We Argued A Lot: Greg and Cathe Laurie On Biblical Marriage

hey everybody thanks for watching our youtube channel we're constantly updating it with new content and never seen before content so if you want to get the latest from harvest hit the subscribe button i'm here with my beautiful wife kathy and guess what we just had a milestone we celebrated 47 years of marriage do you remember crazy when we first met i do i do because i've forgotten everything i'm going to see now you have to no i remember so where was it tell them it was at a bible study in long beach we were both born in long beach traveled i traveled all over the world you traveled all over the country and then we met at a bible study in long beach we did yeah and you were you were actually teaching that bible i was and do you remember i was doing something you thought was very weird while i was speaking well you you have to show us what i was doing that was it his leg never stopped bouncing nervous energy so i was probably around 19 or 20 maybe no no you weren't 20 because we're three years different and yeah i think you were 18 just 18 just graduated i had hair i had a beard yes you were very cool hippie i thought thank you and very artistic so fast forward 47 years of marriage so someone's watching right now and maybe they're getting married or they are married and it's not going so well what words of advice would you kathy laurie give to them oh goodness um i would say don't put too much emphasis on your emotions and your feelings because our feelings will go up and down on any given day depending on the circumstances the weather what's happening inside of us physically especially those of you who are women out there emotions are very fickle and remember what it is that you vowed and remember that if you put christ at the center of your relationship you live by those vows on days when you feel like it and days when you don't and having lived through 47 years of marriage i will say they're they're upset they're up days and they're down days they're hard days and they're easy is this an update or a down day right now i'd say we're on we're trending up we're trending up which means which means we were down earlier no no we i think we all we pretty much have a good even even medium but i can remember back to our early days in our first we argued a lot we did we argued before we got married and we knew that about each other we broke up three times it was an annual event and they were like mega breakups like i never want to see you again but then we kept getting back together but we did have our disagreements when we were newlyweds very much so and um so i think we knew how to resolve an argument knew that we were two different people very different people very different personality opposites attracting quite a bit in our upbringing in our personality and yeah opposites do attract and um but at the same time opposites do oftentimes uh collide so you need to be able to resolve your differences in a a good way not not get all angry and say i never want to speak to you again you could say that before you're married after you're married you need to get over that and just work through these things and cliff barrels once said to me uh i think it's eight words he said there are eight words that every married couple needs to learn to say uh i'm sorry i was wrong will you forgive me let's see how many words that that is i'm sorry i am sorry that's three yes i was wrong that's six will you forgive me that's four so that makes ten words ten words from chris clifford aren't you impressed how we do that math on our fingers yeah using the fingers is sad um and then he said you can add three more words that won't make it much better i love you so you know when you're having that disagreement how about just saying hey i'm sorry i was wrong you know because sometimes when we apologize when we're having a conflict people will use verbage that's not a real apology hey i'm sorry if you think i was saying that's and so when i wasn't really saying that at all that's not an apology you have to just own it and uh so learn how to disagree agreeably you know if i have a couple come in they want to get married i'll ask them have you guys had a disagreement yet they say no they're out of the office i'll say go up disagreement go have a fight not fisticuffs verbal disagreement and learn how to resolve it because that's going to happen in a marriage right that's right that's right two sinners and a wonderful god that's it and somewhere somewhere in all of that there is a process of sanctification that happens it doesn't you know you're not there and you get married and it's perfect ever after it's um it's challenging it can be happily even after but not happily ever after if you apply god's word and his principles read your own mail is what i like to say you know in other words we'll quote verses to the spouse you know the bible says you should submit to me as unto the lord and the spouse might say well the bible says you should love me as christ lives at church it's like read your own mail don't quote the bible to her what she's supposed to do do what you're supposed to do well and both of us have the same role in a sense and that is to take upon the um the nature of jesus himself which the holy spirit does and serve one another in love submitting one to another the bible submits as christ himself submitted to the father and the husband loves laying his life down as christ loved us and laid his life down so in a sense we we're both um emulating the example of christ that's right in our role

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Length: 6min 5sec (365 seconds)

Published: Tue Feb 09 2021