Wanna Be a Fly on the Wall.. Ft. LyssieLooLoo Concretecrotchkiss || Two Hot Takes Podcast

we have a little woman on set today I report  I report to tell everyone there is a little   kitty on set today I can't believe you know  the reference to little woman I would I say   I've been following you like I literally showed  my fiance last night and he's like who's coming   tomorrow and I was like concrete and he goes what  who and I showed him the videos he goes you've   loved her and I go I know wait you get a big me  I I was on a gummy I was like really emotional   like [ __ ] concrete I love her I can't believe  I can't believe like the reference little woman   in concrete come to mind but that's just how  we rule I guess I love it for those for those   listening and those watching on YouTube you'll  probably recognize our little mascot here juny   today so today's episode it's got concrete crotch  kiss AK a lissy Lulu AKA Alyssa Collins AKA jun's mom there's the intro for you wow that  was actually incredible I think that's   like the by line now going forward  it's like it's just got to car and   this is juny we we have a little mic  set up for her but I don't know if she'll she's so cute she wants to explore  the studio right now now so she's kind of   in her we'll see how long how long she lasts  up here with us I'm like you should be asleep   by now but she's really loving this place oh my  gosh the videos of her try on like her reindeer   or like the bunny costume and she just literally  goes like she just passes out yeah always always   you literally got the calest cat ever I should  have brought an outfit for this two hot takes   but I was like I don't even know what the theme  would be like I have so many different things for   outfits what I should have got her something I  should have got her like a little Flames like   tutu or something what the heck I messed up  a little Reddit costume oh goodbye she's like   let me wander I'll be back I know I might come  back here I can grab her too there's so much   fur everywhere let just bring a vacuum there's  going to be fur everywhere it's okay she's just   a cute gal she she's just shedding it's fine  she's so funny so the stories I have today I   still don't know what kind of theme I'm working  with it's kind of giv juicy crazy and the only   thing that comes to mind when I read them is like  wow I wish I could be a fly on the wall watching   this happen so the theme today like might be like  let me be a fly on the wall I want to be a fly on   the wall I don't know it's still happening  it's developing come on come on get up here   get up here I'll gra we need your opinions the  first one she's she's going to feel yeah she's   going to need this she's going to feel attacked  this little woman is opinionated she's got this   yeah okay she has all the right opinions too  she's a cultured Queen yeah when I have my   like hair up in a bun like this she she doesn't  like it and when I have my hair down she's like   okay you look stunning today and I just trust  her oh my God I just get it she did yeah she   does have opinions about your outfits too I  saw yeah so she's ready okay yeah let's dive [Music] in okay so this first story we're really  really going to need jun's takes on listen   up it's coming from am I the [ __ ] titled  am I the [ __ ] for making my friend's cat   lose weight while she is in my care okay yeah  juny Junie do you feel attacked oh oh it gets   better ready what oh she's she's ears up  now my friend's cat Juno has always been massive okay is this one of my friends well beyond  the level of a usual oh that cat is kind of fat   she wasn't absolutely tank and she is not even a  large breed just a standard regular cat whenever   someone would point out that she was bigger than  she should be my friend would get annoyed and   insist she is just that way and is perfectly  healthy my friend started a global Mobility   assignment at her job that involved living in  Europe for a year and she asked me if I would take   care of Juno while she was gone which I agreed to  she walked me through all the cap matters before   she left and told me that Juno was freef fed  and I just needed to keep her feeder topped off   so that she could access dry food at any time the  feeder wasn't on a timer it was just a bottle that   dispensed food with gravity whenever the tray got  empty I told her that I really wasn't comfortable   letting her have constant access to food at her  weight she said paraphrasing here look she's still   my cat and you don't get to make the call either  tell me you're going to stick to the plan or tell   me you won't and I'll find someone else I agreed  but admittedly I wonder Ed if I would be able to   follow through on my word for a whole year I  lasted dot dot maybe a week having Juno around   all day made it extremely clear how much she was  suffering because of her weight she struggled to   even hop up on my couch I took the feeder away  and started feeding her one can of wet food in   the morning and one can in the evening I work from  home so the adjustment period of constant yowling   for food was an absolute nightmare but it worked  she is now 14 lbs after 8ish months on my my way   or the highway diet and she's much more energetic  and mobile even her breathing sounds better my   friend though started to notice the weight loss  in the photos that I've been sending her and is   extremely upset that I went behind her back after  I agreed to the free feeding she demanded that I   go back to the old way I said honestly I'm sorry  but I don't really think I can bring myself to   do that I was like I know that when she is back  with you that you are going to do what you will   but while she's under my roof I can't just let her  Gorge herself on food all day when it's clear that   she can eat normally and lose weight that would  be neglect my friend called around to see if any   other friends or family would take her for the  remaining 4ish months but no one wanted to slash   could she is extremely upset with me and says  that when she is back in the US she is taking   her C back and the friendship is over it hurts  but I accept it I know I went back on my word   and it must feel very bad for my friend to be  across the world with this situation totally   out of her hands but I don't know if I can bring  myself around to thinking that I actually did   something morally wrong I welcome any and all  feedback lay it on me oh my gosh yeah there's   so much there's so much going on that is so Rel  I have people told you like so people tell me   um I I mean quite often I get the comment  that juny is like they're questioning if she's   overweight you know and one thing that stroke me  or stroked you one thing that definitely stroke   me no one thing that striked me during the uh what  she was talking about is that she's a breed that's   not supposed to be heavier yeah which rag so jun's  a ragd doll and her breed is specifically heavy   and much more like dense yeah and fluffier and she  is very fluffy she very fluffy she's fluffy yeah   and um there's different like weight um ratios for  her breed than a a different you know kind of a   standard cat and I think that did it start out as  am I the [ __ ] yeah cuz I almost feel like she's   not the [ __ ] because I don't know like I cat's  health is everything yeah everything and every   time we take her to the vet She's Always a perfect  weight for her breed but they always mention hey   like make sure to maintain this weight and not  let her get a little too um put on a couple pounds   cuz she's kind of at the like average yeah but  maybe on the edge of a little bit like needing   to go on a diet and I always keep that in mind  like no matter what when I'm feeding her because   especially like being overweight when you're a  cat and like cat obesity has like a really high   like link to their their health yeah well they  little joints like if this cat I mean she calls   it massive yeah well beyond the level of a usual  oh that cat is kind of fat totally so it's like   okay if it's that noticeable like and she can't  hop on stuff or like her little joints hurting   when you said she couldn't hop on a couch it like  made me really sad and I think that definitely not   the [ __ ] I think that it's so important to like  make sure that your pets are getting the proper   like Health maintenance that they need and her not  her saying that hey your cat like may need this   or may need to go on a little bit of a diet or  maybe work out a little bit more is I don't know   I always think that like a healthy recommendation  and also offering your own like positive kind of   reinforcement with it like hey I noticed that Juno  um maybe can't jump on a couch that's not great   that's not great for a cat like cats can usually  jump like 12 feet they can jump so high yeah they   can jump really high and like juny if she wants to  she doesn't ever want to but she can jump pretty   high because she's that like ay weight yeah and  it's yeah it's just funny because I always do   get comments about her being like overweight and  I'm like if you guys saw her after a bath yeah   you would take everything back yeah she's like  well she's got like it's she's got like a double   coat like it's very like it's very layered it's  almost like a husky where it's like it's super   layered and thick so it's like she is a lot of  a lot of fluff yeah when I'm there's there's   currently a fur on my nose right now when I'm  picturing like obese cat I'm envisioning this one   and like the photo is kind of blurry but like oh  yeah or like you know that cat from Adam Sandler   yes I think like one of those movies his name was  like meatball or something it was like an orange   really big cat yes that's what I'm envisioning  it's not good it's not good I actually went to   um headquarters for like cat health and they they  were talking about how like cat obesity is the   number one like danger to their health and how it  it really affects everything cardiac their like   mental health their muscular Health everything and  so yeah it's a big thing I think I I think that's   also the like easiest um way to disturb your cat's  health is by like free feeding them whenever they   want and whatnot but Judy what do you have to say  because I know you love your food and your treats   me she's not so happy she's like she's like I want  to explore now she's like I she's like I'm done   I'm going to be free fed for she's like I am going  to get unlimited treats whether you like it or not   I I was worried for this one I thought it could go  either way I was a little like on the fence well   I wasn't on the fence but I thought the people  could be on the fence because like you did agree   to free feeding and then all of a sudden like you  took it back and like yeah you're not going by   your friends rules but like when it comes to the  animal's Health that's what's most important it   TRS everything and so I don't think [ __ ] either  yeah I'm actually shocked that the friend like   doesn't see videos of the cat like moving better  and isn't like oh wow my cat does look healthier   you're right like keep doing what you're doing  yeah because don't you want your cat to live as   long as possible as healthy as possible I'm like  you like she needs to be immortal and I truly   believe it because I'm just like manifesting it  but yeah I especially with the context clues you   gave it's like it's it's a standard cat not one  of the heavyweight breeds can't jump on a couch oh   it's not good they're me no they're meant to jump  like my friend oh my God he just told me he he's   got a Bengal and this thing can literally jump  from the ground to the top of his refrigerator he   like ends up like on the top of his cabinets like  this cat is the most like athletic crazy thing   but he um J's like I can't too he accidentally  launched himself off of the balcony recently he   like used to jump on the balcony railing cuz it's  like super wide and he just miscalculated and like   fell but all he had is like a little bruise on  um on a kidney and he was like a okay but I'm   like that is a life lost he's only got eight  lives left I truly like cats miscalculate and   they're especially this little woman she's off  in the distance but this this girl miscalculate   she falls off on my bed all the time and I'm  like God bless because so do I and so much like   your mother happens to the best of us I'm your  mother Apple didn't fall after me yeah exactly   there's cat all over the mic already I'm so sorry  well that's what vacuums are for yeah she's she's   cruising she's like I just need to check out  everything yeah yeah she's like this is this my   new apartment yeah she's loving it What's happen  she loves what you did with the place I know she   can hop she has really good hops you have a camera  right here oh my God she's got the Hops she hopped   up on that thing oh my God she's really exploring  she's this woman can jump on a couch no she's got   hops everyone listening jun's got hops she's okay  this is actually I got to tell you really quick   like she never is this awake like she loves your  studio I'm not even joking this is crazy it should   be like she G to other people's places before  like this is actually insane there's a lot of   cool stuff here yeah a lot of plants they're all  fake so she can't get sick I know it's perfect   it's just like it's a good spot for her yay I'm so  glad I'm like girl do not do not mess up her palm   tree please you can you can eat it it's from Ika  well no don't eat it but you can mess it up yeah   okay moving along this next one is 11 hours old  that's fresh oh it is titled raw meat it's titled   am I the [ __ ] for backing out of my friend's  wedding when his fiance called me uptight and a   me girl my friend Sam 28 male and his fiance  Kate 29 female and I 27 female went to University   together for our masters Sam and I are both  South Asian and from the same community so I   was quite close to him during our early Master's  years but then Sam met Kate and out of respect   for their relationship and the fact that Kate was  uncomfortable with me I stepped away and minimized   contact we remained friends and our families are  close now Sam is now engaged to Kate and he asked   me to be by his side and do some of the duties  that the groom's sister usually does I said yes   as he doesn't have sisters and his female cousins  are very small South Asian weddings have various   such cultures and rituals Kate for the first time  in many years finally seemed happy in my presence   and told me she was glad I was helping with the  wedding one of our University friends who is   close friends with Kate sent me a video that she  secretly recorded where Kate was talking about   me to her friends and I was honestly hurt by what  she said she called me an uptight [ __ ] and that   my husband was only with me because apparently I  could be the stable wife with the personality of   stale cardboard I'd be fighting she also told  that that I was a Pik me and that I always was   trying to get her mother-in-law to purposefully  not understand her and ruin her relationship   with her in-laws she was saying that she is only  keeping me close to keep an eye on me and so that   I cannot sabotage her any further for context her  mother-in-law doesn't speak or understand English   she only speaks our mother tongue so I only speak  to her in that language and Kate has made passive   aggressive comments about it all the time I did  not say a word at all these years to either Sam   or his family because I felt it would ruin my  relationship with them and Sam was happy with Kate   so I didn't want to meddle either I showed the  video to my husband and he was so mad that he was   about to go to Sam's house and demand an apology  I was just so sad that I texted Sam that it could   not be available to participate further in the  rituals and that I was sorry it was such short   notice but I think it would be better if we had  limited contact for a while my husband however was   so mad that he didn't listen to me about letting  it go du to Kate's behavior all of these years and   he called Sam and yelled at him and even sent him  the video not before blocking him on both of our   phones though today Kate called me and asked me  to talk to Sam as he was mad at her and his mom   threatened to withdraw her blessing as she now  considers Kate a vulgar woman I told her off and   Sam apologized for all of this and said that he  understood if I didn't want to talk to him again I   responded politely and he hung up now I'm feeling  guilty about potentially ruining Sam's wedding and   my friendship with him and his family and I think  I could have probably handled this better am I the   [ __ ] girl you are an angel I this is like the  nicest girl best friend scenario I've ever heard   of what did you say stale cardboard she called her  stale cardboard oh my gosh cardboard can't even   go stale it's inedible oh my gosh okay first of  all don't go to the wedding don't be friends with   these people you're never no I um I'm a wedding  videographer and and yeah it's so Random I like   never tell people but I'm a wedding videographer  you probably have so much tea so much tea and I've   I've gone to like I think at 200 weddings at this  point and first of all a big indicator that like   a couple isn't going to last like the the wife and  groom is if there's like drama at the wedding you   know yeah and um secondly if like the Grooms the  groom or the groomsmen have like if they're just   like not good guys you know yeah so it's Kate  and Sam right that are getting married yes my   my ADHD no you got it okay they both don't sound  like great people well I'm like I'm just confused   like op being like I feel like I could have  handled it better I think you handled it like   really respectfully and really your husband went  rogue and is the one that sent it like you weren't   even going to send it which I honestly think  it's okay to send like he should know who he's   marrying yes I I wouldn't want to marry someone  that is annoyed when people are talking to my   mom in the language she understands don't you  want your future wife to love your family and   like respect them at a bare minimum and it's like  it sounds like she's almost judging the mom that   she can't speak English or it's just giving weird  Vibes the the thing I'm upset about is like I feel   like Sam apologized for all of this and said he  understood if I didn't want to talk to him again   but why wouldn't you want to talk to him again is  that because he's staying with her still yeah if   somebody sent a video of my boyfriend just being  an absolute like bad person I would cancel the   wedding like I would want to know about that and  I I wouldn't want to marry that person you know   like I I I want to know about that information  and also why would you still be with that person   that is a es especially when people are talking  like a different language and you think that's   like an insult to you I especially feel empathy  for people in that situation because that's like   unheard of like that is so you are not a good  person if you think that other people talking   in a different language that you can't understand  is like such a bad thing no oh my God the video   that have like Karens in the park like there was  one that went really viral and it was like this   Karen of a woman and this Hispanic family was  like having a birthday party in a park and she   went up and was like speak English and it's like  ma'am go [ __ ] yourself I just want to like run   people over like that with a horse like I just  want to like just just like bowling you're done   you're done you don't even need to be get over  yourself you don't need to know what's being   said even if it's like even if they're talking  about you do you don't need to know what's being   said it's such a control thing it's a control  thing they want to be in control they want to   hear what's being said the conversation probably  has nothing to do with you and even if it does   mind your own beeswax mind your own beeswax it's a  whole thing everything that you said is she is not   the [ __ ] also I just learned these acronyms  to Reddit did you do before yeah I did I did   my little homework I was like okay acronyms for  Reddit before two hot takes I know what op means   now I I've never been on Reddit before this I  was like what is AI mean or what AI T yep yeah   what is that I was like am I the [ __ ] and then  it's like not a lawyer is what I'm learning now   not a lawyer if I needed to know that have to  like preface cuz you never know what people are   is I am a lawyer there's so many lawyers on Reddit  these days I'm like get legal advice um well you   know okay you know how Cora like quora yes like  I'll always Google a question and it will be   like the first answer is like the F the first good  answer is always Kora but Kora has the worst like   setup you go to look in website history and then  the answer is like not to be found ads ads ads and   then there's an answer and then you can't see the  rest and I'm like okay I got to start looking at   Reddit now because they do have good advice Reddit  is incredible like I've found advice for ancient   coins on there when I was like trying to get my  boyfriend at the time now fiance a gift and then I   had like a car problem my car was making a crazy  noise and they know and they diagnosed it yeah   like I can find anything on Reddit they are like  I a CM I am a car mechanic like like I love know   but yeah now now I know so o p you are n ta  a right you nailed it you crushed it you are   actually I A A I am wait I A A A I am an angel  because you handled this with so much respect   you don't have to be dealing with these people  don't go to the wedding um let them get a divorce   four years down the line I'm telling right now I  want update I want to know if he's going to call   it off cuz even his mom his mom is now considering  taking away her blessing and what did the mom call   her a vulgar woman so his mom might not even go if  he continues the the one thing when I read these   all these stories it's like I can't believe there  are people out there that that just aren't like   normal like normal humans like I can't believe  there's people out there that are like this   I you really have to burn me for me to like talk  badly about you and even people that have burned   me recently I would never like say bad things I'm  just like I'm I'm peeved by the situation I have   personal opinions but like I would never like go  badmouth like them to anyone cuz it's like that   also reflects on you yes so it's just not worth  it I'm going to take a higher road yeah the top   comment does agree with you not the [ __ ] Kate  has no one to blame for her current situation but   herself I find it interesting that a mutual friend  of both of you and Kate taped this particular   conversation so does this mutual friend not like  Kate at least now Sam knows what kind of person   Kate is and can decide whether he wants to spend  the rest of his life with someone like her nice   to see you have a husband who has your back exact  oh I was going to say that when you have a partner   like or a husband or a wife like it's that person  person has to be completely always hyping you up   supporting you always has your back and I'm really  glad that op yeah right op you got it has a great   husband that sticks up for her above and beyond  fighting for her I'm really glad when you said   that part of the story that was like the I was  like okay yeah yeah I was like we're good now op   responds to that comment glad this mutual friend  thinks Kate is unhinged period the only reason she   talks to Kate is because of Sam as Kate has very  less female friends and she never wanted me around   her friend group also thank you my husband really  is wonderful and he can get very overprotective   in some cases as I am extremely introverted and  try to avoid confrontation same girl same bless   your soul juny is somewhere in this room and she  wishes you well she's she's just back here she's   like cleaning her little paws I think she likes  this it might feel like a little cave or something   yeah she's like hey she's just down here she's  so cute you guys will be getting lots of juny   pictures on the Instagram and YouTube video I  don't see any other comments from op here h no   update so I also went as far as the research  I knew nothing about Reddit I like got my own   profile I was researching how people's profiles  work you can read their little comment history and   everything right yeah like you see their comment  history it's like crazy the digging you can do   oh wow yeah I fell down a rabbit hole yesterday I  searched myself don't don't ever search yourself   on Reddit oh no um but yours was very positive cuz  one of like when you search I have things when you   search concrete crotch kiss the one of the first  things that comes up on Google is a Reddit post   being like I love her so so much oh wow yeah oh so  you have very nice things on Reddit you're kidding   I have to have one wrong thing I had like one mean  post about like a live show and I was like I was   like this isn't even true we didn't we didn't  start late and we actually read we read seven   stories not four so I was just like you know  when you have like 20 nice comments but one me   and like I I have like had people reach out to  me and be like you're on Reddit and don't look   at the comments and it was about how my like lips  were so fake and I was like I was like I've never   got a filler in my entire life I'm so tempted to  create a Reddit account and post my baby pics if   you guys want but you know how you can tell what  if someone has had lip filler or not oh it's the   wrinkles the wrinkles the wrinkles like look for  people's wrinkles in their lips if you don't see   wrinkles can of these Zoom zo I got the wrinkles  those are real I got wrinkles Galore and it's and   it's to the point where people will be like you  need chapstick I'm like I put it on five minutes   ago you're just used to the unwrinkled lips no  and yeah I I was so tempted to make a Reddit   account to just like prove myself but I was like  you know what this is kind of fun a little bit of   drama I'll take it I'll take it over the list oh  my God people are just so interesting Genie you   want to come for the next question one of this  week's Partners is talk space when you're going   through something tough in your life opening up  to someone like a therapist can feel so relieving   so cathartic all while in a judgment free zone  and that's what you can find with talkspace at   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space 80 oh yeah she is  ready she's so relaxed okay she's like let's   hear the next question she got her Zoomies out  of her the system cat Zoomies are so funny I know   and it's always at like 4:00 a.m. when you're  trying to sleep and then all of a sudden you just   get like smacked in the face it's actually really  sad because I'll like wake up and I always put   jun's toys in her like little bin in the living  room which is across the house and when I wake up   all of her toys are like near my bed which means  when I was sleeping she just brought them out like   it's so sad I'm like I'm sleeping like what can  I do about this does she give you scalp massages   um no she never has no but she gives me little  foot massages in a not so fun way every single   night like I I can't have my toes out like I I put  the bedding under my feet because she loves just   like I don't think she knows that they're a part  of my body oh yeah oh little like Piggies out from   me I'm like oh I guess I am a pig like oh my God  the SN I love it that's me I guess I am a little   piggy oh my God I guess I am a little piggy for  her to I love that I my cat she literally would   like massage my head with her teeth like and it  was like the crazi sensation it was like like   yeah it was like she was like pulling my hair  with her it was it I don't know maybe maybe you   guys out there will have a cat that's done that  it was like you know those little brain like the   scalp massagers it looked like an octopus it felt  like that but like 20 times better wait oh it was   nice it was so good oh my gosh girl you hearing  this you got to learn juny yeah got to learn she's   asleep most of the time anyway so the little tail  flick thing yeah yeah I know okay this next one   it's 12 hours old as well titled would I be the  [ __ ] for dumping my girlfriend after she ignored   my calls and messages and went clubbing while  I was undergoing emergency surgery oh I already   I already agree with you you're not the [ __ ]  I 22 male and my girlfriend 22 female have been   together for 5 years we've been together  since high school and until recently I've   always considered her to be my future wife I've  even bought a ring and was planning on proposing   over the coming months well last weekend it was  my girlfriend's best friend's birthday she and   her friends booked a private Lounge at a club  obviously I didn't go since was one I wasn't   invited and two I hate clubbing or anything  associated with that I was actually looking   forward to spending an evening alone and just  binging Netflix or something well my girlfriend   left around 9:00 p.m. and I just crashed on the  couch and watched some YouTube well around 11:00   p.m. I started to feel this distinct stomach pain  oh the pain you experience when someone hits you   in the nuts it wasn't bad at first and I just  thought my body was playing some tricks on me   but in the span of about 5 minutes the pain just  kept getting worse until I was basically stuck in   the fetal position on the couch again initially I  just thought that the pain would go away but then   I pulled down my pants and it felt like my right  testicle was starting to swell I did not read this   one before Oh my God yeah I I definitely relate  the moment I tried to get up and grabbed my phone   to inspect whatever the [ __ ] was happening to  me I just collapsed to the floor that was probably   the worst pain I've ever felt in my life imagine  being pelted in the nuts over and over again I did   manage to crawl to the table next to the couch  to get my phone I immediately tried calling my   girlfriend but she declined my call I then texted  her that something was wrong and could she come   home immediately the club she went to is like a  5-minute walk from our apartment I just put the   the phone down and started throwing up because  of the pain oh no after throwing up for like a   minute it felt like the pain started to cool  down a bit and I grabbed my phone again and   that's when I saw her response she just replied  with a quote what is it and like an emoji that's   like an annoyed face like oh I tried calling  her again but as expected she just declined   it again I then texted her that I need to go to  the hospital now she then asked for what and I   just replied with my balls hurt I then just dialed  for emergency services I explained my situation to   the emergency responder and she asked if there was  somebody that could drive me to the hospital and I   stupidly said yes I thought my girlfriend would be  home soon and she would drive me to the hospital I   felt embarrassed to call an ambulance because my  balls hurt after I told the emergency responder   this she then told me that she would call me again  in 10 minutes to make sure I was being driven into   the hospital I then put down my phone and went  back to vomiting on our carpet again after the   pain went away for a bit I checked my phone and  saw that my girlfriend responded with laughing emojis I again tried to call her but as expected  she just declined again she texted me that this   wasn't the time to play games and she then  told me that if I texted or called her again   she would block my number oh my gosh I again  tried calling her but she declined again and   when I tried calling her a second time I realized  she did actually block me I went back to curling   up on the floor and now I started shivering at  this point I didn't care about being embarrassed   and just called Emergency Services again and asked  for an ambulance it felt like an eternity but the   ambulance eventually came and rushed me to the  hospital I don't remember much of surgery since   I was sedated but I remember waking up eventually  and my right testicle was being stitched together   the doctor informed me that I had testicular  torsion and I was extremely lucky to reach the   hospital in time oh my God I could have easily  have been forced to surgically remove my testicle   I checked my phone and saw the Miss calls and  messages my girlfriend left me in summary she   came home from clubbing and smelled the vomit in  our carpet when she saw the vomit on the floor she   got mad and tried searching the apartment to find  me when she realized I wasn't there only only then   did it hit her that I was actually being serious I  just texted her in which hospital I was staying at   and my room number and then went to sleep I woke  up the next morning and saw my girlfriend sleeping   on the couch next to my hospital bed after she  woke up she started bombarding me with apologies   she thought I was joking that I was trying to ruin  their night Etc I didn't have the energy to argue   so I just kept quiet I was beyond hurt by what  she did and I wanted to break up with her then   and there why the [ __ ] would somebody ignore  messages where their partner is begging them to   come home not only that she stayed in the club  until 3:00 a.m. and didn't even consider going   home to check on me she did stay with me in the  hospital for the remaining 2 days I was admitted   there and did take good care of me but I was  still beyond pissed at her ever since coming home   yesterday I've been wanting to dump her but at the  same time I feel feel like she genuinely thought   I was joking and made a mistake I feel conflicted  and don't know how to proceed with this situation   would I be the [ __ ] if I dumped her am I  overreacting okay for me I I feel like people are   always so quick to say dump him like dump her you  know people are always so quick to say I feel like   this is so Justified um now that she knows what  happened and also the only thing that's holding   me back from like going full force like yes dump  her is that he responded to her by saying my balls   hurt and that's it and and there was never any  more context I know that's the only thing and   you are not in the wrong op but maybe a little  bit more context like hey I'm actually dying and   my balls are are doing something very dangerous I  know because like she could have interpreted that   as like yeah a sexual thing like oh like like blue  balls you just want me to come home so we can hook   up but I I I'm really annoyed where it's like okay  he keeps calling you just answer the phone answer   the phone like come on girl like it's clearly  dire step into the bathroom answer the phone   see what's actually going on and then you can  decide if it's like leave the club worthy but   also you live 5 minutes away run home real quick  and use the bathroom there two birds one stone cu   the club's probably got a line and then go back  to the club like the part that's so messed up to   me is that I'm probably juny I'm like she's she  agrees but is that she blocked him when will you   when do you ever block your own boyfriend ever  ever I can't imagine blocking my own boyfriend   ever no and then I'm like I'm like is there more  context we're missing where like he's cried wolf   before like where she's been at the club and been  like can you come home like I'm not feeling well   like is this like a little boy who cried wolf  story or like why did she automatically go to   assuming Oh I thought you were just trying  to ruin my night has there been situations   where he's like my balls hurt like I need  you to come like fix them yeah that's the   only scenario where where I can think of I'm  like really perplexed where Opie would be in   the wrong you know I know it's like the boy who  cried [Music] balls I I can't even imagine what   this feels like but I have seen that like  there was one study that said like I know   like childbirth is worse than a heart attack  but getting kicked in the nuts can feel like   a minor like chest pain I actually KN do know a  guy um that lost a ball and he said it was no big D so ironic so hny oh my god well not with one less  it was a big D but it was no big d i I knew him from like like high school or  something it was just so like distant but it   was like it wasn't like a huge thing no I honestly  I would love now I'm like so curious I would love   to see Anatomy with both balls like gone like  I had a guy friend um from high school that he   got testicular cancer like a year out of high  school or two years out of high school and so   and they can remove it and they can put in like  um artificial it's just like a boob job yeah they   can put in like an artificial ball why did I not  even consider that yeah yeah and then you're just   like ready to go and I guess your other like  sack also like makes up for the Lost sack if   you lose one if you only lose one have so much  potential yeah yeah so human bodies it's crazy   I'm like what do you think of this juny she's  like leave me out of the test met like a boy cat   in her life she has no idea what's going on but  she does love men she does love men so she yeah   she's like yeah I'm interested I'm intrigued yeah  top comment former paramedic here dude when you're   in that that level of pain don't call your [ __ ]  girlfriend call Emergency Services there's nothing   to be embarrassed about yes oh and not the [ __ ]  but your girlfriend is and next comment down they   have a strong disconnect in communication Styles  if they get married before figuring it out they're   going to blame each other one comment down  goes what is her communication style in this   scenario like she didn't communicate block her  communication style is blocking that's not a   good one I just like can't imagine like ever  just brushing my partner off like ever being   like answer the phone like answer the phone and  you get called repeatedly like the minute someone   calls me more than two times I'm like expecting  bad news I'm like yes I get such bad anxiety if   my mom calls me more than once my gosh if my mom  even calls me once I'm like something bad happened   dude I've never blocked somebody in my entire  life because you never like you just never know   I know like what if you I don't know it's a whole  thing I feel bad blocking telemarketers cuz I'm   like what what if that actually was my bank that  called me what if there's like a heist going on   while they're like telemarketing and they need  my like they're like please like I know I'm a   telemarketer right now but like there's a there's  a robbery at my telemarketing space like I'm like   okay go find cover dude I've been getting so many  scam calls from um like other countries lately and   I will accept it cuz I want to know what the deal  is like no don't I'm so curious if there's any   comments from op on this one let's check their  profile now that I know I think they reply they   do reply to that comment about like why would you  call your girlfriend first like like kind of like   kind of shaming him and honestly like depending  on where op lives like it's so expensive to get   ambulance like totally if I knew my partner was 5  minutes away i' I'd probably call my partner too I   don't even I don't even relate to that question  cuz I do call my boyfriend when anything goes   wrong because he's the the one to like let me know  if I should be calling the emergency services or   just like kind of like calming me down yeah yeah  didn't you see that trend on Tik Tok it was people   talking about why they called so and so first  before 4 911 no I never saw that it was like a   trend and they were like like kind of a quote  and they're like wait why would you call your   husband before calling 911 and then it was like  a ring doorbell of their husband like speeding   in the driveway yes I did see that and it was  like I'm glad you called your husband and not   like 911 like my husband got there first yes yeah  and so they care about you so much and so a bunch   of people were posting stuff like that and like  multiple times like their partner or family or   whoever got their before 911 did totally 100%  yeah I feel like that's kind of weird to shame   him about totally I get very dramatic about  things and it's really glad that I don't call   911 and I call my boyfriend because he'll be  like this is literally no big deal at all and   I'm like you're right and he sings a little song  to me called it's okay it's going to be okay I   need that song yeah yeah is it on Spotify yet cuz  let me tell you my panic attacks lately yeah yeah   it's going to be okay you just sing yourself  that little song and you believe it you know oh   my God I'll send you the little little yeah love  voice memo we should really turn it into a song I   know we'll see we'll see that' be good Opie does  say though when you're going through that type   of pain do you [ __ ] think ahead question mark I  swear I need to log half of you off you have to be   Bots which like that is just no don't shame him he  just went through something very emotional go when   you're going through pain and especially it sounds  like ball pain sounds not good you're not rational   you're not rational mhm I can only imagine yeah  do you think this is Breakup worthy um she did   apologize yes so there's lots of comments asking  op like did she actually apologize I think she's   definitely the [ __ ] I don't I don't I'm like  50/50 on the breakup where thing um because of   the her only or him only texting her my balls hurt  that's the only thing but your balls did hurt so   much that you probably didn't think about hey I  should probably say I feel like I'm dying right   now you know so yeah that's my only thing there is  a little bit more context here too oh oh probably   should have included this in the post for us he  does he does prank her sometimes and so he does   say all of my pranks um go in that direction let  me see what this is is in response to we literally   said hey if this is the guy who's the ball guy  who's crying wolf over his balls then I can   understand where the girlfriend's coming from yeah  so someone commented is that the only prank you've   done if so no so I think op shared like somewhere  else where they had done pranks before oh now   I'm just I just got to find all the details go to  their profile all the details apparently he would   buy her bracelets and hide them in empty chip bags  as a prank I don't know if that's necessarily oh   my gosh that nothing to do with balls yeah yeah  so people are like do all of your pranks go like   this is like if that's the only one you've done if  so no and you're entirely justified in being upset   I agree if no then include all of the pranks like  you're leaving details out let us know about every   single prank and maybe they were all innocent but  you can't expect accurate feedback if you don't   include relevant details and if she assumed it  was a prank then all pranks are relevant details   100% And op respond all of my pranks do go in  that direction I've never done a prank where I   faked being in danger to get her attention Okay  then you are totally fine yeah if you were like   100% if you were that's what I think we we kind  of said at the beginning like is there context   of like him crying wolf in the past like have you  pulled any more ball jokes or yeah dick and ball   pranks or health pranks in general oh my God that  was I he should have put that in there yeah yeah   the other the only other thing that I can think of  is like you know kind of sexual pranks where he's   like my come home I need help shower exactly my  balls are I got blo balls that's all I can think   I know it doesn't sound like that though yeah also  hiding a bracelet in an empty chip bag that's I'll   take that prank all day Great Prank go g are  we talking tennis bracelet what are we working   with here yeah yeah oh my gosh tennis bracelet I  would love a prank like that yeah seriously okay   moving along maybe we'll get an update on that one  another one of this week's Partners is quin the   weather is getting warmer 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go to board the person scanning our   boarding passes stops US she says it seems that  my husband was upgraded to business class but   only him and ask if that is okay I immediately  say no we are on our honeymoon and would like   to stay together but then my husband jumps in and  says quote no it's fine I'll go in business class   I look at him in complete shock and he tells me  that I fly all the time and have been in business   class before but he hasn't so he deserves a chance  to experience it I see we are holding up the line   so I feel like I just need to agree and get on the  plane to say I'm pissed off is an understatement   he is all Smiles taking his seat and I go back to  the seat where they sit me next to an old woman   with a baby on her lap where my husband should  be within maybe 5 to 10 minutes of sitting there   trying to hold back tears because my husband left  me alone on our flight during our honeymoon and   uses my points for his upgrade no less he starts  to text me saying he feels anxiety over flying oh   no I ignore the text and stop looking at my phone  within maybe an hour after we are in the air he   comes to the back of the plane to find me offers  me half of his business class breakfast and asked   me if I was ignoring him and that he was scared  and needed me to tell him that it would be okay   since I am such an experienced flyer I told him  maybe he should have thought about that before   leaving me alone before our honeymoon even really  began he gets angry tells me that this may be the   only time he gets to fly business class and he was  giving me half his breakfast to make up for it so   the least I could be is supportive of his genuine  fear I roll my eyes sarcastically say thanks and   he goes back to his seat when we land I tried to  just move on and forget about it so that we could   enjoy our honeymoon but he guilt tripped me about  not comforting him via text before takeoff and   now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable and  should have just let him enjoy his first time in   business class and ensured him it would be okay am  I the [ __ ] this one's so like it's kind of just   silly you know it's not like it's not like a life  or death situation but it is kind of silly well   and there are some other votes too like there's  no [ __ ] here so like neither one of them is   the [ __ ] or it could be everyone sucks here and  they're both just kind of [ __ ] so this is this   is kind of a trickier one yeah yeah I have got to  say I think that neither are the [ __ ] I think   that both people are kind of Justified in their  own feelings for me I like I don't know it' be I   feel like super lucky because I feel like my  my boyfriend now would if they were like one   of you has an upgrade he'd be like it's literally  of course going to you like there's no question   about it keeper yeah yeah a keeper and that's  where I feel like she is kind of Justified in   her feelings she's like why I don't know if it was  interchangeable to the other person it probably   would have been yeah I I feel like it was and it  was also like her points her points yeah exactly   like she's spending a lot of money to like get  those points and miles and like then he just takes   it without really being like well babe you should  you should take it exactly yeah he was like so   quick about it he does have okay here's my thing  he does have like severe flight anxiety but how   does being in business class like help that out  it doesn't make it better maybe have a little bit   more space and if anything you're probably like I  don't know but like why wouldn't he think in that   moment like oh I'm going to be separated I usually  have an easier time flying with my partner maybe   I should stick with my partner so she can comfort  me he's slightly the oh he's definitely the [ __ ]   if he just like took it without I don't know if  she couldn't have gotten the business upgrade and   only he could he's not the [ __ ] but if if there  was an option to give it to your wife who got it   with the points especially first of all she's the  like lady and then she got it with the points and   I'm like that is that is reason enough to like  offer it to your wife and like the the reality is   you're going to get an opportunity to sit up there  again yeah and like do it when it's the two of   together because experiencing it together  for the first time is so much better like I   remember the first time I got one of those pods  like the sleeper like where it lies down I like   found some like Tik Tok Point hack and so I bought  points for like $500 and then put my myself and my   fiance on the upgrade list we both got upgraded so  we got pods from LA to London for $500 extra oh my   my gosh it was the most insane hack and I go damn  those Tik Tok points people they mean business but   like that's crazy experiencing that together and  like getting like champagne poured together like   that was so special like if only one of us would  have got upgraded I would have felt bad and lonely   and like just not good about it I can't believe  that he didn't offer or like at least even even   if you got the business upgrade at least like  decline that if your other if your fiance or   wife at this point can't wife wife can't get  the business upgrade with you like that is so   so weird you I would okay for me I don't know  I'm kind of thinking if I got the upgrade on my   boyfriend didn't it would be a no-brainer he'd be  like yeah go for it mine would too like oh yeah   exactly and I would do it like I wouldn't be like  declining it but especially since he's the one   that's already requesting that they fly together  and that they're together why are you not saying   hey I don't need business upgrade like put me  in the economy with my wife I know I I feel like   I'm just like no [ __ ] here like this is just a  couple spat and like he kind of kind of asked for   like like you know what I mean like he's the one  that chose to be there and like phones sometimes   don't work on airplanes anyways so he had to kind  of go up there with the understanding of like you   guys are separated like you might not be able to  talk so totally that's kind of like you messed   with the bull you're getting the horns of the  flight anxiety or like be careful what you wish   for yeah because that's just how it is so no like  she's back there in tears like and then it's like   what you're G to comfort him when he's the one  that chose to leave you no no like just move on   but he shouldn't be guilt tripping you yeah  definitely not think I would hold a grudge for   a couple of days I don't know I just sometimes  as like the girlfriend I feel like a little bit   more she's like hey girls what we chatting about I  feel a little bit more like okay with being like I   don't know I I actually am in the same situation  where I use my points to pay for me and my   boyfriend's flights a lot and it's my I'm like I  love doing it for you I love paying with my points   and especially in that situation especially if I  was paying with my points and he got upgraded that   he would not let that happen he wouldn't let he  would be like no you're going to get the upgrade   and I'll be in the back even if he had flight  anxiety yeah so I feel like the you know the   husband's a little bit it's it's a silly situation  it's not something like crazy but you are a little   bit the [ __ ] but that I'm leaning towards not  neither of you the [ __ ] top comment ass info did   you get stuck in a middle seat in economy if so  we ride at dawn yeah yeah agreed honestly agreed   especially with a baby yeah babies deserve to fly  I'm I'm on that that train but I don't want to sit   next to the baby that cries no op responds thank  God no a seat we have flown together three times   in the past Florida Vegas and Europe and made  a deal to alternate if one of us had a middle   seat I think the flight was overbooked and they  just gave a random person in a middle seat an   upgrade to business class so they could fit more  people in economy I have status that allows me   to use 500 points to upgrade if they have seats  available usually I don't bother putting myself   on the upgrade list but the agent I spoke to on  the phone said she could ensure we'd be upgraded   as a couple or not at all m that's interesting too  that is really interesting why are they trying to   like split up couples I know like I flew Frontier  for the first time the other day and like I had a   reservation with three people on it and I paid for  two carryon bags for my dad and fiance and they   literally gave them boarding Zone one and sat them  together but I didn't pay for the carry-on cuz   like I didn't need it they gave me boarding Zone  99 and put me in the very last row away from the   of them that's even a thing bozone 99 it was for  me they were specifically like this girl is going   dead last you are the last one on a flight wow  they really consequence you I I started crying I   don't blame you I was like I don't want to sit by  myself that is actually really sad did you sit by   yourself no my dad traded with me oh seey what I  feel like yeah yeah I've never been in a situation   where I've been with a guy in a plane and I don't  and they like don't get the worse seat or Worse   seat than me I literally saw a video of someone  being like who has like the the flying princess   boyfriend the the boyfriend that always has to  have the window or he's mad I got the biggest   biggest ick who does because gross and you should  break up yeah yeah like he's not going to give you   the window one time done yta yta you're the [ __ ]  for that I'm really using my Reddit acronyms on   this podcast I just learned about them and I'm I'm  ready to use them you're ready you're ready you're   trying you're if you're the boyfriend airplane  princess you're trying to secure your your spot   on another episode yeah I got a redic account I  know I know the lingo there is a comment there's   a lot of just like not the [ __ ] or like no one  no [ __ ] here and there is another one that's   like I'm usually pretty team married couples  can sit apart for a few hours on a plane but   this is their honeymoon oh my gosh I forgot that  their honeymoon yeah oh no I'd be pissed husband   you are in big trouble I'd be so mad that's like  you want to hold hands and that's a start of your   marriage he kind of he's giving this like dumb  golden retriever energy oh yeah like just didn't   realize they don't even think about it m- that's  when you really got to like have hour hours long   conversation of just saying hey we got to be more  intuitive of things like that social cues and 100%   now that we're married you also I feel like people  always are planning out their weddings when you   should be like planning out your marriage and like  situations like that like people are so like honed   in on planning their wedding and like that's their  whole thing about their marriage and then you just   like know nothing about planning your entire rest  of your lives together you know and I feel like   you should be able to have conversations before  your honeymoon about hey what happens in this   kind of scenario or what what are we going to  do if you get some kind of benefit and I don't   are we in this together are you going separate  it's a whole thing so yeah this might have been   a couple if you were their videographer you could  have been like they're going to have some issues   long what's the craziest thing you've seen oh  my gosh I've gosh have you had like the groom   hookup with anyone um no but I have oh so I have a  little microphone attached to the groom the entire   day because that's where like the vows are coming  from we're like and it's actually not attached to   the bride because they're it doesn't hide their  dress so it is attached to the groom all day and   and I tell them hey you're miked up all day and  I've heard like it I don't think it was ever the   groom but I've definitely had a wedding where I'm  I'm rereading or I'm looking through the different   um like things that were said throughout the  day as you have to like you have to for cont   exactly I'm not like trying to Snoop around like  I'm mining my own beeswax but I have to like hear   that kind of stuff to pair it with the video you  know oh no and um the group rooms men are like   talking about talking about me and they're like yo  um is that chick single like she has a really flat   ass but but you got to get they're like talking  to one of their friends like you got to get with   the videographer tonight like you got to start  flirting with her and it's crazy because I like   I matched it all up I never heard this audio  until Weeks Later when I'm Ed but I knew who   they're talking to cuz they're like he's like oh  I'm going to I'm going to flirt with her and this   way and I'm going to use these jokes and they're  all talking about my flat ass for like two minutes   and I'm like yeah I know I do and then when when  I was editing I'm like I'm so pissed at all these   groomsmen right now like they were talking about  how flat my butt was and you almost just like want   to send them the clip yeah they're they're not  to together anymore like the groom and the wife I   don't I don't know which uh of the Grooms voices  it was so I don't know if he was involved in it   but they're not together anymore and I always  tell people like the number one indicator to me   as a wedding videographer if you're going to stay  together is actually weirdly enough the Grooms men   like who your yeah who your groom is like hanging  around cuz girls are always great girls women   are like Divine like we all have such amazing  relationships with all our girlfriends but the   Grooms the groom who they're friends with is like  a complete picture of who they are and if you're   hanging around slimy men like that like you're  not a good guy yeah so I I mean it's sad but the   groomsmen like look how Rowdy the room not Rowdy  but like they can get as drunk as they want but   how like slimy and grimy they are when there's  like derogatory comments and like degrading like   women like I have had like a um a guy dated and  like going out with his like friends and like the   server or someone that they saw at the bar and  it's like the the the way they would talk about   her it's like exact and it's one of those things  like that like you kind of are who you associate   with so that's like such yeah and us women are  never talking about like M like that guy is you   know like we're just like I'm so excited for you  like this is the best day of your life and then   the men are like get with the photography it's  just so yeah e that's only having you know an   handful of timeful of times yeah but man still  pretty funny yeah I'm like little do you know   I know everything that was said but it's fun it's  all in a day's work there was one story on Reddit   where uh the groom [ __ ] someone's mom oh yeah  I remember that I actually saw that yeah oh it's   just like God the day of the wedding like do you I  have a question so do you think that everything is   always true or do you think that people ever like  make things up to just to I would say get some   Karma some Reddit Karma I would say [Music] 95%  I'll I'll be realistic 90% okay yeah is probably   true like I would totally agree I've gotten some  listener write-ins like directly emailed to me   or like people telling me stories and I'm like  that is crazier than anything Reddit has ever had   totally so I'm like okay this is this is real some  things are actually crazy like movie Crazy crazier   than movies J she's just chilling she's loving the  spotlight chilling like go the spotlights right   here well speaking of wedding drama and stories  this next one 9 days old coming from am I the   [ __ ] titled am I the [ __ ] for not attending  the wedding of my cousin and my ex-boyfriend I 32   female was engaged ex fiance was engaged to marry  Travis 33 male but a couple of weeks before the   wedding was supposed to take place he said that  he didn't want to get married I asked him if he   was cheating and he said no he told me that most  of his friends were already marrying or starting   families so he thought it was time to settle down  but he had just realized that he didn't want to   suffice to say the wedding was cancelled and that  was the end of our relationship it's been about   a year since that happened things haven't been  exactly great but I've managed well some days   ago I received an invitation to the wedding of my  cousin Taylor 26 female imagine my surprise when   I read it and saw that my ex fiance was the groom  good riddance I had only seen them barely interact   during family meetings I hadn't noticed any  clues that pointed to anything happening between   the two of them at the time some info about my  cousin she's what some people would call a free   spirit she doesn't have a conventional job she  works as an artist she dyes her hair in unusual   colors sometimes blue sometimes green and dresses  extravagantly once she wore a white robe another   time she wore a black leather jacket and spiked  boots she says that she doesn't like following   society's rules and that she only follows her  own code immediately I called my parents I asked   them if they had known something about Taylor's  relationship with Travis to summarize yes they did   they hadn't intended on telling me because they  figured out there would be no positive outcome to   it but they also made it clear that they expected  me to come to the wedding anyways in order to show   support to my family at this point I lost it and  shouted that they were delusional if they believed   that I would go to the wedding of my cheating liar  ex and his manic pixie dream girl they said that I   can't keep holding on to my hatred and resentment  forever and that I need to let it go I hung up on   them my extended family has been blowing up my  phone since then saying that I'm a bad person   if I don't attend right now I feel so confused  betrayed and disappointed I'm no longer sure if   I'm being irrational or not so I think it might be  best to ask for an outside point of view am I the [ __ ] okay your family sucks your your ex  fiance sucks your cousin sucks every everyone   sucks except op I cannot believe jun's up in arms  too right now she's like no the cousin she's like   not the cousin um wait her tongue is out oh my  God she's like the cousin disgusting no um that's   actually insane I actually can't believe that the  gaslighting there they're doing to her also yes   the gaslighting and also I cannot imagine like not  even knowing that your cousin is getting married   to your ex like where and your parents didn't  tell you your family knew and they never even told   you and um I've actually experienced this kind of  situation before to a way lesser degree oh my God   where my like friends knew that my other friend  was dating my ex and they didn't tell me for years   what because it was kind of just like they thought  I would be hurt by it I was like well yeah it   wouldn't it wouldn't have hurt me at all but they  like let me be friends with the same girl while   she was dating my ex you know it's just weird like  even if you're not like I feel like it's always   more hurtful to be lied to for an extended period  of time even if it's ly by Omission just tell me   give give me the choice and the opportunity to  not care or then at least be able to process my   feelings a whole lot sooner yes 100% And you can  be a little bit hurt but it's so much better to be   aware of the fact that that's happening especially  when it's within your family or within your   friendship group like just being able to know that  information so that you can like better base your   actions upon them like I had always wished that  my friends told me earlier that that friend was   with my ex-boyfriend so I didn't have to like so I  wasn't going on trips with her while like you know   she was doing that and you know oh my God you know  it's a whole thing it's cuz then you just feel   stupid yes yes you feel stupid and you feel like  almost used in a way like I don't know I feel like   I feel like no matter what it's always best to  tell a person about what's happening um 100%   if it's involved in their life you know and then  you just feel like I don't know it's just a whole   thing but that is really really really a terrible  situation to be in I really empathize with not   the how explain to me how they could even think  that an [ __ ] in you must go yeah show respect   you are not going show respect to who the people  that disrespected you the most literally like me   to I'm out she's like I can't even hear any of  this this is terrible poor op I what did they say   to like you can't keep holding on to your hatred  and resentment forever yeah I can yeah yeah yeah   oh yes I will and I must like what I feel like it  doesn't take sometimes I will say like it's not   worth the energy yeah totally but there's certain  times where it's like it doesn't take that much   energy for me to not like that person 100% like  it's not like I think about them every day I just   like if they come up I'm like yeah I don't like  them they suck I don't like them end of energy   like I don't even I don't even think about it I  just don't like them I don't want them involved   in my life and I'll whatever energy it takes to  not have them in my life that's the maximum amount   I'll give out literally and then boom we're done  we're done we're done top comment not the [ __ ]   your family is being ridiculous they should have  told you that your ex- fiance was involved with   your cousin especially when they got engaged and  they're out of line expecting you to show up and   smile because family family goes both ways your  family too and they should have told you what was   happening I would make it clear that you are not  holding on to anger and resentment you have moved   on and wouldn't have wanted to be married to a  guy who would do that anyways but you won't be   attending the wedding and it's inappropriate for  anyone to ask you to do so also like she's his ex   yes I don't think anyone wants their ex fiance at  their next wedding ever in what world are you ever   attending your ex fiance's wedding in what world  I can't even think of like any scenario where   that would be a thing no it's so inappropriate  because because whoever they're marrying that   you know that's probably a bad thing in the  first place that they're getting married like   they probably know of each other through you in  the first place you know so literally they do   they they met because of you yeah exactly so it's  it's just bad bad bad you don't have to show these   people an ounce of respect I don't know where the  family's coming from cuckoo yeah cuckoo we have an update hi it's me again thanks to everyone who  commented on my first post some people asked for   an update and here you have it I've read all  of your comments and I've got to say the one   who gave me tips on how to be Petty made me  laugh but after thinking about it I decided   to simply not attend the wedding I'll also be  distancing myself from my parents and extended   family at least for a while for the former and  definitely for the later I also told my friends   about the whole situation and they were even  more pissed off than some of you I told them   about the suggestion that some commenters made  about going on vacation during the week of the   wedding and we've already started making plans  something else happened in the last few days   I received a call from Travis he asked me if  we could meet and talk I know it was probably   stupid of me but I accepted no we met in a public  place and I told him I wanted to know exactly   what was going on between him and Taylor this  is what he told me Travis and Taylor for well anyway I don't know if it's Swift and C first he  made sure to emphasize that he had never cheated   on me not sure if I believe him but I let him  talk he told me that he too felt bad about our   relationship's end and that on a night out he  just happened to end up in the same place as   my cousin they started talking and one thing led  to another and he proceeded to have a middle-age   crisis with her the only reason he's getting  married to her is because she's pregnant and he   is afraid that she would just run away and he'd  never get to meet his child if he didn't marry   her after that talk we went our separate ways he  wished me good luck and I said the same as soon   as I came back home I blocked his number so at  the end of the day I'm left with more questions   than answers but whatev that's no longer my  problem anyway this is it I don't think I'll   be posting on this account again once again thank  you for your support when I needed it oh my gosh   that is crazy happy ending for op though the the  op sounds so rational maybe it was a little weird   of them to meet up with Travis but Travis but he  he's gonna have a child with Taylor that sucks   yeah that sucks I just like why were you messing  with the cousin middle-age crisis yeah what he's   29 this is a like forever middle-age crisis thing  like you you have a child now because of this oh   he's 33 he's he's 33 early middle age crisis oh  my gosh that is very yeah early yeah I feel like   that usually happens like 40s 50s 40s yeah you  hear it 40s usually wow okay so I'm glad there   it's just a good riddance all around I'm really  glad for op now she gets a fun vacation out of it   yes good for you and I also want to like hear  about what she did with her family because it   sounds like your family is just like little  cuckoo and I don't know she probably just   has to deal with that yeah it's one of those  tough situations but like your family clearly   doesn't have your best interest in mind because  otherwise they would have given you a heads up   and like told you and like been like hey just so  you know we heard through the grap Vine Travis   is starting to date Taylor yes it's obviously not  great it's inappropriate but you should know we   don't like it either yeah unfortunate I just like  I can't imagine why you would like I don't get   why they're so supportive of it too like that was  your child's ex fiance who ended it a couple weeks   before the wedding I always truly think like it's  so much easier to tell people during the beginning   like if you have a friend that's dating your  friend's ex or a family member sex just tell them   in the early stages hey hey so and so are hanging  out I don't like it either but just so you know so   you don't have to like you know hang out with them  or like you're not fooled into you know thinking   so so it's so it's a whole thing I've always been  an advocate I'm just like you know hey by the way   this is happening yeah I don't like it either but  it's how it goes like just be an adult communicate   share things openly totally like and then it's  like everyone can move forward in the way that   they feel as best and can handle like totally I  hate secrets I hate people manipulating and line   by Omission just totally get it out there yeah  and especially like on a light-hearted note I   feel like in its early stages it's liart enough  to be like hey so and so are hanging out it's   not it's not so cool but it's happening you  can't control others you know kind of sucks   but speaking of not being able to control others  our very last one today it's 5 hours old titled   my 28 female boyfriend 29 male of 10 years has  liquidated his 401k without telling me how do I   handle this my boyfriend and I have been together  for 12 years and are technically High School   sweethearts we live in Southern California and are  starting to make okay money bringing in about 150k   combined we have a goal to each make six figures  by 32 and have been slowly climbing the ladder   in both of our careers we've lived together for  10 years and have recently talked about getting   married and starting to plan what the next steps  are for getting a house and when we want kids Etc   we both decided we need to really start to budget  so we can pay off credit cards and really start   saving we agreed on how we want a budget and have  been holding each other to it he works in sales   and got a big bonus in March about 25k even after  taxes it was still a lot more than he thought he   was going to get we were really excited because he  could use that to pay off his credit card debt and   have a decent start for his savings then when tax  time came around this year he told me he owed 8K   to the government in total and used a big chunk  of his bonus to pay it this really shocked me   because besides the bonus his base salary is 80k  he didn't get a bonus last year because it was   his first year so it didn't make sense why he owed  that much he used Turbo Tax so I asked him if it   was okay to send his tax return and tax info to my  parents so that they can give it to their tax guy   to take a look at it he agreed and gave his docs  to my parents come to find out he emptied his 401k   from his previous job about 25k mystery solved  about where the 8K he owed came from I asked him   why he did that and mentioned that that's like the  worst thing you can do since he was penalized for   taking it out early he told me it was to pay off  his credit cards I questioned him more and more   and he seemed to not think it was a big deal I  told him that he should have talked to me before   he did this and he responded quote it's my money  so I can do what I want with it this really hurt   my feelings because we have never been that's  my money type of couple we have both always   supported each other during Financial hardships  and generally split things evenly not keeping   close track I've never really questioned about  his finances but generally knew he had credit   card debt I do too so I never judged him I just  don't get how he could take out that much money   and would have never told me also to mention  since I sent his tax info through my parents   they are also now aware of what he did and now  think we are both financially stupid and are   lecturing me I had to admit to them that I didn't  know he did this which is even more embarrassing   they are now questioning our relationship and  our communication I told him today that I don't   know how we can get married if he's not going to  discuss with me about things like big Financial   decisions he thinks I'm making a big deal and that  it doesn't affect me how do I handle this I got   to be honest this would be so such a different  situation if they weren't if they were married   MH like the entire time I'm thinking like oh this  like they would be justified in talking about or   having a issue with this if they were married and  maybe probably their you know money would be joint   yeah but since they're dating it truly is his  money and I don't know like I never like mentioned   to my boyfriend hey by the way I'm putting this  amount in my savings or hey I'm going to be making   this huge purchase like I don't I don't know I'm  like it's it is very interesting because what I   don't this would be such a different answer if  they were married and if it was her money it's   his money and it is pretty true like it's his  bacon cow and you know she doesn't know what   the money's for right she he said he used it to  pay for credit card debt mhm I'm like what's on   the bank statements what's on the credit card  debt I am like I'm so confused because like   he was going to use his bonus for credit card  debt the bonus was 25k and then he's like well   I had to cash out my 401k for credit card debt  the 401K was 25k yeah 50k in credit card debt   you're starting to like really like that's a a lot  that's a lot like in my head like I think a lot   I think the most my credit card and everyone you  know has their own life situations but when I was   unemployed for like a year because of Co yeah  I lived off my credit card really yeah and so   like I ended up having like a balance I think of  like 12K like I wow I really tried to like pinch   pennies I also had like a California like food  stamp card wow so like that helped and my mom   would give me $1,000 every month totally so like  whatever I couldn't like get with my mom's $1,000   and the food card would be credit card yeah I did  that for like almost a year oh my God and so like   I got to 12K but like I was like I was so like  cautious I tried to budget and so it's like for   him he's making 80k and that's like a lot that's  more that's more than the average American makes   totally and he's still like putting himself  into this crazy debth so I'm like honestly he   he does sound financially irresponsible yeah but  you're not married yes that is his money totally   I I completely agree technically technically you  don't have a reason to be mad yeah the only thing   you can control is yourself totally and like are  you going to take that as the red flag that it   could be and like yeah your communication style  isn't great yeah when you do get married if you   have a joint account is he going to spend that  money without consulting you is he going to be   able to contribute to things like a mortgage  or kids evenly if he's racking up all this   credit card debt my head like I go a little  down the rabbit hole I'm like does he have a   gambling addiction yeah I know where like what  is $25,000 what's going on I think the biggest   thing too is her being able to maybe take this as  a like not a Learning lesson but just understand   maybe how he how he makes his financial decisions  you know like there you're not in control it's   not your money but being able to take this as  a hey this person makes this kind of financial   decision and maybe that should be a warning to you  or maybe you should take it as trying to teach him   hey this isn't probably the best idea to be able  to do you know yeah I don't really know how credit   card debt Works actually I like was so lucky my  mom is my mom has always been the most um frugal   frugal she literally had a Blog about coupons and  she's like the coupon lady and I grew up like she   she always has started my credit card I think she  started my credit card account for me like the day   I could open it yeah so you were building your  yeah she's always been like on it very on top of   me not having anything like she's always like pay  it pay pay it pay and I think that really helped   me out I don't know how like the debt part of that  works but it sounds like should you be paying that   off instantly when you get money I've like been  told if you use your credit card almost like a   debit card it boosts your score like crazy yeah  that's yeah I I do know about that yeah there's   like little hacks so I know that that but like if  you can't afford to pay it off like obviously like   do the minimum payment over time yeah or like pay  off the amount that like then is at least interest   like incurring the next month yeah so there's all  these different hacks but you know he might not   have that financial literacy yeah but it's like  you should have like talked because like what if   your girlfriend would have borrowed you the money  versus cashing out your 401K totally like what if   there was another solution so it's like you guys  have been together for 12 12 years it is kind of   concerning that you couldn't talk about this yes  and yeah a little bit this this I got obsessed   with prenups oh yeah I'm like obsessed with  them now I love prenups I used to be a hater   yes I have evolved and I think this would be  one where it's like you should really consider   a prenup and keeping your finances separate  and making sure you separate your community   property so that his debt doesn't become your debt  I completely agree because I feel like he's hiding   more debt than he's letting on yes and it's a  way of it's a way of her like being able to say   hey this is my like this is my consequences of  my decisions and these are your consequences of   your decisions 100% I think this is either way  a Learning lesson for them both she can learn   about his decisions financially and maybe it's  a learning lesson for him because she can kind   of teach him hey this is not what you do no when  you have this money mm- and also I don't know yeah   prenups what you said prup baby I'm a I'm a big  prenup Advocate because it's not even like saying   hey we are going to separate it's saying hey this  is what we're going to we're going to be able to   control what we want if we do get divorced rather  than the government telling us what it's exactly   what it is yeah we want yeah exactly exactly  what it is it's just having more control in   you know nobody expects for things bad things to  happen but they do happen and it's giving yourself   more control yeah you both you know rather than  the government so top comments on this are a lot   of Finance Bros or gals maybe um top one is at  your boyfriend's age 65 that 25k would have been $772,000 if he just put it into an S&P 500 Index  and never touched it that's crazy so your parents   are correct to assume that he is financially  stupid and to worry about your future together   next comment down how would 25k in credit card  debt have cost him by the time he turned 65 I'm   going to go out on a limb and assume the return  on his 401k was less than the 20% plus interest   rate on his cards so he might have made some bad  financial decisions acing the the debt or he had   unplanned medical bills or Auto House repair  Etc but liquidating a retirement account at 29   to get out of crippling debt isn't necessarily the  wrong decision even with the 10% penalty wow that is over my head it's like I A A FB I am a finance  bro I can't answer this I want to like take   Financial classes I know that actually oh you know  what I did and I I was just watching Netflix the   entire class but that that does sound about right  like I do know that money and retirement accounts   go absolutely so like it's exponential you know  yeah it's just it goes crazy at a certain age and   I mean I trust the finance bro don't want to but  I trust it I I I'm on board like I think depending   on the situation like there's little hacks but he  should have just talked to her cuz like maybe she   would have been able to help yeah a lot of people  are asking like what does he have so much debt   on and op has said like he hasn't really said so  far yeah op doesn't have clear answers he's been   like really defensive so far I've gotten vague  answers about student loans and credit card debt   I believe he has a little left over from the  bonus for an emergency fund trying to get more   answers when he's ready to talk what does that  mean like sir this is not that serious open up   and talk show me your bank statements you don't  have to be ready just something's going on here   yeah that is interesting something is going on  here oh yeah you got to get down to the bottom   of that there's going to be like crazy oh my  God he's probably got like an insane amount of   like only fans sub I that's what I was thinking  my brain immediately went to O but that's a lot   of money that's a lot of money for that he's  getting direct messages he's doing stuff for   sure wow oh my gosh I'm like unless I need an  update another I need like an update for this   one like when she finds out you look no yet that  last comment was the one I read when he's ready   to talk it was not sounding great he better be  ready to talk now what the heck just print out   the big statements or just show it on the PDF  open his mail find the credit card statements   wow it is pretty crazy how like I popped off yeah  it is pretty crazy though that people I mean they   really don't teach us about finances no so it  is it is a little bit difficult to just assume   that people know about I mean if you have a 401k  you probably know what it's for and you probably   know how much like it can reach to its potential  like when you're older but maybe he didn't even   know what a 401k was he's probably like oh this  my savings account I don't know probably H I   don't even know much about 401ks but I do know  that they can get like when you reach your 60s   or 70s it's just like you're a millionaire it's  it's nuts I I don't understand how it works like   I know some jobs automatically contribute to  your 401 so maybe it was that that's what I'm   wondering but like as someone who's like now  self-employed like I have to contribute and I   just like my CPA helped connect me with a  guy that that like does it I don't know I   don't know anything about it like I just know  that I have to contribute every year and it   helps with my taxes exactly that's all I know  I was like there's so many acronyms there's so   many numbers and I'm like please S&P 500 what  is that that sounds like a car race it does I don't want I'm like please just I'll pay you to  do this we need to like connect with the finance   bro and be like give us the lowdown well I'm  so lucky cuz my mom does that stuff too she   really is can we get on a zoom call my Frugal  woman yeah does she have her own channel about   coupons and stuff she used to yeah she used  to and now she like just I don't know now she   just uses all her points to travel so she doesn't  Queen she really is but yeah God bless that woman   well thank you so much for coming on  today thank you so much for having us   I'm like I should here I got to get to  cord Say Say Goodbye Jun stretching out   you want to say goodbye to everyone she's  been so cozy napping do you want to say anything she's like girl let me put me back on  that carp me put me back in my little carrier   and might go home she's so cute she was a good  girl she's sleeping now of course she is she   really loved this place though and so did I you  are welcome back by the way anytime I loved the   studio as well oh you'll have to see the next  one with the ponies oh my gosh Count Me In be   J need some horse friends oh my God can you  imagine what she would think of a horse oh my   God she would be like cool like another animal  I don't care I'm going back to sleep oh my God   I can't wait to see it she would she would  love though where can everyone find you uh   concrete crotch kiss I'm so sorry just kidding  I I think that's yeah or like lissy Lulu it's   a whole I don't yeah yeah did you what concrete  crotch kiss is from a skateboard accident I my   first video ever on Tik Tok was a video of me I  used to skateboard like pretty like much every   day like down bows and like pools you know like  empty pools and my first video on Tik Tok ever   was like me skating down a pool and I did the  splits and my crotch like really slammed onto   the concrete and it went viral and at the time  my name was butterfly kisses and somebody was   like I thought your name was concrete crotch  kisses and now it works perfectly and I was   like you know what concrete crotch kiss has  such a ring to it it's so unique and I yet no   no but I will never be a merge girl I'm just like  imagine it's time I want it concrete I I'm like I   don't know what if the people would get it I'm I'm  going to do a logo yeah a whole thing I got this   but yeah I go by concrete now I guess and this is  a little woman and she she is such a little woman   there's a little Cal woman on the plan yeah have  you ever had a pet in the studio um my dog Holly   oh yeah they would be little friends they would  be I feel like juny likes dogs she loves dogs she   likes it more here she's like Dad asleep now she  so cute just said this oh I just want to keep her   so sweet uh all of Alyssa's links will be in the  description concrete crotch kiss on everything   lissy Lulu but thank you again for being here  thank you that's so you're the best that was so   fun I love having like an opinion and not looking  at the comment section for once it's so good yeah   it's fun it's refreshing you were on it today oh  thanks you were on it until next time guys bye [Music]

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Published: Fri May 10 2024