What To Expect From Narcissists After No Contact

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boyfriends and girlfriends from high school or old friends that you have no pressure whatsoever to have any more connection with yes you have to heal from those relationships yes it hurts but yes you can move on move away and never look back ever again however there are some relationships that you and I deal with where there's a pressure that exists and it's because of societal norms and these societal norms tell you that there are some people who you should have a relationship no matter what who are these people well your family of origin for example your mom your dad your brothers your sisters your cousins aunts uncles right ex spouse children in-laws alright these relationships also come with a societal pressure that says you should have a relationship and I'm going to tell you right now on a sidenote that societal pressure is absolutely bogus but I'm gonna stop that right there and save it for a future video and we'll get deep into that be sure to subscribe so you don't miss that video but let's say for the sake of this video you're going into a situation where because of societal pressure you're going to be face to face with toxic narcissistically abusive individuals in your life again maybe at a holiday event maybe at a funeral maybe at a wedding what can you expect well first of all I want to help you out with something one thing we need to do with expectations is squash them you should have absolutely no expectations going into these types of situations with toxic individuals if you have an expectation that they're going to be good and kind and nice and want to work with you and resolve all the conflicts and solve the world's problems with you then you will probably be let down especially if they're toxic narcissists if you expect for them to be mean to you and rude to you and cruel to you further justifying why you left and separated yourself well then you also may be let down so we want to squash X expectations all together have no expectations because when you have expectations of other people in this life you will be let down expectations has a way of dictating your reactions in life and you don't want to have any reactions you just want to be responsive now this being said I want to talk to you about my own personal experience of what takes place when you go back into toxic environments with people who you've gone no contact with for a year or two years and you've worked on yourself and you're getting yourself back up and back together here's what most likely will take place when you go back into these situations what will take place is they will and I'm talking about narcissists and abusive people they will revert and go back into their charming nice good selfs probably one of the scariest things they're on their best behavior they're putting their best foot forward for you mainly it's for everybody else around whywhy do narcissists do this and why is it important to understand this because the relationship has been torn you've gone no contact everybody knows that the narcissist has pointed you out as being the problem and the bad person in the family your scapegoat your this and that you've been separated now you're going back so there's two different things that play here the narcissist knows that if they're mean and cruel then everybody around will say ah that's why so and so left and got out the narcissist knows that the narces also knows that if they're good and charming and giving an excellent to you putting their best foot forward and all their charisma and you are somehow becoming reactive or standoffish you're kind of weird and awkward about it which is likely to happen if you're not prepared then they'll be able to say see look at look at so-and-so see aren't they weird I'm good I'm nice and I was nothing but giving and look at how weird they are they're not gonna talk about the past all the name-calling and cussing and abuse they're not gonna go there they're just gonna point out the awkwardness all right so this is likely what's going to happen they want to have the appearance of being the perfect individual they want to have the appearance of being good to you and kind and they want people to look at them in that good way and continue to look at you in the bad way and so this is what you can most likely anticipate when you go back after going no-contact into an abusive situation how you handle it what do you do well again get rid of expectation get rid of reactiveness don't go with a mindset of wanting to resolve any conflict let the conflict die with that old life with that old situation let it die you'll never get an apology you'll never get your answers work that answers out the questions that you have work them out with me work them out with the Royal we work them out with the official Facebook support and let it die with the narcissist so going to the situation not reactive not wanting answers go in they're responsive that's it just be responsive and be you be nice be genuine be kind be polite smile back you can don't gray rock gray rock I heard this gray rock gray rock games listen that's not necessary after you go no contact gray rock may have its place if you're on a daily relationship with these people but if you are in a position where you've separated yourself but you're being put back in the environment together again gray rock isn't going to be an issue you don't have to do that gray rock is not a thing for this situation you could be yourself you could be kind you could be responsive if inappropriate things are being said you can simply say ah okay alright and move away from the situation but be nice and cordial and talk to other people right the worst mistake to make in these situations where you can see the narcissist being good to you and kind to you the worst mistake is to think that they have changed to think that they have a different heart now to think that they are ready to have some kind of relationship with you they're not again it's the game they simply want to put their best foot forward so everybody else can see how good they are and you have to understand this and so go into the situation with an open mind as far as being an a color code of awareness be aware of what's going on be aware of the words that are being spoken to you be good be polite be nice knowing this that you will leave the situation once again and you will go back to your no contact for another year another two years and not have to deal with the people again don't take it as a change in the relationship status nothing just simply understand that it was a good visit walk away going wow nobody was called names nobody was cussed at and I'd don't and you're gonna be tempted you'll be tempted well maybe I should reach out to them again and maybe we can call each other maybe I'll have that relationship I've always wanted no no no no no no no no walk away saying WOW interesting no name-calling no drama leave go your separate ways go back to No contact flush it out of your system visit the Royal we go on the Royal we a support group on Facebook talk about your experience let it go that is what I've got for you on this video on what you can expect or what you can anticipate getting back together with narcissus who you feel you should have a relationship more on that in an upcoming video I'm glad that you're here so be sure to LIKE and subscribe and we will be back with more videos right here on the Royal we

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Keywords: narcissism, the royal we narcis, the royal we narcissism, no contact, narcissistic abuse, npd, the royal we narcissist, what to expect from narcissists, what happens after no contact, what happens after no contact with a narcissist, what happens after no contact period, how to handle emotional abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic parents, narcissistic relationship, toxic relationships, anxiety

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Length: 9min 24sec (564 seconds)

Published: Sat Feb 01 2020