- [Instructor] Hi, Psych2goers. And welcome back to another video. Thank you so much. Your love and support has enabled us to send your way another
wealth of everyday psychology. So let's explore. Sometimes feelings can be obvious. Other times they may not be. This can make you question whether somebody has
romantic feelings for you. The old age question here is, is this person flirting with me because they have feelings for me, or are they simply being friendly? Knowing the subtle
differences can save you the dreaded embarrassment. So how do you know when people
are hiding their feelings? Before we begin, please note that this video is purely for educational purposes only, and is not designed to
suggest that if people do show these signs that they definitely have feelings for you. It's best to talk to
the person in question, and discuss this to make sure
that you're on the same page. After all, communication is key. With that in mind, here are nine signs that somebody may be hiding their feelings for you. Number one, they will pay
you a lot of attention. Are they regularly inviting you out, constantly calling and texting you, and asking your friends about you? If the answer is yes, then it appears that there is already a foundational relationship that has been established. The best indicator of a crush, love or attraction is attention. What a person does and how they act around you explains everything you need to know. The key is to observe with your eyes, and not just with your heart. Number two, their body language will be different around you. Do you often notice them
facing and leaning towards you when they talk to you? Are their gestures, open,
relaxed, and welcoming? You've probably heard before
that the body doesn't lie. So if you want to know how you
can tell if someone likes you or not pay close attention to what this person's body
language is telling you. A relaxed and open body posture
around you generally shows that the person is okay with
being vulnerable around you, and trusts you enough to let
you into their comfort zone. It can be a sign of trust, respect, and oftentimes even care. Just make sure that you don't
confuse romantic interest with shyness because shyness doesn't necessarily indicate
romantic attraction. Number three, pay attention
to their eye contact, and non-verbal communication. Do you notice them
looking at you more often? Are they extra cheerful or
smile frequently and talk more than usual and with you. The next time you're with
the person in question, note how often they look at you, Harvard Psychologist, Zick Rubin, found a correlation between
eye contact and love. In his study couples deeply in
love look at one another 75% of the time while talking, while other people
engaged in conversation, only look at each other
about 30 to 60% of the time. If they want to leave a
good, long lasting impression by sounding enthusiastic,
inquisitive, and jolly, it's a dead giveaway that this
person likes your company, and cares about your impression of them. So it's imperative to try and figure out if they are putting in a lot of effort. This could be a sign that
this person is into you. Number four, they'll do
things to show that they care. Do they text you or call you
after you spend time together to make sure you got home safe? Do they regularly ask
your friends about you? Do they offer to help you
without you asking them first? Their interest in your
wellbeing may be another sign that they care about you and
how you're doing or feeling. However, these subtle things
could easily be confused with a caring friend as well. But if you find that
they'll go out of their way to check in with you, then it is possible that
they have a crush on you or have feelings for you. Number five, they may be
overly curious about you. Do you find them asking you questions about you and your life? Do you find that they want
to know more about you, and what makes you who you are? People who are trying
to get to know others may be hiding their feelings
behind their burning curiosity. It might be so that they can
communicate in your language, and talk about the things
you enjoy talking about. Asking you a lot of
questions essentially intends to encourage you to talk about yourself, and open up about your life. And this is a basic human
technique that most of us use on a daily basis, perhaps
without even knowing it. They would ask questions subliminally, and often without awareness
with the intention of developing more of a
relationship with you. Number six, they may offer
you compliments and affection. Do they compliment on your
looks, clothing, style, taste, and music and so on? Do compliments mean anything at all? Attitude plays a huge role in whether a person likes you or not when it comes to relationships. So pay close attention to how
a person communicates to you. It's important to say that we
should not assume that just because somebody compliments you that means that they like
you in a romantic way. However, it also doesn't mean that if somebody doesn't compliment you that they aren't into you
or that they don't like you. Some people just don't
know how to compliment or might not feel comfortable doing so. However, if you notice that they may be
complimenting you excessively, that may be a sign that a
person is interested in you because they want you to feel good. This person wants you to like them, and give them the
validation that they crave. The person in question
may be investing in you, and wants you to feel secure
and comfortable around them. Number seven, they may
act unusual around you. Have they ever stumbled over
their words or become tense or nervous when you show up? Do they tell awkward jokes or even pull away
suddenly and unexpectedly? These are actually counter-intuitive signs that someone likes you. Dating expert Matthew Hussey states that people will act
differently around you than they do with other people. You may even notice that
their energy levels will go up when they're around you. Number eight, they may
show off in front of you. Do they try and stand out in
a crowd when you're together? Another way to tell if
someone secretly likes you is to look at their behavior. This could be down to
two things, high ego, or their feelings for you. To find out which it is be aware of the way this person
communicates to you. Do you get the feeling
that they're eyeing you for a positive reaction and
is trying to impress you? Are you the only person they do this to? If yes, then the person may be interested in wanting to get to
know you romantically, and share their feelings with you. And number nine, they'll find excuses to
spend time alone with you. Do they ask to make plans with you where it's just you and them, or do you often find them
agreeing to everyday adventures with just the two of you? When a person has feelings for someone they would wanna spend most
of their time with them as this could present itself
with romantic opportunities. They may suggest hanging out after school or ask for some help with work. So when you suspect
that someone likes you, and you like them back set up a date. Invite them out and see what happens next. You'll quickly understand
how emotionally invested this person is in you and decide whether you want to pursue a
relationship with them. We hope we were able to
give you insight into some of the ways you can tell
if someone likes you. Do any of these describe your experience? What are some of the signs you've noticed? Leave a comment down below
about your experiences. And please feel free to share
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