Model Marriage Conference By Rev. (Mrs.) Adelaide Mills

hallelujah thank you for your reception shall we pray father we've come to no other person than you we pray for your Holy Spirit who is our teacher and our guide to lead us to equip us and to help us bless us with your word so that we will also be a blessing to others and to lations thank you for your unction and your help sweet Holy Spirit in Jesus name Amen amen please take your seats I'm sure Bishop waving has already welcomed you but I want to welcome you again to our first-ever module marriage conference [Applause] and I want to encourage you that I believe that it's time well spent in the presence of God we go for driving lessons so that we can have driving tests and even driving they say that you should be a certain age because you need to have certain faculties to be able to drive any marriage to in every law you have to be a certain age because they assume that by a certain age you are more mature to handle the pressures and responsibilities and blessings of marriage so I think that it is in order to have a school and some training for marriage I believe personally that the institution of marriage is under great attack from the enemy and Christians are also buying into it and even saying that marriage is not a blessing it is actually a case abetting a problem but I always tell people that the people who say that as soon as they lose a spouse they begin to look for another because they begin to see that as importance so marriage is not our idea or my idea or your idea is God's idea and one of the things the Bible says in the book of Esther mozi chapter 3 I believe it says that in the last days so many things will happen one of the things is can a second Timothy 3 verse 1 is some people who forbid to marry forbid to marry and forbidden to marry it's not always like you make a law and then you just forbid to marry but it's the things that are free the things that are said forbid to marry amen and I'm praying that no I don't think it's the one it is pizza rather I'll look for it but forbidden to marry and second Peter 3 verse 1 right yeah ok second Peter 3 verse 1 are you there p.m. you've misled us forbidden to anyway so the Bible says I'm looking for it the Bible says that people will forbid to marry and then they will even forbid certain first-first forgive 1st Timothy 4 forbidding to marry and commanding to abstain from meats which God has received and when you look at Dave's Bible it says that the forbidden to marry is not just forbidding by him bring to forbid means to prohibit hinder oppose or operate against seducing spirits influence people to hinder and operate against wedlock by enticing them to meet the demands of the sex drive apart from the sanctity of marriage so he as in giving heed to seducing spirits verse 24 1 means to pay attention to and act under the leadership and control of hence those who satisfy their sect knees through perversions any of the ways contrary to what is a food by scripture under the control more or less of demons this also applies to religions that discourage or forbid marriage to anyone among laymen or clergy but Hebrews 13:4 since the marriage is honorable to all and the marriage bed undefiled amen so we have to look at marriage from God's perspective and from God's angle not what is happening in the world and what is around us and not even from the trot role you drive behind that says that fear woman shrub Asia marriage is bad marriages jail and all that don't mind your wife event your bus so even in the slogans you can tell that we don't hold marriage as honorable the way God does but I believe that at this conference God will bring our minds and our hearts back and we won't preach our own sermons because nowadays there are lots of sermons that our own Simmons and I known as savvy of God well my duty this morning and then also I am sure will talk about it a bit more but in training you the counselor should also endeavor to be a doer of the word and not a hearer only so you are not a counselor because you are perfect but you're a counselor because God has chosen you to help others and also to show his faithfulness to you and to others doctors are not doctors because they don't get headaches and they don't get malaria they are all men of like passions and they all have the same challenges we have but their knowledge helps them to help you and so as a marriage counselor your knowledge and your walk with God will help you to also help others some of us may not be what do you call it form our marriage counselors but you have a lot of people you influence your skin and before now you've been given very bad advice African proverbs and things but from this training you're going to use God's Word as your yardstick and not African prophets the in English loose our dado amen it may be true but there's a scripture rendering of it that says cares to see who puts his trust in man whether woman or man every creation of God amen so that should be our point of reference and not what our grandmother said the Bible calls it old wives fables and genealogies who say we should forget about all that and concentrate on the weight because the two men who built their houses they went through the same experiences so in marriage you go through the same experiences the only difference is the foundation on which you build a marriage counseling provides a foundation so that when the storms come the winds blow very mentally it blew against all the two houses both houses the rain came on both houses the only reason why one stood was the foundation so your foundation is very important and so is your foundation in marriage a lot of people are coming to marriage not having seen good examples and also people are coming into marriage not even having seen an example before subtle you grow up in a single-parent home you've never seen a father in action before you've never seen a father being saved before and you are married it's not that everything should be by experience but I believe at the word of God is the best teacher and it gives you the right foundation so that when the reins of marriage are between you and the winds are bitter environmentally and the flood is coming up it will stand not because you are a courtesan but because the foundation is built on the Word of God amen so I pray that you open your heart and we'll all become like children and learn amen morning stroke afternoon I want to start with the spousal duties spas our duties in marriage I always wonder and I'm amazed at how God is ahead of time you know when I used to read the Bible many years ago I'll see God as written in Leviticus or Deuteronomy thou shalt not lie with an animal as a man lies with a woman and when I read us our God to become be extreme whoa man like this Israelites is that what their lives were like but as I sat on a flight and I read in Daily Mail that they are getting Angela Merkel to change the laws of Germany so that they can marry animals because they already sleeping with some I saw that before me so when he wrote this he knew how we are and he knew where we'll be headed true so as I was reading in my naivety and simple my desires and I thought oh but why do they write such laws not knowing that everything God has written is relevant so in the Bible also God has a job description for both spouses the man has a job description the woman has a job description and many times we are not doing what God said we should do them who say Christian my just a very disappointing Christian might is a but we don't do the Bible we do our own thing but if we started to go back to the one who really made marriage who knows he said God knows you're some witness and he knows that your main problem will be this area and he gives you verses to counteract that area so who starts of course because man is the head of the house so we'll start with duties of the husband and I'm preaching from chapter 11 of the model marriage book I once asked some people in a church what material do you have what you preach in your church when you are doing my age cause they said Adam and Eve and the lady in charge who had been interviewing her people she was not doing the counseling by which I am the way past issue as this week what did you learn Adam and Eve she said for six weeks they kept saying Adam and Eve and when she asked them what they couldn't even specify so please the time of churches being childlike and childish rather childlike as positive childish as negative the terms of being childish where we teach people with no curriculum and all that must end and Africans don't like to invest in books knowledge they said if you want to hide something from a black man hide it in a book because we'll rather buy lace than buy a book who rather buy the latest phone than buy a book but from this conference be somebody was six knowledge because God's knowledge would change your life change our churches and change other people's lives as well amen so duties of the husband not written by at lady what news by written by the manufacturer of marriage amen the word husband comes from the anglo-saxon word which means house band this implies a strip of metal or rope used to bind the house together a husband therefore binds together the home in terms of its control organization and management I mean now the Bible says in Ephesians chapter 5 officials chapter 5 are you there it talks about the various duties and it actually starts with the duties of the wife but before it does that Ephesians 5:21 says submitting yourselves one to another one to another when you feel like it is that what the Bible says submit yourselves one to another one you feel like it when it's convenient when your spouse has behaved right in the fear of God and that's what's lost in marriages there's no fear of God we don't think what is God's Word saying about this area what does God's ready and I'm buying some grass it's like how I feel and sometimes Christian haswell's can be so wicked you wonder that not that they should even be special to their wives but just normal not even a lady came to me for counseling she's she was about 60 then she said not even romantic passionate love want mommy but come on love that you will show to a stranger because she had been very ill and the man just lives in her room goes to where comes whatever nothing but as she would die whether she would live even your Christian instincts okay the fear of God that one is nothing so the Bible says submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God because if we don't fear God will not submit to one another so yes the wives do to which will come to is to submit but before then he says submitting what I forgot I love him ooh he's the most balanced person I've ever come across and he's very wise but we like to take parts of the scripture and leave parts submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God the reason why things are not working we don't fear God we don't fear his church we don't fear his word we don't care but we pray that that would change we need to go back to the fear of God amen and in the book it starts with the duties of the husband so I will do likewise before I come to the duties of the wife amen so the duty of the husband 25 first of all the husband is the head amen I didn't say it sometimes people want to change it because they say and see mommy my husband he doesn't have sense so he cannot be the head well okay Ephesians 5:23 for the husband is the head of wife even as Christ is the head of the church and he's the savior of the body amen it's not my idea is God's idea he says the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of I mean it means that's a very serious thing because God is saying the husband is the head just like Jesus Christ is the head of his church so it's a very serious thing if God makes you a head husbands as much as it's a privilege is also a lot of wake because as the head that determines where the body walks and if the hair doesn't walk well like Bishop dodge says the body will walk anyway when your head is not functioning well you see that your body works your body doesn't even know it has no bad or what it doesn't know is naked your body misbehaves so husbands if the head is not functioning well the whole body will be in disarray so you have to take your duties very seriously so that you remember why you are dressing us we are countless I don't care it starts with you it starts with you then you teach others the husband is the head of the as Christ is the Christ as the head of the church the body of Christ and he tells us what to do where to go he leaves us by the Holy Spirit he supplies our needs he does it even before we think about it he says that he does more than we can even think of in my genome so if Christ is the head and then husband is also the head that me I feel that the husband's duties are more honestly I find the wife's duties easier but the husband to be the head so your first duty is that God has called you to be the head and whatever happens in the home when God comes like in the Garden of Eden you are Adam he will call him first Adam what is this that thou has done and then I know you say the wife now give us to me the woman but I'm also happy with that verse boy doesn't know just that Christ is the head of the church and their Savior bishop dad says whenever there's a column it means that is to say so for the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church what does it mean to be there of it and he is the savior how many husbands our Savior Amen brothers he's the savior of the body he's not only the heads he's also the savior and we also have to teach people that because your husband is the head ladies have to choose their head wisely as much as lies within your power because as you go on in marriage also people change how many changes when you - it doesn't eat young later he eats young before the brothers marry they eat anything when they married they become fussy before they marry they sleep hungry when the might of the food is late why so things change but as much as you can see and as much as God is leading you by the Holy Spirit you have to choose your head because he is the head and whatever he does will affect you because the head controls everything the brain is in the head room the head controls everything so if you are choosing God shows you a lot of science you are seen but you say it doesn't matter then when the head is manifesting don't say it Reverend I've made a mistake you you saw the mistake so in now counseling let's also counsel the young ladies that because that kind of man you choose is also your head be careful thou anointest my head with oil and then my cup runs over the head first and then the cup runs over so you have to be very careful amen what does it mean to be the head of family you see some people say they are Bush campaign they don't bring anything and now it is one you have to you know they say the Abuja P they don't give you a penny you do yourself we are not talking about a bishop in the Ghanaian context we are talking about head of family from group God's perspective amen so the head connotes authority Authority in bringing up children leadership in providing direction and guidance responsibility which means decision-making so the husband must not check that his responsibility so that he can blame someone else when things backfire as the head of the house and of his home the man must rule his home spiritually financially and socially and in every other way god I told you face as Adam because the man is held responsible fast for everything that goes wrong including an unhappy wife this is what is written in member others so from verse 23 we can see that the head is God followed by Christ who is subject to God and then man will jet to Christ and then the woman so the man if the man is subject to Christ the woman needn't be afraid of the type of head because he's subject to Christ he is not like the wealth system or he's not supposed to be like the world system where a tyrant rules over you I always say that God is so he's the best husband anybody could wish could have to have because even though he's the head he says come let us reason together but some people say I'm the head kind of reason with you what perspective will you bring but God says come you didn't say you I even bring it yourself he's calling you come let us reason together and then he acts though your sins be as scarlet that's why you should even call me because I have so many faults he shouldn't involve me what he's doing but he says though your sins be where does crimson they shall be whiter sleep amen so he's not calling us to reason because we had paths he's not calling us to reason because he God doesn't know what to do but I think it's his way of loving and showing respects his that he says come let us reason together anyway I was reading Abraham said will you destroy fifty God said if I get fifty so what about forty what about twenty what about thirty and the Bible says and Abraham stood yet before the law and I was saying hey if Abraham were a wife who dare not say she's argumentative you said okay will you spare fifty fifty so you said fifty now you've come back forty now you come back you say thirty but that's his nature he's the head he is the head but he he operates the head in a scriptural way I mean who come to duties of the wife don't work amen so God is the head and we have to practice how he exercises the head ships you don't even say that plead your case plead your case me plead my case how Moses said you say you want to destroy the whole of Israel well if you destroy them everybody will know that you don't keep your word and everybody will say that you brought these people to the wilderness to kill them and the Bible says and the law repented Almighty God repented o mighty God how come you you are idea mean nothing can change your mind no buddy should say anything because you are the head god amazes me the way he is just amazes me and if we should follow him we'll have the same results amen headship does not mean the person should be rude to you Oh headship does not mean weakness because God is no weak head ship means firmness but also divine love is part of it which is also another topic in this book I mean first Corinthians 11 verse 3 but I'll have you know that the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God that's why we get a hierarchy from not from our minds okay let's tacit so the first duty is to exercise the headship in a godly and god-fearing manner okay a second duty is to love officials 5 again 25 husbands love your secretary that's what my husband says when he's doing the vows husband love your secretary husband love your wait colleague husbands love your shepherd husbands love your wife but I thought you merited us you laughter that's why you married a you see God he's way ahead of us all he knows that in marriage is not always that you would like to love your wife or it's not always that she is lovable you see sometimes hey manifestations is not lovable yes once I was constantly a couple and then the husband said something and I asked him what your husband is saying is it true sir Kevin I think he was dreaming a people streaming I see now how you talk to your husband I was surprised because in the church is a yes bishop okay bishop so I was surprised your dreams so such a wife you may think it's not easy to love but God says husband's love your wives love your wives and it is divine love not that type you saw on Nigeria movie not that type you saw on the western movie but the god kind of love fairytale setting type of love and it's a command it is not a suggestion amen husbands love you is I love the Bible and you will always give you how us Christ loved the church how the Christ loved the church even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it that's what marriage is very serious business and very hard to wake anybody who tells of the marriage is just a walk in the park it's lying to you in his dreams marriage is hard work husbands love your wives as Christ even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it so what does it mean it means that in loving your wife you must give your self to hell for him for him that's why we need marriage schools so that before you say I do agenda manzamine Yahoo hmm gave himself for him why that he might sanctify and cleanse it's not the body that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the way beloved it's only dirty things that are washed clean things are not washed so that tells you that there's no perfect woman on earth they are good women they are godly women but as my husband says everybody has a left leg some left legs are more left than right but everybody else that he might sanctify and cleanse it hey sanctify and cleanse it how with the washing of the water by the word hmm it's not an easy thing that he might present it to himself a glorious church not having sprinkle spots or wrinkle or any such but I should be holy and without blemish whatever you do to your wife you are doing it to yourself that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word next verse that he might present it to him the presentation a woman is like a computer what you put in what you get out so it's so that you present it to you Christ cleanses us whatever that he may present us to himself the Bible says he's coming for his bride without spot without wrinkle or Ennis he wants us to be as beautiful as possible so it means that for your wife to be as beautiful as possible you will have to cleanse her with the washing of the water by the oh this is encapsulated in husband's love your wife as I said are your duties mo and he says that without spot or wrinkle or any such thing so if your wife has pimples after marriage who put it at your doorstep because it's supposed to be without spot without wrinkle without any blemish and even as we say Lord you create an umbrella or any such thing or any such thing what you put in your wife you present to yourself and because we are all selfish and self-centered if we know those to our benefit it may give us better incentives we have to do so ought men to love their wives as their own bodies he that loveth his wife loveth himself he that loveth his wife loveth himself so if you want to see somebody who hates himself look at how he is with his wife because he that loveth himself it is trying to say that's for your own benefit it's for your own good in fact I didn't know you know I know that it's important to have a wife and order but this week one of my relatives fell ill he doesn't have a wife so it's calling me calling my sister we are going we are taking the chance we are making soup we are making breakfast we are me then we all stop then say my the other wife oh these problems then I called my mother my mother said oh here's the we as a young coupon boy I don't care whether men go to space or they go to but he guarantee if you don't have it we can see and she said it was God's idea oh it's not good for him to be alone as he has been discharged now we've taken you to my sister's house it's no good oh he has everything well endowed money everything but you two who were there so you are actually presenting to yourself to yourself a glorious church motifs country church not something but something for your benefit husbands shouting amen [Applause] they might presented to himself he says for no man ever to he that loveth his wife loveth himself for no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it even as the Lord the church do you know what these verses tell me miss Gosselin as for men is very high rule and frightening it says no man yet hated his own body but nourishes you see you nourish as soil because at a point that new trends come out of it you nourish your body because at a point all your energy and every and food vitamins and all that nourish you so you are supposed to nourish your wife I'm so glad I didn't write any of these assume I'm not a but no man hated his own fair but nourishes you nourish has spiritually or she has become the high priest of the house all prayer topics are in my house my father was the spiritual high priest every morning yes he's weighing then he stands in the middle there's a room that he stands in the middle and he starts to sing their Lord is in his holy temple means money devotion has begun then we all start to come let all the earth keep silent before him that we all sits you pray with us share the Bible and my father's prayer - it has in custody - in it in Kosrae chew in the sense that when he wants to tell you something he may tell you in prayer so my sister and I are going to Lake on and we are having the last one in devotion before we leave and he says he sprays a rod see my children are like flowers the boys the boys the boys they want to touch them Jesus cover them as they go to make on it runs were a new day and we are help but he was taking this as the high priests of the house and he also said that in this house we go to church in this house we go to church whether you have come from where you have come from as for church no compromise so even though my Big Brother's sometimes the width doable eights then they'll go to the judges before offering how they walk to bring then they'll see my father my father have been nodding his head yes you came thirty first night they'll be coming from the nightclub when they hear the method is the ring a bell but the bell goes in the other so when there's a we praise the O Lord are coming with offer them to come and you will be not in that yes but at least he ensured that he was a high priest and the one he dieded they were right of their tribute I said that when we get lost in the course of life the coordinates of your compass was the Word of God and the church bringing us back to where we have to be by you you have abdicated every priestly role you have it the headship is also spiritual yes you can delegate but don't delegate all the time and everything amen love it and nourisheth and cherisheth to cherish is to hold dear to cherish is to treat as important to cherish is to hold in high esteem is our duties of a husband that's Christ nourisheth and cherisheth it even as the Lord the church so in saying that if you want to know what it has managed to do look at Christ and how he handles the church so we are supposed to nourish some ties you nourish with knowledge sometimes you nourish your relationship with gifts sometimes you nourish with appreciation sometimes you nourish with money but you every did they ask for pocket money is World War 2 I think that the reason why men do that is sometimes they really don't have and it's opposite to dancing I don't have it so head their ego so they do become a big quarrel I gave you last week how come did it a nourishes and cherishes has to give his best to hair sacrificially presented back to himself nourish and cherish share with the word and with physical things the man is presented the woman back to himself it is for his own good to let her feel loved wanted and accepted I mean don't say women are always shifting the goalposts don't say I don't know what to do again if Jesus were to say that to you you and I will not be here but rather look for more ways and sometimes counseling you see in the church we like to feel or behave as everything is perfect every marriage you have challenges but when you need help you need what oxygen and you need to be put on a lifesaver you must go for it and the marriage counseling department in every church must be there to help couples along the difficult part and also creates a place of trust not that when I come and share tomorrow morning it's in daily guide no it should not be your CNN or watching - no okay the third duty so the second duty is to love which already now you are becoming discouraged number three make her feel happy at home proverbs chapter five verse eight let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth now when you read at least justice ninety-nine it says live joyfully with the wife warm Dow lovest all the days of thy life of dive anity which he had given the Under the Sun all the days of thy vanity for that is thy portion in this life and in thy labour which thou takest under the Sun nicest live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days live joyfully that joy depends on you the man live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest I thought if you loved him joy her love would be natural but because it's also divine love is not always a feeling and love is not always what you feel like doing but you do it because God's Word says so and that God blesses you for your obedience amen they live joyfully with the wife of the youth whom thou lovest all the days of thy vanity for that is thy portion every man must know that yes a portion you don't have the whole plate what you have is what is on your plates some of us when we go to restaurants we order then we look at it was about this month's posh portion is bigger or is nicer the table across it's nicer sometimes we ask or what are they eating we want the same but once it's come onto your plate is your portion so you need to look look at your wife ask your portion what Jerry should maintain in bed the Bible says for this is your portion in this life in heaven there's no marriage be but there's a marriage because Jesus says the marriage of the lamb is going to marry us I thought you could have left us as his children but he decided to marry her so marriage is held in high esteem by God amen but he says that this is your portion what is in your plate weather is llamado weather is yoga Gary that is your portion so stop looking across the window brothers and say no if I admired the sister if I might one day I went somewhere with a lady and the man savviness was so gracious so nice so humble so self how'd you say selfless and then the lady said Oh Papa dear in Japan he's very kind I said I wouldn't not Sanada as the lady would not have said oh but I can see how he's this is that anyway it came to pass that this man and his wife came for marriage counselor and that lady said every time we have an argument he just goes when he goes he returns after four days so we're all in a team and this lady who had said papain you in your prime so I asked him I mean as a widow before you go for four days why am i late Reverend because you know I'm angry so when I'm angry like that's I mean I just want peace so I need four days to cool down see what you are not married to him you will see that aspect you don't know that when he gets and before this he goes because he's being country is giving you this you have this dude oh that is true but it's not the whole picture but that is your portion and you have to make it work amen I am NOT saying it is good oh who come to key of acceptance but I'm saying that everybody has a portion and the portion that falls on your plate if you are not like that you will always think that the grass is green on the other side and you will always lead a dissatisfied life and you will always virtually be unfaithful because you feel that this cannot be your portion do you see I have seen people change so much I have seen a wife who was on missions with a husband terrible problem she said me short missions mish mish mish what I am NOT going to be on any missions so in the end the husband aborted the mission and was coming back when they tell Alyssa to this mess let's read this our know read I do this I'm the husband would go into the woods and intercede for her she said to me that one day she was in her room and then Jesus just walked in and said look you are misbehaving and all that but it's because you are afraid and he started to pray for her receive grace receive grace the grace just fill the room she has turned like 19 me for many years now and when you go to a church she's the main person supporting a husband doing visit the husband says once mommy I'm so blessed did he know when she sees me she was talking she just cries she just cries mommy it was mixed with depression and other things so yes things happen in mind but often it's a season so hold your portion well and nourish and cherish it and ask God for grace grace to handle the portion because the okay Gary posh is different from the watch a portion although they all evolved beans amen verses God didn't call you to be happy God called you to be faithful and in the midst of it he will cost you to live joyfully amen let's have feel accepted and special because if you cherish somebody you make her feel special stay at home stay at home to spend time with her as often as possible and provide companionship I want a problem no sometimes I think God put two very incongruous things together because most men are no Weber that's how God made them I believe they don't talk a lot when they go somewhere you come you ask them how was it good what there everybody how did it end well and then you the wife if you are not experiencing he doesn't talk he just said then even when you start to ask questions you know sometimes ask my husband how did it go good I feel good ok so who came I don't know everybody was there I don't know did the mother come the father did you see the cousins I didn't see I said they came then when I first married he goes by wedding I'm not able to go and he comes out saying what was the bride's dress like the bride's dress I didn't see it the price dress but now he tells me I noticed every dress what has happened he has learned how to be a companion to his wife so at the beginning he does not notice the dresses but now he can tell me oh the dress was nicely seemed to have something behind it and it fell headlines by his better [Applause] it's better than the beginning so husbands and even wives we are not supposed to live for ourselves we come to marriage thinking that he had a genie but actually you are coming to give I remember years ago I was young and I went in a Methodist Church and the priest said that marriage is a fancy wait and I was very surprised that me Romano Namira G on a new marriage well Romano nama Ricci me Romano nama regime on in your marriage so you give marriage is giving it's not about you but as you obey you see that you are building a healthy home Colossians 3:19 husbands love your I don't know God keeps happy on this love love love hmm husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them however @d do not be harsh with them New Living Translation Amen brothers hush ansa high streets meant you see a woman is different from you she is not she may look strong but emotionally I know she's not like you she's not as strong as you so you may think that oh I just shouted and we can just flow but as you are shouting a fragile vessel is being broken over it's true that you shout out of frustration but if you are conscious I don't have to be harsh these things were written more than 2,000 years ago it means that God really knows who should not be harsh with them that's also the husband - that is part of making heavy listen to her a lot that's a big job for a husband listen to her even my husband he says he said he's learnt to listen but sometimes when I talk I can see that he is doing his own thing his changing is Jonathan you say oh yeah yeah yeah mommy what did you see as own States again it's okay so I was listening I thought you said that this data and I just lost you somewhere along the line you see so listen to her a lot and encourage here to talk some of us we don't need to encouragement so it doesn't apply to so every white because if you encourage us it will not be good my husband says he doesn't need a video in his house yes one a living one in a number for respect and honor he first Peter 3 verse 7 likewise ye husband's dwell with them according to knowledge giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel the vessel the vessel the container is weaker and has been another contents but the vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered husbands could it be your prosperity your breakthrough your health challenges because of the way you treat your wife because your parents can be hindered you want your ministry to grow is not growing they you see on annoying indirectly because you are treating here not well I didn't say dwell with them he didn't say experience with them dwell means living for a long time dwell with them according to knowledge because when you know it changes you remember others in remember why do you say that when I got to know what my husband's temperament was it helped me to know that in certain things he's not out to get me but that's how God has made him a man will come to temperaments but for instance if you have a choleric husband usually he puts things direct and straight he doesn't have a major ian putting things to make you happy or nice he tells you as it is but if you have knowledge that the person's temperament is this it helps you not to feel that the press is out to get me in the same way if you have knowledge about your wife as the weaker vessel you would dwell with it according to knowledge I am with a delicate thing I am with a delicate thing her mouth is not delicate but the verse the vessel is delicate it means that our advice is treated affects a so you have to try amen for your own good so that your prayers will not be hindered so sometimes our prayers are being hindered and we don't even know let's have feel important with you especially in public chop about hair positively when you praise somebody the person gets better when you are cues and criticize all the time the person gets worse is just like that with you my nature it's like the men if you're a wife every day you are pointing out your husband's mistakes he doesn't become better but when you praise him he rises to the occasion number five protect and care for hey first Peter 3:7 the Bible says given on a protector from the strain of housework sometimes say oh I bought this watch a let's eat it instead of every day she's in the kitchen every day she's in the kitchen sweating sometimes take her out going out does not until a lot of money amen for many years when my husband was taking me out you buy one portion of spring rolls and then we will share and even in our adult years we go to places we just buy kebab then we pack somewhere we just eat the kebab with coke and we are happy you know so it's not always very expensive whatever but spending time with her and concentrating on her more than on your phone and on your television because what you invest in you get you see so please as you are scheduling your meetings your time to meet this person to meet boysboys schedule also your wife on your schedule and then she's the protector from the attacks of relatives and friends as the weaker vessel some of you you have painted your wife so black to your relatives that she cannot do well and then she's more susceptible to attacks being the weaker vessel especially psychological and emotional I read a book it says women have more problems with depression than men because I think also of this weaker vessel syndrome helped her to organize her life a timetable planning help her okay and then work hard to provide for the needs of the family first Timothy 5:8 but if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his own house he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel he's no Wesson Anna he's not an unbeliever he's worse than an infidel if he does not provide for his home amen so the husband is also supposed to be a provider a provider doesn't mean you should steal to provide but within what you have you provide now that the children's fees are paid everything is outstanding and you you are building your family housing who you know we have to look at all that and when we say that protect and care for her how do you celebrate your wife if you nourish and cherish a have you ever given her a gift ever giving her money oh honey it's Christmas this time is not about buying things for the house it's about buying things for yourself go and be happy but every time you say you are buying a gift for her the first gift was a frying pan for you and the children the second gift was a blender for you and the children that it was a bad sheet for you and the children it's time to give us something that we laid to him Amen men so we need to be a bit more discerning and you need to buy gifts for your wife not that you shouldn't buy something you cannot afford but buy something that is meaningful even within your means and I believe that it will change the atmosphere in your home finally provide for her sexually understand that the wife also has sexual needs amen by you Ray the voices are coming back but as you provide for her sexually you need to know her sexual needs I am sure wish of Fabian will come to that but it is said that women are pressing machines personal ions and men are light switches as soon as you put it on play they come on a woman is an ion it takes a while for hair to heat up and you are always coming as if it's Mission Impossible you just want to be happy and leave you don't want to involve them you don't want to see what makes a happy you know what it's God who created here that we who is not she who has made herself that way the whole day you have not minded here in the night when you stretch your hand and she says who is it you say Atia but is that her fault it's a true story in the stage somebody touched his wife so who is that you say at sea another one said armed robber but you don't do that you don't mind you you don't tell any plans that you are doing especially if you are choleric your mind faster than you whatever so a lot of issue doesn't know a lady came to see me she said of my husband he provides it's okay but I live in a magical world the furniture is magic that the carpet is magic everything I do not know about it I don't I'm not as what I like this color weather everything's just done then the husband says she doesn't appreciate me but you have left her out of everything so know how to operate the present I own if you operate the present I own like a light switch it often will not work because it's made that way by God welcome to duties of the wife don't worry so take your time take her out talk to her talk to her softly give her the wraps you used to give it before you married him before you might have you said that she was only mosquito mosquito net today you don't even mentioned then you say wine wine wine wine from crying abre white wine furniture Libra why why I know a lady like that says she might that has never mentioned their name they be be my wine and when she touches the hey Russia America movie was all from any frozen somebody said to the beloved call me baby other way Alcala true-life counseling's have done through life later element in Sao Paulo was a real friend babe Williamson any romantic or it's Yosha Amen so God has looked at all the facets of our lives and he has provided us with wisdom to know what to do so these are the duties of a husband if only we will listen to him I think that we will have great success men second Timothy 1:9 the Bible says about God who has saved us and called us with a holy calling not according to our works but according to what his own purpose and grace so husbands whatever purpose God has for you you give you the attendant grace to be able to do it amen duties of the wife [Applause] sadly my class is broke anyway it was created to be Adams helm meet therefore whatever the woman does her motive must be to help project motivate uplift and promote her husband let's go back to Ephesians five because the Bible outlines the duties of the wife day man [Music] officials chapter 5 is 22 at this juncture I like to read from amplified because it makes the sister see their duties properly wives be subject be submissive and adapt yourselves to your own husband's as a service to the Lord ma ladies wives be subjects be submissive and adapt yourselves not somebody should force you to adapt by yourself adapt it doesn't say wife husband should force you to submit alone wives submit yourselves and amplified says be submissive and adapt yourself they driven what does it mean to adapt yourself adapt yourself to his temperament adapt yourself to the kind of work he does adapt yourself to God's calling on his life adapt yourself to his preferences adapt yourself to his decisions adapt yourself to his plans look Mary Jane is not for children who you have your PhD and you have brought yourself to adapt to a degree man because my just not about who you are and what you have it's about God's order in the home these wives be subject to that means be submissive and adapt yourselves some of you are forced to adapt you are forced to by talking kicking of a husband abuse accusations that's what causes you to submit but God didn't intended that we intended you to willfully and willingly adapt yourself some of us our husbands work late it is not that it is so exciting but you need to develop adaptation strategies for instance my husband over the years we come late home and sometimes I take the lead when the children started coming and then he would come late so I may be in bed then but in order to adapt myself I had to get up and sit by him and give him food to eat it came to pass after some years after 40 that I was not hearing when he came because I do hear because I don't know whether after 40 that sleep was deep by short anyway then he started to sell you here I don't you know I sleep very deep so how was I going to adopt so I told the security man when Bishop comes call me from the gate so that I'll know that he's here and then I can wake up before he enters the room it is not always easy on conducive but at least the person can see that you are trying do you see so that is adapting because sometimes when you don't adapt then new people will never meet there'll never be a time to talk never had time to fellowship because you are not able to adapt yourself sometimes adapting yourself means when your husband says we have an outing in the office they say we should come with our spouses don't say that my marriage sign your man a man peko adapt yourself some of you are not suitable at all I have some in this church the husband said let's go to a Mina Beach let's spend the weekend she will never go take her out let's buy clothes she will have a good life I know her live and in color I'm always missing the even wanna a couples something to go to Coconut Grove like I said this ticket I have one was a use she will never go adapt to yourself and the husband is this your yo partying type you know so you adapt yourself to come along a bit Amen ladies so submission means adapting yourself to the man that God has given you continue please okay can we go back to my own Bible for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is a head of the church himself the Savior's but as that church is subject to Christ one verse I forego said that wives submit yourselves unto your husband's as unto the Lord beloved if that phrase were not there it would be impossible because sometimes you know you just don't feel that you should submit but when you look at the Lord as answer that do it as if you are doing it unto the Lord because if you look you say no lady Reverend he doesn't treat me well he doesn't do things right why should I submit with no lady Reverend I'm funny baby Naaman for me baby no but if you look at the Lord say God you are the reward God you are the one who asked me I'm doing this because you said it every hard sedative no Cronus say okay bear battle in the house but because it's us unto you it's a sacrificial thing you do it when you feel like submitting and when you don't feel like it meant the wives it also says that we should submit unto our own husbands because we are good at submitted to other people's husbands now ladies but our own baby I always say when your boss to go to wake your boss is can I have a cup of tea you see boys which flavor green tea Earl Grey just made five roses ribose which one then you come home your husband says can I have a cup of my cats on this one whom you cats only see one whom win we are good at adapting to our bosses and the rudeness with which we talk to her husband will never talk to our bosses away never because the boss yes of course marriage is a different village is not employer-employee but I think God knew a lot of things that's why I put to your some of you you are very submissive to your pastas is good is scripture but so your own husband is a problem and sometimes husbands resent pastors and bosses because of that because they can see your submission is tops when it comes to those people when it comes to your own husband nayaka deliver us Lord amen for the husband is a head of the wife as Christ is the head of church himself the savior owes as this church is subject to Christ so let's wives be to their husbands in everything hmm Amen so let wives be subject to their husbands in everything what does amplified c25 the church is subject to Christ so that's why it's also in ioki in everything now when it talks about wives to be submissive to their own husbands some women do not love the man they marry I think it's true some women fall out of love and either way with the man they marry the reasons for this may include the following she married him because of material benefits she wanted to acquire or you married him because you are going out or you got yourself pregnant by accident and it drove you to marry if this is the case we can ask God for forgiveness and pray for grace for what is weight teaches us to do it will be difficult to perform marital acts without love so we need to also walk in love Titus 2:4 says the older women should teach the younger women apart from other things to love their husbands amen so lovely your husband is something that has to be taught you and it is your duty no Bible says that the older men should teach the younger to love their husbands because although you married them because you loved him the love has waned if your love for God grows cold I've got revelations so have this against you so you have left your first love so even your walk with God it happens how much more your walk with a human being who doesn't treat you like God has the Bible is saying that younger women should love should be taught to love their husbands so love is also one of the things that a wife is supposed to do as her duty so you submit to your own husband's first Peter 3 1 2 3 wives in the same way be submissive to your husband so loving your husband is one thing one duty and submitting to him is also another duty so first it's a 3 1 2 3 wives in the same way we submissive to your husbands so that if any of them do not believe the weight they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives when they see the purity and reverence of your lives your beauty should not come from outward adornment such as braided hair and wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes amen pizza is saying that wives should be submissive to their husbands even the unbelieving ones amen and that's why the Bible says when you are married marry a man who is a believer but if for some reason you have ended up with an unbelieving husband the Bible is saying there's a way to live amplified says in like manner you married women be submissive to your own husband's subordinate yourselves has been secondary to and dependent on them and adapt yourselves to them can you make yourselves I can be to anybody marriage is one of the major second issues you make yourself secondary because we are so used to putting ourselves fists but marriage tries that aspect of you the selfish aspect to view so you become secondary to his decisions second you see sometimes people marry the woman says I want to live in America the mind says we are living in Ghana whose word prevails you have to be second richer I have educated friends who were lawyers bright people their husbands where other professions may be medicine engineering whatever took them to America when they got there you have degrees I have degrees you have SPFs degree yeah post graduates I have postgraduate so now who stays at home that decision who often come from the two of you talking but often is the man's decision sometimes I've had couples where the man says you have medical doctor mean and medical doctor in America no matter how many years I wake your work will be more whatever so I will do this other kind of job by you do but it is still his decision amen sometimes when you've both arrived you both have masters everybody wants further education who should go first you are going to be secondary to when it's his decision it's your discussion both of you by the decision because everything with two heads is a freak every shape has one head even aeroplanes have one head even nations have one head so if your house has two heads it's awake amen and this one is saying even if you may an unbeliever adapt to and make yourself a second make yourself a second rich it's not easy Maslin would say it doesn't depend on your smartness of that size even in school you did better than him you did better but this is where we are amen okay he says that so that everyone believed a husband does not obey the weight he will be born over with your way but I don't think this verse is only for unbeliever husbands I feel that in marriage that comes a time when what your spouse should do he doesn't do and in that case he's not obeying the weight so the Bible is telling you what to do when they are those pockets also in your own life he says that there will be one without weights how many of you know that women are very verbal we think that when we talk more it will be understood better but it's an illusion amen so when we are discussing something we discuss we say this is a problem the one the process now we actually say oh he doesn't understand let me now go and bring a dictionary for more weights so you bring a dictionary more ways it's not working that's okay let me get a Tesoro's for more ways to get that this or antonyms lean on him is still no what is okay now I'll use diagrams I will get a graph you get a graph in stone away because is not talking talking sometimes makes them most up on the brothers am i right by God in His wisdom says there would be one without weights but with behavior it's not easy but he's showing you the way of escape in that temptation in men ladies ladies are too quiet so duties to love your husband submit to your husband keep the home titles 2.5 that they may teach the young woman blah-blah-blah-blah to be keepers at womb keepers at poom beloved we have come across a generation that is not thinking about the home at all I have come across so many young ladies that I have had to personally tutor and send to be treated to know how to make even basic gravy it's a problem but the Bible says younger women should be taught to be keepers at home it is not because you are inferior it's just difference in rows amen you may be educated you may have more degrees than the thermometer but it is your duty to be a keeper at home amen a keeper at home doesn't mean you don't have help because the Bible says about the virtuous woman she wakes up early to give bread to her maidens so she has help but the real controller an accountant general in the womb is you amen switch is your duty so if we come to the womb it's smelling of wee-wee because you have little children I went to ever say holy dear ever don't sit down on where Joseph was so fun we Nina and you are there how can I believe it so don't say my friends were being Caterson all the surface they are we really know hey keep at home everything is dirty everything is disarray my husband comes from where he can relax it's not going away you save gone for 90s Christians of today you've gone for a night Kampai Bacchus here for a kiss here you are going for things but to be a keeper at home is a problem says that he who does not take care of his home it's worse than an infidel and if you didn't grow up that way you can learn it now there's even everything's on the Internet I went to Denmark the pastor was telling me that when he told his daughter Mik jollof gwenlyn from mommy said that he don't worry it's on the Internet no I don't need to go to my miss kitchen two lanes on the Internet and she went to make the internet your love - and its weight - amen so please we need to keep the home who come today towards our wife in closing I'm closing soon but you need to keep the home sometimes their supplies in the home we all get to know that there's no toilet room at crucial times if it happens once in a while fine but every day every day we don't have milk just a ton of milk mother usually will have plenty but planning and keeping the home well it is a job but it is our responsibility and we should be able to do it amen the woman tells children house help including husband you are keeping all of them at home and when you create the right atmosphere make it their home that he's always happy to come to where he fused others peace there's hot meals there's a receptive wife keepers at home amen provide so we have love your husband submit your husband keep the home provide sexually for your husband every wife has a god-given duty to satisfy their sexual needs of a husband usually the need to have sex is greater for a month and for a woman usually but these days and and many wise find their husbands persistent advances for sex a bother why should no understand that she does not take care of a husband she may push him to seek fulfillment as elsewhere and this will lead to a lot of hats a campaign it is therefore in her own interest to satisfy him sexually at whom Amen now I believe that the reason why many of us have bad behavior - what sex is because we feel that our bodies are our own but the Bible says that your body belongs to your husband and your husband's body also belongs to you 1st Corinthians 7 7 reading from verse 2 nevertheless to avoid fornication let every man has his own wife and let every woman have her own husband let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband the wife does not have power of her own body is your own body but you don't have power over it the hall has come alive but the husband and likewise also the husband does not have power over his own body but the wife number 5 FS right defraud ye not one another except it be with consent for a time everybody say for a time but he may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency amen amplified says do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other of your dual marital rights except perhaps by mutual consent for a time so that you may devote yourselves to an hinder to prayer but afterwards resumed marital relations another verse they come together quickly why let's Satan tempt you to sin through your lack of restraint of sexual desire defrauding is a crime under at 29 of our Criminal Code so when you deep-fried your husband you are a criminal and what happens to criminals they are sent to jail the body is not yours this is your own body but you don't have Qala but you think you have power that's right that night you drop the hand away because you think you have gone you don't know you don't have power over your own body and if something is for somebody like this bag is for the church when they ask for it you just give it to them because it's not yours in the same way when you know that your body is not yours and when it is asked for ladies you will give it my lord it is yours harvests a man ladies and what does the Bible say say sir come together quickly for a time lest in case Satan tempts you Christians have allowed a lot of unnecessary temptations in our marriages because you you live in London your husband lives here or you live in land your husband lives telling you live here you are wiser than God and when so many things are coming in for many years you say oh lady Reverend is financial but the Bible said come together quickly let's Satan since some people Carson later on believing God to have a child is really where's your husband oh he's Las Palmas where is that Oh in Spain and you are here yes when was the last time he came here oh like two years lady Reverend I say you are believing God for a baby are you Virgin Mary or what are you so we create problems for ourselves it's not only money that is important your marriage is also important amen so provide for him sexually and just like in your cooking you bring different types of menu in the bedroom to be adventurous artistic and with new ideas [Music] provide nice food for your husband in spite of being a keeper at home provide nice supportive company and friendship chat with him when he's quiet encourage him when he's down hearted and I would say learn things that he wants to talk about you see some people Oh your conversation is about other people gossip maybe otherwise spirituai is not interested in that all your discussion you've never witnessed which our topic the mantra is a serious Christian he loves God he is doing God's work and all your conversation you have nothing to talk about God's Way it is a problem so learn to buy into his type of conversation so that they'll be fellowship at home amen so we've had six things I hope you have them love your husband submit your husband keep the home provides sexually provide nice food provide nice supportive company be a virtuous woman that's all listed in proverbs 31 a husband has confidence in Havis 11 she's helpful and encourages him verse 12 she's hard-working by stating him 14 she rises early to pray and wake he depends on when you slept she's a good planner considers before buying she's not lazy does not leave all wait for the household she helps out financially when possible she lends a craft or treat bring something of value to your marriage she's kind verse 20 she does not drive a way visitors but his hospitable verse 20 was 22 she dresses well to look at tractive to her husband the Bible says that her clothing is scarlet and purple amen but you every time you are home you are wearing ragam offering tone things know that you don't have I've been wanna cry aha the baby has vomited here your hair's like Bob Molly Oona and Yahoo know some of you when you are pregnant we are gonna you start to spit now you change your gauge you work somewhere if you looked at tractive to get him look attractive to stay with him amen so you have to take cognizance of your dressing and wake on it dressing is not money dressing is dress well look decent and look attractive it's not money amen as Bishop says when the wives arrived they take off their week they can't recognize them but you can do something nice under so the way you will remove that cup you still look good amen don't wear some bandana some cup some your scarf it's like a we are also on top so don't say that pay me I mean we're a me I'm doing a banquet I'm doing I don't know where to turn lady river you will know where to turn in the cooking too you can look nice you can wear nice apron with your short jeans shorts because you are the only one with a husband and it's gonna wake a men it is better to dwell in the corner of a house talking than with a brawling woman in a large house she's a virtuous woman who the Bible says she in hello the law of kindness and she opens her mouth with wisdom she does not argue constantly or disagree vehemently Amen I have found ladies on either side that the best way is to try an axe it doesn't just happen but you try and listen to the person and find all the good points in what he's saying then if later you have something that you think won't wake you come and say it later it works better but if in the same forum as other person speaks you shoots down what the person is saying it doesn't work it is not something you become immediately you to be your life less than your whole life but at least is worth attempting amen so nagging makes it better to dwell in the corner of the roof than with you so nagging is not a way forward amen the virtuous woman is not idle or a busybody verse 28 her children and her husband are proud of her in verse 30 a woman who fears the Lord I believe as she is able to do all this because she fears the Lord and with that we bring the curtain down on the duties of the spouses god bless you

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