you know protected by God and I'm I'm going to get out of this it's going to be amazing and I'm going to show people you could and no no Jesse Lee that's literally not what happened like what happened instead is pathology comes back it's 26 out of 30 lymph nodes it's metastasized and we're staging you at stage four because it's in your throat it's in your neck it's in your stomach it's like everything you thought you can could control you can't and it was especially frustrating because I was already on a health Journey so then it's kind of this like smack in the teeth of you know and I've I I've I'm an emotional person anyway the first time we had that one-on-one kind of coaching thing anyway but I like I've never cried the way I've cried I've never been so emotional about things and you you would start learning you're triggered by stuff you start noticing even today I'm driving in LA and there's a sign about cancer why I don't know you know it's like why is the stupid sign here is why is it a theme in so many movies things you don't under you don't think about until you're in a situation like this and then it's the loudest thing your Razz is so activated my reticular activating system it's like think of a red car okay what do you think of a red car every single thing it's all over uh what do you think about do you think about like why is this me does that come up yeah for sure because I felt like you said I wasn't I'm in the prime of my life and I felt like wow I'm not married I don't have kids I texted you this too I'm not married I don't have kids I don't like I where is my legacy aside from all these people I've helped in business and you know the lives have changed through that what am I going to do I have what is going on why me and then I started thinking you know oh my gosh well actually it's powerful this is actually really powerful sure why me but then I actually started dissecting my life or things that happened to me and I started realizing okay so if your body everyone has cancer in them by the way like you can read this anywhere this is not this is not me trying to scare anybody everybody has cancer cells in them it's whether they're activated or not that it turns into something that can kill you okay so everyone should know that to begin with everyone has gene mutations it's a term whether they turn on or not is dependent on your environment it's dependent on circumstances it's dependent on a bunch of stuff well a bunch of gene mutations of mine have turned on and the cancer cells in my body decided to turn on Okay so with that knowledge then I went okay well if I've helped to create this as weird as that might sound yes well then how can I heal from this and that became really empowering for me because I then made a decision that I'm just going to change everything my whole life has to change and I got a lot of clarity from that instead of worrying so much about things I said okay well there's a lot I can't control but maybe there is more that I can control than I realized and so I decided to feel everything and I'll actually share something on this podcast nobody on Earth knows but it's happening tomorrow so I'll tell you um I would tell you anyway but forgiveness was one of my biggest things I started reading a lot more about some of the ways things like this happen again you know why me why me why me well I have not forgiven even though I've said I've forgiven things the anger and the grief and the sadness and the trauma and all this stuff in my childhood that has turned it's turned me into who I am in a business sense so I'm not mad about it but I have not actually released it and I can say online and in my speeches and in all the stuff that I do you know oh no I'm I'm oh you know that's in the past and I've released it and all the right stuff to say but if I'm gonna be real with your listeners I can forgive and I certainly didn't forget and if you brought up a topic that really bothered me I was the first to be like yeah let me tell you about it you know and that's not it's not useful and so forgiveness has been one of the biggest things and yeah why me maybe because I grew up in a super toxic environment and maybe because I didn't have the greatest nutrition and maybe because you know I put myself in situations of stress all the time because I liked it I was I like achievement but I also realized that of course it wasn't going to be a cancer where you know and there's no good cancer so don't misunderstand me but it wasn't going to be a cancer we just cut it out yeah it was going to be a cancer where it's aggressive just like me and me healing from this is going to show a lot of people a lot of amazing things that's going to give a lot of people a lot of Hope and it's gonna probably give people their control back over their bodies and their minds and then what are you doing tomorrow you didn't finish that okay so finish it okay so for anyone who's already followed me on social media I've written many posts about it I've talked about it a whole bunch of times uh I essentially had a funeral for my mom five years ago my mom's alive um but she put us through situations as children that just never made sense to me like we were in danger all the time and I don't mean like oh you're like okay so she grew up now with a lot of stuff I mean like we were physically in danger a lot and uh and then there was a there were fives five years ago at Christmas I went and saw her anyway you know because I was always trying to like okay like like you're supposed to have a mom she'll step a mom you're supposed to forgive you're supposed to whatever and on Christmas um I'm not gonna cuss because it's cussing but um two times on Christmas Eve in front of all her friends she said she yelled at me that I was a stupid effing bit Yeah and uh and I walked out and that was just my final straw I was like I've got a set of boundary around this I can't do this anymore she makes me feel terrible um she's drinking too much I don't know if she's on drugs I don't know what like I can't do it anymore and so I had a funeral for somebody I loved and I just said I'll never talk to her again and when all this was happening I don't know again cancer or maybe any of these serious things that people are going through it doesn't have to be cancer maybe it's some kind of other other disease or or life circumstance it I have these weird epiphanies that come to me yeah and they're just these guided moments of intuition maybe or Spirit or whatever you want to call them um and it's almost like the holy spirit's Whispering ah there you go I don't know how else to explain it and I woke up one day and I and I went I haven't even remotely forgiven my mom like I've cut her off but I think about her all the time still like there is like there is a deep chord there and um so I I this sap in Barcelona about six weeks ago I wrote her an email and I wrote her an email and I just said well I haven't told anyone this um I said you know hey Mom I'm writing this because I need closure and I don't know if you do too and I went through it and I came from such a place of compassion and I just said I can't imagine being in your shoes and trying to do what you did you were you were pregnant with me at the exact age I am and you were a successful woman she was an assistant CEO at the National Academy of Sciences she just was really bad with money so we did not have anything and it was just being who knows where all the money went so I guess you never really know that when you're a kid but she was brilliant and we just never had anything and I said I can't imagine what it would be like if me in this moment right now as successful as I am because I'm super successful mom like I don't think you even know how successful I am because I blocked her everywhere so I don't know I guess you could Google me but you have no idea uh if you told me no now it's time to have a family it's time to settle down it's time to to get married again and have kids and do all these things and take the parts of me that I that are just mine just mine and say you don't you can't have that anymore and so I I just gave her compassion I told her about this is really deep Something's Gonna Be Mad in the family I say this if they listen but I have 14 first cousins I have a lot of aunts and uncles it's a big family tons of there's tons of grandkids great grandkids all this stuff not a single person not a single family member reached out I talked to my big brother about it every talk every day and aside from that there's no one and I even wrote that email to her I said how could I expect you to be this compassionate loving kind caring super maternal loving mother when no one in our family is like that and so I just and I told her I thanked her for things none of it was it was not an accusatory email the whole thing was loving it was my work ethics from you my brains are from you my ability to pick stuff up boom and learn it and just attack stuff is you I know it's you and I just gave her I gave her her flowers and I just said you know I just I'm not I haven't forgiven you and I needed to send this so that I can so I can heal because I need to heal and then move on and I never expected an email back the next day she wrote she wrote an email back and I read it at 2 A.M in Barcelona big mistake couldn't sleep and it just said I mean I won't the whole email doesn't matter but the opening line is really powerful she said Jesse Lee I don't need closure from you I need my daughter and I was like come on you know like and it was just beautiful email she wrote back and um we chatted back and forth a couple days and I just said in Chief and said like I would just jump on a plane and be anywhere you are I said well right now I'm in Barcelona headed to Germany tomorrow so maybe don't jump on a plane today but I bought her a fight and she'll be in Dallas tomorrow with me so I'm so proud of you yeah I'm so proud of you sorry I think one of the I'm just so proud of you I um you know everybody you don't have to uh have a stage four cancer diagnosis to learn from her perspective and her wisdom that's why I wanted her here today you can start making these decisions right now and that's why it's important to put somebody in front of you who is going through this yours is such a remarkable human and what's amazing about you and adversity like this is when you're special and you are special and all of you that are listening are special when you get through something like this it reveals the extra special in you if you all went back and look at Jesse Lee's post from four five six years ago you just see this bossly just bad ass woman and this is brought out it was already coming out but it's brought out these beautiful sides of your personality of who you really are and I'm so grateful that you did that and I'm so grateful that people get to hear this today because most people live like they're never gonna die if you're listening to this you're under the illusion most people are like in your conscious mind you go I'm gonna die someday but you actually don't live like it you actually don't you believe everybody else is going to die not you and what I wanted to happen today was Jesse because she's so articulate as well is to actually make you really face this right now because she's facing it right now and and what would you do if you were facing us right now who would you call who would you make amends with what could you be doing right now to get healthier which we're going to talk about in a minute let me just just to set the stage just so you all know this is a woman who's worth a fortune she's made Seven figures for a very long time in multiple different businesses in network marketing and brick and mortar businesses she has 1.6 million clients worldwide by the way in one of her businesses 41 different countries she's one of the top female speakers in the world and with all of that she's telling you that her perspective has changed she gets this diagnosis you guys she has the surgery and the next day is our coaching call and she's in her hospital bed with a laptop doing the coaching call with me and that wasn't her only meeting that day I want you to imagine that you got what was it 10 inches of your colon remove so it might let you know 10 to 15 10 to 15 plus this tumor the whole thing together and the next day she's on a call with me how you doing she's pumping me up on the call she's pumping me up from the hospital bed that's the type of extraordinary woman that we're talking about here today just start to ask yourself how would you respond how would you react and I want to ask you a couple things and I want you to be honest with me and then I want to talk about some business stuff too sure are you afraid you're going to die from this snow and I don't think I fear death anymore like maybe I used to uh you've heard it everyone's heard it oh you know Live Like You're Dying like I was thinking about Tim McGraw song I was literally thinking about everybody 24 seconds ago um see we're still aligned um or you know they say oh every day is not guaranteed okay all of these things are true but do you really realize what you're saying when you say that the answer for most of you listening is absolutely not no there's a million ways I've changed because of this but when I say I'm grateful every day and I used to coach people oh I do a gratitude walk every morning which I do I have for years right it's just part of what I do or go in the afternoon and probably pray out loud you know it's all I've taught all these things forever it is different when you actually realize every day is not promised it is very different when you go a full breath it's completely different when your stomach doesn't hurt because you take these things for granted it's different when you notice how beautiful a sunset actually is or the the way I am present with people now and I was always good with relationships that's been one of my superpowers for a long time now when I'm with people it's it's quality time to a completely different level and so it's not like this fear of dying it's or thinking I'm dying it's knowing that every moment is actually precious and how much time can you how much good quality time and experiences can you cram into every day of every moment instead of just I feel like most people are just these ships that pass each other we oh yeah I hung out with so and so yeah I spend time with Ed yeah yeah we saw each other at that that event or whatever but did you did you actually see him did you actually feel him did you pay attention to his energy did you actually connect did you have a real moment or was it just oh yeah I was there because most of us are every day yeah I was there yeah I went to work yeah I drove home most of you don't even remember how you drive home because it's the same routine over and over again like I feel like I've realized that my the Jessie Lee version 1.0 she's she's dead who I used to be she's gone she has to be because she's the one who created this this illness this dis-ease right do you believe that yeah I want to ask you a question about that by the way what you're saying is just absolutely brilliant and it and you are smart but you aren't this smart and this is the holy spirit speaking through you this is infinite wisdom I say all the time that when we pray or we talk to whoever you believe in you're talking to God or your maker and when you get this Infinite Wisdom this discernment this intuition these words that aren't yours that's God speaking back to you and that's what's happening with you and I uh I'm just curious do you do you would you change something in your previous life meaning was going for it like you and I have gone for it in our life all it's cracked up to me because let's just be real part of the success you've built is affording you the the way you're being treated right now which you have gone open about that yeah okay I want to do that so I want to I want to ask you first is now that you're you're 34 you've got this diagnosis so and by the way she was literally told um you won't be here for Christmas she was literally told that which by the way nice doctoring by the way nice medical bedside manner which we'll talk about in another part of the interview coming up having said that though would you still have gone for like a crazy person but maybe enjoyed it a little bit more or do you feel like some of the accolades and awards and all that was overcooked and I'm really curious because I'm still that guy too he's like I'm going my intuition is I should be going but I should be a little bit more of an observer and be present as I'm doing it because I absolutely relate to what you just said about I was there but was I there yep it's what you just said so it's I don't think I would feel as fulfilled as a person if I could look back on it right now and go sh I really should have done more because I really feel like I've been all gas no brakes for a long long time and I'm super proud of my accomplishments and I look back on things like wow I'm really glad that I'm so thankful that happened I'm grateful for that opportunity wow thank goodness I said yes but I was also a yes man to everything so this is a cool new stage where I've been saying yes to only things I really want to say yes to which I wish I had done sooner with some things just because you know there's opportunities you've taken I'm sure where you go this is just not going to be it but I'm just going to do it because I feel like what if me what if maybe one person because we hear that in personal help and like what if the one person I did way too much stuff for it was that and just you know running myself ragged but it's really I'm not I'm really I wouldn't do anything differently no because all of this is playing out exactly how it's supposed to it's not my plan and if you really believe in a higher power you believe in God like we do no this is how it's supposed to be I'm supposed to be the example I'm supposed to be the big voice I'm supposed to already have the following the platform that I do so that I save so many more lives so that I show so many more people a different way it's really important it is the way it is but I wish in those moments because I've won every award there is for for what I've done anything I touch it's like oh like invest in Jesse Lee because it's going to turn gold you know she doesn't oh my gosh she she did this wow like I'm always the top performer yeah I told her when I met I said if you were a stock I would buy you because she's going up and and also by the way you said something I want to finish on though so neither one of us are medical doctors although you're a lot more like one than I am now because of all the medical care you've gone through but you did say something that I want everyone to evaluate you said you created this meaning and I think I know what you mean all the stress all the trauma all the reliving the trauma all the holding on to it all the intensity pointed in the right direction makes a lot of awards and a lot of money intensity in the other direction can do harm and I was actually asking you came up last week my mom asked me how you were doing because I've told my mom about you and we were talking about my dad's cancer my dad still my dad wasn't 34 my gosh but my dad died young relatively speaking and I said mom do you think Dad's trauma that he held on to from his upbringing and his stress and my dad was this tremendous worrier I inherited that from my dad most things with our kids are caught not taught I always say I caught that from my dad worrying and anxiety and something to be around my dad he's just like like a sigh for no reason you know and I said mom do you think that maybe that brought some of this on or turned those jeans on sooner the stress and the anxiety and the worry and my mom said absolutely 100 yes and I'm wondering is that what you meant by that you brought some of this yeah and I don't and I I know I don't want to trigger any cancer patients or anything or survivors or anything who go what like I didn't create this because the cancer world's interesting there's some people who think cancer is the worst thing that ever happened to them and there's some people think cancer is the best thing that happened to them and I will tell you I am in the second camp and that freaks people out when I say that it's she said what she said cancer is the best thing ever nothing was going to Slow Me Down Ed nothing you nothing you you just said I did a coaching call from a hospital bed nothing was going to make me go let's chill out a little bit I don't you know I just I it had to happen I needed to smell the roses a little uh but yeah what I mean when I say I created this is I was always running ragged I was you know sleep was not the priority the goals were the priority the changing other people's lives was the priority the helping others and always extending an extra hand and not taking care of myself your own pleasure and enjoyment wasn't the priority no never right and I think even in this season of cancer and everything I am enjoying way more and I don't mean because I'm saying no to things it's part of it is that presence thing and I'm still competitive I really still don't know anybody who can outsell me right now even like good luck like I'm still speaking all over the place crushing it yeah it's yes to stuff I want no to things I don't want and so it goes back to all these high pressure things that I would put myself in and just you know yeah the toxic situations and again that no forgiveness my mom was not the only person I didn't forgive there's plenty of people that that I did not forgive that I've had that I you know gosh it's almost like I feel like I'm an innate you know it's like one of the steps of AA like you forgive people uh I'm really having to work on me as a person and so the changes in Jesse Lee as an actual human being have been profound since February it's not they're not little changes they're I've always been a kind person I'm even more patient and kind now which is a different kind of kindness right uh it's just it'll completely it just changes everything okay so you by the way I just want to say something I'm not a doctor either but I think there's a power to saying I created this and so I can fix it I think to empower that and even if you're not in that camp and you've and you've had a disease I think we would all agree that worrying and anxiety and and anger or frustration isn't healthy so it certainly isn't helping things when we're that way well I actually I don't want to cut you off but I'm pleased I asked my doctor in Germany two weeks ago because he was looking over my blood work and Germans are very direct okay so he goes disaster like great it needed me in a bad way he just said yeah don't worry we can fix all of this but it was a disaster I said okay and I said well I have a question then when you see other patients that their blood work is this bad do they look like me yeah do they move like me do they because I'm not in pain and not in any of these things he goes absolutely not he said but you have the strongest mindset I've ever met and a lot of this health stuff is mindset over all of it yes I have to treat all of it but you have a belief system that you're going to win this and a lot of people don't and it and I've you know I know you know Dr Joe dispensive way more than I do right but even things like don't become your diagnosis you hear oh well with cancer I'm supposed to be really tired and I'm supposed to be really you know what whatever all these things I'm supposed to look a certain way walk a certain way I got to stop doing all these things I just didn't look up I just didn't get on Google yeah you know I just didn't become a diagnosis I said oh wait I remember walking out of my my colon my colonoscopy and I said hey you know doc by the way what stage do you think this is he goes I mean it's at least three because I can see it's it's in your lymph nodes too like everything's swollen down there I said oh okay okay stage three okay no okay no problem and I just kind of walked out like I don't even really know what that means but I'm not gonna let this ruin my good mood I'm gonna move forward We're Not Gonna I'm not gonna jump to conclusions I'm not gonna get on WebMD and find out what what it you know and it's not to say like sometimes I'll be like well what's going on what is going on whatever and I told you earlier I asked my doctor hey why are my lymph nodes a little swollen in my neck and my stomach feels like maybe and he said oh I'm so excited your immune system's kicking on this is your immune system working again like oh that's what this is okay because Google said for sure I'm a goner you know um I love this new guy by the way that you're that you're working with and by the way everyone I want to just interject and then we're going to talk about diagnosis I'm going to talk some business too but I want to say one thing to you um you know the ad the attitude that you've brought to this I really believe is the differentiator and she is by the way we've decided kind of through coaching that she is documenting her journey here so if you don't follow her on social media we're gonna there's gonna be an actual documentary the whole entire thing the Journey of what she's going through and I'm just so proud of the way that you've brought your mindset to this because you know so many people that are listening to this right now have a challenge that they're worried about and if anything happens to everybody this should be one big perspective builder for you because whatever you're going through right now more than likely it's not quite as significant as what Jesse Lee's going through right now maybe it just gives you perspective that hey this disagreement I'm in with my spouse or this bill or I lost my job hey this is a woman who was told you're not going to make it to Christmas and I want to go to that part of it now too talk a little bit about the different bedside manners of the doctors you don't need to name them but I'm aware of them and then what you've chosen to do for treatment part of what you've chosen to do for your treatment obviously you can afford but I'd be curious as to your advice and we're not by the way making what she's going to do is tell you the recommendation she's made for herself which by the way about 50 of the people that you know are like you're crazy to be doing it this way right and 50 of the doctors are like oh my gosh you should have been in chemo immediately so by no means are either one of us making a recommendation of what you should do but this is Jesse Lee's story her journey her decisions her experience that I want to share with you so to the diagnosis point of the one guy that we both you know in Texas guy to a few other things just take them through that a little bit so just to give people perspective I've been to eight oncologists so this is not one oncologist two oncologists this is not whatever um some are integrative oncologists the rest are your traditional practitioners so two integrative and then six are your you know normal okay you go to Texas Oncology and whatever okay uh and so immediately so there's here's the deal I don't judge any doctors at all period end of discussion because ultimately when you think about it to become a doctor that is a well-known oncologist and I was only going to well-known oncologists just because of resources and and who I am thank God if you think about it this person has gone to medical school for 12 years everything they know is traditional standard of care this is what they're taught period you're not supposed to think outside the box it's not the goal the goal is standard of care chemotherapy and immunotherapy is really big business you can and this is not this is not opinion you can just Google this if you want to or you can look into whatever so I don't have and then to become a well-known oncologist that means you're practicing for decades these are not young spring chickens you know in their 20s or something that I'm going to see these are older gentlemen who have been practicing for decades just in your case they happen to me gentlemen there's women too in my case it was just gentlemen and so for 30 40 years this is what you know you know full Fox and of Austin you know chemotherapy this is you know that the average lifespan for a diagnosis like mine is two and a half years that's it and that's if you do the most intense and and you ask is this for a cure or are you trying to keep me alive oh I'm sorry there's no cure every single last one of them so I went to so many oncologists because yeah you know what maybe I was a little bit of a hope Seeker where I just wanted somebody to say Maybe not maybe you're going to be okay and instead of that it was the constant you know do this dude it's the chemo it's the chemo and so after the so surgery is step one and then chemo is step two and so I would just ask each of them I'd say so if I do nothing according to them not nothing but if I do nothing no standard of care what's the prognosis and some doctors do not play God which I really appreciate there was one doctor in particular who it was the most devastating moment of the entire Journey it wouldn't even look me in my eyes by the way faces down like this and he goes you'll be dead in six months October October you're definitely not seeing Christmas no and then he said but if you do the most intense versions of chemo we're just gonna blast you we can probably get you two and a half years then you'll be dead this is quote unquote thank God I found my best friend there I'm FaceTiming with my boyfriend at the time I talk to you right after and um and yes I talked to you immediately after uh and I said and I and I black out actually because I think your brain has a way of protecting you from trauma my brain just knew no and I black out thank God best friend starts talking and I just remember going I'm not normal it's the only thing I remember saying and I said and then I I managed to say so you're telling me that I can have two and a half years with no quality of life or I can try to heal is really what my brain started hearing in that moment and thank God I heard it like that because then it was an immediate decision to change I was already starting to add stuff but it was an immediate overhaul it was a nutrition overhaul it was a it I mean I can start listing things that I do on a on a daily weekly basis and some I will actually do that but let me say one thing about it I want to just interject I want to be clear with what we're saying here too just for responsibility she's stage four an incredibly aggressive type of cancer so in her own situation the chemo Factor versus extending Life by maybe 18 months but no quality of life versus six months so by no means is either one of us saying no chemotherapy if you get cancer there's there's people listening to this right now that go I did chemotherapy or radiation and I'm cancer-free and I'm in remission so we're not saying that we're talking about her situation right here but no doubt even if you were to do that some of the things you're doing nutritionally unquestionably are smart things to be doing so what are they and I do appreciate you saying that because it's really true I am not trying to bash standard of care and I'm not trying to make anybody feel like traditional oncology is not the way I'm not trying to make doctor feel like I'm anti-doctor I'm certainly not I'm under there and in that doctor's case my gosh to be able to look at another human being in the eye and go um you're going to be dead now to say you're gonna be dead in six months is probably crass the way that he said it but that's difficult news for these people to have to deliver to people as well and he does it all day probably a day or something so you know he's caring so I'm super empathetic towards his job and everything and all of the oncologists have said similar things you know you got to start chemo now now but I would like people to also know it's not as rushed as they make it seem for most people okay so it gets really scary if we're being honest it seems like you know this is a really fast growing cancer and I would say how do you know well we don't know but hold on I just want more information right uh but please just do what's right for you and one of the biggest things is you know just follow like please follow your intuition follow your guidance use the word discernment earlier and I wanted to say that's really the right word you will if you pray for a discernment you will get it you have to learn to listen to yourself during all of this and that's that's what I've got now during everything you do everything yeah yeah so what are you doing what are you doing different you're the nutrition so and what do you do for your treatment let's just we we are not telling your true story if we don't tell them actually what you're doing they're going to follow you on this journey so tell them what's up yeah it's pretty intense so uh so I went from pretty much carnivore to immediately vegan so all the juicing I bought the best juicer ever I did all the research on that um I'm not even when I say juicing I'm not saying like I make a delicious green juice in the morning I'm talking 8 to 12 juices a day so almost on the hour I'm just overdosing my body in in nutrition which is making my hair grow really long and shiny so it's you know you know like there's benefits to this but uh but it's quite the shift right I feel like I'm starting a greenhouse in my refrigerator um but that's been unbelievable I'm no longer doing vegan because my doctor that I'm under Care Now with uh really loves keto and that is also because it's very different completely different the cancer that decided to reside in my body and and grow it through blood tests is the only reason we know this and I don't know what the blood test is off the top of my head but the cancer that is living in me or was I don't know maybe it's gone uh is feeding off of sugars okay and it was proven through a blood test he said some cancers are growing on proteins some cancers are growing on carbohydrates and sugars some cancers are growing you know whatever I said oh okay and he said don't even touch it don't touch carbohydrates you have to be keto he started talking about the oils in my body my mitochondria health and all this stuff so immediate nutrition shift still juicing but now it's all these green juices so they're not as yummy as like the carrot and apple and the delicious whatever but I don't care at this you know whatever that's the easiest thing the juice I've got pretty much down to a science but everyday hyperbaric chamber I actually have one in my house thank God I also have a biocharger in my house which you guys can check out it's a crazy energy shifting machine which is super cool I use grounding mats as well constantly because I do live in a penthouse so I'm not on the ground with my feet in the ground and you're you're on the beach you can get in the beach which is so important for your health in general um I do ozone at least four times a week which they actually take your blood out and they're spinning it and they're they're they're cleaning it and then putting it back in uh I also do a pocket ozone which is basically this chamber where your entire body's inside you're getting ozone you're getting infrared you're also getting um uh hype hypothermia so you're getting overheated as well all in this chamber where just your head is out and it pulls it's so cool and gross you see all these toxins come out of you every single time it's really cool um I do uh this is one's really important very high dose vitamin C three times a week and that's what's been killing off a lot of a lot of stuff I also have a lot of other infusions as well that I've been doing in Germany I do red light therapy the bed um I get in a in a bed at least five times a week if not every day uh gosh okay what else I know I'm missing things there's more and wait there's more now uh I do cold plunges now which actually so what are these things so by the way this is her journey her way of care for her with this six month diagnosis everybody one of these things will you do when the cancer is gone in other words some of it just for the cancer or once the cancer is gone or had you never had cancer based on what you've learned some of those protocols I assume you still would be I bet you'd still be doing red light you still be doing cold plunge would you be doing uh Hyperbaric what would you still be doing there are some things I would do for sure uh one I didn't mention and it's my favorite it's going to be so weird so uh I started doing coffee enemas about three months ago and I was told years ago to do these and I thought that is the weirdest thing ever I'm not doing that no way and I even bought the kids when it was sitting and I think I threw it away six months ago or something the irony the first time I did one I slept like I mean a teenager yes really and you might have parasites so it might be weird why would you say I have this yeah you seem kind of buggy no I'm kidding thank you very much like you you probably have parasites thank you that's what I you do that now you look at me like parasite I look like I have parasites but I get like the most it is so Clarity okay almost like you're like wow this is crazy instantly okay uh and I and and digestion takes the most energy out of everything that you do and you're cleaning the entire lower third out of your colon so and then after that I go do I actually have at my house and ozone simply O2 makes a ozone machine for your home so I have an oxygen tank and everything I do rectal ozone after it as well so there's a lot there's a lot there's a lot going on but I would never change that I wouldn't I would never stop red light it's amazing the benefits are just incredible um I I and I really believe in this this ozone stuff in your blood this stuff is crazy I really think that you're more and more and more about it yeah I'm not willing or ready to stake my claim on it because I'm really sort of watching through you and some other people that I know yeah all right so someone's listening to this they've cried their eyes out they are now looking at their own life differently they've got a perspective they've they've said man maybe I need to have forgiveness for this person maybe I need to get going and hurry up and win maybe I need to start live like I'm dying to quote the Tim McGraw thing that we've talked about what would you say to somebody say Hey listen if someone came up to you right now at Starbucks and said I heard you on The Ed mylett Show and I he didn't ask you this or I just curious what would you say to somebody who says what is the biggest thing you would impart upon to another person about what you've taken from this that we haven't shared yet in other words this is my thing I've got from this that I need people to know what would you say I don't care who you are I need you to know that you need to do what's best for you and I mean that in a lot of different ways I was a people pleaser for sure like I wanted everybody to like me I think because I wasn't liked very much when I was younger so if you were nice to me and then mean to me was okay I'd still be nice to you um and I think too many of us are living for other people instead of living for ourselves and I just wish more people would chase that dream that they really care about would take those risks that matter a lot to them would love the person that they know they're supposed to be in love with or take the the big scary chance that everybody has told them just doesn't make any sense at all and just live their life because I look at people all the time and I coach people all the time and I just go my God you're not happy yeah like who were who are you living for because when you realize that every day is not guaranteed you're not worried so much anymore about offending people because of your opinions or your truth you start realizing that your authentic self is all that you really need to be there's so much good going on in the world and we we as humans I think spend so much time effort and energy on things that just don't matter to us at all trying to please people we don't even like yeah and for what at what cost so that's where I wanted to ask you next is stay right on there so we've talked about what does matter and you just covered one thing that doesn't matter what else doesn't matter in other words pleasing other people in other people's opinions all of that man what an absolute beautiful truth what other things you're faced with this right you have this moment I've been everyone at some point will be faced with something like this it may be at 104 years old and you're an old woman laying in your bed someday or you're 34 years old in the prime of your life and being healthy but at some point you're going to be faced with this is going my body will eventually possibly end what doesn't matter what else doesn't matter because Matthew McConaughey said on the show sometimes you gotta just make a list of the things you don't want in your life to get clear on what you do want so we know these opinions of other people by the way you're just actually it's something we've always said but you're living it now you're like trust me it totally doesn't matter what else doesn't matter I know it's a hard question yeah but what else doesn't matter I'm curious I'm most okay honestly most stuff does not matter most stuff just does not matter and I wish more people would look at their life and realize that the little stuff that drives you crazy I've said it everything just gets it's clearer when you have something like this happen so I used to say if it if it if it's not going to matter in five years don't give it five minutes would you please live that yeah people are so freaked out about the dumbest little things and I just know you're not gonna care that there was traffic in LA because there's always traffic in L.A you know like 20 minutes from now so why are you having this huge blow up fight the arguments you're having with your partner why the little things about your kids why the stuff that drives you nuts and crazy like none of this stuff really matters the little tiny sacrifices I I think back on you know when I was starting my my business I lived in um first in a basement and then in a above a garage you know in a roof that's like this and so you couldn't sit up in bed because you had to roll out of bed it was one of those situations and I'm like I remember thinking God why am I living here I need to have something more like uh you know and it pushed me but I also think back I go why did I actually care yeah why did that matter to me why did the you know what doesn't matter fancy clothes don't matter fancy things don't matter unless it brings you Joy the only things in life that actually matter are the stuff that makes you smile period that's it do you love it are you happy are the people you're spending time around the ones that you want to are the activities you're doing in it is it the hobby you like or do you just do it because no more just doing stuff because because that crap doesn't matter you start looking at life like this moment This Moment's precious this one's precious and you chase those instead of things instead of other people's opinions instead of any of that stuff it's so good and by the way for people like you and I winning is fun yes right winning achieving competing being number one um seeing what you're capable of she's not she's trust me when I tell you she's not talking about just sit around and enjoy the moment she's saying do things you enjoy if you're a winner if you're a competitor go freaking win and compete because you all know we love that stuff right I'm I like winning more than I like sitting on the beach I just flat out you do do and so do you I know I do I've seen you in pickleball too he's competitive and everything well and and by the way so is she but you know what I'm talking about set this diagnosis she's still speaking my hudgies because I just freaking slayed it best talk I've ever given and she lights up when she talks about that so but this is so profound what you've said I mean like I just I just think sometimes I think when you get threatened with your life maybe not being here you accumulate the wisdom you would have gotten at the end of your life anyway and I think that's one of the I think it's one of the blessings that I've seen in you now she's also by the way kicked major tail in a bunch of different businesses right and there's this side to her that I love that's this Boss Lee side and I want her to show up here a little bit too because there's these sides there's this this reflective kind gentle forgiving wise perspective having patient woman that I really love but there's this other thing this other being who's like I'm gonna stomp you we're gonna win get off your butt let's go and you've pushed people in their lives like you've pushed you what do you think now don't be humble there's no reason for you to be humble now right okay so what has made you you so I remember the first time I spoke you spoke before me I think maybe before after me we crossed each other backstage and I know when I meet someone that's the it like everyone has the it by the way but I know when someone's released it in themselves so I want to be very clear everybody's special everybody has the it but I know when I've met a human being who's released theirs and I also know when I met somebody who is still suppressing theirs and the ones who have released it boy that's really good those who have released it I magnetized too I'm just like whoa and I knew it immediately then the second time like there's she's released it her version of her releasing it so you have that thing you've unlocked yours what is it that made you so much more successful than basically everybody else in the multiple businesses you've done now looking back on it no reason to be humble we've beared our soul about some really difficult things today so tell the truth about that yeah uh I think I have this fight in me that is ingrained in me from such a young age that I'm just willing to do whatever it takes I I will not hurt people that's about where I cross the line I will not do anything to hurt people aside from that I will dominate you I really will it's just it's not a joke and uh I'll I'll go and I'll definitely go deep in it I will never forget when I when we first talked about the diagnosis and I said to you on a coaching call I said Ed I think I need to put bossley to rest I think I need to just kind of chill a little bit and go more into just quiet time and whatever and I remember seeing your face and you didn't say anything you went okay and I went maybe that's not and then I realized no bossly is the reason I have all of this stuff is and I don't mean things I mean the accomplishments the accolades the wealth all because she is an aggressor she doesn't let people stumble over her how am I gonna let cancer come in and stomp all over me oh no like actually bossley needs to show up more than ever and so the difference with me I think is that when everything crazy happened and I mean I'm not going to go into a whole long childhood whatever but I would people want success like ours and I love how open you've been about things with your dad and your childhood more and more over the last few years because the way I describe it is I understand you want our success but you do not want what we've gone through if you want all this success you've got to trade all of this bad stuff and you're not willing to trust me so when I'm nine and I send my dad to jail and I'm raised in a crazy domestic violence situation my whole life I have to get raised by my grandparents because there's no one there I become the leader of the household then physical violence and craziness like you've never like you can't even imagine we don't have enough food we like all of this just turmoil chaos whatever I became the leader yeah yeah and so when people go you know in sales as an example I have never understood why people get so upset about the word no this one shocks me and maybe that's why I went to eight oncologists oh come on come on it's got to be fun because for me it's it's the first thing somebody tells me is never what I'm going to accept I don't accept that for me or for my life so when someone's like oh they that Prospect told me no I go well did your parents tell you yes about everything when you were growing up because I was told no always and I just kept selling myself over and over and over again to try to get something even if it's just can I stay a little later no no no you guys would ask for ice cream three times and you'd get a yes I was always no so no it doesn't hurt me right that turned me into this so then if I'm getting rejected fine and also you get Scrappy I'm really Scrappy from growing up without resources so I will find a way yeah you tell me it's impossible I don't think so there's a way uh I'm super big on visualizing you talked about touching your dreams I've been the same way forever I'll sit in the car I'll go to the car dealership when I can't afford it before you know I couldn't afford it I go see I'd go look at the private jets and see whatever I'd look at the big houses I'd spent I would spend I found our first photo I got to show you you have no idea I met you at 10x was the first time I actually met you way back you would I had bright blue hair it's craziness right so that was me I do remember that you were heavier then yeah and I right through here I remember that I'm dead by the way I've met millions of people so I often don't remember I remember that I paid to be in that VIP section when I really maybe didn't maybe shouldn't have and I'm still I remember and I couldn't and there were these two huge men like seven feet tall that you got the photo with them and then Grant like rushed you off and so we have like a side photo but it's our first photo we ever took and it's it's like you were standing there when I was taking the pictures yep exactly but I would always just insert myself where other people wouldn't because people would tell me no people would say it's impossible people would say you can't have this you can't do that women don't do this oh this is kind of a men's World I learned investments in negotiation and all this stuff because people told me I wasn't supposed to they said oh you're just supposed to be this Network marketer I said Network marketers fail at everything because they're alert they're trying to learn how to recruit a bunch of people and then forget about them I'm gonna treat this like a business and if I learn business skills unlike most people that do things like this No One's Gonna Be able to touch me so it's always been where's the Competitive Edge yeah learn and then I'll watch somebody maybe in the business space that's why I went to 10x there were no networkers there right I went to 10x because I said I need to learn more about businesses so I can see what they're doing in their traditional business so I can figure out how to implement that in this kind of business and provide other businesses right because if I do that then I'm not the first one to do it I'm the first one to do it the best the best yeah by the way I'm watching if this is you so it's interesting the transition by the way you could just feel the energy a little bit by the way the Topic's different the energy is different and bossley does need to show up to fight this fight as well right so there's got to be both I want to tell you one thing I want to say something about you I'm going to brag about you but I want everybody to see themselves in this when I went to work at the group home I went to work at an orphanage you know that was my career and when I went there I've often said that I connected with these boys because anybody has gone through any abuse or dysfunction in their childhood we have different eyes we do our eyes are just a little bit different when you look into the eyes of a child who's suffered they just want to be loved and you can feel it and I have those eyes in my former that you have it in yours no matter what you've gone through what I didn't know when I worked there is that they also have different hearts they have different Hearts because one of the ways we get our love is by achieving but we do become scrappier we are tougher we are more Relentless we do take more no's we will get after you to win because we want to change how we feel so badly we want to change how we feel so badly and even I see your face changes I say that and so if you've gone through any dysfunction in your life when we meet each other we kind of connect in a way like I don't connect as well with people who've had easy lives I wish I did I wish I did but I often find myself gravitated towards people who have had tragedy or difficulty or abuse or neglect in their life and I used to think it's because we had the same eyes it's not why it's because we have the same Hearts our hearts are the same I'm getting Goosebumps I've never said this out loud until you were just speaking and I'm like that's what I see in her that's what I see in all of my great friends it's not their eyes it's their freaking hearts that are different because of what we've had to go through and that's why I love you and if you're listening to this everybody if you've had that that's what you share in common with us you have to unleash it but it's a gift it's a gift because your heart is just different you're just it's the heart literally as corny as it sounds it's the freaking heart of a champion it's somebody who wants to be somebody so bad and change how they feel so much that they're willing to do any anything and I just realized as you were talking I've spent most of my life trying to change how I feel do you relate to that uh I'm like nodding like my head's gonna fall off over here it's yes the first time we really had a hard talk conversation I said I just I just want to feel proud is what I told you like I've had all this success and it's like when is it going to be enough when am I going to sit there and go and it because I just want to feel yeah you know you're always chasing yeah and what you've learned I think through this my sweet friend my brilliant friend my powerful friend is what you're learning through this is maybe I can keep this drive in this heart and actually still simultaneously give myself the gift of feeling these things I don't have to wait because when time is potentially cut short which it's not going to be in your case but it's threatened to be cut short you go yeah enough of that crap I'm gonna feel these things now and I'm still gonna be this boss where I kick ass I mean I considered canceling I considered stopping all my businesses pretty much I considered stopping my coaching I considered all of these things and then I had this and I went no I get so much energy when I do that because I'm watching their faces I feel I feel their hearts I see that I'm changing them in that moment I get off the I can't do those calls too late in the day because if I do it too late in the day I'm like let's go and it's so healing and it's so cathartic and and I do feel proud in those moments when I know that I'm shifting people's lives and so that becomes really important to me uh and I really think if more people would operate from that that it's truly heart centered it's you don't have to be this crazy shark at the top you can be a good person I mean I I definitely identify as a shark in ways but maybe not like a baby shark uh just you just recognize it in people and you can really feel that that's a real thing I feel it in you I uh I think this hour by the way has been the biggest difference you've ever made in your life and you've made the difference in millions of people's lives I um rarely cry you made me cry and I um I feel like usually when I do the show I'm like oh this is going to be so good for everybody else and then there's been a moment saying like oh this is really good for me and you are really good for me and uh I love you very much I'm super proud of you and thank you for having the courage because this is a tough lady who's one to say all right I'm gonna peel it back and I'm gonna tell the world what's going on with me that in and of itself took amazing courage and the fact that you're kind of documenting this journey you're going to be the inspiration for millions of people in different areas of their lives and you were born for this everything that's happened to you in your life has prepared you for right now yeah 100 and if you're listening to this everything that's happened in your life has prepared you for right now if you'll unlock it release that heart that we've talked about today okay thank you go to bossly.com go to I'm bossly on YouTube what's the Instagram I'm Bosley I'm bossly follow her journey um her podcast is the people's Mentor as well well you're doing that you're just crazy not to get the power of one more you're absolutely crazy not to have your email submitted at edmylet.com so that you can get early access to shows like this today I know I'm not I don't need to pitch you because everybody was listening this follows you but you have changed my life in more ways than you realize you are I wish more people got to know you how I get to know how I've gotten to know you you are such a pure soul and I try to pour as much love into you as I do because I there is so much greatness in you and I know you know you're great but you're better than anybody that just listens to the show or watches you online or walks past you behind stage could ever imagine and our relationship that has evolved over this this last half year especially like I truly treasure you as a friend as a person as a coach as a mentor and you're doing more work in this world than you realize and I want to give you your flowers too while you're still here because it means the world coming from you amazing thank you that means the world coming from you um you know guys every show I say share this I don't think I probably have to ask you to this week but like this message of this hour people need to experience they just do and don't keep it to you please share it with other people God bless you all max out [Music]

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Length: 65min 32sec (3932 seconds)

Published: Tue Jul 25 2023