Do You Love Yourself ENOUGH?

I want my friends to love me but I don't want them to accept me and I think sometimes we canate loving oneself with having to accept everything about ourselves and I just don't believe that's true in fact I don't think you can love yourself unless you're truly being yourself studies tell us that 80% upwards of 90% of most people's thoughts are negative about themselves in a given day so obviously we need to take a look at that and a at that and change that what if we replace just 50% of those negative thoughts with loving compass passionate and supportive thoughts about ourselves you would find the support you've been looking for from within you won't need it externally and sometimes being ourselves requires taking an inventory of who we really are re auditing what we really want who we really want to become maybe we're living in Old dream or an old story you know maybe lately we have been behaving in a way where we're treating our bodies with the love it deserves people high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities sound nutrition exercise proper sleep intimacy prayer meditation healthy social interactions self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness and having a high enough regard for yourself that you want to treat yourself physically emotionally spiritually in a way that you're worthy of and not accept from yourself Behavior that's less than that here's what good people think I'm being selfish when I work on myself but the truth is you can't pour from an empty cup you have to begin to fill your own cup with the words you speak to yourself and the actions you take and so what I want to challenge you today is that Nuance between love for yourself and the discipline of showing yourself real love of taking the actions that you deserve give yourself enough love to keep the promises you make to you love yourself enough would you make a promise if you have kids man you want to deliver on that cuz you love them so much you make a promise to your parents by doing something for them you feel this obl ation or a friend you say I'll be there for you and when you're there it's because you love them well be there for you what are the things you need to do for you the disciplines you need to do for you to love yourself even [Music] more so hey guys are you frustrated with where you're at right now maybe stunted in your progress well if you are I want to recommend a place for you to go called growth day growth day.com Ed it is the number one personal development app on the planet it's got all kinds of high performance techniques in there courses accountability journaling live speeches from some of the top influencers in the world including me it's an overall environment to change your life growth day.com sled welcome back to the show today everybody so excited you're with me today's topic is selflove and it's probably one of the most common topics on all of social media or podcasting but I'd like to take a look at loving oneself from a different perspective today kind of my angle on it and it's probably a little bit different than you've heard before you know I've often said with many of my friends that I want my friends to love me but I don't want them to accept me and I think sometimes we canate loving oneself with having to accept everything about ourselves and I just don't believe that's true in fact I don't think you can love yourself unless you're truly being yourself you know adhering to your values your disciplines the things that you most want to pursue in your life that you're taking actions in accordance to that that you're living in congruency with what you say you want and so there's a difference between loving somebody and accepting them my great friends I tell them all the time I love you I believe in you but I don't want them to accept all my stuff I want them to expect of me better than I'm doing I want them to believe in me and love me so much that they see the version of me I could be that I'm capable of becoming I think that's what a great friend does and I think if you're going to be the best friend to yourself perhaps it's time to take a look at loving oneself from a little bit different perspective and so I understand the idea of having to feel good about yourself and and to have that internal dialogue with yourself that's favorable I mean let's just be honest studies tell us that 80% upwards of 90% of most people's thoughts are negative about themselves in a given day isn't that an incredible number 80 to 90% of our thoughts about our self are negative so obviously we need to take a look at that and audit that and change that so how do we think differently about ourselves and by the way we don't have to believe everything we think in our life most of the thoughts we have aren't true anyways whether they're about ourselves other people circumstances situations we don't always have to just to accept what we think in fact many of us would be better off not listening to ourselves so often and talk to ourselves a little bit more speak truth to ourselves speak power to ourselves speak Faith to ourselves speak peace to ourselves and so here's my version of self-love for today's topic and there are other aspects of self-love that I'm going to cover today but this is the piece everybody's missing it's like just love yourself as you are well you know do you would you want to do that with your children just anything you love them but are you going to accept everything they do should there be no improvement no Behavior change no growth I think with most people we love we also expect something from them in terms of the values they live up to their performance I love both my children very much but when they're not living up to their capacity when they're not living up to what they're capable of or just behaving in a way that doesn't serve them or family or other people I want to make sure they know that that's not acceptable and so the day that I realize write this down the day that I realize that discipline is one of the purest forms of self-love that when you discipline yourself you're truly loving yourself when you discipline another person you're discipling to them you're loving them even in the Bible Jesus rebuked the apostles when when he needed to discipline gives me the confidence that I need to forge ah head in life and so I want you to begin to consider is there an element of self-love or a large element of self-love that requires discipline and like I said I want my friends to love me but I don't want them to accept me all the time and I want to love myself but part of loving myself is not accepting all of my stories not accepting all of my behavior I mean here's what self-love really is it's a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from the actions we take that support our physical psychological and spiritual growth self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness and having a high enough regard for yourself that you want to treat yourself physically emotionally spiritually in a way that you're worthy of and not accept from yourself Behavior that's less than that I mean listen I I love myself enough not to eat teror all the time I love myself enough not to not pursue my dreams and goals I love myself enough to believe in myself enough to discipline myself to pursue My ultimate capacity because it's only then that I can reveal the true me it's only then that I'm living in congruence with myself so I'll say it to you again you can't love yourself if you're not being yourself and sometimes being ourselves requires taking an inventory of who we really are re auditing what we really want who we really want to become maybe we're living in an old dream or an old story you know maybe lately we have been behaving in a way where we're treating our bodies with the love it deserves the hydration the good food the physical exercise required to truly love our bodies and I just don't believe that you could just love yourself when you're not eating well at least most of the time hydrating most of the time if you're pouring drugs and alcohol into your body on a regular basis that's not loving yourself that's punishing yourself that's hating yourself and so this notion that self- Lov is just like Take Me As I Am that's a bunch of BS to me I just don't believe it and the notion that you should just continue to treat yourself poorly and just accept it it's not what I want out of my friends it's not what I expect out of myself it's not what I want from my children it's not from anybody that I love is that true I in fact I think true love is being able to being willing to speak truth to somebody you know the higher you climb in life it's harder to find real friends because everybody starts to yes you yes you yes you all the time you have a lot of yes people around you and I know the people in my life that really love me they'll tell me the truth about me hey Ed that's BS or hey man come on you're better than that or cut that out or whatever it might be I I when my friends do that at this stage of my life those are the ones who really love me that speak truth to me and so the first thing I would just say is being mindful people who have more self-love tend to know what they think what they feel and what they want right on any given time and they're auditing that regularly the second thing you do is you take actions based on need rather than want take actions based on need rather than want by staying focused on what you need you turn away from autmatic Behavior patterns that tend to get you into trouble that keep you stuck in the past really they lessen self-love when you have patterns and behaviors and habits that don't serve you what increases self- Lov is treating yourself out of what you need not just what you want in any given moment I may want something but it's not really what my body needs my spiritual needs my psychology needs my mindset needs here's another thing you're not going to hear every day self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing them all the time just to please other people too many of us including myself and maybe you will sacrifice our own needs what we really need in our life just to please other people not to inconvenience them not to make them uncomfortable you know maybe what you need to do is really pursue that dream you have right now but you're not doing it because you don't want to make the people around you uncomfortable maybe what you really need to do right now is see a therapist or go to a gym or change the way you eat but you want to make the people around you uncomfortable don't sacrifice your own needs just to please other people that is not a form of self-love okay really truthfully speaking you can't transfer to somebody that which you're not experiencing yourself what do I mean by that if you truly want to love the people around you to your maximum capacity your max out capacity the limitation to your ability to show them love is actually capped by how much love you feel for yourself you can only transfer to somebody a limited amount of what you're not experiencing you have to be experiencing something fully in order to transfer it to somebody else and so please understand this to the extent that you invest in your own love in your own care in your and what I mean by this when I say is your own self- disciplines remember I'm connecting self-discipline and disciplines to love the more you do those things to treat yourself wonderfully beautifully Faithfully the more you can extend love in a way that you've probably never experienced before to other people when you truly have self-discipline in your life and you're doing the things that you know serve you the most you will find a whole new level not only for yourself of love but your ability to give it and for other people to feel it from you so next level is this practicing good self-care you will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs people high and self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities like I've said sound nutrition exercise proper sleep intimacy prayer meditation healthy social interactions the next thing is this you got to make room for healthy habits start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat how you exercise and what you spend time doing by the way earlier when I was talking about that 80 90% of our thoughts aren't ones that serve us what if we replace just 50% of those negative negative thoughts with loving compassionate and supportive thoughts about ourselves what if you did that what if you took 50% of your negative thoughts and you replace them with loving and compassionate and supportive thoughts about yourself you would find the support you've been looking for from within you won't need it externally in fact if you're constantly looking from support I need support from my partner support from my spouse support from my friends what you're really saying is I'm not supporting myself I need them to spell me I need them to fill the Gap when someone is truly loving themselves they don't need the support or the permission from other people it's only when you're in necessity of that that there's a deficiency within you and here's the truth you already know how to do this for yourself think about a loved one someone you truly care about that you want to see succeed how do you talk to them how do you talk to the people that you love your children your partner your friends that you love when you're speaking power and belief and love into them how do you speak to them what do you say to them and begin to give yourself that same gift that same message so many of us that lack self-love are incredible about giving it to other people and by the way you think you're great at it but like I said earlier it's limited by how much you can feel yourself and so what you think oftentimes here's what good people think I'm being selfish when I work on myself I'm being selfish I'm I'm bragging when I tell myself I'm built for this or that God made me as an image and In His Image and likeness or that I can do something awesome with my life I'm bragging I'm Brash I'm I'm uh putting myself in front of other people but the truth is you can't pour from an empty cup you have to begin to fill your own cup with the words you speak to yourself and the actions you take about yourself you can't just tell yourself great things and not take any of the actions why because then you lose self-confidence if you don't keep the promises you make to yourself you begin not to trust you and so it's not just enough to I'm amazing I'm amazing I'm amazing you're going to have to take the actions to validate it to prove it but once you start speaking truth to yourself like you speak to your friends and then you begin to act in congruence with that your self-confidence explodes your self-love explodes your self-worth explodes so I think what I'm saying so far is there's a lot to be said for the way you speak to yourself and the actions you take to truly create self-love and to feel self-confidence at the same time let me ask you this when a loved one's struggling in a need of support would you kick them when they're down or would you extend a helping hand you know exactly what you would do yet in our own selves we kick ourselves when we're down here I go again I always do this I always make mistakes I knew I was faking it we let the impostor syndrome come in and the thoughts start stacking in our heads about that we're not legit and we're not real and you always knew it was going to go back to what you're worth and so when you're most down often times is when you beat yourself up the most and you know who needs you the most during those times you what I would say to you lastly before we get into some really powerful stuff here is here's the truth how would God speak to you what would God tell you in that moment whatever your faith practice is most of you know that I'm a Christian but whatever your faith is what would God speak to you right now I remember when I first adopted my faith someone said to me i' I'd had Max and Bella many years later and said can you imagine Ed how much you love Max and Bella those are my children that God loves you even more God loves you even more than that it was hard for me to get my head around that but it's true and so what would God say to you when you're down right are you open to listening to that voice and then when you do you've truly started to love yourself you've truly started to give yourself the gift between your faith practices the way you speak to yourself the actions You Take by the way when a loved one makes a mistake do you tell them how terrible of a person they are are or do you give them credit for their intentions do you give them another chance you got to give yourself the same gift remember this we really can't truly love others when we're not loving ourselves so hey guys do you want to grow your business faster and better this year bottom line is this you got to learn how to find and keep top talent and all of that starts with your culture your company's identity and operations depend on the culture you create I talk about it all the time fortunately there's Insperity a leading HR provider their specialist show you how to build a culture line with your business goals driving success we're talking about businesses everywhere from 5 to 5500 employees they can help you with this so download their free ebook the future of businesses culture at insperity.com for ways to create a culture that fuels growth again visit insperity.com to see how Insperity provides HR that makes a difference insperity.com so here's what I'd like to do right now I'd like to give you the gift of giving you 14 signs that maybe you don't love yourself enough cuz I think a lot of you may be listening going I'm pretty good at this when I started to work on this project for myself I I took a look at me and you know what I've got some room to grow in this area it's probably why you feel like this you know maybe is hitting really home today and it's I hope that you feel that it's really good because I really created this lesson today for myself I think I have a high level of self-love but I could always love me more I could always believe in me more I could always have more self-discipline so I was like what are the signs that maybe you don't love yourself enough and so I'm going to give you those 14 signs right now I hope hope hits home with you actually I hope you don't have any of them but I'm sure maybe you have one or two of them and when I'm done with these 14 maybe these are the things you need to work on so first sign that maybe you don't love yourself enough you do whatever you can do to avoid conflict it's number one you do whatever you do you can do to avoid conflict how often are you willing to avoid conflict with people because usually people who want to avoid conflict if you find yourself being one of those kinds of people you say all my life I've been that way then your life you struggle with self-love you don't want to have conflict with people because you don't want them to take a very close look at you because conflict creates them looking back at you more harshly or maybe you looking at yourself and you may not feel enough love for yourself to speak up for yourself and so you allow people to treat you in a way that's not worthy of you you don't confront them you don't you know you don't create a conflict with them to create waves because you don't love yourself enough to stand up for yourself so that's number one if you're avoiding conflict all the time here's the truth about life there ought to be some conflict from time to time the story of life is a story of from time to time having a conflict or having to confront something in our lives we try to avoid that we're avoiding living we're avoiding growing we're avoiding growing a love for ourselves so if you're constantly avoiding conflict what you're really doing is avoiding loving yourself second indication that maybe you don't love yourself enough is you feel awkward more often than not awkward or uncomfortable socially awkward or uncomfortable within your own skin you don't want to be alone a lot and so when you feel awkward more often than not just uncomfortable with you that's an indication that you can love yourself more and you have room to grow in this area the third thing that's a big indication that you don't love yourself enough right now is that you're always looking for an escape whether that be on your phone and you're scrolling through social media just to escape or or it could be alcohol or drugs or gossip pornography whatever it might be you're looking for an escape all the time you shouldn't have to escape if you love yourself you should enjoy your own company you should enjoy the piece of being with your favorite person which is you and again you can't give this gift to somebody if you can't give it to yourself so if you're always looking for an escape somehow that's an indication when I see someone who's got an alcohol problem or a drug problem or a gambling problem right or they're too addicted to being a fan of a sports team even that's a form of Escape Sports watching spectator sports or they're on their phone all the time I believe this is an indication of somebody who doesn't love themselves and by the way one of the real Insidious forms it's obvious with alcohol and drugs is fan addiction I have so many friends of mine that I grew up with that I think they think they play for the Lakers I think they think they're on the Kansas City Chiefs I mean they literally live or die by what a bunch of other grown men are doing some of them even wear jerseys with other men's names on the back and I'm thinking are you trying to escape yourself that much that you're that addicted there's nothing wrong with being a fan of a sports team let me be clear I I watch sports I'm a I'm a Boston sports fan right I I'm a fan of great athletes I love watching greatness but we all know there's a level of it where we've escaped in there hiding from our own lives some of us Escape in our children's lives we live through them to escape our own existence to escape our own lives their Sports their grades their success what we ultimately do is put tremendous amount of pressure on themselves on on our children because we've escaped into their lives because we don't want to look at our own and so one of them is you got to be careful again I'm a huge sports fan go to a lot of sporting events but I think you all know what I'm talking about when someone crosses that line and you're like well this this has become like your emotions are based on whether this team wins or loses and I think you actually think you won when they win and that's just to escape the fact that you're not winning in your own life and so there's a line there when it comes to sports as well that's there's healthy and everything there's there's healthy use of alcohol for many people some people can't at all but there's a healthy use maybe socially in moderation where you can maintain it and then for some people it's just too much right there's a healthy use of social media and then there's people who use it too much it becomes unhealthy there's a healthy fandom when it comes to sports or entertainment or whatever it might be there's a healthy level of it and then there's a level where it's not healthy because we've escaped completely from our own lives that's number three you're always looking for a way to escape number four you constantly feel misunderstood if youve constantly feeling that people don't understand you and they don't get you believe it or not what's buried up under there is a lack of self-love because you are seeking to be understood so often it means so much to you to feel understood because you don't love yourself enough I think when someone truly loves thems enough and by the way I'm working on this just to be clear but I think when you really truly love yourself you don't have the need to be understood you don't have the need to be accepted because you understand and accept yourself number five thing that would be an indication emotion a feeling that you might have that you don't love yourself enough is you're resentful all the time you're holding on to resentment towards other people or a group of people or someone who doesn't believe with you politically or someone who disagrees with you religiously or you're resentful for a past event in your life you're resentful about something in your life that's an indication that maybe you don't love yourself enough and it's something worth looking at if you're filled with resentment very often um that's not a form of love for oneself you would never treat yourself that way right number six you're afraid to step outside your comfort zone you're afraid to take risks you're afraid to take chances you think you need to be perfect and when that happens in life that's an indication of not enough self-love because when you love yourself enough you're willing to get uncomfortable to grow because you know that self-discipline is one of the major keys to self-love and so you are wanting to step outside what makes you comfortable you're wanting the expansion of your being see I'm sort of at this point in my life sort of I say often to people I'm addicted to the expansion of my being and what that really means is that I love myself enough not to accept where I am and I want to expand my ability to give and think and learn and feel and grow and that expansion makes I know I have to be uncomfortable to do it I love myself enough to put myself through some uncomfortable things often times even with our children we we love them so much we don't want them to experience any pain any discomfort we kind of helicopter in and protect them from everything we think that's love but it's not real love is allowing someone to do some uncomfortable things in their life so if you find yourself often being afraid or unwilling to step outside your comfort zone that's a self-love issue number seven issue that maybe you are lacking in the self-love department is you need permission from others when you make a decision you need other people's permission other people's acknowledgement often times you seek too many other human beings advice but what you're really looking for is permission from them and that's an indication deep down of a lack of self-love the most self-loving people that I know with the best self-discipline aren't looking for permission all the time when they make decisions and although they may seek some advice from people they don't seek a lot of it they get counseled they've got people around them who they bounce ideas off of but they don't need people's permission to make decisions in their lives so as I'm making this list there's 14 of them are halfway through to any of these seven resonate with you if any of them resonate with you then there's some growth there on your self-love if all of them resonate with you then we really got some work to do don't we number eight feeling that maybe you're lacking self-love is you feel invisible you feel invisible you don't feel seen I think this is a big one for so many people they just feel like the world doesn't see them that that no one cares that nothing matters they walk in a room and no one would knew if they left it and that is a thought you've created in your own mind that is not true and frankly if you loved yourself a little bit more you would get a different response so if you feel invisible and by the way I know exactly what that feels like before I was a public person I often felt invisible in rooms that I would walk into that nobody saw me uh or understood me as I said earlier this is a major sight because when you love yourself enough there's enough light on you just from you and God that that that thought would never occur to you because you wouldn't be seeking it and what's ironic about life is the minute you don't seek it is the minute you receive it in abundance number nine indication that maybe you're lacking some self-love is you compare yourself a lot you compare yourself to other people you compare yourself to other time in your life you compare yourself to a situation or circumstance you see somebody that's filtered or very uh yeah it's very created online you know I'm going to do a video on this soon but there's so much fake online right now it's unbelievable there's actually a studio in Santa Monica you can go to now it's a studio it's in a warehouse and it will you can take pictures on it and it looks like you're on a private jet and influencers some are now doing this where they're Liv literally they go to this Warehouse in La I think it's in Santa Monica and it will make it look like you're sitting on a private jet and you can take selfies like your Jet Set LIF style and you're in a warehouse in La somewhere and then we sit here and watch these people online I'm not saying everybody's doing that I'm saying that that's the indication and length people will go to to curate a filtered life online that's not even true and then we find ourselves comparing ourselves to people and if you're doing that that's going to contribute to a lack of self-love like you can't even believe so don't compare to other people don't compare to another time in your life you say well I was so much happier when I was 25 and you're 45 now or I looked so much better that's a form of that is an absolute form of self-loathing it's not self- Lov it's the reverse so if you're constantly in comparison mode that's an indication you got this to work on number 10 this is going to be a subtle one you think twice before speaking you're constantly hesitating to speak your mind Speak Your Truth stand for something that matters to you right you hesitate you think twice what's the right thing to say I don't want to say the wrong thing I don't want to make a mistake I don't want to offend and although there's a kindness that comes with that and I have that same thing if you dig it a little bit deeper and it happens too often there are circumstances clearly where I am talking to people when I say I don't want to offend here what's the right thing to say that's not what I'm talking about I'm talking about if this regularly pops up in your life in circumstances that it does not require that thought you know exactly what I mean that you con thinking twice before you pop up and speak or contribute or add your two cents it happens in an occasion where you're like I want to be understanding and kind here and measured and respectful that's different okay but if it's happening on a regular basis that's a self-love issue number 11 you feel like you have to be perfect perfect is a trash standard it's the lowest possible standard and it's an indication of lack of self-love you have to be perfect nobody's perfect everybody makes mistakes in fact when you Reveal Your Perfections to people it's when you connect most deeply with them if I was to do today's show and tell you I've nailed all 14 of these none of them show up in my life I'm the ultimate self-love expert would you feel it all connected to me not at all the good news is I make a mistake on a lot of these often times as well but what I now have and I'm giving you is a checklist of if I'm doing this this is a thing I got to work on and so Perfection repels people Perfection creates separation revealing imperfections creates connection with people and so ironically perfect is a crappy standard you'll never get going you'll never start and you're using it because you don't love yourself and believe in yourself and have enough self-discipline that you created this artificial fake thing called Perfection that you'll never reach so you never have to be vulnerable you never have to speak up you never have to take an action you never have to get out of your comfort zone right you never have to show the real you because you got to be perfect before you act but underneath that it's not that you think you got to be perfect what underneath it is you don't love yourself enough okay number 12 your life just doesn't feel right as you're listening to this or watching today and precious you you your life doesn't quite feel right it's a lack of self-love this is the biggie for so many people that it just doesn't quite feel right and I don't mean once in a while okay everybody once in a while doesn't feel like their life is right it's part of being alive I know I have it but if it's a predominant thought a regular emotion most of the time life just doesn't feel right it means you don't feel right about you not life life is often times a reflection of how we truly feel about ourselves 13 you feel like no one knows the real you no one knows the real you if you have that thought could it be perhaps that you feel like you don't know the real you and that you're projecting that onto other people or perhaps because you lack self-love you're not really being the real you and so as a result of that you have this sense people don't know the real you because you're not revealing that person to them you're holding this precious beautiful amazing powerful being called you from the world because you're hiding from yourself I'll say what I said earlier you cannot love yourself if you're not being yourself you cannot love yourself if you're not being yourself the real you the things that you think might get criticized the things you think people aren't going to accept do you really want to get out of this life and have never been the real you so many of us and I have many times in my life we're a mask that we think other people will like this version of us better you can you can do that but at some point you're going to get to the end of your life and what if everybody liked someone that wasn't even really you wouldn't it be better in life for everyone to know who you really were and let the chips fall where they may and here's you're going to find out when you're really being the real you is when you truly love you and only then will you get the response from other people that doesn't matter anyway that you've been seeking so desperately what you're going to find out is when you're really being the real you which means you truly love you you don't have the need for that validation anymore ironically it's probably when you're going to get it but even if you don't you don't need it because the only validation you really need in your life is yours and your God and once you have those two things your home and then lastly number 14 sign that maybe you don't love yourself enough is you're kind of making yourself sick you just don't feel good physically you're sick maybe it's in your gut maybe you're sore or tired maybe it's emotional you're making yourself sick emotionally you're feeding yourself these thoughts and these emotions and these feelings that don't serve you maybe it's psychological right you're literally making yourself sick these are signs that you don't love yourself you're supposed to live in a healthy way and by the way this lack of self- Lov I honestly believe over time in life shows up in physical ailments in our body if we have these thoughts this lack of love that I think we literally kill ourselves and I'm not suggesting to you that all disease comes from thought believe me I've got terrible genetics in my blood for heart health and cancer I've got all these genetic predispositions that aren't very good so don't get me wrong I'm not suggesting that you just think yourself into being ill but I think you know exactly what I mean there's an element of self-love or the lack of selflove that can make us sick and it can show up in disease it can show up in soreness it can show up in tension can show up in plaques in our body it can show up in deterioration of muscle it can show up in our mind not working in its optimal way eventually it makes us sick sick physically sick spiritually sick emotionally and so if any of these 14 things are affecting you I I want to challenge you to begin to look at the self-discipline part of self-love and that if you begin to take actions that serve you right the disciplines of changing your life that you will disciple yourself that I begin you begin to really truly love yourself when you're being yourself I believe one of the pathways is not just total acceptance of who we are like I said in the beginning I want my friends to love me and believe in me that's an that's there but I don't want them to just accept me because that acceptance isn't real love and so what I want to challenge you today is that Nuance between love for yourself and the discipline of showing yourself real love of taking the actions that you deserve so today the challenge becomes this what could you be doing physically for yourself today is it stretching is it massage is it more hydration is it working out is it yoga is it some form of movement in your body is it earthing or grounding by putting your feet in the ground is it stretching something you can be doing physically is it changing your nutrition so that you love yourself enough to treat yourself with a discipline that's required to get fit and energized and strong is there something in your emotional life that you should be doing discipline wise habitually whether it be your meditation or your prayer or your giving to other people or the contribution you have in your life the reading you do the growth you do things you do to feed yourself emotionally to give yourself the gift of these emotions that are already within you right now that you tap into giving yourself the disciplines in your life that deliver the emotions so that when you keep a promise to yourself you get that emotion of I believe in me I trust me one of the greatest emotions in the world is confidence is self-confidence and self-confidence as I've said millions of times by now comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself give yourself enough love to keep the promises you make to you love yourself enough would you make a promise if you have kids man you want to deliver on that cuz you love them so much you make a promise to your parents about doing something for them or that you're going to do you feel this obligation or a friend you say I'll be there for you and when you're there it's because you love them well be there for you what are the things you need to do for you the disciplines you need to do for you to love yourself even more and then the last one is what I would call your psychological and spiritual life what are the things you could be doing to feed yourself spiritually your prayer your meditation maybe for some of you it's just starting to seek your version of the truth whatever that might be going on a journey of some discovery about how you feel about this purpose of life giving yourself the gift of the discipline not just saying it but the actions today I I'll give you one quick example of that there's a there's a part of my life that I'm working on right now and I this may seem very small but I literally said what are the books on this topic and then I Googled it I found the book I wanted and I ordered that book and it'll be here tomorrow and I that may seem so small but what did I do I took an action consistent with this step in other words it was a step in the direction it was a discipline in the direction I loved myself to take the actions to feed myself in that area and so I really believe there's a correlation between self-discipline and self-love and you might even say they're almost one and the same that when we are in full discipline and control of the things we do the actions we take and the words we speak to ourselves we are truly loving ourselves so I hope this helped you today if it did please share it with anybody that you care about anybody that you love so maybe they'd love themselves a little bit more and I think even taking that step to share it is an act of love for you all right everybody God bless you max out your life and love yourself a little bit more to [Music] B [Music] n

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Length: 39min 9sec (2349 seconds)

Published: Thu Mar 21 2024