sleeping with the family | Season 1 | Episode 5 |

my name is Tamika I'm 21 and I live in Maryland I live in my mom and dad's house with my daughter Amaya I have been dating Don tres for two and a half years we instantly connected he's an all-around good guy and hello and I met Tamika she was about five months pregnant we got together after the baby was born I love her with all Mars she's uh she's everything to me we have a very big problem my parents hate don't raise two syllables I cannot stand hearing it on trash Don tres he's rude he's loud he's inconsiderate he's just he's disrespectful point-blank I mean he don't care about anybody but he's something and I guess my daughter Nikki's mom is loud rude she's mean she thinks I'm judgmental when it comes to him which is true for two years I've kept on trends and my family apart the only time they ever see him is when he pulls up in his car to take me out so how can they judge him when they've never spoken to him most of our problems are because of her and her husband to make us seem to be attracted to the bad boy on the edge he's a player Point Blank 24 committed to one woman I just find that hard to believe I don't think Donna is Rachel so here's what's happening Don tread is moving in for two whole weeks the first week we're going to live by my parents rules if I even think you were in the damn bed I'm breaking legs you're more the ridiculous crazy the second week we get to set down our oh no no no how do you feel now you're forming this is our trans only chance to love my parents over that's salty how you doing brother excuse me it's make or break for me and don't read so you lied about this what else have you lied about please just drop it this could be the worst decision we've ever made in two weeks time I might be choosing between my parents and my boyfriend [Music] today my boyfriend Don tread moves in and finally gets to meet my parents if this does not go well I'm afraid that don't realize for break up with me tamika's parents not liking me is a big problem to me because it honestly plays a big role in to mechanize relationship and if I plan on being around Tameka then I need to make this work between her family and I before she met Don tres she told me everything we were best friends she's not this thing Tomika that she used to be two years ago to move in due to the fact that I want to get to know how I truly feel the don't dress is hiding something that he's not telling the truth for him that's why he's so standoffish from me and my husband my instinct just says I don't think he's 100% the truth will come on listen to the dance operation Jesus it's vibrating the house baby wonderful I'm doing them and this is what she wants to bring home to meet the parents huh really relax I'm nervous but okay are you excited to be living with me yeah man I'm worried my dad's a minister and works in law enforcement so I know he's gonna lay down some rules and regulations and then there's my mom's attitude towards entres this is gonna be a nightmare why are you here I'm here to hopefully uh build some relationship with you know I tried you tried in my opinion yeah by picking her up leaving I felt like I wasn't welcome here so anyway we have rules honey you wanna start this house you don't have to like him but you gotta follow but if she means something to you in fact IDs arrived by the rules in crash days on Monday there's no problem wash dishes you got to clean up and fix up and paint up my front porch ham the front porch yeah you gotta earn your keep but I don't see the relevance of the pain your your patio to getting to know me you gonna clean the gutters on the house I'm sorry you got problem with that we sitting on about but you will wait to leave so you trying to find ways to be super kind of man you up you should do this whistling should be easy how can they be so hard on him when they know nothing about him make his parents think that I'm sneaky I'm lazy I'm sleeping around I have no goals no ambition no Drive I'm not gonna amount to nothing I think they think I'm a loser it's not true you're gonna clean the windows and the doors and you watching everybody's laundry the rules are stupid just the rules are ridiculous next no sleeping in the same bed I even faked you were in the damn bed I'm break your legs and I ain't playing you're not gonna disrespect me in my home next room you will not be allowed to leave here without our authorization knowing where you're going you have to ask permission to leave like I haven't asked permission to lease it sounds like 10 I don't think I'm gonna do too well with that you're ridiculous any time either one of you feel that you don't want to comply with any of the rules you don't have to just pack your stuff and leave I'm gonna follow their rules but uh following the rules and doing it right is two different things what are the other rules my parents upset is that done France has to cook dinner but my mom and dad's will have its own secret ingredient they want to treat us like crap for the first week okay we are going to load of my parents spaghetti with salt and see how they react [Music] [Laughter] let me taste yours to me hell yeah that's salty that was no way to start off a first night at 24 I expected on track to act like a man not a child I'm not appreciate you show me what she was about when you need a change a fast meal that really pissed me off I love war I bet they won't ask me to cook no more I bet you they won't like things are in a position where it could go either way it can progress or it can get worse - be careful mr. Don Trez joke's on you now watch out now she ate the same since Ben but you play like you know just me it's over my boyfriend downtrends has moved in for two weeks so try to get to know my family I felt like I wasn't welcome here but my parents have made it clear they don't like it when they don't even know him he's rude he's loud he's inconsiderate he's just he's disrespectful point-blank I don't think Donn trans is right for their attitude towards us it makes us feel like we don't I'm gonna play by their rules following the rules and doing the right miss two different things here we go wake up sunshine come on man gotta have some floss that was madman like do you think boot can't do yeah five minutes man I'm hoping that Don Trans will prove himself by doing Shores are showing that Hugh can commit to getting something done so why do I need to prove that I can work hard I'm an account executive for a cell phone company I'm only here so we can get to know each other we'll need you to rake these leaves along this fence line it's gonna be our bonding time right I mean are you gonna be out there working with me I'm a supervisor supervisor come on check on you every now and again come on get on you keep come on let me get them gloves for you cuz I don't want you to mess up them finely manicured nails of yours let me go get some bags for you don't take too long you gonna lose daylight got more to do ain't come here to rake nobody's yard ain't come here to take care of your maintenance to save you a little money ain't coming for none of that I came here to get to know you it just wasn't cool so I got a plan cuz I'm done with this while I'm stuck out here Tamika got our own problems go down to the basement wash a load of clothes after you're done with that hit the windows I want this floor swept all those okay I don't need to deal with this it's just a waste of my time she doesn't want to adhere to my rules but she want me to a stuck don't fess as her man that's not happening my house my rules you're gonna pop out it's not you this is about getting to know somebody and seeing what they're all about but yeah we weren't getting any help do the whole yard what you have to do now I'm trying to be respectful you're trying to be somewhat calm you just keep pushing it yo so what do you want to do when I leave school one of my parents rules was we weren't allowed to leave the house but we got to get out of here as far as I'm concerned I'm Ann we've done more than enough work now and it's over [Applause] I want to be done with this whole thing like you can't that's the house Maya they have left the building you left home yeah cuz a rules a pointless it's stupid Tomika don't play with me I don't feel bad about breaking it actually I only feel like it was a rule there to break yeah no that was just so so disrespectful one of the reasons why I left was with it I felt like I was trapped and all those walls are my mom and my dad they're just yelling I mean one is in here and the other one is in the other ear Michael yes you're not gonna believe this there god I expected this from Don tres not from Tamika they're not trying at all Michael nothing's done this is bull crap disrespectful rude and there's always a consequence to your actions we've got to go home but I know that when we get there all hell is gonna break loose its we up there out what do you feel like the rules where would he give us and if you guys wanted to balan to get to know somebody you would at least offer the help so we thought wasn't fair life ain't fair their attitude was though they did nothing wrong you got something sir I actually do something simple so I was a little heated I don't want to do the state I'm already gonna lose homes matter of fact take sit down Punk Bob make change my first instinct was to get up and then lay him down and that's exactly what my intentions were come on you don't want to buy by the rules get out that's me again see that's what girls do they walk away just go stop stop what leave alone oh my dad did was per welcome stop stop I'm still here partner and it was kind of irritating I figured I need to walk his ass I just need to just a cool off I've never seen done trust that that angry that fueled up before it kinda scared me so bad that Tameka had to be pretty much in the middle of it I can't believe my dad is throwing out dr. other stuff what's he trying to prove I think Michael's pushing me to see what I'll do I think he wants to know what I made up won't take care of this right I think you're nothing dad stop I think you disrespected my home by coming in here 1 we laid down some rules not to leave and you took my daughter which ain't take her she went to her old freak she ate the same since then with you Claire I asked you to do something some rape the league who cares about these a lot of things in life he's gonna have to do a young man that you don't like then when I'm talking to you about where y'all were don't question me about what I'm allowing you to still stay here because uh-huh you know it is not going well right now it's just crap I believe his parents ate me and the feeling might be just mutual I don't know how I can give him the talk but right now all they're doing is attacking each other right now I feel like it's a problem that I have to fix I want to talk about why this happened you keep pushing in button he pushed mine when I pull it up and the leaves weren't done there won't point if I'm coming it's for you guys to get to know him better I do love him and I didn't do this for nothing I would appreciate if you try do you have a treasure I will talk to him as well about time my dad and entree just have to get along they just have to so I have to talk to Don tres to see where he's dead so seeing you today and my dad kind of scared me I'm sorry you had to go through it sorry everything happened the way having I'm still here you see I'm gonna see it through so would you like talk to my dad straighten everything out make sure everything is okay if need be yeah no problem talk to him I try my best to make it work I spent the last two years separating my parents and my boyfriend and I don't want that anymore I just want them to come together and to try to be friends try to get along fresh stock I decided to do the right thing and be the bigger man here from Tameka that she really wanted me to make an effort made me really want to do it I loved her so I wanted to go ahead and make her happy this is what's gonna make her happy then I'm doing it I'm willing Michaels headed off to work but I made breakfast for Michelle Tamika and her daughter Maya this is my way of saying truce to your parents man okay cool thank you wow you guys are stepping up the game today huh yeah thank you so hopefully we start off today on a clean slate if I want to make his pants to get off my back I need to step up my game even if it means heading back out there to rake the yard if I don't they'll never leave me alone so Tamika how much have you got done today what you been up to do the dishes morning so in other words you really haven't done nothing it appears to me it's more Tameka the issue that Donna is being the issue did you clean the windows okay mom I mean you just sit here chillin know what no you really was alright since dogs has moved in my relationship with my mom has gotten much worse me and my mom argue constantly about nothing and about stupid stuff Tameka has always had an attitude but it appears to me that it's getting worse no I'm just going go with it really tries that I say you bring out the worst in people that's not dirty it's just clean [Music] finished you gonna adjust your attitude you want me to meet you halfway you got to meet me halfway it's crazy if I was like it's a waste of time nobody wants to get to know each other right now and I don't even know why I brought down predator you're taking my mom's side I'm not taking no ones that's what it feels like your mother is a handful now you doing brother excuse me [Music] he's done tres has been living with me and my family for nearly a week and it's not going well I believe tamika's parent save me and feeling might be just mutual no one's getting to know each other instead all we're doing is fighting you're gonna adjust your attitude with me you understand me so my dad's decided to call a family meeting all right what's going on I did wipe the windows and I did tweet before and I did put the laundry and stuff but I was supposed to I was doing when I was opposed to do but I guess I was still giving her attitude I got pissed and yeah I raised my voice because she took me as a joke when you give me attitude I react back with major attitude this is getting to the point of no return we want to treat you as an adult but you got to come a little better I'm irritated right now some gotta give you talk to her doctor seriously does he the attitude is coming from her you are the adult so that means you got to be the bigger person if Tameka access she acts that doesn't mean act like her act like her she acts like me how do you want to look at it well then you can't get mad at her for acting like you you started to piss me off right about now you shouldn't get defensive he should take it in won't you use some of that smartness towards Tameka brain to get her to act like she got some damn sense with her attitude I honestly don't see why I should when you're showing me exactly why she is the way she is oh i'ma beat yo ass on that one really can argue what she just like you I am so yes yeah oh so what is you a damn angel Michael no I'm not an angel but I have no problem with a meeting my fault when I'm wrong when I'm wrong which is never ever happens that often but I'm never wrong dammit excuse me it's getting tiresome I'm trying to disrespect from everybody's in including yours Michael how about that cuz I'm in the middle of this and I'm trying to hold it all together I feel like I'm in the middle of this I got it worse because I'm the outcast she'll listen to you but she won't listen to us since my fight with Michael a few days ago I've been making an effort right now to make his ruin in this all she doing is giving attitude I need to have words because as it stands this ain't working what's the matter you look like you're upset I seen a side of you that I don't see outside of this house I give me yelling like how you talk to your mother dude like it's like I understand she does whatever she does but it's still your mother in a sense she don't respect your mother that's how you can expect Amaya to respect you you're a Maya's mother you disrespect your mother no I don't disrespect her she disrespects me I'm saying is is in order for you to teach her how to respect her mother you have to first know how to respect your mother yeah if she respects me first you're taking the mom side I'm not taking no you need to tell my mom to at least try to give me so much that I'm not here for your mother I can yell at everybody but honestly it doesn't get anyone know where your mother is a handful I'd agree eventually and it might not be tomorrow it might take you a year but trust me things have changed but you have to change if both these states same and guess what this would be your life but it's not gonna work it's not gonna work because you're doubting it already before even giving it a chance maybe you know you just further proving my point right seriously whose side is he on anyway this isn't working maybe bringing in our own rules well somehow fix this it's time for me to take over to my house I'm the captain I'm the five-star general I'm running things now so yeah how do you feel now like the shoes on the other foot and I don't like it we love it you can get to it all right just since we never really got to spend some time together I think we are entitled to going out because babies do it free of charge and no complaining no no you don't have no choice next it's who y'all need to be less controlling she's an adult just like everybody else in this room I feel like it's time to everybody starts treating her as such the communication in this house is horrible what I'm talking I need you to listen all right when tameka's talking we want you to listen we will give you the same respect mr. Michael this one my good friend is for you last week he gave me a bunch of chores you will be completing the rest of my tasks if you're lucky I may go out there and I'll show you what it means to actually get to know somebody when you say you want to get to know somebody and I help you what you work the whole point of this whole situation is well when we were doing our chores then what we get it bossed around I mean there was no let me get to know this person there was just do do it and I expect it done but I already know you you need to know me it's beautiful on me you show us respect I'll show you respect now that my parents have to listen to respect us it's time for me to talk to my mom about down tress I just want us to have a normal conversation with no fighting I'm up okay well I got your cleaning supplies I guess I'm not doing this to be mean whatever sweeping floors I'll show you the windows I think I'll start with that can you get so we can talk because I do need to talk to you sure I'll come with my other two if you close with yours and we get you just talked on a peaceful level I brought down dress to the households that way you can get to know him better you made this situation so much worse by hiding him this is just one relationship that I didn't want to jeopardize he's doing something with his life he's not just a thug in the street I did you guys say you don't even even good that he's done never even like to know what type of person he is just don't go down the road that I went down Tomika that's all I'm accident you know for ex-husbands is not cool I do believe that how Tamika is today is due to my past relationships that has a lot to do with her attitude towards me too I feel a lot of guilt that's what I'm fighting so hard for her not to repeat what I went through i'ma tried to get Donna a chance okay but I still feel that he's a player speeding I know that he's not when you keep something that he's a player you're making me paranoid I'm sweetie I'm home you making me you're making me look over my shoulder constantly when I shouldn't have to do that just watch yourself Tameka you know just be careful I do take care your words of advice in the consideration I mean I share that I my mom and I have no choice but to listen to what you're saying cause I you're yelling in my ear about it why do you say yo because that's what you do mom you intend to raise your voice to get hurt all right well I'm a trust and believe that you know what you're doing and I will give Don Torres a chance that won't be so grouchy and [ __ ] think I would listen before I speak it's gonna be hard but I love you I'd do it because I love if I didn't if I didn't care about you I would say a word I guess her past relationships they always didn't really go so well I appreciate whatever she's doing for me or however she wants to protect me but I think I can handle it from here I'm I'm a big girl I got it spending quality time with Tameka it went I enjoyed it that's the time that I'm used to spending with her that I didn't get it once Don tres came into our line it stopped so I really enjoyed that me and Michael never seen eye-to-eye but since the rule change I want to show Michael how to really get to know someone you may not have helped me with my chores but I'm helping with his son question are you from me cuz I really don't know nothing about you how did you end up here Papa's military so you pop swept away pretty much but you didn't see him every day in the house yeah I saw him when I was in trouble I did some bad in school you know did he show then then I see him but what about when you did something good not so often so I can understand where you come from you remind me a lot of me at your age old man and young will show intentions with my dog you get her pregnant about 16 babies I have all good intentions at 24 how you committed to one girl it makes me happy man you happy with just one girl and a girl with a baby do you have I'm happy I'm happy enough to go through this well I ask because I'm gonna tell you at my age at 24 the last thing I was thinking about was hooking down with one girl that's why I was concerned so I guess I was just worrying about nothing that would you tell him he was worried about what you know and you assumed based on your experiences but I mean I respected I understand why you were you becoming from and everything I think we really needed this time I got to know you a little bit cuz I figure if I make it hard even you gonna step up you're gonna quit yeah you kind of quit on the chores but you ain't roll out with that I respect I stayed because mucusy beautiful answer I like that let's get this cleaned up man and get up out of it I learned more about Michael in that a conversation and I have in the two years with me dating Tameka you know we aren't we aren't so different I'm not growing up with his dad and that I've pretty much raised myself since I was like 14 my acciden think he's a good guy after talking to him me I see that he is nothing more than a concern dad how was your day it was interesting interesting I'll get my chores you did tamika's Joe gonna say just couple days ago we were really in a bad position he had pushed my buttons to the limit alright now you know he's he's not as bad as I thought he was I'm just still finding it hard at 24 he's 100% in with nothing on the side I'm glad downtrends tells me he's not cheating but I just got a gut feeling he's not telling me of it it's just still something there and I promised her today that I will plant seeds in her head of negativity about him somebody just leave that to myself she'll learn you said you have something to say I wanted to tell to make everything but I think is gonna end our relationship all righty he lied and I don't understand [Music] I'm tired to disrespect no how you doing brother excuse me my boyfriend Don tres has moved in for two weeks to try to get to know my family and to prove to them that he's a nightmare for me I seem to study that I don't see outside of this house since living under our own rules things haven't gotten much better figure if I make it harder you gonna step up you're gonna quit I stay because Nick is here I like that Don Trans may have started to win over my dad but hearing that my mom still thinks as a player has made me more paranoid what if she's right I'm starting to feel there's something he's not telling me I just don't want to make the same mistakes my mom did I feel insecure about Don tres I know there's something going on and I said he's just not letting me with my mom babysitting Don tres and I can finally spend some time together this is my chance to confront him if we're ever going to have a future together the non tres has to be honest with me I just one of my shirts is for real I mean I brought you here to prove to my parents that I love you and that I'm gonna be in my life for the rest of my life so I mean I know you're not cheating on me right please please just drop it I want to tell you to get everything but I think is gonna end our relationship when I'm ready to tell you I'll tell you but you sitting here provoking me and bugging me about whatever you're assuming it's not it's not cool play my defense if I care about somebody and there's something if I think there's something bothering them I'm gonna ask already [Music] I'm not 24 that plan hey you are I'm nicely 29 no not now you he lied and I don't understand it makes me question like what else are you hiding I understand how she can feel that I lied to her I can't I can't blame her for it Tameka remember so two years was going by and you made me believe you were 24 why don't you clear it up with me why don't you have me thinking you were 24 million were 29 so you lied about this what else have you lied about why'd it take you this long to tell me it didn't dawn on me that hey man I never really told him my real age but when it came to the point where it was serious maybe she'll think I'm just too old for her and I didn't want to lose you so I hope you can forgive me I do love you I do want to be with you I just want everything to start over clean slate I can't say I forgive you just yet but I love you but don't ever letting me again ever how long seriously do I'm sorry I think I do owe it to tamika's parents just as my side is it Tamika to let them know I mean we made so much progress and I feel like it's gonna be like one step forward three steps back I'm disappointed that doesn't change how I feel about him I still love him I'm a bit nervous about all my parents don't rise to the age I think my parents were looking for any excuse but this is like the icing on the cake for them I'm not looking forward to telling to meet his parents uh I don't know how they're gonna react it was good oh cool we do have something to talk to you about that I'm not pregnant okay I'm not 24 29 why did you take you over two years to tell my daughter this why didn't you just tell us the truth I knew there was something your maturity was way above hers if he can hold that back sweetie oh you know like everything else fades 900 from woman to woman but man can withhold that he can withhold anything else but I'm telling you she's 21 you're almost 30 I don't see an age when I see Tameka I love her - you don't rest you should have been honest with her in the beginning if y'all can work through that that's fine that's your obligation should not - my husband knows my age I'm 43 since you have been here doctor as you have shown me that you do care a lot about Tameka I do want to say um I I felt like now is probably the best time to do it because we have spent so much time together I am here for a very long time if I was honestly planning on leaving or fat anything I was going on I probably wouldn't put myself in this position talked to Micah's parents about my age it actually went better than I expected it felt good to get it off my chest that's been haunting me for the past two years I was proud of my mom cuz I didn't expect her reaction to be so calm I think Tantra is half proven that he does love me to make a nice livin life and I realized that and I'ma stay out of it I don't want to push her away any further I think we're gonna be okay I realized over the past two weeks that by staying away from tamika's parents it's caused problems but now things have changed so there's one more thing that I want to do before I leave this is for you yeah I do want to thank you for giving me the opportunity to uh stay with y'all and get to know y'all and it was an experience thank you for actually coming and actually spending time with us that way we get to know you I like you I like you too yeah I'm watching the flowers thanks so much Chris I appreciate it you're welcome the moment you've all been waiting for it all right we'll see you around you will be coming around and coming inside this time right for dinner right yeah blowing the horn can't promise no more boom boom boom put a road ready [Music] [Music] since our trance came to stay with me and my family things have been going great [Music] [Music] good my mom and dad are really getting along well moved on trans to I need my fix fix again me again I are moving forward I got a new job and things are great I think I've proven to tamika's parents that I am the right person for Tamika and I am the right candidate can be am i as a father figure and I got what it takes to be a part of this family he really he appears to be dedicated to Tamika he's proven me wrong you should really not judge a person by the first appearance thank you I'm glad the way it turned out he's working with my house anytime I'm very proud of him

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Length: 43min 42sec (2622 seconds)

Published: Sun Apr 27 2014