- [Narrator] Hey
Psych2Goers, welcome back. So, perhaps you're in love with someone, and you're curious as to whether they feel the same way about you, but they haven't quite said
those three magic words. What's holding them back? Maybe they haven't yet
fallen in love with you? But they appear to like you enough that love could be on the horizon. Well, there are a few
psychological secrets that can boost the likelihood
of love in your future. What are they, you may ask. Watch to find out. Here are six psychological secrets to make anyone fall
deeply in love with you. Number one, make good eye contact. Harvard psychologist Zick
Rubin conducted a study where he recorded how much time lovers would spend looking
into each other's eyes. He found that individuals
who are not in love looked at each other
30 to 60% of the time, while those couples deeply in love, they stared into each other's eyes 75% of the time when talking, and when someone else entered
the room or interrupted them, they were much slower to turn away from their partner's gaze. A little secret to really getting someone to consider these
feelings of love for you, look into their eyes 75% of the time. The brain remembers the last time someone they loved stared
at them in the same way. They will associate this
stair with feelings of love. Why? This lovely memory causes a
release of phenethylamine, which is known as a love drug. Phenylethylamine is released in the brain when someone falls in love. The chemical too mimics
the brain chemistry of someone who is deeply in love. Chocolate contains phenylethylamine, which is probably why it's historically been considered an aphrodisiac. It's also probably the reason
we love chocolate so much. Number two, choose a date
location with dim lights. When deciding the location
of your next date, it might be a good idea to pick a location with dim lighting. In a significant research study published in the journal
Scientific American, researchers showed male subjects two photographs of the same woman. In one of the images, researchers changed the size of her pupils
to be faintly larger, while the other image is adjusted so that she had smaller peoples. None of the men reported
noticing this slight change, but the men described the woman with small pupils as
cold, hard, and selfish. The woman with larger pupils was described as soft, more feminine, and pretty. Many further studies
have had similar results. When it comes to women's
preferences on pupil's size, studies suggest that they
are similar in some ways. Findings appear to suggest
that women who are attracted to nice guys are attracted
to medium-sized pupils, while those who like bad boys are attracted to larger pupils. Well, obviously we can't
control the size of our pupils, but dimming the lights will expand them. A romantic candlelight dinner, and your partner may feel
even more attraction for you, especially if there's chocolate involved. Number three, don't be afraid to smile. When you feel like smiling, don't be afraid to let
those pearly whites show. A study published in the Bulletin
of the Psychonomic Society found smiling might just
make you more likable. According to the study, women
in the experiment who smiled 70% of the time were seen as
more interpersonally attractive than women who seldom smiled. So, while you may think
a good old lip pout is the way to go, a
smile maybe even better. Number four, casually touch them often. In an experiment from the
University of Mississippi and Rhodes College,
researchers had waitresses briefly touch customers
on the hand or shoulders in a controlled yet natural setting. The waitresses who casually
touch their customers when returning change received a significantly larger tip
than those who did not. Another study published
in Psychologically Press, Taylor & Francis group had
men stand on the corner of a street and attempt to talk
to women who would walk by. The men were more successful
in starting a conversation with the women when they lightly touched the woman on the forearm for one second. As the researchers state, our results showed that a
man's courtship solicitations are more favorably accepted by a woman when the request is accompanied
by light tactile contact. And intimate touch on the arm here and caress there may
just leave your partner even more romantically drawn to you. Number five, have meaningful discussions about yourself and them. Research from Harvard found
that deep conversations and meaningfully talking about yourself can help activate the very
same regions of your brain that delicious food or sex activates. This study states that
over a 45 minute period, subjects paired carried
out self-disclosure and relationship building tasks that gradually escalated in intensity. Study one found greater
post interaction closeness with these tasks versus
comparable small talk tasks, so while small talk is
fine every now and then, when you're on a romantic date, a more meaningful discussion
may excite them more, you know, more than the weather. When you both open up and
reveal your true emotions, your partner may fall in
love with the deep, engaging conversations you have together instead. And number six, have
a good sense of humor. Everybody loves to laugh, and a little sense of humor
can heighten any relationship. Researchers from Illinois State University and DePaul University found in their study that when you use humor when getting to know an
acquaintance at first, that individual has a better
chance of liking you more. They even found that
engaging in funny tasks may raise romantic attraction. Hmm, sounds like a fun
date may be the way to go. Cracking a joke under dim
candlelight with chocolate, (chuckles) they may just
fall in love with you. So, do you see love in your
future with these habits? Who are you in love with? Share with us your story
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