(bright upbeat music) - [Instructor] Have you
ever talked to a sociopath? According to the Fifth
Edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental
Health disorders or DSM-5, sociopathy is a category of
antisocial personality disorder. So a sociopath is someone with interior, social and pathological
impairments to their personality. A sociopath will say
anything to get their way, even if that means bending the truth. Before we get started, remember that these phrases
alone don't define a sociopath. Language is just a small
piece of a larger puzzle. In other words, you may hear a friend or partner use phrases from this list, but that doesn't necessarily
make him or her a sociopath. So here are nine things
a sociopath might say and what those things really mean. One, no one is ever going
to love you the way I do. According to the DSM-5, a
sociopath may tear others down for their own personal gain. They may use lines like
this to gently chip away at your self-esteem. Over time, you may find yourself believing what they tell you even if
this person doesn't treat you as well as they should. Two, you're the most amazing
person I've ever met. Compliments are another way
that sociopath's control their friends and partners. Praise can be a great
way to build closer bonds with people in your life, but sociopath's have another goal in mind. A sociopath may shower
you with compliments just to keep you under their thumb. Three, don't be so sensitive. The DSM-5 highlights how sociopath's avoid taking responsibility, why? Because they want to
preserve their own image. When a sociopath makes a mistake, they try to save face
by passing the blame. Since sociopath struggle with compassion, feelings are often their biggest target. Instead of empathizing with your concerns, they may attack your sensitivity and shame you for having emotions at all. Four, you'll never survive without me. Sociopath's use comments like
these to prey on your fears and vulnerabilities. Maybe you're scared of feeling alone or worried you'll never find love again. Sociopath's purposely
attack your insecurities to keep you under their spell. They insist you don't
deserve anything better even if that couldn't be
further from the truth. Five, you make me a better person. Sometimes people do improve, thanks to meaningful relationships, but sociopaths aren't
interested in growth or change instead they use phrases like
this to build false hope. They say they're trying their best. They pretend they're making
an effort to improve, but their actions usually
tell a different story. Six, you're the only
one who understands me. For a sociopath, close
is never close enough. So they talk like this to
create the illusion of intimacy. They make you feel you
have a much stronger bond than you actually do, that illusion convinces you
to invest more of your time and effort into the relationship. But in the end that just gives
the sociopath more control. Seven, you're so needy. Imagine your partner was
supposed to meet you for dinner, but they show up over an hour late. How would this make you feel? Pretty angry, right? But instead of apologizing
or explaining themselves, your partner says I'm here, aren't I? What more do you need? In a 2019 study, Johnson
explains that sociopaths are narcissistic. In other words, they prioritize
their own personal gain and disregard the needs for others. They act like you're the
one who's being needy even though you're just asking
for some accountability. Eight, I don't have time for this. This is another phrase that a sociopath may use to save face. The moment they feel attacked, a sociopath may dismiss
the entire situation claiming it's not worth their time. They act like every second of their day is too valuable to waste. In reality, they're just
looking for a way out, watch out for excuses and
non-apologetic statements. Nine, you owe me. In the mind of a sociopath, relationships are like transactions. They'll do you a favor
or give you a compliment, but they always expect
something in return. A sociopath will rarely
give out the goodness of their heart. So when a sociopath says you owe me, it means they're ready to
cash in on their investment. Do you know someone who uses
these underhanded comments? Let us know about your experiences in the comments section below. Don't forget to click the
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