WHY YOU SHOULD EVER CHASE A GUY !

stop putting more energy into these men and they are putting into you listen to me when I tell you this okay because I'm trying to save you from heartache I'm trying to save you from wasted time baby okay we don't have a bunch of years in this earth all we got is what we got so if you want your king baby and you want to have as much time with him as possible on this earth then you need to buckle down and get rid of the bad habits that are wasting your time or in the worst habits that waste our time on this earth it's going after men who are not going after us baby I don't care how cute he is I'll care how nice he is I don't care how good the sex is honey if he don't want you at the same level that you want him then he's a waste of your time and you need to move on from him I'm telling you because I know this for myself I am a gay man if you've not figured that part out already all right which means I'm uniquely gifted to understand men first of all I am a man second of all I date them - all right I know men like the back of my hand and one thing I know to be true about men is that when we want something baby the whole world knows about it okay we're gonna make sure that no matter how busy we are we gonna still make time for you we won't make sure that at any moment of the day you will never have to question if you are on our mind that's why you can't be believing these men when they talk about oh yeah you know I see so busy you know that's why I didn't reach out to you oh oh yeah I do be thinking about you Unitas head I sometimes just don't had this time to let you know that oh oh yeah well you know yeah I may be you you know but I'm just trying to you know just kind of see where things go you know just trying to take me you know is it all the other [ __ ] [ __ ] that they tell you it's [ __ ] okay cuz when a man wants you baby he wants to lock that thing down half the time they won't lock that thing down so fast you got a pace then I always say this when a man wants you you ain't got to rush him because half the time he rushing his damn self okay the kind of minutes you got to rush the kind of minute you got to pursue the kind of men well you got to initiate everything with them is a man - don't want you period died in the story okay and here's the reality cuz you say well he don't want me why wouldn't he just tell me that he don't want me because not every he is emotionally developed enough to be honest with you about what their feelings are at okay there's some people argue with literally they are people pleasers okay there's a lot of men out here who are people please then nice and they don't want to hurt your feelings okay or maybe they're bored and they just want something to doing you or that thing to do or maybe you got some good sex and they don't want to give that up maybe they enjoy spending time with you but they don't want a wife you either way it goes not everybody is going to tell you upfront hey you're more into me than I'm into you then I want a that what they gonna do is if they go on try to make up excuses by Tom are they busy and they working too much or they gonna try to say that they that they just kind of wanna you know just kind of date and just and just see what things go they don't want to be too intentional about this whole thing they kind of want to take it easy they gonna tell you all this [ __ ] other than saying I want to lock that thing down baby if you want a king and you want to lock it down find a man who wants to do the same thing okay cuz if he wants to do the same thing that y'all gonna be on the same page it's gonna be wonderful so be beautiful y'all gonna have a wonderful nation if he don't want the same thing you were literally setting yourself up but misery and heartache because even if you land him even if you end up in a relationship with him where you know eventually he gives in cuz I y'all do this y'all pursue these men so hard eventually he just kind of given as they all right well you hit and you stuck around long as my little stay with you you know you getting this relationship and then at some point in time you wouldn't expect that he's gonna put as much energy into the relationship that you're living in generation [ __ ] but ultimately he's not gonna do that because how you start a relationship is how it relationships takes okay rock with me when I tell you it's okay so ends up happening is that you end up in a relationship that's unbalanced where you're putting more energy into the relationship emotionally you're putting more energy into the relationship romantically half the time you may even be putting more energy into relationships sexually because you may be the one initiating most of the sex and the end up in a relationship that is completely unbalanced that makes you miserable and you start to wonder why is relationship like this you started to get mad at him saying well he why he's definitely need you to step up to the table how and why should he step up to the table when that was never the dynamic the charla greet you in the first place when you start a relationship that's the result of you chasing and pursuing a man who wasn't chasing and pursuing you at the same level what you're doing is you are agreeing to unspoken dynamic that that will be the dynamic moving forward that you will always put more energy into it then he's going to put into it so if that's not the kind of relationship that you want to be in then don't chase men in the first place okay there are plenty of good men out here who wants somebody just like you they want a good wifey okay they want somebody who who want to learn them good they want somebody who who want to be emotionally available they want somebody with with with with the good bedroom moves that you got baby some of y'all are superstars in this bedroom and you're wasting your good coochie on some man who ain't even worth your time baby okay I'm telling you please don't stop stop stop only give your energy to men who are giving the same level of energy to you choose men who are choosing you baby and stop wasting time on men who don't see you as the gift from God that you are baby you deserve that and so much more if this message was good for unit helps you not know it helped many of y'all gonna get and click that subscribe button and click the share button so the other you can see this and in fact a couple your single friends and it's cuz some of y'all girls need this alright y'all have a good one

Channel: MJ Harris

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Length: 5min 33sec (333 seconds)

Published: Thu Nov 07 2019