Before You Say I Do (Part 1)

[Music] every eye closed and every head bowed father thank you for this time it is always an honor to share your word and to be a vessel that you choose to use let this be a hallowed time in your presence let this be a time when we will hear from you and hear from your heart let this be a time when the word of God would go forth as good seed on good soil and that we yield much fruit Holy Spirit we welcome your presence let every reasoning and wisdom of men be abased another wisdom that comes from above be our portion thank you great teacher in fact the greatest Thank You Holy Spirit I receive your unction in Jesus name Amen thank you you may take your seats please Oh hallelujah well I'm told that your theme is go to the ant thou sluggard consider her ways and be wise and there are so many things the Book of Proverbs says about the ant that the end does not have any overseer but they organize themselves they are able to build anthills they are able to have father and a mother ant and everybody plays their part and generally it works amen but one thing that I want us to know about the ant is that the ant prepares and in our lives many people don't prepare before they say I do or many people don't think they should be prepared before they say I do so I want us to look I think that we have to know that marriage is not the idea of the internet he meant is not the creation of the UN people's opinions what people think God is the initiator the creator and the architect of marriage and therefore if somebody makes something you need the manufacturers manual to go by to know how to operate whatever it is even if it's a device in the same way marriage is not gone marriage is no fancy marriage it's not a Shanthi marriage is God's way of doing things and it's God's creation is God who brought about marriage amen and then we have done various things to vary what God thinks so like they used to say if you a gaga marriage the woman lives you and the man lives in the evening you put powder on your neck and you cross over to Greg so that may be tribal but the basis of it all is God and I believe that that is why the Bible says in the beginning God so in the beginning is not your emotions in the beginning is not your opinions in your beginning is not what you think or the consensus of the majority in the beginning is God so I believe the marriage starts with God but unfortunately many things that God creates Satan also pervades amen so when God says okay I'm making Adam and Eve because I have seen that it is not good for man to be alone even that shows us that man did not know his problem by God Newman's problem and in solving it God did not need months involvement he just put a man to sleep and he brought what he God knew was good for the man but if you've lived on this planet and you've driven behind a few truckers you see fear woman shrub Asiana ninja and all sorts of things it may be based on people's experiences but the Word of God is greater than our experiences Amen somebody and it is God who put Adam and Eve in the garden not Adam and Steve amen and now we are beginning to put Adam and Steve in the garden and we are putting Eve and Evelyn in the garden and we are saying if it feels like having Evelyn let her have it but as a child of God is not about feelings it's not about what is popular and it's not even about what is man's logic it is about what is God saying and what is the light jesus said I am the light of the world he who walks with me shall never walk in darkness so when you don't walk in his word and in him you walk in darkness and that's why the more we develop the more it regressive we are becoming in this life amen because I think God wants to show us that even our wisdom which we call wisdom is God's foolishness that's what the Bible says so we need to be well oriented this evening that it is more about thus saith the Lord not about you let's say of your academia let's say at what you learned in sociology let's say at what you feel it's not like that it's that saith the Lord the Bible says as many as I'll let the Spirit of God not as many as are led by their emotions because sometimes your emotions can be contrary to God's Word it's not as many as are led by their logic because sometimes your logic can be contrary to God's Word it's not as many as are led by their academic laurels it's as many as are led by the Spirit of God so I would like to establish the marriage is God's idea and it has to be lived and practiced in that context Amen somebody now you said before I say I do many of us prepare we do prepare for marriage but we prepare for the wedding cake we prepare for nice invitation cards that as soon as people have read they just caution put in the dustbin we prepare for color scheme we prepare for engagement and we have matching funds to to match it up and we prepare for how we will come in the music will come with and all that but that's just ceremony but real marriage begins after you have said I do man it begins after the wedding even sometimes not after the wedding after the honeymoon that's when marriage begins but even God who is a bridegroom says in Revelations 21 verse 2 and I John saw the holy city New Jerusalem coming down from God out of heaven prepared as a bride adorned for her husband amen John saw the holy city the New Jerusalem coming down from God who the Bible describes as our bridegroom when Jerusalem was coming down it was a prepared bride our men prepared as a bride adorned for her husband and when you look at revelation 19 verse 7 it says let us be glad and rejoice and give honour to him for the marriage of the lamb is come and his wife has made herself ready a man so it is important that you be ready to marry Amen even in the secular world they have an age by which legally you are allowed to marry so you may fall in love before that age but the Lord does not recognize it until you are that age when I was in the attorney general's battle it was 21 years I remember the way argue whether I should be 18 but whatever it is the law prescribes an age by which you can marry why do they say 21 or 18 because the presuppose that by that time you have become more sensible you have become less foolish and you are able to take some decisions that is why even driving they don't just unleash you to the road they expect you to be of a certain age because your judgment the way you see things that the judgment you execute before you negotiate a care when a car is coming how you behave all that is often attuned to your age it is a supposition that when you are this age you'll be more mature than when you are younger I mean in the same way in the things of God and even in marriage before you marry you should be ready later ever what do you mean by ready you should be read spiritually you should be ready emotionally you should be ready financially you should be ready psychologically you should even be ready physically so if the marriage of the Lamb who is perfect and then the lamb see whether men we are not perfect that we all need to be prepared amen because all of us are the Bride of Christ and the Bible is saying the marriage of the lamb has come and the bride does not get ready when the groom comes the bride has already made herself ready and also one thing that struck me was I didn't say the Angels have made her ready her parents have made her ready the situation has made already the bride has made herself it's a DIY do-it-yourself amen it says a self-help project so you are the one who should prepare yourself many of us as pastors and leaders and even your parents will help prepare you but whether you will lend yourself to be prepared is up to you because you have to make yourself ready Amen well lady Reverend how do we get ready if you are going to be spiritually ready I believe that you should have a personal God Amen somebody some 5 verse 2 some 5 verse 2 what does it say hmm hearken unto the voice of my cry give ear to my words O Lord is a beginning but the truth how can unto the voice of my cry my king and my god for unto thee will I pray many of us in this generation we are like the people who say the God of Abraham Isaac and Jacob are we ourselves we don't have a God but David is saying here my God my king and my god so you should have a God of your own not the God of your beloved I am NOT saying you both should not be Christians but I'm saying that your love for God your commitment to God your desire to work in his word even being born again should not be because he somebody's God somebody may introduce you to his god but in the end you should have a personal God of your own amen and that God is the father of Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit now when you marry and you don't have a God of your own and your God is your husband's God or your wife's God at a point you will not have a god amen so like the psalmist we should be able to say my god just like we say my my computer my laptop my job my car my house my apartment my shoes you must be able in your possession to have God and to say my god and my king and then I'm not talking about merely coming to church I'm showing you obviously but why she's saying God come into it because for me without that foundation you are not going to last amen some people say ah but we are not going to last then why is it that even people who were Christians maybe even they are ministers and they their marriages don't work because I believe that life is in compartments the Bible says I believe in is a first about 25 or second Samuel - in fact when it talks about Abigail it says that nabob the food that Abigail had married I didn't say the Bible said was a very great man that's how the Bible describes him and that he was great in cattle he was great in sheep he was great financially but in another area he was a food Amen so when you look at how he wakes how prosperous his businesses resume Nepal is so great look even his company he has so many those days cars or companies or trucks or what he had so the Bible says he was a great man and I love the Bible for that I speak the truth he was great and he had need of nothing was rich that's why David came to ask himself but although he was rich financially spiritually and relationally he was a fool and it can be the same in your life you may be up here even in ministry but when it comes to marriage you may be a fool and you may be bankrupt and I was asking God is this scripture and the Holy Spirit said to me oh there were so many kings in the Bible in livid chronicles and all that the Bible said they did this they did this they did this but they did not bring down the high places so you may do this we made it about the maybe an area where Jesus is not Lord and that may be an area where you don't allow God to deal with your brokenness we are our broken vessels but the difference is whether we will bring the brokenness to him that is the problem amen so you must have a God of your own because it is not every time when you share something with your spouse that he or she will understand but Jesus Christ is our high priest who is touched with the feeling of our infirmities so when you go to him sometimes you don't even have to put words just your crime God will see your cry has come unto me amen so we need a God of our own I always say that if I didn't know God for myself or if I didn't have a relationship with God this week my husband is in the city areas doing crusade preaching from place to place from place to place now you you don't have a God you don't have any street I am you don't have a life your whole aim is to meet miss charming or Prince Charming and then your life would turn around you have married Prince Charming but he has to go to wake he has gone he's been away for more than a week you don't have a God you don't have a relationship with God you don't have that life what is going to happen to you what is going to happen to you the Bible says the fullness of the Godhead dwelleth in our God Colossians 2:9 also and we are complete in him so completion comes in Christ you are not complete because you have married and you are not half because you are single I remember pastor from witness Chapel I met him he was my friend and I met him at a bookshop and I said help us that's a long time and then I said Oh every time you come with your better half but today you came alone and then he loved us a lady reference it's not my better half is my better whole and God put to hold together not to house and I received instruction from that Amen so you should be whole in yourself as a single person you should have a God of your own you should have a life of your own the Reverend why you say that yes the two shall be one but you must also have the life of your own otherwise when the person is not that the person has become your God you see when we say God the Father God the Son God the Holy you your own you have substituted it with a man or a woman's name so if the person does not behave like you want you will be found in mental hospital just now because your your foundation and your everything is a human being and you have no life and every human being the Bible says we have this treasure in earthen vessels including yourself that the excellency of his partial view of God and not of us so if we have this treasure in earthen vessels you may my a good woman a good man but she can never satisfy you 100% otherwise he or she would take the place of God and God will never allow that to happen God wishes glory with no one and God wants to be God in your life so you must be prepared spiritually by knowing God having a relationship with God for me that has been my uncle that has been what has helped me even to know how to pray do you know how to pray I've been a Christian for a long time but when I came to labor I didn't know how to new use the name of Jesus I was baptized at the Holies but I hardly used it I didn't know how to stand on scripture to pray but my husband was a president of our fellowship and he taught me all that and so I came to a place where when I went on holiday I could call on God by myself and I could say you have said this in your weight you and your weight are one Lord make good what you have said but you you are not prepared even quiet time you don't do message you don't listen you are so Conor there's no spiritual preparation in you therefore when the storms of life come which will come and the storms of marriage come how will you stand you becoming pasta pastas asleep you'll be calling pasta his battery's low you'll be calling lady pasta it's out of coverage area where she is that reception is not good what are you going to do or you'll be calling them they are busy I'll be calling that they are out of coverage area again some places out of recovery area what I going to do so as a single person this is the time to invest in yourself spiritually invest in God's weight invest in prayer invest in knowing God invest in fellowship invest in being close to him because sometimes even your wife or your husband may be in difficult situations and it will take you to speak the word and to say it's going to be well because God says sometimes your partner may not be in a place where he or she is able to create but it will take you to stand in the gap and say God heal our children make a difference and then you all that you know is Instagram this Instagram it doesn't move mountains it doesn't cast our divorce it doesn't do anything Instagram Facebook those IO Busters those are the people you spend time with look it's a temptation what's up forwarded messages your messages are never original and they are always contrary to Scripture too and that is what you spend your time on you don't know God but the Bible says that people that know their God they shall watch strong Daniel 11:32 and they shall do exploits it's not that people who have degrees like a thermometer it's not that people who are so highly educated when the storms of life come which they will is not my lord degree my postgraduate degree that stands there and then the elements bow it is the name of Jesus it is the grace of God it is as multiplied messes amen so investing also prepare spiritually to be strong efficient six finally my brethren be strong in politics finally my brethren be strong in physics finally my brethren be strong in IT God is not against all these things but we need to be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might Amen now you also have to prepare yourself emotionally emotionally marriage is major emotional investments and that is why sometimes when things don't work people are torpedoed teachers go off amen because emotionally you need Minna amen you need stamina you can't just be a soulish Christian everything is just emotions so when you feel angry you just manifest in the marriage you are not prepared the Bible says in Galatians 5:22 but the fruits of the spirit and love joy peace longsuffering [Music]

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Length: 26min 32sec (1592 seconds)

Published: Tue Jun 25 2019