Woman's Hoarding Is So Bad She's Forced To Leave Home (Hoarding Documentary) |Absolute Documentaries

[Music] this year hoarding disorder has been recognized as a distinct psychological condition despite the official recognition families like mine are still living with the shame and secrecy of hoarding up to three million people are suffering and there are few places they can turn for help 87 year old olive has lived in this three-bedroom semi-detached council house in brighton since 1933. her home is so full that she's forced to spend most of her day outside i can't bear to throw away anything that can be recycled i might see it lying about on the road and pick it up and bring it back if i wanted a pram and i saw a decent pram you know yeah bring it back i don't hold i keep stuff that will be used again the inside of olive's house is full to the brim with thousands of plastic bags old furniture and clothes that's all aluminium that can go there she can't cook or use the bathroom at home so gets her meals from the community centre where she also washes i want it sorted out to be able to live in it i mean it's not a place that so you can invite anybody in because you can't get in there toby where's your ball oh somebody's taking that taking it recycled it that's me expect i'd come across olive in newspaper articles about the various battles she's had over her recycling they mentioned that the interior of the house was also badly hoarded she's agreed to meet me but i don't know how she'll receive me hello oh you must be olive hello you're doing all your recycling yes well it's such a muddle from the wind last night and then this was normally in a proper order olive has never married or had children so has no family to support her she has only limited sight and is registered blind do you spend a lot of time here at home no not now i'm out most of the time i have to be out i've got no means of cooking hot water have you got hot water no it's all cut off it's all turned off how would you feel about showing me around inside a little bit well you couldn't you couldn't you couldn't go in there because i don't know what it's like what do you mean well i've not been able to go in since all this was piled up but you you sleep inside of course i do i've got a bedroom i'll sleep upstairs olive believes a move into temporary accommodation 13 years ago lies at the heart of her problems she feels that when she was moved back home the council failed to put her possessions back properly and this ultimately created the current chaos the mets nothing to do with recycling no that's the council although olive is reluctant to let anyone see inside her house she agrees to let me have a look behind the door to see the scale of the problem oh hello who's that who is it who is it not it wasn't it not inside so again no i don't want you to go in there no i was just seeing if i could have a look no no no don't want you to go in there no almost immediately i find out just how sensitive olive is about strangers seeing inside her house hello i don't know the devil that was connie might be a minute that's right i don't know how she gets in and out in there it's literally a wall of stuff i'm actually i am shocked i'm the first it's definitely worse than my mom's house ever was can i ask you olive you know would getting into your house more easily be important to you i don't like living in that term [Music] it's like a muddle really okay couldn't be happy could you hey you couldn't be happy uh i mean poor cat has to you know my poor cat yeah but what about poor you 87 years old climbing climbing up a mountain well it keeps me fit olive has lived in this house virtually all of her life but now she's unable to access most of the rooms due to her hoarding each night she literally climbs over a wall of clutter to get to bed the only way to access her home will be to somehow get the hallway emptied and sorted into a separate space i was thinking if you take some stuff out if we could create a space outside where things could be kept dry we could do some sorting outside maybe well i want to get it clear though i want to get it cleared yeah it's been really nice to meet you thank you for letting me have a peek inside i will see you soon you want me to come up no it's all right bye toby say bye bye bye bye say bye bye i just i cannot get my head around it it's more hoarded if that makes sense than any other house that i've seen it seems like i'm on the back foot with it before i've even started she's deep down very ashamed of the inside of the house and scared because she hasn't been into the kitchen or the back room or even the front room for years she doesn't know what's there the only one that's been through there is the cat so god knows what's through there i've been contacted by someone whose experience of hoarding reminds me very much of my own [Music] in south london vicki and her brother have lived with their mum janet's hoarding since they were small in here is my mum's room in their three-bedroom maisonette the family squeezed through janet's piles of possessions trying to live a normal life vicky is a full-time student who looks after the household finances and works 12 hours a week in a part-time job even if i had a friend to say oh um we would like to come around to your house i would actually like tell them oh my mom's busy like she doesn't want anyone in the house or try and make up lies like who would want to bring someone here it's embarrassing it's so embarrassing i used to be too ashamed to invite people to my haunted house when i was growing up so i decided to meet vicky at a cafe have you ever tried to clear things out before with your mum not really even me if i wanted to clear out my clothes i'm not allowed to she says i need to have her permission to clear out my own clothes that is exactly the same as when i was living at home i was not even allowed to clear out my own possessions yeah and if i threw something out in the bin if i had a you know she will take it back out and it was soon back inside the house but it's frustrating but all you could do is laugh yeah and if you don't laugh you just cry yeah but you don't want to do that you don't want to do that i mean what kind of thing do you think would be helpful for your mum support in what kind of support in terms of like counselling that's the main thing so she can realize just help and support in terms of that vicky's mom janet arrived in england from nigeria almost 25 years ago she has limited english and is being treated for depression like many hoarders she's become very used to living in chaos hello hi so is this where you you spend most of your time journey in here no no no training not really where do you spend your time in when you're indoors in the city and bedroom in your bedroom because i suffer from depression are you all right with having me here yes i'm fine what do you think do you think there's anything that could help you feel better well let's see how she goes i need help oh well hopefully we can help hopefully we can help you janet's house has hundreds of suitcases full of clothes and materials from nigeria she also hoards blankets duvets and childhood toys so this is your mum's room is it yep this is her room i don't know so she just has a little bit of the bed to sleep on wow she used to have more space than that this is kind of similar to my mum's bedroom when she you know she used to just have a little bit of the bed that was available all the rest that everything around was piled up and then it went up into the corner but right up to the ceiling and then it spread and spread this is my room okay not all of it is my stuff okay so you added the tables and it was so much clearer before but i was like i can't be asked to talk anymore this is an area i mean if we're gonna try and do some stuff in the house maybe we could do your room that's what i thought at first so she can set examples look at this room every my room could be like that do you know when you live with something you stop seeing you stop noticing and i think that is very true of hoarding so you live with it all around you and you stop seeing it janet's hoarding is causing massive pressure in the family home the way janet's house is right now is the way my mom's house was when i lived at home and after i left home it got a lot worse than that [Music] that could happen in exactly the same way with this family as it did with my family if it's left unchecked a couple of weeks after first meeting her i'm going to see olive in brighton again to see if she really is ready to change olive has agreed to let us put up a large tent outside where the stuff from her hallway can be sorted i've asked andy honey who has worked with extreme hoarders before to help are you okay me just temporarily moving these i'm just going to pop them here for a second oh yeah yeah i don't care where you put them then we can put the marking straight down the edge of the wall here oh you're gonna do it on this side yeah yeah so do you want me to um i could be getting a few bits ready yeah that would be yeah yeah yeah uh you know at a leisurely pace this like this bit i can do look yeah you don't i'm moving making me hipster actually i'll push it down here oh there we go we're in we're in olive appears to be really motivated to get things moving and much happier allowing me to go inside but what confronts me is even more daunting than last time there's some there do you know what i live yeah it's even higher than it was before oh yeah because i've seen you through to the kitchen before i've got food stuff in there oh all that here before i could see that through to the kitchen and now i can't see unless i've shrunk no all i can say is that i could have thrown stuff up there with the scale of the task even bigger than i thought i'm keen to get olive clearing so did you want to start getting some stuff out while it's nice and dry and sunny and not really not really first off i've got to leave some recycling out tonight and and so i must do that what have you got to do make sure there's no tin oh yeah long process why not really olive has recycled since the war and has been in conflict with the authorities about it for decades my worry is that her constant recycling is distracting her from clearing yeah this routine of the recycling is what olive does day in day out but it is definitely partially avoidance with what she's got at home the rest of that is all tin is it all tin yeah yeah it's all tin all dripping yeah it's a bit rank i'm just getting a bit slightly anxious about the fact that it's going to get dark and we won't have been able to get much done for in the hallway oh yes we will won't take long yeah right too long olive has a vast amount of recycling to sort through it's mostly tins and packaging she picks up from the street how are you feeling about getting started in the hall oh just going to get started actually let's do it right food i don't know i think so let me check um i've got to have this yes of course i can't add that out in the paint that is um partly food and partly something else so look and take out the food yeah just leave it because i know i know what's there yeah i know i'll leave it with your other bag that's got to stay as it is yeah leave that as it is once olive finally gets around to some clearing it's at a very leisurely pace a family breakfast cereal oh good i've been looking for that for a week oh yeah but if you want me to go in i can see probably in there no i mean instead of you no no i'd rather do it because i know i mean i know our stacked stuff okay so i'll get some more paper okay uh if you want we're nearing the end of getting this stuff out here because it's all falling down i think that if if she would let you or me go in and move stuff out yeah obviously we could do it in the day and i can leg it backwards and forwards i've brought a sac barra down with me as well yeah so because she's got loads of boxes in that front rows because it's just the hallway that we've really got to tackle hello tobe are you fed up huh are you fed up babe okay all right come over look at the tent before it gets too dark okay that's your paperwork there yeah so far paper right there it doesn't look so much now does it ah we clean away i'm going in i'm not stopping out here it's cold well that's what i was worried about that's why i thought it'd be better to do it indoors one day in an olive's hallway looks largely unchanged oh it would have been easier when the staff was here to have done this i leave her climbing the mountain of rubbish to get to bed see the stairs clear there it's just i'm back in south london to see janet and i immediately sense the tension upstairs [Music] how are you getting on with victoria victoria started screaming shouting on my head today this morning she starts shouting again have you been arguing since i've been gone away no you've been getting on all right until today she's starting vicky has been to the council to sort out janet's rent narrowly avoiding eviction for the family and missing her university course in the process sometimes you say things that you don't mean in the heat of the moment yeah that's okay i've asked dr caroline wells a clinical psychologist specializing in hoarding and family issues who i've worked with before to come and talk to them i want to see if she can help the family build some bridges vicki what about you what's it like for you it's been very frustrating like living here but then you want to move out then you want to stay because you're worried that if you move out things will be worse or that's that's how i feel i'm only living here because i don't want things to go worse and i'm trying to help you but you don't even see that i'm helping you like i had to miss uni today just to sort out that's the only reason why i was shouting because you don't listen to what i was saying maybe at first i i don't shout at first but then when you carry on not listening that's when my temper goes higher you want to move but you can't move why she wants to move to a bigger house that's what she said she said she wants to live in a bigger house because there's no space in here but but then at the same time this house is really big so you sort of think even if you had a bigger house your mum would fill it anyway i'm wondering if there is something or a way that you would like to be helped either by vicky or by someone else or you know no one is damn i have to help me exactly that's the point i'm trying to say if i leave who is going to help you if i leave who's going to help pay the stuff or even support you in trying to sort out your house and stuff that's what i always say to you that's why i'm still here being amongst the tension which hoarding brings to any household really takes me back to my own childhood and the stress i felt with my mum i mean i don't know how you keep a brave face on throughout the whole stuff before i used to think that fact over the years i used to think my mom hated me i used to think she never loved me like because she's never like hugged me she's always saying negative stuff but over the years when i started to understand and research i've like realized that she does i won't be clothed i won't be sheltered i mean i remember the days when i was living at home i'd get so frustrated with my mum we'd have screaming matches you know we'd have massive brows she would play me i would blame her but she's still my mum she's still your mum mm-hmm [Music] oh it's just so frustrating and [Music] can see how frustrating it is for vicki this is hurting her and oh my gosh the whole thing today like the row that they had vicki was trying to prevent them from being evicted she is the parent in this situation and those kind of things used to happen all the time to me vicki's strained home life brings back so many memories of my own upbringing my mum filled our five-bedroom house to the brim with her possessions throughout my childhood but with a lot of help she's made amazing progress and this year is the first time in a decade we can celebrate christmas with her in her home the fact that we can all go there we can sit around a table and have christmas dinner as a family there i couldn't have even imagined that you know if you had said to me three years ago or four years ago that we'd be doing this i'd have laughed i know mom's been working really hard to get things ready for us all to go round there and you know this is something special i really want mum to understand just how proud i am of the journey she's made to this point and for her to enjoy the day with her family [Music] hi mom hello merry christmas [Music] even though you know it's not perfect at least it's better than having in your old bedroom yeah exactly i do think that you've done amazingly well when i look at this house compared to what it was like i mean can you remember what it was like a year and a half ago or two years ago we wouldn't even been able to stand here have you missed any of that stuff that's gone have you a few things that i remember and i think oh i want to look at that now have you been bringing more stuff in back to the house well yeah but not so much stuff and i have got rid of some are you able to deal with it better then sometimes but not all the time raw cooking classes three-course dinner master class that's lovely thank you very much at least that won't take up space exactly enjoying christmas with mum like this really gives me hope that vicky and janet and olive might be able to do the same in their homes one day now i'd say this is almost normal almost yeah almost almost no but who wants to be almost clear let's put it that way yeah as the winter begins to bite in brighton olive is still working with me and andy at her own pace to move her horde from the hallway so she can access her living room and kitchen as ever she wants to make sure she checks every single item what's in there there was another newspaper yeah but i've probably put it in there for a reason oh okay see what that's what i'm saying okay okay but that bag was falling apart so i'll put it in another bag for you is that all right okay okay it's a bit wet though although oliver is vetting everything that leaves the hall the fact that she's open to letting me in shows how much progress she's made which one's going in one at a time i'll go because she won't get more than one well no exactly i'm gonna fill it up that's a bag of clothes there we go check us another bag after many weeks of working with her i realize how huge this whole process is for her we've made a little bit of headway now and we're trying to get through that way i've managed to get quite a lot off the top and get through there but it looks to be honest let me see if i can reach it looks no i can't quite reach pretty full back there as well my big worry is that i don't think olive's going to be able to let much go i mean maybe she'll come round but right now she still wants to keep everything it's a lot to do a lot to do given any opportunity olive will always return to her first love of recycling her biggest thrill is when she can exchange her tin for money which she gives to charity so when andy offers to take a load of cans to the recycling plants she jumps at the chance [Music] oh thank god i'm going to get rid of those cans olive started her recycling when she was in the navy during the war when make do and mend was a way of life you had 165 kilos what 165 kilos good graces how much 29 pound 50 oh good and yeah i'm buying this um thing for the saint john's ambulance for the homeless yeah thank you very much so all dave's hard work has been rewarded because they've now been recycled raising money from her recycling is what keeps olive out in freezing temperatures in the garden painstakingly categorizing her cans whilst inside her house gets overrun show me long be good and don't let anyone come in will you i'm uh not loopy i'm not loopy he's just someone to talk to i wanted to remind her just how much she's helping the causes she donates to and to really find out what that means to her she's been commended for her efforts at one local charity but she's never seen the plaque they've put up in her honour thank you right then we calm and this is where we look do we oh let's have a look there you are brighton pgsa pet aid hospital expresses sincere gratitude to olive taylor who funded their pharmaceuticals throughout 2001. wow that must make you feel incredibly proud amazing yeah i can't believe that i am actually on there [Music] the more time i spend with olive the more i realise just what an extraordinary life she lives i've got it i've got to climb up here there we are although she's never been married olive has told me she lost her fiance in the war if roland hadn't got killed in the war i would have been married when i was 21 we wanted seven children and because i was an only child and there were a big family in roland seven and um we didn't know anything about sex we didn't even know how it happened you see that was what uh 70 years ago see wasn't it 70 years ago [Music] so after roland died you never met anybody i didn't want to know men you know roland who died and there's nobody like him you know as well when you're young and you get engaged that's what it's like isn't it you know [Music] bye oliver bye-bye see you tomorrow come on toe right quite cold cold when you come in here what i just really enjoyed hanging out with olive today she's had such a fascinating life and you just kind of think how earth of you managed to get into this dreadful situation but then also when she was when she was talking about her fiance who died but she never found anyone quite like him and what's going through my mind when she's saying that is my god that is a massive hole in your life that you're trying to fill with all this stuff [Music] in south london vicki is managing to keep her mum's hoarding out of her bedroom while dr caroline wells is working more practically with janet in the rest of the house janet are you gonna are you gonna keep that or can we make space by by giving that to a charity shop putting you inside in the charity shop yeah okay well done fantastic look at all that space you've just made how does it feel it's nice it's not good yeah it's a big deal it's really good despite some progress as the sessions continue the same old wounds are quickly opened between mother and daughter how do you feel that we've progressed along that goal do you feel you've got a bit more space to to dance around if you want in my room yes what's it like seeing uh seeing vicky's room like this just nice yeah are you happy for her to have to have this room or does it make you feel a bit uneasy yeah now i understand that in order for her to to be able to um study or get rid of some of this stuff is to do it together so vicki will help you clear stuff if you want i'll be caroline she can be caroline why are you giving me some dirty look and she can help you you know if you want to do it by yourself that's fine or if you wanted to do it she doesn't want me to do it then i see your face already so you don't want me to do it i just find it really difficult um sorry i can't do it [Music] what happened to your husband what do you think about listening to i don't know he's sort of saying that she you know wants to communicate with you and have a relationship and it's tricky isn't it i'm gonna go and see if she's okay okay well yeah okay it's tricky to talk about huh yeah that's why it's so hard it's very complicated because [Music] i don't want to i don't want to turn out like this i don't want to be [Music] living like this [Music] plastic yeah no keep it's brittle look it's it's snapping oh is that oh yeah get rid of it at olives two months in and despite checking everything she's making good progress well it's been slow and uh but steady so it's doing it olive's way because if she's not happy she'll tell you where to go anyway and clear off so but we are getting there it's just taking we've lost a tin of tuna we've lost a tin or two now i don't think oh you've got another one that's marmalade there that can be used july 1998 that's all right that's not all right of course it is it's only sugar 15 years out of date hey sugar hi olive hello and when i arrive i'm amazed at what's been achieved inside we haven't got as much stuff behind the door as you had before you couldn't even open the door last time i was here uh aren't we no this is amazing the fact that we both stood here three of us in your hall yeah yeah a it's a miracle too actually and have you think sorry it was up to here yeah and all the wallpaper is on top of it and you can get to the light switches and oh yeah you can actually see the stairs even though it's real progress when i go to the tent it becomes clear where everything has gone so this is all of this in here just come out of your little hallway yeah i think it would be quite a good idea to do a bit of taking stuff out and a bit of taking stuff out of here as well like sorting it letting it go on to where it's got to go because otherwise you're going to run out of space in here and then you won't be able to do any organizing because it will be too full do you see what i mean we don't have to if you don't feel like it today well i can't be bothered today not today no not really not today do you think there'll be a day that you can be bored well i would rather clear the stairs so it's a clear space than start going through stuff here the thing is whilst it's like this you've actually got room haven't you to work in here or to work once we get through to the back room to work yeah in there and do the sorting well no i don't think you can sort it inside you've got to bring it out um go on see if you can think of another excuse to get out of it wow it's no good of salt and stuff here if we don't know where where it's got to go i'm worried oliver is merely moving her horde from one place to another like many hoarders she's being a perfectionist about clearing when in reality it will be better just to sort stuff to go and stuff to stay back inside the house she lets me see upstairs for the first time and it's a whole other world of hoarding where are you i'm up here how far i'm just on the landing oh you're on the land you squeeze through that's where so you can see your bathroom there that's where i used to feed toby upstairs is every bit as bad as the hallway of the four rooms up here three are inaccessible including the bathroom every space is packed with clothes plastic bags and old furniture although you can just squeeze into olive's room only a tiny sliver of bed is left free and that's where you sleep is it i sleep it's a double bed but i use it as a single bed it's only about that long the bit that you've got to lie on it's not do you put your legs up i can put my feet right down it's hard to imagine that olive grew up in this house and that these rooms were once her childhood bedroom and her parents room my dad he was lovely he really was i mean he when i had homework he would make me sit there until i'd done it then he'd check it for me if there was something he thought wasn't you know good grammar or something he'd say now my girl just sit there read your thing through and see what mistakes you've made so you work and i used to say oh dad you are awful whatever i do you find i've made a mistake well he said i'm never perfect and i and he said you're not perfect he said you've got to learn by your mistakes i can remember he used to make me sit at that table in the back room that was here in this house oh yeah but what would it what would he think oh my god what's that how's happen with this house ah can't have this we'll sort this out what would what advice would your dad give to you now about changing things around the house if that's what you wanted to do well i just would want to do what he wants to clear everything out and put it back in the right place and anything we didn't want you know find a source to give it to thank you for letting me come and have a look upstairs well it's not much to say no but it's interesting to see any wall paper falling off everywhere the cobwebs i'm the first person olive has let see upstairs in her house in decades i know from my own experience with my mum's hoarding how difficult that first step is and you needn't be ashamed and you shouldn't be ashamed i am because my parents wouldn't you know would be disgusted to think that i was living like that [Music] it's probably quite painful to think that your parents would be disgusted with you you know you you wouldn't want to think about it so it's much easier to you know do the normal day-to-day stuff i do feel bad for olive because today she told me that she was ashamed of her house and i don't think she should be ashamed and she is now accepting help which is a massive step forward and i think in the future she'll be able to access other help as [Music] well [Music] four months since starting work with janet in south london caroline and i are making one further push to get things moving out of the house you will never need all these duvets i've put up already about six duvets into the lava caroline works on janet's attachment to the hundreds of items of clothing and bedding she hoards and i work with vicky on getting rid of her unwanted clothes it's good that your mom's doing something yeah right that's a big breakthrough already so let's not forget that i feel that we're just sort of moving stuff from one side of the room to the other yeah she does a lot of moving stuff all the time yeah it's like it's a job even at night for no reason while vicky and i get on with clearing clothes from her room janet responds by having a dramatically different reaction to caroline's therapy do you want to get rid of those shoes yes yeah hey that's the first pair of shoes you've thrown away what's that like oh no all this can go yeah like sporty dancy type stuff patterny leggings jeans pattern leggings said that all the luggage and everything that's in them in the living room can go that's what she said for the first time janet seems genuinely motivated to clear some of her huge horde from the house i hope she meant it strike while the iron's hot [Music] janet amazing yeah how are you impressed i'm good how are you i'm fine you're doing really well so am i right did i hear right that the luggage and everything in them can go to the charity shop it's fine useful that's brilliant what's interesting all the suitcase now you're talking so this stuff it's not your clothes can i take this in the car to the charity okay [Laughter] we're getting rid of this whole suitcase janet's being amazing and realizing that actually it's weak it's broken it can go yeah with everything in it yes it's gonna do that let's take one ending yeah yeah good for you found that one yeah another suitcase down yeah we finish finished yeah we can put this whole bag to the charity yeah gosh victoria how happy do you think victoria's gonna be she's happy she is happy you've made her happy [Music] i'm shocked at the same time but i've always believed that it would happen your mom is being amazing yes mom you're amazing you know that did you know that over the course of the day we cleared dozens of bags and suitcases from janet's i think she maybe saw you and and she was motivated by you and inspired by you from me clearing out my stuff you know we left her to her own devices a little bit and i think once she started clearing she then got into a real role of it and started to feel that space like she said it feels less heavy and that's just i think that was great [Music] i can't even describe what a big thing this is it's like somebody turned on the light and she suddenly realised that it was easy to let go of stuff and there's huge progress in brighton too olive has made it to the back room and kitchen for the first time in over 16 years 15 denier tights oh they're older hey i don't see that being there pitiful dress look probably my mum's ha ha look what i have found my wedding hat was it really but you didn't get married no it is my hat i wear at a wedding i see it looks like i've come to see for myself how the house has changed and to find out how much of the horde she's actually getting rid of oh wow we've broken through to the back oh my word but we're in the back room yeah this is a lovely sunny room isn't it olive oh yeah when's the last time that you were able to just walk through the hall and come and use this room 1996 what did it feel like the first time you were able to just walk into this room after all those years well i couldn't believe it i thought um where's all this stuff come from where you know how's all this going so was this a bit of a shock yeah it was oh yeah because um i've no idea no idea what it all is no or or it's obviously mine i suppose okay so the plan is then to get rid of the stuff that you don't want once you've gone through everything but there's the vast majority of everything that came out of that hall is now in the tent isn't it in the back garden three quarters yeah three quarters and a quarter has to be cycled yeah i mean i think it's quite fair to say apart from recycling all we've really done is move stuff from here to the tent isn't it we haven't started sorting yet and you haven't been in this room for so many years it sort of begs the question do you actually need any of the stuff that's in here of course i do well you haven't needed it over those last however many years my mother's stuff i've lived in this house since i was eight and a half years old and um there's a lot of memories in it and so there's stuff in here that you really treasure oh yes uh photographs but whether they're still here or not i don't know with the marquee outside slowly filling up and a house full of treasures that's captivating olive inside i'm worried about how she'll ever start reducing her horde janet and vicky are progressing well at home but i want to bring them away from the house to see if it's easier for them to bond vicky's passion is singing but she's never sung in front of her mum i want janet to see her daughter in a different light hey recognize that voice he's vitoria on the track [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] my mom hey why [Music] [Applause] [Music] i'm happy [Music] [Applause] it was amazing like i i never thought i'll have the courage to actually sing in front of her and i think we need to like have a bit more of a bond when we go out together we rarely do that but obviously it's time i know rome is not built in one day but we there's potential we can definitely build this relationship and bond again [Music] it will be slow progress of course it's you know it's not a quick fix it's not something that janet can change overnight but i think with vikki's support and understanding and ongoing therapy janet can make some big changes and instead of always being preoccupied with everything that's going on in the house hopefully she can start to enjoy her children and feel proud of them and appreciate what they are doing for her as well and be a mum to [Music] you can them god i've come to brighton for one last visit hi oliver andy and i are continuing to help olive reacquaint herself with the house she lost to her horde you've got about 5000 tea bags in there oh a thai food tea bags yeah we'll keep them in there when do we want to uh actually start throwing some things out olive i told you i'm not throwing anything out until i've gone through them they'll go out in the tent that's one thing i know you've always got plenty of olive it's bags what i want is for her to participate in doing it herself i want her to be able to make the decisions and i want her to be able to maintain the progress that she's made and keep moving forward otherwise the whole thing's pointless so although it's it sort of seems like we haven't got that far i think it's been huge this is huge for olive [Music] can you read that to me yeah of course i can where's it from 31st of december 1963. dear mr mrs taylor thank you for your letter my mother and i are so sorry oh to hear mrs taylor is unwell and we hope she will oh that was when she was saying the stroke was it she had a stroke there let's have a look in here okay ready i think they're my sheets yeah i mean these are my sheets when i was engaged the navy ones that was my bottom drawer that was my bottom drawer it's like an aladdin's cave yeah hello sweetheart are you coming in he's my best friend [Music] faithful friend is it coming to bed right yeah you go to bed good boy that's it all right good boy my mum not right hopefully she will realise that she doesn't really need that stuff and actually it's just weighing her down she can let go of it she can be free that's what i hope for for olive [Music] put that up there now [Music] i hope that it will be the start of something for olive that she will carry on down this new road and eventually get somewhere that's a lot happier place for her yeah nice and cozy ready to go to sleep after having a busy day i'm just waiting to uh finish downstairs and then get this thought sorted up here no night taupe [Music] you

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Length: 56min 59sec (3419 seconds)

Published: Wed Apr 07 2021