03/22/21

hi guys it's um 1 45 in the morning and i'm finally by myself which i know doesn't sound that crazy to be by yourself at 1 45 in the morning but um this week's been pretty hectic and there have been a lot of people um a lot of people around telling me what to do giving me advice trying to help me most importantly and and that was a lot and and and now i i just want to i want to be able to do this and just shoot straight into the camera and just talk to you guys um i've put myself in a lot of situations where i needed to apologize for my past actions and i've never done this correctly and i've never done this respectfully and my last video is a testament to that i i don't want to defend that video i don't want to delete that video i just want to be clear what this video isn't going to be is it's not going to be me discrediting trisha kat or any other woman involved i'm going to be using words that may trigger some survivors and that's just so i don't explain anything vaguely and i can explain every situation appropriately i want to start this video off by saying i fully believe the woman who came out against dom and said she was sitting by him as it was reported the next day i got consent to post the video even though i got the consent to post that video i should have never posted it and i what i understand now and i didn't understand before is that she sent that text because she felt like she had to not because she wanted to and that's up and i'm sorry when she later reached out a couple months later to take the video down i immediately took it down and i want to apologize to her and her friends forever putting them in an environment that i enabled that made them feel like their safety and values were compromised i'm so sorry i was completely disconnected from the fact that when people were invited to film videos with us especially videos that relied on shock for views or whatever it was that i was creating an unfair power dynamic i did not know this before it was completely wrong and i wish i was more responsible and i wish i was more aware at the time and i'm so sorry i missed that i didn't know what was going on in that room and i should have been i should have been there and i should have been making sure that everybody involved was was taken care of and wasn't uncomfortable i don't want to use buzzwords to try to justify this or explain this but all i can say is people felt like they had to be silent for the sake of my video and that's not right and it's up and i'm sorry i also want to acknowledge the women that spoke out against dime in 2018 i'm talking about ally and then i'm talking about other girls that address their problems privately or publicly i'm sorry i didn't listen to you guys i am sorry that i that i took dom's word um for what happened those in those certain situations and i didn't believe you and not only did i not believe you but i made a joke of of what kind of a person dom was because i couldn't wrap my head around a childhood friend of mine doing this to people and actually hurting people and and i'm sorry for that not only did i discredit you at me but i platformed dom and not only did i platform down but i platformed the subject of sex in a negative way where i made jokes about it and i reinforced that kind of behavior and i'm so sorry and i really let not only you down but a lot of people down a lot of people that watch me and my friends and family for that i made the decision to no longer film with dom in 2019 and i'm not saying my content has been brilliant since then but that's when i first started taking into account the power dynamic and what influence i had on people that i was filming with but what i didn't do is i didn't go back to any of these women and apologize i i kind of moved on and i learned from it and i grew from it but i didn't address the situation with these women i'm not talking publicly i'm saying even privately i didn't reach out to any of these people and that breaks my heart knowing that that i was doing all this stuff and i was making all this content wow there was people that were still really hurt by what i made before my content shifted to be more responsible and positive i said and did things that were really offensive and i called them bad jokes and i i can't even call them bad jokes and it was cowardly of me to say in my last apology that i missed the mark um because it's gross and i'm sorry a lot of people reached out to me saying cancer culture is and you need to fight back and you need to call people out and i don't agree with how this should be taken at all and i think when there is a crisis there's a serious opportunity to correct yourself to learn and improve and to make sure those mistakes don't happen again and that's what is so important to hold yourself accountable and i think with this situation there's a lot i can look at and there's a lot i can learn from but there's a lot of mistakes that i made and i'm sorry for that i'm sorry for everybody i've let down i'm sorry to my family and i'm sorry to my friends that i'm embarrassed and that this won't happen again i might take a short break from all the social media stuff because i realize there's a serious lack of infrastructure when i make any kind of content and i want to be able to have a place of checks and balances i want to have hr and i want to be able um to have people communicate discomfort in a way that's that's comfortable to them and where they don't feel like their emotions or what they're doing or or how they're acting is compromised it doesn't feel right to go back to posting like i have been and it also doesn't feel right to go dark because i love what i do but i think it is important to show that change is possible and that i'm learning maybe even forgiveness is possible i want to use this opportunity to step up and on my mistakes and like i said before i've never done apology the right way um and i'm sure i'm gonna look back at this and i'm i'm gonna be pissed at some things that i didn't say or i wish i could have added more um but this is this is my beginning to that and and i'm sorry for everybody that i hurt i also want to add that i'm making myself available to anyone that wants to reach out that i've hurt in the past i want to be able to to hear and understand from yourselves and i'll be reaching out on my own to some people because i still have a lot of learning to do and i think when you talk to other people especially about experiences like this it um it really helps you see things in a different way but yeah i'm sorry if this video was all over the place i just wanted to sit and talk and ramble and and i really truly hope that someone can take something away from this experience that another creator can can take away from this and i know it's it feels and because i know how crazy it felt to me that there was some sort of toxicity or some sort of power dynamic in my friend group but really just take the moment especially when creating content that you're trying to get viewership out of or you're trying to get laughs out of like really take a moment and and look at where the jokes end and where the feelings begin because i think that's so incredibly important okay i'll see you guys bye

Channel: David Dobrik

Views: 12,956,080

Rating: 4.2843304 out of 5

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Id: lB734hc89x8

Length: 7min 16sec (436 seconds)

Published: Mon Mar 22 2021

Reddit Comments

[u/murimin]

Not my place to accept his apology, I just hope the people that he has hurt find some solace in this video. It seemed a lot more genuine than the last one, but again, not my place to accept his apology. I wish him the best in his growth. I've been a long time fan and realize that he's fucked up, I hope he really does use this break from social media to make the future of his channel safer.

[u/yoaced]

We must remember the apology is not for us to accept but for the victims to receive and decide

[u/Altruistic_Ad_6538]

It seemed very very genuine. I actually felt bad for him at some points, BUT that is because I am a long time fan. However, unlike some lifelong fans, I am able to accept that this is a serious issue and that David is DEFINITELY in the wrong for enabling these platforms and Dom as a person. I think we all saw the break coming, it was a no brainer. I can appreciate the fact that he addressed that people had been giving him advice and that he put it on his main channel. He also didn’t disable comments, he would’ve been stupid to do so. I’m intrigued to see his return to the internet and the reception of his return. I think that this is a good test of modern cancel culture, because while he is an adult, David is still very young, and was even younger when he made a lot of these mistakes. I’m very intrigued to see how he comes back from this and how he shows his growth from it, if he ever truly does at all. If cancel culture succeeds here, it will be a testament to the lack of room for human growth, and if it doesn’t, hopefully the Internet sees a changed David with an entirely different platform. I do think there needs to be accountability. I think David has already seen a good amount of his accountability, with his brand deals falling through and the loss of Dispo. Next up is accountability for Dom. That’s definitely necessary. Also, these are mumbled thoughts after only watching the video once while taking a break from a lengthy midterm, so take that into account.

[u/SomeoneThrewMyShoe]

Honestly this was a really good apology. I'm happy he owned up to the role he played in everything, particularly with regard to the power dynamics and how that could have made people who were in the videos feel as though they couldn't vocalize discomfort.

I agree that he needs to take time off. We'll see how he uses this time to reflect on the kind of content he produces going forward.

I'm not saying anyone has to/should accept his apology, especially SA survivors but I think this was done in earnest. I think he was ignorant but not malevolent in his actions when he made all those videos. Not saying it's right or warrants forgiveness but this video at least made him seem like he's realized how his actions affected others.

[u/whatevawhatev]

This is actually a good apology video. Like, might even go down as one of the better apology videos on YouTube. He actually fully apologized with his chest and took responsibility for his role in the SA, addressed the power dynamic, explained how he would work towards change... I really couldn’t ask for much more. I think we’ve all been getting caught up in petty details of this story (honestly who cares who bought the alcohol) but really this is exactly what we needed. I know this is still gonna be picked apart and over-analyzed by everyone but personally I’m happy with this.

[u/croissantmaster16]

This is definitely more genuine than his original apology video. You actually see tears and hear his emotions. I think he handled this way better than I expected him to.

[u/K-Nicole]

This video was genuine and honest. I do think that this should have been released sooner but it’s good that he finally acknowledged his actions and apologized to the victims of the situation. I do wish that there were no cuts in the video but other than that, I believe what he said was true and from his heart. I just hope that he didn’t do this because his career was failing but he chose to do it because he means it. Hopefully this is something that he will learn and grow from.

[u/haljordan02]

Note on reach: This video has accumulated more views in 10 mins than the other video did in 1 whole day (447K in 10 mins)

[u/Bruzman101]

I'm not sure if this has been asked before or covered. But at what point do the police get involved? At this point it feels like a trial by public opinion when an actual crime happened.