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there are a certain percentage of people a very small percentage of people who operate out of their vision and Imagination the vast majority of people don't do that however most people operate out of history and memory there's a term that I want you to understand called cognitive immobility and what that means is is when you're really mentally trapped in a place from your past a human being has about 60,000 thoughts per day are you ready for this 90% of them are repetitive thoughts so the actual way to change your life if your 90% of your thoughts are the same isn't very easy 90% of your thoughts are the same every single day and 80% of those are negative thoughts and imagine why human beings are wired for pain wired for failure not wired for growth and expansion not wired for Bliss people that I think are happy that create things that take a life that's one way and make a new one have cognitive Mobility they're able to move forward they're Mobile in their thinking I want to teach you a tool called possibility projection have you ever had like a Monday morning and you got a grind of a week ahead but somehow you got something cool you're going to do on the weekend just knowing that's coming helps you be more present and go through what you need to go through in the day in the week what you've really done is you've possibility projected the party that weekend you possibility project in your life this forces you into imagination vision and dreams so you already do this from time to time what if you made possibility projecting future focusing part of your routine regularly family money business physical whatever it might be possibility projected now I want to challenge you go on what I call a phone fast you turn your phone off and you put it away for a day I think you'll find that the world will be okay without you and that 99.9% of the things that are on that phone you don't have to get to I really love social media but I actually have begun to believe that social media has more negatives than positives take you often times to a reference of the past the distraction of it the stress of it it's toxic it's mainly unnecessary and unhealthy isn't it I think if you build in a phone fast you'll find yourself much healthier much more present and have a much more compelling future I want to challenge you today to start to operate out of your imagination and your dreams and your vision let your memories not use you you use your memories so hey guys are you frustrated with where you're at right now maybe stunted in your progress well if you are I want to recommend a place for you to go called growth day growth day.com sled it is the number one personal development app on the planet it's got all kinds of high performance techniques in there courses accountability journaling live speeches from some of the top influencers in the world including me it's an overall environment to change your life growth day.com sled hey everybody welcome back to the show I'm so grateful to be with all of you today and I think today could be one of these Quantum type leaps for so many of you and the way that you view your life and so what we're going to discuss today is the filter or prism in which the point of view of which you view your life and there's really two ways that we look at our lives the filter we see it through and I wrote about this in the power of one more in my book there are a certain percentage of people a very small percentage of people who operate out of their vision and Imagination their dreams that's their frame of reference they're almost like a child in their they dream in their life they operate at a vision and Imagination they allow that to be the dominant filter in prism at which they see life the vast majority of people don't do that however most people operate out of history and memory and they wonder why they keep repeating the same life over and over again with a different set of people maybe a different set of circumstances but the same results the same emotions and so the first thing to ask your yourself today is which one are you and it's okay if you're the one that you wouldn't prefer to be but do you for the most part operate out of your history and your memory and you think a lot about those things that's what most people do or are you one of the rare few people who operate out of imagination because if you can operate out of imagination see kids teach such a great lesson why do most kids operate out of imagination they're going to be an astronaut or Superman they pretend they play games they have joy that's what imagination gives us that's what Vision gives us memory doesn't do that for us and so why do kids have that because they have no history they have no memory so they forced almost to operate of it at some age the crime of Life the tragedy is that we begin to operate out of a history and a memory and often times that history and memory are the things that we least want to repeat they're some of the most emotional or scarring times in our life and so most human beings involuntarily go through their entire life operating out of this point of view out of this filter unknowingly unconsciously they just don't know they're operating this way and so I want to challenge you today and I'm going to give you some keys to start to operate out of your imagination and your dreams and your vision see because that point of view allows you to be present there's really three points of reference isn't there there's the past there's the present and there's the future and I think the happiest people are present an awful lot of the time and the ma and the rest of the time or most of that time they operate out of their vision and their imagination and their dreams I'm not suggesting that evaluating your past um can't teach you lessons you can't heal some of it but spending most of your time there is not something that's productive deep choer has this great quote where he says I I use memories but I don't allow my memories to use me and too many people are operating out of their memories or using them it's okay to look back and to heal and and to evaluate and to gain wisdom from our past but that should be a small percentage of our time we should be fully present and focusing on the future at the same time and so how do you do that we're going to talk about it today a little bit I think I can give you some keys um first thing is this there's there's a term that I want you to understand called cognitive immobility and what that means is is when you're really mentally trapped in a place from your past um most people have some form of cognitive immobility where they just can't move out of it and what happens is everything they see currently they reference to the Past you know our minds work this way even reading there's a lot of research that says the way that we actually read is our mind actually sees the beginning of letters and it references the past where we've read it and it tells us that's what the word means that's why you can read very very quickly so your mind wants to take something it sees now and reference it to something else that's really what thinking is so that's why this takes work if you're left to your own devices most of the time what you're going to see will be referenced somewhere in the past and so that's cognitive immobility people that I think are happy that create things that take a life that's one way and make a new one have cognitive Mobility they're able to move forward they're Mobile in their thinking so a really good example of being fully present but focusing on the future is actually physical training is working out I think it's one of the reasons why working out is so powerful because when you're lifting weights or working out it forces you to be completely present on the task right in front of you because you're lifting heavy things you have to focus on the present moment there's actually a threat to you you could get injured you could get hurt so that's why I think so many people say well the reason man when I work out I've got all these endorphins flowing and my you know my neurobiochemistry is changing and yeah that's true but one of the other reasons is it's a metaphor it's an example of how to live our lives which we're fully present in the moment but one of the reasons we're training is not the pain in the moment it's the future payoff so physical training working out is one of the great models in life it forces you to be present you can't be lifting something heavy or bench pressing or squatting or running and not be present the moment because you'll trip and fall you'll drop the weight there's a threat physically to you to be fully present and focus but you really aren't doing it for that moment you're doing it because there's a payoff your heart will be stronger your cardio will be stronger your body will look stronger or better and so physical training is a great example of how to be fully present but focused on imagination and vision and dream as opposed to history and memory when you're working out you're physical you're not thinking about your past it's almost impossible right so that's a great metaphor you know so hey guys you know when I love technology and a great idea revolutionizes an old industry and by the way if there's an industry that needs a revolution I think you'd agree with me it's the healthcare industry it's not easy to find good doctors and by the way good doctors that are in your area that also take your insurance and that's why I love Zach do they are re revolutionizing the healthcare industry and the way you get access to doctors Zach do by the way is zooc do here's who they are Zach do is a free app and website where you can search and compare highly rated in network doctors near you and instantly book appointments with them online tons of different reviews on the doctors and they're local to you you can find out if they take your insurance I just did it for a Terah had my shoulder one day later I'm in the doctor's office getting some help getting an order for an MRI so go to Zach do.com let and download the Zach do app for free then find and book a top rated doctor today that's zooc do.com myet zocdoc.com mylet there actually at one time in history Nostalgia was considered a mental health condition so that's how detrimental to some extent focusing on the past you imagine that they actually called Nostalgia a mental health challenge now it's sort of celebrated we're always looking back we're always reminiscing with these phones we have there's the past is sitting in there all the time isn't it called photos we're constantly looking at yesterday the day before a year ago five years ago your phone will remind you memory of a photo two years ago social media will give you a reminder of the past so Nostalgia become such a part of our culture and then we wonder why we're not so mentally healthy you because when you're in the past you're not present I have to tell you many of you know that I've been taking a break from social soci media I've taken a complete step back I've taken a break from a lot of my travel and my speaking um a lot of the things that in business that I just I can't functionally do right now because I'm working on my physical health I'm still running my businesses and I'm still doing coaching in the r Syndicate and speaking to some extent but I've paired a lot of it back and one of the things that's happened is I've paired a lot of it back I found I've really uncovered how not present I was all the time I was never present and so I'm learning you know nostalgia is fun but it's it can actually become a mental health issue there's this physician back all the way to the 1600s Johan's Hofer was the guy's name and he actually talked about Nostalgia as an actual disease it it described anxiety and homesickness and insomnia and other symptoms experienced by these Swiss mercenaries that come back from fighting uh battle so you know this is something to really evaluate John F keni the great president said this is in my book the power of one more I Ed this quote he said history is a Relentless Master it has no present only the past rushing into the future trying to hold fast is to be swept aside and so what I'm saying to you is that if you're focused on your past your future is swept aside your life will be swept aside your destiny will be swept aside and so couple more things about this that are important to know there's some different studies I want to tell you about then I'll give you a couple Keys just three or four keys to Breaking this pattern so you can shift from being someone who's in the past to someone who's at least in the present and has using imagination as leverage there's a research that a guy named Dr Fred lusin did at Stanford and he says that basically in his study a human being has about 60,000 thoughts per day are you ready for this 90% of them are repetitive thoughts I talk about this in both my books imagine this that 90% of your day-to-day is exactly the same as the day before internally 90% of your thoughts are the same every single day so you have a 10% variability and by the way that 10% can be as simple as what direction to take what to order off of a menu so the actual way to change your life if your 90% of your thoughts are the same isn't very easy unless you're intentional about it left to our own devices we're going to repeat the same life over and over again we're going to have Nostalgia we're going to have the same 60,000 thoughts 54,000 of them are the same every single day and we don't have any variability there's another study research by the National Science Foundation that said 80% of your thoughts are negative can you imagine this so 90% of your thoughts are the same every single day and 80% of those are negative thoughts and imagine why human beings are wired for pain wired for failure not wired for growth and expansion not wired for Bliss of those thousands of thoughts 80% are negative and in that study they say 95% of your thoughts are exactly the same as the day before so I have to tell you this is so important to be intentional about every single day depending on the study somewhere between 90 and 95% of your thoughts you're sa and everything tells us 80% of them are negative and most of them are nostalgic or pointing a reference to the Past in some way so the first thing is this what do we got to be able to do what are some of the things that you could do to change it first off is to be intenal that I'm going to begin to operate out of my imagination okay just operate out of it now I'm going to give you four steps before we conclude things today that I think that can help you change these patterns number one you got to decide that you're going to be present and focus on the future and I want to teach you a tool called possibility projection it's something that I did not create I learned it many years ago back in business but when I had my sales team I would draw up what I called possibility projections you know if I wrote five sales this month that did this and so and so wrote three and Dave wrote two and and I would possibility project the next month of what it would look like what the possibilities were and then I'd project them into the month and then I would project what it would mean to me from a financial standpoint or from a growth of my business and then I started doing that in other areas I would possibility project my physical training if I work out this many days a week do this many reps on this the I can write up the possibilities I would do and then project what it would mean to me in a month in 6 months and in a year same thing in your family same thing with your money and so I've become I'm addicted to it I do it on airplanes all the time where I'm writing and people like what are you writing I'm I'm possibility projecting what my finances will look like this month I'm possibility projecting my podcast if I could just get soand so as a guest and we record it there and I possibility project if we do that man this is what the downloads look like this is what the rankings look these are the amount of people we could help this is what the vision and I'm what I'm doing is I'm casting a vision consciously you can do that with your family over the next three or four months the spring break's here and we're going to go to this Resort or we're going to go to this beach or maybe you can't afford to go anywhere we're going to do this activity as a family and you start building towards us hey kids on spring break we're going to do these games or we're going to do this prayer work or whatever it might be we're going to have this and you possibility project have you ever had like a Monday morning and you got a grind of a week ahead but somehow you got something cool you're going to do on the weekend we've all had that before like there's going to be a concert you're going to or a party or a get together at a park or whatever and somehow don't you agree that thing coming on Friday or Saturday Gets You Through the week right or even sometimes the morning you know you got a really rough morning but you know that night there's a game you want to watch on TV or your favorite TV shows coming up just knowing that's coming helps you be more present and go through what you need to go through in the day in the week what you've really done is you've possibility projected the TV show that you possibility projected the party that weekend you possibility project in your life this forces you into imagination vision and dreams so you already do this from time to time what if you made possibility projecting future focusing part of your routine regularly family money business life entertainment physical whatever it might be possibility projected maybe you're going to train in the gym because you know in six months you're going to do an Iron Man or you're going to do one of these mud runs or you're going to be able to weigh at 180 or you're going to a bodybuilding contest or you're going to do something right so you possibility project maybe you're going to pick up a sport once you're in different shape so one of the healthy ways you just change your focus is you create a strategy like the one I'm describing so I want you to challenge you to become a possibility projector all the time by the way it'll be awkward at first and then in 3 months 5 months 6 months you won't remember your life without doing it you could possibly project your day you could possibly project your week you could possibly project your year in every single area and this focuses you on the future but what it does is it causes you to do something in the present okay huge strategy and tactic to switch from history and memory to imagination and dreams number two go on what I call a phone fast and this is what I've been doing recently that I'm taking this step back a phone fast means this exactly what it sounds like you put your phone away for periods of time now I want to challenge you a a great phone fast would be for an entire day you turn your phone off and you put it away for a day you know I think you'll find that the world will be okay without you and that 99.9% of the things that are on that phone you don't have to get to when you start getting away from your phone I really love social media it's made becoming wealthy much easier it's made building a brand easier it's allowed average everyday people like you and me to build extraordinary wealth the potential of businesses the access to information and people in an unprecedented way it's a wonderful part of it but I actually have begun to believe that social media has more negatives than positives and uh the addiction to grabbing the phone the responding in a timely manner taking you off of focus taking you often times to a reference of the past um the distraction of it the stress of it um the algorithm in our brain that is now wired to be in here the feeding of the negatives and the toxicity the comparison and so many of us it's like an unhealthy diet we eat all day every single day imagine if you ate like that you poured that into your body with never fasting never cleansing strategy number two to become more present in your life and focus on the future is getting getting off the thing that keeps pulling you into the past you go no I'm actually getting updated on what's going on in the world today you're referencing it to the past that's how your brain works it's stress it's toxic it's comparison it's mainly unnecessary and unhealthy isn't it so take a phone fast if you could do it for a day do it you do it for a week do it could you at least do it for three hours could you do it for six hours could you do it on Sundays I think if you build in a phone fast you'll find yourself much healthier much more present trust me much more present and have a much more compelling future you'll be much less nostalgic your phone's feeding you nostalgic thoughts like what you agree with politically things that you want to follow things you've seen before repetitive messaging just said a different way take a phone fast step two step three practice small boox Focus what does that mean actually train yourself to begin to focus on small specific things this change your brain in the way that it works and so I've gotten actually pretty good at this so I will take something very small and put all of my attention on it that may seem silly but literally often times I'll take a pen like this and I will put all my focus on the top of the pen or on the pen the point of the pen and I'll just direct my focus right to that spot there's a tree right here in in my uh Studio I'll go outside and I won't focus on the entire tree I will Zoom my focus in on one of the leaves and I will break down that leaf I'll look at its character I'll look at the wrinkles on it I'll look at the how it's different from the other ones and I will focus in on a very small spot I'll do it with my little doggies I'll just focus in not just with them being with me and how grateful I am that they're there but I will focus in my attention on just their precious eyes or I'll hold one of them close to me small box Focus what that does is it trains your brain to eliminate all the big stuff and narrow in on the full present moment you can do this just by going outside and picking one cloud in the sky you can do it in your office by picking one picture to put your focus into okay you can I I'm blessed that I live near the ocean I will not just look at the vast entire ocean I'll pick one wave and watch it come on all the way in I'll pick small things you can literally be in a room there's a chair right here in front of me and with a bunch of squares on it I'll focus in on one of the squares and just Direct IR my attention to it and see what I can notice about it see the distinctions in it and when I do that I've narrowed my focus down and I begin to build a muscle of what I call small box Focus you can pick anything you can do it repetitively even if you're reading a book you can focus in on one word and just focus your gaze in on that one word what you're doing is you're training your brain to be fully present believe it or not even when you're taking in Beauty in the world when it's the big picture the big gaze often times your brain will now gravitate back to the past back to Nostalgia back to your emotional home but when you pick something small and specific it forces you to be present you can't look at something small and not be present in it and then what you can do is the contrast go from the small gaze to the big gaze so this one wave coming in to the entire ocean back to the small wave the one square on the chair back to the entire Studio back to the small square back to the entire Studio back to the small square this may seem kind of crazy but what it's doing is it's training your brain to be fully present in the moment what you're going to find over time is that this is a muscle you build and you can hold small box Focus longer much longer and it's training you to be present and there'll become peace in it and you'll find you don't need the ocean or some beautiful sunset necessarily to find peace to empty your mind it's just being able to get focused in on small things I know it's probably something you've never heard before but it's a strategy that I've used very regularly and it's helped me a great deal especially in this time that I've been taking to my health the next thing and the last thing is name the dummy name the dummy so you know that person who starts thinking all those negative thoughts and starts stacking them and you running that pattern in your head name her name him for me he's Eddie spaghetti so every time Eddie spaghetti pops up he's thinking negative he's worrying about stuff he's stacking negative thoughts he's going to the Past he's comparing he's beating himself up he's getting tired that guy I've named him that DB's name is Eddie spaghetti and I go Eddie spaghetti showing back up you can make that name a whole lot more aggressive than that by the way for you but when you name the dummy it changes your state it immediately shifts you out of because you realize you are not your thoughts you don't have to believe everything you think in fact most of the stuff you think isn't true and Happy People successful people realize they think a lot of stupid things I'm 53 years old next month and I can tell you I've thought a whole bunch of stuff that wasn't true in my life I have convinced myself of a whole bunch of things that weren't true I've thought a bunch of stupid things in my life and I cannot trust my own thoughts because the thoughts aren't mine they're from the past and the past eye vision isn't even real it's my version of the past based on some emotional situation that I've replayed over and over again and it's probably not even an accurate depiction of what the past is and so I have stopped doing that and I've named him when he shows up Eddie spaghetti and I call him some worse names than that that I won't say right here on a podcast but when you name the dummy the dummy loses power over you and it may not work at first but if you do it over and over again by the way it can be anybody you can go there's slap nuts right there's Sammy there's sparky there's dumb whoever it is you name it whatever you want for me because I got to say this out loud sometimes it's Eddie spaghetti and the reason it's Eddie spaghetti is when I was a little kid I got teased with that name and I don't like that guy at all I don't ever want to be that dude again so I have literally named it this version of me that I can't stand and then I don't like and then I know isn't really me and so when he starts showing up Eddie spaghetti your meatballs are ready right that a whole thing that I used to say when I was a kid that I don't ever want to go back to and so when he shows up I've named the dummy and that dummy and he is a dummy and she is or he is a dummy that's feeding you these negative nostalgic weak thoughts you call them out by name and over time you actually get a chuckle eventually and it loses a lot of its power over you so we have the two points of reference we have to do the four key things that I'm just giving you today and top of a whole bunch of other stuff I name in my books is make sure you have possibility projections number one number two take a phone fast number three practice small box Focus focusing it on small things will make you fully present on the beach pick a grain of sand in the beach and focus in on that one grain of sand on the golf course don't take in the whole Golf Course focus in right on the golf ball and then if you can focus in on the T en titlist on that golf ball you've really got small box Focus down it'll also help you play better and then lastly fourth name the dummy those are four strategies to move you from Nostalgia the past history memory into the present moment focused on your vision your imagination and your dreams all right everybody I hope this helps you today I hope it gave you at least Food For Thought present future Focus phone fast small boox Focus name the dummy get into your imagination live your dreams and be all the more happy let your memories not use you you use your memories God bless you max out your [Music] life

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Published: Thu Apr 11 2024