CCF GLC 3 Leadership Skills Session 5 Biblical Counseling Part 3

let's continue with how to evolve an action plan so help them establish the overall biblical goal of a committed follower of Jesus Christ to please him and everything to do everything for him and then Jesus said anyone wishes to come after me what let him deny himself take up his cross and follow me it's so in order to have a proper proper action plan that's going to be biblical and honoring to Jesus you have to deny yourself there's no way around it and you have to take up your cross now your cross is not your spouse it's not your children it is a symbol of death it means that you are acknowledging that you have died with Christ and it's no longer you who lives but Christ lives in you and you do everything for him so interact with them in coming up with an action plan and steps to carry out this goal this plan if they're involved they will be more likely to do it you agree it's not you telling them what to do but let God tell them so get their suggestions based on the Bible verses that you were able to read together and they had answered what they think God wants them to do so now give your suggestions if necessary if cool on what they say that you can add but what do you think about this let's read the verse again what do you think about this don't say do this but ask what do you think about this and then discuss alternatives then you decide on an action plan make it specific what how and when you know it's not just what I'll do this and it never happens you need to have a specific plan and what how and when will you they do it listen now identify any obstacles or reservations they might have and carrying out the plan so they might be saying AHA yes ah ah but you see their eyes are kind of glassy and you're thinking they are not really intending to do this you know someone could be convicted but they may not be repentant so now you need to find out what are the obstacles so is there anything that will keep you from doing this ask them and you know what you'll be surprised some common obstacles that they will tell you I'm afraid of doing this because this might happen so this is the verse you can share with them Romans 8:31 if God is for us who can be against us if you're doing this for Jesus then you have to see what God is gonna do in and through you when we are afraid we can trust him then this is a big one I don't feel like it so I will be a hypocrite if I do it have you ever said or thought that well can I tell you something this is not true because the principle of motion before emotion say that with me motion before emotion turn to your neighbor motion before emotion what does this mean act first and emotions will follow so it is not hypocritical to do what is right what God wants you to do if you don't feel like it that's not being hypocritical that is biblical that's called obedience it's not based on feelings but if you know what is right to do as a Christian but don't do it that is hypocritical because you are not acting consistently as a committed follower of Jesus Christ does that make sense let me ask you is there something in your life right now that you don't feel like doing and you know it's the right thing is biblical but you don't feel like it so you're not doing it anybody can I tell you something that is hypocrisy because you know what you're supposed to do and I've been there I am NOT exemptive none of us are but if we're not doing it then we're being hypocritical to who we say we are as a follower of Jesus Christ Jesus said if any man will come after me let him deny himself take up his cross meaning I'm died it's no longer me who lives a crisis me and follow Jesus so that excuse is a but you can help to help them navigate through that I don't want to forgive them yet I don't want to make it so easy for them they need to learn a lesson to know how I feel to suffer a little more right so even Peter had this problem he came to Jesus Lord how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him up to seven times he thought he's so spiritual because three times was already the limit for the Jews Jesus said nope up to seven so two times three equals six plus one and then Jesus said no that's what Peter said I mean he said I did not say to you up to seven times but up to how many times seventy times seven listen honestly unless you have a record book you will not be able to keep track it's to forgive and keep on forgiving and you forgive us God has forgiven us by the power of the Spirit you don't feel like it and you say I can't do it that's right you can't but you can do all things through Christ who gives you strength so acknowledge we can't but we can through Christ you don't feel like it that's okay you do it and emotions will follow my husband's story the man that kicked him out of his company that they owned kicked him out of his company lost his job and the guy went on to you know run the company but he was part of the ruling party at that time the Marcos family and when there was the people's power this guy had all of his assets were locked up in the bank and he was depressed and his friend called Peter can you go and talk to him and can you share the gospel and my husband told me I don't want to go there you've heard his story what if he accepts Jesus and goes to heaven you know so so we went I remember I was in the car with him and we went and I think in his mind he was hoping the guy was not home but in obedience to Jesus motion before emotion he went we knocked on the door and the wife opened the door I am so glad you're here Peter's thinking I'm not so glad I'm here no but so he went in and he saw the guy and you know the moment that he should stop stuck out this had to shake the man's hand he felt the compassion of Christ it was motion before emotion he did share the gospel with that man and he did pray for him and the the joy of the Lord came into his heart so we don't want to make people suffer for what they've done to us put away all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you along with all malice and be what kind to one another what tender-hearted forgiving each other just as God in Christ also has forgiven you so don't use that as an excuse and don't use this this is why sorry God is responsible to deal with the person who has sinned against us God says vengeance is mine I will repay so leave people in God's hands and don't pray that God will you know make it real till you're really sick and die or anything like that you just let God your will be done so when our daughter was raped and her friends were raped we didn't pray that God would curse them but we prayed that God you know they said they need geez can you believe this they need Jesus and they prayed that those guys would not do it to somebody else and they would receive the Lord only God can do that God is the one who will be the one to deal with them now they say I don't want to see them now I'm still hurting and I need time to heal have you ever said that you know especially in the Philippines because we're relational so we don't really want to be with people that have heard us because we're afraid already so okay I forgive them then then we'll say so let's have lunch no no no not not yet not yet I need time can I tell you time does not heal time makes it harder yes but I say to you here love your enemies do good to those who hate you bless those who curse you pray for those who mistreat you this is how we're to deal with those who have offended and hurted us hurt us so forgiveness is only part of it okay I forgive them as I've been forgiven now a friend of mine she had been married three times her first husband when she was giving birth to twins had an affair with her best friend she was devastated and she got married again to another man who molested her daughters and then she got married again to another man who had a violent temper and then she was single I mean separated from these three men she went to a Christian Church and she said Dianna I learned what was wrong with me all these years I was running away but I had never forgiven my first husband for what he did I blamed him for everything but in tears I learned that I had to forgive him but not only forgive him but I had to do good to him and she said when I did good to him that's a time that I was delivered you see when you forgive you set the prisoner free but the prisoner you set free is yourself and she was set free by doing good so she began to pray for him and she began to bless him in a way you know like helping him to come to know the Lord although she was separated from him but she became a sister in Christ to him so I don't trust the person who betrayed me hurt me so I can't have a relationship with them because they might hurt me again so can I tell you this is valid it's hard to trust them but you can trust in God to protect your heart and you can entrust them the offender to God to change them so most people when they get hurt they put layers of protection around themselves but the Bible says love each other fervently because you know why fervent love covers what a multitude of sin a multitude of sins so while you have been hurt your your heart is protected by God don't try to be your defence defender leave yourself in God's hands and obey God do what God says love them pray for them and do whatever good you can to them and while being reviled this is Jesus he did not revile in to turn what returned while suffering he uttered no threats but kept entrusting himself to God who judges righteously Jesus is our motivate them if there is resistance how do you motivate them so there's resistance so you've shared all these verses remember said there has to be conviction and then you have to let them know the consequences if they're hard-hearted remember the five boxes so how you're gonna motivate with share with them the consequences of sin and disobedience and the blessings of obedience don't be intimidated if they're hard-hearted say we'll listen let's look at God's Word a little more to see what could be the consequences if you don't obey God so let's read this together see I'm setting before you today a blessing and a curse the blessing if you listen to the commandments of the Lord your God which I am commanding you today and the curse if you don't listen to the commandments of the Lord your God can I tell you that success and counseling as success in sharing the gospel is simply sharing God's Word in the power of the Holy Spirit and leaving the results to God it's not your God to change people your success is not based upon their response it's based upon your obedience to God you know I used to get stressed cuz there are certain people I've even had a woman when I was counseling her she says I don't agree with anything that you're saying she looked at me in the eyes and I'm thinking but what I'm thing is saying is biblical she was praying of indicative prayers against all those people that had hurt her and rejoicing in all of their trials and I'm thinking this is not biblical but she said I don't and she even wrote me a very long email telling me why she was right and then God spoke to me he said Diana you know why you're stressed because you have assumed this responsibility of changing this person that is not your job your job is to know my word and she gave me the illustration of the Prophet you eat my word you internalize my word and then you share my word with this person and then let me deal with this person's heart so I said okay God okay Allah Bey you give me a passage and it gave me an amazing passage and so the next time I saw her she's my friend so we were talking and I said oh by the way I remember our discussion about vindictive prayers and what is the biblical perspective on it I said could you read this verse from the Bible I was praying really hard right and so she read it and you know what she looked at me she said okay I get it I agree it was just that simple I was like amazed so use God's Word and let them know the consequences if there's disobedience so I it says do not delight when a person has trials because God will judge you so she saw that so share the decision tree the Bible says do not be mocked deceived God is not mocked for whatever man sews this he will also reap the one who sews to his own flesh will weep from the flesh corruption but the one who sews to the Spirit will from the spirit reap eternal life let us not lose heart and doing good for in due season we will reap if we don't grow weary you know when you sow seeds there's a time lag between sowing and reaping sometimes you can be disobeying God you think there's no consequence no discipline but Bible says don't be deceived God is not mocked what a man sews he will reap so we discuss it I discussed this with them and so I say so the decision tree let's look at the desert decision tree if you go to the left which is disobey God what could be the consequences in your family as Peter said in that your life and your health and your business like a man example who is being unfaithful God says I am against that man who turns against the wife of his youth and the Bible says to a man if you don't live with your wife in an on an understanding way even your prayers will not be answered so I have seen Peter and I've seen men who are being immoral and who are not also being loving and kind to their wives their reactive they shout at them they verbally abuse them or whatever and you know what happens to their business and evitable their business is affected and they don't even get the connection they don't know that this is a discipline from the Lord so you can share those things with them and then we saw we reap what we sow we are free to choose but we are not free to choose the consequences of our choices I love this quote and my husband often repeats this have you heard this before yes it's true right have them ask themselves what will happen in the future to my family to my ministry to my testimony to my job if I decide to obey and not obey so the Bible says with obedience comes blessing with disobedience comes consequences problems encourage them to commit to obey the Lord at all cost we need to say either yes or no but some of us say maybe maybe our can I just be neutral so I was talking to this couple we were just discussing and suddenly they were in a fight and I'm sitting in my kitchen and they're in my kitchen fighting and the man is saying you know my wife is just always correcting me for everything even insects every everything she's correcting me and so I'm listening the wife is also shouting back at him well because you bla bla bla and I'm thinking to myself why am I here in the middle of this why why did God allow this to happen but God gave me verses to share and one of them is that we need to obey God at all costs and every circumstance we need to live to please him and you know what the woman said that the guy says yeah yeah she needs that she needs this and I'm saying well you know I think you also need it but then she said to me can I just be neutral neutral I said no - yeah I won't get angry and I won't be also nice I'll just be neutral you cannot be neutral and when someone says I can't do this can I tell you what they're saying I won't is that I can't it's I won't so if we want God's blessing we need to obey Him at all costs we need to say as Billy Graham said but God doesn't allow this we can't sit on the fence and then get a commitment so now you've discussed all the all of their obstacles and you've tried hopefully you've Vince them so I was talking to a girl the other day who I'm some time ago sorry who was depressed and I was saying you know that she had forgiven the person whom had depressed her in her mind but then I talked to that person and they also had things that she had done against them so when I talk to this girl I said you know you need to also ask forgiveness from this person that you have also finished she said what after all she's done to me how dare her say that I have done something against her you know I was about to forgive her but now I'm not going to and I'm upset so here I am sitting I'm praying so I had had people pray I have how many of your part of the PPP pastoral prayer partners I had them text today I have people praying I was praying so hard and I was reading verses about what God says about forgiveness and consequences and suddenly she looked at me she said okay I said what okay said okay I said how can you say okay she said as you were talking sharing the Bible I was brumbley to God about how mad I am at you and how mad I am at that person and then she said God spoke to me he said you have to do this or you will never get better and you know what she said I'll do it I will I will do it and so I got a commitment I said praise God because she was gonna see that girl the next day to take the action plans to do the action plan steps to be taken and when to execute them so give an assignment so you discuss it and then encourage them to pray out loud to seal their commitment to God which this girl did in tears and I saw the sincerity of her heart so it's not always easy but who's a wonderful counselor Jesus where's the power it's in God's Word and who are we were just instruments of God controlled by the spirit depending upon his power to be his instrument to help people so this is you're going to have them pray to do what to confess any sin or wrong thinking our behavior that does not glorify God they to repent to ask the Holy Spirit to control and empower them to thank God in advance for what he will do does this make sense do you know what let me travel and people here about the size of the CC if we don't go around saying how big it is but maybe they saw it on the internet or they heard something from somebody they say to me Diana how do you and Peter how do you have the energy to be able to take care of all the people under your care and I said you know what is we don't have a problem because we don't have to do all of that because we train people to do the work of the ministry before I used to do all the counseling everything but now it's you guys that this you know the D group leaders that the twelve leaders who are being trained to do the work of the ministry and it's a joy because we partner together and serving God right now if ever there's a problem that you can't you feel that you're not equipped to deal with and you can call my husband Peter or you can call our we have a wonderful pastoral care who can help counsel are if you have that person you need to go with them when they go through the counseling as I said last week so that you would also be trained in how to do it doesn't make sense but you are it you're the ones that as Peter said you've been called by God to counsel so to commit to please God and follow Jesus at all cost to thank God in advance for what he will do like that friend of mine who for four years her husband was in an affair she's knelt down cried committed and thank God what he's gonna do and God work fast encouraged them to join us d group for further growth follow-up and discipleship becoming a spirit controlled follower of Jesus then follow up through prayer text and phone call find out how they're doing you know sometimes it's just as simple as encouraging them to be an encourage or to their husband or to their spouse and I remember one lady who was so mad at her husband because he was so nice to everybody in the office he came home exhausted didn't want to talk to her even aid his dinner in front of a TV tray and fell asleep on the couch and so she's so mad at him and she came to me and should we discussed everything and then I gave her the verse I said you know there's a verse here that might help you become a positive influence to change the environment of your home and I had to read Hebrews it says encourage one another day after day as long as it is called today so that your heart will not become hardened by the deceitfulness of sin so I said your assignment just a simple assignment it can begin with you I want you to think of one thing that you can appreciate about your husband did I share this last week no okay one thing she said you know Diana honestly I can think of nothing nothing I said okay okay let's let's discuss it so after some while we came up with one thing and I said your assignment for this week is I want you to go home and to share that one encouraging thing with your husband just one thing and I said I will check back with you next week how it went so just one thing just one assignment and so she went home and next week I saw her and I said so tell me how was it how was it when you share that one thing with your husband that one encouraging thing said you know Diana honestly I tried really hard to share that one thing but it just got stuck in my throat and it wouldn't come out just one thing but you know what don't give up if this happens don't give up because it's God who's gonna work so I said well let's try again this week can I tell you something just that one thing change the whole chemistry of their marriage because she began to look for the positive things not just on the negative today there are a couple who loves and serves God has a powerful ministry so give an assignment follow up encourage if they don't do it don't give up don't grow weary and doing good you will reap in due season if you don't give up okay walk alongside of them so this is the counseling skills and process establish your relationship with them explore the problem encourage them to Christlikeness evolved an action plan expedite the action plan get a commitment of how when and they're gonna do it then follow them up through prayer text and call now I have a PowerPoint which is main points but in this one there's more points and I've arranged it according to the counseling process so it's establish your relationship with them and then explore the problem by asking questions and answering it's also in your book okay so you can follow my powerpoint but I will go a little more detailed based upon this one so let's talk about homosexuality is it a problem today it is homosexuality according to research is usually learn through experience which could be molestation or initiation by someone who as as an older person was initiated into that lifestyle our family environment so they've discovered that if they come from a family where the father is extremely dominant harsh like a drill sergeant it could make a man look for affection from another man I mean it could be a contributing factor there's no excuse our if a mother is very dominant and doesn't really play submit to the husband there's many things that could contribute but common a biblical mindset that people have and which is being propagated today by the gay community is I can't help Who I am its genetic have you heard that yes now why is this so dangerous actually there's no genetic evidence for homosexuality so but they are so convinced that it's something they can't help that they're just made this way they're wired this way because it plays on our sympathies if a person can't help how they are how they are made then of course let them have a life let them find love let them get to a homosexual relationship why can't they have what a heterogeneous couple can have but it's not Janette let me tell you and it's an acceptable lifestyle choice according to the world this is wrong mindset so what are you gonna do you're going to explore ask questions and listen so when did you first experience homosexual feelings would be a question you could ask are telling me your story what happened to you that youth that you think could have contributed to these feelings you could ask are you looking at pornography so you're going to encourage them to Christlikeness so you're not going to let them know that change and cleansing are possible through faith in Jesus Christ God loves them John 3:16 right for God so loved the world that means everybody in the world all kinds of people God loved them because he loved them he died that Jesus died for their sins so you let them know that you let them read the verse though you don't tell them so you say can you please read John 3:16 and what is God telling you what can you learn from this verse then you can say put your name in this verse for God so loved and put your name there and they make it personal for them and then you can ask them so how does it what does the Bible say in John and Genesis 1:27 about how God created us so obviously the answer is he created is male and female so what about 1st Corinthians surely 1st Corinthians chapter 6 verse 9 it says that it's against God's design this is no immoral person $1 homosexual swindler so God doesn't pick on homosexuality but God says it's not his design and if a person pursues this lifestyle then the Bible says all of these people will not inherit the kingdom of God it's very clear so if God made them that way which he did not then the problem is then why would he judge them for that so it's against God's design and the biblical mindset is that cleansing and change are possible through faith in Jesus Christ let them read the verses it says but such a first Corinthians 6:11 but such were some of you you were homosexuals you were swindlers you're liars but you have been washed and you have been cleansed by the blood of Jesus Christ so let them read that and what is the Bible saying that there is hope for change and then in Philippians 4:19 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength and a new life is possible through faith in Jesus Christ second Corinthians five it should be seventeen if anyone is in Christ he is a new creation all things that passed away behold new things have come so you don't tell them this you ask him what is the Bible saying now you can also share stories from your own life example when I give you an example some years ago a lady asked me to find her daughter who was 15 who had run away from her home with her 15 year old friend as well lesbian friend and they were in a relationship and her mother didn't know where she was so I prayed and by God's grace I found her in Antipolo and I went to her I don't know her I knocked on the door of the place where she was staying with her girlfriend someone has sent them there just to stay until they could be found basically and Here I am trying to share with her now God's perspective so you know I started with my own experience I said you know there was a time in my life where I thought that maybe I hadn't lesbian tendencies because I had looked at magazines of women when I was about 13 and I liked looking at them now there was nothing gross oh it isn't baby bathing suits but you know I just enjoyed seeing their sexy bodies and so I told them about that but I said you know I realized that God had created me to be a woman so I shared the verses with them and then I let them say so what does God say if you stay in this relationship what will be the consequences so that would be 1st Corinthians chapter 6 verse 10 and that you will not inherit the kingdom of God I said but what is the hope so I shared all these things the verses let them answer and then I ask them a question I don't know if it's here in the PowerPoint but I asked them do you love each other and they said of course we love each other I said do you really love each other yes I said well if you love each other then would you stay in this relationship because you are going to cause each other to sin and there is eternal consequences but if you just love yourself then of course you want to stay here because it's all about you but if you love them then you will get out of this relationship and so we discuss all the things you know the consequences and we made it we came up with the goal to live to please God flee sexual immorality and they should avoid friends environments pornography these are the things you can share with in places media that tempt them that company corrupts good morals so anyway this end of that story is that they broke up and the girl whose parents was the Christians she went on to really change her lifestyle and so what happened she was from an all-girls school and her mother when she was away with her girlfriend found all these love letters from different girls to her seeing an all-girl school sometimes there's no outlet for you no relationship so they can get involved with female to female or male to male but by God's grace through prayer to God's Word she changed and she went on to become a committed follower of Jesus Christ so these are just read all of this down here and then at the bottom repent so live to please God repent of their sins in the name of Jesus and ask forgiveness and cleansing and claim God's power and healing flee sexual immorality so to stop their homosexual relationship choose new friends and then pray to break any satanic strongholds in their life as a result of their since this is very important and we do this when we go through like overcoming strongholds but this is where they're gonna renounce that any relationship so dear Heavenly Father please forgive me for having a sexual relationship with so named each person's name i replant repent and claim your forgiveness and your come clean from these sins in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ I renounced these sexual relationships and I break any bond between me and those persons see when you have sex with somebody there is a bonding so they have to break this in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ I command all evil spirits that are in me or around me as a result of my sinful relationships to leave me forever to not send similar spirits our replacement spirits are reinforcements spirits so what is that here you know the devil is really sneaky so those spirits that were there would be bound are they were influencing them but they'll send other spirits to replace them so this covers everything in Jesus name and based on his shed blood I claim his victory over these sins and any and if Eve effluences that were in my life are now rendered powerless I now dedicate my body to you Jesus to be used for righteousness in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ amen so this is how you could help a person walk through homosexuality we do have a video CCF has one online about a guy you can you can research it and you could play that you can do things it's a testimony of how a guy was molested when he was a child how he became got into the gay lifestyle became a transgender and how God touched him he had a live-in partner he accepted Jesus and he knew what he was doing wrong his friend accepted Jesus and they both committed to purity and now God is using him he's serving the Lord so stories like that would encourage them so I just want to say that homosexuality is not a destiny don't say I am a homosexual it's a lifestyle choice it's not without struggle to make that choice but there is power in Jesus to change and so it's not a destiny it's a decision and that's what I realized for myself I thought hey God said I've made you a woman so I'm gonna make a choice that I will follow God's design and so therefore that question of am i or am I not am i attracted am I not attracted it's not a valid question the quest well I follow God are not and I said yes I will follow Jesus and that delivered me from my fear and obviously I'm wonderfully I'm married to a wonderful man whom I love dearly and I made a choice that God has blessed and has used for his glory so that's about homosexuality so sexual abuse is like it's all here this the wrong mindset that I'm damaged permanently and they have unforgiveness towards the abuser and it's okay physical abuse another one ask them when it began under what circumstances check to see if the abused is rebellious not submissive so sometimes a child's parents can be beating up on them which is wrong are verbally abusing them because they're also unsubmitted or unrepentant or maybe a wife who always challenges her husband's authority is disrespectful no excuse for the husband but that can stimulate him to anger so evolve a plan to be submissive example and that's all here in the end the thing so any if any of you are in that situation the Bible says a gentle answer turns away wrath you can win them without a word by your respectful behavior so if the person in your life that your authority is being abusive verbally or physically first thing is check yourself and if they're already angry then don't do anything to stimulate don't fight back don't even hit back some people hit back they get into a boxing match you know don't do that because that is not going to solve the problem you need to as the Bible says wives example be submissive to your own husband so that even if they are disobedient to the word they may be won without a word by their wife as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior your gentle and quiet spirit depression is usually related to a feelings of hopelessness regret guilt unforgiveness and here are the descriptions of what it is and also symptom you can begin to explore the problem don't just say hey you're a Christian don't be depressed that's wrong I went to a house where a girl was severely depressed in the bed and she didn't want to talk to anybody and I was with another's pastor's wife and we prayed and eventually she let me in and when I got inside she was on the bed curled up in a fetal position so I sat on her bed and I just started talking to I said you know I just want you to know that I've been depressed before and I know what it feels like you feel like you're in quicksand are you being sucked down and the more you struggle the farther you go down and she said well yes how do you know that I said well I've been depressed so she kind of sat on the bed so I sat on the bed beside her we kept talking she said on the floor I got on the floor with her and then she said you know what Dianna you are the first person who has asked me how I am doing she said everyone who's come here has said hey you're a Christian what's wrong with you why are you depressed maybe you're demon-possessed she said I've been prayed over so many times to be delivered but you know that day I shared with her how God had delivered me through his word and the and the promises in his word and the hope that we have in Christ and that he can cause everything to work together for good and by that day by God's grace she experienced the deliverance of Jesus Christ so what causes depression one of the things is digital addiction did you know that how many of you heard the message on digital cocaine okay do you know what my dear husband has turned off his notifications on his phone so if you're digitally addicted to notifications to social media well then limited because that is one of the things to contribute to good addiction to depression so limited time stream screen time sorry also there can be physical causes for depression did you know that so in asking questions you begin to explore about the physical lifestyle of that person example diet diet do you know that we are what we eat one thing that can call depression is sugar did you know that because sugar cook kicks you up it's a high that's why you keep looking for it but also knocks you down not only that but it messes with your brain sugar is it's a toxin actually to our body so look at what they're eating white stuff white stuff I'm white but I'm good but white stuff is bad okay like white white flour bread pasta rice these are all sugar in disguise so people have to look at their diet it's on your page so let's look at our paper these are questions you can ask when the Depression began and what happened as you're exploring the problem etc so look at this and then do you exercise how many of you here exercise okay the rest of you have to repent my husband is my trainer this morning he woke up we exercise almost every day are you swimming today I said well I think I'll just walk today so I walked and met him at the swimming pool but listen webs research Web MD research many studies show that people who exercise regularly have a positive boost in mood and lower rate of depression because it stimulates the release of what endorphins have you had you know you played basketball or golf or whatever you do swam don't you feel high because this is God's happy feelings he meant for us to exercise God did not make cars we did Jesus walked or they would ride a donkey but they would usually exercise so what about your diet our gut is our second brain did you know that if you're eating sugar you're killing all the good bacteria and your guts so our fried foods and all these things you need to take prebiotics probiotics did you know that okay prebiotics you can drink don't drink your cults that is sugar in disguise that's bad you can have pure yogurts put honey in it or you can buy prebiotics in healthy options prebiotics is the fertilizer for your gut it fertilizes the good probiotics probiotics is the good bacteria in your gut do get sunshine how many of you get sunshine daily raise your hands at least fifteen minutes of sunshine a day you know why research also know shows that lack of sunlight contributes to depression did you know that so most of us are in our house to our cars or to the Jeep to the office maybe to the gym if you exercise home we're like moles we live in darkness so you need to get out into the Sun so Peter and I walk every day morning and evening that's in the moonlight so we have sunlight and moonlight that's romantic at night so we do exercise together and then when and how long do you sleep how many of you get seven to eight hours a night of sleep raise your hand how many of you get nine hours a night okay seven to eight is ideal you need to sleep because if you don't sleep your body does not repair and then that would contribute to depression but if you sleep too much it's also not good 9 hours 10 hours is too much so 7 to 8 and you need to sleep not late earlier so now I'm counseling you ok I'm asking you questions I'm counseling so what time do you sleep at night 9:30 raise your hand 10 raise your hand ok 10:30 11 12 1 so you're all gonna die early ok you need to sleep earlier because your body detox is at night so your liver they start detoxing liver around 11 o'clock at night so if you don't sleep and you have a congested liver that's part of your gut also that contributes to depression so Peter and I try to sleep around 10:30 10 to 10:30 at night ok so if you want to sleep don't be on your digital devices keep you awake two hours or three hours before you're gonna sleep stop it cut it off okay and then so so you would check these things with the people and then encourage them to Christlikeness I love this verse people think the depression is also a destiny my mother was bipolar and I heard that bipolar is could be genetic well you know with Christ there's no destiny that he cannot overcome so first of all God gave me this verse it's here on your page it's first Timothy chapter 1 verse 7 for God has not given us a spirit of fear but of what power and of love and a sound mind God has promised us a sound mind so I never feared bipolar I just said God I give you my mind you know how to take care of it and I claim your promise so look if there's people here today that are struggling with this it's a real struggle but you know the daughter of Kula Desmond was severely bipolar and my my daughter took her as her patient my daughter's into functional medicine and she changed her diet you know no more white stuff and she ate more vegetables like the Mediterranean diet fruits vegetables you know natural meats and things like that no sugar she lost 50 pounds she's off all of her medication and she's finding joy in Jesus so I'm telling you that there is hope if you're there you don't have to stay there so that's one verse I will share with you can read the rest cuz our time is just about up so what are you supposed to do you've already explored the problem and then you're supposed to now encouraged to Christlikeness you're supposed to evolve a plan of action can you do that in about six minutes based on the verses that you should have shared if you were doing that that discipline which is to share verses to help them to go to Christ's likeness encourage them so six minutes you can do that a fewer evolve if you were exploring the problem you are just listening to them maybe you can come up with one or two verses tonight that might encourage them to Christlikeness okay and maybe fast so what are you gonna do so this is what God says what are you gonna do that could be a fast plan okay and then ask them when and how are you gonna do it that's the to make sure that you execute the plan okay

Channel: Gabriel Rebuta

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Keywords: ccf, glc 3, leadership skills, session 5, biblical counseling, part 3

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Length: 47min 1sec (2821 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 15 2019