Truth About Fraternity Hazing: Gordie Bailey's Story

[Music] hello everyone welcome back to Talk Tuesday Oh Tuesday so today I'm going to be talking about something that I've wanted to talk about for a really long time like way before I was even doing crime stuff like back when I was still doing Beauty type videos and back when I was in my sorority and some of you may not know that about me but I was in a sorority I've never been a big partier so it wasn't always like very easy to fit in with that whole situation but I have had the full Greek experience I have experience of fraternities the sororities I know the deal except though I will say it differs so much school to school but I wanted to talk today about hazing this is something that doesn't just happen in colleges either it happens all over the place it can happen in sports teams stuff like that but it's definitely most common in sororities and fraternities now I have to say my sorority did an excellent job with this my sorority was very well maintained managed we were disciplined like there was a no hazing policy very strict I have never been hazed I can say that completely and if anyone attempted to ever hazed me I would have left in like three seconds so but I do know of people that were hazed because the Greek system is very weird obviously their sorority world and there's returnee world for attorneys for men and sororities for women for those of you who don't know but the rules are very different because they're not like ran by the same people it's completely different so the boys get away with pretty much anything the girls it's very strict I know there are some sororities out there that still haze but for the most part the girl world is really like pulling it together and banning that a lot of stories have a very strict no hazing policy but the guys on my campus did whatever they want like it seemed like they had no rules and then there's this really weird and pretty sexist rule in Greek life where girls are not allowed to throw parties in their house but men are with alcohol and everything so they're just creating an environment for things like what I'm about to tell you today to happen today I'm going to be telling you the story of a boy named Gordy Bailey and what happened to him in his first year at cu-boulder this is very close to home for me I literally went to college like within an hour of cu-boulder and I've been there so many times I'm I have friends in the Greek life so this was very I don't know who's it hit me really hard when this happened and when I was in college I actually wrote a paper on this entire incident so I've always wanted to have an opportunity to talk about this and tell this as a cautionary tale to those of you who might be drinking underage or even drinking over the age and just not drinking responsibly or just around irresponsible drinking because it can be very dangerous I always was like overly concerned with safety and stuff when everyone was drinking and I feel like I always got a bad rap for that but that's because I know the dangers of drinking because I have had a lot of drinking in my own personal family in my life I have experienced alcoholics and I know the dangers of it especially at a young age almost half of college students have experienced binge drinking and binge drinking is basically any more than five drinks in a row for men and any more than four drinks in a row for women so some of you out there I'm sure have been a declared binge drinker without even knowing it and we've actually seen a huge rise in the amount of people that are drinking with the sole purpose to get drunk it is very much in our culture for younger people to want to drink to the point where they're incapacitated they think it's funny to black out I have friends who that was their goal was like to black out every year 700,000 students experienced alcohol-related injuries and 1,700 of those kids died and that's dies from 2004 so it probably has gotten worse since then but one of the reasons that students decide to drink so much is because they get to college and many of them are out on their own for the first time and experiencing freedom many people that come into college have little to no experience with alcohol that was me personally when I got to college I definitely experienced more drinking than I was used to and I've got AIDS you just don't know like what your personal limits are what types of alcohol are going to make you sick what types of alcohol are going to make you really impaired and those are all things that a lot of people sadly learn as they go in college now there are so many cases of people getting hurt seriously injured or dying in hazing activities and what is hazing for those of you who don't know hazing is like any type of activity that can be humiliating or painful or cause you to be reckless like daring people to jump off of roofs I remember there were people that would ride like in a back of a truck and when they got to red lights everyone would have to drink while the right light was red just like guzzle stuff and then they would go again until everyone's like just hammered there's all types of very strange rituals and just things that are really embarrassing so this is Gordy his full name is Lynn Gordon Bailey jr. and he was born on February 22nd of 1986 in Greenwich Connecticut hi I'm Gordy Bailey from 40 Bailey's the reality barrier and if you've never done one of my ride before you've never lived [Music] and Gordy was very very well liked like people who spoke about him said that he was just one of the nicest people they even knew he was intelligent compassionate funny he's a leader he played sports I like I like to draw lots of different things um I can draw people families you know I use the stencil and you know that's a perfect circle I draw the head of that of the man but you know I'm really I'm really more known for four cats I draw cats here's one it's a large cat but you know I feel like my people are pretty good too he was known to be extremely friendly and warm and just everyone's favorite person there was actually a time where he made a hugging game like free hug group at school or something like that and Gordie went to Deerfield Academy which is a private school grades 9 to 12 in Deerfield Massachusetts and he was involved in sports athletics that type of thing and then he was also involved in theater a bit and he actually started on the school's New England Championship lacrosse team in his senior year he was co-captain of the varsity football team and played both a middle linebacker and offensive guard and at graduation he received the class of 2004 Award of Excellence in drama for his memorable performance in the Academy's musicals and dramatic theater production outside of school he loved to travel around the world he had made trips to Europe and Africa visiting friends and family and he had a pretty awesome life he was extremely into reggae music actually and played guitar so he was very talented but Gordy graduated high school in 2004 and that following fall he went to Colorado to become a Cu buff and he didn't hesitate to get involved in his school he joined his fraternity he became what they called pledge so you're kind of like in this weird trial period where you're not a full member but you're like pledging to try to be one so he was a pledge for a fraternity called Chi sy and he had also joined the club lacrosse team so he was having a really great start to school so September 16 2004 it was Kai's bid day now bid day is the day where you announce to the new members who is in the sorority or fraternity it's like the first day that you're in you get the word whether you're in or not now everyone does something different after this in my sorority we just went back to our house and like had a little party with all the new people and they actually had the tradition of taking all the boys into them Mountains for bonding they then blindfolded all of the boys took them to the Arapaho Roosevelt National Forest where they were told to consume four bottles of 80-proof 10 high bourbon whiskey and six bottles of Carlo Rossi wine around a bonfire in 30 minutes and this is a really common type of hazing actually and someone in the group tells them you know none of you can leave until these are finished and there's all this pressure because you're kind of like you want to be considered cool these are all new people normally you don't know anyone from like high school or anything so there's a lot of pressure and you're kind of competing with your other pledges like you don't want to look lame and someone can drink way more than you so some of them just drink insane amounts like amounts that they have never drank before that they have no idea how they're going to react so after all the pledges drink all of that liquor they took them back to their fraternity house to have this big party so once they got back to the house they continued partying I'm sure they were just I would be unconscious at this point so at this point Gordy was very drunk just like most of the other guys that were there and we're not sure exactly what they did all night but around 11:00 p.m. they put Gordy on a couch they had wanted him to sleep it off and during that time his brothers started drawing on his face with sharpies to kind of play a prank on him so that when he would wake up he'd be like oh [ __ ] I drink too much how am I gonna get this off my face they put other guys in there continued to party and then ten hours later around 9:00 a.m. a call came in to the dispatch the breathing I don't know he's not waking up what do you know he was drinking a bunch of them we're all drinking as a blue or cold no he's not very cold doesn't like oil you can't tell if he's breathing or not you don't think what it doesn't look like what is very much ill at all not very much CC is chest rising oh he's lying on it yes okay can you turn him over on his back leg okay I've actually been in this situation before I'd really like to do a whole talk Tuesday video on it I have been in the situation at a fraternity party where someone was unconscious and the whole everyone else cleared the party but me it was a crazy experience I've always wanted to tell the story so give me a thumbs up if you guys want to see his story time for me I'm not sure if you guys still like seeing that type of content from me but anyway police got there as soon as possible but by the time that they were there there's nothing that they can do for him I mean it's way too late Gordy's the parents got the news shortly after and the day that he died no one from the school even contacted his mother or father memorial service was held in Dallas at st. Mark's school of Texas on Tuesday September 21st of 2004 and after Gordy's death his mother Leslie brought legal action against the Alpha side Delta chapter of Chi sign and the Interfraternity Council actually lost its affiliation with CU in 2005 which is a really big deal this means that no fraternity on the campus will be recognized as a legitimate erna t of course instead of Chi sy admitting that they were having a problem with hazing and they needed help and trying to you know make the chapter better after that they actually got right on the defense and hired a lawyer and they immediately started throwing Gordy under the bus saying that he did this to himself and that he had a drinking problem and many people actually will probably make the argument on this video that he did do this to himself in a way he was the one drinking no one was holding him down no one forced it into his mouth I mean he picked up the bottle and put it to his mouth and drank it and while that argument is true at the same time the overall culture of hazing is a big issue because when you're in that moment when you're trying to be accepted in this brand new world and these people are telling you this is the cool place to be and here's what you got to do to do it you just might do it so yes you can't hold somebody accountable for murder or anything but certainly we need to look at the issues that we have with hazing because it's pretty shocking how many times this happens to people and it would still had shook people when I went to the school if you remember the video that I did on the Stanford Prison Experiment you may remember the whole psychology behind someone in a position of power and someone who is powerless and it's very interesting how people will start to act when they feel like they are not in a position of power a lot of people see hazing as a tradition a passing right I mean a lot of people in my sorority wanted to do hazing like was mad that we couldn't do hazing and I mean most people didn't want to but some people were like that is what the sisters before us have done this is tradition but when tradition is resulting in people's lives ending don't think there's a major problem there on April 25th of 2005 five of the fraternity brothers pled guilty to providing alcohol to a minor they were removed from the fraternity and they were required to do some community service and they all had deferred sentences so definitely want to know your guys's opinions on that one Gordy's mother Leslie and Kai's I went back and forth for four years trying to come up with a fair amount at the end of everything an undisclosed amount of money went into something called the Gordy foundation and the foundation was started by Gordy's mother to work to stop hazing binge drinking and educate students about the dangers of alcohol Gordy story has now been used as an educational tool for the fraternity world and also they implemented a rule after this that all Greek life organizations have to have a live in person there and we did when I was in a sorority example they mainly want students to understand how important it is to make a phone call if someone is unconscious don't worry about getting in trouble this person's life means more than anything always call always called often times in States there's laws like the safe haven law here I'm not sure how many other states have that but it protects you as the caller from being you know getting given an a minor in possession charge or something like that you should never never I'm talking to people who have just started in this world or just started in college never allow someone to sleep it off never the amount of alcohol that you have to consume to pass out is very very close to the amount that you need to kill yourself the gordy foundation pushes an acronym called pubs and it's to check for signs of alcohol poisoning it stands for puking wall passed out unresponsive to pinching or stimuli breathing a regular or slow skin cold blue and clammy and any of those things are a trigger to call 9-1-1 even if you're not completely sure the Gordie Foundation also helped produce a documentary called haze I highly recommend it it is very educational about this stuff it tells you more about Gordy his parents are very involved in it I just really wanted to share the story with you because I know so many of you have probably been in situations where you've been peer pressured I've always had to deal with that because I was always the one that wasn't drinking most of the time I've had my moments but um yeah I definitely understand that pressure and have fallen into that pressure many times drank too much and really regretted it so if you're in college and you're just kind of starting out my best advice to you is sure that if you're drinking then you have a plan in place and how you're gonna get home and another great thing to always do is to have a buddy someone that you checked in with this person is going to make sure that you are in your bed and then in the night breathing and okay and it's a shame because that's what you're supposed to learn in a fraternity or sorority you're supposed to learn all about sisterhood and Brotherhood and sadly not everyone in it learns those lessons but that's it for me today guys I definitely want to hear your thoughts below so hit me with a comment definitely give me a thumbs up on this video if you want to see that story time soon and that's it for me today guys I hope you're having a great day stay safe drink responsibly and I will see you next time [Music] [Music]

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Published: Tue Sep 11 2018