Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen Bell

you've described yourself as an ex-addict dirtbag who met this woman who's basically you know Disney deemed her a princess right she is the embodiment of all that is good and wonderful about women yes and I wonder like how it works that you put those two lives together well this answer is gonna surprise you and it's going to be off-putting but I'm gonna tell you the real answer okay which is I have this very weird mix of not thinking I'm good-looking general low self-esteem chip on my shoulder that I'm dumb because I was dyslexic all these things yet unbridled arrogance in relationships I've always been that way really I don't know how to explain it I've just I've always felt very confident in relationships so I never ever was like oh I hope I can keep Kristen I was going do I want to be with a Christian who has eight people living in her house for free who has to get out of a car when there's a dog that doesn't have a leash and rune or hold a to rescue the stuff do I want to be it's great she's good but that's not what I want to do I'm not that good I don't want to spend my day finding the owner of a dog so I wasn't fearful I would lose her I wasn't certain I wanted to be with someone like that and then the what's what happened with which could have only happened the way it did is that she never ever said to me you know you could be a little better of a person she never ever suggested that I should do that instead I just slowly through time watched what fruit she bore out of the way she moved through life I looked at the the results of how she lived and they're pretty undeniable so here's me who's like thinks she lets people take advantage of her and live for free off of her and maybe she pays this manager too much or whatever the thing I the the cynical protective part of my brain will saying I I could also acknowledge she's bringing in a lot more money than you she's getting ahead like well for all these people that are making a fool of her she's doing a lot better than you are I just couldn't deny the reality of how her life unfolds there's something charmed about it and I think it's charm because it starts with her being just endlessly generous and loving and and giving people the benefit of the doubt and believing in people and believe in the world's a wonderful place and all these things and then downriver it proves to be all those things to her and me on the other hand I'm like no one's gonna take my wallet you know that's all I'm thinking about and I miss all this other stuff and then I I you know I just over time was like it doesn't really matter what case you can make intellectually you can't deny what the outcome is and it's so drastically better for her you know more people care about her more people will be there for her more people it's just a better life and and I wanted that and so I chose to move more in her direction you know she didn't ask me to I I wanted what she had and I replicated it and conversely I'll pat myself on the back a lot of the things I think she could have done better I never said she's the first person I dated I made a real conscious decision that I wasn't gonna try to make her into the person I wanted to date because I know what happens when I try to make them the person I want to date I don't end up liking that person and so I didn't do that and lo and behold she has come this same exact distance towards me as I've come towards her you know without me she's never on your show admitting she has depression she's never doing that that's like something she got from me and then that has added this level to her life that these people reach out to her and say I was I've been with a guy three years I haven't admitted I have depression I'm just so ashamed of that and she's seen the results of like what her being honest and flawed and all these things what would it cultivates and so it happened to her and it happened to me and neither of us were saying you got to start doing it this way or you need to be this way it's like some magic Ozma osmosis happened well you're right yeah is it a lost pudding it is right hey folks thanks for watching if you like what you just saw then why not subscribe click right here for lots more off-camera and if you want to see the hour-long version of these conversations I'm gonna give you the secret link here it is off camera comm check it out [Music]

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Length: 5min 5sec (305 seconds)

Published: Fri Jan 25 2019