3ABN Today - "Intimate Clarity" (TDY018041)

I want to spend my [Music] people man [Music] [Applause] Lord let my hila hard that [Music] and they will end people [Music] hello I'm Shelley Quinn and we welcome you once again to 3abn today we're so glad that you've tuned in and I do want to say upfront today we will be introducing a new program and we will be talking about purity sexual purity if you will one thing that we know is that God's standard is celibacy before marriage in monogamy after marriage if you feel your child may be a little too young for this discussion then we we believe it's going to be tame and biblical but if you do not want your younger children to hear this you may want to take them out of the room today I have to go ahead before I do anything else and introduce our guests and our guests are we have Jennifer Jill sweater excuse me Jen you are an author I think God has given you an amazing gift in the way in which you express yourself you are a beautiful soul and a strong Christian and I love every time you post or write anything I love to read what you've written God's given you great insight but you're also a musician you have some CDs out but you're a licensed professional counselor uh-huh and I think most people are one of our the favorite programs on 3abn is a multitude of counselors which you've been hosting for a couple of seasons we just want to thank you for all you do for the Lord praise God it's great to be here and I enjoy my time at 3abn for everything you do yeah then we also have with us Jason Bradley and he is there to dreams assistant to the president zakharik to the general manager well okay we'll make her prisons good general manager is that is a woman that I have known for roughly 32 years now coming up on 32 years my mom dr. Yvonne Lewis Shelton yeah just it is so amazing to see how God took a little seed and when boy when your mom arrived that thing the trajectory of dare to dream has been incredible if you haven't watched it you'll want to see dare to dream or I want to read a scripture to you then we're going to go to a song because once I I don't want to get started and then break this up but let me read to you 1st Corinthians 6:18 through 20 Paul is writing to the Corinthian church where there was quite a bit of it was a very problematic church they were coming out of a pagan background where they had temple prostitution there were some bad things going on in Corinth so he is writing to this church and here's what his advice is in his instructions in 1st Corinthians 6:18 through 20 flee sexual immorality every sin that a man does is outside the body but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you whom you have from God and you are not your own you were bought at a price therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which are gods if you are not a Christian in your tuning in the price that we were purchased with is the precious lifeblood of Jesus Christ the Son of God and that gives you great value you're worth nothing less than the price that he paid so we want you to stay tuned to hear about this exciting new program it's going to be groundbreaking really but stay tuned to hear about intimate clarity and we will also be talking about God's ideal standard and it is to give us the greatest pleasure it is what God designed for us but first we've got our own president and founder of 3abn who will be singing for us is this Danny Shelton and this is a song that he wrote and it's called all my praise [Music] my prayers I give you all my prey that's all right to offer you I now be the sanctuary deep within my heart [Music] I offer up to you [Music] you the oh how I love you I bear my heart and soul to you [Music] I'm auntie broken vessel filled with hurt and pain inside still my praise to you [Music] oh please fill me [Music] with your the spirit to me [Music] all right long for urine [Music] that they work for you me [Music] just [Music] all my prayers [Music] I give you all my prayer that's all I have to offer you [Music] I now be the sanctuary solely within my heart [Music] my fries [Music] to you [Music] all my praise my offer to you [Music] Oh Thank You Danny I love to hear Danny sing because he he's a music minister he's always ministers to me in a song well if you are just joining us our special guests today are Jennifer Jill Switzer and Jason Bradley and we're very excited these two are co-hosts for a new program that we'll be launching in July and that program is called intimate clarity now let me say this intimate clarity as I mentioned earlier is a groundbreaking series we will be touching on some topics we've really nuts they're Bible topics but we'll be touching on topics that we have not discussed before and let me tell you why if we don't understand the biblical perspective if we don't teach our children the biblical perspective on sexuality the world will in fact they have stolen the narratives because there's been many generations that have been long silent and children are growing up they're curious they're confused about sex but what happens is in the vacuum the world comes in with its deviant behavior I want to share a story with you and and I wanted to share this directly with the people at home because this is something that really made an impact on me when we were in Houston we were at a church this is before I became an Adventist and it was a non-denominational Church and I went to the pastor and said we really need to do a program to teach the benefits of virginity why does God even ask us to remain chaste and teach this to our youth he said go for it so we began this program and I'll never forget as I am instructing and I got to Malachi 2:15 that I was talking which says that one of the reasons God made us one man our one the the male and the female as one is because he wanted godly offspring and as I was explaining that there was a little twelve-year-old girl who just broke down sobbing and she we started toward the back of the room then she began running and I ran out after her and I was talking with her her parents or regular members strong Christian family sweet little child and you know what as I began to calm her down and talk to her what she said to me I didn't know I didn't know it I've already become sexually active and I didn't know that I was supposed to be a virgin why and you are saying child of God that's is that not powerful and and so I prayed with her explained God we can confess this he'll cleanse you of all unrighteous he can make you a spiritual virgin once again but once you've had that experience there is a certain I mean you can't go back physically can you so let's just explain a little about intimate clarity now this is a program we have a tagline for it intimate clarity will be a program that we say it's a tough topic but it's a conversation we absolutely and it is not age-appropriate for younger children so we do have a disclaimer on this program but it is something that even I know that I learned some things me too so tell us first let's just kind of set up the program what the format is and let's talk about the content just a little can I can I start with the thought that follows the thought that you just oh absolutely so I just want to say that there's kind of two extremes one extreme is too much information for kids too young and I think a lot of conservative Christians are coming from that place they see how the world just over exposes kids i as a counselor if I hear that a pair is letting a child view r-rated content I will call that parent out and say you know that's a child form of abuse to put your that in front of your child so too much information is an issue but there's another extreme and that's not enough information and we're because we're mostly ministering to a conservative Christian audience we affirm that the too much information approach is a problem but we also want to say not enough information is a problem as well and we want to equip parents to be able to instruct their children so I just wanted to make that point absolutely and and let's talk about I want to show you a picture of the set because we're really excited about this new set it is bright in its area and we did this on purpose because with a lot of light because God created us in such a way that he created us he's the author of marriage and he created us with will talk about brain chemistry in just a moment but he created us to enjoy a intimate physical bonding a sexual intimacy in the context of marriage of a relationship relationship that would bring us much joy as a matter of fact you know that the word Eden Garden of Eden actually in the Hebrew means pleasure the garden of pleasure when you think about it and he created marriage there but so we don't want to you know sometimes I was talking with a lot of younger people and I say younger in 25 to 35 year range and I was shocked when they were up when I asked how did your parents discuss this with you they never don't do anything and a lot of people had said they learned everything that they knew from the world's deviant twisted distorted desert of it some came away with the idea it's a dirty act and that's tragic as well you know I solved that problem in a really straightforward way I learned sex education the wrong way well not totally the wrong way but through public school and I remember sitting there listening and getting overwhelmed with the content because it wasn't put in any kind of moral or spiritual context and I remember they started talking about abortion and I got so overwhelmed and viscerally I got sick basically I was 16 years old I ended up with my head on my mom's lap mm-hmm so I went through that and then as a Christian parent now a bible-believing a follower of Jesus it's not about raising my own kids and I thought well I don't know quite how to do this but I'm just going to read them the Bible stories or tell them every single Bible story all the way through the Bible so I started with Genesis and went straight through the Bible and just kind of read the stories myself and then paraphrase them for my kids but isn't the Bible of Victorian know the Bible is not Victorian but the difference between those things put in the context of the biblical narrative and what we see in the world is that the world glorifies sin it says look at this wonderful thing and there's no consequences are basically lies two children and two adults about whether these things have consequences or not and in the biblical narrative you see the consequences right there and you see the sadness and the tragedy that accompany going outside of God's plan so I would just read the stories to my kids tell the stories to my kids and they would ask me questions like mom what so what's a harlot and I'd give them an age-appropriate answer not too much information but enough to where they understood essentially what that was that's how I taught them about sexuality in the context of the biblical narrative you know what as a person without kids I don't have kids but and I'm not married but you know when I do get married and if God does bless me with children I am gonna have that talk with them because as a parent you know you have that responsibility you know the Bible says train up a child the way should go and when he grows old he won't depart from it train up a child that includes teaching them about sex and sexual immorality and and God's plan for sex within the confines of marriage between a man and a woman and so that you have that responsibility placed on you to educate your child and with the world being as vocal as the world is you know they're distorting the image perverting the image of sex and and glorifying like you said a sexual immorality and also you know on these different television shows and stuff like that they're giving false false if you were like building predicating your marriage on false pretenses yes and what I mean by that is is straight physical or sexual in nature when there has to be more to a marriage for it to to be sustainable you know you you guys need to be looking towards Christ growing towards Christ it's like a triangle you know you both grow closer to Christ and then you end up closer together as a result you know the message the world puts across and it's it's very most tame is follow your heart as regards romantic relationships it gets worse than that but that's it it's most tame and really the biblical messages follow God's heart babe because we follow our own hearts they're going to lead us astray because the heart is deceitful above all things desperately wicked who can know it but follow the heart of God he will meet our emotional needs and that's the thing is that the biblical approach to morality has often been conveyed as restrictive and narrow and and God is really a pleasure you know against pleasure in some strange way really what God wants it says at his right hand are pleasures forevermore in other words the lasting pleasure God wants you not to have less pleasure but more pleasure so often Christians are at fault for presenting sexuality in such a way that it's so restrictive rather than opening up the beauty of God's plan you know and I want to get into the brain chemistry here but I have to say because I so appreciate the way in which my mother reared me similar to what yours was or what your approach was but if what she told me from the time I was a little bitty girl was if you hear anything in school if the kids are talking about sex which they do that's even Christian so don't think that they don't talk to me that she would say honey kids a lot of get things wrong so you come and ask me and mama will explain it to you and tell you what's right she never made me feel bad about any question that I asked her that's good and and you know it's interesting because sometimes how to ask her a question which you would think would lead to the next one she would as she told me later she said you'd ask this and I'd be prepared for UPS what's following but it was like okay she satisfied my curiosity now I understand what you know these kids had it wrong kids are naturally curious and confused I have never really understood why parents feel so awkward when their kids ask those questions it sounds like your mom was just like ready for whatever came that's kind of how I was this is not something to be ashamed of it's not dirty it's not unmentionable or the Bible wouldn't mention it as much especially exactly so I just I just figured God doesn't want me to be embarrassed or ashamed of this thing and he doesn't want me to be afraid to talk to those that that need my guidance and influence about it ie my children okay so let's let's just jump to this one point first I want to establish this as a beginning when God created man male male female he created them and he saw that it was good very good he instituted marriage in the garden of pleasure the Garden of Eden and he instituted marriage and and he obviously created in such a way that there would be some great bonding enjoyment that's right it explained to us how God created our brain chemistry why would he say be celibate before marriage and monogamous after marriage and you'll find the greatest pleasure I mean I could share a few things but let me just share one as I've studied neuroscience I've just seen God's plan jump out at me again and again and again not just in the positive but in the negative when things go wrong when you go outside of God's plan that's really a testimony of his plan and so I've seen it over and over again as I've studied what happens neurologically in sexual intimacy in this this is really your you know primary place that that all takes place is in the brain so there's a neurotransmitter called dopamine if you really if you know that heroin is an opiate drug right so we talk about heroin addiction and there's like a pandemic heroin addiction going on in our country right now it's a terrible thing so these are highly addictive substances but the reality is is that your brain makes those substances and it's possible to become addicted to naturally occurring opiates III dope on mine don't is the OPA in both of those things so you have an inner heroin basically and that inner heroin comes out in a sexual encounter and I want to be careful how I word this but there's another chemical that the body produces called oxytocin and oxytocin is a bonding hormone and there are also large amounts of that that come you know into the body in a sexual encounter but there's going to be more of that oxytocin in an actual committed bonded relationship than there is going to be in a casual encounter with a virtual stranger such as we see in the world so you're going to have that pleasure neurotransmitter in your brain because sex is pleasurable and that's why it's so addictive that's why we talk about it and obsess over it like we do in the world but also you're going to have in a bonded relationship high levels of oxytocin well guess what happens you experience that pleasure in a bonded relationship but because you have the oxytocin present you experience the pleasure for longer periods of time and this is scientific data you get more out of that dopamine when you have oxytocin present but and then doesn't something happen that kind of imprints I mean I've always said that anytime you have that kind of encounter with any person even in a casual way it's almost like there's becomes a soul bond there's an imprint that you need to even if you've been promiscuous you need to pray about that even before you marry but what happens between a husband and a wife well ideally and God's plan that first sexual encounter happens within marriage to the person you are committed to and because of that flood of oxytocin and other brain chemicals there's this imprinting process our first sexual encounter is very powerful to form at us and create in us appetites or attractions to certain things so that works against us if we our first encounter is something immoral you know we will have an inclination toward that even in the future and it's a temptation we'll have to overcome as we try to straighten that out and follow Jesus but according to God's plan the formating experience happens with your first sexual encounter with in marriage and one of the beautiful byproducts of that is the husband the the attractiveness of the wife is increased because of the high levels of oxytocin and effectively what happens is she imprints on him and she becomes his standard of beauty and he sees all Beauty you know face it you know not every woman is as beautiful as every other woman there are some women that fit that ideal of beauty better in the technical sense but in the subjective sense that man will see his wife if he follows God's plan will often see his wife as the most beautiful creature in all the world and that's awesome you mentioned the word temptation and I just thought about how how good god is if you if you look at first Corinthians chapter 10 verse 13 it says no temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man but God is faithful who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able but with the temptation will also make the way of escape that you may be able to bear it God will always provide a way of escape in the event that you are tempted that you face temptation there's a way of way of us in other words God's plan is attainable it's not that he's put something in front of us that is so difficult that only the toughest and the strongest of us can possibly you know grit our teeth and achieve it he said to Saul before he became Paul it's hard for you this is hard for you as you know Saul pursued his rebellious course this is hard for you the world's way is hard their warnings not to go on there are consequences that makes evil okay I'll give you another example in this ties in with what we were saying about brain chemistry what they've done is they've measured the amount of something called prolactin in the brains of individuals who have one of two kinds of sexual experiences one is bonded sexual experience and the other is what they call self sex I'm not going to use the proper term for that given or potentially our audience but let's say solo sex sex that happens alone okay okay obviously it's God's planned that sex is designed to bond two people together in lifelong love and commitment that's what it's for it's not designed by God to happen on a solo level we end up bonding with ourselves in a way that is unhealthy it's a lot of shame involved in that and that is not God's plans so they've measured the prolactin levels so what's prolactin prolactin is that hormone in your brain that gives you that sense of satisfaction nursing sexual encounter that sense of satisfaction I don't need anything else in the whole world I'm so satisfied right now here with the one that I love that's that's what God designed that for they've measured the levels of it within a bonded relationship and they've compared that with the levels in solo sex and it's 400% higher in the bonding relationship so the point is that when it happens outside of God's plan there's not as much satisfaction and you know what does that mean you end up craving more and try to get that satisfaction from more of the same and you end up on a path to addiction yeah not to mention STDs that can take place you can get pre pregnancy out of wedlock you know all those things I forget what the statistics are but you know if somebody in high school or something gets pregnant out of wedlock chances are they're going to be like in poverty because they're not going to be able to sustain themselves and the baby and and go off to college and do what they need to do to make it emotional I was going to say the same thing is like there we you know we talk about the financial consequence of the physical consequences sexually transmitted diseases and so forth but there are emotional and psychological there was one study that showed that even a crush I don't want to do many one here because we've all had crushes but even a high school crush can lead to long-standing depression so think about how high school relationships sexual relationships could set a person up for long standing about you know well any of us are cautionary and then even when you get married I mean let's say that J let's say that you married a woman who you knew had been around the block a number of times yes would you ever feel in your mind whether it is the husband or the wife that maybe you're being compared to something else that are you as a satisfactory a partner as and and there's all of these things that creates jealousy suspicion I mean there are long lasting emotional impacts from those kind of acts mm-hmm we have to kind of strike a balance because we want to put we run up against this over and over in our programs that we want to put the ideal where it belongs God designed us a certain way and he created certain specifications for how sexuality plays out in human experience when we go outside of those boundaries we reap the consequences and it's very unfortunate we believe in that God is the creator we also believe he's the Redeemer amen and we have biblical examples of individuals who went way outside of God's boundaries that recovered from it and I wrestled with this with young people sometimes I have couples one is a little more experienced and has made more mistakes than the other and I try to introduce them I try to gauge the level of repentance and how clean a break that individual has made with their old life so to speak and you know the Bible says repentance is a gift so we can't generate within ourselves but I asked myself have they received that gift of repentance and repentance you know John the Baptist said lay the ax to the root of the tree he was the one calling the people to repentance in preparation for them so repentance has the effective of cutting the ties cutting our ties with the world and we develop a negative association with sin that's a miracle of God so when that severing takes place I try to gauge that and if that has taken place in that person I encourage the one that is has a better track record so to speak you know what we believe in radical grace here amen this person has made a clean break and they potentially because now they're partaking of the grace of God they cut the ties with the old world they can become a more faithful partner through the Holy Spirit and through the grace of God then even someone who wasn't as experienced as they were you know it's just like we began talking about this little 12 year old girl whose parents had no idea and they not trained her up it's first John 1:9 if we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins not only that to cleanse us of all unrighteousness so please I'm not setting myself up as a saint here and I don't think any of us are we we all make mistakes and we don't mean to do this in any condemned natori fashion because God is the great Redeemer well let's talk a little bit more about intimate clarity you did not use the word for self sex but on intimate clarity we will we use some medical terms we're talking about some tough topics we are and you you can't really address the tough topics adequately if you don't use some medical terminology as you say so we really had to walk a fine line it was challenging I'll be honest it was challenging for me because you know I'm a social scientist and I read studies and I just choose the medical terminology this is this this is this this is this just is you know but I realize that there's there's a viewing audience and they have certain parameters and needs and so I'm trying to be sensitive to that because it's so important that we communicate the essence of what we're trying to say so but the way so we did it in such a way that it would be current so that people would understand what we're talking about instead of saying self sex or self abuse right we use the medical term but tell us about Jake let me let me just touch on you okay that was about some of the topics and were you comfortable or uncomfortable as you were I was I was comfortable to be honest I mean it always there was a time when I left the church from age 14 to about 28 so there was like 14 years where I was outside of the church and I with the way that the topics were discussed the way it was done in a very tasteful manner it was done in a very educational and informative way now not the material necessarily that was covered but some of the statistics that you shared we're I mean amazing shocked let me ask you something if you were out 14 to 28 obviously a lot of your sex education came from the world yes God has done you know once again we're talking about trajectories here we watched this young man who just came here on fire for God but fair to say you were still a babe yes and we've just watched you just watched because you study in the Word of God constantly you are I believe God's got an anointing on you to preach because sometimes when God touches him what comes out of his mouth is incredible but how as God has reprogrammed you because I know right now you're dating with hopes of marriage and you are very specific in wanting God's ideal plan in your life talk to us about that well you know it comes from experience too you know I realized that what God has for us is way better than anything that we could have for ourselves that's right and so I've seen how things go when I take that matters into my own hands and I do my own thing I it's it's a failure Marty gets pointment heartache disappointment leads to problems and trials and tribulation and all that stuff but God's plan is it's perfect and so I truly want his will for my life and what I found is that God wants to give you the victory over things that you're struggling with anything that you're struggling with you can take it to God you can pray and say God look I you know I don't even want to change I need you to and put that desire in dad like to make me want to change and and help please relieve me of this this bondage of this captivity whatever it may be it could be substance abuse it could be sexual immorality it could be a number of things whatever it is God will help you get over that and I've seen him work in my own life over these fourteen years coming back to him you know being raised in the church my mom raised me in the church and so I knew what I was missing I had a sense of emptiness and I knew that the only one that could fill that void was Jesus and so coming back to him and it wasn't like I didn't feel like giving stuff up was a burden you know it was it was about my love for Christ and when you love somebody you don't want to hurt that person these commands are not Grievous no no and you know what you just said earlier because some people will say what do you mean repentance is a gift what you're saying I tell people you know Jesus said blessed are you if you hunger and thirst for righteousness we don't always hunger and thirst for righteousness but you did it right you go to him and say Lord caused me to hunger and thirst for righteousness and suddenly he makes you start hating the things you once loved and loving the things you once hated and he puts that hunger and thirst and righteousness and I always let please listen to me confession is the clearing house of the conscience so when we go before the Lord and confessor since also pray acts 5:32 I believe it is says that he is the one who gives us repentance so pray and say Lord give me repentance hell and that just means turn me around father it's more than just confessing our sins turn me away from this to you and God will so what are some of the topics I want to go ahead why 26 programs mm-hmm and we're gonna we're addressing everything across the spectrum we're not only talking about purity before marriage married love we're talking about we're taking on homosexuality transgenderism we're taking on pornography of everything sexual abuse abuse how to recover from abuse we're talking with adultery how to recover oh yeah we got one on that got just about everything I could possibly think of and I know what will happen is we'll do all 26 of these they'll get out there and then people will be what about this and we'll probably have to come back and do more but I try to hit everything and you know what it's done in love too it's done and love is free god yeah we're not condemning they've already been hit over the head by the consequences and they've already been hit over the head by their own conscience and sometimes by church members that are well-meaning but don't deliver it in love and so we're trying to put everything in a very grace centered way including some of these politicized issues which are very difficult to address but we lose something when we become overly political about them because there are actual people involved in these things that Jesus people that Jesus died for and that we as followers of Jesus are called to minister to so we try to bring that out with each one of these programs you know something that's important for me to explain to our audience is this I remember when we first started airing Sheree Peters program celebrate life to recovery had a precious little lady called me from California and she said honey why would you put this kind of stuff on three and I told her we're not just preaching to the choir here we're trying to reach those who were wounded the brokenhearted people of the world the people who are trapped in this and then she made the cutest comment to me she said well honey couldn't you do it instead of Shri because she was having trouble with some of Cherise terminology what I said I said you know what I could do it yes indeed I could and I said you and your little prayer group because she was calling on behalf of her prayer group and they were all in their late 70s early eighties and I said y'all might like it better but guess what nobody we're trying to reach would it touch some of the street language that Shri uses is what attracts people to watch it they identify with thats right so let me say this before you call me because people are I know that I know I'm gonna get some phone calls people will say why is program developer why as the producer why would you put such things on the air as I said number one this is not an age appropriate for young children will let you watch it and decide what at what age but and also some of the programs are a little more mild than others yes so and and they'll be available on YouTube and we're trying to reach some people but here's here's what I'm saying even within the church why do the church members need to see this because as I said we've been long silent we're letting the world educate our children but the other is that we sometimes argue a point let's say about homosexuality from a couple of few scriptures and we don't have the science that backs it up in our own adventist universities acceptance of gay lifestyle gay marriage has gone in the last 60 years from something in the high 20s below 30% to getting up there to where majority of people think this is too of student body I think it is an acceptable lifestyle see what we need to do is show what even the world knows about the pain of this lifestyle the damage of I'll tell you something it's it's challenging to do that because there's a lot of controversy even in the scientific realm someone will produce a study for instance on same-sex parents and the children of same-sex parents that says everything is hunky-dory everything's fine another study will come out and say no there's problems here overall you know same-sex parenting there are problems and the children so and I'm not saying you know which one I agree at I'm just saying that that there's a war even in the scientific realm it's difficult to find research that reveals you know biblical facts and so you know that it coincides with the scripture that's mostly funded by the Catholic Church by the way and and also on bring them Young University the Mormon University out and out west so it's difficult to find that research it exists it's there but what'll happen is as soon as it comes out its tagged by the media as right-wing and extreme and you know fake news kind of stuff and so it can be really challenging in that world to even substantiate things but the data is there and it's very interesting how much time I have to talk yeah okay so the the for instance gay population really wants to appear to be fine because they want to sell the idea of same-sex marriage to the to the public so they have an incentive not to reveal what's really going on but then what happens is they can't get the insurance coverage they can't get the social programs they don't get the help that heterosexual people give and I'll give you an example a same-sex couple there's a lot of violence particularly in males same-sex couples a lot of domestic violence because you've got two two men in the same relationship and 95 percent of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship is perpetrated by the male so just men have more testosterone they tend to be more physically aggressive so you have a lot of that issue in same-sex male couples and those people need help I'm not saying they don't but what happens is they try to go to a shelter and shelters don't allow men so now they're having to have a whole separate shelter more gay individuals that are being perpetrated on domestic violence so in order to get that they have to reveal what's going on in their community and they're starting to come out now because there's an environment of acceptance in our society they're starting to admit what's really going on behind the scenes and some of the strongest evidence is coming from the community itself and you know there was a time when the American Psychological Association the this was or not maybe it's not the a but in the medical books it was considered a disorder or 1973 it was in the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic ulm annual until 1973 it was taken out and then then gender it was called gender identity disorder was just revised and I think it was 2008 with their transgender well what we call transgender someone who's a man that thinks he's a woman or as a woman and thinks he's a man it was called gender identity disorder and they believe they revised in 2013 it might have been 2015 anyway they came out with the dsm-5 and the dsm-5 had changed it to gender dysphoria or gender dysphoria sorter okay what they were trying to do was keep it in the diagnostic manual because without a diagnosis you can't get the hormone treatment you can't get insurance coverage for the hormone treatments and and potentially for surgery if that's what you want to do so in order to keep it in the manual they had to they had to reframe it and so they call it gender dysphoria meaning that the thing that's pathological about it is the dysphoria you feel you should feel okay about being a man and wanting to be a woman that should be that's healthier thing but it's unhealthy to feel you're disturbed it distracts what they're saying we're not you know and I just I want to put this out here just because it hit me I was I like to read medical journals how to always hang on to everything that I read but I do recall about a year ago I read an art that was being put forth by the American Psychiatric Association saying that there are many who are beginning to think that Peter pedophilia is normal you know young and the young and the old together also that more recently six to eight months ago I read something that was an attempt to say maybe in sexual relations were normal do we see what's coming well what's come in 2007 in it's been done in Europe for years but in 2007 when a child's identified as the opposite sex we started to allow them that Boston Children's Hospital began to give them puberty suppressing hormones so they would have a window of time where they could decide which sex they want it to be that started 2007 so I don't see how we've always said no we can't you know the man-boy love that's wrong we know that's wrong because that child isn't of age they can't make a responsible decision being that young but you're letting children now decide which sex they're gonna be I don't know why it wouldn't follow that you would let children decide which sex partner they want to have see yeah it's scary it is scary scary and and we're not again we are not promulgating this ID not at all worsen cerned about it and that's why I'm expressing it I feel that sometimes people in a Christian community don't really realize what's going on out there and we're dealing with a major moral crisis in our society today and it's become a political crisis we're so fractioned and we're so polemic and polarized but we need to approach this thing in love and I think approaching it and love is key because we approach it in an equally politicized fashion we're just going to drive the opposition yeah and you can't you know I always tell somebody you cannot beat somebody over the head with a violin to convince them how beautiful the music is that's right so you get it doesn't take the Bible or our quotes out of Ellen White writings and beat people over the head to convince them it's beautiful it's got to be in the love of the Lord I will say one quick thing because I know you've been to Israel in oh I haven't oh you haven't well that's the trip you take Michelle oh let's go we've been there five times and one thing that really astonished me is they celebrate chastity they celebrate virginity this is a culture that holds the Virgin upholds the virtuous woman up in an incredible manner we used to do that look how far we have we have gone off the edge of a slippery slope part of the reason though is we had a double standard the men wasn't so important you know and so then there were these men and they were you know for for seeking women and and eventually the women caved in so it's really I mean we want to make that's a great point we believe that it is is important applying imports or a young man to be a virgin as well all right we are I just want to show one more time I don't think I ever finished describing it but this is the intimate clarity set and and there was reasons behind designing it this way we wanted it to be bright and airy to say this is not a topic that's taboo it is a conversation we need to have and also one thing that we thought was important was that we have a middle-aged married woman with a young single man to talk to show you that it is something that this is a conversation that shouldn't be considered dirty it shouldn't be considered evil everybody no matter what demographic needs to have this conversation absolutely a universal need absolutely but there will be a strong disclaimer on this program saying that parents are cautioned you will not want your younger children to watch it and oh I know what I wanted to tell you we're pairing it it's a 15-minute unless unless you're sitting there with the younger children and you're explaining things as it may be appropriate depending on the child depending on the age and you probably want to watch it first to make sure you know but what we're going to do this is exciting is we are pairing this in a half-hour SWAT it's a 15-minute program and we've got another new program up coming up for youth I would say probably 15 to 25 is the main target group and this is going to be called raw questions relevant answers so they're not going to go into the detail perhaps that you are doing an awesome pasta the tough ones to generate all of that anyway what we want to do is we're going to come back in just a moment have a closing thought but we've got a news break that we wanted to share with you and we will be right back well I hope that we haven't shocked too much today but it is a conversation we need to have Jim just talk to us for a moment about the sacredness what are we trying to do with this program what we're trying to do is we're trying to put a spotlight on God's ideal for human sexuality his design for human sexuality and then we're going to talk about we're going to you know sort of reinforce that spotlight or that that design by talking about what happens when we deviate from it some of the fallout of that and then we want to create a movement back to that ideal encourage people in the Lord that they can experience radical transformation through the grace and power of God and and get back to his original design well you know we know that God is not the author of confusion and so this program being called intimate clarity is providing clarity on God's divine design and so if you've ever departed Yod wants you back even you know I want her I want to read something 1st Thessalonians 4 33 it says for this is the will of God Paul wrote your sanctification that means being set apart that's from the worldly thing set apart for God that you should abstain from sexual immorality and each one of you know how to possess his own vessel and sanctification and honor not in passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God and I wished well let me go on that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother or his sister in this manner because the God is the Avenger of such we are defrauding each other if we don't understand this thank you so much for doing this series thank you so much for being here today and thank you for helping me muddle through what could be a difficult topic our prayer for you at home is at the grace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ the love of the Father and the Fellowship of the Holy Spirit will be with you always [Music] you [Music]

Channel: Three Angels Broadcasting Network (3ABN)

Views: 3,264

Rating: 5 out of 5

Keywords: 3ABN, Three Angels Broadcasting Network, yt:quality=high, intimate clarity, jennifer jill schwirzer, counseling, christian counseling, soicial issues, sexual purity, Bible counseling

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Length: 55min 1sec (3301 seconds)

Published: Mon Jul 30 2018