Advice On Raising Children - Sheikh Abu Usamah At-Thahabi

Oh it's banana raheem alhamdulillahi rabbil aalameen well are people to move the team when I heard one in the olive Valley mean salawatullahi wa salaam Ivana maybe you know I mean well Ali he was hobby he ajma'in wa elemental moussaka basu Nettie he be a sanam in a young Dean the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has informed us and welded femoral to tell the child the person's child is the harvest of his heart whatever it is that the person is trying to grow in whatever it is he's trying to develop his business his money the size of his account whatever it is there's nothing or there should be nothing more dearer to him and more closer to him than trying to develop him to grow his offspring so we are all either offsprings of people and as a result we are and we were and we continue to be inshaallah the harvests of their hearts and many of us we have our own children who allow us to relate to this hadith and they are a harvest of the heart of each and every one of us doesn't mean that we are the excellent parents that we want to strive to be but the point is the person buys into the concept that the child should be one of the closest issues to him in his existence in regards to the topic and the way that it has been given a title how to grow our children to be the Imams of tomorrow I want to first make this point that we shouldn't understand that the Imam for tomorrow means that he has to be a scholar well he has to be the Imam who leaves us a lot because that's not why Jeep upon us if everyone were to be a scholar then the dunya would be problematic we want our children in Shaolin this talk is about how to make our children Imams of tomorrow meaning Shahla that there are their Imams in the Dean and Imams in the dunya we have to have children who are going to be our future GPS or one to be the future economists who want to be the future electricians and bus drivers and other than that if every single human being was any man then our lives would be problematic and although in the Quran Allah with Allah has described the servants of his the rebadow Rahman in surat al-furqan at the end of the description of volatile and said well edenia Pulu narayana huh blenheim in as regina with vari yeah Tina Kurata Lyon was a Lolita Tina Amana from the Torah of the righteous people the rebadow Rahman is that they say o our Lord given to us wives and offspring who will be the Kula of our eyes and make us imams for the people of a taqwa make us imams of the mooc 13 not just the fathers or the husbands but make our wives imams and make our children a man's as well that's the dua of the rebadow right man but that doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be an imam and the Dean asked allah any man is the person who is what the cut them in the thing that he's doing he is the person who tada B he is being followed so we want our children and our youngsters to be those people who have groundbreaking work in regards to the different different sciences of the dunya so let us not just focus on this topic being about making our children the Imams of the dunya in the Deen you know we want our children to excel academically in the secular sciences as well that's the first point honey second point is we have to know when we have to understand as we do in sha Allah but the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has brought a religion in which he deals with everyone and everything he has explained everything in his religion and he deals with everything and everyone in his religion as allies which I'll mention in the Quran when Azana in al-kitab ax tibi anima kaliesha we have revealed to you ya Muhammad this book and it makes everything clear everything he told our akhada mentioned in the Quran Allah ma farratna fi l-kitabi min shay'in' we have not left out anything in this book everything has been explained in this poor on in the Deen of Allah who subhana wa ta'ala and he dealt with everybody everyone without any exception allahu taala said in the quran wa ma arsalnaka in the cafe tendinous bashira when Avira we have not sent you O Muhammad except that we sent you to all of the people without any exception all of the people he told him in the Quran they say Paul yeah I even ask in me Rasul Allah he alaykum Jamia oh you people I am The Messenger of Allah to all of you that includes includes the Arabs and the non Arabs the people were living during his time and in his environment and those who came after him who never saw him those who saw him those who didn't see him men and women the white and the black the rich and the poor the children and the non and the people who are not children the Muslim and the Nam's a prophet sallallaahu Hollywood seldom has been sent to address the issues of the children we have in the Quran ample examples of that as far as the Sunnah is concerned hadith willahara CH the Quran addresses the children throughout the Quran from the beginning of it to the in Devon and I'm talking about specifically not in general terms Allah Allah mentioned just as an example there are many yeah a Ujala Dena Amman yesterday no cumin live in America a monokuma live in Allah meeya blue beautiful men come fella the Marathi men troubling salat Allah Federer Mahina Todd Aruna Thea becoming of the Hara mmm body salat Elisha the Latha a lot Aleppo oh you who believe you parents oh you who believe you people who have money or you who believe let your servants those who you own doing the pastimes your servants you have servants and workers who are with you right now let your servants and those who have not reached the age of puberty your children let them seek permission to come into your private chambers three times let them seek permission to come into your private chamber in the bedroom where the mother and father's before salat alfu and let them do the same thing after salat over the time of the tallulah which is the Sunnah and is one of the students that has practically died because of a lifestyle that we have still is operative in the Muslim world where after the Muslim works and he prays a lot of or he comes home and he takes a small nap the pale Ulla let your children seek permission to enter into you upon your private chambers at this time Allah said because the time you take your phobes off your clothes off and the third and final time let them seek permission to enter into your private chambers after salat Elisha these are three times there are the times of your hour the time when you may be in a position or in a state which is not appropriate for the child to see the model of a father in that state the man is married to a lady a woman who has children from a previous marriage he has to be sensitive to not allowing those children who are not his children to see him and their mother in a state that is not appropriate for those children at that age this is one of the many examples of the Quran where our religion addresses the issue of teaching our children etiquette and edit and how the Quran addresses directly the issue of the children and there are many ayat and as I mentioned concerning the Sunna for hadith willahara CH there are too many examples in the Sunna many people focus upon that hadith about the salat when the children are seven we have to command them to make the salat at the age of seven and then when they reach the age of ten we allowed to chastise them part of that hadith he told us Allah Woori will sell them with Fredrik obey know whom fill in my logic when your child reaches the age of 10 if they were sleeping in the same bed before the age of 10 once they reached the age of 10 you have to separate them in the bed from the bed that boy of that girl is separated from their siblings who are not yet at the age of 10 the girl at the age of 10 can possibly be visited for the first time by Hedorah Akram Kamala those things that happen to the women which is from the fitara that Allah has created the daughters of Adam upon some girls get it at 9 some 10 11 12 some later than that the point is al-islam the Deen of Allah the prophets of Allah saw them brought a religion that addresses these issues of our children so the one who wants to make his child and Imam for the future whether that Imam ship is in the Dean or the dunya then he has to grasp on and he has to hold on firmly he has to come to learn and buy into and practice and be committed to the book that the prophet brought sal allahu allahu allah and the teachers that come to us from his authentic sunnah therein lies the answer now this issue can be dealt with a honey from many many aspects the Quran is filled with volumes of examples of how this religion deals with the children we all read so total calf every single Friday we've memorized the first in ayat in the last 10 I act as a protection of and from the DeJong in surat al-kahf is called the surah of the cave because of those young people who made Hydra looking to safeguard the adine and to safeguard the dunya so it is given us lessons this story and so total calf about the importance of some of the efforts of the Shabaab in the past sort look man and the discussion in the Dowland and naseeha that he gave to his son many examples like that but in order to close down that which is wide and expansive I want to take an ayah from surah surah kahf al-kahf ayat number 35 where the Prophet was commanded some Allahu Allah was selling them individually and because he was commanded and we follow him we have been commanded as well Allah what Allah told him in the Quran first become a sovereign rule as me min and Russell ya Muhammad be patient the way they determined messengers were patient the rule Azzam be patient the way that determined messengers were patient these are for other messengers and prophets in the Quran and in Al Islam in addition to the prophet sallallahu wasallam who their status is above the other prophets and messengers of the Quran and allahu taala gives the tough deal to ever he wants to give to so you find their stories coming to us in detail in the quran more than the other prophets more than the other NB a-- and Russell and they are in chronological order be patient the way Noah Noah was praising be patient the way ibrahim was patient be patient and the way that moosa was patient and be patient in the way that he subbulu maryam was patient so the water'll why he was said my knee since these five prophets are the major prophets in Ellis lab we want to take a look at what transpired between them and the youngsters around them because if we want to know how to make our children the Imams of the future in the Dean or the dunya in the Dean or the dunya then these five major prophets their stories have been given to us and in their puzzles or their stories is an abra for the people who can reflect from the intelligent people we start off at Hawaii and it's only befitting to start off with Noah who was the first messenger sent to Benny Adam Adam was the first Nabi and nor was the first Rasul and in his story are a number of benefits first of all allahu taala mentioned from his long story the statement of Nora when Eliza Jo was going to destroy the earth at that particular time Nora said to a son who didn't want to ride with his father on the boat on the ark ya abhinaya Erica mono a lotta Kumail caffeine he said my son coming get on the boat and ride with us don't be with these go far don't remain behind leaving the people of al-islam and mixing and being with and living like the kuffar don't do that the boy responded he said sir are we in a jabbering y'all simony minute lot old father don't worry about me I'm going to go to a high mountain and the mountain is going to protect me from the flood Allah Allah mentioned that Nora said to a son that I see a million I mean I'm Annina in lemon Brian today there is nothing that's going to protect you from what Allah has ordered the only thing that's going to protect you is the Rama of Allah those people about Islam were riding on this boat they're the ones were going to be protected the story goes on number of things a long time to describe what happened to the earth itself in the water and so forth and so on then Noah he made a do on this is relevant and pertinent he called out to his Lord when I die no horrible for Karla be in Lebanon mentally when the white dacha al-haq will enter a Kamal hacking me North called out and said oh my lord early my son is from my family's from my family and you have promised me and your promise is the truth and you are the one who has the most wisdom and your judgment is going to be executed allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala said to North Raleigh are not in know who ladies I mean Ali and no Alan right oh sorry fellas Elleni my lease I like I be here any in me Luka and the kunam energy healing yeah I know your boy is not from your family your boy he's given to doing irreligious deeds now I'm warning you do not ask me about that which you have no knowledge about Nora it is from my color to destroy your boy it is for my cousin that if a person is on other than al Islam and follow them other than my way then you don't have a problem with what I have decreed Allah went on and he finished the ayah by saying and I also warn you about being from the ignorant people the first nubbie the first Russell Noah that we're going to deal with today in these small short verses that we mentioned to you very first thing that we want to bring to your attention and honey concerning our children in the future Shahla future Imams that we have to understand that the guidance is in the hands of Allah first and foremost the guidance is not in the hands of any of us we have little children Abdul Rahman Muhammad Allah Latifah another than that only Allah knows what's going to happen to those children in the future like what what happened with the son of nor the parent who thinks that he has it within his ability to make his child be successful in whatever he's sorely mistaken which brings me back to the first point honey about the Eman we don't want you to think Ben Eliezer Jenner has made it an obligation for your son or your daughter to be an imam in the Dean it's not an obligation and he didn't make it an obligation for them to be a doctor or lawyer or other than that the parent is an oppressive parent who may feel that he was an under achiever in his life and now he wants to live out his life or that which passed him by through his children so he puts a lot of pressure on the boy of the girl and the boy doesn't want to be a doctor the boy doesn't want to be the imam of the mischief the responsibility of the parent is to find out and to learn what are the qualities of the boy of the girl one of those things that that boy in that girl what are those things that cause them to be interested in that particular thing yes you can give them some ideas some examples to see how things go but too compelling to force your child to do that which is not inherently loved by him can be problematic he may despise you for that so in the story of North hizouse then the Islam of his son his son being saved it's not something that's in the hands of his father who was the first Russell what about the last Russell I will not be in our profits on Allah while he was selling Allah told him concerning his close relatives in Nicoletta demon except when I can allow a demon yes Shia Yamaha me you do not and you cannot guide those who you love but a lot guys whoever he chooses the guy enter to clear who knows hot a hakuna meaning ya Muhammad are you going to force the people until they become Muslims you're going to compel them you're going to compel your son and your daughter she doesn't want to wear hijab she doesn't want to be a Muslim that's not in your hands it was in your hands is to do your best to give the nice way the nice Dowell the nice teacher like we find with Nora Nora didn't cut his son off he called him throughout the story yeah boom a yeah boom a oh my young son oh my beloved son he didn't even want to leave the boy he made want to Elisha by July a la my son is from my family and you promised me and your promise is the truth that you won't the base me and put me down on the first Russell but allahu taala didn't promise nor that he would guide his son so allah threatened him and spoke to him and told him you don't ask about that which you have no knowledge about and i warn you of being of those people who are the ignorant ones which brings us to the next issue and in my manic the great scholar of islam and these lessons we heard something of his life he said that the sunnah of the prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was and is like the Ark of Noah whoever eyes it the Sunnah is going to be saved and successful whoever doesn't ride and he chooses to try to get on this mountain of that mountain then he's going to be destroyed it's going to be destroyed so individual like the people in the audience people want to be from Allah Sunnah people want to be practicing al-islam we want to be people who are with children or righteous when we find that our children are not give them with the program we shouldn't give up try to get them on the boat we should get them on board speak to them in nice terms and loving and endearing ways but we should never ever fool ourselves into thinking that guidance is in your hands guidance is not again what's in your hands is a dua what's in your hands has given them the good terbium and issues like that the last thing about the story of North honey is that with this story Nora said to his son ya boon Eric Amana will act upon ma and caffeine right with us come get on this boat and do not be with the kafar it's the responsibility of the man or the woman the mother of a father they want the children to be successful in the future however that success is determined not necessarily meaning having a lot of money not necessarily meaning that he's the imam of the masjid and the most knowledgeable person in the dunya but he's on the deen when the girl got married she got married and the father did a good job he was satisfied with her Tobia he did everything within his power and he's proud of the job that he did and completeness was only with allah part of that job and responsibility of honey is that the father and the mother like north son ought to lie you ceremony and safeguard and protecting the child's future we have to take a timeout to make sure that our children know the difference between Islam and Cofield between Muslims and co5 so that he protects any safeguards he holds on to his Islamic identity so the father knows who the son is going with and who the son is coming with what the Sun is doing and what the daughter is not doing they're not oblivious to the lives of what's going on with their children he has to teach them the issue of a Louella Wilber ah especially since they were born in this country and there are a lot of issues that can easily compromised our religion and they're young and they're young which brings us to the second rasul ii nebby from the v determined and major prophets and his story correlates and Carlisle's and parallels with the story of north and that's a brahim but Halil of allah when it came to this issue of and wallah al bara and safeguarding his children's islam and making a distinction in their hearts and their minds that yes everyone is Benny Adam but you were Muslim the father says to his son when he makes a mistake are you Muslim he says yes I'm a Muslim he said well Muslims don't do that he says to his daughter you a Muslim yes I'm a Muslim she made a mistake but Muslims don't do that mother the father they make sure they instill in the hearts and the minds of the children this issue we're different we're different Allah what Allah mentioned Ibrahim sallallahu alayhi wa sallam only and he has many issues to take benefits from Allah Allah mentioned who was saw a bee honey brahim ooh Benny here we are poo Carla yeah Benny in the last uh file Akuma Dean furniture mutiny Allah WA and two Muslim own and Ibrahim he took this was here out with his sons and so Jakub both of them said to their children all my children verily Allah has divinely chosen for you the religion so do not die except in the state of Islam it's the responsibility of the mother the father not just to take it for granted that your child is going to grow up as a Muslim taking the time out before your death not right before you die but during the course of your life sitting with your children and making that distinction in their minds and in their hearts he mentioned about Ibrahim about Ibrahim I'm come to shuhada if Hedorah Jakub and mode if Paulie Bini mother turbo dueling body carloon Abudu ilaha illah a bad day Brahimi with smile o is hop Aladdin wahida when 9/11 slimming and were you witnesses when death came to Yaqoob when he was about to die he gathered his children and he said to his children what do you people want to worship after me his children said we're going to worship your God and the god of your father's Ibrahim and Ismail and is hop one gun and we are to him submitting as Muslims though we'll see you so that when the father dies and he checks out he did his job yomo p.m. he stands before Allah he said I did my job yes I brought him in an environment I raised them in an environment I didn't do everything that I possibly could in terms of Hedgehog because I didn't find a way out but while we were here I made the jihad in the struggle to do my best to maintain to safeguard their Islam to let them know that they were Muslims and that the identity was different from the identity of those people or not upon the religion you want your child to be an imam in the future and whatever capacity that is as you're going to see in sha allah then make sure that you do with that never did in that rasul Ibrahim ya Pope and how they gathered their children during the course of their lives and at the time when death came free myself if my child falls short and he goes outside of the Deen and there are people right here honey who are suffering right now from our children our brothers our sisters who they're not even Muslims they are past stated from the religion outright apostate we're not talking about they're not practicing apostate it from the Deen Abraham in his story another very important issue and taken from the five messages in the five profits from the Allah Azzam Allah Allah mentioned about Ibrahim in his son phenomena Tamar was I call a abhinaya in my era phenomenom and Nia Baraka for mother Tara from dorm a deterent Korea a Betty if Alma - Tamara cittadini inshallah - sovereign when Ibrahim was with his son and his son reached the age of assertion the age in which he can work the age in which he can discern because his father used to spend time with him when he reached that age where he can work and he can get on for himself Ibrahim said to his son smile o my son where did I see in a vision I see in a dream that I have slaughtered you go and look and tell me what's your opinion about what that vision is saying the boy without hesitating said o my father do whatever you have been commanded to do you're going to find me from those people were patient this is important in honey for the father's were here and the mothers as well well Emma Bella Tamar now who say when his son they reached the age where the boy was at the stage of assertion or animal Islam said that Ibrahim used to spend time with his boy and he grew and he developed his boy as a result of being with his boy he had a good idea about what the response of the boy was going to be he had a lot of a lot to do with the response of the boy go ahead and slaughter me you want to find me a shout live from the sobbing not just like that the father doesn't know the boy he doesn't know the boys likes he doesn't know anything about his son he spends no time with his son so the father has a vision not a vision like Ibrahim comes up with an idea I want to open up a family store a chip shop other than that he comes to one of his sons and says oh my son had vision I want to open up a stone keep it open so many hours and I want you to make a sacrifice and work eight hours on the weekend you think this boy is going to say do what you want father you gonna find me from the patient he's going to say to his father I'm not doing that I don't know you and I don't want to have anything to do with no fish shop because I'm Saturday I do other things if you knew me you would have known that you'd have ax me on Sunday maybe you'd have grown me up and developed me in the way that when this is put to me out of gladly accepted help in the family business and then the father becomes upset and the rift grows bigger because the problem started with him he didn't know his son so the advice here honey is for the mother and the father to try to spend time with the child to get to know the child instead of allowing the child when the mother's cooking to just go and watch TV and let the TV become the one who's teaching the child the Tobia the mother tells the little girl with a young girl come in the kitchen and help me even if she's too young put on the side and let her play in the dough and the flour by herself get to know your son get to know your children play ball with them or other than that so that's from the benefits of that statement with Ibrahim in addition to that a honey from the benefits of Ibrahim the statement of Allah who taught in Surat al-baqarah he said well if you're a fool Ibrahim Ulukaya the minute beat was smile rabbana takabal minah in Mecca a Samira Eileen and remember when Ibrahim raised up the kawaii' of the Kaaba he raised up the cornerstones and the foundation of the Kaaba Ibrahim and his son Ismail and they both made the dua o our Lord accept this effort from us accept it from us and you are the one who was all hearing all knowledgeable Ibrahim didn't build the Kaaba by himself he built the Kaaba with his son which goes to show that the father has a responsibility to pass off skills to his son position him in a way where if he doesn't give him a skill directly he educates him in the best way possible he doesn't hold back his money if he has the ability to send him to Islamic school sent into a Slammy school if he doesn't have the ability he sends them to public school but when he comes home when he comes home the father and the mother detox the child what happened you sent him to the public school they reach an age where sex education is mandatory the mother the father they have a responsibility to educate them to detox them to pass off to that boy a skill like in the case of Ibrahim showing and teaching his boy how to bill passed off to him that vocation that vocation another thing from this ayah Dewani is that Ibrahim and his smile they just didn't build a house they built the bait of Allah the bait of Allah they built the house the supreme house scholars of the Islamic Caribbean they said from this there is a benefit that when the Muslim parents are educating their children they have to do their best and mundane issues and other that to make sure you connect everything about the child's learning and his development with the Deen he built the Kaaba he built the Kaaba so in learning how to spell and learning how to read instead of teaching the boy the letter D D D dog D dog don't say dog give him an Islamic word that takes the place of that connect the religion of Islam in every and to every aspect of your child while they are at that stage and what it ephemeral to tell the child is the harvest of a person's heart Ibrahim tremendous story salawatullahi wa salamu on e @ ibrahim hani we come to Vanna be who his story is very long musa the kalam of allah wa karram allahu Moosa nema Ibrahim is the Khalil of Allah the friend of allah moosa is the kalam of allah allah spoke to musa no solo at alayhi wa sallam juani was the first rasul sin to Benny Adam Musa story is really long especially in relationship to education in certitude calf when he was traveling with the young boy and the young boy was Lucia even norm yuusha they call him in the Bible Joshua Joshua he was a mighty a major profit from Benny Ezra L to this very day in the Bible in the Torah of the yahood inserter calf allahu taala mentioned phenom job was Khalifa Tahu 18 at RADA ana laka laka nam encephalon Ahava la saba collar era 88 elena in a security for inland acetyl hood roma and san e le Shaitaan and of Korah well that reversible Oh huckleberry a Java Caravela comma commendably when musa and this boy went out in search of knowledge musa and the boy went out in search of knowledge why what would the circumstances Buhari someone came to musa and say ya musa is there anyone more knowledgeable than you Musa said I'm the most knowledgeable person and the most knowledgeable person allah azza wajal taught musa a lesson la you're not the most knowledgeable person there is our slave hidden musa just didn't sit back and say okay is more knowledgeable they make musa went out in search of this man heather who wasn't in a bee and he wasn't a result some of the scholars say he was some of the scholars say wasn't those who say that he had to be a Nabil a little soul because how can you have more knowledge than Musa other scholars said no he didn't have more knowledge than Musa concerning everything but he had knowledge that Musa didn't have the point is not the discussion is he an ax B and not an Emmy that's for a different Mejlis Musa went out in search of knowledge and he didn't just go out by himself he took this young boy yuusha even noon who was a young man and these is Allah who taught I mentioned when they pass the spot that they pass Musa said to the young boy bring us our lunch or our dinner because we have suffered a lot of fatigue from this trip the boy said did you not see when we passed that big rock that the fish went away I forgot to tell you that the fish it just went away and no one caused me to forget to tell you except a shape on and the way the fish swam up the stream up the river it was really amazing the way he swam was amazing I don't even know how I forgot to tell you it was from shaked on the fact that I forgot Musa said that's the sign that we were looking for we were looking for the sign when the fish swim away that's how we would know that we were going to meet this man had a tremendous story one of the benefits of this story right now is money right off the bat is Moses said in the story we have suffered a lot of fatigue in this trip we're tired let's sit down bring the food you have to tie your camel when you travel you have to tie your camera just can't throw caution to the wind have to tie your camel bring your fool with you so he was tired the boy said I lost the fish fish went away and he didn't tell Musa and it kept traveling when Musa came to learn about the incident Musa I didn't slap the boy in the face Musa I didn't swear at the boy in curse amount like the Paris of today the son of the daughter they make a mistake that's just a fraction of this mistake he or she the baby dropped an egg dropped an egg and the egg cracked open on the floor and the mother went berserk lost her mind and hit the baby we have broken bones in our community we have the hitting that the prophet sallallaahu sudden didn't even allow for animals he cursed people who hit animals that way he told her husband if he were to hit his wife and the best of the Muslim a not are not those who hit their wives he said the hidden that is allowed in the Quran is the hidden that is the Roma butter the hidden that doesn't break any bone and it doesn't leave any mark so even if the girl is light in her skin she's light in her skin once the little child is hit the son is hit when that hand pulls away from the skin there should not be a mark on their skin so that's from the benefits of the Tobiah of Musa solo out the light was salam honey on this and with this boy you shall be known the fact that he went out in search of knowledge with his son there's a brother now a community i don't have to mention his name many of you know his name without me mentioning it those who don't know we want to not embarrass him he brings his son and his nephew to the majority of the classes that go on here from the time that I came to this community three years ago his son and his nephew have attended maybe over 80% of the classes that go on in this mischief that's from the way of the NBA that's from the way of the Russell that the father takes his son rhythm especially to domestic to teach him the etiquettes of the Masjid to teach him to love the message seven people sabaton your viloma laughs evilly yama la ville eleven look seven people allowed give them shade llamo qiyamah under his throne and the day that there's no shade two of those people are or one of those people is the man whose heart was connected to the mischief it's connected after he prayed and he left he couldn't wait to come back again now we're not talking about the Hajj for forty days and he sits in the messaging without a job we're not talking about that we're talking about connected to the message the way the Prophet was he gets out and he's any man in the Universities of a student he's a professor he's a teacher he's a bus driver whatever he is he semester for salatul juma why because his father planted that seed in his heart from a long time ago so in terms of how to get knowledge as a father then the story of Musa sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Hadi has been used as an under in this chapter this is why many of the removal Islam and students of knowledge to this very day have used this story as an example for us to learn from after Moosa Han and honey we come to someone who didn't even get married but he's from the erisa Minoru and that's peaceable new maryam salallahu alaihe salam o allah also from various rael you shall be known who was with moosa was before a reason but not a very long time according to the Bible and because he was taught by Moosa yuusha was taught by Moosa a lot of special things happen to him even before Issa came that no other prophet no other never nor the human being had prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam told us in an authentic hadith in the shumsa them took baths a la pêche Sharon L Ali Lucia Leal in sura al batin marcus there was never a human being who the son was held back from setting with the exception of joshua the son of noon the boy who was with moosa the son was never held back for Rasulullah sallallahu Salomon will lie a formable item at allahi the son was never held back by or for an even a batali someone asked me a question it was a six and see a question in sha allah he said that he heard in a tape or a DVD someone was talking and he said the authentic hadith that Adam when he was created and his children were put forth they were spread out there was one of the children of Adam who had a light that was exceeding all the other lights and Adam said who was that he was told that is the light of your son which son which son who his son that would I don't say how long is he going to live they told me is going to live for 60 years Adam said I'm going to give him 40 years of my life when the time for death came to Adam Adam told the Angel of Death hold on hold on I still have 40 years and you look dad said no you gave 40 years your son dowload the Prophet said in this hadith doesn't say Muslim Adam forgot and his children continued to forget your son forgot why do you want to crack his head for something that he for that why do you want to curse at him and swear at her him for something that they forgot Adam for God and his children forget it's honest mistake the brother said to me actually why is that I don't understand why is it why is it that dolls light was greater than rasulullah's light why is that 20 an hour Dean how Arpita is that we don't ask those kind of questions that's the answer we don't ask those kinds of questions Eliezer gel is not asked why he does anything but he asked us why did you do this why did you do that and why didn't you not do that why is it some Muslims have a problem when they see that you shine even known the son was held back he was traveling to Beit Tillamook this to make jihad FISA be Lena for the Deen of Allah Azza WA JAL and the Sun was about to set for Salah to mother it at the blessed time of an awesome and he wouldn't have reached the place it would have been dark which would have been a problem fighting the enemy at that particular time so he looked at the Sun we said to the Sun aunty moerewa and them up more Allah oh man this huh Alea sir you have been commanded son and I have been commanded you've been commanded to do your orbit and to set you are the slave of Allah just like me and I've been commanded to fight these people he said o Allah hold that son back for some time Allah stop the Sun from setting it's easy for Allah easy for Allah and it stayed in that position until he made you had and the war was done and then it said those are from the miracles of Allah how can the Muslim now come and say why didn't that happen to us o Allah that also happened to us Allah so they invent faith fabricated hadith not only did it happen for Russell aligned to Rasulullah sallallahu are you selling but it happened to add even a beat on it Kevin can that stop where the people stopped meaning the Companions rugby alone and him stop where the realm of al-islam stopped him of the Sunnah they stopped with the holes light is the lightest the hold he had the greatest light on that particular day and the Sun was held back as the Prophet said so I saw them only for you sha now after you shot comes in several Maryam a seminal Maryam honey he never got married while he was here and I wanna be in our Rasool is our example when her mother died lol who came out and he was holding the paper from the Torah The Messenger of Allah became angry with him and he said well I if my brother moves and okana actually moves a high end with the bottom ooh-hoo what a rock to Moony that'll Elton if my brother Moosa was here and you people chose to follow Musa one of the five all as a mineral soon if you chose to follow Musa and you left me you companions you would have gone astray what do you think is the case if we chose Abu Hanifa and what was wrong if we chose an imam ali and what was wrong and he mummies Shafi and what was wrong and he meant act men and what was wrong your mother your father and what was incorrect if they chose to follow musa or the Madi or Apple bucker or anyone over the prophets the last item you're going astray you're going astray so how would that be is the one we follow that's because he had what we can describe as the eye while the ulema he was a person who had different situations he didn't have money sometimes he had money sometimes he was weak sometimes he was strong sometime he was married sometimes he divorced sometimes people died around him sometimes people were born around his situation is different so that it covers everyone's case the one who has money he knows how to deal with the situation because the Prophet had money and he chose what they do with the money the one who was married the Prophet was marries the married man has someone to take as an example where as 87 Maryam he was never even married when he comes back solo Alto Leo said I'm worried he's going to get married he's going to break the cross he's going to put the jizya down sallallahu aleyhi why the ADI he was sullen anyway honey concern in making our children Imams and whatever fill they choose to take in the future an imam in building like his smile was an imam who built the cabin he left the relics of Aqaba now children want to be an imam then let us look at a seminal Maryam in a story of e7 o Maryam and it are a number of tremendous benefits tremendous benefits although he never had any children but the lesson comes to us from his birth itself allah o allah mention concerning his abode o Maryam and what we want to share with you brothers here today for attacked be cold maja middle Karl oh yeah maryam laka GT Shaitan Faria Maryam after coming back and delivering the children the child the boy he said she came back carrying the boy to her people they said o Maryam this is a really tremendous thing that you have brought you brought a charm and you're not married this spectacular what you have done yeah oh aha roll Makara abu qamha so and when i can''t on mochi here Oh sister of Haroon sister of Haroon your father wasn't a bad guy he wasn't a bad man no was your mother a lewd woman for you to do something like that if the mother and the father were bad people then we understand how you come with this situation you're a reflection of them we understand what happened but your father was a religious man and your mother was a religious woman even that your who'd had the ability to know that they usually many times a child is going to be a reflection of the parents and that's why I honey it is imperative that we teach our children and how to talk how to walk when to talk with not to talk how to be with older people how to be with the older brother how to be with the older sister who picks up the phone how to speak to one another to treat one another how to deal with the Imam in the Masjid adept because your child is a reflection of you when they go out into society so in our madrassas our children go to Islamic madrasahs and other than that the teachers who are looking at our children the way they come to school the hair is disheveled the clothes are dirty bad hygiene that child is not to be blamed that reflects on the mother and the father reflects on the mother and the father the child has bad language skills it's a result of the mother and the father the environment they grew up in every third word is a swear word he speaks like a sila that's the way the child speaks that's how many of the Muslims are why it reflects first and foremost upon the parents your mother and your father they were not bad people so what's the deal Maryam Allah Allah mentioned for a Charlotte EDA she did nothing but pointing to the child she had nothing to say to these people they said Carla - Oh Kelly moomin conovan mati Swabia how are we going to possibly talk to a child who's still in the cradle he said no Miriam said in the Abdullah attorney al-kitab Regina Nina bein as a little baby he said i am abdullah the first words that came out of his mouth in the abdullah allah has given me the book and Allah has made me a Nabil Rajani Mubarak an aina my country well Oh Sonny was so light he was a kites my doom - heya Allah has commanded me I'm the slave of a lot and I'm his nephew and he has made me blessed wherever I am and Eliezer a jelly he has commanded me and I'm just a baby he commanded me to make Salah and to give zakat for as long as I am Alive I have to take care of this salon not to take care of this zakat for as long as I am Alive well butter them be wily dirty when I need you barring Shakya and Allah has made me a blessing to my mother and he has not made me Jabbar a tyrant Shiki and he has not made me a problem for my mother from this story of b7o Maryam is honey from the issue of what we get from it in teaching our children clearly shows that the Muslim he engages his infant child in teaching him the language so that the first thing that comes out of his mouth are those things that are connected to the Dean when he sneezes he knows what the same he knows bismillah he knows in sha allah he knows even when it's just a young child he doesn't know the hold on but before eating he says bismillah after eating he's taught to say alhamdulillah when the grown-ups neglect that and the grown-up the mother and the father they themselves don't know the dua from where is the child born to learn and thus comes the importance again and honey of Islamic schooling there are a lot of things that we don't know and we take it for granted when you put your child in the Islamic school the Islamic schools many times they cover up what is lacking and that which we can't give I ask the Quran that we don't know many of our children or more of the Quran than us just from the Islamic school that's what the person has the ability and believe me and trust me trust me it may be expensive relatively speaking to seeing your child to Islamic school but it's more expensive not to do so it's more expensive to send them to public school even if the public school has a major majority of Muslims who attended from the pupils and from the teachers except from those unique special Islamic school public schools and they are rare so II Seminole Miriam said I ought to lie it was said a male hiding his story goes to show the mother the father the importance of teaching the child the etiquette of what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa ala Addie was seldom taught us especially in regards to the tongue being wet and moist with the dhikr of Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala we come to the Prophet and we're not even going to talk much about the Messenger of Allah because as I mentioned a number of times in his Sunnah hadith willahara CH speak about whatever you want to speak about because there are volumes of examples it is a fact that he had grown men around him Abu Bakr Umar Uthman Abdul Rahman leaving the house I will tell aha Zubair ya those grown men around him but The Messenger of Allah took a lot of time sallallahu wasallam and focus and energy and he put it with and on the younger people in the community and that's why the greatest scholars from the Companions they turned out to be those young boys and girls who the messenger of allah salallahu selim focused upon the four battle-ax IBAD Allah because all of their names begin with abdullah so they are called the ADAAA abdullah bin omar a young man abdullah even a bath young man abdullah blue Zubair young man abdullah even honored even alas those four people were young when the Prophet came so the love water Salome grew up the the narrator's of the majority of the hadith or lemma of this religion and I said been pneumatic is the fifth one from amongst them 10 years over the Prophet King Salman lolly was selling midnight Musa and I said below Maddox said I served the message of Allah for 10 years never did he say to me for something that I did why did you do that and never did he say for something that I didn't do why did you not do that like Musa said to the boy this is what we were looking for let's go back to the place where the fish went up the stream and deal with the situation as opposed to being rough and tough and tyrannical over the boy and making Tintin fear of the boy running them away from the girls from the females Ayesha Ayesha one of the Companions said that anytime we the men we had a fifty laughs about something we will refer the affair back to Ayesha and we found the hot wave Ayesha she used to compete with them she was a mother essa unto herself people will come to learn from her from behind the hijab anyone who wants to learn about the history of the arabs and the lineage of the arabs and the tribes let him come in they would sit sometime she would give him knowledge they will leave anyone who wants to come to learn about the tafseer of the Quran and why it was revealed in the meaning of aya said look for odd let him come in they will come in she would finish with that dumbest anyone wants to know about the fifth of Allah slab and that's how she used to spend her time people come into it yeah woman meaning we want to ask you this question in that question Fatima the daughter of the prophet sallallaahu are you selling being married to a deed ABI talib another stour who was relatively young Messenger of Allah took the time out he had the vision he had the vision to see that the young people were a resource and not a threat young people not a threat and for young people older people are not threats as well young people could be a threat older people can be a threat but it's up to the older people to manage this situation and it's up to the younger people to be compliant and we work together we the baton off between ourselves so as to keep the efficiency of our program rolling and running this is what we want to present a hunting concern in making our children the future Imams of the dunya whether it is in the Dean or in secular knowledge and I think overall the main point that we're trying to call you to and impress upon you it's taken the religion of lslam wholeheartedly and whatever we find concerning the abilities of our children what they can excel in what is academics or even if it's something physical then get behind them and support them and don't be an impediment or a barrier that will your child and handicap your child from reaching his full potential because you have bad total BIA in the way that you interacted with him and the way that you taught and dealt with him and Allah is help is sought he alone is complete hava or something allahu wa sallim ala nabina Oh

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Length: 58min 17sec (3497 seconds)

Published: Wed Mar 14 2012