Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we are going to learn about 12 signs
someone is secretly a sociopath. Now, let’s begin
1. Selfish Superiority Many sociopaths have an air of superiority
about them. They act as if they are the most intelligent and successful people
in the room, even if that isn’t true. They believe they know everything. They frequently
disregard the opinions of others, and they often belittle other people’s accomplishments.
At some level, sociopaths don’t realize how other people perceive them, but
general ignorance isn’t the only issue. Their sense of superiority often stems from
something deeper: a lack of interest in the lives of others. Sociopaths can be self-possessed,
arrogant, and profoundly selfish. In many cases, they think they’re better than other people,
because a sociopath only values themselves. 2. Emotional Ignorance
Sociopaths have trouble creating real emotional connections. They may not experience
empathy in the way most people do. In fact, it’s common for sociopaths to misunderstand
or simply ignore other people’s feelings. Let’s say you and a sociopath get into an
argument. You try to express why you are upset. Maybe the other person said something
that hurt your feelings or damaged your trust. In this situation, a sociopath will not
genuinely apologize for their mistakes. They may not even acknowledge
that they’ve done anything wrong. Instead, they’ll turn the situation on its
head. They’ll justify their own behavior and blame the entire conflict on you. In the mind
of a sociopath, they are never at fault. They do not accept responsibility for their mistakes, and
they do not apologize to the people they offend. In their world, nothing is their fault,
and they plan to keep it that way. 3. Manipulative Charm
Sociopaths are skilled people-pleasers. They shower other people with compliments,
praise, and encouragement. On the surface, they are charismatic and likable, but they
use their social charms to gain advantages and exploit their relationships.
If you want to know whether someone is a sociopath, pay attention to
the way they flatter other people. A sociopath will praise and support anyone and
everyone. They are constantly giving compliments because they need to be on everyone’s good side.
For example, a sociopath will act like your best friend. They’ll talk like your number one fan.
But deep down… they couldn’t care less about you. Instead, a sociopath may see you as a
stepping stone to a greater advantage. If they have to shower you with compliments to get
what they want, a sociopath will do exactly that. Now, I’m not saying everyone who is positive
and encouraging has sociopathic tendencies. But you may come across someone who seems a
little too good to be true. There’s no guarantee, but it’s possible this person is a sociopath.
4. Undivided Attention Good listeners give people their undivided
attention. They demonstrate confident social skills by actively listening to people
when they talk. When someone does this, you may feel validated or special. You may
gain a boost of confidence and self-esteem. For these reasons, sociopaths give overwhelming
amounts of attention to the people in their lives. They seem to make heavy emotional investments, and
they often demand as much attention as they give. But they will just as easily
take their attention elsewhere. One moment this person can’t stop looking at
you, but the next… they couldn’t care less. In other words, sociopaths don’t make emotional
investments in the same way as most people. One day, a sociopath may decide that they’re
bored or no longer interested in you. They’ll disappear as quickly as they came,
leaving you wondering what went wrong. If this sounds familiar, don’t settle for this hot
and cold dynamic. Stable friends and partners will never rescind their emotions whenever they get
distracted or bored. If you know someone who does, be careful. They may secretly be a sociopath.
5. Lack of Remorse Guilt is not an emotion many sociopaths
experience. To experience guilt, you need to experience empathy, which is not a strong
point for people with sociopathic tendencies. That’s why sociopaths don’t feel guilty about the
mistakes they make. Most of the time, they simply don’t recognize what they’re doing wrong.
Instead, sociopaths find ways to justify their words and actions. Even if they do or say
something that negatively affects other people, sociopaths will not register the damage they’ve
done. They don’t feel sorry or remorseful, because deep down, a sociopath only
cares about their own well-being. 6. Hidden Intentions Sociopaths are prone to dishonesty. They tell
manipulative stories, lie about grand experiences, and even fabricate their deepest emotions.
Sociopaths do not value the things they say, and they don’t consider how
their words affect other people. As a result, many people experience a weird
phenomenon around sociopathic people. When you hear them talking, you get this instinctual, gut
feeling that this person is not telling the truth. At some level, it seems like their words
are empty or hollow — almost like they don’t mean a single thing they say.
If this sounds familiar, pay close attention to the way a sociopath acts, because
actions often reveal their true intentions. If their words and actions are sending different
messages, this person may have something to hide. 7. Persistent Patterns
Many sociopaths have trouble keeping their lives stable and balanced.
For the most part, they do not take their commitments seriously. In fact, sociopaths
consistently avoid their responsibilities. As a result, their lives tend to be unstable.
Most sociopaths are unemployed and struggling financially. For example, many sociopaths borrow
money they have no intention of paying back. In general, sociopaths do not value their
commitments or responsibilities. Instead, their impulsive personalities are drawn toward
short-term rewards and superficial activities. If someone you know demonstrates a pattern of
persistently impulsive behavior, there’s a chance this person is a sociopath.
8. Constant Conflict Sociopaths are always at the center of some kind
of conflict. Their lives feel like TV dramas, in which they are the main characters. But
the twist is… none of these conflicts are ever their fault. If they get fired at work,
it’s because their boss is incompetent. If they argue with a friend, it’s because
their friend is jealous or selfish. In other words, sociopaths are surrounded by an
unnatural amount of drama; yet they refuse to take any of the blame. Time and time again,
they frame themselves as victims of a cruel environment. In their minds, they are good, honest
people being bullied by the rest of the world. When you hear their side of the
story, it’s tempting to believe them. Sociopaths are good storytellers whose natural
charm can sway your opinions in their favor. But it’s important to keep every one of their
stories in perspective. Otherwise, you will buy into their lies, giving them the sympathy
and attention that every sociopath craves. 9. Redundant Mistakes Since sociopaths don’t take responsibility for
their mistakes, they never learn how to grow or improve. When something goes wrong, they
avoid all mention of their personal failures. So, they make the same mistakes over and over again.
From the outside, it feels like these sociopathic personalities are walking in circles. You
hear them complaining about the same problems, day after day. They get a new job. They make
new friends. Yet they experience the same issues. Why? Because sociopaths are unwilling,
and often unable, to learn from their failures. 10. Relieving Anger
Every once in a while, you will catch a sociopath making a mistake. They
may lie about something obvious or fail to take responsibility for something they said. You may
get angry at them and start thinking to yourself, “why do I spend so much time with this person?”
But feelings like these never last long. Why? Because sociopaths are very skilled
at winning people over. They can and will manipulate your feelings using charm, praise, and
empty charisma. Anytime you feel angry with them, they will find ways to talk you out of your anger,
even if that means lying through their teeth. To a sociopath, all that matters is that they
stay on your good side. They’ll say and do anything to win you over. Unless you see through
their hollow compliments, there’s a good chance this sociopath will sweep you off your feet.
So, keep your wits about you. If you’re angry, remember why you’re angry. If they make a mistake,
don’t let them sweep that mistake under the rug. Each of these mistakes are big red flags, no
matter how often a sociopath tells you otherwise. 11. Reckless Lifestyle Choices
Self-control does not come naturally to a sociopath. They have a hard time ignoring their
short-term desires in favor of long-term rewards. So, it’s common for sociopaths to behave without
considering the consequences of their actions. If you know a sociopath, you may be familiar
with their reckless behavior. They act without thinking, and they never plan ahead. They
allow their impulses to control their life, even if that means damaging their relationships.
If you’re friends with this reckless personality, you may feel like it’s your job to slow them down.
You may feel like you are the only voice of reason in their life. But no matter what you say, a
sociopath will always follow their instincts. 12. Exploiting Relationships
If someone is secretly a sociopath, you may be able to identify red flags
by looking at their relationships. Sociopaths may not experience real emotional
bones with their friends and partners. Instead, they create relationships in
order to exploit the people in their lives. For example, sociopaths often take
advantage of their friends and partners by asking for favors and displacing their
responsibilities. In the mind of a sociopath, relationships are tools they can use to push
their own agenda and gain social reward. If you notice this toxic behavior in your life,
someone you know may secretly be a sociopath. Thank you for watching TopThink,
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