Brother Revenged His SISTER On Her Wedding Day & Made Her Cry - Marriage Proposal Gone Wrong Stories

what is your marriage proposal gone wrong story my boyfriend and I went to his sister's wedding last Friday they have always had a strained relationship it was a great wedding and both of them seemed to get along we had been at the party for about two hours when he goes up to the DJ and asks for the microphone I thought he was going to toast for his sister but no he asks me to come up to him I was terrified I remember thinking to myself he is not doing that no I also remember looking at his sister and she looking at me and we both had the same look on our faces but she was more mad he then proceeds to propose to me at his sister's wedding people were cheering around us and his sister just looked like she wanted to cry I was just frozen and I didn't know what else to do than to say yes I was crying but not happy crying people were super ecstatic after that I went up to his sister and was apologizing over and over she was mad like mad I felt so sorry for her I left early and my boyfriend came at like 2:00 a.m. hammer to our hotel room I was mad so I confronted him at first he was like babe my whole family was there it was the best time till he finally admitted that he also did it because his sister had ruined his graduation by announcing her wedding I left the morning after and haven't talked to him since I don't know what to do he won't stop calling but I am very mad I don't even know what to say to him I'll just go ahead and start there so we don't have ourselves an epic some backstory on the situation my boyfriend at the time had been together the better part of a decade and had recently moved to a new state far away from our hometown we settled in bought our first house and everything was super peachy so peachy in fact we got the crazy idea maybe we could host Thanksgiving so we can invite all our family into our new home and take some of the holiday burden off of our mothers what could possibly go wrong what we didn't realize at this point is just how deep the control complex is with just no mother-in-law although she happily agreed to this plan and raised no concerns she was secretly very upset so that festered until a couple of weeks before the holiday at which point my boyfriend sister and her two kids decide they can't make it after all we figured hey that's too bad but she's an adult and makes her own choices we can see them at Christmas right mother-in-law is quietly at a boiling point mother-in-law must have all family at all holidays because that time is special and can never be replaced we are doomed and we don't even know it so the day before tea day arrives my family arrives and it's ooh ah what a cute house I'm cooking dinner and his parents arrive father-in-law is warm and normal acting mother-in-law is also there although looking rather twitchy cool whatever she just looks like that sometimes father-in-law is a wine guy thank heavens and pulls out the vino time for a toast new home holidays huzzah my boyfriend takes the toast over and I honestly don't remember what he said because before I got my wits about me he was on his knee proposing elation I'm over the moon we had never been in a hurry about it but he was right the time is now I'm on cloud nine and go to greet my in-laws to be father-in-law is obviously joyous in a believable way mother-in-law lets me know that she had to pick up the ring nobody else was available to do it an odd thing to contribute thank you we serve dinner and all as well until mother-in-law starts talking about relationships she starts in on how they don't always work out and that we should take our time I believe eight years is a significant chunk of time to verify that things will indeed work out am i right but no not to mother-in-law she goes on to tell the whole table mind you my whole immediate family is here listening to her that we should avoid having kids in case we need to divorce we've been engaged no more than an hour and the woman is treating our joyous occasion like an accident in front of my family I'm endlessly ashamed I have no words to stop her what the hell is happening she pouts and spouts off more garbage the rest of the trip I'm depressed and shocked fiancee has no words to console me I go through with the holiday and cook the feast but hell her she ruined it I'll never get that bitter taste out of my mouth I'm Way too embarrassed to tell anyone about this in real life and I feel really conflicted so I'm going to post here long story short my boyfriend of three years proposed to me a few weeks ago and I said yes the ring he gave me has a simple design and consists of a thin silver sterling band with a cubic zirconia it looked pretty and I was happy with it one of my boyfriends friends is from a somewhat wealthy family and my boyfriend just told me that this friend proposed to his girlfriend with a ring worth about $3,500 he said he can't believe anyone would drop that much cash on a ring and that he thought it was a massive waste of money and then he said I got yours off of Amazon for $20 I'm glad you're not the kind of person who cares about how much a piece of jewelry costs I was shocked and tried to laugh it off but deep down I was really hurt I can't quite articulate why this bothers me so much but it's like I've never even heard of an engagement ring costing that little I never wanted an expensive ring but I at least thought it would be something in the couple hundred dollar range you know we both have good jobs and he works in tech so money is not an issue it makes me feel sad that a ring symbolizing his commitment to me is worth less than a new video game I know my boyfriend loves me and I'm happy to be engaged and excited to marry him and I do like the way the ring looks I just don't know how to bring up the price of the ring with him and why it hurts my feelings or if I should my best friend Michael 28 years old male has been with his girlfriend Joanna 29 years old female for 11 years since high school I 28 year old male recently proposed to my fiancee Lily 26 years old female and we've been living together for just shy of three years earlier this week Joanna mentioned to me and Lily at a party how she can't wait for Michael to propose to her and how she can't wait to have her fairytale wedding I admittedly laughed and told Joanna that after 11 years together if a guy hasn't proposed to you yet he probably never will I was also a little shocked because up until that point I thought both Michael and Joanna were on the same page and didn't believe in marriage I know for a fact that Michael doesn't want to tie the knot but I didn't mention that to Joanna Joanna got defensive and started arguing that a lot of couples wait a long time before marriage and not everyone rushes into marriage like us I just sort of reiterated my point that 11 years is longer than average and I wouldn't be surprised if Michael never proposes I also told Joanna straight up if she wants a proposal in the future she should probably have a serious conversation with Michael about it well on the uber ride back home my fiancee Lilly was horrified with what I'd said to Joanna she doesn't think it's any of my business and what I said to Joanna was rude in my opinion I was doing Joanna a favor I mean someone needs to tell her the reality that Michael is unlikely to propose I do recognize I may have created some trouble for my friend but Joanna is my friend as well and I was trying to give it to her straight so I was going to my fiance's cousin's wedding on the weekend two weeks ago she messaged me telling me not to wear my engagement ring or talk about my engagement on her special day I was a little taken aback but I guess she was the bride and I was talking to one of the other girls coming saying I was a little sad since I hadn't taken off my ring since I got it and she said she wasn't told she couldn't wear her ring or talk about her engagement at the wedding in fact the bride is happy for her to talk about it and even was going to announce it at the reception I wasn't going to be bringing up my engagement at the wedding but you know conversation does come up I messaged the bride about how I was a little hurt and confused and she told me not to come at all then my fiance went but I didn't all night my fiance was bombarded with questions where is your fiance why wasn't she allowed how did the engagement happen do you have a video the bride wasn't happy at all edit stop with the red flag comments I should mention my fiance has a tense relationship with that side of his family so he and I talked about it and agreed he should go and the fact he told everyone the truth as to why I wasn't there was the best kind of Karma so I proposed to my girlfriend last November we've been dating for three years and I got her a ring that we picked out together before I met her I was briefly engaged to my high school sweetheart but we split on mutual terms that were still very painful to me the ring I had was sold to me for very cheap by her grandma an heirloom ruby ring from the 1920s after we split she said she didn't want the ring back because of the memories I tried to give it back to her grandma but she didn't want it either and told me to keep it to remember them by which was really nice I didn't really want to keep it either but felt bad about selling such an old item so I gave it to my sister well now fiance found out about this ring well at my sister's house a while back she saw it and fell in total love with this ring she's admittedly really picky with jewelry and struggles to find stuff she's willing to wear long-term but she tried it on and it was a perfect fit and exactly what she wanted without knowing it we've now been fighting because I really don't want her to wear this ring my sister says my fiance can have it if she wants and obviously she really wants it more than the one we picked out together I don't want to see this ring on her to be honest and would rather her wear anything else my fiance is disturbed I still care so much and now accuses me of not being over my ex I am over her I just don't want my fiance to wear this ring in particular I feel like this whole situation is bizarre but both my fiance and my sister are telling me to get over it and let her wear this ring edit lots of confusion over the ring ownership I gave this ring to my sister years ago to keep in her jewelry box since I don't have one I told her she can wear it herself or give it to someone as long as she tells me if my fiance wanted this ring to wear very occasionally I'd be more than okay with it but she wants to wear it exclusively as an engagement ring all the time and she'd want to tell people I gave it to her specifically for our engagement not as some random gift from my sister all of this I'm extremely uncomfortable with considering the tough period I was in the last time I saw that ring every day long story short my fiance and I were going through rough stuff wedding was the 29th of the number this year I thought they were things that could be worked on but he felt otherwise we passed the wedding planning and decided to go back to square one we had a fantastic day and it felt okay again and then he broke up with me the 27th of July two days before I was to be a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding he said that he just had a feeling he couldn't shake that I was trying harder than he was he decided he needed to work on himself because he didn't know who he was anymore when I was out of town at the wedding he moved to North Carolina to live with his dad I recently found out via a mutual friend that his mother was a deciding factor in him leaving she pressed him to take some time to himself to move away and promised she would pay off all debts if he didn't marry me she told him that she expected me and my mom to try to keep the ring even though I had already given it back and she had a lawyer on standby in case that were the issue she actually met with the lawyer twice regarding the laws in Ohio on gifting engagement rings she called 20 minutes after the break-up to ask what size Hall he needed for the move and she had all his aunts and uncles come out to party in Cleveland before they moved him out she also mentioned she was glad she never paid a dime for her portion of the bar we were literally five months out from the wedding when he left and she was still refusing to pay all while I was sobbing and kinda drunk in a bridesmaid dress at someone else's wedding for those who will ask the first month or so was hard and I still have bad days but I'm generally okay I did things for myself and engaged in some self-destructive behavior but I'm feeling more like myself recently than I had in the past year thank you for reading this far and for the support I've gotten over the last eight months here's to hopefully having a sane mother-in-law in the future my boyfriend and I have been together for four incredibly glorious years I thought it'd be fun if I proposed to him secretly I've planned everything got a ring and set a date to do it I wasn't going to tell my mom dad or brothers I wanted it to be a surprise to everyone and I just told my sister when talking to my sister about it and she's smiling telling me how great an idea it is my eavesdropping mom goes no no no I wasn't supposed to tell you but he's proposing my mom doesn't know when he's proposing saying he was unsure about a specific timeframe but he showed her the ring and told my dad that he was about to daddy him up I was going to propose in two days but now I don't know if I should just let him do it even though he doesn't have an exact timeframe I mean he's the guy so I feel like I have to let him but I was so so excited about doing it myself I feel like if I do it he'll feel disappointed even though it's already how I feel so yesterday he took me to run errands but he randomly decided we should just have fun instead he took me around the city we tried all kinds of food had honestly the most fun I've had since I was a kid made memories off of the little moments I didn't think that much of it I realized that the whole day had basically been an all-day date I knew it had to be something and I had the ring with me and I was going to try and propose at the same time he opened my door walked me down a beautiful pathway and just looked me in the eyes and I said yes he left and dropped down to one knee and I started crying and forgot that I was supposed to be proposing to I don't even remember what he said he was on his knee for awhile saying what I'm sure were the sweetest things but I was too busy crying I'd already said yes before he even got down on one knee so he put the ring on my finger we went home and I realized I didn't propose he wanted to shower and we sometimes shower together so I proposed to him in there he smiled and said I wonder if when our first kid is born will it top this moment then because I was on my knees in the shower he had to make a romantic joke after we got out he held me while we called his parents I'd already called my whole family in the car ride home yesterday was amazing and now I'm lying next to him while he plays video games and he's talking about our engagement to his friends and I couldn't be happier and I don't know how to contain all of this and just ah I love you Nathan somehow my girlfriend 23 years old female and died 28 years old male got to talking about marriage and wedding rings we've been together almost three years I mentioned how a co-worker's husband spent $6,000 on an engagement ring and I was like yeah I want to go under that my girlfriend looked up the average price of a ring and said it was around $6,000 and I believe my words were yeah you're not getting that which I admit probably stung but wasn't what I meant then to compound all this we got to talking about weddings and I talked about how much money they are and how I didn't want to blow through all of my savings just for one day then she said you know girls planned this stuff since they're like 8 right and I said yeah and she went quiet she cried off and on all day yesterday and it completely ruined both of our days at night she said some very scary things and it seemed way too overboard for what had happened reddit I just think the whole marriage culture is a money pit I'm fine with a solid ring and a nice decent wedding but I did not expect all of this reaction from her I would have been fine with a rational conversation but I didn't get that I was at my job today as I tend to be and minding my own business I was sitting in our rather spacious break area when mother-in-law appears and starts talking to one of her friends about life and exciting things going on this broad is loud and annoying at the best of times when I see her mother-in-law is excitedly blathering on about some plans or something when her friend asked about going out to lunch this weekend eyes erode in when I heard this mother-in-law oh I'm sorry I can't I just have to go with son all over town I can't believe it he asked me to pick out girlfriend's ring she was going on and on about it meanwhile guess who also works here son's girlfriend comes into the break room as mother-in-law is talking her friend tries to hush her but just as she said girlfriend is here the mother-in-law practically shouts I told son that I think she would like a princess cut engagement ring mother-in-law then turns and sees the son's girlfriend and giggled oh sorry I guess I ruined the surprise guys this poor girl not only has her mother-in-law picking out her ring but she had no idea her boyfriend was even thinking of proposing she immediately turned around and walked out distraught as ever I'm gonna see if I can chat with her and sent her this way thing [Music]

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Length: 17min 56sec (1076 seconds)

Published: Mon Jun 22 2020