- [Narrator] Have you ever wondered if someone's attracted to you
and you don't even realize it? It can sometimes be hard to tell unless someone is obvious
about their interest because attraction typically appears first on the micro level. It's important to first
decipher if the person might simply be a highly
effective communicator with a high social IQ who is adept at making
people feel seen and heard with their attentiveness. On the contrary, people who are attracted to
you might send mixed signals, especially if someone is anxious around someone they're attracted to. So for all these signs, please use your intuition
to decipher the clues. Disclaimer: this video is
for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute
for professional advice but for a general guidance. We advise you to always
listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. Let's begin. Number one, mirroring behavior. According to clinical
psychologist Holly Schiff, mirroring is when someone
subconsciously attempts to bond with you through
matching your behavior. If you notice someone is making the similar
facial expressions as you, placing their body in a similar posture, or even matching your energy levels, they may find your
presence attractive enough to express their interests through this nonverbal affirmation. Note that most people aren't likely to consciously catch themselves doing so. But if you start to notice your date is matching your standing
posture and speech mannerisms, it's a great sign of attraction. It's also why couples
tend to start looking and acting similar after some time. Number two, physical flirtation. People who have physical
touch as their love language might throw in some physical flirtation to show their interest in you such as a lingering hug, a
pat on your arm or shoulder, accidentally grazing your hand, touching the mid to
lower part of your back. Take notice of whether they
seem communicative with everyone with their physical touch, or if it's only you that
they are extra attentive to in this form. Some people may use physical
touch as a bonding technique to help themselves and
others feel more comfortable in their presence. So it could be that they'd be
nervous about acting that way towards someone they're attracted to. Number three, belly button alignment. Margaret Stone, a licensed
therapist and dating coach, states that aligning one's
belly button with another is a sign of attraction,
trust, and security, something which is also
done subconsciously. Couples who tend to face each other, even one in large groups, are doing so to feel socially
safe on a subconscious level. Similarly, when someone
is attracted to you, their body will give clues that they'd like to become closer to you physically or emotionally by pointing themselves directly to you. Or when someone is
engaging in conversation, their feet may point towards the person they're speaking with that they're interested in. Number four, open body language. In a 2016 study on the
importance and impact of body language on speed dating, researchers found that participants who displayed open non-verbal
behavior were deemed as dominant and attractive versus those who demonstrated
contractive cues. While it's now considered
scientifically proven that open body language
like uncrossing your arms, taking up space, and standing
with a straight posture can make you seem more attractive, it's also true that those
who are attracted to you will appear more open in
their body language as well. If they're keeping their bodies vulnerable and in a welcoming stance, they feel comfortable and safe around you. On the other hand, if they seem to be closed
off with their body, it might be their way of
nonverbally asking for some space. Number five, eyebrow flash. This one might be hard to
notice, but if you do catch it, take it as a good sign. An eyebrow flash or an eyebrow raise is considered a micro expression, which means it only
appears on a person's face for a split second. Micro expressions are
the most telling signs of someone's true emotions, even when their words or
conscious actions say otherwise. A quick raising of the eyebrows, especially when someone first
sees you walking towards them, for example, could be expressing
their genuine excitement that you've arrived. Contrast that with eyes that narrow with downward turning eyebrows when someone is unhappy to see you. Strangers who find you
attractive while walking past you might quickly flash their
eyebrows as a subtle sign of surprise or delight
in what they're seeing. But note that an eyebrow
raise that remains raised might be less attraction
and more surprise or shock. Number six, voice changes. Ever notice your best friend's voice becoming suddenly higher or deeper while in the company of they're crush? Well, don't judge them for it. Because it's quite likely that
you unconsciously do the same in the presence of someone
you are attracted to as well. A study conducted in 2014 found that people speaking to
someone they find attractive tend to change the tone, strength, and pitch of their voice when doing so. According to the study, it's even possible for those
listening in on conversations between two people who are
attracted to each other to tell there's chemistry happening. Take note of how someone sounds when speaking to a
family member or a friend versus when they're speaking with you. They might seem more attentive
in their speech style and desire to highlight
their best qualities through their voice. For example, if they'd like for you to believe they're masculine, they might deepen their voice. And if they want you
to think they're sweet, they might soften their voice. Number seven, inward leaning. Jack Schaffer PhD states
that as rapport increases between two people, inward
leaning may increase as well. This happens gradually and
will often include signs of belly button alignment
and open body language. This might be easier to tell when involved in a one-on-one
conversation than in a group. The best plan of action is to first notice if someone is making frequent
eye contact with you. And if you reciprocate, they begin to turn their body towards you and inevitably lean in, especially if they're seated. Take this as a positive sign
that they are interested in or attracted to you. On the other hand, those who aren't interested
in the topic at hand or seem confusingly indifferent to your impossibly good looks and charm might lean back and keep
themselves at a distance instead. And number eight, distracted behavior. Maybe you're noticing your
crush seems more distracted in one-on-one study sessions with you than when in a group setting. Or perhaps you notice that
an acquaintance you just met seems completely unaware
of their surroundings while in conversation with you. It's even possible that strangers who walk past you are distracted and do a double-take as you walk by. Someone's attraction to you,
whether platonic or romantic, might be obvious in their subconsciously
focused attention on you while seeming distracted from their previous focus of attention. So as long as you're not out
there causing traffic jams or having people trip from rubbernecking to get another look at you, keep being your enticingly
attractive self. Have you noticed any of these signs? Let us know in the comments below and share this video with
others who might like it. As always, the references and studies used are listed in the description below. Be sure to check out our
Psych2Go YouTube channel for more videos like the one below on ways to become more attractive, link to 10 surprising habits
that make you more attractive. Until next time, Psych2Goers. Take care and thanks for watching.
