- [Amanda] Is there someone in your life who's been acting strange lately? Everyone's experienced
jealousy at some point, whether it's being envious
of the best student in class, or a friend who's gotten
more popular recently. It's a natural feeling you
are bound to experience. However, sometimes, when this feeling grows out of proportion, it can often impact
someone's outward behavior and interaction with others. Does this remind you of
someone in your life? Well, here are seven signs someone is extremely jealous of you. Number one, they're constantly
trying to bring you down. Have you ever been excited to share your good news with someone only to be faced with a negative reaction? Perhaps you told your friend that you've gotten that promotion
you've been dreaming of, but they turned it into a bad thing. Instead of praising you for
your hard work and talent, they may say that it happened because your boss just favored you more or because there was no
other person to promote. According to counselor, educator, and suicidologist, Araya Baker, "An envious person who
can't find legitimate flaws in their target will detract from their
target's likability or attempt to humble them
by wielding any criticism." So you'll know that
someone is jealous of you if they're always going out of their way to make you feel guilty, undeserving, or invalid of your
accomplishments and success. Number two, they don't
respect your decisions. Envious people have a tendency to manipulate those they target into feeling like they're
making the wrong choices. When in actuality, they're just jealous of
you achieving your goals. Out of spite, they might gaslight you into feeling like the
positive situation you're in or heading towards is actually doing more
harm to you than good. Their goal is to criticize your judgment, foster your self-doubt, and
diminish your self-confidence, so that you feel less capable
of making the right decision. In these moments, it's
important to remind yourself that you know yourself best. You make the calls here. Number three, they avoid
you after the good things. Can you recall a time
when you shared a piece of good news with a friend and they didn't respond at all? They may go as far as
to distance themselves or disappear for a few
days or months from you. As shared earlier, feelings of envy can
be extremely consuming as it's a cry for help
or a need for attention due to insecurity, self-doubt,
and lack of self-confidence. If someone's been awfully quiet since a recent celebration in your life, it's likely that spending time with you has worsened their feelings of inadequacy and pain within themselves. This behavior of refusing
to celebrate your success is not a reflection of you, but rather how they feel
about themselves internally. Number four, they're always
attempting to one-up you. Have you ever shared
positive news with someone and they responded by sharing
something bigger and better to try to outdo what you've
got going on in life? If you got a new car, they may mention that they also got the latest
model of the same thing. If you get a raise, they may talk about how
much money they earn at their current position. The need to constantly one-up you comes from an obsession
with class and status. Envious people tend to be attracted by the superficial elements in life, such as material items, physical features, and
social status and likability. They see your accomplishments as a threat to their social standing, prompting them to upstage
you in any way they can. Number five, their
compliments are back-handed. Does it feel fake when
they compliment you? People who are jealous
often give compliments that aren't very genuine. Instead, it can feel like
insults and criticisms disguised as flattering comments. These often come from
a place of ignorance, some form of arrogance and egotism, and a lack of self-security. According to a series of studies
at Harvard Business School, while people intend
back-handed compliments to increase their likability
and status at the same time, the givers come across as
less sincere, less attractive, more condescending,
and even less competent than those who offer a
traditional compliment. It's a tactic to hurt you while trying to come across
as interested and concerned. Number six, they celebrate your failures. Envious people can sometimes
be unhealthily invested in keeping up with where you're at in life by monitoring your success
and achievements closely. This is so they can catch you
when you trip or fall in life. Any example of your
seemingly poor performance feeds their insecurity and ego. Similarly, you may also notice that they won't offer any
support and encouragement to you in an attempt to discourage you from pursuing your goals further. If you notice that this so-called friend or loved one in your life
is acting oddly, unaffected, or even happy about a struggle you may be experiencing in life, they're most likely jealous of you and are projecting this
behavior as a result. And number seven, they scrutinize you while imitating your admirable
traits and characteristics. Envious people are always
paying close attention to their targets, ironically copying the very
things they critique them for. They may express that your dressing style
is too over the top, but then start upgrading their
wardrobe to classier fits. They may criticize you for
being excessively hardworking and then try to improve their
own work ethic to exceed you. As written in Psychology Today, this pre-occupancy and social comparison against their target
ultimately leads to them using the target they diminish in private, as the same criteria for
elevating their public or social image. They're, in a way, your secret admirer. Their goal is to be just
like you, if not better. So is there someone who is jealous of you? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe, and share this with those
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