- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers. Welcome back to our channel. Okay, so you're on a romantic first date, and you can't help but wonder if your date thinks you're attractive as much as you think they are. What attractive behaviors do you have that you can display to your date? Well, here are six behaviors
that attract people the most. Do you do any of them? Number one, casually touch them. A casual and friendly touch here and there may just improve your attractiveness if the other person is
comfortable with it. A flirty quick nudge of the
elbow or a tap on the shoulder may just make them feel closer to you. In an experiment from the
University of Mississippi and Rhodes College, researchers had waitresses
briefly touch customers on the hand or shoulders in a controlled yet natural setting. The waitresses who casually
touched their customers when returning the change received a significantly larger
tip than those who did not. In another study published
in Psychology Press, Taylor & Francis Group had men stand on the corner of the street and attempt to talk to
women who would walk by. The men were more successful
in starting a conversation with a woman when they
lightly touched the woman on the forearm for one second. As the researchers state, our results showed that a
man's courtship solicitations are more favorably accepted by a woman when the request is accompanied
by a light, tactile contact. This isn't to say that everyone
would like to be touched on there and by a stranger. But a flirty brush of the
arm during a romantic date might not hurt your chances of
them finding you attractive. Number two, show you're available and have open body language. How can you gain someone's
romantic interest? Show you're open to dating them. Dr. Monica Moore, a psychologist at Weber University in St. Louis has conducted research on
the flirting techniques used in singles bars, shopping malls, and places young people
go to meet each other. Author Nicholas Boothman
writes in his book, "How to make someone fall in love with you in 90 minutes or less" notes that psychologist Dr. Monica Moore found that it's not
always the good looking who get approached the most, but the ones who signaled
their availability and confidence through
basic flirting techniques like eye-contact and smile. Just signaling your interest in someone gets you halfway there,
regardless of gender. One way you can appear more
confident and available is to display open body language. Try to keep your chest and torso more open and refrain from crossing
your arms too much. Closed body language can
give off the impression you aren't available or
simply don't want to talk. And availability will signify to others that you're willing to
talk and meet new people. Number three, be a leader. Want others to notice you? When you can, be a leader. In a 2014 study, researchers explored whether feelings towards other people influence the perceptions
of others attractiveness. Having their subjects in groups, they found subordinates
rated their group leader as significantly more attractive than leaders outside their group. So even if there is no
role of group leader in your next project, be more vocal about your
ideas, teach others. There are many ways you
can prove you're capable and apparently attractive group leader. On your next date, suggest
a place you know all about and take the lead on a romantic adventure. It could be fun. Number four, smile when you can. Feel like laughing at a funny joke, smiling at a sweet comment, then do so. And don't be afraid to, because smiling is quite
attractive according to research. A study published in the
bulletin of Psychonomic Society found smiling might just
make you more attractive. According to the study,
women in the experiment who smiled 70% of the time were seen as more interpersonally attractive than a woman who seldom smiled. It looks like a comedy club
date might be a good idea. Number five, maintain good eye contact. (narrator sighs) Your date's dreamy eyes! Why not look at them? Harvard psychologist Zick
Rubin conducted a study where he recorded how much
time lovers would spend looking into each other's eyes? He found that individuals
who were not in love looked at each other
30 to 60% of the time, while those couples deeply in love, they stared into each other's eyes 75% of the time when talking, and when someone else entered
the room or interrupted them, they were much slower to turn away from their partner's gaze. A little tip to really get someone to consider these
feelings of love for you, look into their eyes 75% of the time. The brain remembers the
last time someone they loved started them in the same way. They'll associate this stare with feelings of love and attraction. Why? This lovely memory causes a release of Phenylethylamine, which
is known as "Love Drug". Phenylethylamine is released in the brain when someone falls in love. This chemical too mimics the
brain chemistry of someone who is deeply in love. Chocolates contain phenylethylamine, which is probably why it's
historically been considered an aphrodisiac. So if you want your date
to see you as attractive, maybe romantically gaze
into their eyes a bit when you're talking to them,
and maybe some hot chocolate. Mhm, chocolate. And number six, crack a joke or two. Who doesn't love a good joke? Researchers from Illinois State University and DePaul University found in their study that when you use humor
when getting to know an acquaintance at first, that individual has a better
chance of liking you more. They even found that
engaging in funny tasks may raise romantic attraction. See, I told you that comedy club was the next perfect day choice. Take the lead on picking your next date and snuggle up for some good
old comedy and hot chocolate. Not only attractive, but delicious! So which of these behaviors
will you use on your next date? Where will you take them? Hot chocolate, comedy night, or romantic stroll hand-in-hand? Share with us in the
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