These 3 Questions Will Change How You Do EVERYTHING!

every moment of your life you're answering three  questions jot them down three questions first   question is what are you going to focus on right  now whatever you're focusing on affects you if   you're focusing on how you're going to use what  you're going to learn this weekend you could be   focusing on the smell of your neighbor after all  that jumping up and down there's so many things   you can focus on we don't focus on everything  we focus on a small number of things and that's   what we experience in life and focus write down  equals feeling whatever you focus on you're going   to feel even if it's not true true have you ever  had somebody tell you something and said you think   John is your friend John's not your friend he's  talking behind your back and you go no he's not   John's my friend you misunderstood but if two  or three people tell you John's talking behind   your back you can get pretty pissed off because  that's really just hurt right and then maybe you   confront John who's ever done this confronted  somebody about something you've done and then   found out you were wrong and felt like an idiot  who's ever had this happen before say I so the   most powerful decision we make and most of us  don't make it consciously is what are we going   to focus on cuz you could be focusing right now  on the blood rushing through your left ear or   the touch of your clothes against your skin but  you don't most of what your brain does is distort   delete and generalize to Mak life simple and the  problem is when you distort delete and generalize   you miss a lot of your life so we want to kind of  see if we can't get out of that and what we got to   do is figure out what the focus is let me give you  three patterns of focus you tell me which of these   are you and there's no right or wrong and don't  get personal about it cuz if you don't don't like   your answer we can fix it I want to think like  software here's my question if I asked you there   are two things you could focus on what you have  or what's missing which one do you spend more time   focusing on shout it out you can hear in the room  you not taking a pole one is dominant raise your   hand if you focus more on What's Missing raise  your hand nice and high keep your hands high and   look around this room it's about 95% of the room  now I have a simple question for you it's a really   important question it's a simple one but important  one just think software don't think personality if   your brain is constantly focusing what's missing  how can you ever sustain happiness no matter how   successful you become it is impossible raise  your hand if you see this and it's dominant in   this room because most of you how many consider  yourself to be an achiever that's part of who you   are as an identity so as an achiever looking for  what's wrong for a moment so you can fix it can   be a good thing but what happens it becomes  a habit and then it doesn't matter how much   you achieve you're not happy you know how many  multi-billionaires you how many entertainers with   their Oscars or their emms or their Grammys  that I work with who you think would be the   happiest people in the world they're worth almost  a billion dollars some of them they're the best   in the world at what they do everybody loves them  and they're miserable I get the call and why is it   it's because they keep focusing on What's Missing  no matter what they have that's one pattern this   weekend if you only change that would change your  life what happens when you focus on what you have   you feel alive you feel no scarcity you feel Joy  how many of you have lots of things in your life   that if you focused on it you could feel grateful  for you could feel excited about how many you got   lots of things like this now say I but it doesn't  exist unless you focus on it and we all have   patterns of focus the second question is what does  this mean cuz the minute you focus on something   you have to give it a meaning is this the end  or the beginning is God punishing me that's   why this problem happened is God challenging  me or is this problem a gift from God see if   you think it's the end of a relationship are you  going to feel the same way act the same way as if   you think it's the beginning of a relationship  yes or no no the meaning changes the answer to   the third question which is what am I going to  do because meaning equals emotion whatever you   give a meaning you're going to have a feeling if  you think God is punishing you you're going to   have a very different feeling from that meaning  than you think God is challenging you or this   problem as a gift from God how many follow here  say I people often times have trouble in their   relationship you know why in the beginning of a  relationship what's your focus are you trying to   get them to give you things is that the primary  focus when you really love somebody what will you   do for them shout it out what will you do what  will you do what will you do if someone says to   you would you take out the trash go take out the  trash what else can I do for you in the beginning   but after 7 Days 7 weeks 7 months 7 years or  70 years somewhere between 7 days and 70 years   they go could you take out their you go what  do I look like you're janitor you I don't know   what it is we used to have so much passion what  happened if you do what you did in the beginning   of the relationship at the end of the relationship  there won't be in it because in the beginning it   wasn't a trade you weren't measuring you're  meaning you were focused on how to give how   many can relate to this here say I once you start  measuring what you're getting it's a transaction   transactions don't make anyone feel good long term  I'll give you another one on Focus another pattern   do you tend to focus more on what you can control  or what you can't control what's outside your   control which do you tend to focus more on what  you can control or can't control and watch this   it'll be a different pattern this room I guarantee  you raise your hand if you focus more on what you   can control raise your hand keep your hands up  nice and I look around it's about 80% how many   focus on what you can't control can't control it's  about 20 so it's about 7525 or 80 20 but notice   this one is more focused on what you can control  more people that's why you came here how many of   came here you could take more control of some area  of your life here say I that's why you're here and   how many of you know someone that you wish came  with you that freaking needs this way more than   you do and they're not here why they focus on  What's Missing I guarantee you and they focus   on what they can't control or they think this  it's just some guy talking that can't change   your life which is really an unconscious belie  Bel that I can't change now some of you have both   what's missing is your focus and what you can't  control how are you going to feel just forget   you personally think is it a software in the brain  what is someone going to feel is constantly focus   on What's Missing and what they can't control what  would you have to feel my friends come on tell   me sad frustrated angry depressed but think about  this this is how we function so why are they still   depressed because they're still focusing on What's  Missing and they're focused on what they can't   control and I'll add one more do you tend to focus  more on things from the past the present or the   future we all do all three but where do you spend  more of your time raise your hand it's the past   now look around the room it's only about maybe  1 or 2% of the room cuz if you focused too much   in the past you wouldn't even come to a program  like this you might get enough of it say I want to   change it but if you focus on the past since you  can't control it makes it pretty tough how many   focus more in the present that's where you spend  more of your time in the present moment how many   focus more on the future watch this look at this  future B room here because that's what Achievers   do right we're focused on how to create a better  future many of you came for that so what's the   goal well certainly you want to use all three but  if you're going to spend your predominate time and   you want enjoyment it's the present if you want  to be create a great life it's the future so it's   a balance between the present and future these  three patterns alone can change your whole life   what if you came here and you're always focused  on What's Missing we retrain your brain to find   all the unbelievable magic and magnificence  in your life and you keep seeing it feeling   it daily will they give you more energy or less  energy how a lot more energy and that's what's   going to change it all so our focus is the first  question second question is what's going to mean   is this the end or the beginning will that change  how you feel and what based on how you feel will   you answer what to do differently you bet these  three questions are happening every moment of your [Music] life for

Channel: Tony Robbins

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Length: 8min 10sec (490 seconds)

Published: Sun May 05 2024