10 EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE THINGS HIJACKALS SAY OFTEN & How to NEUTRALIZE Their Effects on You

hello and welcome to save your sanity i'm doctor british shaler and we're going to be talking to you today about 10 emotionally abusive things hijackals say often far too often and how you can neutralize their effects within yourself it's a really difficult thing when you have these toxic people in your life and you know hijackals is my word for them and i created that that word because we don't want to be making clinical diagnoses of them um we just need to know that they have certain patterns traits psychos behaviors and they are identifiable and they run in groups and so when we start to learn all of the little pieces that go into making a hijack called behavior then we can do something about it at least we can make decisions about what we'd like to do about it and that's really important so i'm really glad that you're here and we're going to be discussing that tonight if you've been with us before i'm glad you've returned and if you are new i'm glad you found me if you'd like to support this work you can go to patreon.com save your sanity patreon.com save your sanity and patreon is a place where you can make a pledge for as little as a dollar or any dollar value you like one time or on a monthly basis to support the work so thank you in advance if you consider going there and making a donation so many times we hear the same things over and over from hijackals they are meant to be demeaning they are meant to be degrading they are meant to be dismissive they are meant to be discounting and they they tear at you they wear you down until you are kind of emotionally exhausted and so i wanted to talk about ten of those things to today so that you can clearly recognize them a as emotionally abusive and be as something that you can respond to internally if not externally that will help you neutralize their effect we all know it's a difficult thing to live with a person who has these behaviors and to raise children with them or maybe they were the people who raised you maybe they were your parents maybe you went from toxic parents into a toxic relationship yourself that's very common and so these things were said to you when you were young and they are repeated to you by your partner or maybe by a sibling and so no matter which hijacker we're talking about your parents your partner your siblings your adult child your friends your coworkers these are things that they say so we're going to just talk about 10 of them there are far too many of them to talk about but there are 10 and let's begin the number one is that you are not good enough it's a prevailing sense that they give you but is the words that they use they discount you like well who do you think you are to ask for that um what it whatever happened in your mind to think that you could speak up do you really think somebody wants to hear from you they put you down in such a way to make you feel as though you don't have a place you're not good enough to even be participating equally in the conversation now you know i always refer to episode 115 the three must-haves of healthy adult relationship you can see that when one person thinks that they're superior to another you are never going to have those three must-haves you are never going to have equality reciprocity and mutuality it can't happen so when a hijackal or a person with narcissistic tendencies a toxic person you hear from them that you are not good enough that is their way of making sure they're superior and you're inferior it's very important for them to keep that story going for their own purposes because they must feel on top they must feel that they're winning they must feel that they're right and they must feel that they actually have you in their power so when they tell you that you are not good enough in one way or another one of the ways that you can neutralize that is simply by saying internally one person's opinion is not the reality for me no matter what this person is saying i am thinking something different you may have that opinion i do not hold that opinion so quietly in yourself you're saying that's not true what is true is i am more than good enough i am equal i do deserve a reciprocal relationship and i do deserve mutuality which is not present or available here so your internal dialogue begins to shift instead of being back down and pushed away which is what the hijacker wants to do to overpower you you actually get into a place where you're going no i'm not having any of that you talk on if you like i'm not taking it in because you know that one they're only telling you that you're not good enough because internally they feel they're not good enough that's what we call projection so they are projecting their concern for themselves not being good enough and turning it around and putting it on you that's the projection they're real you get the picture projected on you and so this not good enough thing is pervasive to narcissists and you might think how can that be when so many of them behave in ways that they seem to be so um superior that they they seem to feel that they rule the roots and they're so confident but no underlying that and don't put your compassion hat on underlying that is a very great big hole which they do not feel good enough so they over step in an endeavor to make themselves appear more than good enough so that's one thing another thing they like to tell you is you're wrong you know that it's always going to be your fault everything is going to be your fault and you're wrong now again it's that dichotomy they want to be right and therefore if they want to be right you must be wrong they couldn't possibly entertain the fact that two people could be right and that we could have a conversation about it and maybe come to some learning about each other or some resolution of our conflict no they couldn't possibly entertain that idea so therefore you must be wrong now when you want to neutralize that idea one important thing is to know your own truth that you understand that you know what happened they want to confuse you they want to get you into chaos in your mind did i say it didn't i say it did i do it didn't i do it they'll gaslight you into that position and telling you that you're wrong when you know you're right is is a gaslighting activity so if you hear this coming and you hear this you're wrong it's your fault all of that change your internal dialogue and ask the speaker to make an example for you tell me exactly where you think i'm wrong and get them to go into their left brain because when they're angry and they're upset and they're talking at you then you know that they are not in their um logical brain they think they are they think they are making absolute sense but you want to get the speaker back into their brain so i'll talk about that a little more later so when they tell you you're wrong certainly ask yourself am i is that actually what's going on here and if there is no evidence in that reality then simply remind yourself that no whatever is being said to me is with an intent to confuse and to put me down and i know that i am accurate so you bring your energy back to yourself instead of wasting it on the hijackal i hope that makes sense to you because they want you to lean in they want you to be engaged they want you to think that they are right and that they are the be-all and end-all of making decisions about what's right and wrong and when you don't lean in when you don't oh am i wrong you don't you don't second-guess yourself you don't super question yourself when you just sit and go oh that noise is going on over there i hear it i'm taking note of it but i'm not taking it in and when you start to make that separation between what they are doing and saying and what reality actually is for you you start to take back the power that is rightfully yours it's not power over anyone it's your personal power to choose what's right for you and so when they're going off like a roman candle you just simply go into a place that affirms what you know to be true for you now i know that may be taking a little effort in fact it may take a whole lot of effort but it's absolutely worth it so i sincerely hope that you will take that into into consideration that i do not have to lean in and ask them questions and what do you think and why do you think that and no no no that's not the case and then the more you protest the more they become adamant and superior let's not get into that dynamic let's simply sit back observe and then calibrate inside is this actually accurate is there truth to what this person is saying did i make a mistake if the answer is yes you say yes i did make a mistake i apologize and you move on if the answer is no then you just allow them to run out their clock speak at whatever they're speaking and eventually they will feel like they have one and they will walk away so there's two things another thing that hijackals like to say is that you're stupid that you can't think your way out of a paper bag they have to do that of course because they think it puts them on top and puts you down at the bottom but you know you're not stupid you know you never were stupid you know that maybe you have allowed that behavior and it's caused you to second-guess yourself but you know you're not stupid you know you're not without a brain you know that you have a reality and you can in fact believe your own reality most of the time and so don't let them get away with telling you you're stupid or you're thoughtless or you're whatever it is without calibrating to see hmm no that's not true it's a broad generalization it's just a big slush fund to try and whitewash me with you know i'm going to discount you as a human being so when you feel within yourself that you can realize where it's coming from their need to be superior and right you don't meet that with your need to be superior and right or logical you just simply observe it you don't retreat and you don't advance you just stand still and observe it do you think you could do that to just calibrate what is actually going on here this person needs to feel they are at the top of the mountain and they want me to feel that i'm being buried in the valley and that's the story that they need in order to survive i know it's not the truth i know within myself it's not the truth so therefore i do not need to respond to it and if i do want to respond to it and neutralize it you can say that's not the reality for me i know that i am perfectly capable of thinking and having good ideas and i am sure that that is the case and you just affirm yourself so affirm yourself within silently or with whether firm affirm yourself outwardly by being verbal about it and that way you don't allow that pushback to cause you to recede which is what they want you to do so they can have power over you and you will be backing away when you just neutralize it and say no that's not my reality i actually know that i am not stupid or i actually know that i can think quite clearly you're not refuting them in the sense that they're wrong you are affirming that you know you and this can be a big step for you because if you've been backed away and backed away and backed away and then you stand up to it and say no that's not the case that's not true for me i can affirm that and take your space back again expand into that space and that will help neutralize it'll make the two power bases more equal okay number three they like to tell you that you don't do things well okay you could have done that better you know if if you're bathing a child or you're washing dishes or you're running an errand or you're washing the car whatever it is they like to tell you that you're not doing it well enough right that sounds familiar now it's little little snide remarks the little little things that they just need to poke you with they just need to riddle you with the idea that you don't do things very well so again we use that same technique of affirming yourself stand back from the car and say looks pretty good to me and carry on going also at the same time internally you're going there they go i'm going to identify what the hijackal is endeavoring to do the hijackal is endeavoring to have power over me but i am in charge of my power i'm not going to give it to them and i'm not going to fight them for it i'm just going to expand into my full self and say i don't agree i think the car looks great and they can they can talk all that they want but you keep affirming your reality and affirming yourself and declaring that that's so because you have contracted the idea of being with a hijackal is that there's a circle and each of you occupy half of it when you begin and it stays generally that way when you're in a healthy relationship but when you're in relationship with a high jackal they want to take up more and more and more space in that circle and in order to do that they have to make you smaller and smaller and smaller and when you stand up and refuse to get smaller this is the beginning of the turn of things they may recognize it they may not like it they may be okay with it you just have to see and one day it may be one way and one day it may be the other but for your health for your sense of self-confidence for your self-esteem for your self-knowledge you need to expand into the space and affirm yourself because you know you do do things well you know honestly the house is running the children are still alive you probably have a job and manage everything that the hijackal doesn't want to manage and somehow it all works so you know you do do things well don't let them second guess you because that's the game that's what they're after they want to get you on the run thinking could they be right are they right am i a terrible person am i lousy at that and when they do that you see that smirk right i call it the hijackal smirk and if you listen to the uh episode that i did as an interview with david hill he is a facial coding expert and i asked him that question about that smirk and he was very familiar with it and he said that it is in the facial coating it is the combination of disdain and anger and when you get those two codes together it comes out as contempt and basically that's what they're doing with that smirk like i got you i'm on top of the pile i have succeeded and you don't even know what i did to you and that's what they're endeavoring to do they're endeavoring to take up more than half of their circle in fact they'd like to take up at least nine tenths of it and if you're still breathing they might go for nine and a half tenths of it all right so we've talked about four let's talk about another they they like to ask you what makes you think that you deserve that well obviously if something is available we all deserve it equally so the answer is because i breathe but you're not going to say that because that would just poke the hijackal right so when they ask you why do you think you deserve to have that or do that or whatever your internal dialogue needs to be because i exist i have the right to take up space and draw breath on this earth so that's why it becomes really important to neutralize it with a personal weather report i've spoken of that so often i have a whole video on that i have done a podcast on it that's a technique a strategy that i developed in order to have communication that is both kind and honest at the same time but the thing is that it comes from a place of knowing that you deserve to take up space and draw breath on this earth and knowing therefore that you have the right to say what you think what you want what you need what you prefer what you remember and how you feel you have that right as long as you do not mention another human by name or pronoun so when you're talking about yourself you're on solid ground when you're talking about someone else little troublesome open to interpretation when you're talking about someone else who happens to be a hijackal and you're speaking out loud you're going to have a fight on your hands so it becomes important when they say why do you think you deserve that to be able to simply say well it's available everybody could have that and i deserve it too and to be able to say it in that way that just discloses your thought process it doesn't engage in any kind of argument although they'll see everything that's not in agreement with them as an argument anyway but you are cleaning your communication so that you know that you are simply saying because that's what i want and i have a right to want that it's very very clear then they don't like it anything that i'm telling you a hijackal will not appreciate your doing but you are doing some of these things internally i want you to be emerging empowered whether you're emerging empowered within the relationship or you emerge in power and decide to leave the relationship you need to be emerging empowered on a daily basis and you know i have courses coming up but now we have our community ready for you the emerging empowered community so go to the website for relationship help and see it there you can click on support circles and you'll see it at for relationshiphelp.com lots of help for emerging empowered and the community great place to talk um it works just like facebook except it's securely on my website and so nobody but members can see it anywhere okay another one you know a hijackal likes to have that superior plays that i mentioned so they'll say to you you're lucky i put up with you you're lucky i haven't walked out of here in other words take the dregs of what i'm going to throw your way and be happy you get the crumbs and it's really important for you to know that you deserve much more than crumbs you deserve half the cake you know if the relationship is the whole cake you deserve half of that cake and if you're only getting crumbs it's not enough it's inappropriate and it is not going to create a healthy adult relationship so when they ask and when they say to you well you're just lucky i put up with you you're lucky i don't throw you out of here this is a time that can create fear within you you can feel threatened so at that moment really important to expand your chest then just bring your shoulders back take a few deep breaths and remind yourself i am the one who is putting up with you and why have a little inquiry in your mind why am i because they are wanting to tell you that they are in charge large and in charge and that they are gaining to put up with you but when you start to physically bring your power back into your body when you bring your shoulders back and you breathe deeply that changes things because they want you to be constricted they want you to be constrained they want you to be feeling smaller and smaller and when you when you don't not that you're going to look like that but all small and passive but it's an internal feeling they want to crush you and then they tell you that these they as wonderful people are just putting up with you and why well you're just lucky i do so take back your space in your head come back to the place of recognizing that don't lean into their story don't lean into their narrative that you're lucky they put up with you ask yourself the question why am i putting up with this it will change the way the hemispheres of your brain operate and it'll help keep you in a centered good place and that is super important okay another hijackals like to tell you that you are not attentive enough to their needs you are not doing your job you know that can extend to to to the bedroom and so often it does they like to bring you down about the bedroom the most intimate place that you share with these people and so they want to make you inadequate there but they're very concerned about having their own needs met and they'll tell you that you're not attentive enough you don't serve them enough you don't service them enough and big question what are you are you being paid as a prostitute to service them no you want you want to be in a relationship where you feel so safe and you trust so much that you can be intimate and you're drawn to that safety and trust hijackals don't build that it is definitely a hierarchical relationship in the bedroom in most cases and they want to again be large and in charge no pun intended if they happen to be male so let's remember that that when they say you are not being attentive enough to their needs they mean that you should forsake your own needs your own desires your own values and do everything their way so remind yourself that you are not a sexual object if we go with the the piece that they're talking about so often these are the same people who may be watching porn and having side hustles with other people who then tell you that you're not paying enough attention to them and that's why they have to do that or they tell you you're not paying enough attention to them and don't tell you about the side hustles because they want to have supply from everywhere so at those moments have your own inner dialogue about your own values your own needs your own wants what's okay with you and how the balance is going and don't be listening to the you're not attentive enough to me story because that's not helpful another one you're a poor parent you know at their worst moments they want to hit you as deeply as you can and often we see ourselves as parents and doing the very best we can with parenting so they see it as a nice soft underbelly topic to hit and so they'll tell you you're not a good parent now do things nasty things like threaten to call child protective services when you didn't do anything but they want power over you and it's often in the parenting arena they like to do that even after you leave them that will be the area of contention all the time of the children so it's really important then for you to stay in the situation so ask again for a specific example i'd like to learn why you don't think i'm a good parent please give me an example and then listen then ask for another you know i told you already it pushes them into the other side of their brain but when you can get them to stick to the facts very difficult to do of course but your your endeavor is to get them to stick to the facts you cause them to sputter a little bit because they like to generalize everything you're a lousy parent but when you ask them for specific examples that is more difficult for them so that's something you can say and say it genuinely authentically tell me how you think i'm a poor parent you know in an in an equal way just tell me i'd like to know your side of the story and then you can see where the inequity is and you can see how they sputter a little bit to come up with an example and they may make something up and at that moment you go ah yes now we get to the lying part the manipulating and deceiving part and again observe observe observe two more one thing a hijackal says is you don't deserve anything now that's related to the why do you think you deserve that but they have an underlying belief they deserve everything and you deserve nothing and yes that's extreme i know but that's how they think in a world that works in their mind they get everything because everybody should give it to them and so when they tell you you don't deserve anything they are telling you that they deserve everything so if you can make that switch internally in your head when they say that to you they are just drawing the line in the sand to say everything should come my way and if you cared about me if you had it together if you weren't so stupid if you weren't so wrong if you were good enough you would see that i should have everything and you should be happy to give it to me again you get into that place where you can discern that whoa this is way out of line this is way out of whack and so you're observing and you're calibrating and then you begin to see the patterns more clearly that you can articulate the patterns because these are not good things they can't they can't imagine being in a relationship that is equal reciprocal and mutual that is nowhere on their radar as a pattern for a relationship because it doesn't serve their interests so it's important for you to see that and the last one i want to talk about is body shaming they like to as a last resort but sometimes they lead with it they like to body shame you that you are simply inadequate as a human being so they want to tell you you're too thin you are too fat you're too tall you're too short you don't have body parts that appeal to them um no matter what it is and i won't go into a whole lot more examples but that is the lowest thing to body shame you and it is where they will go because they know it's a vulnerable place to go so at that point you need to stand your ground and don't retreat and say i'm quite okay with my body or you might say yeah i'd be happy to lose 10 pounds and just let it go because if you just acknowledge it they have nowhere to go with that so they'll get louder perhaps and they'll do more of it but you have stood your ground and that is super super important and when you were willing to do these things when you were willing to validate yourself when you're willing to affirm yourself when you're willing to take up your space inhabit half your circle come back to inhabiting half your circle and much of what i've shared with you tonight just goes on in your mind you don't have to speak it out loud but you are filling up yourself again you are coming back to your own wholeness now i help people with that all the time as you well know and if if you haven't used my new client offer a full one hour session with me for only ninety seven dollars you can do that at be a client.com be a client.com and we will have a full session together and that will be great and that will put you on a path to seeing whether you'd like to work with me further and that's a good thing if you have a pressing question that's a good place to have it answered so so much going on for you i hope this has been helpful to understand what these emotionally abusive statements are because everyone that i talked about tonight is emotionally abusive it may also be verbally abusive but it's emotionally abusive and we're not going to tolerate abuse right no it is no possible way that once we understand what it is and what it looks like and what to do about it that we are not going to take action and stand up to emotional abuse that doesn't mean you stand in the face of a hijackal it doesn't mean you poke a hijackal it means that within yourself you are realizing that you are taking and reclaiming your power and i hope you will i really hope you will there's lots of opportunities to get involved please go to my website at for relationshiphelp.com for relationshiphelp.comforrelationshiphclp.com my youtube channel has the exact same name for relationship help so youtube.com for relationship help i look forward to talking with you soon and until we do take very good care of yourself because you're precious and you matter talk soon hello hello hello i'm glad you're here i could see things being written and i was happy about that remember i have a little way to calibrate how long we're going to spend together here if after half after a half minute 30 seconds i do not see another comment or question in the box then we end our time together so if you have a question or if you have a comment make sure to get it in there so that you could get it answered and kate asked this is live yes yes it is um it is very live and here i am so deborah says i had a hijackal tell me the smirk was because of supposedly feeling awkward seemed like malarkey based on when it would happen well i think you got that one right deborah that was malarkey um that's that smirk is not something that they control it's something that they do automatically it's a giveaway it's a telltale sign and they do it and you know right at that moment they're feeling superior and having contempt for you but that was brave of you to ask what that was about and that was very quick thinking on that person's behalf to come up and say well i'm feeling awkward no no i'm feeling superior i'm feeling like i just delivered a gotcha and i won and that's what that's all about okay it says it took me a long time to realize one cannot negotiate with them true they will agree to something but not follow through yes and in that case kate um listen to my episodes on passive aggression because that is a hallmark of passive aggression to agree to do something to get you off their back and then have no intention of doing it but they agree to do it and then when you call them on it then they tell you that uh who do you think you are to ask me to do something and they put it back on you so that is passive aggression and yay that you learn not to negotiate with a hijackal um you may be able to negotiate time frames or a few things like that that are very concrete but you can't negotiate feelings and emotions or rectify situations that call on them to change they are very resistant to that which you've probably known and noticed hi stella i'm glad you're here kate and deborah i haven't seen you before in the comments stella says i heard there i was called stupid and i can't even wash a knife like the hijackal his favorite saying was you never listen and roll his eyes at me there you go you know that is sort of the generalization stella that they want you to know that you cannot do anything right in fact the fact that you breathe is not right and they will go to great lengths to always have to prove they're right and you're wrong so you couldn't wash a knife you couldn't breathe you couldn't do anything if you stayed home it was wrong if you went out it was wrong there is no getting it right with a hijackal because they keep moving the markers so even if you learn to wash a knife just as the hijackal does then there would be something else that was wrong with you or he changed his method or she um oh you said his eyes so he would have changed his message and then you said the hijackal i was with was impossible to talk to yeah they mostly are he was a master gaslighter by his many discards i felt worthless yes so i hope stella by all our conversations that that we've had on the episodes that you understand now that you were never worthless you just allowed him to put you below him and you believed the wrong person about your self-worth right and so now that you're away from it i know that you have begun to take up all your own space and can stand in it but for anybody listening who hasn't done that you can take it back slowly not usually in a big rush but bit by bit and that's a good thing for us to work on together if that's happening to you so stella said the hijacker hoovered me he pretended to be a girl on facebook he got nasty saying i have an ugly face and an uglier heart i blocked him three weeks ago why did he do that after eight months of no contact really good question stella the usual reason they do that is they ran out of supply their whoever they took up after you however they were finding supply or not finding supply it finally got to him and he said and they always do they will return it's like that old adage that it's easier to sell a customer that's already already bought from you than to go and find a new customer so hijackals have supply and when they've walked away from you they have this super convenient memory that forgets all the bad things and all they do is sort of have you as a number in their little black book so when they're not getting any supply they're not getting any action nobody's adoring them worshiping them or validating them they circle back to people who have done that for them before so that's the most likely reason why he was doing that i hope that makes sense to you stella brie welcome i haven't seen you in the comments before thank you for your support it's always what i need to hear to get through the daily dealing with a hijack call good i'm glad that you found it valuable and it does get you through the day i hope tonight well i've given you some new tools on working on your internal dialogue so that the hijackal doesn't tear you down wear you down and put you down and you stay there you can pull yourself back up she's brie says i was body shamed by my mother from age 10 i'm 36 and she still does it well i understand that i had the same thing you know when i was i remember i was nine years old and my mother put me on a diet of cottage cheese and diabetic tinned fruit and she told me that i was i was an embarrassment to her so i understand body shaming i absolutely do and when you have it from when you're young you can overcome that you probably hear your mother's voice in your head and it's now become your voice let's work on that you know use that offer be a client.com let's talk about that because that's important to fix because there'll be a guy along or a woman along at any moment who is willing to perpetuate that body shaming and reinforce it and you want that to be impossible so let's talk about that for sure yes thank you you're welcome good night bree she's off deborah says apparently there's a character limit to comments thank you for all you do yeah there is a character limit that is a good thing because they have to fit on the screen i don't put them up on the screen here because i think in this particular case it's on youtube and you probably don't need to have your name right there on the screen but many people who use these stream yard which is what i'm using they do put the comment right onto the screen with your name so i choose not to do that but there is a character limit because of that and then deborah said i went no contact with the hijackal weeks ago yay everybody everybody applaud and texted today oh he texted today saying he rsvp'd for us to go to an event with his family today acting like we're still together hoovering or just weird uh it's an attempt to not lose face it has nothing probably to do with hoovering the weirdness is that he doesn't want to appear to have lost something he doesn't want to appear to have done something wrong he doesn't want any shame in his life so he wants to go and you know i've said it so many times hijackals paint a public picture of perfection while at home they provide a private place of pain so he wants to go out there and paint the public picture of perfection that's what's probably going on with him deborah and you want to notice that because you can go or not go however you feel inclined but know why you're going you're going there as a pawn in his game to look good and maybe you don't want the intrusion of people knowing you're not together either so you may go but always remember in those cases everybody if you do it take separate cars no matter what you have to say take separate cars do not ride with them clear yay i hope so all right i see only one more comment so if you have one and you're sitting on it a question on any topic to do with toxic relationships um then you better put it in there otherwise i'll be saying good night soon still i said i had so many light bulbs go off with all you were saying i deal with most of what you said uh that's hard stella but i'm glad the light bulbs are going off and maybe you feel a little bit larger tonight taking up a little more space and as you do the things that i suggested tonight that will grow and grow and deborah says oh i won't be going not going to the family event with he rsvp'd for okay that's clear if there are children involved what are you going to do about them deborah um what are you what are you going to say about whether the children can go um so that that's if you have children that's a question too um so deborah says i'm still uh also still not responding yeah there's no rush um take a while let him sit in the juice for a bit let him sizzle and then wonder and while you make up a very clear decision about what you're going to do and take action on it and if you're not um having any contact with him then you're not having any contact with them that's a simple message and you don't respond there's no need but if there are children involved you may need to so um see that oh you don't have children so that part is easier yeah good so no contact is no contact there's no contact and what part of no contact doesn't he understand well all of it because he's not having it he is not going to believe you you're not going to do that to him and he's not going to he's not going to put up with it so just stay in no contact it's the quietest thing to do it offers no resistance in your body it's a decision that you made to be no contact and so you will stay no contact good well uh maybe next week you'll be able to tell us what happened because it's always of interest i'm so glad that you were here tonight and i hope that if you found value you'll invite your friends to come all they need to do is subscribe on facebook facebook.com for relationship help or like my facebook page at facebook.com hijackals and if you like the page and you and or you subscribe on youtube then you will get notifications of the deborah says thanks again it helps so much to hear this you are so welcome i'm glad you gave yourself the opportunity to hear it so there are so many things brewing right now new opportunities for you new courses there's lots of things that are already on my website if you just go to the store so you may find a few things there we've got an upcoming series that is currently being edited almost finished five video series five hours of video of me talking with a colleague who is a custody and visitation family law attorney and it's very rich so i think you'll enjoy that when it goes up there's always things being added to help you so until we speak again you know what i'm going to say take very good care of yourself because you matter oh kennedy says wait up wait up i didn't get a notification but i found it um what is it that you had to ask tennessee because you caught me at the last second here um he's we've we're just finishing our evening so if you have something to add again do it very quickly because i haven't heard from any others having a pressing question so if you do i will wait out for a couple more seconds but if not and you didn't get a notification if it was on youtube it may be because you didn't hit the notification bell you have to subscribe and hit the notification bell and and that will uh help you uh kennesey i see that i probably am leaving and you can catch us next week so as i said take very good care of yourself and we'll talk soon good night

Channel: Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

Views: 38,359

Keywords: emotionally abusive, what is emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse cycle, mental health podcast, verbal abuse in marriage, verbal abuse in relationships, emotional abuse signs and symptoms, emotional abuse signs gaslighting, 6 signs of emotional abuse, psychological abuse from partner, psychological abuse signs and symptoms, dr rhoberta shaler, toxic relationships knowing when to let go, signs of emotional abuse at work, things narcissists say

Id: ZnM3kDwUeu8

Length: 49min 23sec (2963 seconds)

Published: Tue Jun 08 2021