CCF GLC 3 Leadership Skills Session 4 Biblical Counseling Part 2B

you must realize the first see you must realize you're you are commissioned by God so you are being prepared today my wife is teaching you how to counsel people Hey it's not in the note it's not so you're right you're right okay you make five boxes first box you must know you're commissioned by God you must prepare so tell your neighbor your commission by God first see commissioned by God okay can I point to you all of you now look at how I point all of you look you are all commissioned by God by the way I heard that not everybody who comes to GLC who comes to CCF are followers of Jesus it Church this size I'm hundred percent sure not everyone is a follower of Jesus agree so what's our job number one commissioned by God number two confront we look on front somebody just like Nathan you must point out a specific sin by the way don't think I mean I'm the one inventing all the si si si si si I'm not inventing this right I learned this from brush working son okay he has nice outline so you must realize you must confront them point out specific see now how do you point out specifics in the next see you must find out from God's Word so you must know which commandment or what part of God's Word have they broken so you got to prove broken God's Word why is this so important many times people confront its other not because of sin you just don't like somebody you don't like his style of talking you know people date oh hi Peter when I in the sky so you go to the speaker you know what I don't like your voice something's wrong with you no that is not seen that one you don't confront that one you yourself must repent okay I'm talking about when you confront somebody you better make sure what you are confronting him with or her is a sin it cannot be a preference it cannot be a style it cannot be something that you just don't like nothing to do with your own standards it has to be very clear so you got to show them based on the Bible based on this verse what have you done now I experienced this recently my failure I want to share with you my failure I was counseling somebody who was who was committed adultery and I was talking to him I was not really very very harsh because I was I wanted to be a nice person you stand up adopt this you know this product is the please you know because I don't want to hurt him too much but praise God the guy admitted he committed adultery when income when he admitted he committed adultery I was very happy but I'm gonna tell you my next mistake would you like to know my next mistake now before I tell you how do you confront somebody number one commissioned by God are we commissioned by God number two confront how do you confront a specific sin bring out what commandment what part of God's Word not gossip but talk directly in the Philippines I noticed a lot of us we talk to other people G Smith that's a sin now by the way if somebody's making cheese miss you can confront the person the book of Titus will tell you gossiping is lambda that is sin how many of you are guilty of gossip raise your hand hey Penn hey hey when you gossip is that a sin now when somebody wants a gossip and tells you something what do you do you say we don't do that here don't entertain gossip you know when people want to gossip I tell them talking to me it's not gossip because I can do something but I tell them have you spoken to the person if you have not spoken with the person I suggest you talk to the president first the fourth the fourth you must show the consequences because sometimes people don't change so you got to show the consequences the pair is B word of hardened heart this is for my mistake comes in because a month ago I was counseling this man but I did not really dwell too much on the consequences my friends when you confront people the authority is God's Word that's why my wife is telling you to counsel somebody you need to know God's Word it cannot be your own opinion your own opinion is useless no power use God's Word okay and that is where my mistake something I will show people consequences I will tell you look you don't have to change but if you don't change this what's gonna happen I will tell them your family your children your future your job your finance your health I said what do you want and lastly confession you want them to come to a point where they're like David I have sinned profess and I am learning - what if there is real repentance because sometimes I know these people don't really repent do you have this experience like when my children were growing up and my wife will correct them okay you should say sorry sorry sorry that kind of sorry oh sorry that is not contrition that is not yet real repentance you want people to really realize I have done an awful thing I know this restoration and the Bible restoration Bible will follow when there is real repentance many of you I can almost predict spiritually you are dry spiritually today you are no longer on fire and let me tell you why somewhere along the line you have fallen into sin and you have never dealt with it you need to learn how to have personal revival you look at your life you examine your heart is there anything in your heart in your life that is not pleasing to the Lord and until you see how awful sin is and you repent you want a revival and you will not have restoration so what is the 5c Commission by gun confront commandment consequence a confession which is the hardest Filipino culture we are afraid to confront you know what we're good at gossip you will tell your D group members let's pray let's pray let's pray for him you know and he's not gonna pray pray pray the sacrifices of God are a broken spirit a broken and a contrite heart O God you will not despise so in counseling I pray that you and I will learn how to bring somebody to brokenness a broken and a contrite heart once you do that I tell you you'll be the happiest person also you know why I have tremendous joy when I see people repent let's close with this amazing quotation revival consists of nothing less than a new beginning god bless you last week we talked about what biblical counseling is do you remember what it is what's the purpose its to help person help a person to change their thinking to change their behavior their be to write emotions and to relationships that are honoring to God for the purpose of glorifying God and becoming christ-like so what is the basis what do we use for biblical counseling the Bible God's Word it's God's counseling manual it's not our opinion because our opinion is just as good as another person's opinion what also we had looked at last week is the prerequisite who's the counselor as Peter said God has chosen you what's the prerequisites that you need to be controlled by the Holy Spirit right because you need God's wisdom you need God's power and insight there should be no unconfessed sin in your life you have to be living what you're teaching so you have to model Christlikeness to have credibility and authority and what else we also discussed the profile of a person before the fall and because of sin what are their attitudes and actions and thinking and emotions and perspective and how to remove that unbiblical attitudes perspectives emotions to Christlikeness that's what counseling basically is and last week we also practice SOPA start here let's go over the five es this is review of the counseling process aim is to establish a relationship with them explore the problem ask questions and listen encourage them to Christlikeness evolve an x action plan expedite the action plan and then of course you're gonna follow them up through prayer texts and calls so last week what do we do we establish the relationship we practice that and we also practice exploring the problem asking questions and listening so when you're doing that you're trying to see what is inconsistent with God's Word taking mental notes or notes so in establishing a relationship I share with you use the acronym full fo ll what does that mean face the counsel e with a friendly expression open a relaxed position no cross arms no cross legs no cross eyes look them in the eye so lean a little forward towards the person and look them in the eyes be responsive be engaged no looking at your watch don't be flipping through pages or looking above their head because they will feel you're not interested so also to establish your relationship you need to be warm and welcoming assure them of confidentiality and let them know that you will love them no matter what you have to communicate that to them the next day today is to encourage them towards Christ likeness and you do that first by acknowledging and empathizing with their emotions this is very important so you need to express empathy don't condemn them for their emotions and until they feel that you understand how they feel they will not listen to you so I'll give you an example a friend came to me one day she said the otter can I have an appointment to talk with you I said sure so when she showed up I said so what did you want to talk about and she said Dionne I wanted to ask permission from you to divorce my husband and I said well why do you wanna so I'm thinking I'm not in the position to give you that permission I did say that but I said why do you say that and then she told me her story she said you know Deanna my husband and I work in the same industry we're and in that industry he's philandering he's with many different women and he makes the comment that I can sleep around and can still keep my wife and she said I am so I'm so upset and so I asked her I said so sister I said how are you feeling she said I'm mad I feel betrayed and as I was listening to her I thought the same thing and this is the thought that went through my mind literally I thought yes you should just divorce the creep and move on that was my literal thought but I even I think I said yeah I can really understand how you're feeling but right now I'm pretty upset with your husband and then so she said so can I divorce him I said well you know so she understood that I understood at least how she was feeling and why she was feeling that way and so I didn't both eyes with her and then what I did I continued I went forward to ask her more questions to explore the problem and then I also tried to encourage her to Christlikeness share with them that emotions I share with her that emotions are a byproduct of what we think and what we do the Bible says can read this together as a man thinks in his heart so he is proverbs 23:7 so what we think our believes affects our actions we take which in turn affect our emotions so we discuss this and I shared with her this principle and you know joy is our heritage as a child of God don't let anyone steal your joy it's a gift so why do we get angry you know why we get angry I learned this in my counseling training when we are hurt anger is our defense mechanism you know that it's a way to protect yourself so she's angry because she was so so deeply hurt now as I'm sharing this with you tonight as I said last week this is also for you to be counseled by what we're going through tonight I don't know what you're going through in your life I don't know your hurts I don't know the betrayals in your life I don't know what you're dealing with but Jesus knows so you let these principles in God's Word also encourage you to Christ likeness in your situation so share verses from the Bible related to their situation let the Holy Spirit comfort guide and convict them and have them read the verses out loud and as they read the verses out loud ask them these questions based on this verse what do you think God wants you to do so let them read God's Word because remember we study last week how powerful God's Word is and then what sin do you need to confess and repent off what attitude our behavior do you need to change and what promise can you claim so you know what I did with her I shared with her all the verses on divorce and remarriage and divorce and God's perspective on remarriage and also Malachi where God says I hate divorce and it says in Matthew and Luke and Mark if someone divorces their husband and woman marries another she commits adultery and if a man divorces his wife and marries another another he's causing her to commit adultery he's also committing adultery etc etc she read all the verses and then after reading the verses I said so what is God saying to you what is God asking you to do and her conclusion based upon the Bible verse she looked at me and she said you know Dianna God wants me to forgive my husband and to stay with him not separate from him and I she said it in tears but she made a commitment another verse I shared with her is that in Colossians it says in him Jesus we have been made complete and so she realized that in Christ she didn't need her husband to be complete she didn't need her husband for her to have joy she could find that joy in Jesus because the Bible also said that God has given us everything for life and godliness to please God so she made a choice that day and she actually said I will stay with my husband I will forgive my husband so I left her in God's hands now two years later I saw her and I will tell you later what she said okay suspense keep your attention so point out their biblical and unbiblical thinking identify their run strategies to find significant godly and ungodly behavior sins habits you let the Bible do this but if they miss anything you say can you read the Bible verse again and what about this soyou're it's not between you and them it's not you telling them there was a lady one day who was having trouble with her husband I said sister what you need to do is to submit to your husband ason to the Lord and she looked at me with dagger eyes and she said you know what Dianna it is so easy for you to say that because you have a good husband but you don't know my husband and so I was stymied I was flabbergasted I did not know what to say and so I went home and I pray and I said Lord what do I say to this lady and then God reminded me dianna it's not you telling her this it's me telling her this from my word this is my instruction to her and there's no condition to it she is to submit on her husband ask unto the Lord and let me deal with him you know ladies when we don't submit to our husband when we begin to keep correcting them and telling them what to do they we're talking so loud that they can't hear God talking to them we become a wedge a block so you know I saw her the next week and I said you know my dear sister I remembered your comment last night and I last week and I did go home and pray about it because actually humanly speaking it does make sense but God reminded me that it's not me telling you to submit to your husband but it's him telling you to submit to your husband ass on to the Lord and you know she looked at me she said you know you're right and it was God's Word that convicted her so don't take it personally when people do not want to listen to what you say it's not you they have to be accountable to God and obedience to his word so to encourage them share examples that relate to their situation from the Bible your life the lives of others so back to my friend who actually was so upset with her husband but decided to stay and for the Lord which is gonna be our next portion on how to make a plan but this is what I shared with her I said can I tell you the story of a very dear friend of mine as she after she read the verses I shared this story I said this lady is an amazing woman of God she has a husband who is Anna bitumen Iser and I see how this woman serves her Lord serves her husband she cooks amazing food for him she keeps the house for him and and so I asked her one day how can you do this and you know what this woman told me she said Diana I do this for Jesus because I think this is probably the only taste of heaven he will ever have and I saw her do it but one day she came to me and bit in tears and I said what happened she said I found out that my husband has been having an affair with a woman and I'd always said well I can't stop his affairs but if he has children then I can't deal with it I'm gonna have to leave him but she said I found out that he has had two children with this woman and she said you know what else she said I live with him in his mother's house but mr. severe his he sent to school and she's now a doctor and he built her a house and they have two kids and she said I'm just really upset she went to the States we prayed we went over the verses and we prayed together but she went to the states and in the States God spoke to her through his word that she should forgive her husband and so when she came back I told my friend when she came back then she told her husband that she had forgiven him and that she was leaving him in God's hands and then he said could you meet the two girls could you meet these two girls my daughters and so she prayed about she said okay they arranged a family meeting with those two girls present they came to the house met her other children she had five kids so now she had seven kids that were in the house and they started coming over I was telling my friend every week they would come over to the house and then those girls began to sleep in the bed with them at night between her and her husband and they told her one day you're more of a mom to me to us than our own mother so I told her this story and then I said so you know what happened her husband got cancer and her husband got cancer and we went to visit him in the hospital and he said you know it's my wife's life that is impacted me and I want to follow Jesus and I don't want to go to heaven alone I want to be like what Peter said I want to go to heaven with lots of people all of my friends he said before he'd bring his friends to Bible study and they would be there then he would bring them to the bars to the girls and get them drunk but now with cancer he said now I really want to bring my friends to know Jesus and he did he evangelized his friends and you know what he died two years later all those unbelieving friends were now Christians and those two girls were Christians they came to know the Lord his whole family was present because this one woman was willing to forgive her husband for Jesus to live a christ-like life to model to her husband what it looked like to be a follower of Jesus and that is the story that I share with my friend and that was one of the things that motivated her to stay in that relationship so you can share stories from the Bible stories from your own life the lives of others encourage them to have an eternal perspective life is temporary but eternity is forever sometimes in pleasing God we are all called to suffer for a little while but the rewards both now and for eternity are worth the suffering and sacrifice would you agree so what is the verse let's read this verse for momentary light affliction is producing in us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison while we look at the things we look not sorry that's to be an N ot not at the things which are seen but at the things which are not seen for the things which are seen are temporal but the things which are not seen are eternal so you have to encourage them to Christ likeness by helping to have an eternal perspective not just an earthly perspective so encourage them to thank God and everything give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus what is God's will thank God in everything so this is God's formula for good mental health did you know that if you can thank God in everything then you won't get depressed because you're now trusting God to use that thing according to his purposes so dr. bill bright a girl came to hear him she was a staff of Campus Crusade for Christ she had been very depressed and when she came in he said sister what is depressing you and she said you know I was about to get married and the night before our marry our wedding we had a dinner and I said to my husband-to-be why don't I Drive the car because tomorrow we'll get married and you'll start driving for me and so he said yes but that night she said I had an accident when I was driving the car I survived but my fiancee was killed on the spot and she said I I don't know how to deal with it and build right after listening to her story and empathizing of course with her and you know crying with her then he gave her this purse give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus and she looked at him and she said what do you mean how can I say thank you God for what has happened and Bill bride said - well this is what God tells us and until you do this you will not walk free and so in tears she knelt down and crying you know the sacrifices of God are sometimes Thanksgiving she thanked God and after she thanked God that's the time she was released from her depression she said lord I thank you I don't know I don't like it I don't understand it but you've said - thank you and in obedience to you I will thank you and why can we thank God these are Scott's plan for welfare God says not for calamity to give us a future and a hope for I know the plans God knows you don't know that I have for you declares the Lord plans for welfare not for calamity to give you a future and the hope do you believe that whatever you're facing right now if you are holding back Thanksgiving because you don't like what's happening or you don't understand it the eyes of faith you just have to say Lord I don't know why but I will trust you know there's a saying I don't know what the future holds but I know who holds the future it was this when our daughter was raped that we were able to go through that terrible circumstance by trusting in God knowing that he was gonna cause it for good as he promised this is a promise can we read this and we know we're certain that God causes all things to work together for good for those who love God to those who are called according to his purpose do you believe this you have to believe this it's we know we're so confident of this and this was the verse that helped us navigate through the rape of our daughter knowing that we don't understand why he allowed it to happen but we know one thing that he's made a promise and I remember telling God I was we were coming from our house after our daughter had been raped you'd heard about it she wasn't there we were going to go pick her up in the dorm where she was and I remember the struggle I had this is what was going on in my head I was thinking why would God allow our daughter to be raped why how can I trust God if he didn't even take care of her daughter and then the next thought you know Satan is an opportunist I'm telling you that the next thought that went into my brain is well what if I just turn away from God what if I just turn away from him how can I follow him how can I serve Him but at the same time as I was thinking these things God put his word in my mind and he quoted this verse to me he said Deanna will you trust me that even in this rape I will cause it to work together for good for those of you love me and I will do that for you and your daughter your family and her friends do you know that my daughter had two friends who were also raped in her house that night and I felt responsible because I had told him stay home it's safer don't go to faith Academy so I I was really struggling but when God gave me that verse I had a choice well I believe God's Word or well I believe Satan's lies cuz I thought if I turn away from God where will I go he is my life and he is my love and that night we decided to trust God to cause it for good but I said like Jacob I will not let you go until I see the fulfillment of your promise and now years later you know our daughter you've seen you read her book when a good God allows rape she's been able to help so many women because she was willing at 15 years old to believe that although God was sovereign and could have stopped the rape that he did not but she said okay I will then believe that God loves me and he will use it for good so no matter what you share this promise and God's purpose of course the good is not just for us to navigate through that thing but to become conformed to the image of Christ let's read this for those whom he foreknew he also predestined to what become conformed to the image of his son so that he would be the firstborn among many brethren I tell you that all that happens to us all that happens to you and the person that you will be counseling it's like arrows in our life that's pointing in just one direction what is that one direction what is that one care what does God want to accomplish in our life you know what does it say he predestined us to what become conformed to the image of his son so that's why in everything you can give thanks at least for this one thing that through that experience or that tragedy through that betrayal through that loss of a loved one that God's gonna use it to conform you to the image of Christ and you can share that with your friend that's why I tell women if you're living with a difficult man very hard-headed obstinate always correcting you or maybe he's doing other things to hurt you you know what you should say but you should say praise God thank you Lord for this difficult man because he's conforming me to the image of Christ yes so honestly there's value in everything dr. bill Bryan octonaut Billy Graham's wife said that the most godly women that she knows come from the most difficult husbands and now may I add my quote the most godly man that we know come from also the most difficult wives goes to ways right so but the purpose here is what is the purpose to conform us to the image of Christ to teach us unconditional love forgiveness patience kindness goodness faithfulness even if they're not like that so this is God's purpose in our lives and then God's power nothing is impossible with him for nothing will be impossible with God let me tell you a story another lady came to me so she was crying and she said Diana how long do I have to wait for my husband to come back to me see what happened she was newly married and she had been newly married and she went to the States for business and her husband left her for another woman and here she was four years later she become a Christian when she got back and she knew that she should not leave him that she should just stay put not get involved with anybody else she decided after counseling to do that but four years later she came back to me in tears how long now I was the one that had counseled her so actually I felt like an ogre here's this woman four years of waiting no change and when she was saying I want to say yeah just leave him and move on okay I did not I said well let's read what the Bible says and I let her read this verse for nothing will be impossible with God I let her also read the verses on divorce and remarriage and then I said you know I said to her what do you think God is telling you and she in tears sobbing she said okay okay I'm gonna stay here for Jesus I'll just stay put and see what God will do and I said you will be surprised at what God will do a week later she caught me and she said Diana you will not believe what happened I said well maybe I will tell me she said you know what my husband's mistress found another man younger more handsome single with more money and he put a restraining order she put a restraining order on my husband he cannot see her the bronchi captain called him and so I said praise God hallelujah so now what's gonna happen so they're still separated but then God works in mysterious ways nothing's impossible with God he got sick and he ended up in the hospital and this dear woman of God went to minister to him in the hospital and you know what he was doing in the hospital bed he was mourning the loss of his mistress he was crying and he was saying I miss her so much and the woman was you know spirit-filled saying hallelujah praise God under her breath but she ministered to him and she loved him for Jesus and do you know what God restored that relationship and today they're a couple with children loving and serving God because that one woman was willing to believe that nothing is impossible with God praise God so these are stories I tell you will have your own stories in your life you will have stories of other people God's provision we have everything we need in Christ for life and godliness seeing that His divine power has granted us what everything pertaining to life and godliness through the true knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and excellence so he's given us everything we need for life and godliness he will supply all of our needs in Christ Jesus and my God will supply all of your needs in Christ Jesus we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us amen God's judgment and reward we are accountable to him we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ so that each one of us may be recompense for his deeds in the body according to what he has done whether good or bad I love this word recompense it means we will be reimbursed are any of you in companies where you can legitimately save all of your receipts for certain expenses and you can be reimbursed well this is the idea whatever you've done for God then he's going to reimburse his no debtor he will pay you back more then I was just talking to a friend today you know she gave up her food to somebody in the street that she saw who was hungry and later on she told me that day she met a friend who gave her back the exact same food that she gave up exactly so God is no debtor he remembers he keeps a record of the good that we do but this is also warning as Peter said we have to let people know their consequences so we'll be rewarded or recompense according to our deeds whether good or evil so God is no debtor we will be in reimburse for whatever we do for him so this lady two years later I saw her I said sister how are you doing she's blooming she's beautiful she has this sweetest smile dimples and she looks so joyful on the Lord she said Dianna I am full of joy I said well how about your husband how is he she said you know what he hasn't changed a bit but God has changed me a lot and she said that I have found that I am complete in Christ I don't need him to be happy my joy comes from pleasing Jesus so when God's Word is internalized and it's embraced and it's believed and it's lived then you would see that that joy which is our strength the Bible says the joy of the Lord is our strength will be ours no matter what our circumstances so someone told me you know sometimes he changes my circumstances and that's great but sometimes he doesn't change my circumstances but when I submit to him he always changes me and that's even better amen so this is how to encourage them to Christ likeness so now we will go go to evolving a plan okay do you understand this you're going to share God's Word and these are going to be verses that are going to be based upon their needs of changing their thinking changing their behavior changing their emotions to Christ's likeness okay does that make sense and how do you do that you share the verses and you ask them questions you don't tell them what the verse is saying you let God speak to them through the power of his word so now evolve an action plan so principles to remember in making the plan God holds us accountable for our choices and behavior do you believe that remember I told you last week that until a person assumes responsibility for their behavior and stops makes excuses blaming their parents blaming their past then they will never get better we are responsible to change ourselves but we cannot change others do you believe that women are you still trying to change your husband it does no I still do try a little it doesn't work it really doesn't work because only God can change the hearts right important to know the difference between a personal goal and the desire our longing so goals listen to me this is very important I learned this in my counseling training goals we set goals for ourselves not others no parents will tell me my goal for my child is blah blah blah and I'm thinking you don't make goals for others because why it is what we alone can achieve by God's power if we make a goal that requires the cooperation of another person to achieve and they don't wig tend to get what frustrated and angry and irritated and ugly so you set goals for yourself to be christ-like and your attitudes behavior you know perspectives but you don't do that for others so what do you do you have desires and longings it is something that you want which requires the cooperation of others so what do you do with it you pray for it you give your desires to the Lord to fulfill in his time you don't change them encourage others to do what you desire but do not demand it does that make sense so many years ago Peter I think I've shared this you may have heard this but we had this science friend who was into armaments and Peter got enamored with the armaments you know the missiles and all the amber lights and everything actually my husband didn't have guns before and so still has a few but anyway he wanted to go into arma lights he wanted to go into the reduction of missiles and all these things of destruction and I did share with him my concern ladies can I tell you something you share your concern but you do not nag him because if you nag them then they become more intense on what they want to do right you know stubbornness of man so what I do i net god I neck God cuz the Bible says pray without ceasing so Lord take care of him I don't think this is a godly business it's not gonna honor your name I prayed he went to the States do you even see the armaments did you hear this story before did I share it you did not okay he went to the States I was praying so hard because he's about to make a contract this is many years ago before CCF okay not CCF times before is easy out my husband's in all kinds of business and I was praying so hard that God would speak to him and you know what my husband called me he said you know what honey I said what he said I saw the armaments and I realized this is not a business that I want to be involved in I do not think it's going to glorify God hallelujah God so you have desires that you commit to God through prayer and if you're counseling somebody you also be doing that you can't have a goal to change them but let God be the one to change their heart okay but make goals for yourself TV spirit-filled to be the person that God wants you to be our personal well-being is that is based on our relationship with the Lord everything else in life is either a bonus or a burden but it is not essential to our well-being once we understand that we are complete in him he is our life he has given us everything when we add anything else that we think we need to be complete we have a problem so look at yourself what do you think I will be happy if of course I have Jesus and then I have a bigger house I have children who obey me I have a husband who loves me dearly I have high hats so many things all of those additional things to deat Jesus is going to frustrate you or make you compromise to get them that is not how you're going to find happiness the way you will found happiness as Peter said or joy is what Peter said earlier is when you learn to obey the Lord when you find your life in him so when your husband or your wife is being difficult are your children you could look at them and say you know what sometimes you're a bonus and sometimes you're a burden but right now but you're not my life so right now you're being a bonus praise God right now in your mind you don't tell them this you're being a burden but God says cast all your burdens on the Lord because he cares for you so don't carry it you cast it to him okay so you you're sent you're letting them know this in in preparation for the plan most of us have a thought in our brain I'll be alright if the person behaves this way if this desires filled if I had we need to change the thought in our brain can we read this Lord I desire that I had whatever you have in your mind a car better health but even if I don't get it I will be okay because I have you and I am complete in you you are my life amen amen so this is what you share with them that they're not going to be dependent on anybody for their well-being we are complete in Christ for in him all the fullness of deity dwells in bodily form and in him you have been made complete and he has had over all rule and authority what is complete mean it means lacking nothing a friend came to me table sets she was working she's very intelligent accomplished woman working in this very international company and she said Dionne I want to quit my job and I said why do you want to quit your job she said because in my company my boss immediate boss not my big boss is stealing all my ideas and making them as if it's their own presenting to the big boss and getting all the credit so I've been demoted to a smaller office and I've been put unto her as my higher authority before we were equal but she's stealing all my ideas and she said I want to leave the company and I said you know where do you get your identity from my Oscar and we read this first and in Christ you've been made complete doesn't really matter what people are thinking about you you are complete in Christ and I shared another verse with her I how would you best honor and glorify God I asked her the question and shared the verse you know that whatever you do in word or deed do all to the glory of God do your work hardly Ahsan to the Lord because from him you'll receive your reward so we went over all the verses and then I said the Bible says humble yourself under the mighty hand of God that he may exalt you at the proper time so I said what do you think you should do based upon these verses and what how do you think that you'd best honor God and how do you think you'd best glorify him and how can he redeem the situation and she said you know what Dianna based on this then I'm gonna stay I'm gonna stay and trust God I'm gonna work as hard as I can for God's glory and not get my identity from this company but get it from Christ and see what God will do you know what about six months later she came back she says you know what my big boss wants me to stay he just really asked me to stay and he's promoting me I said what happened said you know what God did during a meeting that little boss of mine was exposed and they realized that all of the good ideas that she had actually came from me and she was demoted and they want me to be promoted and to stay in the company now listen if we do it God's Way then God is free to work so you have to help people come to a god-honoring action plan something that's not gonna be just for them to you know feel good for the moment but to honor God in the long run does it make sense so share stories also if people are asking you whom have I in heaven but you the Bible says and besides you I desire nothing on earth my flesh and my heart may feel but God is that what strength of my heart and my portion forever God often says to us am I not more than enough for you what else do you want what else do you need I'm all you need so you would share that with them the Christian life is impossible life to live on our own power this should be impossible it's not as a purpose it is an impossible life of super your life only Jesus Christ can live it a man do you believe that have you experienced that deliberately must die to herself so in making a plan you have to die to yourself deny yourself allow Christ to live in and through you by faith by this Holy Spirit's power how do you evolve a plan first help them to establish the overall biblical gold of committed father of Jesus Christ - what what is that to please him in everything to do everything for him you believe that if you have any other goal than this you will compromise if your goal is to be rich then you will compromise in your business dealings you might have not only one book two books you might have a third book that's chinese-style right so you have the first book which is for the BIR you have the second book which is for your partner and you have the third book which is for you but if you want to just please God you just have one book in our company we have only one book in our in our business which is mass housing and subdivision development please him in everything therefore let's read this we have is our ambition what to be pleasing to him for you must all stand before the judgment seat of Christ so what should be your goal okay look at your life right now is that your goal or do you have other goals if you have other goals then you will get into trouble I counseled a girl who had gotten into the party scene she is a Christian but she got into the party scene and her goal was to be popular and because of that you know what happened she started getting drinking and getting drunk and then she said to me you know Tito Diana my friends are giving me drugs I don't know where there of how they can afford the drugs but they're giving me these drugs and saying take this it'll keep you awake so you won't fall asleep in the party and I'm thinking to myself they're pushers they're drug pushers right so she I said you know life is made of choices and the decisions you make will determine your destiny and so we talked about it and after much counseling she made a commitment she made it her ambition to be pleasing to God at all costs you know what happened she stopped going out with those friends they started calling what's happened to you why are you not coming out to see us but she made one goal in her life which was to please God and she spent one whole year growing in intimacy with God she really read her Bible she pursued intimacy with God and then she started she told me I'm bored I don't feel like I'm I my life is that exciting and I said because you're not disciple in anybody you disciple women and you know what the way welcome Wednesdays she came sat at a table by herself just waiting for women to come in eventually she had a group of women she was disciple thing she's so excited and can I tell you what she waited for God's best she stopped sleeping with her boyfriends s before and she told her new boyfriend and what had happened but this guy loved her and said I would accept you as his whereas because I know you love Jesus and today she is married a godly woman disciple and serving her with her husband disciple in couples and with a baby so she made it her ambition to please God and when you do that when you can get the people to do that then they can see the good and perfect and wonderful plan that God has for their life

Channel: Gabriel Rebuta

Views: 3,700

Rating: 4.9322033 out of 5

Keywords: CCF, GLC 3, LEADERSHIP SKILLS, SESSION 4, BIBLICAL COUNSELING, PART 2

Id: PsfMeBzuv8Y

Length: 51min 34sec (3094 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 15 2019