Desperation & Blowing Up Her Phone

hi I'm coach Corey Wayne and this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be desperation and blowing up her phone well I've got one email here from a viewer it went out had a great first date and then she take the girly one I would text him right afterwards so everything seemed to be good and then when he called or got in touch with her trying to set the second date up she basically completely ignored him and he's now sent like five messages to her and on top of that he sends in an email ask me well she has responded idiom is okay if I send her this little sappy text and maybe that will cause her to respond it's basically what I like to call the illusion of action I refer to this in my book so I'm going to quote in this topic I want to share with you and I'm going to jump right in to his email the quote says we tend to find potential lovers more attractive when they also find us attractive however attraction will be ruined when we think that by liking someone excessively or talking about our feelings at length when we barely know them we'll make them like us more it creeps women out when they talk to a guy once or go out on one date with them and it proceeds to start acting like they are in a relationship or he blows her phone or email up with excessive texting and messages while ignoring the fact that our responses are getting shorter less frequent and less interested courtship and dating is much like a game of tennis you must wait for the other person hit the ball back over the net by patiently waiting for them to return your message or phone call not waiting and continuing to contact her to try and force response is like turning the automatic tennis ball machine on high and machine gun firing countless balls rapid-fire at her if you do that she will run off the court and run away from you for good so let's go ahead and jump right into his email he says hey coach I'm writing because I went on this great match.com date with a girl who's in nine out of 10 in my book and he also sends her Instagram pictures and I have to take a look and she's actually pretty hot but also notice there's a lot of people in her pictures and she looks like she has a very active social life so this type of woman is constantly got guys throwing their dicks at her so the idea is you want to set yourself apart you don't want to act like needy insecure desperate jackasses like the ninety seven percent of those guys that she normally meets he says she's a she's an RN she has her [ __ ] together she's classy and gorgeous and I was really stoked to have met her we had a great time and shared many of the same interests and laughed and teased one another a bit during the date so far so good he says I thought everything went great and she told me she had a great time he says just platitudes it's possible because we're going to go on a date go you suck you're boring I didn't have a really good time with you I wouldn't sleep with you your last man their planet they're not going to do that they don't want any conflict they don't want any weird or awkward situations so yeah they will blow sunshine up your ass when they're really just trying to get rid of you he says I moved her from dinner which was a two-hour dinner to a place where we had dessert where we spent another 30 plus minutes I went for the kiss when I dropped her off but I didn't get to finish it that night how do you go for the kiss and not get to finish it he says not to make excuses but I think it partly had to do with when I dropped her off I pulled up to the valet line so she could get a car and there were a lot of people around so there was a lack of privacy well as the leader as the guy that's planning the date it's up to you to work these logistics out ahead of time dude and at the end of the day if you want to kiss a girl you [ __ ] kiss her you don't care if there's anybody around who gives a [ __ ] then you know what if she turns her head and you get her cheek then you know never to go out with her again but bottom line is you're worried about what other people think you're putting this girl on a pedestal if I can tell it's probably it's like you kind of treat her like she's some kind of alien from another plane like oh my god I'm never going to see another one just like her just a girl dude treat all them the same it's just the first date I want to go out on a first date with the attitude of let's just see what happens in a girl like this is really beautiful as long options she doesn't wanna go out the guy who's a he's like drooling all over the place because she's beautiful you can't let a woman's beauty diminish you and turn you into Gumby he says anyway she even texted me after the date to make sure I got home safely but that's the last I have heard from her I'm scratching my head as to why she hasn't responded to me reaching out but I think some of it could have to do with me being a little too eager to get a hold of her after the date and try and plan something else with her because I was excited and you should see this girl well I did and it's it's obviously you have been out with very very many very beautiful women and therefore you probably act a little too nice little too compliant little too eager she could tell he says also I noticed that she's been off match.com now since out of that particular date so I'm guessing there's another dude in the picture more than likely a girl like that's got lots options she doesn't stay single for long probably he says she wasn't she hasn't been active on there for three weeks since we last talked since our date two weeks ago I've texted her three times and I've called her twice leaving a message once dude think about this if she gets serious with another guy and you've left only one message from her and you go on about your life there's a 97% chance that the other dudes going to [ __ ] it up but if you leave [ __ ] you try to contact her five times and she ignores you all five times and now you're writing me because you're saying hey I want to contact her a sixth time you think that'll make a difference so if it doesn't work out the other guy do you think she's going to call you or she's going to go that guy's a little needy and it's corrects like mostly guys they meet or if you just left one message from her figure and make she'll get back to me when she's got time think about it even if she doesn't contact you right away she may contact you in a month or two and the other dude screws up she's obviously off match.com either maybe her membership expired but more likely maybe she got serious for the other guy you just you don't know but you're not helping your case by sending desperation texts like please respond to me he says now I have read through your material it seems that I should have just left it at that and waited for her to get back to me I don't think I've come across as needy come on man seriously but I don't like the way I've left things with our based in the last text so I need advice on what to do absolutely [ __ ] nothing all I wanted to put myself in a more dominant position and leave it that so I need your input if you continue to text her you're putting yourself into a weaker and weaker position so here it gives me kind of a synopsis he gives me the text exchange and so he gets home or she gets home she says I'm home I had a great time tonight thank you get home safely he says his first text says I'm home now - thank you and then he says I'm glad you got home safely sweet dreams and then this was like two days so this was a Friday night he goes out with her and then on Monday he says hey how did the rest of your weekend go no response then on Thursday he calls her he basically said he was calling to catch up and hope she had a good time in Vegas with her girlfriends parties and we should make a plan to get together next week when she gets back well if you know she's going to be away like holler wait till she's back in town or she's not in town wait till she gets back that communicates you're too overeager he says I call her Wednesday September sir third I got no answer so I text her hey how was Vegas did you survive he says I teased her because that's one of the things that we talked about no response he says that brings us to now I really like this girl well no amount of you really liking her is going to make her like you back but you're making yourself look absolutely desperate like oh my god I'm never gonna see another pretty girl again as long as I live doesn't help you dude he says I really like this girl but I'm not sure if I completely [ __ ] this up or if there's just another dude in the picture that's why you hang back and you chill out you don't do anything and this other guy may have been further along with her I'm just not sure I want to send her one last text in a week or so don't do it dude resist the [ __ ] urge I want to send her something that's completely balls out and just leave it simmer whether she responds or not I don't Karrie dude you've already done that five times you reached out to her come on man I want a second date with this girl at least position myself in such a way that she'll read that reevaluate her decision not to respond and short I need to know what to do coach this is a text I was thinking of sending her hey I had a really great time with you the other week when we met I think you're gorgeous and I really like you and you're intelligent sexy and classy as well and I am let's just [ __ ] just drooling on are you wearing a bib dude when you wrote that you've got to be drooling all over yourself this is like so ass-kissing and so bootlicking it's just not helping your case I'd love to see you again I scored a couple tickets this weekend to the Drake concert and I would love for you to join me are you available to get together he says is this text okay now do wait for her to respond she's probably [ __ ] some other guy by now he says what would you say I wouldn't say anything I would have just left it up after one leaving her one message I would wait for her to get back if she didn't get back to either didn't like me or she hooked up with somebody else and if she hooks up with somebody else the best thing that you can do to make yourself look in the strongest most dominant position is leaving one message presupposing hey she'll get back to me when she can that's the best thing to do not continuing to send messages thing okay will this this message is really going to make her one respond this text that I'm going to send is R it's like it's like the attitude of all the ultimate date or the ultimate pickup line or the ultimate message is going to make her change her behavior or approach it's just simply not going to happen dude it's like I said she's either not interested or she hooked up with some other guy and if it was some other dude you've made yourself look so bad by sending her five texts and acting weird and creepy let it go never call her never text her again I seriously doubt whether you're ever gonna hear from this particular woman again so like I said let it go wait to hear from if you do hey great to hear for me I'd love to see you what are you for you two get together and then you make a date so if you'd like to get me out personally the quickest way is a book a paid phone Skype or email coaching session you can choose any of those options by going to my website clicking the products tab at the top of your screen follow the instructions for booking a session with yours truly I will talk to you you

Channel: Coach Corey Wayne

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Length: 11min 24sec (684 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 18 2014