Caroline Myss - The Power of Love over the Love of Power

hi everybody it is a pleasure for me to welcome you to my new reflection series part of the phoenix series that i started last year and this one is on embracing the power of love over the love of power and this is a series that's taken me quite a bit of time to put together because the subject is so rich and it's so um potentially transforming but let me say that i'd love to get into this subject first through a prayer on love to kind of settle us in i mean it's it's my way so i picked out a prayer that from my book on love so just indulge me this is called the portal of love people ask me all the time lord how to pray they ask me who am i praying to and how do i know anyone is out there and they're talking about you lord they want to know how i know i'm just not talking to myself i tell them that those are logical questions after all i'm known to talk to myself quite frequently yet i never feel the flow of grace when i talk to myself that i feel when i'm praying to you how i wish i could transfer the experience of grace to the person asking those questions i compare it to what love feels like i tell them to focus on all the love they feel for someone to drench themselves in that love for a second and then i tell them to imagine that i have no idea at all what love feels like and i ask them to describe the feeling of love to me once they have i ask how do i know love is real if i have no experience of it yet i'm drawn to seek it out even the idea of love is seductive to me there must be something to this thing called love for all of you can't be crazy all of you can't be imagining this invisible force that bonds you so tightly to another person but you can't prove to me that love exists not scientifically at least you can't show it to me measure it or put it in a box yet that invisible substance controls everything within you that is the degree to which i know the holy realm is real it is as real and powerful and present to me as love is to you lord i think that love is a porthole to the holy realm a way to you love often doesn't make sense people do harm but still we love them i have so often listened to people tell me that they're afraid of love and they're afraid to love how can that be how can a human being be afraid to open wide the doors and windows of their heart instead a person should say hmm i wonder how big and wide and deep my heart is i wonder how my life would change how i would change if i just let love have its way with me love is the fuel of miracles love sustains us through the most difficult times i waited too long to learn that love it's mystical currency it's the one force that scares the dark the most love is your light in action i thought i would start with that prayer because the theme of this workshop the theme of this seminar is of course love but love and power which i suppose we don't oftentimes see together but they belong together and as the weeks go by you'll understand why my um habit is to start workshops with an overview that describes what inspired me to teach this and how it is relevant to you excuse me and so that's how i'm going to begin this particular theme on love and power has come out of the times we're living in for obvious reasons i think and for not so obvious reasons but the obvious ones is that we are erupting around us and for all of the cultural and social reasons and political and all of that stuff that you we can offer as to why there's so much um chaos in our society all of which can be presented you know that's one way to look at it but from another point of view from another point of view which is the point of view of power there's a redistribution of power happening and that's a point of view that i am going to be looking at and explaining to you which is how you relate to power and not just how you relate to power but how you are designed as a vessel of power and how that power moves through you and talks to your bio spiritual ecology and how you negotiate power in every single thing you do and that power in the ultimate sense if if if we could look at power i think in its uh fullest what this substance is is the life force itself that we are vessels of the life force and we've given this life force many different names many different names as we've tried to identify what it is we call it love we call it power we call it all kinds of things but essentially we channel the life force and what life and what life is what life is is that it is this experience of how each of us uses the life force and what we do with it whether we're generous with it whether we're not whether we are greedy with it how we do that and that in its purest form that this life force in its purest form the love in the power of the life force in its purest form love in its purest power is what the mystics knew is it that's to me what they knew and what they channeled to other human beings you know when i when i um would look at the stories of like jesus or buddha or other mystics and how they would do miracles especially jesus because he's he's the big miracle man and he's known for you know healing and and and his teachings on love and his teachings on uh his experiences of uh miraculous healings the substance that he used was love and he was not talking about and by the way my disclaimer i'm not in the business of religion let me be really clear here i'll use buddha i use jesus i any any of the great spiritual masters that serve my teachings come into play here so let me be really clear about that but in this case we're talking about love and he was a master love teacher and so but when he was talking about love he wasn't talking about the type of love that we feel as friends or with husbands and wives and partners and spouses and and and children and he wasn't describing that kind of love because that kind of love as i will describe in these weeks ahead doesn't have the kind of potency essential to healing for example it just runs out of steam it doesn't have that and yet he was talking about love so as you know in the studies of all these great mystics whether you're looking at mystics within the buddhist tradition or the hindu tradition or what whatever or the the native american traditions in which their shamans underwent or undergo incredible initiations or whether you look at the stories the initiation of the wounded healer that emerges a proficiently blessed ordained great healer not an ordinary i'll make you feel better for a day but i'm talking about someone who is channeling some high potent grace there's always this journey that each of these buddha had to go on his walk in his fasting and this and finally he says the heck with it i'm going to sit under this tree until enlightenment came jesus went on his own initiation then he went through the desert and then he emerged this great teacher there is this journey that a human being goes on teresa of avila went through an incredible initiation francis of assisi ignatius everyone that you can talk about that went from ordinary mortal to a channel for the power of love versus the love of power there is this transformation in in which they become capable of channeling this ferocious force that is greater than themselves and it's that power it is the life force itself that comes through them and it has the force to regenerate life to to literally have a lazarus experience to raise someone from the dead to to heal someone of an illness in the body to take the the accumulated wounds of that person and to have a grace go through that blasts the wounds out and it's replaced by fresh tissue that type of life force is available that type of love is not ordinary love that's cosmic life force and it has the power of transforming life transforming us it is pure power and in all cases that i have just studied and drenched myself in the commonality is that there was no restrictions for these people on where that on they didn't look and say no i'm sorry you know i'm angry at you forget you but what about you there was none of that this life force just flowed they became and here's an operative word that we're going to refer to again and again they became impersonal not uncaring not uncaring they became cosmic they became like the dalai lama they became loving beyond personal love they didn't love for personal agendas they didn't use the love of power they weren't manipulating with love they weren't playing games with it they had transcended that part of themselves that part they got under control that's what an initiation is it's dealing with that part of yourself so that this part can get engaged and then that love flows through without having to stop and be negotiated with some part of ourselves that says no i don't think that person deserves to to be healed i don't think that person i like these people better than those people that type of thinking prevents this quality of life force from coming through us because the love of power still has authority in us now it this type of love this cosmic life force is so powerful that it really does have the force to transform us to transform disease to transform the bitter heart to transform the human experience it has that kind of power which let me add is why it's so threatening which is why love is so frightening which is why love is so incredibly intimidating which is why we have to kind of work our way up to that degree of love because it is that frightening it is that powerful it is that incredible um but here's what i think i think that we have to understand ourselves at this level now i really do i think that we have crossed a kind of rubicon in that we need to understand ourselves in the language of power and in the language of love to the extent that we recognize that these are two these are the forces of creation itself and that we have to start thinking in terms of co-creation the laws and how every single choice we make is an act of power is a co-creative act of power and so what exactly what kind of power are we using and that our physical body keeps tabs of the calculations of the power choices that we make and that's how the laws of the universe work within our bio spiritual ecological system that this is how we are working little working systems now it's really a very simple principle that here's the principle power's the fundamental ingredient of the human experience and every single thing we do is a calculation of power that is a fundamental principle absolutely everything and and love is the name we give to a degree a type of power and anger is a type of power money is a type of power so power manifests in a million ways now describe that in a second but everything is power absolutely everything and so our whole energy system keeps tabs on the kind of power that we negotiate now the only principle you want to keep your your mind on here the jewel you want to really get and put in your little jewel bag of all the jewels i'm going to teach you through this through these this seminar is that okay power's the ingredient i've got to keep and how do i use my power now here's just pain just it's like mathematics here's the principle the whole universe is mathematics everything is math there's math and absolutely everything there's math in my pen the size of it to this there's math in your body your blood pressure your heartbeat there's math in everything however learning all the math and everything that's where the headache comes in that's where you lose me as soon as you get to calculus as soon as math as soon as numbers turned into letters that's when i looked at the teacher and said you lost me yeah you lost me math is math letters are english letters are literature and honest to god that's where they lost me but the principle that mathematics exists in everything is a universal truth it just takes a whole lot to get to see how mathematics is in everything so continuing with that we just had a little glitch is that the principle of mathematics is easy to comprehend the details difficult similarly the principle that everything is power is very easy to comprehend the understanding how that principle is a living governing force in everything you do and everything you say in every part of yourself in every thought and that in every tiny whisper in you and that it is within your bio spiritual ecological system that every relationship is a calculation of power every decision in every relationship every choice you make in terms even how how often even when you shop you do a power calculation should i buy this what will other people think can i wear this can i wear this sweater will it look okay with me even that a power calculation absolutely everything absolutely everything and down to when you are out of power look at the way we talk these days you know in in prior to this to this time in which we're living which is a energetic psychic era we never spoke about the what the energy was like in a room or we never spoke about how someone just sucks the power out of us we never use that language we never went to a therapist to work out a problem because we felt that someone took our power we never ever did that that would never have occurred to us and now now we do that because it's as common as rain water now we do that because we were getting that we are systems of power that we that relationships have to do with power but we don't yet get how intimate this is and that this system of power that we are is actually in our cell tissue is actually in our emotional nature and it runs deeper than that it is what we are and that even our wiring our intuitive wiring all the way down to how our health relates to it and how our intuitive nature is wired into us is inter intimately connected to our relationship to power and how we relate to it and how we sense it and here's where i'm going with this and that all of our relationships our calculations in power every single one of them and at the lower level which i'll describe to you in a minute the lower level instincts are all about survival they're driven by survival as i'll describe your lower level intuitive instincts they're all driven by survival so the love of power has more authority over pure love itself the power of love is a higher frequency and that's your higher intuitive instincts and they resonate more with your more refined self and so i'm going to hit a pause button here and we're going to take a detour and i've got to give you just a slight background on why i think this is so important and where this comes from and why i have to emphasize this so many of you know that i had a background as a medical intuitive and that from that work from those years it laid the groundwork for everything that i it opened the door to medical intuition was just the beginning what it opened the door for me to was how we operate was the workings of human uh human consciousness and more to the point the extraordinary workings of our inner being and i realized i realized the depth to which how delicate we are how extraordinary our relationship is to creation itself and that we really do participate in this dynamic called co-creation and how we participate in that and that that in and of itself is part of the reason we were given the experience of life and that co-creation is this extraordinary gift of managing of of experiencing the power of every one of our choices and and what the consequences of every one of our choices and because that power is so extraordinary so too is the holy guidance that we are provided to manage that the the sacred guidance because this power is truly so extraordinary it is uh it is such um a profound gift to be able to participate in the co-creation of life itself the higher wiring in you um now back up what i realized in doing readings i started out reading trying to figure out you know why you got sick okay i got through all that what really made my jaw drop was when i began to realize how unbelievably wired we were to receive guidance to re constantly receive intuitive guidance that in fact we were born literally intuitively wired to the holy world and that we have to really work hard to turn that guidance off and that that and you know that that guidance is is all about helping us to maintain our balance to helping us make choices that support our body that support our health that support our our our journey here on this in life and on a more expansive level choices that help us support others choices that help us support others now this here is a big deal so whereas the first level of choice that first level of survival which draws us into the physical world this is where we experience the love of power and this is where our instincts go into the physical world and so do our relationships and this is where our sense of love and our first experience with love is very dense and very physical and very much in to i love this this house and i love this place and i love this person i love what i can touch i love what i can have and i love forms and i love this and and love we also learn at this level how to manipulate with this power how to manipulate with it that i can turn it on and off i can punish someone with it i can hurt somebody with it i can use this power this power is very useful very useful so at this level we are learning the power of love and the at the level of power itself in the sense of how to use it for survival for survival because it's at that level and at this level it is a power that can make us can keep us very insecure because we can sense how incredibly powerful love is that we may not want to be on the receiving end of abandonment we may not want to really open our hearts the upper deck we we maybe we do maybe we are confused about this power that if we do open our hearts we have to possess what we opened our heart to we have to keep it in our heart and contain our love object so that love in this sense our experience of it is very possessive all of this we'll go in too much deeper but you see my first experi my my my our first experience with it is that love is very physical and so it's associated with survival this is not the type of love that the mystics were talking about and by no means am i saying oh well let me just jump into mystical love no no no what i am saying though is that that next level of love is something that our wiring is now sensing and that i think is a fact i think we are sensing that there is a greater vibration that is beginning to motivate us there is a higher vibration not in the classic mystical sense but the reason i say this is because we are being drawn to paths of service that require a quality of love that ordinary love is just not serving we are being motivated by external crises that require us to transform ourselves into human beings capable of now into human beings that require space in our heart the size of which ordinary love ordinary heart space is just too small we need to have a little bit of the mystical content in our hearts to become able to handle the types of crises that we are facing in this collective rebalancing of power that is happening in our collective global village that the ordinary heart the very frightened survival heart is simply not equipped to love big enough to care big enough to transition big enough for the size of the crises that we need to heal the kind of healing that has to happen the kind of transformation that has to happen requires a global heart requires um and not just in theory but in fact in power itself and a little of that mystical love goes a long way it goes a long way you don't i'm not suggesting anybody go into the monastery or any of that stuff or it become an astite or any of that i am saying that the quality of cosmic love that is now in the collective atmosphere is making its way into us and the higher intuitive system in us that has awakened that has awakened this system is wire whereas our lower system is is attuned to protecting us to you know getting this gut instinct like um don't eat this it's not good or don't go down the street or do this or do that if your lower intuitive instincts excuse me it is so dry here your lower intuitive instincts are all about protecting you what i now realize and is that our upper intuitive instincts are actually attuned to reading other people they're we're actually naturally attuned to reading the energies of other people of the vulnerabilities and needs of other people that we are actually attuned to the collective by design i don't know that that's always been the case i can't speak for that but i'm telling you now that you are naturally attuned to reading the energetics and the vulnerabilities of other people that your lower instincts your lower intuitive system is all about the your own survival and power on that level but your upper instincts your upper intuitive system you're more refined is all about others and this is a very different way of understanding your higher self but it's completely attuned to what is needed here and what does that person need and what does this person need and the vulnerabilities of others now tell you how i can prove this i have watched people deliberately avoid vulnerable people and and i've wondered for years how come how come they they'll they'll go out of their way not to look at a homeless person they'll go out of their way not to do this they'll they'll become abrupt or closed down around vulnerable or needy people and i and i finally real i know exactly why because you can sense what that person needs you can sense their vulnerability and it's too much for you and you retreat to your lower the the power part of you and you don't want you don't want to empower them you don't want to help them out you don't want to feel their pain and you don't want to help them out so you retreat to the lower level and then you have to tell yourself a narrative they should get a job they should do this they should get the instead of responding in that second with a kind of human response which is that kind of higher love and even if that human response was a quarter or a nickel or a smile the gift of human dignity that would have been enough that would have been enough the acknowledgement and the acknowledgement to your own soul that you say i hear you i okay i got it i have to respond to this human being here's a truth and it's a great big huge truth another another jewel for your little pouch one of the realizations that i had and i have that validated again and again and again and again is that we we absolutely have no way yet of realizing appreciating measuring sensing whatever word whatever word how much power how much of an effect our thoughts have our words have our feelings have upon another person and perhaps the only way we have any appreciation of it is when we're the target of something negative and then we can sit back and say oh my god this person looked at me and went and and i'm crushed and then we we feel the impact then we know what it's like to to feel the blunt end so we to be told that the impact of a kind word the impact of a kind thought is a profound act of mystical love that you have no idea what the consequences of it are for that person you have no idea and it's not up to you to sit back you have no idea what the wind of that grace the breeze of grace does for another person in their life all you need to know all you need to be conscious of in that moment is that your intuitive system has said given you instruction help that person smile at that person be kind to that person do something for that person and that in that moment it's a flow of mystical grace greater than you know has gone into that person you know i did i did this um book on invisible acts of power and it by it changed my life it changed my life as all of you have changed my life my life i owe all of you my life and my work and and i the the gratitude i have for you in my life i can't even talk about it because i won't hold myself together but i've learned everything that i hold of value from all of you and the readings i've done and all of this and in that chapter of my life is where i really truly learn to appreciate what i am teaching you now which is that every act has more power than i could ever have imagined and it was back then 15 years ago when i did invisible acts of power that i realized wait a minute here we are so wired to care for each other i i don't think i understand the intuitive system at all i think it's all about our capacity to become strong enough to intuit what other people need and to respond to that and to become strong enough to make choices that empower others that empower others that do for others at some point we have to shift gears and stop life being all about us and begin realizing i think i'm here for everybody else i i actually think i'm going to change the rules of my life i think i'm here for the power of love to go through me not for the love of power i think i'm going to change the rules of life and that's when power really begins to flow that's when the game begins anew that's when the whole role of the power of the world you cannot see starts to reveal itself as if to say well hello there and and allied ship forms with forces you wanted to believe in you just didn't know really did exist that's what i want to go into in this series i deeply believe we're living at a time where it's time to choose the power of love of over the love of power that each of us has to just make that choice i think maybe my life should be about empowering others in some way or responding to that on wrecking or starting to read my intuitive signals more clearly so that i am not afraid to empower other people the stories i can tell you about how many people get into it have gotten intuitive hits about help this person out and they couldn't do it they couldn't do it because for fear of oh that person might get ahead or that person that person might make that person feel better and i don't want that person to feel better than me i i can't even tell you how many i i i i i had i asked this one woman who was a billionaire for money for um education for um 150 she made 150 000 in interest while we ordered coffee and i said i need 150 000 for students i wasn't asking for myself i never asked anything for myself and and when it comes to education i'm direct i'm blunt i need the money these kids need education and she was a billionaire and like i don't care and she said and then she told me she never gave to anything never gave to a charity in her life well you could have knocked me over i'm not kidding i'm still in shock i'm still in shock and i just looked at her and i said i hope you're kidding tell me you're kidding please tell me you're kidding please tell me that you are kidding she wasn't neither was i i got up and left now there is so much that is worth knowing about this so much look you are a system of power you need so much power to stay healthy and balanced i'm going to tell you how you operate when you are not your entire intuitive system is constantly talking to you constantly guarding you in terms of making the choices to keep you in a state of balance those choices include how you care for others how you care for others how you treat others whether you empower others and when you make choices to disempower another person whether through judgment or not your system keeps calculations of that whether when you when you make the decision to withhold grace from another human being your system your that's noted which is why and if you don't believe me that's exactly why you can't forget when someone has withheld grace from you when you when you think that person withheld an opportunity from me that person withheld something of value that could have changed your life and somehow you can't get over that or they withheld a compliment or they humiliated you and you cannot get over it and there's a power gap in you there's a power gap in you because the truth is if you could see the truth you know that that was conscious and i know that they received that guidance that said to help you out and that's also what you know but you can't prove it that somehow they it's not an accident that they were the ones standing there and that there's a force of life greater than yourself in this theater of life that positions us to be with each other in every moment that says deliver this message deliver this self-esteem you do this you do that i don't know how the universe manages to get us here and there and all of this in that moment and why i missed a train and this that the other who knows who knows i don't know that's why there's a garden there's where there's us i don't know but i do not believe that in such moments as that when we are with somebody and we feel an energetic dynamic that anything other than guidance is going on and that in those moments one there is an exchange of power going on and we are wired for it and that is the truth and that is and that what you know i remember this one i've told this story a thousand times it's simple but it gets to the point this model she was on a stage she was at a shoot and this young beautiful model brand new she came and she there was a scout for the cover of vogue and so this young younger model i guess she was like 17 or something like that so she was really a lot younger than the 24 year old although 24 right now sounds awfully good to me but she how many years ago wow years go by fast huh guys so she asked this older model 24 older how do i look and this model said she absolutely got in every part of her that this young girl was asking for validation for self-esteem for some kind of boost and she just couldn't give it to her just couldn't give it to her she just felt like i'm not gonna make you feel better so she gutted her instead she was like man you look all right but here's the thing she couldn't live with it later she just felt so horrible she felt so horrible that you know years later when i was writing invisible acts of power she shared that with me as and what she was unable to do for another human being and that it sticks with her because she can't undo it buddha says all of these settings in life are illusions they're you know they're settings they're theaters in which we are acting how we use our power it's very hard to get that when we're standing in the middle of a theater that it's an illusion in how we use our power it's very challenging it's very difficult but that's what you try to figure out when you get to therapy because you blew it because you blew it there you blew it here and you lost your power and but what you do know is that you're trying to get your power back it's all about power because power is the fundamental ingredient in the in the human experience and power is exactly what runs your body and you can feel when you've gutted yourself and you can feel wear in your solar plexus in your lower back because you are a bio spiritual holy ecological system and that's how you have to understand yourself and what you also i am asking you to understand now in this incredible moment of human transformation is that one of the great callings for all of us now is to open wide our hearts to the possibility that your greater wiring your higher intuitive system is not about following what else can i have what else is mine what more can i have but that the questions governing the higher part of your life the more meaningful part is how can i be of service to others the lower intuition is about is this is this right should i eat this is this safe that's not how you talk to your higher intuition that's not how you talk to your higher guidance the rest of us is the higher part is about how do i use this gift of my life to help transform this world into a better place how do i use the power of love let it come through me that is what this moment is about and how do i change and believe you me that's uh that's a challenge it's not an easy shift but that is our survival that's how we have to go if you look at the world today if you look at the crises anywhere look through this question it is the people who want the power to remain the same versus people who can't bear to empower others they can't bear it they they can't even imagine giving power to these people giving them a chance giving this person a chance to balance the power of life so that all people can feed their children so that all people can make their way so that nature so that we can begin to balance this world as one living breathing force of life but that is the challenge that is the challenge so that is what we will look and explore as we go through this seminar is how do we make that transition how do we move from the love of power how do i even examined that in my own life to letting in the power of love to letting that in so well we began with this one and i hope you'll join me for the rest i hope you will thank you so much you

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